Lady, leave the past in the past & move forward with tomorrow. The past is what made u the person today, so love urself & travel the world. Leave all ur bad memories behind. There r still a lot of good men out there. Give urself time to find the right person.
You have to be in her shoes to understand why it took her so long to finally leave him. It’s sad that Hmong men cheat on their loyal and good wife who made them what they are in the public eyes. When you trust too much, you get hurt that much. 😢
If we knew then what we know now, we wouldn't make the mistake of marrying them. Take it as a lesson learned, love yourself and know your worth. Dont let your age deter you from letting go of a toxic marriage. Brighters days ahead ❤
Its easier said than done, that is why it took her so long to let him go...I understand why she did what she had to do...I was once in those shoes too...Tu siab kawg os, peb cov pojniam ces, we try and try until we no longer can to let go, as for certain men they just suck
Stay strong, you've been strong for 30 years. You'll survive. You have your kids. Im in the same boat too. It will be hard but all will mend. We woman just need to love ourselves and stand strong. Power to all woman that are going through a life like this.
So toxic .. I would not go through this ever again. Only to my first marriage that I was stupid and endure the abuse physically and emotionally.. you only realize how stupid and what a waste of time you spent with the toxic husband after divorced
Kev hlub ces yog yus niam yus txiv thiaj hlub yus tiag hlub yam tsis taij dab tsi . Tsis thov dab tsi tsuas kom yus lub neej zoo xwb .hlub yus tus kheej mog peb cov me poj niam aw...
Great story but I do not understand why it takes 30 years to figure it out. Your advice was good as well but your advice should be when you found your husband at the park, from that day on you should have divorce him and never look back. Instead you went thru the heartbreak for so long. My advice is when a man cheat on you, move on.
It’s always easier said than done. I believe she had hope and was hoping for the change. Unfortunately the change never came. Other reasons could be reputation and judgement from society, and other disappointments that she doesn’t want to impose on her families.
I'm sorry you had to hang on for so long but don't regret anything because you are who you are today, strong and brave. There'll be light in the end of the tunnel for you too sis. Sounds like my life story I feel your pain. Best of luck
Txhob ruam2 mas tus viv ncaus txiv neej twb tsi tau tag rau koj niag txiv siab phem ntawm ko ne,hlub yus tus kheej ua khov kho luag thiaj saib taus yus hos
I’m very proud of you. People think it’s easy just get up and leave. You don’t know til it happens to you. Some of us Hmong women stay suffering til we die. Best wishes to you. ❤
I totally understand why you stay that long and I’m glad you are able to finally pickup yourself and leave in one piece sister! You should have no regrets moving on! He was toxic already when he mentioned or used the excuse about your boyfriend in the past. Stay strong & Self Love so you can move on!
Been there, done that. Everyone can say leave but you leave when you are ready. You can only leave when you can. I took it for 28 years. I know how you feel.
I think this is bestest story ever been told. The first couple sentences already make my tears falling down. Thank you sister for sharing your story. Stay stronge and love, respect, take care, and put yourself first and live with your children and enjoy the rest of your life.
Story like these makes me appreciate my husband very much. Thank you for sharing and Im so proud of you mama finally letting your wings 🪽 fly. Take care and good luck😭😔🙏🏼🫂❤❤❤❤❤️
Oh hell no, no one treats me like her husband treats her. Why does she allow him to treat her that way for so many years? Love yourself and don't let anyone treat you like a doormat.
I feel the same way but I don't have the courage to leave him maybe in the future when all my kids are old enough I will go my own way being together without love it's very hard
Sister, I don’t understand why u just didn’t leave him when u found him with that lady? And after he told u that he wasn’t gonna love u anymore? The image of him f****** that lady, will forever be engraved in my mind & it will make me hate him & be disgusted so much to the point of leaving him. Y’all ladies just need to love urself enough to know when to walk away & leave a toxic, loveless marriage. It don’t matter if y’all have kids together, leave him & put him on child support. It hurts but eventually, you’ll get over it & move on.
