34. Gone back to college. Hanging out with eighteen-year-olds. I'm not sure whether it's making me feel older or younger. I'm a first-year college student, and sometimes just feel like one. Other times, I have to consciously refrain from calling my classmates "kids".
tfw one of my old high school friends might be my professor at some point because I'm 28 and haven't graduated yet, while he's doing his PhD in the same university... no better way to have a "progress comparison", such as mentioned by JJ, hit you home.
Didn't feel too odd on the 19 yr. plan. Started Hawaii Loa 1990, grad UHWO 2009. Met younger Socialist professor, just had to shake my head at such whack. Was a "Josh" too.
I know what you are going though but because I haven't finished yet my mental health and learning disabilities have slowed me down and taking it part time.
@@arsnakehert I too haven't finished and have had younger or very close aged professors and same friends are professors or working in the college in other ways if not have high degrees . My mental health and learning disabilities has slowed me down to finish average time while yeah they if go past bachelors have gotten those degrees even some that didn't start right after highschool.
I'm 33 now, and I can relate to that awkward self-consciousness of getting older. But the thing is, fear of aging is not limited to adults. When I was a pre-teen, I was terrified of leaving childhood to the point of denial, and I didn't begin to appreciate that phase until I was 16-17. I'm trying to learn from that experience and embrace each stage. Don't let the fear of growing old cripple you. Life is precious at any age.
@@mapofthesoultagme7143 It's normal to look back to our previous lives with nostalgia, but as time moves on you'll realise how much you had now. I used to be nostalgic of my childhood and teenage years when I was your age. Now I am nostalgic of my twenties. And I'll probably be nostalgic of my thirties in the future. 22 is a beautiful age, make the most of it!
Turning 67 this year, imagine all your grandparents, parents, aunts and uncles, siblings, school mates and friends all passing away, almost every day, funeral after funeral and knowing full well you could be next, oh yes getting older is just wonderful.
@Alexa Tri nothing to worry about. I’m 67 and still look forward to learning and doing new and more things. Just a little slower and a little forgetful!
Thank you dude, this is exactly the video I needed to see, showing me that I'm not the only one dealing with those feelings. I'm 27 and gone back to college after I failed the first time. I especially relate to feeling like I'm behind in the game of life, and constantly comparing myself to other people my age, as I don't have a stable career yet, or a college degree, which pains me every day. My studies are going great now, but I just wish I could turn back the clock nine years and start university again with all the maturity I have right now. Another thing that is really hard, is that people or celebrities I knew grewing up age as well. I know that doesn't sound that bad, but it's like a hit in the face when you look those people up and realize how much time actually passed. I think being a lot on the internet adds to this feeling, as the internet is constantly hungry for new content, and everything ages extremely quickly online. I feel like I'm not quite here nor there, not a teenager anymore but not quite an adult either. It's a horrible feeling of not belonging, and most of all running out of time. Probably nobody is going to read this, but I just needed to get it out of my system.
I know you commented a year ago, but I think it’s great you are going back to university! I work with youth and I often see this attitude where folks who are young think they’ll have irreversibly messed up their lives at 19 or even 25 and it’s like WOAH WOAH WOAH. you are NEVER too old and it is NEVER too late. And as I get older myself I feel even more strongly about this. So kudos to you! I think it takes a tremendous amount of determination and even courage to return to university at an age where you are likely the oldest. I often felt like the older students in my higher education experiences always got the most out of it because they were mature enough to appreciate it, and they had more experience under their belt and contextualize whatever they were learning. Anyway, I hope you are doing well!
This video is so painfully accurate for me. I'm 29 years old and it's been hitting me pretty hard that this is the last year of my 20s. In a way I'm excited to enter my 30s because my 20s were such a mess, but it's also strange entering that liminal space where you're not really young, but you're not middle-aged, either. The points in this video that resonated with me the most are the ones about life progress (though I've always been envious of others' achievements and tried to compete with them) and the one about bodies decaying/wearing out (I was diagnosed with a chronic digestive illness last year and it causes unbearable pain at times). Anyway, this is a really spot-on video and I'm think about sharing it to my blog. Thanks for uploading and being so honest.
When I turned 30 I was relieved that my 20s were over. But 30 is the same as 29. You still deal with the same issues you did the year prior, you just have less time, less energy, and less f*cks to give with each year that passes after 30. Having less time and less energy and more responsibility really puts your true priorities and the things you want for yourself into sharper focus, at least it did for me. Don't stress 30. I'm having a better time now in my 30s than I did in my 20s.
I've been dealing with chronic pain problems since my early 20's, and until the last few years I just dealt with and lived on. But over time it really limits you on what you can do, or even feel like doing until it gets to a point in your late 20's (I'm 28) where you begin to feel like you're REALLY falling behind in many respects. Frankly I've very much come to avoid socializing a lot lately because the the first conversation starters are always those "what do you do for a living blah blah blah". So yes, rather stressful.
As an otherwise healthy Male, 100 lbs too much of it, I did not have to sweat too much of it spending my 29th birthday in the hospital, recovering of a months coma with TBI &c. I hope you have a character that will make these calendar changes like water of a duck's back for you. My younger sister seems to have such resilience also. She is a bit of a contemporary feminist, so I cannot presume to tell you how to feel, but age is just a number. That auto smash was in the waning Clinton years, and I feel better now, unfulfillment be damned.
Middle age around 30 is ridiculous , according gary life coach guy say for us guys life started for us this is why our late 20s feel so alien and lost to start to realise that pillars of familiar structure of high school, college, uni is finally gone and life has one massive deep sea.
I kind of just want to skip from 24 to 40. And I just realized why I have such a hard time internalizing that I'll be in my late 20s at some point in my life. I really don't want to go through dealing with expectations to have a husband, family, and kids by age 30. I just want to skip out on that and go to 40 and hope that shit worked out on its own.
I hate that my childhood dog is getting older. And I just played with him for the first time in weeks. He wasn’t as vigorous but it brought back old memories
Another thing that happens is that you start to realize how short life really is. You realize that you are the age your parents were when you came into this world, and you look at them now and realize you're halfway there. Or, if they are deceased, you have a kind of early-onset midlife crisis.
Thank you so much for this video. Now I know I am not alone. I wished I knew about or more people talked about these truths when I was younger so that I could prepare for all the stressful transions to adulthood. We try to give the best everything to our children but sometimes we shelter them from important lessons on how the world works. Honestly I felt so insecure and betrayed at first when I found out what aging means. All the parents must have worked so hard for their children to grow up carefree and faithful. Thank you mom and dad.
The consensus I normally stick to JJ is this: when you’re growing up, your gonna have at least one big thing that’s gonna kind of scare you in adulthood. My mom had cancer, my uncle was in a bad car accident, me and my other uncle have both had bad dental issues… it can be a little scary, but just remember that doctors are your friends and that things will generally be okay in the end (just take care of yourself!)
Also 33 and a big fan of your channel. I think you left out some positive things, like being less concerned about change, and learning that bad situations don't last. For me that makes up for any worries that I'm not keeping up with my friends.
God, I'm only 20, and I relate to all of these... I've always been mature for my age, and my family started falling apart while I was in high school, and my parents came to me a lot, and it was very stressful having to deal with those kinds of things when I was just a teenager.
