❤For me, my confidence is knowing who I am in Christ Jesus. I read my bible daily and look for who God almighty is in the scriptures. In return, I've learned how loved I am and my purpose in life. EVEN when the walls seem to be falling on me, I have PEACE. 💜😊
It's so amazing to hear the words, 'think less of yourself and be kinder to others and animals' - it feels like such a long time since this has been said. Being too introspective and thinking only positive are ironically two behaviours that can leave you feeling miserable and hating yourself. Love your perspectives, Frederique - thank you! 😘
Thank you so much! Had a bad day yesterday , no workout and lots of junk food. I was debating on if I should exercise today but now I'm back to myself again!
As a confident woman, I admit that there are moments when I am not confident and times when my feelings can get hurt - and that's okay. I am human and one of the things I value as much if not more than my confidence, is my vulnerability. Love your channel, F!
The most lovely people I know are those who are give time and care to other people. They may be stylish and confident people, or they may not care about how they look, but what they do care about is other people, and they go out of their way to give back to others something that they have.
Hello Frédérique, I love your commentary, you have a really realistic perspective. Side question: I love your glasses, what brand are they? They are extremely flattering. Thanks, Esther
Great video. I'm studying Mandarin Chinese., and the teacher said that the culture of China is very very humble. There are no exact words for yes, no, and you're welcome.
Wow best video I have seen in so long. Sometimes I can't understand your accent but that's not important, I stay bc your message is SPOT ON!!!! THANKS FOR SAYING THIS OUT LOUD. P.S I really love your accent, it's beautiful. I'm just hard of hearing.
Awesome video! I am a Christian and this is what the Bible tells us. To be humble and not prideful, to esteem others higher than ourselves. To love one another, be kind, be gentle, as best as you can, live peacefully among all men. Anyway, this video was refreshing! :)
@@Myriel67being proud and being prideful are two different things. Being proud is having a feeling that you respect yourself and deserve to be respected by other people. Prideful is used in situations when one shows arrogance, conceit or vainglory and despises those they consider inferior. Be proud of your accomplishments, celebrate even the little things, but don’t be prideful.
This has got the BEST one ever! So much self self self.....time out! Let's think about others a bit more, maybe be a bit less self centered. Help someone ELSE feel good about themselves by giving a small sincere compliment. Love you!
Building skills builds confidence. Hype alone doesn't prepare you for situations personal, professional, or social where you need skills to succeed. There is a term "Toxic Positivity" that describes an unfounded and unrealistic expectation that is not grounded in reality at all. I'm an attorney who works with children in highly contested family court cases. One thing I see a lot of is parents who want to remove all obstacles for their children and do everything for them so that they feel nothing but success every day. It's the philosophy behind the "Varsity Blues" scandal where wealthy parents illegally purchased admission to university by faking athletic skills their kids didn't have to make sure they were admitted without the necessary grades and test scores. There is no shortcut to doing the work. Building resilience in yourself and your children is more valuable than trying to pretend that disappointment will never happen.
So true that most social media influencers are calculated and choose very, very carefully what they want you to see! It’s usually a big facade! I saw one that would always buy herself a big bunch of flowers to make it look like she was sooo special and she would always hold a glass of wine in photos incorrectly to try and look elegant! 😂 I witnessed her public birthday. Only two people were sadly there, yet on social media it was made to look like a big event with lots of people there.
you are so right and your realy bring it on the POINT 🤩🤩 - life for me has to be spontanious - and not planed ... things happen or not - just enjoy the good things and handle the bad ones as they occur... 🤫
It has always made me happy to make others happy ! My family and friends have always come first, and yes, I have occasionally been taken for granted but I put it behind me and won't change the way I am. Very happy. Thank you Frederique , I hope your new life is making you happy and content 🌹🌹
I love to take care of stray cats. It's not easy and it can be really sad but it is fulfilling. Also, ART in every form, except Art the clown, love music, movies, tv shows, paintings, comics, books, all...
Excellent video frederique, the need for perfection is exhausting to listen to and driving people mad. We need to focus on the simple things and the basics ❤
Toujours des sujets intéressants Frédérique, tout est une question d'équilibre et de bien être et se fiche la paix quand on en a besoin. Merci pour cette vidéo🌺🌻🌼
I am 5 minutes into this video and having a very hard time understanding what you are saying ... I'm thinking it's the music. It almost sounds like your voice is echoing. sigh
Thank you defining Confidence and separating it from Aggression and Toxic Positivity. Confidence does not Get you everything Confidence frees you from the expectations and opinions of others.
