Hey Shakoyah, I stumbled across your page this afternoon and I am loving these topics. I believe vulnerability can work even when we find that we let down certain boundaries because sometimes thats required in the moment. I have had to learn that I am not safe being entirely vulnerable with my mother. I find myself disappointed in the experience every time. Simply because she does not have the capacity to practice support and mindfulness even for herself so she definitely is unable to show that to me. So sometimes it takes trail and error. Vulnerability is intimacy. Our culture teaches us to be afraid of being judge. I have experienced vulnerability with people I did not even know very well it just came easy but they also made it easy. So it varies. Thank you for giving your viewers something to think about
Thank you so much for your insight. I've recently embraced a similar conclusion as this in some areas of my life. So often we want certain things from people that they simply are unable to give, and most times they aren't able to give it because they simply do not have it to give. They cannot share something that they themselves have not experienced. Vulnerability is definitely a journey, and you're right each journey and experience varies immensely. If you are looking for community at all I’m hosting a 30 days of self care challenge for September (National Self Care Month) for women to learn how to create a self care system that works specifically for them and then implementing and using the systems. I would love for you to join if you are interested! there will be free resources, community, guest speakers, weekly check ins, group yoga and meditation sessions, as well as a space to interact and ask questions. The itinerary is on the way, and It’s all virtual so here's the link for the discord 💜💐 discord.com/invite/umQ3EN3u4E The discord will lock on 8/27 at 11:59pm so be sure to join before then if you are interested or you will have to wait until October to hop in the discord 😊
@@JusMeShakoyahD hi I’m glad you replied my phone died in the middle of me typing. I don’t mind people telling me what is going on. However, I’m reserved about asking for help. I know that I got people who are willing to help me if I ask. But I have been the I can do it type of person from childhood. One of my friends was telling me that she trusted my advice and she felt like I am a wise person. But I don’t think people know that I don’t really want to be the wise person and didn’t set myself to be. However, life has set me with so many adversities that my views are often different than my peers.
I definitely feel this. I'm currently learning to ask for help more often. It feels a lot tougher to ask for help when you are used to people always coming to you for help, solutions, and answers. What I found is that in order to change that narrative for ourselves we have to embrace our wisdom. And that can even be done by choosing not to give advice all the time. People have to learn to trust themselves and make their own decisions without you as their guide. So you can always choose to simply use your wisdom to guide them to their own conclusion or you can give yourself a break by choosing to not give out as much advice. Let them know that it's time for them to trust their gut. Maybe this will take some of that pressure off of you. 💐
What's your hot take on vulnerability? Do you think it can work well even if you have boundaries?
Hey Shakoyah, I stumbled across your page this afternoon and I am loving these topics. I believe vulnerability can work even when we find that we let down certain boundaries because sometimes thats required in the moment. I have had to learn that I am not safe being entirely vulnerable with my mother. I find myself disappointed in the experience every time. Simply because she does not have the capacity to practice support and mindfulness even for herself so she definitely is unable to show that to me. So sometimes it takes trail and error. Vulnerability is intimacy. Our culture teaches us to be afraid of being judge. I have experienced vulnerability with people I did not even know very well it just came easy but they also made it easy. So it varies. Thank you for giving your viewers something to think about
Thank you so much for your insight. I've recently embraced a similar conclusion as this in some areas of my life. So often we want certain things from people that they simply are unable to give, and most times they aren't able to give it because they simply do not have it to give. They cannot share something that they themselves have not experienced. Vulnerability is definitely a journey, and you're right each journey and experience varies immensely.
If you are looking for community at all I’m hosting a 30 days of self care challenge for September (National Self Care Month) for women to learn how to create a self care system that works specifically for them and then implementing and using the systems. I would love for you to join if you are interested! there will be free resources, community, guest speakers, weekly check ins, group yoga and meditation sessions, as well as a space to interact and ask questions. The itinerary is on the way, and It’s all virtual so here's the link for the discord 💜💐 discord.com/invite/umQ3EN3u4E
The discord will lock on 8/27 at 11:59pm so be sure to join before then if you are interested or you will have to wait until October to hop in the discord 😊
@@JusMeShakoyahD Thank you support and invite. I will keep those dates in mind.
I don’t mind people telling me what’s going on.
That's good! A lot of people like myself are still learning to operate with that level of vulnerability 🤣
@@JusMeShakoyahD hi I’m glad you replied my phone died in the middle of me typing. I don’t mind people telling me what is going on. However, I’m reserved about asking for help. I know that I got people who are willing to help me if I ask. But I have been the I can do it type of person from childhood. One of my friends was telling me that she trusted my advice and she felt like I am a wise person. But I don’t think people know that I don’t really want to be the wise person and didn’t set myself to be. However, life has set me with so many adversities that my views are often different than my peers.
I definitely feel this. I'm currently learning to ask for help more often. It feels a lot tougher to ask for help when you are used to people always coming to you for help, solutions, and answers. What I found is that in order to change that narrative for ourselves we have to embrace our wisdom. And that can even be done by choosing not to give advice all the time. People have to learn to trust themselves and make their own decisions without you as their guide. So you can always choose to simply use your wisdom to guide them to their own conclusion or you can give yourself a break by choosing to not give out as much advice. Let them know that it's time for them to trust their gut. Maybe this will take some of that pressure off of you. 💐