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Because Black men are not educated to marry. They are more enlightened on how to be.... You know what never mind. Because y'all seem too blind to see it....
Anton GETS IT! In order to build strong families, you have drive a hard line. NO EXCEPTIONS. If my son marries a baby mama, he’s disinherited immediately. If he doesn’t marry the woman he gets pregnant, he’s disinherited. Its that simple. Same for my daughter. If she gets pregnant out of wedlock, she better hope the guy she let impregnate her marries her, or she too is disinherited. We must have standards!
@@DarkAngel-im5bh Naw yall are delusional.. i will guide my kids when they get older to mske the right decisions but they make there own choices in life. How the hell u sound disinherited
Being a stepdad is a thankless job. No shame to those who have stepped up to the plate…but evaluate your options and pick the life you deserve. Great conversation. Blessings fam.
I've been said that being a stepfather is a thankless job. Lonely, too. You get none of the credit when the kids turn out fine, but all the blame when they don't.
@@six6goddess214 50% of BM do not have children, most of the BM who do have kids tend to want to deal with women who have kids which makes logical sense. However, women with kids prefer to deal with men who do not have kids because he probably has more resources & she doesn’t have to share him with a baby mother. Unlike women who have children, unless the father is dead or totally out of the picture, you as a man still have to share that woman with her baby father..Any & I do mean any man who does not have children & deals with or marries a woman with children is settling..
@@six6goddess214 As a man I experience this. So i choose to get luck in another country where traditional lifestyle is still alive. I rather die alone than raising another man's child. O would see that as a failure and a loser. If i am not finding a woman to built a family with, i will see it as my own failure and not deserve to multiply in this world. Than this world was just not made for me.
Respect. Here's the problem with that: what if the mother tells her daughter that, then changes her mind when the daughter gets pregnant? She can file for divorce, get alimony and child support and keep it moving.
That used to be the standard back in the day. Get pregnant out-of-wedlock if you want. Your parents would ship you off to an auntie out of state somewhere. They didn't tolerate their children bringing shame on the family.
@@Cutthroatrah Well that depends on the woman and how many kids she has. But don't act like fucking with a woman whose not good for you with no kids, is better than fucking with one with a kid who checks every box for you. Makes all the difference in the world. And if it was about self respect, then there would be NO single mothers out here if a dude has self respect he would be in that house raising his kids.
We judge criminals. We don’t know their backstories most of the time. The baggage, trouble comes with the job regardless, you choose what you wanna deal with.
Facts my older sister got pregnant at 21 and she decided to keep the baby knowing damn well that she had no intentions on staying with her baby daddy because she knew he wasn't shit. A lot of women with that mentally
DONT BE A STEPFATHER…. We did it and proved it for decades… Your raising ANOTHER MANS heritage. It’s simply called a favor. Whether he’s an good guy or asshole…. Make HIS child better while he does whatever. You may feel like a hero but it’s NOT for you or your bloodline
Exactly, and it kills me how ignorant they all act to ignore words like bloodline, heritage, lineage, family history, etc. As if those things don't mean anything, this goes to show how they themselves don't know how real men are hardwired when real men have been thinking that way since the beginning of time not just some random ass jock to just have a plain baby by. We don't treat our children as if they're just toys to have, real men have have plans in stored.
I agree with the sentiment but I can't agree that no men should be stepdads. Its a crappy job with no benefits but some men have to fill those roles and some men match that level. Every man isnt worthy of their own bloodline. For ex. an obese 40 yo man that's never earned more than 35k a year. He's a nice upstanding guy but should not be reproducing. He's stepdad level. There's already too many fatherless homes. Better for some kids to grow up with A man than none at all. But I agree that no upwardly mobile man should be a stepdad, unless they no longer want children.
@The1995Stoic It aint about saving no woman. It's about the kids and society as a whole. Alot of decent people were raised and influenced positively by their stepdads. Eliminating them doesn't solve anything and would only make things worse. Single moms raise the worst people in society. It's a crappy thankless job like I said but like sewage workers or coal miners they are necessary, somebody has to do it and somebody will. It just shouldn't be the best of us. Bums don't have options. He should be thankful any woman wants him, kids or not. They weren't productive. The least they can do is help raise somebody that will be bc we know most women alone aren't capable of doing so.
No the MEN do. They are the ones impregnating women they dont want to commit to. This is rampant in the black community. Men who dont want to commit. The women typically do. The problem is the men.
I hate that stupid “no one makes mistakes?” argument, here’s a saying “a smart person learn from their mistakes, a wise person learn from the mistakes of others”, the reason I don’t have kids at the age of 29 is because I saw the mistakes of other and said to myself I don’t want the same outcome.
He didn’t make a choice. He folded. She was cooking, cleaning, suckin’ Fuckin’ and stayed down (cause she really didn’t have no other better options with a child and new it) he being young fell for the okey doke and got tricked into marrying her or else he wouldn’t have said “I had cold feet.” His words not mine. That means she said well you cheated and if you really do love me then you will marry me after I been down for you after all these years and all these indiscretions. So maybe he just lost his job, living with her, don’t wanna go back to moms or can’t. And he like damn she got me a warm bed some warm pussy, my pussy list is running low I’m not as fly as before. Let me just go ahead and lock this down. Suckas shit. Or how they say Simp shit. You chose to save a woman cause it helped to save your self. Instead of being a man and taking a “L” for a bit so you can get bigger and better on your own. Now you mister momming it and when that kid get older if she ain’t already got another with you. A man gonna come along and she gonna choose up cause you was just her simp nanny in the first place -
*If a dude steps in and helps raise another man's kids, then things go left a year later, she can put him on child support because he took on that fatherly roll.* 😮 Yes, that has happened.😟
The same thing can happen with marriage. You'll have to pay b..ch you can't stand anymore and in some places they'll say F your prenuptial agreement. You'd still gotta pay alimony. Why is marriage a good thing but step fathers aren't. I think you have to be loopy to do either one. Am I missing something ?
@@divineintervention212 Alimony & Child support are both modern day forms of Indentured servitude. That is why more dudes are getting Vasectomies and the Marriage rate is falling off a cliff. We as a society are in unchartered territory. This will not end well.
