Why I stopped trying to be the “perfect mom”
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- Опубліковано 5 жов 2024
- If you are feeling overwhelmed by the demands of our modern culture, you are not alone. There is another way. This is my story of how I dramatically changed my life as a mom.
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If you're new here, welcome! I'm Madi, creating videos about minimalism and slow living every Wednesday. In my videos you will see my minimalist home, my capsule wardrobe, decluttering, inspiration for slow living with kids, intentional living, minimalist finances, things I no longer buy, things I no longer own, things I buy more of as a minimalist, and just overall my passion and inspiration for simple living!
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Why I stopped trying to be the perfect mom.
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It takes so much courage for parents to raise their children the way they want to, rather than the way society tells us we're " supposed " to. Before I started homeschooling, I was told by so many people that I couldn't or shouldn't... We're in our fourth year, now. Thanks for being such an inspiration, Madi!
Thank you for being here Amanda. I’m so grateful for a community of like minded people like you ❤️
Same here!!😲 Good for you sister!!🙌💖
It takes a lot of courage and strength to be who we want to be, instead of what is expected from us. This is such an important lesson for our children. ❤️
Ugh it's so hard with the negativity of society with homebirth and homeschool. We are pulling our autistic 5 year old son to homeschool and I know in my gut it's the right thing.
@@alonnaaltman8794 good for you mama!!🙌
If you ever need any help, please don't hesitate asking! May God guide you and bless you!
I'm 50 years old with grown adult children and grandchildren, but I stumbled across your account a while back and I watch every video you post. I have for months! Your message goes far beyond the season of life with young children in the home. You are wise beyond your years and the world needs more women like you who demonstrate faith in God and value in a life centered on the things that matter most. God bless you for sharing your light!
Gosh thank you Penelope. I’m so glad you have enjoyed watching ❤️
“Hanging out with ppl I don’t share values with” such a polite way to put it and truly resonates❤
I implore anyone watching this to take on this path. My children are now young adults and if i had my time again i would live with absolute minimalism so that i had more time with my children rather than burdened with managing clutter. This is such a beautiful video. Thank you
Thank you for your support ❤️
Exactly 😢 me too!!! Was so busy keeping all the clutter clean! Was simply exhausting when I should’ve been enjoying my family instead! Now that they’re older, I say yes to a lot more activities and the rest can just wait!
This video is probably the most important message for our entire world right now. I am 57 and a grandmother and it seems the world has forgotten the simple precious magic moments that fill our Souls, thanks again ❤
Thanks for watching ❤️
I can relate to this so much.
I am a homeschool mom of 3 boys.
Chasing peace and not perfection.
So glad it resonated with you Makayla ❤️
I love the way your children playing in the garden, that every activity is a game for them !
They are the masters of play ❤️
@@MadisunGray
I've been a mother for 7 months and I've been wrestling with so much of what you talked about. Your channel has been a favorite for me. I love your restful lifestyle. It's inspiring. Thank you!
Wow. This is so sweet. I’m so glad this video resonated with you ❤️
My 5 boys are all grown up now and I have 3 grandchildren which is so beautiful. I brought my boys up the way I wanted and homeschooled too for a while. It was always out the box and it took so much courage to be a mum that followed her heart. I’m still learning how to let go, worry less and live simply. Thank you 🙏 Well done for creating your course Madison. Xx Love your content, your heart and your attitude to life. X
Thank you so much for watching ❤️
Dear Madi, I've been watching, listening to you for a little while. I'm older now, 72, hard to say it! So true, where did the time go? I've been through the major part of my life with the majority of it learning and teaching about Jesus and his word. I love that you are, too! I am so happy for you to have thought out and found a slower pace of life at your age! I've spent mine raising my 3 children, in the church as a pastor's wife, going to college later, all the while working to help support. I retired as an early childcare provider/teacher trainer, only to open a new center for our community low income as well as mother's in our shelter so they can go to work or school. I'm telling you all of this because my biggest regrets are not spending quality time with my own kids and living with chaos and clutter. I love simple and order, but never enough time to keep at it. Now I've been able to straighten up, clear out and create a much more calming and peaceful environment in my home. I'm so thankful to you and others on this same journey! I have more time to devote to what is important, time with God, family and friends!!💗
Thank you for the kind words Becky ❤️
I am not a mother but I feel like I am going through a very similiar thing with just graduating from uni but not really fitting into the hustle life and culture... Slow living is something I feel fits for me🧡
It’s for everyone ❤️
Thank you for this , my children are now 21 and 17 and I felt like this for so many years . They are incredible kids and I’m so proud of them but at what cost of me. ! I’m turning 50 this years and I’m tired from keeping it all together. I have spent so many years trying to make it all perfect I have lost myself as I can’t say no and Im worn out . Great video as I’m building a new way of movement forward . Thank you thank you x
Thank you 🤎
Wow! The video felt so peaceful and comforting! I feel like the things of this life that are not important, take the joy from the things that are. I want to be happy for my kids and husband instead of being so stressed out. looking forward to the course😊
So true. Thanks for watching Bridget ❤️
I listen to you as undeclared and I’m even crying . I’m
Not a mom , maybe one day I hope . It hasn’t happen yet. that’s besides the point . I’m just so happy I found you .
