4 Ways To Identify A Narcissist | The Book Show ft. RJ Ananthi | Book Mark

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  • @mysaiappa
    @mysaiappa 2 роки тому +125

    I was destroyed by a narcissist relationship...ended with suicide...finally came out of that toxic relationship....now living my life peacefully and happily...thank god....this video is 100 percent correct...please guys beware of this narcissist people and get away from this persons....it's very danger for our mental and physical health....stay strong..with love M🙂empath for life

  • @ravivarathan5115
    @ravivarathan5115 2 роки тому +14

    நானும் இது போல் ஒரு நடவடிக்கை உள்ள ஒரு நபரிடம் மாட்டிக்கொண்டு கவலை பட்டுக் கொண்டு இருந்தேன் தங்கள் பதிவை பார்த்தபின் தெளிவாகி விட்டேன் மிக்க நன்றி.

  • @sureshnandhagopal4941
    @sureshnandhagopal4941 2 роки тому +78

    Great share :))) & A few more signs to look for from experience :)
    1. Hypocrisy : they will do it & they can't stand you doing (friend's night out)
    2. They isolate you from all your closed friends and family
    3. Jealousy - they get extremely jealous if you speak high of someone else in front of them
    4. Suspicious - They can disappear for hours but gets mad if you missed 2 rings
    5. Over self-conscious - at all costs, they stay in shape, fitness, spending but won't let you be the same
    Etc
    Etc
    Etc 😂

  • @SRUser
    @SRUser 2 роки тому +45

    Narcissit has below :
    1. Love Bombing
    2. Full Devalue
    3. Silent Treatment
    4. Discard, lying, blaming,
    5. Ghosting
    6. No Contact
    Abuse physically and Mentally and do all above
    They dont have Humanity , Kindess
    They need Control, Most Selfish people, dont have any guilt, Egoist,
    To outsiders they may b calm and quite but to known personals they do above
    Covert Narcisst people are very hard intelligent people to ruin other life
    Anxiety, depression, fear about death
    Repeat the same process to other victims.... Thy dont care of old victim state ..just jump to new victim and continue the same process... Its like abusing , rapist in the name of love or marg.

    • @dinesh759
      @dinesh759 10 місяців тому

      I have seen a cerebral narcissist brother! Narcissist come back.too. when their existing supply doesn't satisfy their ego boost.

  • @manoselva398
    @manoselva398 10 місяців тому +6

    Ennoda husband 100%ipdi than.. romba kashtama iruku .. pasangalukaga vazhuran

  • @sunmathiponnusamy4714
    @sunmathiponnusamy4714 2 роки тому +38

    Coming out of narcissistic relationship takes a lot of courage than everyone think, as narcissistic always use the plots against victim and totally try to Destroy the victim. If you're out of this relationship, be proud that you have taken a best decision in your life ❤️ Be happy that your life is gonna be peaceful ✨❤️

  • @journeyofmei
    @journeyofmei 2 роки тому +28

    T shirt "be you,not them"what a connection to the content 🙂🎉

  • @self-care3722
    @self-care3722 2 роки тому +30

    Meaning of narcissistic
    : having or showing an excessive interest in or admiration of oneself and one's physical appearance.

    • @jovhs176
      @jovhs176 2 роки тому

      They dont have empathy

  • @kousalyaahades9490
    @kousalyaahades9490 2 роки тому +11

    Its very difficult to forget this kindof relationship, especially when emotionally invested

  • @gowtham7231
    @gowtham7231 Рік тому +5

    I was wondering why you haven't talked about this for a long time. In our society there are so many narcissists. I sometimes feel India is a breeding ground for narcissists because of the nature of our society. Finally you are making people aware of this. Narcissism can be seen in everyone in various levels. But one have to be careful with people who have NPD. Keep it up👍

  • @wiselearner8439
    @wiselearner8439 2 роки тому +19

    Love doesn’t die a natural death. Love has to be killed, either by neglect or narcissism

  • @saranyar8591
    @saranyar8591 2 роки тому +26

    Am the emotional intelligence and my partner is Narcissistic..exactly my life and am trying to come out of this now a dayzz

    • @RashmesKitchen
      @RashmesKitchen 2 роки тому +2

      i can understand your situation.. i have been there.. better get out of it and start building yourself

    • @sathish111able
      @sathish111able 2 роки тому

      Thank God I got rid of that relationship immediate after marriage…..