No matter what Russel Wilson does… if Futures son grows up to be a great quarterback, wide receiver or DB he will always be known as Futures son the Quarterback, Wide receiver, DB… the genetics come from one man. Anyone guy can come through and talk a good game. And coachem up-
I am thankful for my Step father. If it wasn't for him I would be the woman I am today. And he gets all that credit. Because he was so in tune with my education and pushed it further than anyone else....
It’s very simple solutions. People with kids should date others with kids. If you don’t have any kids why would you date a woman who has more than 1 child?? Half the time the co parenting relationship isn’t even good if the guy is around. The other half of the time they never can find a baby sitter. Why not date a woman with no children and build with her? It’s very basic common sense
Im 33. Since I was 17 I said never fw a female with kids seriously. Since 22 I've been telling women not to get pregnant by certain dudes. Nobody listened to me. My sister-in-law told me she's ready for me to have a lil one because I'm 33. I had to explain to her that as a man I don't really have a time limit. At least not the same as women. 🤷🏿♂️
What you are describing regarding your sister-in-law is hood culture based on poverty and a siege mentality. It's dysfunctional af but if it's all you know you think it's OK.
Yeah. But do you really want to be a 60 year old raising a toddler ?.We can do the act of getting a woman pregnant at any age ,but ain't nobody trying to be elderly and still taking care of kids either. I'm not dissing anyone, but that's something to consider. We ain't got. as much time as we tell ourselves.
I don't shame single mothers or women with kids, I've actually dated a lot of women with kids but I've never ever thought, like, it never crossed my mind to step in a raise their children. A lot is behind that and goes into that
Only dudes with problems will go deal with a chick thinking about being the father of her kids. It's not right. Brothers have been known to accept the trash.
@@robsawyer8034 I'm witcha when ya right... they get most men in their 20s before they figure out their purpose and engage in their career...I would've married one before I finished college... And I didn't finish college until I was 28 (bullshitting)
@@willieadamson9748 bingo. Too many dudes out here have zero standards or principles and are more emotional than women are. Not your kids not your problem.
Logic must be in his super simp era... Nigga we know nobody has absolute control over children.. but if we are talking about the IDEAL situation no parent would want their young adult child son/daughter to get into a relationship with someone who already has kids.. that's the ideal and should be the norm. Only in our community will an elder advocate for a young person to be a step-parent.
Ya'll ever wonder why we as a people dont like best practices. Its like we want the best results but want to go against whats been proven to work. Of course there are exceptions but why rely on that to move forward.
I had a conversation maybe 3 months ago with my mom's about how when I was 11 or 12 I was supposed to move to Egypt with my auntie for a different experience. I got my Passport but my mom's never sent me. I think she didn't have the money. But when we were talking recently She said It's because I didn't want to go. And I told her I never said I didn't want to go I was just nervous and plus I was a kid. It was on you to make that final decision no matter what I said. My aunt was on the phone at the time and she laughed and said true.🤦🏿♂️😅 Be a parent to these kids. Not a friend. 💯
As long as these women get a “Get Out Of Jail Free Card” by other men stepping in to clean up the results of their bad decisions they and other women will continue to make these bad decisions. The current state of the black family and communities is blatant proof of not holding them accountable. Each year the percentage of unwed and single mothers increase.
I was married for 12 years, and I have 2 children from that marriage. I have a shared parenting agreement (joint custody). It's hard for me to date because most of the females in the dating pool in my area can't accept that I'm so involved in my children's life. Lol
Logic should definitly be the last person to be calling anyone a simp, dude dont be making no gahd damn valid points , none at all, and he talks like he be on the verge of crying .
Anton✊🏾💯% on point... I wish I had this show growing up. This would have helped me be more prepared to have watched out for the pitfalls when I was younger. Also, we have all these years of sound good on paper talking points drilled in our souls... we have been slacking as a people to the point where women leave with the child/children on a whim even with no terrible issues or problems in the relationship. Women leave men and usually raise the kids to the point of being spoiled, feeling neglected, or feeling equal to the mother due to the mother wanting to be friends with the child/children... the kids end up feeling like they need to be in charge. Women leave their child's father to find themselves (almost always never finding themselves) or to find step daddies. The new step daddy don't often get respected, mommy still for the streets, kids lacking in discipline where they end up running the show where they're usually end up running in the streets themselves.
I swear logic only hears what he wants to hear. Anton said several times to him. I don’t have kids but my nephews and cousins know I don’t f*ck around with BS.
No man should talk to a woman with kids especially if you have none. You are taking on all the responsibility of there real father and getting no reward from it. When the woman leaves the relationship and all the time and resources you put in go with her. Let not forget the rate woman divorce there mate and just leave realtionship when they are so-called unhappy. The last thing is the fact you are dealing with with her behavior and past trauma, kids behavior and the darma from her baby father when you start dating a single mother. Most man in a relationship with single mother get told i dont want anymore kids. So you are sign up for grantee L and baby father got the best years of her life and you get the left over and get told to like it.
I ain’t never “TAP” into a specific woman. I fell in lust, I might’ve fell in love, I was infatuated etc but I would never marry a woman for love. That’s crazy.
😅 I'm truly starting to believe that many people in this world are delusional to think that life will be absolutely perfect... It won't be and it NEVER will be... Do what's best for yourself and whatever you like, forget what other people think because what works for them may not work for you...💯
First comment I’ve read that obviously actually gets it. Thank God because I just hope and pray not everyone is a sheep. People have no idea about life. I’ve seen good and bad outcomes but I don’t sit around and praise one thing or write off another COMPLETELY. There are so many factors to figure in but they’ll never know with these closed minds. I just wish a lot of single moms who are truly not the typical baby mama would stop allowing people to use them for “fun” or space fillers. Shit whack.
