"The Only Son" - Documentary about the dilemma between tradition and modernity

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  • Опубліковано 28 лис 2024
  • Film starts at 0:56. "The Only Son" is a 2013 Dutch documentary, directed by Simonka de Jong. It is a story about the challenge of keeping Dolpo’s ancient culture alive as the area becomes less isolated. The film centers on Pema’s parents’ expectation that Pema will return to Dolpo, Nepal, when he completes his education, marry a Dolpapa woman, and manage the family’s land. As the only son, this is his role in Dolpo’s traditional culture. Pema is torn between his duty to the family and his desire to live the modern life that he now prefers. The film is primarily shot in Karang, a village at 13,000 feet in Upper Dolpo, one of the most remote areas of Nepal. It has been shown at a number of International Film Festivals.
    Original Title: The Only Son
    A Film by Simonka de Jong
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 86

  • @nt8837
    @nt8837 3 роки тому +79

    I would pay to watch this documentary than many of high budget Bollywood films. Great work camera crews and people behind this. Grand salute to the adoptive parents.

    • @FirstHandFilms
      @FirstHandFilms 3 роки тому +1

      Thanks for your kind words - you're more than welcome to support the filmmakers by subscribing, renting or purchasing different versions of the film here: vimeo.com/ondemand/theonlysonthefilm or watch for free here on UA-cam, up to you :-)

  • @rangzenla
    @rangzenla 3 роки тому +39

    So proud of Pema for the wisdom he carries at such young age and for taking care of his younger sisters like his own children.

  • @delialee6320
    @delialee6320 3 роки тому +30

    Thank you for a very interesting & beautiful documentary. The remoteness of the place is unbelievable yet so stunningly refreshing. My heart goes to Pema & Dolma - the pull of filial love & obligation vs individual’s longing for self determination is heart-wrenching. I hope Pema finds a way to help out his parents without having to sacrifice his dreams & bright future.

  • @norhusnabtdaud4344
    @norhusnabtdaud4344 3 роки тому +10

    the father's love for his children shines thru

  • @kathleenryan3359
    @kathleenryan3359 3 роки тому +13

    This is one of the best documentaries I have ever seen. I feel I have been with these lovely , gentle people in their beautiful country sharing their problems and dreams. I hope all their dreams come true, especially the ‘only son’. God bless them all.

    • @OanhSchlesinger
      @OanhSchlesinger 3 роки тому +1

      Well put. I agree with everything you said 👍

  • @somewherefaraway8037
    @somewherefaraway8037 3 роки тому +32

    He shared his story on TEDxTalk called "the burden of being the only son" in 2015. He's living a happy life doing photography.

    • @ongadeline5331
      @ongadeline5331 3 роки тому +3

      I m very happy for him. What abt his siblings in US n Netherlands?

    • @ningthemmashangva3277
      @ningthemmashangva3277 3 роки тому +2

      @@ongadeline5331 watch this in UA-cam
      " the burden of being the only son" pema
      Gurung speech at tedx talk. His FB and Instagram is pema.prima.

    • @ongadeline5331
      @ongadeline5331 3 роки тому +1

      @@ningthemmashangva3277
      Thanks. Will definitely watch

  • @kriskrossize
    @kriskrossize 3 роки тому +5

    Parents are very lucky to have a son like Pema I am very much overwhelmed by his courage in helping his sisters to get education and fulfill his dreams

  • @timfoinc.6879
    @timfoinc.6879 3 роки тому +4

    They did not have any makeups or stage settings but fresh films in fresh land sightseeing.

  • @evah787
    @evah787 5 років тому +14

    The country side/village was beautiful. However the children didn't really grow up there, and are now use to a more modern way of life. The older sibling (Son and daughter), have international exposure. ......so it will be very hard to return to this simple primative village life. The culture they have come from makes them now carry a burden of guilt and shame for wanting a different life journey. Thank you for sharing your story with us.

  • @esthertan694
    @esthertan694 3 роки тому +3

    He' s what this country needs for progress.