Sister..you stayed way too long and allowed him to torture so long. I'm glad you finally moved out but please don't ever go back and take him back. You deserve happiness, please love yourself and don't go back
We shouldn’t dwell on the goods. If your partner moved on he/she will not think of your past life, that’s why he moved forward without you. Don’t worry about life. We gotta fight to be happy for ourselves. Make the right decision and be happy. Life is too short to fight for love when the love you have from Your kids and parents are not hidden. Wishing you the best sister… We only paub hnub no 🥲😭
Me sister aw, I can feel your pain. I am going through the same pain as you were now. Like you said I am still love him but he continues to cheat on me and not stop I will be the same as you.
Nrauj povtseg zoo dua os mog vivncaus tus zoo li no yuav los tsi txog twg lawm cia muab nrauj yus mam mus ntshiav dua cia lwm tus mam los tsim nws rau yus saib txiv neej 50 😊xyoo rov saum lawm ces tso mus yus thiaj tsi tau tu mas lov
Kudos to you for standing your ground but as someone who is almost 50, you are not old. There is so much left to accomplish in life so stop feeling like you have no choice. Live a good and fulfilling life!
Stop missing him and talking about the past. He doesn’t care anymore so don’t waste your tears and time. You need to move on and let him go. The more you think about the past, the harder it is to move on. He left you the day he cheated but you kept clinging to him and hurting yourself.
We’ve most of the Hmong women’s really trying to working out with our husband’s because we are truly trying the best possible that we can to make sure given ourselves as many chances possible could, once we leave the cheater or abusive husband, than never return to the toxic relationship that’s why it taken her so long to finally left him. That’s one reason when a lady left him, she never has anything to regrets that she hasn’t tried her best!! Lady, wishing you the best! Don’t look back but looking forward to the future by living your best life without him, be free to sore like an Eagle 🦅!!!!!!!
I feel for this lady. At the same time, I wish for more women to love themselves and not torture them this much. When someone no longer love you, please find the courage to move on asap so you don't get stab by him over and over. The sooner you leave the more time you have to enjoy life without him.
Kuv tuaj Tim nplog tuaj kuv tu txiv yeej ua li koj tu txiv ua rau koj thiab o txawm luag xav nrog poj niam pw npaum twg lo luag g xum nrog yu pw li luag xum mu plw luag xwb ,yu mu xua nw ma nw cem2 yu khau g muaj khau. Yu twb xav tia ntev2 lawm tej thaum twb ze ob va thiv lawm yu mam xua nw lo nw tseem ce yu thiab ma tu siab tshaj tsheej hli luag twb g kov yu luag mu twg lo luag g qhia yu li🥹 ntuj teb tag hmo luag lawm luag txhob hai xwb hai ma luag tseem nij hnub lo liam yu tia yu nim tham2 hlua nraug
Ntiaj teb nov ntshe tsis muaj ib tug txiv neej hmoob uas muaj siab siab ncaj li o lawv...ncaim tau ces ncaim tus neeg siab phem yus thiaj li muaj sia nyob ntev o lawv...kuv twb ncaim tau kuv tus me txiv Lem lawm thiab ..kuv niag hnub ua lub ntuj tsaug ...qhov nws nrauj kuv lawm ..hnub no kuv thiaj muaj kev Kaj siab lug o lawv aw
Why wasted and waited 30 years? It's not like he tied you down. You should've moved on when you caught him in the act. He behaved badly because you gave him permission.
Me niam tsev aw... Txhob khub xim tus neeg uas tsi hlub yus thiab tsi khub xim yus txoj sia os peb ua neej nyob ces hlub yus xwb txhob hlub tus tsim yus os kuv ces twb tag Kev hlub lawm thiab os.
Oh dang … this could easily be the response to the one the guy told … hmmm🤔. I hope you can see the grass isn’t any greener out there . Just leave for your happiness and not to find the one that got away .
As cas koj nim muaj niam muaj txiv hlub2 koj os me niam hluas aw nyob li kuv ces twb tsi muaj ib tug hlub kuv li os nrog koj zoo2 siab ua koj muaj niam luaj txiv hlub2 koj mog hos tu siab nrog koj tus txiv ua phem rau koj os mog kuv li ces kuv tus txiv ho hlub2 kuv os
Zaj neej neeg no zoo li Kuv zaj thiab. 37 lub xyoo uv kom seb lub neej Puas zoo thiab kom Tej menyuam muaj Niam muaj txiv tiam sis uv tiag ces Ntshe yuav tuag tiag ces ua ib siab tso nws tes es Kuv mus ua ib leej Niam, ib leej pog, ib Niam Tais zoo rau wb Tej menyuam thiab xeeb leej xeeb ntxwv lawm xwb os.😢😢
Tus me niam tsev peb cov me niam tsev hmoob ces feem coob yeej tau taug tib txoj kev kj taug no os. Kv los yog ib tug ntawm kj txoj dab neeg no thiab os. Txhob tusiab rau tus neeg tsis hlub kj mog.