I really enjoy your videos- I have the same thoughts as you! When I tell people that I have 9 kids they always think I’m so busy but I don’t feel busy… especially when my baby is 3 i feel I have so much more time now! Living and watching toddlers has always inspired me- they enjoy the littlest things and have so much joy. They are a lot of work but it’s good work. We love being outside and nature always will be our favorite place!
Love that ❤️
Congrats, Madi! I spent the first year of my oldest son’s life documenting everything until I shut it all down and got present. Now he is 5 and my youngest son is over 2.5 and the school business has overtaken. Here I am with another sore throat wondering how to find slow again and that sense of ease and stop my scattered eyes from darting for direction. I thoroughly look forward to your course💗
Thank you for your support ❤️
Homeschool can give you back your priorities and freedom
Hi Madi!! Thanks for always being a huge encouragement in this community 🙏
I remember the big backlash I received when I decided I wanted to homeschooling my kids because I wanted to be with them no matter how messy or perfect our days would look to other people's eyes!
It takes courage to go the opposite way and to keep on going without giving in to your doubts!
God bless 🙏💖
So grateful for your support ❤️
I got the same response at times! Spending time with our kids is a blessing, even on the tough days! Culture tells us that we can do it all and have it all as women, but we simply cannot. If we are mothers, then we need to be mothers. What better job is that?
@@elizabethlelchuk1798 Amen to that, sister 🙏
A book that helped me staying on my own path, was Mother Culture by Karen Andreola💝🙏🤗
@@HerCupOfSIMPLE Will have to check that out! Thank you for that suggestion!
this hits home because more and more its been apparent to me that I don't have time to do things with the kids and have the fun and connection I want because im busy taking care of all the things in my house.
It’s so true. I’m so glad this resonated with you ❤️
This shifts so hard when they become teenagers and are influenced by friends. But it is my fault for allowing social media to creep in. I also can't afford to stay home and homeschool, so the peer pressure at school is crazy. This was me when my girls were small though. :)
Hi Madi 🙂Your story of becoming a mom is so similar to mine. I struggled so hard with PPDA and I know some of it was due to unrealistic expectations on my part. I feel like so many of us walk that path of preparing for motherhood with all these expectations that leave us with a perfect picture to live up to. And then reality hits and everything falls apart. Anyway, thanks so much for all you share with us. I only found your channel a few weeks ago and you have already taught me so much. Thanks for being you. Love and blessings to you and your sweet family.
Gosh this is so sweet. I’m so glad my videos have resonated with you ❤️
You so clearly articulate what my heart/mind is trying to tell me to change 😂 Literally every time I watch a new video of yours. You have a gift girl. Thank you
Wow. This is so sweet. Thank you Ellery ❤️
Oh my goodness, this video speaks straight to my heart. I am in tears while watching this video. My inner self has been screaming this for years but I have never had the courage to finally stop “people pleasing” Thank you for this video❤️
I like your calm voice and energy. Glad to find your channel.
Thank you for watching Nichole ❤️
You are one of the most inspiring content creators I get to watch. You're not just encouraging us to live our best lives, you're demonstrating it.
Wow. Thank you so much ❤️
Watching this video brought me to tears. It is almost like hearing my own thoughts be spoken aloud by someone else. I have taken this approach in raising my children too, and the amount of comments I have received from other young women in their 20s began to be disheartening. I wondered if maybe I am making a mistake by living a slow, simple, "boring", stay-at-home mom lifestyle. The more I sat with the idea, the more I realized that it might not suit everyone, but boy are my children and my husband going to remember how I was there with them. How I was present in their lives, and cherished moments with them. How I created a beautiful environment for the sacred time of childhood. I've completely stopped comparing myself to other moms, other people in general, and just follow my heart. I have never been more free. Thank you for spreading this message, because not enough women are told that living this life is okay.