    • @mysaiappa
      @mysaiappa 2 роки тому +2

      Stay strong everyone...live your life happyily and peacefully😊♥️

    • @jothikahasan9802
      @jothikahasan9802 2 роки тому

      @@RashmesKitchen loosu, unamaari avanga unmarried illa, avanga married, how can she get out of it? Have to tackle carefully....

    • @ponmudimpghssindranagar6641
      @ponmudimpghssindranagar6641 2 роки тому +1

      Please divorce him but u can't means first u become silent like them u don't give attention check their social media

  • @shrinivasparthasarathy3101
    @shrinivasparthasarathy3101 2 роки тому +3

    I don’t even know why, but the video hits very close to home

  • @munaiyammals2841
    @munaiyammals2841 Місяць тому +2

    My husband is narasistic.. recently i am thinking about sucide itself always because i dont know how to tackle them and he makes me isolated from relation and financial and from my education and all....now i am thinking to divorce

  • @anushas2654
    @anushas2654 2 роки тому +22

    In my experience, narcissistic person will exhibit bullying behavior...

    • @ltlebrd6678
      @ltlebrd6678 7 місяців тому

      ♾️% crct

    • @ltlebrd6678
      @ltlebrd6678 7 місяців тому +3

      Ithan unmai. Kevalama pesi pesi self confident eh odanchu poirum

    • @vijayalakshmilakshminaraya1941
      @vijayalakshmilakshminaraya1941 Місяць тому

      ​@@ltlebrd6678அதுங்க ஒரு ஈனப்பிறவிங்க.

  • @திருவாசகம்அசோகன்

    80%velila vanthuta...Thank you so much.. Because guilty feel ah iruntha...now I'm ok

  • @Mel-by7re
    @Mel-by7re 2 роки тому +8

    if you definitely know someone is a narcissist in your life, be it husband/wife, or mom or dad or sister or brother, or your children please please stay as far as possible from them and protect yourself. they emotionally drain you and also physically. all they will do is abuse you and your goodness.

    • @mohanamuthukumar1001
      @mohanamuthukumar1001 8 місяців тому

      I faced my mother and brother both for 13 years and my husband and sister and father for 27 years and till now my husband and his mother never let me live my life . He always makes me a victim to serve his mother by sacrificing all my wishes . He says if I dont do so he spreads that I am not treating his mother well. But she tortures me by creating sympathy and making her don yo trouble me by using her age as a trump card to fulfill her narcissist attitude.. plse pray to god for me to get rid of her .

    • @Mel-by7re
      @Mel-by7re 8 місяців тому

      @@mohanamuthukumar1001 well you will have to look into how to be independent financially, protect yourself and move out of there. When you know something is toxic, why stay there. If you absolutely have to stay there, you need to start imposing personal boundaries for yourself. You know their intention is to torture you, don't let it bother you. Be strong. Don't show any upset or react. Be reactionless, be happy. Start doing small small things for yourself that makes you happy. listening to music or preparing a food you like or whatever it might be keep doing it. that will make you happy and breathe fresh air (deep breathing) and exercise, yoga, meditate etc..

  • @positivepraveen9141
    @positivepraveen9141 Рік тому +3

    Our society doesn't fully aware of this concept yet...many are still suffering in silence...i strongly believe that some law should be newly added to punish these fellows....

  • @ஆன்மீகமும்அறிவியலும்-த1ண

    அமைதி தான் சர்வமும். 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟

  • @hariharanradhakrishnan8218
    @hariharanradhakrishnan8218 2 роки тому +1

    இந்த விஷத்தைப் இவ்ளோ அழகாக சொன்னதுக்கு நன்றி

  • @sri7912
    @sri7912 2 роки тому +56

    Oru 3years before intha awareness kedachirukalam.... Fix pandrathu romba romba kastam pha😄