With appreciationof your good intention I just want to defend one psychologist you lumped in with the lame “self help” preachers who say “love yourself as you are don’t change.” I think you have not watched any Jordan B. Peterson videos because he is known for challenging people to stop pretending all you have to do is be confident for no reason. He wrote “12 Rules for Life,” and he is famous for saying something like, “Why accept your flawed self and not push yourself to grow? As a young person am I supposed to think I’m fine as I am? Am I done or something?” I think you will realize he is on your side in this matter of the need to look at ourselves critically (but in a positive kind way). Thank you for what you do, Frédérique!
I really like the overall message you have put in this video ❤ I like a simplier approach to everyday life...mental, physical and emotional wellness are a priority for me, healthy relationships with my small circles of family and friends, having gratitude for all I have been blessed with and spending time doing things that are important to me and make me happy are what I focus the majority of my time on. I do not get drawn in to the virtual look/recommendations of other peoples versions of "a happy life". I just do my own thing!.. no comparrison to other peoples lives, looks, posessions, finances etc...🙌
I agree. The choppiness was just too much for me. I had to stop watching. The message is important but it got lost on me because of the competing sensory inputs were too distracting.
Be courageous. Challenge orthodoxy. Stand up for what you believe in. When you are in your rocking chair talking to your grandchildren many years from now, be sure you have a good story to tell.
People today are obsessed with the concept of “self” and their confidence only comes from achieving whatever version of the “perfect self” they have decided to chase. The less I focus on “self” the happier and more content and fulfilled I find myself to be. Loved this! Also love your glasses!
It's almost like the World is telling us that if we do what they say, we will join their club. But it's not so because I have learned by working on my self improvement process during the last two years, is that I do get compliments, which of course I appreciate but I also meet a lot of jealous people who would rather put me back to square one than allow me to be ahead of whatever social game we are all supposed to be playing. My message is to do it for yourself, whatever you do. Then you will feel your absolute best because the outside World as a whole won't appreciate your triumphs. But you will feel good about yourself. Which is the message we often seem to miss. It's about loving ourselves. ❤
I found this hard to watch. Albeit in small parts to get the gist...Its a bit hypocritical to say all this when you, are a person of influence. (no doubt this is why you do you tube videos) Your appearance has changed dramatically over the past few years. Has it changed for the same reasons as these people you are critiquing. ( boosting confidence?) I think so.
I have had severe depression to the point of suicidal ideation in the past as well as anxiety, but doing the affirmations and taking care of yourself is healthy for you because you create a routine. It is a routine that keeps you from being depressed, so why not have a healthy routine? You still have some bad days, but I've been able to turn those days around in less than 24 hours with just my affirmations. I didn't buy the affirmations, however, I created those affirmations myself for what I'm needing in my life. It's a mental diet. You put healthy food into your body for good physical health, so you put healthy thoughts into your mind for good mental and emotional health. You can use affirmations to help others as well. If you wish well upon others you send them blessings of love and you can change their lives. It's a form of prayer.
You're videos lately have been very informative with powerful messages. Your most recent videos have been very scripted, not the honest unfiltered Frederique you presented before. JMO
It's amazing when I watch UA-cam now. Since Covid, I don't hear most of what is being said by vloggers because I'm busy taking care of my mental and physical needs and wants. Sorry Frederique. I got the gist of your message in the beginning but, I guess others have to hear the examples of the message you're trying to convey. I've learned that I'm enough most of the time. Most of the time is better than feeling less than that. It's better than excess.
What do you to boost your confidence? ❤
❤For me, my confidence is knowing who I am in Christ Jesus. I read my bible daily and look for who God almighty is in the scriptures. In return, I've learned how loved I am and my purpose in life. EVEN when the walls seem to be falling on me, I have PEACE. 💜😊
I just remember that I’m loved by my husband and kids. I don’t need every guy to think I’m hot
My inner peace is the main reason for my confidence... 🙏❤💃🏻
Facing difficult things and not running away!
It's so amazing to hear the words, 'think less of yourself and be kinder to others and animals' - it feels like such a long time since this has been said. Being too introspective and thinking only positive are ironically two behaviours that can leave you feeling miserable and hating yourself. Love your perspectives, Frederique - thank you! 😘
Thank you so much! Had a bad day yesterday , no workout and lots of junk food. I was debating on if I should exercise today but now I'm back to myself again!
As a confident woman, I admit that there are moments when I am not confident and times when my feelings can get hurt - and that's okay. I am human and one of the things I value as much if not more than my confidence, is my vulnerability. Love your channel, F!