THIS ❤️ comparison is a huge trap.
This is my favourite video yet! I became a new mam 8 months ago and I definitely went through the Pinterest phase of wanting everything perfect before he arrived, completely ridiculous! There are so many things I didn't need and I prioritised stuff over planning for practical things such as healthy meals when I couldn't be bothered to cook etc. If I'm lucky enough to have another child, I will definitely take these lessons on board!! Thank you, hope you're having a great week, well done on the course, it looks great xxx
This is so sweet. Thank you Carley ❤️
You’re helping me more than I know. I’m exactly where you were as a mom. I’m trying, I’m coming and I can’t wait! Everyday I’m improving. Thanks Madi!🤍
I'm so glad! ❤️
I been following u for a while. There is something abt you. Something very special. So soothing! Your voice, ur clothes, ur camera angel, ur overall vibe. Your soul is very beautiful. Thank u for helping us all find peace once again while we living in this chaotic world.
Thank you for sharing your experience as a mom here on UA-cam. My husband and I am trying to have a baby in our 30's and in the process of looking into buying a home for our future children to grow up in. I'm decluttering our belongings right now to make space not only for our future children, but also for my mental health. I get so stressed out with a lot of clutter and too much stuff and I'm also breaking my shopping addiction too. Thank for being a great inspiration for other women on this platform. I will definitely look into your course.
This is so exciting! Congratulations! You are going to help us women so much with this course❤️
Thank you Grace. I really hope so ❤️
‘Wholehearted’ is a goooood word. Your videos speak to my soul and I watch them over and over and when I’m feeling out of touch you bring me back to inspiration. Thank you thank you thank you ❤
This is so sweet Casey. Thank you ❤️
I can so relate to "all the things" to be the perfect parent. I love how you said you're making space for your children's childhood. Your videos are so beautiful, meaningful & inspiring that I often watch each one 2-3 times.
Thank you for your support and taking the time to comment ❤️
You’re so amazing. Thank you so much my dear friend- who I don’t know in real life- but has changed my life so wonderfully. How amazing is that. 💙
I’m so glad my videos has resonated with you Kasey ❤️
I wish they had hd UA-cam and your course when I was a mother of littles. My littles are 32 and 29x2. Good luck with your course and I hope young women understand what a blessing your channel is. ❤️
Thank you so much Leigh ❤️
this is absolutely spot on and I resonate with every sentiment 💖 I’m also a mother of two and have gone through a very similar transformation since having my beautiful children. I’m forever thankful for the way they have changed my life 🙏🏼 thank you for sharing this wisdom for us!
Thank you for watching Destiny ❤️
I would have loved to see your videos when my daughter was still small ( now she is 26) , you repeate the essence of life we all long for
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I signed up! I can’t wait. As a Biblical mentor and certified coach it is one of the biggest regrets or guilts of mothers’ hearts. Am I enough, did I do enough, can I be better. So much hurtful self-talk. Thank you for taking the time and energy to discuss this and also to address it and the truth of what is actually important. Can’t wait to sign up for your course! ❤❤
Wow. Thank you so much Emily. And thank you for your support over the years. I truly appreciate it. ❤️❤️
What a great idea with the masterclass Madi!
Thank you Marissa ❤️ I’ve poured so much into it.
Congratulations on your new course!! That is absolutely amazing. I love watching God work in your life!!
Thank you so much ❤️
Oh wow are those the pacific dunes? We stayed there for two weeks right on them! It was magical! Good luck with your course!❤
Yes Melissa! In Pismo Beach. Absolutely stunning.
I feel like you take the words and feelings that I cannot express out loud right out of my mouth.
When I listen to your videos, I’m like Yes! She’s so right! That’s exactly it!
Thank you for sharing!
I am so glad it resonated with you ❤️ thank you for supporting my work.
Your message rings true for those of us who aren’t mothers, too. Thank you for your insight and I look forward to your course 😊
Wow. Thank you so much Katherine. I can’t wait for the course too ❤️
This may have been my favorite video yet. ☺️ I have been following you for so long but now that I am half way to having my own child, everything means even more than it did before.
I’m so glad. Thank you for support over the years ❤️
Thank you so much for this video. I feel every word. I was struggling a long time with the modern world. But me kids give me the power to find my own way, for them and for myself. Thanks for inspiring me wird your videos. Greetings from Germany
Thank you for watching. I’m so glad this resonated with you. Love to Germany ❤️
This has been the most powerful vlog for me so far! I am looking into this course! Thank you!