    • @peterpillas
      @peterpillas 2 роки тому +3

      Same feeling 😔

    • @prithik1953
      @prithik1953 2 роки тому +5

      Why blood same blood

    • @RAJESHKUMAR-ru4xv
      @RAJESHKUMAR-ru4xv 2 роки тому +3

      Have 11 yrs experience pa 😭😭😭

    • @sri7912
      @sri7912 2 роки тому +3

      @@RAJESHKUMAR-ru4xv adengappa😲.... U r legend bro

    • @Freeda.eliazar
      @Freeda.eliazar 2 роки тому +1

      @@RAJESHKUMAR-ru4xv me too 😢

  • @sivananthinatarajan1254
    @sivananthinatarajan1254 2 роки тому +3

    Thanku u so much for this video..This is helpful for Youngsters who r in toxic relationship. I was struggle a lot with that toxic relationship over a 8 yrs ago. I don't understand that time what is going with my relationship..I was helpless. I hate that relationship that time. I left at last. Now I understand that we shouldn't continue that relationship even if we're in over a long time. It's very difficult to forget those people.. Self love, self confidence is important that time.. But its difficult to do that time. The only way, we should get out from that relationship and focus about ourselves. U can feel better, u will get a peace of mind. I'm sure u can feel the difference.

  • @arrunkum
    @arrunkum 2 роки тому +7

    I really like the EMI analogy :) , Great Review , keep rocking .. All the very best

  • @thesubtlebodies4220
    @thesubtlebodies4220 2 роки тому +5

    I have a narcissistic mother in law and can't avoid her. what can be done

  • @keerthismart7
    @keerthismart7 2 роки тому +11

    Sister, these kind of behaviour Is not noticed in India ..Other countries know this behavior commonly ..so they move on easily.

  • @HelenBerkmans
    @HelenBerkmans 4 місяці тому

    28 years வலி. மிக்க நன்றி

  • @SRUser
    @SRUser 2 роки тому +7

    Hello, Just today morning in twitter I pinged you to make a book show about Narcissit!! After I got impacted by Covert Narcissit, I wondered Am I the only one especially in Tamil Nadu,India wo had bad luck to get impacted severly by Narcissit Type which is a new concept to me for the one who come from normal family..Either me or my family couldnt digest how can this behaviour happen from a person when its arrang marg!! Bcz we live in TN where people consider marg as a life concept. Most Toxic and Dangerous people wo ruin normal people life , Thier family supports for the same in the form of marg to ruin others life.

    • @Dr.Ninentysix
      @Dr.Ninentysix 2 роки тому +1

      Happened to me too. Finally divorced after so much hardships. Some people het unlucky to get married to narcissist. Don't worry just Move on.

    • @pradeep444able
      @pradeep444able 2 роки тому

      the sad thing is you wont realize you are in abuse till you get out of it and covert narcissist is extremely dangerous type i have faced similar situation

  • @mysaiappa
    @mysaiappa 2 роки тому +5

    Thank you rj ananthi madam for speaking about this...it's a great awareness for all

  • @seri655
    @seri655 2 роки тому +7

    Run from narc 40 years exp. My mother and sister are narc and i being an empath trused my mom dramas i gave all my earning to her and loaned on my name. But she accumulated all wealth and gave to my brother and sister. 35 years of my earning lost and betrayed by them. I emotionally invested as you said anandhi it haunting me. Also when i struggle financially so painful for me. I want my hard earnings back not theirs.how can they give my earning to siblings and cheating me.when they already rich. Please guys suggest me to recover my hard earning at least. there may good hearts same boats as me. I feel empty loosing my earning and having loan on me also trusting them emotionally ties is haunting me

    • @MyNandakumar
      @MyNandakumar Рік тому

      So sad, all is well, u can start again, and u can achieve, because u r a warrior. 👍

    • @brundha0002
      @brundha0002 Рік тому

      Get out of this tragedy first. Start with what you have. There is a thing called karma... It will take care of them. All you have to do is showing everyone that you can stand again.