Great points, same age in calgary here, one thing I have really noticed since my later 20’s is how fast time flys by now. A year used to feel like a long time, but a month is no longer enough time to get anything done, and when I think of events as a teenager I realize it was decades ago
Great post. As a man who just turned 34, I can relate to all of these in some way. Something I would add is that for some of us, our lives actually get a lot better as we leave our twenties. Every year after 29 has improved. I'm in better physical shape now than ever before, but more importantly, I like the way my mind works. I would now like to freeze myself as a physical 34 year old for the next century of life.
This was a great video... I really appreciated having somebody of my age bringing these feelings out into the open, because it makes me feel somehow more normal and less insecure about the very things you mentioned.
Yes to pretty much all these points! The part about not being able to hang out with friends with their own families is particularly poignant. it is tough for someone who is single or doesn't have kids to try to finds ways to be social with their friends that do. Not impossible, but pretty tough to get schedules aligned, etc. Thanks so much for making this vid, JJ! I'll be sharing this far and wide.
Thank you JJ, I’m currently 24 and it was comforting to hear someone talk about ageing in such a graceful manner! Also I always enjoy your videos, so keep em up man and all the best!!!
#4 hit me like a truck. I know the exact feeling you're talking about. I'm 22 and I feel like that regarding my degree. I'm staying an extra year while a lot of my classmates are graduating. But what you're talking about is on a bigger scale. Kinda scares you when you actually start thinking about it lol. Great video nonetheless!
This still is your most timeless video! And one of the most important ones for me personally. I'm 22 right now, so I'm in the first readjustment between parents and kids. The "comparing yourself to others" part is also very difficult for me to get used to. Some of my old classmates are married, have kids, have a stable career and that is... tough to swallow, although I'm accepting differences more and more.
I just turned 23 and I relate to all of these points... Parents relying on you, back pains, envying other people's relationships and life successes, fashion, etc. It's all too real.
Well done! Great how you are able to put a lot of my thoughts into words. I experienced in the last years and up to this day a lot of the above mentioned things/problems/thoughts. Some weird kind of body decay, everyone getting soo old, people die.... to much responsibility while still thinking I’m not mature enough and not getting any further in life. Kind of depressing. But thanks for making that video. I’m currently 35.
I relate to many of these points (I'm 31) and to help with these I've found 2 "cures": 1/ have a big project to change my life (I'm coming to Canada, Vancouver actually, maybe I'll cross the path of JJMC in the future ? :) ) and 2/ I've found a new job with interesting and new things to do: Working on new things prevents nostalgia (you can't compare with how it was before) and set incentive for the future. Hope it helps.
I'm only a few months younger than you (turning 33 later this month) and yes, I can agree with a fair amount of your video. I've had to stop playing football (soccer) each week due to my knee, I'm always conscious that I dress exactly the same way that I did as a teenager (goofy tshirts) so I don't look like a grown-up man with a job and responsibilities and stuff - though I do apparently have the left knee of a 65 year old...
Hi JJ. I'm 36 and I feel very much the same, except for the part where you say our strength is shorter after we hit the 30s. I'd say that's when excercising gets really important to maintain our health. I started working out when I became 33. It makes me feel really well, I strongly recommend you try it out!
20. Very relatable, and for the truths that are less relatable, they were things i’ve kept in the back of my mind for a while that I think are good things to mentally prepare for in the future. Great video.
Hey JJ, I've recently just started watching your videos. Although there are some things about Canadian politics and other issues we share very different opinions on, I appreciate you voicing your opinions and want to thank you for putting this serious video out here. It really helps to get some perspective into an issue as important and less-spoken-about like this one (getting older) - so, thanks! :) PS - jealous of your hair.
JJ, I do realize that it is not really pleasant for you to see that those kind of videos are not that well-viewed as, to say, your videos about Canada, but this one was actually very thoughtful and I would even say thought-provoking, and at the same time very touching. Thanks a lot for that, and I'm really looking forward to seeing videos like this in the future! Miron from Belarus
Hey JJ, nice video. I'm only 24 but I relate to a lot of what you were saying. One thing I'll add is that in my case anyway, getting older has been accompanied by the realization that I am not as good a person as I thought I was. Maybe other people feel the same. Something about enough mistakes accumulating to the point where ice realized I don't really have a leg to stand on character wise, and that being a good man is a constant practice rather than an innate characteristic, at least in my case. This did make me sad as I've realized it, because I've felt like a disappointment to myself and my parents and loved ones, but ultimately I welcome the lesson, because I can go forward and actively try to be better rather than merely assume that I will be.
I'm 64 and yes you are now at your peak J.J. enjoy it. One myth is that age brings wisdom. It doesn't but does bring perspective and that's almost as good.
I feel that parents one HARD man! After I moved out at 19, I called my mom almost everyday and I still do because I honestly miss having her around like when I was growing up. But hey JJ, we're all getting older together, so we might as well have some fun with it! I just try to put everything into each day and take it one sunrise at a time. Thanks for you're awesome insight man!
Great video! I really appreciated this because these issues have weighed on me lately, and they have manifested in unfortunate tangible ways. Incessantly thinking about most of the concerns you list has snowballed into two months of terrible insomnia for me, which I'm just getting over (I hope). I guess the only real therapy is discussing these concerns more often. Clearly everyone in this demographic frets about these issues; I'm glad you addressed this topic!
Twenty-three. As silly as it may seem, I always feel like I’m fighting time, trying to keep up - as if I’m decades older than I am. It’s reassuring to know 20somethings all feel this, but I never expected the insomnia reaction to it. However, I am getting regular sleep lately, and it’s partly out of slowly changing my mindset.
Hey JJ, thanks for sharing. Honestly at 24 I am only now begaining to relate to most of these. I find myself exploring a lot of the things would have been to nervous about exploring when I was in high school. Like trying Marijuana now that it is legal, or experimenting with how I dress, my ideas and outlook have changed over the course of my life and I find myself much more liberal than in the past. These are all very interesting facts and indeed a very enlightening video! Keep them coming, thanks again
Hi JJ! I'm 46, and will be 47 in the spring time....50 is creeping up rather quickly! I can attest to what you have to say, with everything. I miss Christmas as a kid, and I miss 80s tv shows and music. I am very cynical of issues, especially politicians I support. Your body does change, such as hair loss or hair growth on one's body. My metabolism has definitely changed. And, I understood why so many families are dysfunctional.
I'm a 74-year old fan and this is one of my favorite of your videos. I gave up reading or watching the news over 10 years ago. There was little I could personally do to change things added only served to raise my blood pressure. I prefer to think of it as realistic rather than cynical. But that is only semantics.
I'm 26 (commonly think a lot I'm 25... Then I realise I am older than I thought... That is tough too) and you reminded to me in the point when you spoke about your parents. It is totally true! You never realise your parents still get older until you are old too... But I think those feelings are necessary to get into the next era of your life: when you start being the totally trustful version of you, when get covered and hide feelings or thoughts to the others is not an option anymore. I think it still IS beautiful.
Interesting video. I'm 19 and this puts things into perspective. I want to do things now which will make me satisfied when I'm older. When you're young it's easy to think that things will always be the same as now so you slack off/put off opportunities.
I completely agree! I wouldn't say I am more conservative or less optimistic, but I am definitely aware of the cycles like you mentioned. And I am most definitely nostalgic! However, it's neat to meet younger people who are actually interested in some of what I'm nostalgic about. I now understand why my grandparents and parents always liked when I appreciated things from their childhood and teen years.