I hope you love it ❤️
I’d love MORE motherhood videos please! Your videos calm and inspire me thank you so much ❤
Yes I love them too!
This was my favourite video❤ I am still struggling to find the right balance in my life and motherhood, I want simplicity and to be energised by just living by my heart. Currently fatigued and burnt out living expectations, still finding my way. Thanks for sharing, such a lovely video ✨
Thank you for watching. I appreciate your support ❤️
I'm grateful to have found your channel
😘 thanks friend
Absolutely heartwarming. Thank you for being you and helping spark that fire inside of me, allowing me to know there are others out there feeling what I am feeling. 🙏
You are so welcome ❤️
I adore your videos! I would love to see a video of your daily rhythm! I'm succeeding at not over cluttering my schedule, but a lot of my days I feel we are lollygagging, and not in a good way. I'd love some inspiration!
Good idea. Thank you Layne ❤️
When I watch your videos, I can feel the guilt of wanting to sit still lift away. Thank you for the reminders to live simply.
I’m so glad Danica ❤️
Wow!!! Such amazing video! Thank you 🫶🏻
Thank you Maria. ❤️
Had I known then what I know now. I had 2 children in 18 months - moving from NorCal to Maine back to SoCal then back to NorCal with husbands job - 18 months pregnant and son born in Maine - absolutely no support - tried to fill up the house with stuff - toys etc very dark time . Have this same desire now at 64 - thank you.
Thank you for this video and for the reminder that we need to do what rings true to us (individually) to be the best mom we can possibly be❤️
So true! ❤️
thank you for your videos & this new course you are doing. I'm beginning to get stuck. ♥️♥️
Thank you for watching ❤️
Thank you for making life easy, simple and realistic. I can rely in the simple things you talk about and ignite good feeling in me as reachable goals. 🙂
Absolutely. So glad these videos resonate with you ❤️
What a beautiful video ❤ thank you for sharing and for the way you value your role as mother. I feel inspired and encouraged after watching this. Thank you for putting in so much effort.
I really needed this. Thank you so much
Glad it was helpful!
You are a wonderful artist in video making and your words, I appreciate your videos!
I’m so glad they resonate with you ❤️
I have been working on this lately and I'm loving it. However there is a downside, at least for me, that I didn't realize would happen and now I'm trying to find balance. Since saying no to more events and family and friends to slow down my life I realize my relationships are suffering. I feel out of touch with what's going on with people I am normally close to. So I'm working on slowing down but still maintaining my relationships. Loved your video. Thanks for sharing.
Definitely a balance. Thanks for watching ❤️
I’ve just binge watched sooo many of your videos since I found you yesterday… and this one has me so emotional and to tears. Thank you love for your content. ❤️
I'm so glad you are here ❤️
I’ve been working so hard to do what to did and get back my life for my kids
I am definitely going to be doing the course. Honestly, watching your videos has been a huge inspiration and adopting similar ways of living has been incredibly healing for me. I went through traumatic ongoing SA as a child and starting the process of living intently, and slowly and on my terms has broken so many walls down in my heart. You truly have been a blessing in my home. Thanks girl♡
Also, sorry, but super random question...do you use clocks? I was thinking about it today and my whole day is based on the time on a clock. I want to just take them all down lol
Thank you for your support. We definitely try to have a rhythm to our day, but not much is determined by a clock. I did tape over our oven clock 😂
The boundary comment accurately describes how I ended up with material possessions I would not have wanted otherwise. It also explains why I am so much more at ease since moving to a new state. I wanted the boundaries, but so many out there unintentionally push others boundaries.
Boundaries are so important ❤️
Your content bring so much value to my life! Thank you for sharing!
I’m so glad the videos resonate with you ❤️ thanks for watching
Beautiful video and you are so right🥰
Thank you so much ❤️
You’re the best mom ever!❤
So encouraged by you and your insights! Thank you!
Madison! I needed this video! Thank you so much for taking the time to make it. I will make a drain and fill chart and hang it in my mirror. ❤
I’m so glad it resonated with you Jazmin ❤️
Love this Madison!!! Just what I needed to hear today. God’s timing is perfect! And He has truly given you a gift to share with the world! 🙌🏼
Wow. This is so sweet. Thank you Brittany ❤️
Can't wait for the course! I really appreciate you and what you bring to this space! Thank yoU!
