"Intimacy is about daring to be increasingly and bravely weird with someone else and finding out that's OK with them." Best line from this video. When you get older and really want to settle down, it's no longer those fiery explosive relationship that you truly crave but the relationship that gives you peace, comfort and put you at ease. There's a Chinese saying like 'Instead of the fireworks in the night sky, I much appreciate the good ol' reliable street light by your window.'
@@margo3367 It really depends on your definition of fireworks. I mean, much can be accomplished by the light of a street lamp, especially if you have the will.
@@dierdrecole8027 Soulmates = work. Good work - but there is no magic, no found, no skipping until the end. Good relationships take work and love and communication and forgiveness and the best of you that you have, day after day. Like everything good, there are no shortcuts.
Sounds like my idea of hell. - You're welcome to it. My dog doesn't ask all that of me, and he'll never wake up one morning, and think: - This isn't working for me. I'm feeling a little unfulfilled. I can do much better than this. I'll leave, and take half of everything. Job done!
I once read somewhere that when we break up, regardless of whether it was consensual or initiated by one of the two parties, we enter a mourning phase. And what we mourn is not the loss of our lover per se, but the inside jokes, the intimacy, the memories, the whole world that existed within that relationship. Okay, I'm not explaining myself well, but I hope you get the gist of what I'm trying to convey. Which relates to your original comment.
@@marilember The idea that not having a romantic relationship has to mean not having any relationship at all is just vile and beastly. I still miss the communication I had with my ex, while she decided that I don't exist anymore because I'm not ''the one''.
I think most people just have a hard time never being able to be serious. Romance basically just taking your love for each other seriously, and treating it like it's sacred. I've had partners before where I've had to give them more serious moments in order for them to feel comfortable being silly with me. Compromise was important to them. I hope they're doing well.
Every healthy couple I have known, from teenagers to elders, will tell you the importance of keeping play, laughter and goofiness as a crucial part of staying in love.
I remember a conversation I had with my girl about butt hairs. It was strange hilarious and we ended with 'NO ONE SHOULD HEAR US TALKING ABOUT BUTT HARIS". Yes, this is the most beautiful part of relationships. Nothing talks about everything and everything talks about nothing.
I'm a big believer in "Doing nothing with your everything is something." I.e literally sitting together with your partner or best friend or even pet-- the silence is just as important as what you fill it with. In both instances it's love.
this is so sweet. ❤ my partner and i are long distance and often sit quietly on the phone just doing things separately, but still together. and we have little spontaneous conversations about silly things and then lapse again into silence. doing nothing alone feels like doing nothing alone, but doing nothing with someone i love feels comforting and like time well spent :)
I find my coworkers and I also do this, since we're in each other's company for such long hours day after day. We know the ins and outs of each other's lives. And we share our internal monologues aloud often. We love to be silly together
I talk this way to myself. And I am alone on Christmas. I think the banana grows that way in bunches because some part of the plant grows up toward the sun. And some bananas in the middle are very straight. It’s very neat. And I think it’s dinner time. I love you, you handsome dude.
I am alone, but not lonely on Xmas. I have been with myself, finding joy in the most skurril thoughts and making myself dinner, too. It has been wonderful and peaceful. Merry Christmas!
This is why the failure of communication in a relationship can be so hard. When you no longer have that person in your life, even if you are still legally together, it feels extremely isolating. It's almost living in a kind of exile. 😢
My bf and I have both extremely deep philisophical conversations while also having dumbass conversations but both are deeply personal for me because i love having deep philisoohical conversations and he is the only one who will play ball with my thoughts and ideas and give his own view on things.
I'm sure others would love to pick your brain as well! I don't think people communicate enough these days tbh. For fear, embarrassment, trauma, anxiety, etc. bit I always find joy In talking to random people about random things ❤
I’ve always had this kind of connection with my boyfriend, but I always assumed we were just weird or maybe immature. Hearing it put this way makes so much more sense. This made me smile. Thank you for this video :)
We should really all accept that this is normal and not a sign of immaturity. Read the letters Mozart wrote and you will see that even great composers aren't above being playful and extremely silly! "There's a lot of farting during the night, And the farts resound with thunderous might." -- W.A. Mozart
This is my husband and I 24/7. We have so many inside jokes, many going back a decade or more, funny voices, my husband makes toys talk, we have ongoing relationships and arguments with them, just endless. We love to gossip together and we love to nickname everything and everyone!