I absolutely relate to everything you said, as I turned 30 not long ago. However, on the positive side, I also feel that I understand many things better than I used to, my opinions are more weighed and I can already teach someone something. Before, I mostly felt I'm very categorical and tend to take everything way too seriously, which complicates things. Now I take many things easier, though there are new problems appearing, and you mentioned many of them.
J.J. McCullough oh, objectively, it's a far better time to be a kid, at least where I live. No corporal punishment, less teen pregnancy, less violent crime. I can also keep up with all my mates on the internet. It's just funny because my mates give me shit for being an old man.
Kids do grow up really quickly these days. It's really weird seeing literal 11 year olds commenting on UA-cam videos, or in UA-cam videos, who say stuff that I'd imagine coming from the mouth of a 40 year old. I'd definitely not like to grow up nowadays. It was so nice to just be able to be a kid.
I'm only 17, but I love your videos - keep up the good work. I think this video accurately represents what getting older means. Could you do a video on Canada's Dutch(speaking) population? About 10-15% of Canadians claim Dutch ancestry.
As for the eight truths, I definitely relate to a lot of them, turning 35 this month. I survived a car crash with a cracked vertebrae a couple years ago and have been living with low grade back pain since because at the time I was young enough that I didn’t take rehab particularly seriously. I’ve also somehow gotten both more cynical and more optimistic. Like you talked about, I’ve definitely gotten more cynical in the short term, but long term I’m pretty freaking optimistic. I mean, if you study history at all, you learn rather quickly that in the long run life tends to get better and it’s the progressive/let’s make things better for everyone types that win out, not the people who embrace whatever form of opposition to change and retreat to some idealized past us popular at the time.
this is a great video for anyone in the 18-35 range. however, I have two quips. (I don't think these make it not worth watching, to be clear!) 1. the physical decline is strongly influenced by genes and lifestyle habits. we are aware of how much genes do, usually, but lifestyle habits are so much greater of an influence than people think. the biggest difference is simply lack of exercise; many people have manual labor (or at least "active") jobs in their early 20s, and many people played sports in college, and many people played sports in high school. they often -- especially after having kids -- completely discontinue their activity levels. this sort of habit maintenance is essential for maintaining youthfulness (physically). otherwise, the age at which people will face a kind of inevitable physical decline is between 40-55 (depending on what kind of decline we're talking about) but for most people it will be 55. 2. I think some people experience nostalgia and some people experience something like the horseshoe-opposite (as in horseshoe theory) of nostalgia. the biggest issue for me is a phenomenon I don't think we have a word for so I will call it nega-nostalgia. it's the feeling that time hasn't really passed, that things are still as they are, and you remember far too many things "like they were yesterday". it's less of a fondness for the past, and more of a panic at the present; an anxiety attack from how fast time has just Happened. I think the most common example of this nega-nostalgia phenomenon is those memes that go like "[popular thing] came out [10/15/20 years ago]" that are intended to induce that "my life is accelerating into the void" feeling.
There are a bunch of good things too. I need less sleep than I did when I was younger. I'm also more confident, I've learned that when put into a situation I can probably deal with it. I feel like I can actually help people now. Either with money, or guidance, or direction. I think my spiritual life is more mature. I don't have to be quite so self centered. I don't want to be 80 just yet, but I'm enjoying this phase of things. I'm 36. I gotta exercise more than before. But I don't feel any "curse of age" yet.
Excellent reflection on aging, JJ. As a fellow 30-something approaching middle age, I'm reminded of part of the lyric from the song "Janie Mac I'm Nearly 40" by the Wolfe Tones: Have you noticed the policemen getting younger? The busmen, they're getting younger too. While all my friends are getting older. But me, I stay the same. You know it's true.
My thoughts 1. I'm 23 and my parents are 57 and 53, so I definitely see this starting to happen to me. 2. I definitely see who likes who more and more and who doesn't like. 3. I'm dating a girl now who has 2 kids, and I'm definitely finding myself spending a lot more time with her and her kids than with other friends and some family. 4. I'm trying to break out of still being a college student and establishing myself with a career, especially with the above reason. 5. My back, shoulders, and neck are always sore. Also my sleep is a lot more disrupted than when I was a teen. 6. I'm still in my early 20's, so this isn't quite a problem... Except some of my clothes still look like I'm a teenager rather than an adult. 7. Especially now that kids are involved in my life, I find myself becoming nostalgic about my childhood and how I'm becoming more like my dad. 8. Most of the current events aren't too interesting to me tbh.
I'm also 33, and I totally agree with it being a void age. The whole comparing my life to my peers is also painfully accurate, social media just exacerbates it, yet, on the face of it, I should be happy with my life. I'm married, have a house, have a dog, work close to home, relatively interesting job, a decent wage, however I look at aspects of other people lives and wish I had that, totally forgetting that for every 'win' in my eyes in their life, they may see a 'win' in my life. No matter how many god things you have in life, you want more! But I think that's just your 30s, the older you get the less you care about what other people are doing (or at least I hope!), my goal in life to be content with what I have.
Funny... as I get older (41 now) I find myself comparing less and less to others. I am single with no kids and I have a strong feeling things will remain this way. On purpose. I just don't have a strong desire to start a family. I keep young by being a content creator as well as a primary school teacher in Asia. I enjoy keeping up on the younger generation's trends and even having conversations with 10 year olds about video games. It really does keep things fresh. I love it. Lonely at times? Yes sure but there's a freedom that comes with being on your own.
Something that hits hard with me is the back and joint pain. I've personally had back pain since I was 13 and it's gotten progressively worse as I've aged, and since working at my current job it's been taking a real major toll on my joints, it's a real crippling thought because I'm only 20 and if I already have pain like this I can only imagine how I'll be when I'm 64 or something like that.
After binging a bunch of J.J.'s random videos I feel like he occasionally focuses a lot on 4. Personally, I've found myself thinking about the clothing as you age. At least for me is hairstyle. Mines gotten shaggy since COVID-19 and I realized it looks like it did when I was a teen except there's a mid-thirties face peering out from behind my Bieber bangs.
I'm 31 and I recently went to my doctor and basically told him "I thought I'd be an adult by now, and yet I'd still much rather play video games and waste time than focus on my work. Is it possible that I have undiagnosed ADHD?" He prescribed some amphetamines and I can't believe how well they worked. So that's a plus to becoming an adult - you become aware of some things that are actually wrong with you that can no longer be dismissed as immaturity. And then you can fix them.
I know this was almost half a decade ago but an important note is very many people lack drive and focus not as a result of their mental health but because they haven't found something that actually interests them or other issues stealing the energy from their passions. Try therapy before drugs!!!!!!!
@@georgeptolemy7260 I agree - I did end up changing careers from accounting to teaching elementary school. But still, the amphetamines boost my willpower to address problems proactively and shorten my decision-making time. I'm substantially better at my job with than without them.