Me niam tsev aw cov nkauj nrab no mas lawv siab phem tshaj plaws li os, tsis raug leej twg ces leej twg yeej tsis paub nawb mog, cov txiv tsev no ces txog txij lawv mus tham poj nrauj lawm ces yus yeej tsis nyob ntawm nws lub siab lawm mog. Zoo kawg kav tsij muab niag txiv dev ko laig pov tseg lub ntuj yeej yuav xa ib tug zoo zoo los hlub koj xwb mog. Me niam tsev aw koj mas hais yog tshaj plaws os mog
Lady, leave the past in the past & move forward with tomorrow. The past is what made u the person today, so love urself & travel the world. Leave all ur bad memories behind. There r still a lot of good men out there. Give urself time to find the right person.
Tim yus txojkev ruam ntseeg neeg yooj yim nkaus xwb.
Love can kill. Love makes you go crazy. I feel the pain in this story. I've been there and gain my strength to carry on.
You have to be in her shoes to understand why it took her so long to finally leave him. It’s sad that Hmong men cheat on their loyal and good wife who made them what they are in the public eyes. When you trust too much, you get hurt that much. 😢
Not all some 😉
Tim yus txojkev ruam ntseeg neeg yooj yim thiaj li tau ris txojkev mob siab li no.
If we knew then what we know now, we wouldn't make the mistake of marrying them. Take it as a lesson learned, love yourself and know your worth. Dont let your age deter you from letting go of a toxic marriage. Brighters days ahead ❤
Its easier said than done, that is why it took her so long to let him go...I understand why she did what she had to do...I was once in those shoes too...Tu siab kawg os, peb cov pojniam ces, we try and try until we no longer can to let go, as for certain men they just suck
I been there. We married for 5 years and then he cheated for 15 years before I let it go. If other people not in your our shoes they don't know 😢😢😢😢😢😢
Stay strong, you've been strong for 30 years. You'll survive. You have your kids. Im in the same boat too. It will be hard but all will mend. We woman just need to love ourselves and stand strong. Power to all woman that are going through a life like this.
Ntuj os tus mi niam hluas, peb tej mi neej txoj kev txij nkawm tsis hlub ces zoo ib yam tsis txaw kiag. Tu siab tshaj plaws yom o....
Koj hais yog kawg hlub koj tus kheej koj tseem muaj nuj nqe rau koj niam koj txiv
So toxic .. I would not go through this ever again. Only to my first marriage that I was stupid and endure the abuse physically and emotionally.. you only realize how stupid and what a waste of time you spent with the toxic husband after divorced
Only you will know when it’s time to move on. Much strength to you sister. In your shoes and still trying to figure it out too.
Learn to love oneself. Hope you can find happiness.
Kev hlub ces yog yus niam yus txiv thiaj hlub yus tiag hlub yam tsis taij dab tsi . Tsis thov dab tsi tsuas kom yus lub neej zoo xwb .hlub yus tus kheej mog peb cov me poj niam aw...
Great story but I do not understand why it takes 30 years to figure it out. Your advice was good as well but your advice should be when you found your husband at the park, from that day on you should have divorce him and never look back. Instead you went thru the heartbreak for so long. My advice is when a man cheat on you, move on.
It’s always easier said than done. I believe she had hope and was hoping for the change. Unfortunately the change never came. Other reasons could be reputation and judgement from society, and other disappointments that she doesn’t want to impose on her families.