@@bigsteppa1928 💯... I am with you and see no arguments in anything you said... I tell people all the time sometimes you got to arm yourself with multiple weapons or ways of life because just one may not get the job done... And I feel the same way as you, there is good and bad in EVERYTHING... 😂Like I'm listening to this one brother say "oh my son going to know better than to marry a single mom because I'm training him from an early age" 😁and I'm like negro you don't know WTF your son is going to do when he get old enough to start choosing for himself especially if he come across a single mom that seems good to him and he believe situation may workout..... Some people just don't understand that many humans are just going to do what they want to do whether you like it or not...and everyone is not meant to be saved... The power of FREEWILL....lol
@@zulu3274 nah g,he’s doing the right thing guiding his son. If you believe people are going to do what they’re going to do why even guide children in anything because they’ll do what they’re going to do,right? Thats a cope out and weak mentality and the problem with American/western culture, parents don’t want to take responsibility for how they raise their kids and how their kids turn out. You think fathers in other cultures with strict rules are just letting their sons and daughters do whatever? No, thats why they don’t have these single mother and baby daddy problems. A son is not just going to marry whoever and a daughter is not just going to marry whoever without the parents approval. Everything is structured by the parents.
Marry a good woman regardless of whether she has a child or not. It's not the preference, but don't think that marrying baby mommas just started, and it resulted in the man being used. The preference is to build your own, but it's possible to build with a woman who has a child(not kids). Mistakes happen, and I have only 2 kids and both by my wife, but I have shot up many clubs many times, and because it's a woman's right to choose, I was lucky. I know some great married women who had a child when they got married but are unselfish and treat their husbands with respect. The difference is when women have kids recklessly with men that they knew were not deserving vs. good women who are not only misled but were expecting to marry this man. It makes a big difference. IJS.
There was a time when getting a child out of wedlock was embarassing and shameful. It wasn`t just embarassing and shameful for the woman but also to the woman`s family. Nowadays its normal. Something went wrong down the line for it to be accepted as normal. 🤔😵💫
Yep. It used to be in black families that the girl had to go to live with her grandparents or her aunt. She wasn't allowed to stay at home and bring shame on the family. She was taught better.
@@keturaequalizer I knew a woman who had a younger sister who was young enough that people could mistake her for her daughter. And the woman would not let her sister hang with her because she knew people would get the wrong idea. She wasn't having it. My father told me before I graduated high school: "If you get a girl pregnant, I'm not babysitting." He didn't play. As for what went wrong, Christians stopped thinking that striving to live a Christian life was important. We pick and choose what scriptures we want to follow and just say, "God knows my heart" to the rest. We used to have more reverence for God than we do now.
@@fudgematthew33 What bothers me is that this is more prominent in the black society. You don`t see this with arabs or indians. It happens with caucasians but not as much as the black society. Its almost like now every black family has a female in their family who is a baby mamma. Its very disturbing. Black women need to style up and value themselves more. Its so sad to see. 😐😑
It's that way with Tariq St Patrick have to do on power book to get Ghost James St Patrick money he left behind. He can't get the Money unless he finishes college first
Oh YEA! 💯 percent support Anton. We can ABSOLUTELY come up with a few guidelines that you MUST follow in order to receive your inheritance. If you don’t meet the standard then you forgo your bread. Simple enough. If no babies out of wedlock means you don’t get your money. Well you better abide by that. Really fucking simple.
I will never be interested in being a stepdad,That's just not in my DNA or standards and honestly I want my own family,I'm like that other guy who start your own family lineage,I'm not with the raising another grown man's responsibility and obligation.
Logic is the one that sounds goofy but i get it. Men like him attract those type of women so he has to defend it. Single moms and women looking for men who aren’t their first choice are probably the women he’s use to getting.
Those guys that want to hook up with a baby mamma, it's his prerogative to raise and pay for another's man's kids, have no authority, and lose bonds with the kids when they divorce,/break up
Until the man get full custody the women won't understand... let them move into my house and take care of my kids while you see yours every other weekend.. you gonna feel some type
@iamadotclark picked poorly 🤦🏽♀️ this isn’t a flex at all. He married the same single mother he had cold feet about. This is not a flex 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
Anton made a good point about standards and successful families requiring certain metrics in order to receive inheritance -- Ghost from Power did the same thing Tariq had to complete college gain access to Ghost will.
It is all about respect. If a man chooses to date a single mom, respect his choice. If a man doesn't, the same rule should apply. I get crucified when I tell people I want to create my own family. I respect man that are stepfathers, but I get looked down on for not wanting to be one.
Yep a lot of kids do like at there parents as friends because they hang an accept there bad behaviors, at 25 i agree you shouldn’t be worried about raising someone else’s kids
Leave no hope for bad decisions and people will actively avoid it. If a woman knew that she can't get another man after the first child they would pick better. Make the man who wants it fight for it.
Don’t let up with Telling the Hard truth Anton!! The woman on the top left still with validation rhetoric, It takes a strong man, NOOOO….. that man has lowered his options and he has no choice to be strong in a situation he knows he doesn’t have full rights as a Man in his house and makeshift family. I’ve been the son on the other side. Don’t do it fellas, run there is an evil that comes with this and you want no parts.