This is so sweet. Thank you Rose ❤️
Your channel is the best
Thank you so much ❤️
So excited for you Madi! Thanks to you, I have learned so much more about decluttering. I think about things more thoroughly before I make a purchase, and we are thriving so much more without a television in our home. Anything more you could share about homeschooling your littles, I would love to see it. I think that as a homeschool mom, I try to do all the right things, the fun projects, but it can be overwhelming to keep up with all the projects that we "should" be doing. Just a thought for a possible future video for you. May the peace of God be with you!
Good idea. Thanks Elizabeth.
I've watched this video through twice now. It's just what I needed to hear today after such a struggle bus morning of feeling like a "not good enough" mom. Your message is refreshing and inspiring. Thank you for sharing your story.
Thank you for watching ❤️
Yessssss! Cheering you on from on the other side of the world.🙌🏻✨
Thank you so much ❤️
💟 this is beautiful! Thank you so much for sharing!
Thank you Britt ❤️
This looks amazing! I also think you should write a Kindle book on the subject ☺️
Good idea ❤️
Yay! I’m so excited for your course! I already know it’s going to help so many of your viewers, especially me!😆 thank you for sharing/creating these!🤍
Thank you so much for your support ❤️
Beautiful video. So needed. Thank you...thank you for these honest words and beautiful delivery. So excited for you! Have enjoyed your content for over a year now and so glad to have found you ❤ Love & Light 🌈🙌
I am so glad you are here Christina. Thank you for your support ❤️
This was absolutely beautiful.
I’m so glad you resonated with it ❤️
I'm 27 yrs old and a mom to 1 boy, when i was pregnant the whole time i was so scared and excited at the same time, scared that i might not be a good mom and excited to me my baby.after i got my baby, now the whole journey has been scary because most of the time i doubt if I'm doing it right and am trying my best not to raise my child the way i was raised,. Now I've started the journey of" international motherhood, and i hope every mom ca do the same so as we raise a different generation that has atleast no or less traumas.
Listened to this 3 times in a row - loved it so much! Beautiful video Madisun :)
Wow. Thank you so much Amy ❤️
Thank you for your videos...they bring me calm and focus
This hits home! ❤ Thank you so much for your videos. They inspire me.
I'm so glad! ❤️
Thank you Madi! ❤
Thank you Helen ❤️
Another great message Madi, love you ❤️
Thank you Paula ❤️
Your story is so inspiring! The course sounds so good ❤️
Thank you ❤️ I’ve poured so much into it.
Haii madi, each child has its own soul power.. they r from supreme power so they have to wright there own way we parents r guides to help for there way..
I really enjoyed this video. It's exactly what I needed to hear today 😌
I’m so glad it resonated with you Kyla ❤️
Great video. Been waiting to see you again. I’m starting my journey.
I’m so glad ❤️
I love your videos, they really inspire my life and how I set up our day to day for myself and my family.
I’m so glad it resonated with you ❤️
Thanks again Madi. Love the idea of having boundaries and not saying yes to everything. Definitely comes with trying to make others happy but is it really what I want to do? It’s a time now where I am wondering whether I work more or rather tone it back and enjoy a slower life. It’s also trying to fill it up with purposeful things… like being out in nature, planting, and enjoying a decluttered home. These are ideals for me but I am wanting to lean towards these things that fill me
up, rather than drain me. 🥰💕
Absolutely. That sounds amazing ❤️
Beautiful films thank you 😊
Thank you Martina ❤️
Thank you so much for this video! Excactly what i needed today.
I’m so glad. ❤️
As a father/dad of two daughters I can relate😢
Thank you from the bottom of my ❤ Madi, you are sooo beautiful, inside and outside. So inspiring. I am always happy to see a new video from you and to listen to your messages, they are deep and for me special. Take care.
P.S. Can you tell me where this paradise with dunes is, please? Thank you, big hug, Ale
Thank you so much ❤️ these dunes are in Pismo Beach, CA. They are absolutely stunning.
You are amazing
Thank you so much ❤️
Such great reminders for moms! Also, how great is coconut coir? I use it to start seeds and as mulch. I love that I can store the little bricks until I need them. Keep sharing your wisdom!
Thank you so much Sommer ❤️
I love your videos Madisun. Your filmmaking skills are absolutely amazing and your content is always on point. It helps me check myself every week. From one (new) UA-camr to another you are doing an amazing job.
I’m so glad you enjoyed it ❤️
Thank you so much for sharing this
Truly this is beautiful and so inspiring❤️❤️❤️
Thank you so much Kristin ❤️