  • @nirmaljessie7294
    @nirmaljessie7294 2 роки тому +3

    It's really great that you shared the least known things but most important things to know in relationships. Thank you for taking it to common ppl akka❤

  • @muhammadjazil763
    @muhammadjazil763 2 роки тому +3

    Finally someone talked about this. Where I am dealing with the person 10 years

  • @S.Yasodha
    @S.Yasodha 2 роки тому +1

    07:51 exactly 💯💯💯💯

  • @lathaakshayam6367
    @lathaakshayam6367 2 роки тому +2

    I'm emotionally intelligent thanks for video

  • @TheVagheesan
    @TheVagheesan 2 роки тому +1

    Usually narcissist follow the below cycle
    1.Love Bombing
    2.Devalue
    3.Discard
    4.Hovering

    • @surajyuva5524
      @surajyuva5524 2 роки тому

      Ingayum vanthacha from nachi..😅

  • @RajaRaja-bu2hw
    @RajaRaja-bu2hw 2 роки тому +4

    Very good speech ananthi sister 👏

  • @loneranger0053
    @loneranger0053 Рік тому

    Thank you I’m going thru this now. Blocked all ways hopefully I I’ll be fine when I come back to india from London next week

  • @vasuprathavenugopal466
    @vasuprathavenugopal466 2 роки тому +4

    Ayioooooo...... Vera level kaa.... My roommate is a narcissistic. I never knew this until now just now.... All of what u told is her characteristics. I am so helllll shocked noww!!!!!!!!!!!

  • @DhanuskumarV-m5w
    @DhanuskumarV-m5w 4 місяці тому

    Love to be an Narcissist ❤❤❤

  • @rahuldeepak4040
    @rahuldeepak4040 2 роки тому +14

    After watching this I realised I have been a toxic person without knowingly 😔😔😔
    I feel very guilty now Idk what to do

    • @ganeshram580
      @ganeshram580 2 роки тому +8

      You're brave enough to share it openly with the world, and I wish you all the best for you becoming a better person! Don't put yourself down, you'll evolve👍

    • @rahuldeepak4040
      @rahuldeepak4040 2 роки тому +1

      @@ganeshram580 thank u

    • @SherlockHolmes-rt5ep
      @SherlockHolmes-rt5ep 2 роки тому

      We all are toxic in our way !

    • @way2tamil
      @way2tamil 2 роки тому +1

      you realized yourself, this is the ever first step to get out of this, soon you will feel better, See tamil version of Secret Movie twice !

    • @lekshmananV
      @lekshmananV 2 роки тому

      Metoo Rahul Deepak

  • @premaprema3303
    @premaprema3303 Рік тому

    Yes ur words r true,becoz I finished my research topic emotional intelligent ,after 12 years now many toxic members put me in hell becoz here many person here ,but I over come out everyday in my anxity

  • @sriranjit3684
    @sriranjit3684 2 роки тому +3

    Akka Mindhunters nu oru book iruku ... serial killers pathi oru true crime book ... pls padichutu review panunga

  • @RGB781
    @RGB781 5 місяців тому

    ஆல்பர்ட் ஐ்ஸ்டீனின் ஸ்பெஷல் relativity சம்பந்தமா உள்ள book review போடுங்க தங்கச்சி❤

  • @MuthuKumar-fw4wp
    @MuthuKumar-fw4wp 2 роки тому +1

    The way you are presenting is just awesome ❤️🎊

  • @mport7754
    @mport7754 Рік тому

    Thanks for sharing🎉

  • @sandhiyaravi8367
    @sandhiyaravi8367 2 роки тому

    Semaya iruku unga explanation if i have seen this 5 years before, i would have been more aware

  • @soundaryamenmozhiyal
    @soundaryamenmozhiyal 2 роки тому +5

    Its high time we talk about the stigma associated with mental health.
    Toxicity is getting normalized like it was never before.
    Lets seek out help when needed.
    Remember you guys, toxicity cannot be equated to love.
    Btw, thanks for the video, Ananthi😊

  • @SRUser
    @SRUser 2 роки тому +4

    Please do explain about silent treatment, discard, Ghosting which makes normal human life cheated abused physically and mentally in the name of marg and love.
    Repeat the same process to other victims.... Thy dont care of old victim state ..just jump to new victim and continue the same process... Its like abusing , rapist in the name of love or marg.
    Need to educate people and make aware!! About this dangerous type.