This ones a bit of a roller coaster, so ill try to only include the spicy parts. 4 years ago, I rushed into a relationship with a mom with 2 kids, who was still actively seeing her now ex husband. She claimed he was unfaithful, and abusive, so I figured I'd hang in there until she got the courage to leave. Huge mistake I know. Once we had been somewhat dating for a while, she divorced him but still had contact, and would give him haircuts and hugs and stuff to support him. I had to tell her that it made me uncomfortable, and it eventually stopped. Going forward it was non stop drama with her kids and ex. Fights, harassment and he even stalked us to a weeknd concert and assaulted my gf/his ex wife. With all this going on, I even quit my job, changed career paths and bought a house with her within a couple years. To her credit, she was sweet, baked, took care of me and her kids, but her priority was always the kids over me. In the beginning it was 50/50 custody for her and her ex, but once the kids got into fights with their dad, it quickly became 100% custody for us. We had zero time together. Couldn't slow dance in the kitchen anymore. 100% of plans had to be planned around kids and their hockey/ride home from friends places. On top of all this, her kids had free reign of the house and could do no wrong. Friends would be over everyday of the week, all night, no rules, and we as a couple had no privacy anymore. The kids had zero respect for me, and didn't do anything around the house. The oldest even threatened to kill me one day after I scolded him for telling his mother to fuck off. He would sleep in 5 days a week and miss school, so rather than fix the problem, my girlfriend and her son would team up on me and accuse me of crazy stuff. They are all very narcissistic, hypocritical and overreact to everything. I was unable to discipline the kids as they would just cry to their mother and she would scold me. It went on like this for a couple years, along with the ex husband drama, the ex husband's parents would show up at my house and give me looks etc... so I naturally grew colder and less communication was taking place between her and I as she refused to accept any responsibility. She also had a very shady past with her ex in regards to parties and different.... let's say sexual lifestyles. So I would bring that up a few times when we would get in fights, which I realize I was wrong for. But everything over the years and my lack of communication piled on top of the added responsibility of kids that aren't mine and competing for affection, has become unrepairable it seems. She was a good person, and she treated me well, but it was just to much for me with the kids, drama, competing, lack of rules and consequence, lack of quality time and then out of nowhere on the 27th, she left me. She told me that I was to controlling, she was pushing her family/kids away and I never helped around the house. I also deleted a tracking app on my phone after she said she didn't care about me or where I went, out of spite. Again bad move on my part. Her kids made all the mess and I just got sick of cleaning up after them, and the only time I was controlling was when she was talking and texting her male "best friend" saying I love you with hearts and smiley faces. She also had no problem getting her ass smacked by an old alcoholic that lived with her brother back in 2020. Anyways, she said we should be roommates, and that's it. We are trying to sell the house, but it's taking a while, and during this time I've been in the basement, while she has a new dog, 2 kids, the kids friends and her parents upstairs everyday providing support. And I hear them laughing and moving on without me, so I moved into my sister's place while I wait. This is killing me. But I hope in the end I can forget all this. I keep thinking of all the good times generally, and it's hard. Now she is just super cold, doesnt text me, doesnt care about me and im broken. Have you or anyone you've known ever gone through something similar? Or maybe just a few words here to get my head on straight? Is this my karma for getting with a still married woman?
As a baby mom, i understand that if we don't toughen up the narrative will continue. Before we teach not to take on a baby mom we MUST teach not to bw a whoremonger. But i personally accept my fate however it may come. If i die alone and never reconcile with my husband ill take the sacrifice of a life alone to teach my children that life is not a game. The only way to enjoy it is to take it seriously. I pray my suffering cleanses my children
Free Will is a Dangerous game it's like telling them to go down a road full of pack of lions and you know they're down there and encouraging them it's ok they may or may not eat you.. that's just stupid
This should be lead by a man who's had more experience with women, Anton hasn't been with more than one woman in 19 years. We're in bad shape as a community when the influencers push their personal opinion.
It’s called codependency. Tell her to go back to her baby’s father. Save your time and especially your money. If it doesn’t work out, you’ll be parting ways with a lot it. Men always feel the need to fix things. Have to let it go. Focus on getting the bag!
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If a baby daddy didn't marry his own baby mama then why should I ? Makes no sense to sign up for some shit like that.
Because Black men are not educated to marry. They are more enlightened on how to be.... You know what never mind. Because y'all seem too blind to see it....
Anton GETS IT! In order to build strong families, you have drive a hard line. NO EXCEPTIONS. If my son marries a baby mama, he’s disinherited immediately. If he doesn’t marry the woman he gets pregnant, he’s disinherited. Its that simple. Same for my daughter. If she gets pregnant out of wedlock, she better hope the guy she let impregnate her marries her, or she too is disinherited. We must have standards!
This sounds stupid. I hope you teach your son not to sleep around with anyone he doesnt plan on marrying
At this point especially in life and the integrity and standards have drop so low, I agree with you in this.
@@DarkAngel-im5bh
Naw yall are delusional.. i will guide my kids when they get older to mske the right decisions but they make there own choices in life. How the hell u sound disinherited
@@coolguy4030
You're the delusional one.... probably raised by a single momma with that naive mentality.
Respect my G
Being a stepdad is a thankless job. No shame to those who have stepped up to the plate…but evaluate your options and pick the life you deserve. Great conversation. Blessings fam.
I've been said that being a stepfather is a thankless job. Lonely, too. You get none of the credit when the kids turn out fine, but all the blame when they don't.
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Being a step dad isn’t a step up it’s a step down.
Taking care of another Man kids is like paying another Man bills. #Facts
*mic drop*
Without the same level of respect
Truss
@@TheOneTrueNoName you'll hear "YOU'RE NOT MY FATHER!" before you get an ounce of respect.
@@fudgematthew33 and the momma don't want you raising him just paying for him
Logic ain’t logical at all.. I will never stand with men like him. He’s a statistic.
Men like him are the main reason black women are confused.
There is no reason in life a man should ever settle for a woman with kids if he doesn’t have any point-blank period!
But most men who date women with kids already have some.
@@six6goddess214 50% of BM do not have children, most of the BM who do have kids tend to want to deal with women who have kids which makes logical sense. However, women with kids prefer to deal with men who do not have kids because he probably has more resources & she doesn’t have to share him with a baby mother. Unlike women who have children, unless the father is dead or totally out of the picture, you as a man still have to share that woman with her baby father..Any & I do mean any man who does not have children & deals with or marries a woman with children is settling..
@@six6goddess214where are you getting this from?
Would if the guy can't reproduce
@@six6goddess214 As a man I experience this. So i choose to get luck in another country where traditional lifestyle is still alive. I rather die alone than raising another man's child. O would see that as a failure and a loser.
If i am not finding a woman to built a family with, i will see it as my own failure and not deserve to multiply in this world.
Than this world was just not made for me.
If he simps, hes a simp.😂😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂we'll call them Drago Simps.
@@dclewis8455 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
My parents raised us that if you came home pregnant you leaving the house to live with the one who did it. PERIOD.
Respect. Here's the problem with that: what if the mother tells her daughter that, then changes her mind when the daughter gets pregnant? She can file for divorce, get alimony and child support and keep it moving.
That used to be the standard back in the day. Get pregnant out-of-wedlock if you want. Your parents would ship you off to an auntie out of state somewhere. They didn't tolerate their children bringing shame on the family.
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He became a stepdad because he has low self esteem and he doesn’t respect himself.
Or he just like her
@@wade2xx552I liked a single mother too. But my self respect is more important.
How does self respect factor into this?
@@rayb2410 tf? If a man with no kids respects himself he wouldn’t stoop to being a stepdad.