  • @justiceempire1170
    @justiceempire1170 3 роки тому +12

    This is a very nice documentary. Yes, this is very true. Usually in traditional provinces, there were really arranged marriages like this. Most of educated men married an illiterate women. This is so devastating marrying someone u don't love for the sake of tradition. The situation of Pema is so hard. It breaks his heart between parents and his dreams. I admire him so much for taking his dreams to the highest level, not only for himself but for his siblings as well. Lucky for the girl that he will choose to marry. ❤💜🧡

  • @miraclemay24
    @miraclemay24 3 роки тому +3

    Walk for a month😭😭😭I am dying already thinking about it. This is so unique. Beautiful documentary

  • @karenhowardz4924
    @karenhowardz4924 3 роки тому +5

    True life story that many of use never knew people of this age and time go through.....I just love this story

  • @alfylee2148
    @alfylee2148 3 роки тому +6

    A truly remarkable documentary which I happened to come across on a day like today. It has made me appreciate the little things that I already have in my life, so meaningful. My heart goes out to the parents and also to great potentials that lies ahead for the Pema and his sisters. Pema strikes me as a responsible, wise and loving young man, way beyond his years. I wish everyone in this documentary a blessed life and may all their dreams come true.

  • @anakpakabu6503
    @anakpakabu6503 3 роки тому +2

    First time i watching in sight of Nepal. A young man who has a strong ambition in his life. Fighting against his parents. They have a different way to fight for their own life. Love to see them together..

  • @tabletuser3438
    @tabletuser3438 3 роки тому +2

    I watch it again and again and cried

  • @dompaulhn
    @dompaulhn 3 роки тому +4

    Awesome doc. Amazing creative production team. The kids are living far more harder than us in Borneo. The distance, time and all the hardships going back home are very challenging. Salute ! Watching in 2021 some 3 years later, pray that the kids and their parents are doing well now. I am taught to be thankful with life in Borneo.

  • @simpledays1729
    @simpledays1729 3 роки тому

    AMAZING! YOUR DOCUMENTARY SKILLS IS SUPERB!! THANK YOU FOR THIS. I NEVER FELT ANY DULLNESS EVEN FOR A SECOND !

  • @sumanbui
    @sumanbui Рік тому

    This is an eye opener documentary. Never felt so bad for someone 😢

  • @roviecotterell2336
    @roviecotterell2336 3 роки тому +8

    STAY STRONG KEEP GOING YOU SUCH A CARING BROTHER TO YOUR SISTERS,

  • @valeriehostyn5256
    @valeriehostyn5256 3 роки тому +2

    Excellent documentary! Loved it.

  • @kimlin8544
    @kimlin8544 3 роки тому +6

    Its a very inspiring story...but maybe you need to help your family back in the village financially...just follow your heart on what to do in your life, all of you and your younger sisters deserve all the happiness in life.Godbless you all.

  • @pushpagurung1949
    @pushpagurung1949 3 роки тому +7

    I Sincerely hope that your future life will be successful and support your family back home young man, your are very sensible and a very handsome indeed, Wishing you all a very best 🙏❤

  • @OanhSchlesinger
    @OanhSchlesinger 3 роки тому +1

    Wow, a great story! The dilemma of choosing between parent’s wishes and personal needs was heartbreaking. I hope all the children are doing well. Pema is very talented, intelligent, and interesting. Able to speak three languages; now maybe four adding Dutch!

  • @barbalalla2003
    @barbalalla2003 3 роки тому +3

    What a well made and touching documentary 👌🏻♥️

  • @jandmglll6391
    @jandmglll6391 3 роки тому +3

    ❤ I'm very sure the parents loves all the children. I wish they can give update about the parents

  • @Dirty_Squirrell
    @Dirty_Squirrell 3 роки тому +4

    If you gave me a small piece of your land to build a home and a small garden, I'd come help you. I don't think I'd ever leave there. It's so peaceful and beautiful.

  • @scotthutchison2648
    @scotthutchison2648 3 роки тому +2

    Thank you for the glimpse inside their lives.. How lucky are some and how fortunate are others.. I wonder if many western kids could identify at all with this video... I hope they are all well and if you start a crowdfund I will be the first to send to this family.. Love and respect!!

  • @isabellaaguilar1564
    @isabellaaguilar1564 3 роки тому +4

    I thought I live in the middle of no where in florida. Im not going to complain no more

    • @jeuno880
      @jeuno880 3 роки тому

      Right?
      Now you'll never look at a friend complaining about their house the same again.