I'm sorry you had to hang on for so long but don't regret anything because you are who you are today, strong and brave. There'll be light in the end of the tunnel for you too sis. Sounds like my life story I feel your pain. Best of luck
Txhob ruam2 mas tus viv ncaus txiv neej twb tsi tau tag rau koj niag txiv siab phem ntawm ko ne,hlub yus tus kheej ua khov kho luag thiaj saib taus yus hos
I’m very proud of you. People think it’s easy just get up and leave. You don’t know til it happens to you. Some of us Hmong women stay suffering til we die. Best wishes to you. ❤
I totally understand why you stay that long and I’m glad you are able to finally pickup yourself and leave in one piece sister! You should have no regrets moving on! He was toxic already when he mentioned or used the excuse about your boyfriend in the past. Stay strong & Self Love so you can move on!
Been there, done that. Everyone can say leave but you leave when you are ready. You can only leave when you can. I took it for 28 years. I know how you feel.
😢😢😢🎉🎉🎉
It’s easier said then done. I understand why it took you so long to leave your toxic marriage. May his bless you and grant you happiness
cas koj zaj neeg es tu siab ua luaj cas zoo kiag li kuv lub neej li os
Hmong woman just don't know when to let go and move on..
So sad. I don't want this life of mine to ever end like this. Truly unfortunate
Koj tham tau zoo heev li os❤❤❤❤
🙏😭😭😭👍💔💔💔💔
I think this is bestest story ever been told. The first couple sentences already make my tears falling down. Thank you sister for sharing your story. Stay stronge and love, respect, take care, and put yourself first and live with your children and enjoy the rest of your life.
My Hmong sisters, please love yourself first.
Tus siab heev😢😢
😭😭😭😭😭😭niam laus cas răws nkaus kuv kev kuv tab tom taug tiag tu siab ua luaj kheev lam mụaj sij hawm cia koj hais kuv txoj thiab
Story like these makes me appreciate my husband very much. Thank you for sharing and Im so proud of you mama finally letting your wings 🪽 fly. Take care and good luck😭😔🙏🏼🫂❤❤❤❤❤️
Oh hell no, no one treats me like her husband treats her. Why does she allow him to treat her that way for so many years? Love yourself and don't let anyone treat you like a doormat.
I feel the same way but I don't have the courage to leave him maybe in the future when all my kids are old enough I will go my own way being together without love it's very hard
Sister, I don’t understand why u just didn’t leave him when u found him with that lady? And after he told u that he wasn’t gonna love u anymore? The image of him f****** that lady, will forever be engraved in my mind & it will make me hate him & be disgusted so much to the point of leaving him. Y’all ladies just need to love urself enough to know when to walk away & leave a toxic, loveless marriage. It don’t matter if y’all have kids together, leave him & put him on child support. It hurts but eventually, you’ll get over it & move on.
Tus me niam tsev cas nej cov niam tsev siab zoo ho tsi ntsib peb cov txiv siab zoo no os
tus me viv ncaus ...koj hais tau yog kawg li lawm mog tus siab heev li tsuas thov kom koj tau txais ke noj qab nyob zoo xwb mog ...
Sister..you stayed way too long and allowed him to torture so long. I'm glad you finally moved out but please don't ever go back and take him back.
You deserve happiness, please love yourself and don't go back
Let go and move on sister. May you find happiness ❤
We shouldn’t dwell on the goods. If your partner moved on he/she will not think of your past life, that’s why he moved forward without you.
Don’t worry about life. We gotta fight to be happy for ourselves.
Make the right decision and be happy. Life is too short to fight for love when the love you have from
Your kids and parents are not hidden. Wishing you the best sister…
We only paub hnub no 🥲😭
wow! When your husband said those hurtful things, let him go but watch how his life goes. Karma will get him.
Tu siab kawg li me aw lub neej txij kawm g hlub na
Me sister aw, I can feel your pain. I am going through the same pain as you were now. Like you said I am still love him but he continues to cheat on me and not stop I will be the same as you.
Sister what can not kill you will make you stronger, just be strong and love yourself and take care yourself sister.
do it now and don't wait unitl 29
Me Viv ncau aw koj ma hai yog tshaj plaw lawm os mog
Zoo li kv thb yompeb cov me poj niam yuav raug tsim ib yam kau li na
WTH?! Leave you poor lady!
Nrauj povtseg zoo dua os mog vivncaus tus zoo li no yuav los tsi txog twg lawm cia muab nrauj yus mam mus ntshiav dua cia lwm tus mam los tsim nws rau yus saib txiv neej 50 😊xyoo rov saum lawm ces tso mus yus thiaj tsi tau tu mas lov
Zoo heev li os
😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
Your enemy is right in front of you. 😢
Kudos to you for standing your ground but as someone who is almost 50, you are not old. There is so much left to accomplish in life so stop feeling like you have no choice. Live a good and fulfilling life!
