❤ oh my. Found my people. You cry- i cry. And im grateful for the excuse to do so and the reasons for the tears. Adhd makes everything harder and we dont process grief like other people. Anger seems to be an underlying force for me too. ❤❤❤
Please don't feel ashamed, all of us booth people have stash hidden somewhere. We just sold my mom's house, and going through all of her belonging was so hard. Lots of tears for me my 5 sisters and all the grands. When the time is right you will be able to get the garage organized. Hug yourself from me!
Lady, you have nothing to be ashamed of. I think everyone has something that's piled up and ignored/on hold/for another day/or just too much to deal with right now. Everyone. It might be physical like a closet, room, garage or mental/emotional; sometimes both like what you've got in parts of the garage. It's nothing to feel shame about. Anxiety is understandable as is sadness, anger, or all out pain. Remember that what is in there are also things that can be joyful, sweet, filled with love and warm feelings that can fold you in like a hug. It won't be easy to go through the family stuff, but there will be relief when you do. The business stuff won't be easy for other reasons, but think of the pride and sense of accomplishment you'll have!! You won't need to fear or stress about going into the garage. You'll know what you have, what needs done, and you WILL get to purge whatever is no longer useful. I agree with the kind words of the woman who suggested not to go it alone. It's really too much for one to do alone. And it doesn't have to be done immediately or all at once; it's your choice according to how much you can handle and when. I honestly wish I was closer because I would love to help. Cleaning and organizing is kinda my therapy in a way, like an escape from the other stuff my mind focuses on too much. Anyhow, you're among friends here. No need to worry about harsh judgments coming from us. And if there are people here who do, kick em out. We didn't need that kind of negativity. 😉🫶
Thank you 🙏🏻. I am feeling the support for sure. And I am so grateful for the support. I know I will get to it but now it’s just painful to look at. Unfortunately that makes things worse. It will get done eventually. 💕
There's nothing to be ashamed of. My house and two storage units are filled to the ceiling. I refuse to even open the front door. I am finally gaining my strength back and this week I have researched and priced close to 150 books. Also taken photos of things headed to Etsy. You cry to relieve the stress. I stomp around screaming every obscenity I know and kick stuff.
Thank you. It feels good to know I’m not alone. Somehow I will manage to get through it again. That’s a lot of books. It still surprises me how many you sell. I only sell them as decorative books and they don’t sell.
DO NOT be ashamed. I know, I know I lost my mom the middle of January. She, and I, have spent the last 57 years in the same home. Fourteen years ago she ended up with a dislocated hip, a "dead" foot, and ended up permanently on a walker. Long story short, as her care and age progressed (she died 2-1/2 months shy of her 100th birthday) and I worked full time, things became more and more cluttered (rooms and areas no one could see). Our enclosed back porch and pantry (100+ year old farmhouse) became more and more piled. After going through everything in the rooms on the first floor, I finally caved and allowed my sister to come and help me (I felt it was my fault and I should pay the price of cleaning out). We started on the back porch - me apologizing the whole time. I at one point said - Understand that I was simply maintaining from day to day... I was tired - I'm still tired and still working full time. I get it. But I tell you, once I had someone objective to help me - and who loved me and wasn't judging me... Don't do it alone. Don't. It's hard, and it's not stupid to be crying and missing someone and being emotional. You need someone to help you and you CAN do it. I taught my sister my method of toss, donate or sell and we got busy. We joke that the guys at the dump know us by our first names!. Just a suggestion - and I know money can be an issue (believe me - I'm facing so much financial uncertainty now), but anyway maybe get a storage pod? Use it ONLY for sorting. Real stuff to keep for your businesses, and those "good boxes", lol. Use it to make room for yourself to work through the stuff in the garage. Know that you are not alone and many of us are just as "horrible" as you say you are. If you have someone to spur you on, like I did my sister, it will get done. Don't mean to ramble on, but you and your emotions spoke to me so much. I feel you and feel for you. Hang in there - you're a wonderful person and deserve to take it easy on yourself. Sending much love, Ria (The Woman Who Still has a Second Floor, Attic & Basement to Clear!)
Thank you Ria. 💕 it is a great idea to have someone who is objective help. It somehow just grew and grew. Seeing those bins from my parents just frustrates me and obviously makes me emotional. Thank you for sharing your story so I feel less alone.
@@JunkinwithStacy I'm glad I could make you feel better. I'm also a crafter, so I constantly look at things with the idea of making something else, using it here, using it there. Honestly, Stacy it became ridiculous. I finally stood back and admitted I was never going to do anything with some items and either donated them or trashed them. Creative minds aren't always the best judge of things, lol! Have someone help you who has no investment in the items, no investment in the house, the garage, your craft room. Hell, there were things I never knew my mother had and things I didn't remember buying!! So, how could I miss them? Stay strong - you got this! Ria
You are very brave! My living room looks like your garage and I understand your stress, anxiety and shame. ❤❤❤
Thank you for sharing that with me. I feel shame, anger, frustration, sadness-it’s a full set of emotions out there.