  • @numafunglilly212
    @numafunglilly212 3 роки тому +1

    The heart touching story

  • @strongigorot5136
    @strongigorot5136 3 роки тому

    This really breaks my heart especially when they say goodbye to each other and their mother wipe hers tears and so with the father when the kids is already on board but the son made the right decision , so what happened to the kids now and so with their parents because this was taken 3 years ago this is a very interesting story to fallow .

  • @anumason7623
    @anumason7623 3 роки тому +1

    Watched it first time today very sad but true story told brilliantly. I hope they are all doing well and Wish them all good health and happiness.

  • @ds8290
    @ds8290 3 роки тому +1

    I wish there was a part 2 to this. I want to know how their lives ended up being.

  • @tsheringbhutia361
    @tsheringbhutia361 3 роки тому +2

    Listen to ur heart God will always show u the right path , god blessed u all. I wish I could have a brother like u 👍 namastey, tashi delek👏

  • @samarpanlamagurung9687
    @samarpanlamagurung9687 3 роки тому

    Guru Rinpoche bless our Brother Pema Gurung and his Family.

  • @andreialin9206
    @andreialin9206 3 роки тому +5

    Thank you for this story,when can we see more?

  • @sergmarioimpreso7056
    @sergmarioimpreso7056 2 роки тому

    It's a beautiful documentary. How it ended up? I think many of us watching this is want to know.

  • @dolsang7328
    @dolsang7328 3 роки тому +3

    Parental love ❤️

  • @daisygarcia191
    @daisygarcia191 3 роки тому +3

    I’ve watched this documentary last night. I feel for the son and his sisters and also with the parents. This documentary is 2 years old, I am wondering what is the latest with the son and his family?

    • @kpopfans7284
      @kpopfans7284 3 роки тому +1

      I saw his Instagram after watching his documentary, he updated his Instagram this month and he's staying in Netherland at the moment

  • @luciodelgado
    @luciodelgado 3 роки тому +1

    VERY INTERESTING!

  • @2011richardsa
    @2011richardsa 3 роки тому

    Thanks for sharing

  • @mildredhelican8593
    @mildredhelican8593 3 роки тому +1

    Great story.

  • @krys6048
    @krys6048 3 роки тому +1

    Good movie👍👍👍👍👍

  • @Lama-sh8dq
    @Lama-sh8dq 3 роки тому +6

    I really want to Know how is pema now

    • @mechellejose3886
      @mechellejose3886 3 роки тому

      I followed him in instragram he's living he's dream now...and im very happy for him and his family @pema.prima

    • @mechellejose3886
      @mechellejose3886 3 роки тому

      Pema.prima is hes intagram acc.

  • @danifrettchen6615
    @danifrettchen6615 3 роки тому +7

    How is it today? 💝

    • @rhavend.4378
      @rhavend.4378 3 роки тому +5

      dorjeartsyakgirl ~ US sister instagram you can see their dad, he is doing great looks the same. their life is better now.
      pema.prima ~ Pema instagram he lives in Amsterdam
      sumchogkersbergen ~ sister in Netherland

    • @danifrettchen6615
      @danifrettchen6615 3 роки тому +1

      @@rhavend.4378 thats fine 😻💖

    • @danifrettchen6615
      @danifrettchen6615 3 роки тому +2

      Could their mother change her way of life? Or is she still in the village ? Thanks for answering 🌻

  • @tabletuser3438
    @tabletuser3438 3 роки тому

    Beautiful movie

  • @dolpolhakdor3836
    @dolpolhakdor3836 3 роки тому

    👍👍👍
    Very heart touching

  • @sandrapadua2632
    @sandrapadua2632 3 роки тому +1

    How is his parents right now

  • @mariacas7974
    @mariacas7974 2 роки тому

    Everyone has the same first story, we’re is part two?

  • @barbiewagasvlog8232
    @barbiewagasvlog8232 3 роки тому

    i played it 2 times

  • @seniahicomloquias2193
    @seniahicomloquias2193 2 роки тому

    in our village before they do the same.arrange marriages but now its different.u can marry the one u love.than god their eyes are open about this.they care about what the younger generation feel.

  • @analinagenova6497
    @analinagenova6497 3 роки тому

    beautiful story...😗😗 what happend for them now?i hope the take there parents for them now

  • @captress235
    @captress235 3 роки тому +8

    What happened to this family.can anyone say?