I always felt like I had this process accelerated a bit, but not in the typical "I'm mature beyond my years" way. My mom died as a result of her alcoholism when I was a kid, and though I haven't always been able to put it into words, I think it gave me an unfortunately early obsession with mortality and the passage of time. Ever since I've had such a fixation on the day my dad is going to die, as well as the inevitability of my own death. I had my grandparents as a second set of parents which really helped me to feel taken care of without her, but now they're gone as well and my outlook is increasingly bleak. I'm increasingly obsessed with fatalistic worries, like wondering whether I'm "destined" to be an alcoholic as well. I'm 22 and it's just frustrating to feel so world weary at such a relatively young age, and to feel like it's only going to get worse from here. I'm so cynical and angry all the time for seemingly no reason, at a time in my life when I feel like I should be the most carefree. Having just graduated college I'm already seeing the inevitable drifting of friends, and at the same time the "impending depression" as a result of the pandemic has me worried about my prospects of establishing a good career. A career that I don't even know if I would like, since I just kind of marched through school without any particular passion for my major. I went to a great school, did well and made plenty of friends, yet none of these achievements seem to alleviate the stress I'm feeling. I have a dream of doing stand-up, but can never find the motivation to write a set. Instead I waste my time arguing on reddit about pointless minutiae and feel like such a bitter loser, and I guess I just really don't want to be nothing more than a bitter loser. Sorry for the long comment on a years-old video, but I guess you verbalized the worries I've been having almost exactly, and it's hitting hard.
When I compare my life to others, there's often a moment of envy, followed by a longer period of melancholy because I know that I wouldn't want my life to be like theirs either.
It's a good point. Yesterday I visited a friend of mine who just had a new baby. On the one hand, I envied how mature he was, on the other hand, I appreciated my own freedom as someone with fewer adult obligations. But then I felt guilty about being happy to be immature.
So I’m 33 myself on Oct 18th. I live in Alabama and my folks are in Idaho my sisters (both married with kids) are in Washington state. I really struggle with being so far away and and my aging parents are an increasing worry. I’m finally in a career field I feel enjoyable and with a solid future. That being said I don’t own a house nor am I married with kids. This is hard for me as a practicing Catholic, since most 30 something’s are married with kids. I struggle with self doubt and at time confidence. In July a year long relationships ended with a woman I wanted to marry against my wishes. It was intensely painful and took me months to move past. It truly was the worst and deepest emotional pain I’ve been through, soul crushing in fact. I’m doing fine now and am ready to start dating again though this relationship will always be with me. Overall a agree and have experienced in some way what you said! I’m a new viewer and like what I’ve seen so far, maybe I’ll branch out and watch your political stuff or read it or whatever. Good work and love the funny content.
I related to most of these all too well. One thing that I have experienced differently is having a child at a younger age. I've had to wait a decade for people in my peer group to start having families and kids and I find myself often getting bitter about a) how much of my youth I missed out on while changing nappies (diapers) or doing the school runs or having to stay home because everyone else was out partying and we didn't have a babysitter and b) how much more support they've got than we had because they had careers and homes and things like that before having a kid. more often than not these people who now do the "flood your newsfeed with photos of their kids" thing seem to be the same people that ten years ago said they'd never have kids or were very hostile or cagey about the fact that I was a parent. I think I've just said more than I probably should but that's what sprung to mind as I was letting it all sink in.
Hi J.J. I think it is very interesting is you do a video about how to address Canadian judges in court, it is kind of complicated and different in every level of every province. (One of the term used is " your worship" )
8thAmendment Gamer a bunch of corrupted bastards lead literally by an alcoholic the brits have had enough so are leaving the Eu are pissed off that they gone be bankrupt with out the Brit cash bags so try to punish them ain’t going well brits happy Eu mad and junker still drunk their That’s the current state of the Eu parliament
What have you done to me!!! I've been anxious since yesterday. I couldn't sleep and all that anxious stuff. It has been a long time since a piece of content moved me so much. Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaagh! I need a hug. P.S.: Being able to sumarize this situation so direct and powerfully means you have a good insight, courage, and great content creation skills. Good job, J.J.
I'm about your age, I ended up taking care of my folks mid 20's as they were both struck by terminal illness. When they passed away I had come to realize how awful their siblings had been to them and consequently I cut off all ties with the extended family about five years ago.. Ever since it's been such a source of relief and happiness to me. Maybe it's because I've grown into a curmudgeon, but I honestly never liked those people. Even around Christmas, although I miss my parents deeply, not having to spend it around their nasty boomer siblings evokes it's own sense of magical awe.
For me I do compare my life progress to others, but what I find is worse for me is looking forward to these benchmarks with really skewed expectations. As a kid it's a bit easier to do for example "I can't wait until highschool, they seem so cool and smart and they can drive and do almost whatever they want". Or " I can't wait until college/university, I'll be an adult and will do all the cool things I want to do. All while learning about subjects I have always be interested in". Or "I can't wait until I graduate and have everything figured out" ha. It's this thinking that once I reach a certain point things will all magically make sense and I will be happy and confident with a stable consistent life. I will be an adult with things all figured out. But that isn't how life works. There is no real point where in your mind you feel like "now you are an adult". You don't all of a sudden gain a whole bunch of wisdom like that. It is such a slow progression that it almost feels like nothing is changing. And for me this kind of thinking also keeps me from living in the now. I need to work on myself now, otherwise nothing will just magically happen.
34. Gone back to college. Hanging out with eighteen-year-olds. I'm not sure whether it's making me feel older or younger. I'm a first-year college student, and sometimes just feel like one. Other times, I have to consciously refrain from calling my classmates "kids".
tfw one of my old high school friends might be my professor at some point because I'm 28 and haven't graduated yet, while he's doing his PhD in the same university... no better way to have a "progress comparison", such as mentioned by JJ, hit you home.
TRiG (Ireland) don’t get discourage!!! Keep at it.. I graduated at the age of 30...
Didn't feel too odd on the 19 yr. plan. Started Hawaii Loa 1990, grad UHWO 2009. Met younger Socialist professor, just had to shake my head at such whack. Was a "Josh" too.
I know what you are going though but because I haven't finished yet my mental health and learning disabilities have slowed me down and taking it part time.
@@arsnakehert I too haven't finished and have had younger or very close aged professors and same friends are professors or working in the college in other ways if not have high degrees . My mental health and learning disabilities has slowed me down to finish average time while yeah they if go past bachelors have gotten those degrees even some that didn't start right after highschool.
The nostalgia point is sickeningly accurate . Such a double edged emotion.
Makes you happy but then you get sad after thinking of the good times
I'm 33 now, and I can relate to that awkward self-consciousness of getting older.
But the thing is, fear of aging is not limited to adults. When I was a pre-teen, I was terrified of leaving childhood to the point of denial, and I didn't begin to appreciate that phase until I was 16-17. I'm trying to learn from that experience and embrace each stage. Don't let the fear of growing old cripple you. Life is precious at any age.
I am 22 and I wish I was a kid of 9-17 years for the rest of my life
@@mapofthesoultagme7143 It's normal to look back to our previous lives with nostalgia, but as time moves on you'll realise how much you had now. I used to be nostalgic of my childhood and teenage years when I was your age. Now I am nostalgic of my twenties. And I'll probably be nostalgic of my thirties in the future. 22 is a beautiful age, make the most of it!
Well said thanks I feel that way a lot
Turning 67 this year, imagine all your grandparents, parents, aunts and uncles, siblings, school mates and friends all passing away, almost every day, funeral after funeral and knowing full well you could be next, oh yes getting older is just wonderful.
Wow, that’s pretty scary. Thank you for sharing.
Well shit Dennis
@@ChocolateThunda1345 💀💀
I am 55 and you are right on the money my friend.