Super relatable. Gf and I have an entire “community” of stuffed animals that started with a couple Yoshis. They have names, likes and dislikes, some have professions like “Micro Yosh” (green wooly Yoshi amiibo) who is a lawyer, or our adorable little chicken named Benry (Henry, specifically named from Kingdom Come) who is Captain of the Guard of our “island” (the bed) and a bread aficionado. All of this led by a small council and a tribal chief, but I think that’s enough unrequested lore lol.
I miss all these things so much since my fiancé died. So much good silliness and laughs. So much peace and healing together. Much peace to everyone. 💜✨
My partner and I talk gibberish to each other on a daily basis. We refer to it as mouse speak. "Meep meep" and so on. Some words have found established meanings, such as 'cat', 'yes' and 'yippee'.
I have this tic where I say "There are worms in the soup!". I just love the way I say it lol and it can be a jingle sometimes "There are worms in the soup! There are worms in the soup! There are worms!" and my boyfriend would be like "Soup worms!"
To have someone you can talk anything under the sun without judgement is a blessing. When a relationship ends and you find yourself without it, you realize you miss this more than anything.
I love how this video reframes casual conversations as profound acts of vulnerability and trust. It’s a fresh perspective that celebrates the everyday moments in relationships.
Being progressively weird with my partner is something that comes natural to me but this vid made me realise why i dislike my brother's fiancee so much He was always a joker and liked to fool around for no reason other than just fun of it Like this year he wanted to fix their christmas tree to the ceiling and decorate it like that And their kids obviously love him to bits, he plays with them like he was a kid himself, best buddy But man that woman tries to shut down every bit of fun he's trying to have. "Stop fooling around, be serious" - As if he wasn't already carrying his own business on his shoulders AND her business which was failing before they got together as well as a family with three kids. Men are serious enough day to day. Never shame a guy for being goofy, especially if he's your partner. And absolutely never shame your lady for being goofy or "too comfortable" around you, don't be surprised that they're human too.
In a weird way this video is really helpful for me being neurodivergent because it made me realize that people _don’t_ normally do this and one of the reasons I’m perceived as immature even when I talk about things in a mature and reasonable way is because I don’t force myself to be “serious” when there’s no reason to
I think for many people this is true, however, I find that only with my partner do I almost mindlessly talk about anything, be it intense recollections of childhood experiences and their impacts, or something as simple as asking how any bag of candy could possibly cost more than a lamp. We don't really do much of the "pointless" chatter, but we talk about anything that comes to mind regardless of topic importance. Even the most serious of topics are discussed as easily and calmly as more mundane things like the growth of a banana. It's incredibly rewarding to have such a connection with someone who is willing to entertain any topic of conversation, and it is met both ways. The random flow of conversations is such an interesting and delightful side of relationships that not everyone forms with partners sadly. These types of conversations are one of the more rewarding parts of a relationship and I couldn't ever settle without it now that I've experienced it.
I agree with you. I once had the realisation that if I stayed with my then partner I would never have an interesting conversation again. It was a deal breaker.
I want both. Some of the first and a lot of the second. I love being me, but I've made the mistake of giving the wrong person the privilege of that. I'd rather stay alone than to be inauthentic with anyone.
Big facts. Pssht… insert any one of the bajillion interests it’s like that rabbit pursuading Alice to jump in the hole!! Hence the term rabbit hole for us is quite the norm😆
Reading the comments has made me chuckle. For a moment I felt like I’ve found my people and then I quickly realised “ah it’s the internet, this is as close as it gets.”
me and my bf just find some random word or phrase and start repeating it for days or months even. at the moment, that phrase is "AHHH..... THE LIGHT", from a tiktok he sent me of a guy flamboyantly trembling amidst the presence of a light this is true love i feel
Me and my best friend talk to each other like this, half listening half to each other while having completely separate conversations. When I tried to explain this to family they thought I was rude for not fully listening, nice to know it’s a sign of closeness. 😂
I had a friend in high school. We would hang out together and talk non sense to each other. Despite how stupid we looked, I felt genuinely happy. No wonder why I feel so empty in my adulthood now.