The most lovely people I know are those who are give time and care to other people. They may be stylish and confident people, or they may not care about how they look, but what they do care about is other people, and they go out of their way to give back to others something that they have.
Kindness is so very important from ourselves to other but also for ourselves. Thanks for the reminder.
Totally is the simple things in life that bring the most joy. Being truly grateful is the key! ❤
Hello Frédérique, I love your commentary, you have a really realistic perspective.
Side question: I love your glasses, what brand are they? They are extremely flattering.
Thanks,
Esther
Great video. I'm studying Mandarin Chinese., and the teacher said that the culture of China is very very humble. There are no exact words for yes, no, and you're welcome.
Wow best video I have seen in so long. Sometimes I can't understand your accent but that's not important, I stay bc your message is SPOT ON!!!! THANKS FOR SAYING THIS OUT LOUD.
P.S I really love your accent, it's beautiful. I'm just hard of hearing.
Thank you for this informative video.♥️🍀
You are so welcome!
Wow, life is too short 😊
Lovely video ❤
I've always found the Bible's words to be true, "There is more happiness in giving, than there is in receiving."
Awesome video! I am a Christian and this is what the Bible tells us. To be humble and not prideful, to esteem others higher than ourselves. To love one another, be kind, be gentle, as best as you can, live peacefully among all men. Anyway, this video was refreshing! :)
What is wrong with being proud? Lol
@@Myriel67being proud and being prideful are two different things. Being proud is having a feeling that you respect yourself and deserve to be respected by other people. Prideful is used in situations when one shows arrogance, conceit or vainglory and despises those they consider inferior. Be proud of your accomplishments, celebrate even the little things, but don’t be prideful.
This has got the BEST one ever! So much self self self.....time out! Let's think about others a bit more, maybe be a bit less self centered. Help someone ELSE feel good about themselves by giving a small sincere compliment. Love you!
Loved the content, but found it hard to focus on your message during the loud bacground music.
It’s difficult to concentrate with the music. Too much of a distraction. Can’t finish. 😮
Building skills builds confidence. Hype alone doesn't prepare you for situations personal, professional, or social where you need skills to succeed. There is a term "Toxic Positivity" that describes an unfounded and unrealistic expectation that is not grounded in reality at all. I'm an attorney who works with children in highly contested family court cases. One thing I see a lot of is parents who want to remove all obstacles for their children and do everything for them so that they feel nothing but success every day. It's the philosophy behind the "Varsity Blues" scandal where wealthy parents illegally purchased admission to university by faking athletic skills their kids didn't have to make sure they were admitted without the necessary grades and test scores. There is no shortcut to doing the work. Building resilience in yourself and your children is more valuable than trying to pretend that disappointment will never happen.
So true that most social media influencers are calculated and choose very, very carefully what they want you to see! It’s usually a big facade!
I saw one that would always buy herself a big bunch of flowers to make it look like she was sooo special and she would always hold a glass of wine in photos incorrectly to try and look elegant! 😂 I witnessed her public birthday. Only two people were sadly there, yet on social media it was made to look like a big event with lots of people there.
you are so right and your realy bring it on the POINT 🤩🤩 - life for me has to be spontanious - and not planed ... things happen or not - just enjoy the good things and handle the bad ones as they occur... 🤫
Thankfully as you get older it gets easier to cut through the BS - another good clip Frederique ❤
It has always made me happy to make others happy !
My family and friends have always come first, and yes, I have occasionally been taken for granted but I put it behind me and won't change the way I am. Very happy.
Thank you Frederique , I hope your new life is making you happy and content 🌹🌹
Confident or not, things will happen in your life which are out of your control. Life has a way of testing us.
I love to take care of stray cats. It's not easy and it can be really sad but it is fulfilling. Also, ART in every form, except Art the clown, love music, movies, tv shows, paintings, comics, books, all...
Had to stop listening, dearest. Music drowning out your voice over. Just thought you should know. I enjoy your videos.
Excellent video frederique, the need for perfection is exhausting to listen to and driving people mad. We need to focus on the simple things and the basics ❤
Toujours des sujets intéressants Frédérique, tout est une question d'équilibre et de bien être et se fiche la paix quand on en a besoin. Merci pour cette vidéo🌺🌻🌼
I am 5 minutes into this video and having a very hard time understanding what you are saying ... I'm thinking it's the music. It almost sounds like your voice is echoing. sigh
Frederique I miss your older style videos and French fashion videos.
Oh just give me a pill for everything. Or a magic bullet.