@@ChocolateThunda1345 Sadly Dennis is incredibly honest. It hurts
I'm only 17 so this was actually quite eye opening for me thankyou JJ
I'm amazed that any teenager even wishes to have their eyes opened. Lol!
No, but it's great. You're unique, OP. Stay that way.
@@Usammityduzntafraidofanythin not all young people are close minded boomer
Same here, I'm 17 as I'm watching this and I'm just here like 👁️👄👁️,,, much to think about
@Alexa Tri nothing to worry about. I’m 67 and still look forward to learning and doing new and more things. Just a little slower and a little forgetful!
Your 20 now lol
Thank you dude, this is exactly the video I needed to see, showing me that I'm not the only one dealing with those feelings. I'm 27 and gone back to college after I failed the first time. I especially relate to feeling like I'm behind in the game of life, and constantly comparing myself to other people my age, as I don't have a stable career yet, or a college degree, which pains me every day. My studies are going great now, but I just wish I could turn back the clock nine years and start university again with all the maturity I have right now.
Another thing that is really hard, is that people or celebrities I knew grewing up age as well. I know that doesn't sound that bad, but it's like a hit in the face when you look those people up and realize how much time actually passed.
I think being a lot on the internet adds to this feeling, as the internet is constantly hungry for new content, and everything ages extremely quickly online.
I feel like I'm not quite here nor there, not a teenager anymore but not quite an adult either. It's a horrible feeling of not belonging, and most of all running out of time.
Probably nobody is going to read this, but I just needed to get it out of my system.
I know you commented a year ago, but I think it’s great you are going back to university! I work with youth and I often see this attitude where folks who are young think they’ll have irreversibly messed up their lives at 19 or even 25 and it’s like WOAH WOAH WOAH. you are NEVER too old and it is NEVER too late. And as I get older myself I feel even more strongly about this. So kudos to you! I think it takes a tremendous amount of determination and even courage to return to university at an age where you are likely the oldest. I often felt like the older students in my higher education experiences always got the most out of it because they were mature enough to appreciate it, and they had more experience under their belt and contextualize whatever they were learning. Anyway, I hope you are doing well!
This video is so painfully accurate for me. I'm 29 years old and it's been hitting me pretty hard that this is the last year of my 20s. In a way I'm excited to enter my 30s because my 20s were such a mess, but it's also strange entering that liminal space where you're not really young, but you're not middle-aged, either. The points in this video that resonated with me the most are the ones about life progress (though I've always been envious of others' achievements and tried to compete with them) and the one about bodies decaying/wearing out (I was diagnosed with a chronic digestive illness last year and it causes unbearable pain at times). Anyway, this is a really spot-on video and I'm think about sharing it to my blog. Thanks for uploading and being so honest.
Dora Robertson Thank YOU for your thoughtful response!
When I turned 30 I was relieved that my 20s were over. But 30 is the same as 29. You still deal with the same issues you did the year prior, you just have less time, less energy, and less f*cks to give with each year that passes after 30. Having less time and less energy and more responsibility really puts your true priorities and the things you want for yourself into sharper focus, at least it did for me. Don't stress 30. I'm having a better time now in my 30s than I did in my 20s.
I've been dealing with chronic pain problems since my early 20's, and until the last few years I just dealt with and lived on. But over time it really limits you on what you can do, or even feel like doing until it gets to a point in your late 20's (I'm 28) where you begin to feel like you're REALLY falling behind in many respects. Frankly I've very much come to avoid socializing a lot lately because the the first conversation starters are always those "what do you do for a living blah blah blah". So yes, rather stressful.
As an otherwise healthy Male, 100 lbs too much of it, I did not have to sweat too much of it spending my 29th birthday in the hospital, recovering of a months coma with TBI &c. I hope you have a character that will make these calendar changes like water of a duck's back for you. My younger sister seems to have such resilience also. She is a bit of a contemporary feminist, so I cannot presume to tell you how to feel, but age is just a number. That auto smash was in the waning Clinton years, and I feel better now, unfulfillment be damned.
Middle age around 30 is ridiculous , according gary life coach guy say for us guys life started for us this is why our late 20s feel so alien and lost to start to realise that pillars of familiar structure of high school, college, uni is finally gone and life has one massive deep sea.
I just turned 30 this year, and I related to all eight of these and have had personal experience with all of them. Wow.
Im older then you and can relate to a lot of things you say. Yes. Jj
Robert G I think everyone does! It’s just a topic most people want to avoid having. The years only seem to go by faster and faster.
I kind of just want to skip from 24 to 40. And I just realized why I have such a hard time internalizing that I'll be in my late 20s at some point in my life. I really don't want to go through dealing with expectations to have a husband, family, and kids by age 30. I just want to skip out on that and go to 40 and hope that shit worked out on its own.
Did it?
I hate that my childhood dog is getting older. And I just played with him for the first time in weeks. He wasn’t as vigorous but it brought back old memories
I just turned 30 a month ago and this video couldn’t be more accurate.
Hi Lachlan
Another thing that happens is that you start to realize how short life really is. You realize that you are the age your parents were when you came into this world, and you look at them now and realize you're halfway there. Or, if they are deceased, you have a kind of early-onset midlife crisis.
I'm 26 and I've feeling a lot like that for the last 2 or 3 years. Your video is very accurate.
Thank you so much for this video. Now I know I am not alone. I wished I knew about or more people talked about these truths when I was younger so that I could prepare for all the stressful transions to adulthood. We try to give the best everything to our children but sometimes we shelter them from important lessons on how the world works. Honestly I felt so insecure and betrayed at first when I found out what aging means. All the parents must have worked so hard for their children to grow up carefree and faithful. Thank you mom and dad.
The consensus I normally stick to JJ is this: when you’re growing up, your gonna have at least one big thing that’s gonna kind of scare you in adulthood. My mom had cancer, my uncle was in a bad car accident, me and my other uncle have both had bad dental issues… it can be a little scary, but just remember that doctors are your friends and that things will generally be okay in the end (just take care of yourself!)
being someone just beginning to enter the weird scary health stuff, this is actually really comforting to know.
Also 33 and a big fan of your channel. I think you left out some positive things, like being less concerned about change, and learning that bad situations don't last. For me that makes up for any worries that I'm not keeping up with my friends.
God, I'm only 20, and I relate to all of these... I've always been mature for my age, and my family started falling apart while I was in high school, and my parents came to me a lot, and it was very stressful having to deal with those kinds of things when I was just a teenager.
20? Please shush
Strummin' my pain with his fingers, singin' my life with his words... This is a great topic. I tremendously appreciate this video.
Great points, same age in calgary here, one thing I have really noticed since my later 20’s is how fast time flys by now. A year used to feel like a long time, but a month is no longer enough time to get anything done, and when I think of events as a teenager I realize it was decades ago
Great post. As a man who just turned 34, I can relate to all of these in some way. Something I would add is that for some of us, our lives actually get a lot better as we leave our twenties. Every year after 29 has improved. I'm in better physical shape now than ever before, but more importantly, I like the way my mind works. I would now like to freeze myself as a physical 34 year old for the next century of life.
This was a great video... I really appreciated having somebody of my age bringing these feelings out into the open, because it makes me feel somehow more normal and less insecure about the very things you mentioned.
Yes to pretty much all these points! The part about not being able to hang out with friends with their own families is particularly poignant. it is tough for someone who is single or doesn't have kids to try to finds ways to be social with their friends that do. Not impossible, but pretty tough to get schedules aligned, etc.