  • @Iswaryakumar-xf1wy
    @Iswaryakumar-xf1wy 6 місяців тому

    Ungal pani thodarattum❤❤❤

  • @tamilselviprabakaran1172
    @tamilselviprabakaran1172 4 місяці тому

    200 percent true

  • @rashmibanu397
    @rashmibanu397 2 роки тому

    Thank you so much

  • @90scartoons34
    @90scartoons34 2 роки тому +3

    Love pandrenu solitu yemathra ponugala epdi identify pandrathu oru book solunga pls ..neraya peruku theva paduthu 😂

  • @rockybaai5930
    @rockybaai5930 2 роки тому

    Y are you so amzing ka , contents um vera level, voice um super and semmaya present um panringa😍 unga videos pathute irukalam✌❤ ...keep shining ...god bless you 🤩🤩

  • @sandeepa1976
    @sandeepa1976 2 роки тому +5

    One of my family member is highly narcissistic that every other family member believed what they wanted. Since november I'm ghosting them and that worked really well. What to do, human beings are wierd! 🙃

    • @MegaPraveen1990
      @MegaPraveen1990 2 роки тому

      What is ghosting bro

    • @PHUSriRanjit
      @PHUSriRanjit 2 роки тому

      @@MegaPraveen1990 like being invisible.
      Oru family function or just a normal day where u have no choice to meet them (they will also be present there) ... u will just be like u dont know them & u don't care if they are here or not ...
      After the end of the function, when someone say u were here in the function to that person they get shock and be like "Apdiya ? Na avangala paakave illa ?!"
      Ithu tha ghosting

  • @travisgreg
    @travisgreg 2 роки тому +1

    If being in a relationship is making you to loose your mental peace, drain your energy, then you have to quit that relationship and focus on yourself.

  • @arthira17
    @arthira17 2 роки тому +6

    Friends illama yarachi irupangala? Bcoz enaku friends illa, nanum yarukum friend ah illa

    • @vishnuvicky6090
      @vishnuvicky6090 2 роки тому +2

      😇😇Scene illa..still you have tym ..🤜🤛

  • @Highonlifewithpriyah
    @Highonlifewithpriyah 2 роки тому

    well said

  • @priyanrock679
    @priyanrock679 2 роки тому

    NPD indiala least discuss panna topic but usla ithu adichu thovacha topic,but must wanted topic ,nice

  • @najmudheenkalapatil78
    @najmudheenkalapatil78 2 роки тому

    Very informative

  • @tanishkayokitha7930
    @tanishkayokitha7930 2 роки тому +1

    Arumai akka😀

  • @noormohamed11
    @noormohamed11 2 роки тому

    Antha emotionally intelligent friend naanu antha inorthavan en friend itha anupi Avan grow aga help panna porean thanks ♥️💞

    • @Mel-by7re
      @Mel-by7re 2 роки тому

      NPD or narcissistic personality disorder its not easy to change, its their second nature. they can act like they will change just to keep you as a bait. if you know someone as a narcissist please move far far away from them. but first educate yourself to confirm they are that.

  • @DonShatty
    @DonShatty Рік тому

    Not only in love .. even with siblings it happens

  • @kaviyarasu315
    @kaviyarasu315 2 роки тому

    Being me, not they ❣️❣️

  • @balaakaash3349
    @balaakaash3349 2 роки тому +1

    Vera level akka😍

  • @meenakshisundaram2726
    @meenakshisundaram2726 2 роки тому

    Nice 😊 thank you 😊

  • @_psycho_b_o_y_6543
    @_psycho_b_o_y_6543 2 роки тому

    "The compound effect" review panuga akka

  • @sivaranjani3285
    @sivaranjani3285 2 роки тому

    Tq mam

  • @subburajs9253
    @subburajs9253 Рік тому

    My friend have this mind

  • @amsk4200
    @amsk4200 2 роки тому +3

    These all match with my in law .. then how can I solve ???? Actually coz of this negative talk of my inlaw now i loosed all my confidence. Am struggling to bring me up.
    How can I stop this? Pls tell

    • @Mel-by7re
      @Mel-by7re 2 роки тому

      just speaking negative is not narcissism. narcissistic people are extremely selfish in nature. they don't give a damn about anyone. and both you are inlaws being narcissistc the probability is very less. its important to educate yourself on this topic before coming to conclusion. but you can create boundaries with your in laws. now that you know they are like this make sure not to feel down when they say anything negative. if we don't get affected, narcissist stop saying things. if they know it affects us, then they continue it for ever and ever.