😢😢same as my story too.... hurts me so much too....one day I will be same direction 💔 😪
Tu siab tiag2 li os 😢😢😢
Cas tu siab ua luaj os....😔
😭😭😭😭😭😭
Twb yog koj uv taus kawg lawm os viv ncaus aw
Stop missing him and talking about the past. He doesn’t care anymore so don’t waste your tears and time. You need to move on and let him go. The more you think about the past, the harder it is to move on. He left you the day he cheated but you kept clinging to him and hurting yourself.
no sympathy for this kind of woman who continues to put herself in such toxic relationship. no one can help you if you aren't helping yourself.
Lllll
Koj ua yog tshaj plaws li os sister txhob tu siab thiab txhob ntshaw tus txiv dev zoo li no lawm os
Ruam tiag2 30 xyoo tseem complain. Too late!!!! There is nothing better left ahead. Should have gone 13 years ago.
😢😢😢😢
We’ve most of the Hmong women’s really trying to working out with our husband’s because we are truly trying the best possible that we can to make sure given ourselves as many chances possible could, once we leave the cheater or abusive husband, than never return to the toxic relationship that’s why it taken her so long to finally left him. That’s one reason when a lady left him, she never has anything to regrets that she hasn’t tried her best!! Lady, wishing you the best! Don’t look back but looking forward to the future by living your best life without him, be free to sore like an Eagle 🦅!!!!!!!
Eb koj tseem muaj txiv e tseem muaj tu pab koj os hlub koj os viv ncau aw tau txiv ua hlua ce tu tu siab li os
Ua niam txiv txij nkawm txhob sib g hlub thaum pib hlub ntxov ce hlub rov xwb
Ua kom tau li koj hais nawb
I feel for this lady. At the same time, I wish for more women to love themselves and not torture them this much. When someone no longer love you, please find the courage to move on asap so you don't get stab by him over and over. The sooner you leave the more time you have to enjoy life without him.
Tu siab ua luaj😢😢😢😢😢
Cas nej cov hmoob me kas ko Liam ua luaj lawm thiab os yom hmoob aw
😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
Kuv tuaj Tim nplog tuaj kuv tu txiv yeej ua li koj tu txiv ua rau koj thiab o txawm luag xav nrog poj niam pw npaum twg lo luag g xum nrog yu pw li luag xum mu plw luag xwb ,yu mu xua nw ma nw cem2 yu khau g muaj khau. Yu twb xav tia ntev2 lawm tej thaum twb ze ob va thiv lawm yu mam xua nw lo nw tseem ce yu thiab ma tu siab tshaj tsheej hli luag twb g kov yu luag mu twg lo luag g qhia yu li🥹 ntuj teb tag hmo luag lawm luag txhob hai xwb hai ma luag tseem nij hnub lo liam yu tia yu nim tham2 hlua nraug
Ntiaj teb nov ntshe tsis muaj ib tug txiv neej hmoob uas muaj siab siab ncaj li o lawv...ncaim tau ces ncaim tus neeg siab phem yus thiaj li muaj sia nyob ntev o lawv...kuv twb ncaim tau kuv tus me txiv Lem lawm thiab ..kuv niag hnub ua lub ntuj tsaug ...qhov nws nrauj kuv lawm ..hnub no kuv thiaj muaj kev Kaj siab lug o lawv aw
Tus me niam tsev aws txhob tu siab heev thiab os tsis yog koj xwb kuv los twb rau koj kawm khau thiab os mog hlub yus tus kheej xwb txhob tshaw txiv neej txij kev hlub tsis muaj kev hlub tseeb kawm is mog
Why wasted and waited 30 years? It's not like he tied you down. You should've moved on when you caught him in the act. He behaved badly because you gave him permission.
Niam laus aw koj zaj das neeg. tub siab heej li os
just move on sister cov txiv dev txhob khuv xim
Me viv ncaus aw. Koj zaj neej neeg no mloog xwb twb nrog koj mob siab lawm os.