Thanks so much for making this vid, JJ! I'll be sharing this far and wide.
Spot on ... spot on ... you touched on many truths. Well done.
Thank you JJ, I’m currently 24 and it was comforting to hear someone talk about ageing in such a graceful manner!
Also I always enjoy your videos, so keep em up man and all the best!!!
#4 hit me like a truck. I know the exact feeling you're talking about. I'm 22 and I feel like that regarding my degree. I'm staying an extra year while a lot of my classmates are graduating. But what you're talking about is on a bigger scale. Kinda scares you when you actually start thinking about it lol. Great video nonetheless!
Hey 4 years later how do you feel about this? Where are you now in your life? I’m curious!
This still is your most timeless video! And one of the most important ones for me personally. I'm 22 right now, so I'm in the first readjustment between parents and kids. The "comparing yourself to others" part is also very difficult for me to get used to. Some of my old classmates are married, have kids, have a stable career and that is... tough to swallow, although I'm accepting differences more and more.
I just turned 23 and I relate to all of these points... Parents relying on you, back pains, envying other people's relationships and life successes, fashion, etc. It's all too real.
Well done! Great how you are able to put a lot of my thoughts into words. I experienced in the last years and up to this day a lot of the above mentioned things/problems/thoughts. Some weird kind of body decay, everyone getting soo old, people die.... to much responsibility while still thinking I’m not mature enough and not getting any further in life. Kind of depressing. But thanks for making that video. I’m currently 35.
I relate to many of these points (I'm 31) and to help with these I've found 2 "cures": 1/ have a big project to change my life (I'm coming to Canada, Vancouver actually, maybe I'll cross the path of JJMC in the future ? :) ) and 2/ I've found a new job with interesting and new things to do: Working on new things prevents nostalgia (you can't compare with how it was before) and set incentive for the future. Hope it helps.
you're the best J.J. btw I'm 13
GAMEINFORMER404 I'm 13 too.
I’m 14
I'm 12
I'm 14 as of May 2020.
I’m 15
You're always incredibly honest and I appreciate that
I'm only a few months younger than you (turning 33 later this month) and yes, I can agree with a fair amount of your video.
I've had to stop playing football (soccer) each week due to my knee, I'm always conscious that I dress exactly the same way that I did as a teenager (goofy tshirts) so I don't look like a grown-up man with a job and responsibilities and stuff - though I do apparently have the left knee of a 65 year old...
26 and I was literally thinking about all this yesterday. Thank you for this vid my dude
I'm 25 and it hurts so much to think about how far away I am from those good times. Thank you for all the work you do, JJ
Hi JJ. I'm 36 and I feel very much the same, except for the part where you say our strength is shorter after we hit the 30s. I'd say that's when excercising gets really important to maintain our health. I started working out when I became 33. It makes me feel really well, I strongly recommend you try it out!
20. Very relatable, and for the truths that are less relatable, they were things i’ve kept in the back of my mind for a while that I think are good things to mentally prepare for in the future. Great video.
One of your best videos, thank you jj
Hey JJ, I've recently just started watching your videos. Although there are some things about Canadian politics and other issues we share very different opinions on, I appreciate you voicing your opinions and want to thank you for putting this serious video out here. It really helps to get some perspective into an issue as important and less-spoken-about like this one (getting older) - so, thanks! :)
PS - jealous of your hair.
JJ, I do realize that it is not really pleasant for you to see that those kind of videos are not that well-viewed as, to say, your videos about Canada, but this one was actually very thoughtful and I would even say thought-provoking, and at the same time very touching.
Thanks a lot for that, and I'm really looking forward to seeing videos like this in the future!
Miron from Belarus
Hey JJ, nice video. I'm only 24 but I relate to a lot of what you were saying. One thing I'll add is that in my case anyway, getting older has been accompanied by the realization that I am not as good a person as I thought I was. Maybe other people feel the same. Something about enough mistakes accumulating to the point where ice realized I don't really have a leg to stand on character wise, and that being a good man is a constant practice rather than an innate characteristic, at least in my case. This did make me sad as I've realized it, because I've felt like a disappointment to myself and my parents and loved ones, but ultimately I welcome the lesson, because I can go forward and actively try to be better rather than merely assume that I will be.
I'm 64 and yes you are now at your peak J.J. enjoy it. One myth is that age brings wisdom. It doesn't but does bring perspective and that's almost as good.
Next fav video. So many things to think about. But also because you say about a lot and it sounds fantastic
34 and I can vouch for this whole video.
I feel that parents one HARD man! After I moved out at 19, I called my mom almost everyday and I still do because I honestly miss having her around like when I was growing up. But hey JJ, we're all getting older together, so we might as well have some fun with it! I just try to put everything into each day and take it one sunrise at a time. Thanks for you're awesome insight man!
Did 🅱️ou just assume their gender?!?!
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Great video! I really appreciated this because these issues have weighed on me lately, and they have manifested in unfortunate tangible ways. Incessantly thinking about most of the concerns you list has snowballed into two months of terrible insomnia for me, which I'm just getting over (I hope). I guess the only real therapy is discussing these concerns more often. Clearly everyone in this demographic frets about these issues; I'm glad you addressed this topic!
How old are you, Scott?
Twenty-three. As silly as it may seem, I always feel like I’m fighting time, trying to keep up - as if I’m decades older than I am. It’s reassuring to know 20somethings all feel this, but I never expected the insomnia reaction to it. However, I am getting regular sleep lately, and it’s partly out of slowly changing my mindset.
Hey JJ, thanks for sharing. Honestly at 24 I am only now begaining to relate to most of these. I find myself exploring a lot of the things would have been to nervous about exploring when I was in high school. Like trying Marijuana now that it is legal, or experimenting with how I dress, my ideas and outlook have changed over the course of my life and I find myself much more liberal than in the past. These are all very interesting facts and indeed a very enlightening video! Keep them coming, thanks again
Hi JJ!
I'm 46, and will be 47 in the spring time....50 is creeping up rather quickly! I can attest to what you have to say, with everything. I miss Christmas as a kid, and I miss 80s tv shows and music. I am very cynical of issues, especially politicians I support. Your body does change, such as hair loss or hair growth on one's body. My metabolism has definitely changed. And, I understood why so many families are dysfunctional.
34 and I couldn't agree with you more. Keep up the great content JJ.
Hey JJ, great video! Keep up the good work.
I'm a 74-year old fan and this is one of my favorite of your videos. I gave up reading or watching the news over 10 years ago. There was little I could personally do to change things added only served to raise my blood pressure. I prefer to think of it as realistic rather than cynical. But that is only semantics.
I'm 26 (commonly think a lot I'm 25... Then I realise I am older than I thought... That is tough too) and you reminded to me in the point when you spoke about your parents. It is totally true! You never realise your parents still get older until you are old too... But I think those feelings are necessary to get into the next era of your life: when you start being the totally trustful version of you, when get covered and hide feelings or thoughts to the others is not an option anymore. I think it still IS beautiful.
I've recently turned 36 and understand everything you said. Quite mature analisis on aging. I myself meet more pros than cons.
Interesting video. I'm 19 and this puts things into perspective. I want to do things now which will make me satisfied when I'm older. When you're young it's easy to think that things will always be the same as now so you slack off/put off opportunities.