I had the same connection with my long time friend. She was the first person in my life to have that weird noises/nonsense kind of connection. Sometimes, we would be sitting there in silence doing nothing and it was great. She was like a soul mate to me because we had the same-interests, humor-everything. Unfortunately, I had to cut her off this year (very personal reasons) but I will always cherish those memories and the bond we shared together. I have hope that someday, we will reconnect and be dumb together again.
Being able to freely express the wonders of the mind without judgement and then expounded into something profound that both of you are satisfied. It's a closeness a relationship found in acceptance of whom they're with❤
My boyfriend sent me this and this is on point lmao. I love making weird noises or jingles with him and how we both can just be stupid like we're the same entity. It's nice having that connection. Very hard to have.
Being weird means to be outside someone’s normal. To be weird is to be normal, and when you find that person with the pure intentions of letting them get to know you and vise versa, then it is a moment of realism. Being real is not weird, being yourself is what matters most of all. I found my partner with this building philosophy of mine and our marriage is newly fresh, fun, and meaningful to the ends of the earth. 🤗🎵
I remember my ex would always bring up some bizarre conversations and questions but I wouldn't engage with her. Seeing this video has taught me a valuable lesson for my relationships
I find myself making strange noises when I am just sitting with my husband. It's not that long ago that i discovered that it was because I am comfortable with him. 😊❤ I can be completely me and i have let my guard completely down with him. My intrusive thoughts come out without a second thought and like the video said-- it allows him to know me better 😊
This made me cry 😢 I have never experienced this. I was married to an (I realise now) neurodivergent man for 21 years, who I could never have an easy intimacy with. I wish everyone could experience such a happy connection as depicted in this short video 💖 from Australia xx
That's sad 😢; but everyone is different. Many neurodiverse people are the most at ease with this way of communicating - and the funniest comedians. ❤😊❤
There's a girl I'm dating now, and 90% of the time, we talk about pure nonsense. The other 10%, we dive into really deep topics, like our relationships with our parents and the future. Before I saw this video, I thought that kind of behavior was 'childish,' but it turns out it's not. I've not been listening to the 'maybe I do love her'-thought in my mind, but with this science, it's okay to feel love and accept it. Thank you
15 year relationship here. Sometimes It’s like we’re in South America on some drug induced holiday. The rows yes but also……the absolute belly aching laughs. ❤
It’s really tough when life changes like that. I totally get what you mean about how much joy those goofy moments with friends brought during college. Sharing jokes and being silly gave us such a sense of connection. Now that we’ve all moved on and many have gotten married, it can feel like keeping up with each other’s lives is an uphill battle. I understand how you feel-sometimes it seems like that spark has dimmed. It's completely natural to miss those carefree times and feel that sense of loss. 😢
There’s an intimacy in being able to say what you truly think, nonsensical or otherwise, and being able to end our sentences in peace, trusting that the one we love won’t judge or misunderstand us, because they deeply know us, and fundamentally love what they know.
my gf and I are long distance, sometimes when we call each other and don’t know what to what to say we’ll just make funny noises, we’ve been together for 6 years
Tbh, no one is “normal” and no one is “boring” if we get to know them in depth. Everyone has their own quirks and weird stories to share, it’s just a matter of meeting the people we can be silly with. The most boring person to us can be the most interesting to someone else
It reminds me of that passage from Crime and Punishment where Razumikhin says he loves when people talk nonsense. It has this sentence in it: "To talk nonsense in one's own way is almost better than to talk a truth that's someone else's; in the first instance you behave like a human being, while in the second you are merely being a parrot!". This is from the McDuff translation.