Nrauj zoo dua nawb mog
Ab ca kj thiab kuv lub neej yuav mug thooj ib yam li o tu tu siab lub niag neej no li 😓😓
Me niam tsev aw... Txhob khub xim tus neeg uas tsi hlub yus thiab tsi khub xim yus txoj sia os peb ua neej nyob ces hlub yus xwb txhob hlub tus tsim yus os kuv ces twb tag Kev hlub lawm thiab os.
Naw Fck that shit, Ima fight to get half of the house. I ain't letting no other women get something that I worked hard for....
Oh dang … this could easily be the response to the one the guy told … hmmm🤔.
I hope you can see the grass isn’t any greener out there . Just leave for your happiness and not to find the one that got away .
Eb tus me Viv ncaus ua Cas kuv lub neej es yuav zoo sib xws 😢.
Sorry for u, but sis, there's more to life out there. Losing a loser is better than kneeling down to his level. You're better off without him.
Hey I don’t know what to tell y’all women’s but P blinds our eyes 😂😂😂😂..if the meat is in our face we have to eat it 😂😂😂😂😂
Please move on sis don’t waste your time with him😢😢
Your story is my story os sister aw😢
Ca nim zoo nkaus
Peb cov poj niam taug txoj kev no muaj coob kawg nkaus es niam tsis yog koj ib leeg xwb os me Viv ncaus
Koj Muaj niam muaj txiv es Muaj Tus pab koj os mog zoo li Kuv no ces quaj qhia me kab me noog, quaj qhia nroj tsuag hav zoov xwb os…
As cas koj nim muaj niam muaj txiv hlub2 koj os me niam hluas aw nyob li kuv ces twb tsi muaj ib tug hlub kuv li os nrog koj zoo2 siab ua koj muaj niam luaj txiv hlub2 koj mog hos tu siab nrog koj tus txiv ua phem rau koj os mog kuv li ces kuv tus txiv ho hlub2 kuv os
Eb kuv nim Xav muab kuv zaj piav tseem tu siab tshaj zaj no los cas kuv nim nrhiav g tau Caij nyoog li ne
Yog tsis sib khoom siab tus raug tsim tsis txhob uv nyob, tawm thaum tseem yuav pib tau tom ntej
Nra nyhav lub cev nws muaj chaw so nra nyhav nruab nrog yuav tog ntev 2 nawb
Tu siab tshaj li os ntshe yu lo ib hnub twg yuav zoo li kj hai koj thiab os niam tai aw tu siab heev li ke hmoog ke quaj li os
Thanks for sharing your story. Ua cas yuav hais tau ntxim hlub ua luaj 😢
kuv lub neej zoo li koj thiab tiag tus viv ncaus aw 😂😂
Zaj neej neeg no zoo li Kuv zaj thiab. 37 lub xyoo uv kom seb lub neej Puas zoo thiab kom Tej menyuam muaj Niam muaj txiv tiam sis uv tiag ces Ntshe yuav tuag tiag ces ua ib siab tso nws tes es Kuv mus ua ib leej Niam, ib leej pog, ib Niam Tais zoo rau wb Tej menyuam thiab xeeb leej xeeb ntxwv lawm xwb os.😢😢
Tus me niam tsev peb cov me niam tsev hmoob ces feem coob yeej tau taug tib txoj kev kj taug no os. Kv los yog ib tug ntawm kj txoj dab neeg no thiab os. Txhob tusiab rau tus neeg tsis hlub kj mog.
Ntxov ua poj nrauj ntxov tau zoo nawb cov mi niam tsev aw...
Cag hnov koj zaj no kuv kua muag los los os cag peb cov poj niam yuav raug txoj kev tu😢😢😢siab no xwb
Me niam tsev aw cov nkauj nrab no mas lawv siab phem tshaj plaws li os, tsis raug leej twg ces leej twg yeej tsis paub nawb mog, cov txiv tsev no ces txog txij lawv mus tham poj nrauj lawm ces yus yeej tsis nyob ntawm nws lub siab lawm mog. Zoo kawg kav tsij muab niag txiv dev ko laig pov tseg lub ntuj yeej yuav xa ib tug zoo zoo los hlub koj xwb mog. Me niam tsev aw koj mas hais yog tshaj plaws os mog
Sister, when you caught him the first time cheating. You should've divorced him.