This editing is terrible on your video. Really distracting noises of swiping cancelling out your voice.
Thank you defining Confidence and separating it from Aggression and Toxic Positivity. Confidence does not Get you everything Confidence frees you from the expectations and opinions of others.
Sweet Frederique, can You please do something about the audio?
With appreciationof your good intention I just want to defend one psychologist you lumped in with the lame “self help” preachers who say “love yourself as you are don’t change.”
I think you have not watched any Jordan B. Peterson videos because he is known for challenging people to stop pretending all you have to do is be confident for no reason. He wrote “12 Rules for Life,” and he is famous for saying something like, “Why accept your flawed self and not push yourself to grow? As a young person am I supposed to think I’m fine as I am? Am I done or something?”
I think you will realize he is on your side in this matter of the need to look at ourselves critically (but in a positive kind way).
Thank you for what you do, Frédérique!
I really like the overall message you have put in this video ❤
I like a simplier approach to everyday life...mental, physical and emotional wellness are a priority for me, healthy relationships with my small circles of family and friends, having gratitude for all I have been blessed with and spending time doing things that are important to me and make me happy are what I focus the majority of my time on.
I do not get drawn in to the virtual look/recommendations of other peoples versions of "a happy life".
I just do my own thing!.. no comparrison to other peoples lives, looks, posessions, finances etc...🙌
The world doesn’t need anymore “confirmation “ but instead “transformation” by the Gospel. Have a blessed day💐
You are so so graceful Frederique!!!!Absolument sacré💓💓💓💓So much love from Japan😘😘😘
Wow, thank you
It's a fine line between confidence and arrogance.
There is a difference between looking after yourself from a place of being kind to yourself than from perfectionism.
Where did you get your glasses? 😚
This is a great topic but the sound effects and the many clip cuts made it challenging to hear and understand what you were saying.
I agree. The choppiness was just too much for me. I had to stop watching. The message is important but it got lost on me because of the competing sensory inputs were too distracting.
Be courageous. Challenge orthodoxy. Stand up for what you believe in. When you are in your rocking chair talking to your grandchildren many years from now, be sure you have a good story to tell.
People today are obsessed with the concept of “self” and their confidence only comes from achieving whatever version of the “perfect self” they have decided to chase. The less I focus on “self” the happier and more content and fulfilled I find myself to be. Loved this! Also love your glasses!
Another good point Frederique! Thank you!
My pleasure!
It's almost like the World is telling us that if we do what they say, we will join their club. But it's not so because I have learned by working on my self improvement process during the last two years, is that I do get compliments, which of course I appreciate but I also meet a lot of jealous people who would rather put me back to square one than allow me to be ahead of whatever social game we are all supposed to be playing.
My message is to do it for yourself, whatever you do. Then you will feel your absolute best because the outside World as a whole won't appreciate your triumphs. But you will feel good about yourself. Which is the message we often seem to miss.
It's about loving ourselves. ❤
I found this hard to watch. Albeit in small parts to get the gist...Its a bit hypocritical to say all this when you, are a person of influence. (no doubt this is why you do you tube videos) Your appearance has changed dramatically over the past few years. Has it changed for the same reasons as these people you are critiquing. ( boosting confidence?) I think so.
Love you❤
I have had severe depression to the point of suicidal ideation in the past as well as anxiety, but doing the affirmations and taking care of yourself is healthy for you because you create a routine. It is a routine that keeps you from being depressed, so why not have a healthy routine? You still have some bad days, but I've been able to turn those days around in less than 24 hours with just my affirmations. I didn't buy the affirmations, however, I created those affirmations myself for what I'm needing in my life. It's a mental diet. You put healthy food into your body for good physical health, so you put healthy thoughts into your mind for good mental and emotional health. You can use affirmations to help others as well. If you wish well upon others you send them blessings of love and you can change their lives. It's a form of prayer.
Amen
The background music was super annoying.
You're videos lately have been very informative with powerful messages. Your most recent videos have been very scripted, not the honest unfiltered Frederique you presented before. JMO
No disrespect but you are stunning
I miss your videos on fashion and skincare. Will you be returning to that format? Or have I just missed them?
I miss them too.
It's amazing when I watch UA-cam now. Since Covid, I don't hear most of what is being said by vloggers because I'm busy taking care of my mental and physical needs and wants. Sorry Frederique. I got the gist of your message in the beginning but, I guess others have to hear the examples of the message you're trying to convey. I've learned that I'm enough most of the time. Most of the time is better than feeling less than that. It's better than excess.