    • @angelamariadelrosario9563
      @angelamariadelrosario9563 3 роки тому

      ua-cam.com/video/LIPWiQSiZ0k/v-deo.html

    • @rhavend.4378
      @rhavend.4378 3 роки тому +4

      dorjeartsyakgirl ~ US sister instagram you can see their dad, he is doing great looks the same. their life is better now.
      pema.prima ~ Pema instagram he lives in Amsterdam
      sumchogkersbergen ~ sister in Netherlands

    • @captress235
      @captress235 3 роки тому +1

      @@rhavend.4378 that's great .I'll check them out .

  • @timfoinc.6879
    @timfoinc.6879 3 роки тому

    Ten O' clock clan who know high & lows to guard everyone on the planet 🌎.

  • @norhusnabtdaud4344
    @norhusnabtdaud4344 3 роки тому +2

    scarifices parents make for their children

  • @Mimi-oe1fd
    @Mimi-oe1fd 3 роки тому +3

    Amazing place but very very far

  • @zenithpeakhinay3424
    @zenithpeakhinay3424 3 роки тому +2

    I wanna know where Pema is right now?

    • @alikhilji6758
      @alikhilji6758 3 роки тому +1

      Following

    • @rangzenla
      @rangzenla 3 роки тому +2

      Pema is now living in Amsterdam, he has become a freelance photographer. Check his work in instagram. ID: pema.prima

    • @somewherefaraway8037
      @somewherefaraway8037 3 роки тому +2

      A traveling photographer

  • @timfoinc.6879
    @timfoinc.6879 3 роки тому

    They must be Sa- Ma- clan/ Sy clan/ Sa- Yee= 8 = arms line who wrote the first asian history after he landed from the west but peeled by Han- Ryu dynasty, body peeling team works.

  • @timfoinc.6879
    @timfoinc.6879 3 роки тому

    Muslims made knots= Hoi- Gyo- Do- in- Yee- Mae- Deup- Met- Da/ Dal- Da= ..... They marked history on human bodies as thread ball lumps, Moles, Jums, of Germs, budds.

  • @timfoinc.6879
    @timfoinc.6879 3 роки тому

    Local OX- Cows DNA must teach us human history as well who was there established the bases English- Roman- German & Roman ttang Empire !! Mountain Goats, Horned Rams, cartilage glued Ox meats into war and warts after they ssip out to zit- holes.

  • @anyarussell1166
    @anyarussell1166 3 роки тому

    You'd be a goofy if you don't go chase your dreams!

  • @timfoinc.6879
    @timfoinc.6879 3 роки тому

    Very old family in high mountain, H-im-ala-yarn= Gong- Double Tree- Allah- ZZan= Young- Zo- Allah- Weaved Net= SSak- Birds- Children- Mang/ Base/ their Tuh Jun/ migrated to establish their homes. Yeol- Mang= K- noun, or verbial affix, zealous wish, strong dreams....

  • @studboyinus
    @studboyinus 3 роки тому +3

    So typical, parents bearing children just so they can take care of them when they are old. Not fair! And that mom is the most selfish person! She gave her kids to others so she won't take care of them, now that she's old, she wants them back so they take care of her! I hope nobody comes back! YOU REAP WHAT YOU SOW! KARMA IS A BEECH!

    • @nikkanikka215
      @nikkanikka215 2 роки тому +1

      I AGREE WITH YOU 💯💯💯 MADE ME SAD SHE GAVE UP THE KIDDOS BC HARD LIFE I GET IT BUT NOW THAT SHES OLD WANTS THEM TO HELP HER??!! NOT FEAR AT ALL! U REAP WHAT U SOW ABSOLUTELY CORRECT!!!!!💯💯💯 LIVE UR LIFE KIDDOS N SON BC U ALL WORKED HARD FOR IT LIVING WITHOUT PARENTS N RAISING UR OWN SELF N BEING ADOPTED BY UR PARENTS IN USA OTHER PLACES AS WELL LIVE UR LIVES KIDDOS BC U DESERVE IT ALL U WORKED HARD BEYOND DONT FEEL BAD BC U ALL LIVED IN KIDS HOME WITHOUT UR BIRTH PARENTS!!! SON BEST WISHES IN PHOTOGRAPHY UR TALENTED AND SISTERS AS WELL GOODLUCK AND FLY ACHIEVE UR DREAMS KIDDOS!!!!!