@@Cutthroatrah Well that depends on the woman and how many kids she has. But don't act like fucking with a woman whose not good for you with no kids, is better than fucking with one with a kid who checks every box for you. Makes all the difference in the world. And if it was about self respect, then there would be NO single mothers out here if a dude has self respect he would be in that house raising his kids.
I hate when men are cooking and trying to put others on game and the super beta comes with his cape. This is why many can never receive the message.
We're never gonna run out of these simp saviors unfortunately
Never agree to pay a bill that’s not yours.
Amen
Not my mortgage, not my problem.
Amazing Quote 👏🏿
Anton spitting.
We want to create a redemption arch so bad when that redemption option is what causes the chaos
You can leave room for redemption without condoning mess.
Don't do it fellas
We judge criminals. We don’t know their backstories most of the time. The baggage, trouble comes with the job regardless, you choose what you wanna deal with.
Facts my older sister got pregnant at 21 and she decided to keep the baby knowing damn well that she had no intentions on staying with her baby daddy because she knew he wasn't shit. A lot of women with that mentally
Is the baby alive? Would you rather that child be dead?
Yeah, but most of them don’t want to be held accountable for their decisions and want to blame all men!
@six6goddess214 that's not the point
@@integrityborn6156 exactly 💯
@six6goddess214 that's not the point
DONT BE A STEPFATHER…. We did it and proved it for decades… Your raising ANOTHER MANS heritage. It’s simply called a favor. Whether he’s an good guy or asshole…. Make HIS child better while he does whatever. You may feel like a hero but it’s NOT for you or your bloodline
Black American men are the only males in the world who are happy raising another man's kid. Y'all are pussified.
THIS! AND while you raising another man's child, the mother is SECRETLY wishing the father would get his s#!t together and come back to her!
Exactly, and it kills me how ignorant they all act to ignore words like bloodline, heritage, lineage, family history, etc. As if those things don't mean anything, this goes to show how they themselves don't know how real men are hardwired when real men have been thinking that way since the beginning of time not just some random ass jock to just have a plain baby by. We don't treat our children as if they're just toys to have, real men have have plans in stored.
I agree with the sentiment but I can't agree that no men should be stepdads. Its a crappy job with no benefits but some men have to fill those roles and some men match that level.
Every man isnt worthy of their own bloodline. For ex. an obese 40 yo man that's never earned more than 35k a year. He's a nice upstanding guy but should not be reproducing. He's stepdad level. There's already too many fatherless homes. Better for some kids to grow up with A man than none at all. But I agree that no upwardly mobile man should be a stepdad, unless they no longer want children.
@The1995Stoic It aint about saving no woman. It's about the kids and society as a whole. Alot of decent people were raised and influenced positively by their stepdads. Eliminating them doesn't solve anything and would only make things worse. Single moms raise the worst people in society.
It's a crappy thankless job like I said but like sewage workers or coal miners they are necessary, somebody has to do it and somebody will. It just shouldn't be the best of us. Bums don't have options. He should be thankful any woman wants him, kids or not. They weren't productive. The least they can do is help raise somebody that will be bc we know most women alone aren't capable of doing so.
PREACH, ANTON!!!!!!! the bad behavior is ALWAYS VALIDATED by other women. black women keep this crap going
No the MEN do. They are the ones impregnating women they dont want to commit to. This is rampant in the black community. Men who dont want to commit. The women typically do. The problem is the men.
I hate that stupid “no one makes mistakes?” argument, here’s a saying “a smart person learn from their mistakes, a wise person learn from the mistakes of others”, the reason I don’t have kids at the age of 29 is because I saw the mistakes of other and said to myself I don’t want the same outcome.
Most people don’t make mistakes they make bad choices. There’s a difference.
As long as there are simps like Quintin and Simpgic (Logic), Things will not get better
🤣🤣🤣🤣 BARZ
Let them take um
Logic isnt half as smart as he thinks he is
Logic sounds like a single mother.. he should change his name to emotion
😂😂😂😂😂😂funny asl
What if the baby mom was a Brittany Renner, or Larisa Pippen... would Logic still let his son go forward and do what he want? Logic goofy
well at the end of the day he made his choice I just hope that other men can learn from this and not make such dumb decisions
He didn’t make a choice. He folded. She was cooking, cleaning, suckin’ Fuckin’ and stayed down (cause she really didn’t have no other better options with a child and new it) he being young fell for the okey doke and got tricked into marrying her or else he wouldn’t have said “I had cold feet.” His words not mine. That means she said well you cheated and if you really do love me then you will marry me after I been down for you after all these years and all these indiscretions. So maybe he just lost his job, living with her, don’t wanna go back to moms or can’t. And he like damn she got me a warm bed some warm pussy, my pussy list is running low I’m not as fly as before. Let me just go ahead and lock this down. Suckas shit. Or how they say Simp shit. You chose to save a woman cause it helped to save your self. Instead of being a man and taking a “L” for a bit so you can get bigger and better on your own. Now you mister momming it and when that kid get older if she ain’t already got another with you. A man gonna come along and she gonna choose up cause you was just her simp nanny in the first place -
What was the dumb decision?
@@sethhoward9300😐
Yeah so dumb but he's a simp anyway
@@unchaineddemigod794 it’s a serious question.. now men are simps for marrying a woman with kids ?!?
I get people make mistakes but there’s consequences for your actions the best way to fix something is to never break it in the first place
*If a dude steps in and helps raise another man's kids, then things go left a year later, she can put him on child support because he took on that fatherly roll.* 😮
Yes, that has happened.😟
WHHHAAATTT??!!!!!😯😯😯😯 OUTRAGEOUS!!!!
The same thing can happen with marriage. You'll have to pay b..ch you can't stand anymore and in some places they'll say F your prenuptial agreement. You'd still gotta pay alimony. Why is marriage a good thing but step fathers aren't. I think you have to be loopy to do either one. Am I missing something ?
Yep... it's happened a few times. I've seen one did on my local news that was caught up like that and he's still going through hell to get off of CS
@@divineintervention212 Alimony & Child support are both modern day forms of Indentured servitude.
That is why more dudes are getting Vasectomies and the Marriage rate is falling off a cliff. We as a society are in unchartered territory. This will not end well.
@@nakitapalmer656 The government don’t GAF, they want their money. There’s plenty of childless men paying child support.