❤ oh my. Found my people. You cry- i cry. And im grateful for the excuse to do so and the reasons for the tears. Adhd makes everything harder and we dont process grief like other people. Anger seems to be an underlying force for me too. ❤❤❤
I found my people too. All the support you guys are giving me makes me feel less crazy. The grief is so sneaky sometimes. 💕
Please don't feel ashamed, all of us booth people have stash hidden somewhere. We just sold my mom's house, and going through all of her belonging was so hard. Lots of tears for me my 5 sisters and all the grands. When the time is right you will be able to get the garage organized. Hug yourself from me!
Thank you 🤗 I know we all have to go through it when our parents pass but no one calm really describe how difficult it is.
Lady, you have nothing to be ashamed of. I think everyone has something that's piled up and ignored/on hold/for another day/or just too much to deal with right now. Everyone. It might be physical like a closet, room, garage or mental/emotional; sometimes both like what you've got in parts of the garage. It's nothing to feel shame about. Anxiety is understandable as is sadness, anger, or all out pain. Remember that what is in there are also things that can be joyful, sweet, filled with love and warm feelings that can fold you in like a hug. It won't be easy to go through the family stuff, but there will be relief when you do. The business stuff won't be easy for other reasons, but think of the pride and sense of accomplishment you'll have!! You won't need to fear or stress about going into the garage. You'll know what you have, what needs done, and you WILL get to purge whatever is no longer useful. I agree with the kind words of the woman who suggested not to go it alone. It's really too much for one to do alone. And it doesn't have to be done immediately or all at once; it's your choice according to how much you can handle and when. I honestly wish I was closer because I would love to help. Cleaning and organizing is kinda my therapy in a way, like an escape from the other stuff my mind focuses on too much. Anyhow, you're among friends here. No need to worry about harsh judgments coming from us. And if there are people here who do, kick em out. We didn't need that kind of negativity. 😉🫶
Thank you 🙏🏻. I am feeling the support for sure. And I am so grateful for the support. I know I will get to it but now it’s just painful to look at. Unfortunately that makes things worse. It will get done eventually. 💕
There's nothing to be ashamed of. My house and two storage units are filled to the ceiling. I refuse to even open the front door. I am finally gaining my strength back and this week I have researched and priced close to 150 books. Also taken photos of things headed to Etsy. You cry to relieve the stress. I stomp around screaming every obscenity I know and kick stuff.
Thank you. It feels good to know I’m not alone. Somehow I will manage to get through it again. That’s a lot of books. It still surprises me how many you sell. I only sell them as decorative books and they don’t sell.
DO NOT be ashamed. I know, I know I lost my mom the middle of January. She, and I, have spent the last 57 years in the same home. Fourteen years ago she ended up with a dislocated hip, a "dead" foot, and ended up permanently on a walker. Long story short, as her care and age progressed (she died 2-1/2 months shy of her 100th birthday) and I worked full time, things became more and more cluttered (rooms and areas no one could see). Our enclosed back porch and pantry (100+ year old farmhouse) became more and more piled. After going through everything in the rooms on the first floor, I finally caved and allowed my sister to come and help me (I felt it was my fault and I should pay the price of cleaning out). We started on the back porch - me apologizing the whole time. I at one point said - Understand that I was simply maintaining from day to day... I was tired - I'm still tired and still working full time. I get it. But I tell you, once I had someone objective to help me - and who loved me and wasn't judging me... Don't do it alone. Don't. It's hard, and it's not stupid to be crying and missing someone and being emotional. You need someone to help you and you CAN do it. I taught my sister my method of toss, donate or sell and we got busy. We joke that the guys at the dump know us by our first names!. Just a suggestion - and I know money can be an issue (believe me - I'm facing so much financial uncertainty now), but anyway maybe get a storage pod? Use it ONLY for sorting. Real stuff to keep for your businesses, and those "good boxes", lol. Use it to make room for yourself to work through the stuff in the garage. Know that you are not alone and many of us are just as "horrible" as you say you are. If you have someone to spur you on, like I did my sister, it will get done. Don't mean to ramble on, but you and your emotions spoke to me so much. I feel you and feel for you. Hang in there - you're a wonderful person and deserve to take it easy on yourself. Sending much love, Ria (The Woman Who Still has a Second Floor, Attic & Basement to Clear!)
Thank you Ria. 💕 it is a great idea to have someone who is objective help. It somehow just grew and grew. Seeing those bins from my parents just frustrates me and obviously makes me emotional. Thank you for sharing your story so I feel less alone.
@@JunkinwithStacy I'm glad I could make you feel better. I'm also a crafter, so I constantly look at things with the idea of making something else, using it here, using it there. Honestly, Stacy it became ridiculous. I finally stood back and admitted I was never going to do anything with some items and either donated them or trashed them. Creative minds aren't always the best judge of things, lol! Have someone help you who has no investment in the items, no investment in the house, the garage, your craft room. Hell, there were things I never knew my mother had and things I didn't remember buying!! So, how could I miss them? Stay strong - you got this! Ria