I completely agree! I wouldn't say I am more conservative or less optimistic, but I am definitely aware of the cycles like you mentioned. And I am most definitely nostalgic! However, it's neat to meet younger people who are actually interested in some of what I'm nostalgic about. I now understand why my grandparents and parents always liked when I appreciated things from their childhood and teen years.
I absolutely relate to everything you said, as I turned 30 not long ago. However, on the positive side, I also feel that I understand many things better than I used to, my opinions are more weighed and I can already teach someone something. Before, I mostly felt I'm very categorical and tend to take everything way too seriously, which complicates things. Now I take many things easier, though there are new problems appearing, and you mentioned many of them.
You nailed it. Every single truth is SO true. I'm a year your junior and female but those are universal truths.
37 year old here. Your observations are spot on for my age.
21 year old here watching every single one of your videos
Guillermo Frenk Same.
18.
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15 year old
Same
Guillermo Frenk 19 year old here. same.
Scary thing, I'm 17 and can kind of relate.
Luke Gibson Kids mature really fast these days. I don’t know if I’d want to be a teen growing up now.
J.J. McCullough oh, objectively, it's a far better time to be a kid, at least where I live. No corporal punishment, less teen pregnancy, less violent crime. I can also keep up with all my mates on the internet. It's just funny because my mates give me shit for being an old man.
21. same.
Kids do grow up really quickly these days. It's really weird seeing literal 11 year olds commenting on UA-cam videos, or in UA-cam videos, who say stuff that I'd imagine coming from the mouth of a 40 year old. I'd definitely not like to grow up nowadays. It was so nice to just be able to be a kid.
Enjoy your youth while you can.
I'm turning 60 this year. I find your comments bang on.
PS. you look better without the stash 👍
I'm 14 and this is the exact kind of content I need. Thank you, J.J.
I'm only 17, but I love your videos - keep up the good work.
I think this video accurately represents what getting older means.
Could you do a video on Canada's Dutch(speaking) population? About 10-15% of Canadians claim Dutch ancestry.
As for the eight truths, I definitely relate to a lot of them, turning 35 this month. I survived a car crash with a cracked vertebrae a couple years ago and have been living with low grade back pain since because at the time I was young enough that I didn’t take rehab particularly seriously. I’ve also somehow gotten both more cynical and more optimistic. Like you talked about, I’ve definitely gotten more cynical in the short term, but long term I’m pretty freaking optimistic. I mean, if you study history at all, you learn rather quickly that in the long run life tends to get better and it’s the progressive/let’s make things better for everyone types that win out, not the people who embrace whatever form of opposition to change and retreat to some idealized past us popular at the time.
"I'll be born in a week and experience this stuff, sad"
So true! Wish I saw this earlier. But you did make some of my assumption clear!
this is a great video for anyone in the 18-35 range. however, I have two quips. (I don't think these make it not worth watching, to be clear!)
1. the physical decline is strongly influenced by genes and lifestyle habits. we are aware of how much genes do, usually, but lifestyle habits are so much greater of an influence than people think. the biggest difference is simply lack of exercise; many people have manual labor (or at least "active") jobs in their early 20s, and many people played sports in college, and many people played sports in high school. they often -- especially after having kids -- completely discontinue their activity levels. this sort of habit maintenance is essential for maintaining youthfulness (physically). otherwise, the age at which people will face a kind of inevitable physical decline is between 40-55 (depending on what kind of decline we're talking about) but for most people it will be 55.
2. I think some people experience nostalgia and some people experience something like the horseshoe-opposite (as in horseshoe theory) of nostalgia. the biggest issue for me is a phenomenon I don't think we have a word for so I will call it nega-nostalgia. it's the feeling that time hasn't really passed, that things are still as they are, and you remember far too many things "like they were yesterday". it's less of a fondness for the past, and more of a panic at the present; an anxiety attack from how fast time has just Happened. I think the most common example of this nega-nostalgia phenomenon is those memes that go like "[popular thing] came out [10/15/20 years ago]" that are intended to induce that "my life is accelerating into the void" feeling.
There are a bunch of good things too. I need less sleep than I did when I was younger. I'm also more confident, I've learned that when put into a situation I can probably deal with it. I feel like I can actually help people now. Either with money, or guidance, or direction.
I think my spiritual life is more mature. I don't have to be quite so self centered.
I don't want to be 80 just yet, but I'm enjoying this phase of things. I'm 36. I gotta exercise more than before. But I don't feel any "curse of age" yet.
Motorcycle at 18 on parents insurance: “
“Wheeeee!”
Motorcycle at 24 on own insurance:
“Eeeeeeeeee!”
Excellent reflection on aging, JJ. As a fellow 30-something approaching middle age, I'm reminded of part of the lyric from the song "Janie Mac I'm Nearly 40" by the Wolfe Tones:
Have you noticed the policemen getting younger?
The busmen, they're getting younger too.
While all my friends are getting older.
But me, I stay the same. You know it's true.
Awesome video🌷 very insightful 😎👍
My thoughts
1. I'm 23 and my parents are 57 and 53, so I definitely see this starting to happen to me.
2. I definitely see who likes who more and more and who doesn't like.
3. I'm dating a girl now who has 2 kids, and I'm definitely finding myself spending a lot more time with her and her kids than with other friends and some family.
4. I'm trying to break out of still being a college student and establishing myself with a career, especially with the above reason.
5. My back, shoulders, and neck are always sore. Also my sleep is a lot more disrupted than when I was a teen.
6. I'm still in my early 20's, so this isn't quite a problem... Except some of my clothes still look like I'm a teenager rather than an adult.
7. Especially now that kids are involved in my life, I find myself becoming nostalgic about my childhood and how I'm becoming more like my dad.
8. Most of the current events aren't too interesting to me tbh.
I first saw this video when I was 12, and it was really eye opening, thanks JJ
I'm also 33, and I totally agree with it being a void age. The whole comparing my life to my peers is also painfully accurate, social media just exacerbates it, yet, on the face of it, I should be happy with my life. I'm married, have a house, have a dog, work close to home, relatively interesting job, a decent wage, however I look at aspects of other people lives and wish I had that, totally forgetting that for every 'win' in my eyes in their life, they may see a 'win' in my life. No matter how many god things you have in life, you want more! But I think that's just your 30s, the older you get the less you care about what other people are doing (or at least I hope!), my goal in life to be content with what I have.
Turning 33 in the Spring...weird time for sure. great video.
This channel is a true gem and ruby covered with the dirt of under-rat ness.. :( I love your channel !!!!!!
Funny... as I get older (41 now) I find myself comparing less and less to others. I am single with no kids and I have a strong feeling things will remain this way. On purpose. I just don't have a strong desire to start a family. I keep young by being a content creator as well as a primary school teacher in Asia. I enjoy keeping up on the younger generation's trends and even having conversations with 10 year olds about video games. It really does keep things fresh. I love it. Lonely at times? Yes sure but there's a freedom that comes with being on your own.
you are so honest! your videos so much! Thank you!
Thanks for the advice
I won’t have to deal with this for some time thankfully
Something that hits hard with me is the back and joint pain. I've personally had back pain since I was 13 and it's gotten progressively worse as I've aged, and since working at my current job it's been taking a real major toll on my joints, it's a real crippling thought because I'm only 20 and if I already have pain like this I can only imagine how I'll be when I'm 64 or something like that.