No matter what Russel Wilson does… if Futures son grows up to be a great quarterback, wide receiver or DB he will always be known as Futures son the Quarterback, Wide receiver, DB… the genetics come from one man. Anyone guy can come through and talk a good game. And coachem up-
I am thankful for my Step father. If it wasn't for him I would be the woman I am today. And he gets all that credit. Because he was so in tune with my education and pushed it further than anyone else....
are you married?
For every you there's 10 who don't honor, respect, and give that man his due credit.
If he had kids to nothing wrong with that the only problem is a man or woman with no kids to get with someone with kids
@@PumpdaBrakes-ub8kpthat has nothing to do with anything. No one has to get married. There’s nothing wrong with being single.
Where was your real father?
Nothing but pure RESPECT to LAW.
We have no free will .
I’m riding with Anton ten toes down on this one
Some these dudes are goofy. What wrong with tell your son to choose a better choice. There are consequences to every decision. Logic. ... Quinton
It’s very simple solutions. People with kids should date others with kids. If you don’t have any kids why would you date a woman who has more than 1 child?? Half the time the co parenting relationship isn’t even good if the guy is around. The other half of the time they never can find a baby sitter. Why not date a woman with no children and build with her? It’s very basic common sense
Im 33. Since I was 17 I said never fw a female with kids seriously. Since 22 I've been telling women not to get pregnant by certain dudes. Nobody listened to me.
My sister-in-law told me she's ready for me to have a lil one because I'm 33. I had to explain to her that as a man I don't really have a time limit. At least not the same as women. 🤷🏿♂️
You do. Most men start going to underworld by age of 60. And that will come sooner than you think.
Your right
Perfect response. Great decisions.
What you are describing regarding your sister-in-law is hood culture based on poverty and a siege mentality. It's dysfunctional af but if it's all you know you think it's OK.
Yeah. But do you really want to be a 60 year old raising a toddler ?.We can do the act of getting a woman pregnant at any age ,but ain't nobody trying to be elderly and still taking care of kids either. I'm not dissing anyone, but that's something to consider. We ain't got. as much time as we tell ourselves.
By saving these women you are sending the wrong message. Cycle will continue
I don't shame single mothers or women with kids, I've actually dated a lot of women with kids but I've never ever thought, like, it never crossed my mind to step in a raise their children. A lot is behind that and goes into that
Exclusively dated? cause we all hittin em my boy
Only dudes with problems will go deal with a chick thinking about being the father of her kids. It's not right. Brothers have been known to accept the trash.
@@robsawyer8034 I'm witcha when ya right... they get most men in their 20s before they figure out their purpose and engage in their career...I would've married one before I finished college... And I didn't finish college until I was 28 (bullshitting)
Phuuck that! Shaming WORKS!
@@willieadamson9748 bingo. Too many dudes out here have zero standards or principles and are more emotional than women are. Not your kids not your problem.
Logic must be in his super simp era... Nigga we know nobody has absolute control over children.. but if we are talking about the IDEAL situation no parent would want their young adult child son/daughter to get into a relationship with someone who already has kids.. that's the ideal and should be the norm. Only in our community will an elder advocate for a young person to be a step-parent.
Logic has turned into a whole feminist SIMP. What did yall do to this brother to make him SIMP out so hard? 🤣
Everyone wants to be a lion until they find out what male lions do to cubs that aren't his.
Yep
No more baby mommaism.
I understand being a single mother is hard but being a stepfather is even harder
Ya'll ever wonder why we as a people dont like best practices. Its like we want the best results but want to go against whats been proven to work. Of course there are exceptions but why rely on that to move forward.
STEP FATHER = THANKLESS JOB
I had a conversation maybe 3 months ago with my mom's about how when I was 11 or 12 I was supposed to move to Egypt with my auntie for a different experience. I got my Passport but my mom's never sent me. I think she didn't have the money. But when we were talking recently She said It's because I didn't want to go. And I told her I never said I didn't want to go I was just nervous and plus I was a kid. It was on you to make that final decision no matter what I said.
My aunt was on the phone at the time and she laughed and said true.🤦🏿♂️😅
Be a parent to these kids. Not a friend. 💯
Anton on point once again!!! 👏🏿
I wish my son would get with a baby mama. I’ll fill like I wasted all these years and money I’m putting into him lol.
As long as these women get a “Get Out Of Jail Free Card” by other men stepping in to clean up the results of their bad decisions they and other women will continue to make these bad decisions. The current state of the black family and communities is blatant proof of not holding them accountable. Each year the percentage of unwed and single mothers increase.
@@jahrules8674 Yep, the government is their “Other Sugar Daddy”
I was married for 12 years, and I have 2 children from that marriage. I have a shared parenting agreement (joint custody). It's hard for me to date because most of the females in the dating pool in my area can't accept that I'm so involved in my children's life. Lol
Logic should definitly be the last person to be calling anyone a simp, dude dont be making no gahd damn valid points , none at all, and he talks like he be on the verge of crying .
Anton is always keeping it real. Let them know that there are standard and there are consequences for not living up to those standards!!
This kind of content is absolutely necessary for today’s society. Most men need to listen to these kinds of conversations.
Anton✊🏾💯% on point... I wish I had this show growing up. This would have helped me be more prepared to have watched out for the pitfalls when I was younger.
Also, we have all these years of sound good on paper talking points drilled in our souls... we have been slacking as a people to the point where women leave with the child/children on a whim even with no terrible issues or problems in the relationship. Women leave men and usually raise the kids to the point of being spoiled, feeling neglected, or feeling equal to the mother due to the mother wanting to be friends with the child/children... the kids end up feeling like they need to be in charge. Women leave their child's father to find themselves (almost always never finding themselves) or to find step daddies. The new step daddy don't often get respected, mommy still for the streets, kids lacking in discipline where they end up running the show where they're usually end up running in the streets themselves.
Follow God not culture, 💯
There is no scripture that commands anyone to be a step parent.
I swear logic only hears what he wants to hear. Anton said several times to him. I don’t have kids but my nephews and cousins know I don’t f*ck around with BS.