  • @selvakumarjagadeesan1788
    @selvakumarjagadeesan1788 2 роки тому

    Good.

  • @mppont3333
    @mppont3333 2 роки тому +1

    Nice ka😍🙌❤

  • @visvaananth861
    @visvaananth861 2 роки тому +1

    ✌.. super R.J.Ananthi..

  • @shrinivasparthasarathy3101
    @shrinivasparthasarathy3101 2 роки тому

    Nandri

  • @pooraniashok339
    @pooraniashok339 2 роки тому +1

    Value
    Devalue
    Silent treatment
    Value again
    Silent treatment
    Final Discard

  • @dharshanidharshi2729
    @dharshanidharshi2729 9 місяців тому

    If have any treatment

  • @Bbvicky826
    @Bbvicky826 Рік тому +1

    My parents toxic28 years tracer nanu peaceful kaga fight panitueruka ma😢😢😢 odvum mudiyala ....vettutu pogavu mudila main reason parents avoid panna manasuella kasukudukyraga , sapadukudukuraga na job pogumbotu

  • @lalithakrishnamurti
    @lalithakrishnamurti 2 роки тому

    Akka review any book about look attractive and beauty

  • @akn9718
    @akn9718 2 роки тому

    Good video i impressed it

  • @MohanyogeshYogwshwari
    @MohanyogeshYogwshwari 8 місяців тому

    Ne comali movie la iruka thana sister character

  • @QVaniSree
    @QVaniSree 2 роки тому

    Thank you

  • @gamernanii4858
    @gamernanii4858 2 роки тому

    6:47 💯💯

  • @artvorld1339
    @artvorld1339 2 роки тому +1

    Super sago nice

  • @Musicallyever
    @Musicallyever 2 роки тому +8

    Loads of love and hugs to you sister💞💜🌟💫 in love with you since the first video i saw you when you spoke on the book ikigai 😍
    If everyone pause and take a moment to respond to any emotion within or external , definitely everyone can save their energy drain and live in harmony😍
    Love and peace to every soul💜😌🙏🏽💞

  • @srimathip9677
    @srimathip9677 2 роки тому +2

    Etho solla varinga but puriyala

  • @PennyPlayerBenno
    @PennyPlayerBenno 2 роки тому

    Lifespan book paduchu solluga madam

  • @Malayalikada
    @Malayalikada 2 роки тому

    Very hard to treat this disorder or bring to therapy

  • @jeevaanandh4711
    @jeevaanandh4711 2 роки тому

    Tamil fiction books review panunga

  • @kalpsrithik7107
    @kalpsrithik7107 2 роки тому

    Ayooo thank you

  • @gamingriderpro
    @gamingriderpro 2 роки тому +2

    Hii

  • @vishnuramvivekanandan3212
    @vishnuramvivekanandan3212 2 роки тому

    My Request.. Suggest some Fictional, Action based Books

  • @anngwen3320
    @anngwen3320 2 роки тому

    You enlightened me! lots of L♥ve.

  • @Vinoth_Subramani
    @Vinoth_Subramani 2 роки тому

    Vellayi book review pannunga ka

  • @baburaju30
    @baburaju30 2 роки тому +1

    I Don't read books,but I read comments.

  • @shazanforfuture6464
    @shazanforfuture6464 2 роки тому

    Best தமிழ் book names pls

  • @dharanidharani7248
    @dharanidharani7248 Рік тому

    Self reflect pannanum 😊

  • @AlwaysWithMee
    @AlwaysWithMee 2 роки тому

    48 law of power book series poduga sister

  • @gem13259
    @gem13259 2 роки тому

    😊😊tqqq

  • @Arun-gj8rw
    @Arun-gj8rw 2 роки тому

    Post credit scenes laam varadhaa ini🧐😔😔?

  • @Marketingagent07
    @Marketingagent07 2 роки тому

    Plz oru help enakku bokk read panna rommba pudikkum but i cant focus to read. I don't know how to read a book consistently

  • @praveenbabu6614
    @praveenbabu6614 2 роки тому

    akka ada epdi cure panradhu akka aduku edum ideas anda bookla iruka

  • @aynthuveetumanip8240
    @aynthuveetumanip8240 2 роки тому

    English subtitles missing