Stretching, working out and massage or chiropractice can help. And good posture. Don't let it get worse.
After binging a bunch of J.J.'s random videos I feel like he occasionally focuses a lot on 4.
Personally, I've found myself thinking about the clothing as you age. At least for me is hairstyle. Mines gotten shaggy since COVID-19 and I realized it looks like it did when I was a teen except there's a mid-thirties face peering out from behind my Bieber bangs.
I'm 31 and I recently went to my doctor and basically told him "I thought I'd be an adult by now, and yet I'd still much rather play video games and waste time than focus on my work. Is it possible that I have undiagnosed ADHD?" He prescribed some amphetamines and I can't believe how well they worked.
So that's a plus to becoming an adult - you become aware of some things that are actually wrong with you that can no longer be dismissed as immaturity. And then you can fix them.
I know this was almost half a decade ago but an important note is very many people lack drive and focus not as a result of their mental health but because they haven't found something that actually interests them or other issues stealing the energy from their passions. Try therapy before drugs!!!!!!!
@@georgeptolemy7260 I agree - I did end up changing careers from accounting to teaching elementary school. But still, the amphetamines boost my willpower to address problems proactively and shorten my decision-making time. I'm substantially better at my job with than without them.
@@cherkovision I am also prescribed the same meds and I understand what you're saying. Hope everything goes well!
I'm 32 and unfortunately I used the amphetamines to get better at video games
I always felt like I had this process accelerated a bit, but not in the typical "I'm mature beyond my years" way. My mom died as a result of her alcoholism when I was a kid, and though I haven't always been able to put it into words, I think it gave me an unfortunately early obsession with mortality and the passage of time. Ever since I've had such a fixation on the day my dad is going to die, as well as the inevitability of my own death. I had my grandparents as a second set of parents which really helped me to feel taken care of without her, but now they're gone as well and my outlook is increasingly bleak. I'm increasingly obsessed with fatalistic worries, like wondering whether I'm "destined" to be an alcoholic as well.
I'm 22 and it's just frustrating to feel so world weary at such a relatively young age, and to feel like it's only going to get worse from here. I'm so cynical and angry all the time for seemingly no reason, at a time in my life when I feel like I should be the most carefree. Having just graduated college I'm already seeing the inevitable drifting of friends, and at the same time the "impending depression" as a result of the pandemic has me worried about my prospects of establishing a good career. A career that I don't even know if I would like, since I just kind of marched through school without any particular passion for my major. I went to a great school, did well and made plenty of friends, yet none of these achievements seem to alleviate the stress I'm feeling.
I have a dream of doing stand-up, but can never find the motivation to write a set. Instead I waste my time arguing on reddit about pointless minutiae and feel like such a bitter loser, and I guess I just really don't want to be nothing more than a bitter loser.
Sorry for the long comment on a years-old video, but I guess you verbalized the worries I've been having almost exactly, and it's hitting hard.
When I compare my life to others, there's often a moment of envy, followed by a longer period of melancholy because I know that I wouldn't want my life to be like theirs either.
It's a good point. Yesterday I visited a friend of mine who just had a new baby. On the one hand, I envied how mature he was, on the other hand, I appreciated my own freedom as someone with fewer adult obligations. But then I felt guilty about being happy to be immature.
I'll soon turn 47. And I have to say this is a very good, very insightful video. Nice job, JJ.
So I’m 33 myself on Oct 18th. I live in Alabama and my folks are in Idaho my sisters (both married with kids) are in Washington state. I really struggle with being so far away and and my aging parents are an increasing worry.
I’m finally in a career field I feel enjoyable and with a solid future. That being said I don’t own a house nor am I married with kids. This is hard for me as a practicing Catholic, since most 30 something’s are married with kids. I struggle with self doubt and at time confidence. In July a year long relationships ended with a woman I wanted to marry against my wishes. It was intensely painful and took me months to move past. It truly was the worst and deepest emotional pain I’ve been through, soul crushing in fact. I’m doing fine now and am ready to start dating again though this relationship will always be with me. Overall a agree and have experienced in some way what you said! I’m a new viewer and like what I’ve seen so far, maybe I’ll branch out and watch your political stuff or read it or whatever. Good work and love the funny content.
I related to most of these all too well. One thing that I have experienced differently is having a child at a younger age. I've had to wait a decade for people in my peer group to start having families and kids and I find myself often getting bitter about a) how much of my youth I missed out on while changing nappies (diapers) or doing the school runs or having to stay home because everyone else was out partying and we didn't have a babysitter and b) how much more support they've got than we had because they had careers and homes and things like that before having a kid. more often than not these people who now do the "flood your newsfeed with photos of their kids" thing seem to be the same people that ten years ago said they'd never have kids or were very hostile or cagey about the fact that I was a parent. I think I've just said more than I probably should but that's what sprung to mind as I was letting it all sink in.
this was honestly pretty good advice. i'm 21 and needed to hear it. i also relate to some
Thank you for this great video
Hi J.J. I think it is very interesting is you do a video about how to address Canadian judges in court, it is kind of complicated and different in every level of every province. (One of the term used is " your worship" )
Truth said J.J
This is a really great video, I'm surprised I just found it now.
Could you make a video on the European Parliament?
8thAmendment Gamer a bunch of corrupted bastards lead literally by an alcoholic the brits have had enough so are leaving the Eu are pissed off that they gone be bankrupt with out the Brit cash bags so try to punish them ain’t going well brits happy Eu mad and junker still drunk their That’s the current state of the Eu parliament
When you abut to go to sleep but JJ uploads new video
Really awesome observations! I'm 1984 too
What have you done to me!!!
I've been anxious since yesterday. I couldn't sleep and all that anxious stuff.
It has been a long time since a piece of content moved me so much.
Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaagh!
I need a hug.
P.S.: Being able to sumarize this situation so direct and powerfully means you have a good insight, courage, and great content creation skills. Good job, J.J.
Erómeon Aw sorry! But thanks
No problem. These reflections could be unconfortable, but necessary. They're like vaccines.
Yup, can definitely relate to many of them!
I'm 29 and this video hit really close to home for me.
I'm about your age, I ended up taking care of my folks mid 20's as they were both struck by terminal illness. When they passed away I had come to realize how awful their siblings had been to them and consequently I cut off all ties with the extended family about five years ago.. Ever since it's been such a source of relief and happiness to me. Maybe it's because I've grown into a curmudgeon, but I honestly never liked those people. Even around Christmas, although I miss my parents deeply, not having to spend it around their nasty boomer siblings evokes it's own sense of magical awe.
For me I do compare my life progress to others, but what I find is worse for me is looking forward to these benchmarks with really skewed expectations. As a kid it's a bit easier to do for example "I can't wait until highschool, they seem so cool and smart and they can drive and do almost whatever they want". Or " I can't wait until college/university, I'll be an adult and will do all the cool things I want to do. All while learning about subjects I have always be interested in". Or "I can't wait until I graduate and have everything figured out" ha. It's this thinking that once I reach a certain point things will all magically make sense and I will be happy and confident with a stable consistent life. I will be an adult with things all figured out. But that isn't how life works. There is no real point where in your mind you feel like "now you are an adult". You don't all of a sudden gain a whole bunch of wisdom like that. It is such a slow progression that it almost feels like nothing is changing. And for me this kind of thinking also keeps me from living in the now. I need to work on myself now, otherwise nothing will just magically happen.