No man should talk to a woman with kids especially if you have none. You are taking on all the responsibility of there real father and getting no reward from it. When the woman leaves the relationship and all the time and resources you put in go with her. Let not forget the rate woman divorce there mate and just leave realtionship when they are so-called unhappy. The last thing is the fact you are dealing with with her behavior and past trauma, kids behavior and the darma from her baby father when you start dating a single mother. Most man in a relationship with single mother get told i dont want anymore kids. So you are sign up for grantee L and baby father got the best years of her life and you get the left over and get told to like it.
The greatest way to lead is by example.
I ain’t never “TAP” into a specific woman. I fell in lust, I might’ve fell in love, I was infatuated etc but I would never marry a woman for love. That’s crazy.
😅 I'm truly starting to believe that many people in this world are delusional to think that life will be absolutely perfect... It won't be and it NEVER will be...
Do what's best for yourself and whatever you like, forget what other people think because what works for them may not work for you...💯
First comment I’ve read that obviously actually gets it. Thank God because I just hope and pray not everyone is a sheep. People have no idea about life. I’ve seen good and bad outcomes but I don’t sit around and praise one thing or write off another COMPLETELY. There are so many factors to figure in but they’ll never know with these closed minds. I just wish a lot of single moms who are truly not the typical baby mama would stop allowing people to use them for “fun” or space fillers. Shit whack.
@@bigsteppa1928 💯... I am with you and see no arguments in anything you said... I tell people all the time sometimes you got to arm yourself with multiple weapons or ways of life because just one may not get the job done... And I feel the same way as you, there is good and bad in EVERYTHING...
😂Like I'm listening to this one brother say "oh my son going to know better than to marry a single mom because I'm training him from an early age" 😁and I'm like negro you don't know WTF your son is going to do when he get old enough to start choosing for himself especially if he come across a single mom that seems good to him and he believe situation may workout..... Some people just don't understand that many humans are just going to do what they want to do whether you like it or not...and everyone is not meant to be saved... The power of FREEWILL....lol
@@zulu3274 Facts!! 🔥 🔥 🔥 your sensibility is a rare find today. More power to you. ✌🏽
@@bigsteppa1928 its not as hard as people make it seem out here but you keep your insight/wisdom going and take care of yourself as well...🦾
@@zulu3274 nah g,he’s doing the right thing guiding his son. If you believe people are going to do what they’re going to do why even guide children in anything because they’ll do what they’re going to do,right? Thats a cope out and weak mentality and the problem with American/western culture, parents don’t want to take responsibility for how they raise their kids and how their kids turn out. You think fathers in other cultures with strict rules are just letting their sons and daughters do whatever? No, thats why they don’t have these single mother and baby daddy problems. A son is not just going to marry whoever and a daughter is not just going to marry whoever without the parents approval. Everything is structured by the parents.
STOP ENABLING 💯💯💯💯💯✊🏾
Marry a good woman regardless of whether she has a child or not. It's not the preference, but don't think that marrying baby mommas just started, and it resulted in the man being used. The preference is to build your own, but it's possible to build with a woman who has a child(not kids). Mistakes happen, and I have only 2 kids and both by my wife, but I have shot up many clubs many times, and because it's a woman's right to choose, I was lucky. I know some great married women who had a child when they got married but are unselfish and treat their husbands with respect. The difference is when women have kids recklessly with men that they knew were not deserving vs. good women who are not only misled but were expecting to marry this man. It makes a big difference. IJS.
There was a time when getting a child out of wedlock was embarassing and shameful. It wasn`t just embarassing and shameful for the woman but also to the woman`s family. Nowadays its normal. Something went wrong down the line for it to be accepted as normal. 🤔😵💫
Yep. It used to be in black families that the girl had to go to live with her grandparents or her aunt. She wasn't allowed to stay at home and bring shame on the family. She was taught better.
@@fudgematthew33 Exactly! So what went wrong?! 😏😶
@@keturaequalizer I knew a woman who had a younger sister who was young enough that people could mistake her for her daughter. And the woman would not let her sister hang with her because she knew people would get the wrong idea. She wasn't having it. My father told me before I graduated high school: "If you get a girl pregnant, I'm not babysitting." He didn't play.
As for what went wrong, Christians stopped thinking that striving to live a Christian life was important. We pick and choose what scriptures we want to follow and just say, "God knows my heart" to the rest. We used to have more reverence for God than we do now.
@@fudgematthew33 What bothers me is that this is more prominent in the black society. You don`t see this with arabs or indians. It happens with caucasians but not as much as the black society. Its almost like now every black family has a female in their family who is a baby mamma. Its very disturbing. Black women need to style up and value themselves more. Its so sad to see. 😐😑
You can tell Jasmine is very uncomfortable with the conversation. Don’t take it personal hun
It seems like every video i see, Logic interrupting the conversation with something else
It's that way with Tariq St Patrick have to do on power book to get Ghost James St Patrick money he left behind. He can't get the Money unless he finishes college first
be willing to help tha youth period
Oh YEA! 💯 percent support Anton. We can ABSOLUTELY come up with a few guidelines that you MUST follow in order to receive your inheritance. If you don’t meet the standard then you forgo your bread. Simple enough. If no babies out of wedlock means you don’t get your money. Well you better abide by that. Really fucking simple.
I will never be interested in being a stepdad,That's just not in my DNA or standards and honestly I want my own family,I'm like that other guy who start your own family lineage,I'm not with the raising another grown man's responsibility and obligation.
Logic is the one that sounds goofy but i get it. Men like him attract those type of women so he has to defend it. Single moms and women looking for men who aren’t their first choice are probably the women he’s use to getting.
Those guys that want to hook up with a baby mamma, it's his prerogative to raise and pay for another's man's kids, have no authority, and lose bonds with the kids when they divorce,/break up
Until the man get full custody the women won't understand... let them move into my house and take care of my kids while you see yours every other weekend.. you gonna feel some type
@iamadotclark picked poorly 🤦🏽♀️ this isn’t a flex at all. He married the same single mother he had cold feet about. This is not a flex 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
Anton made a good point about standards and successful families requiring certain metrics in order to receive inheritance -- Ghost from Power did the same thing Tariq had to complete college gain access to Ghost will.
Every dude I knew with logic in their name was slow
9:53 the breakdown of the family is why we don’t have standards anymore.
ANTON Stay cooking 🍳
ALWAYS
It is all about respect. If a man chooses to date a single mom, respect his choice. If a man doesn't, the same rule should apply. I get crucified when I tell people I want to create my own family. I respect man that are stepfathers, but I get looked down on for not wanting to be one.
Law is out of touch with reality talking that “he's not gonna do this or that“ stuff
She can fix that beeping she just don't know how. They can tell her how to bypass that noise.
Freedom of choice......quit giving grace when you aren't getting it back young gentlemen.
J Cole- she don’t wanna be save don’t save her
Kevin benfield jr- she don’t need to be saved, why save her?
Yep a lot of kids do like at there parents as friends because they hang an accept there bad behaviors, at 25 i agree you shouldn’t be worried about raising someone else’s kids
Anton let me tell u fam the truth of marrying babymamas is easy to talk about but a nightmare to be in I should have listened to my mother smh
I’ve dated a couple women with children and they thought I was going to marry them 😂😂😂
Leave no hope for bad decisions and people will actively avoid it. If a woman knew that she can't get another man after the first child they would pick better. Make the man who wants it fight for it.
Of course she tapped into Clark lol it’s because she needed help and knew that he could be swayed into taking care of her and another man’s child 😂
Don’t let up with Telling the Hard truth Anton!! The woman on the top left still with validation rhetoric, It takes a strong man, NOOOO….. that man has lowered his options and he has no choice to be strong in a situation he knows he doesn’t have full rights as a Man in his house and makeshift family. I’ve been the son on the other side. Don’t do it fellas, run there is an evil that comes with this and you want no parts.
I said the same to my wife if my son bring home a baby mama I'm disowning him.
This ones a bit of a roller coaster, so ill try to only include the spicy parts. 4 years ago, I rushed into a relationship with a mom with 2 kids, who was still actively seeing her now ex husband. She claimed he was unfaithful, and abusive, so I figured I'd hang in there until she got the courage to leave. Huge mistake I know. Once we had been somewhat dating for a while, she divorced him but still had contact, and would give him haircuts and hugs and stuff to support him. I had to tell her that it made me uncomfortable, and it eventually stopped. Going forward it was non stop drama with her kids and ex. Fights, harassment and he even stalked us to a weeknd concert and assaulted my gf/his ex wife. With all this going on, I even quit my job, changed career paths and bought a house with her within a couple years. To her credit, she was sweet, baked, took care of me and her kids, but her priority was always the kids over me. In the beginning it was 50/50 custody for her and her ex, but once the kids got into fights with their dad, it quickly became 100% custody for us. We had zero time together. Couldn't slow dance in the kitchen anymore. 100% of plans had to be planned around kids and their hockey/ride home from friends places. On top of all this, her kids had free reign of the house and could do no wrong. Friends would be over everyday of the week, all night, no rules, and we as a couple had no privacy anymore. The kids had zero respect for me, and didn't do anything around the house. The oldest even threatened to kill me one day after I scolded him for telling his mother to fuck off. He would sleep in 5 days a week and miss school, so rather than fix the problem, my girlfriend and her son would team up on me and accuse me of crazy stuff. They are all very narcissistic, hypocritical and overreact to everything. I was unable to discipline the kids as they would just cry to their mother and she would scold me. It went on like this for a couple years, along with the ex husband drama, the ex husband's parents would show up at my house and give me looks etc... so I naturally grew colder and less communication was taking place between her and I as she refused to accept any responsibility. She also had a very shady past with her ex in regards to parties and different.... let's say sexual lifestyles. So I would bring that up a few times when we would get in fights, which I realize I was wrong for. But everything over the years and my lack of communication piled on top of the added responsibility of kids that aren't mine and competing for affection, has become unrepairable it seems. She was a good person, and she treated me well, but it was just to much for me with the kids, drama, competing, lack of rules and consequence, lack of quality time and then out of nowhere on the 27th, she left me. She told me that I was to controlling, she was pushing her family/kids away and I never helped around the house. I also deleted a tracking app on my phone after she said she didn't care about me or where I went, out of spite. Again bad move on my part. Her kids made all the mess and I just got sick of cleaning up after them, and the only time I was controlling was when she was talking and texting her male "best friend" saying I love you with hearts and smiley faces. She also had no problem getting her ass smacked by an old alcoholic that lived with her brother back in 2020. Anyways, she said we should be roommates, and that's it. We are trying to sell the house, but it's taking a while, and during this time I've been in the basement, while she has a new dog, 2 kids, the kids friends and her parents upstairs everyday providing support. And I hear them laughing and moving on without me, so I moved into my sister's place while I wait. This is killing me. But I hope in the end I can forget all this. I keep thinking of all the good times generally, and it's hard. Now she is just super cold, doesnt text me, doesnt care about me and im broken. Have you or anyone you've known ever gone through something similar? Or maybe just a few words here to get my head on straight? Is this my karma for getting with a still married woman?
The only way a man should take care of another man kids is if she a widow. She didnt chose her faith. God called him home.
Mr Logic 😂😂😂😂
whos your daddy? what did he do? protect your bloodline!!!!
I been saying for months QUINTON is a walking L…here’s another one ☝🏽
Clone logic is a straight googy.
I already took care of another mans kids ..dont do it youll rep what you ask for.
Women think a man crying is a strong man why would I listen to them?
As a baby mom, i understand that if we don't toughen up the narrative will continue. Before we teach not to take on a baby mom we MUST teach not to bw a whoremonger. But i personally accept my fate however it may come. If i die alone and never reconcile with my husband ill take the sacrifice of a life alone to teach my children that life is not a game. The only way to enjoy it is to take it seriously. I pray my suffering cleanses my children
05:02 someone just shat their pants.
Free Will is a Dangerous game it's like telling them to go down a road full of pack of lions and you know they're down there and encouraging them it's ok they may or may not eat you.. that's just stupid
This should be lead by a man who's had more experience with women, Anton hasn't been with more than one woman in 19 years. We're in bad shape as a community when the influencers push their personal opinion.
It’s called codependency. Tell her to go back to her baby’s father. Save your time and especially your money. If it doesn’t work out, you’ll be parting ways with a lot it. Men always feel the need to fix things. Have to let it go. Focus on getting the bag!