As someone who avoids small talk and finds it dumb, this explains why i can't connect with people in a deeper manner. I want to connect with ideas, not with people...
this is why the closer a family is and the longer they spend together, the more incoherent their “familect” becomes (even though they can still understand almost all of it)
My ex husband and I had some of the best conversations and laughs, especially the ones that took place while one of us was sitting on the toilet lol. It’s definitely golden to have this with someone, and in spite of the things that drove us apart, I do miss our friendship.
This was deeply touching. I felt the universe used the UA-cam algorithm to send me this video. The part when one of the beaky dudes is pretending to shit on a glass coffee table made me smile. Thank you for that!
My partner and I randomly quote whatever we can think of at each other and just transform it into something silly. Like making our own impromptu YTPs to make each other laugh. Or I'll take a random section of a song and sing/hum it in distorted way, or repeat it until he giggles. It always feels like when I realize we're just saying nonsense I should calm down, but often that makes me laugh even more. These are the types of things we live for, that we cherish. Everyone needs someone who will make them laugh.
One of my favorite moments with my husband is when he starts a sentence, I assume its going to be deep, or important, or serious and he says something like “Ya know, I really gotta take a shit right now 👍”
I love this so much. And its something i hardly had a concept of before. But when you think about it, yes, absolutely. The most heathy couples are the ones who can just talk about anything for any reason at any time, and the other just understands what they mean and why they're doing it. They get it, because theyve taken the time to learn the other. This is seriously impactful, and idk if i can state that enough. You'll have to trust me lol
I used to think I hated small talk. I had trouble keeping up a conversation with strangers, so I thought I'd only be able to talk about something I was truly interested in. But then, while I was talking with my partner, I realized... that we were doing small talk 95% of the time. Just speaking pure nonsense. And I enjoyed it.
Happy Christmas, everyone! It's great to have a conversation which sounds odd to everyone else, but to you and your loved ones, it's perfectly delightful.
"... for no apparent reason, in a bad imitation of a German accent..." The reason may never be known to humanity, but I do that exact same thing, so in a way I understand, while not knowing.
This one time I burped with a rhythm that felt like the starting of a Metallica song. I recorded it and sent it to my girlfriend. She sounded impressed and laughed at it. I know she’s the one.
My twin sister and I are truly incomprehensible when together. It's not uncommon for us to start chatting in the most absurd accents about the most ridiculous topics
Me and my girlfriend are about to hit our sixth anniversary, whenever we get to actually sit down and just be with eachother we never really talk about much of anything in particular, mostly just weird half-formed thoughts. It's nice to not have to have complex conversations, but rather just sit down with someone you love and not do much anything else.
The majority of conversations I have with my partner are just making random noises and putting a description of what we’re currently doing to the melody of “spiderman”
Yes! This is why I feel like I can't get close to some people I know! We don't talk about these silly little things and I feel like I'm unable to open up to them out of fear they may not like me like this.
My favorite example of this is mainly with friends, one says a dumb ass quote from a cartoon or movie only to have the other person finish the quote or throw in another one
Small talk and nonsense yap sessions with people i love is genuinely one of my favorite hobbies
Me too, I love yapping and laughing my butt off with my favourite people
Same
Yeah true, it helps me feel closer to them.
i wish i could experience it, everytime i remember this wish i pray ill fulfill it iin heaven
So do I. It’s one of those moments in life that feel like the best thing in the world. The most amazing part of your day
"Intimacy is about daring to be increasingly and bravely weird with someone else and finding out that's OK with them."
Best line from this video.
When you get older and really want to settle down, it's no longer those fiery explosive relationship that you truly crave but the relationship that gives you peace, comfort and put you at ease.
There's a Chinese saying like 'Instead of the fireworks in the night sky, I much appreciate the good ol' reliable street light by your window.'
Can’t you have both the fireworks and the comfort? Sounds extremely boring, the thing you want.
@@margo3367 It really depends on your definition of fireworks. I mean, much can be accomplished by the light of a street lamp, especially if you have the will.
I wanted this from a young age. Fuck waiting til older. Thank God I got my soulmate and skipped the stupid b.s. that most people struggle through.
@@dierdrecole8027 Soulmates = work. Good work - but there is no magic, no found, no skipping until the end. Good relationships take work and love and communication and forgiveness and the best of you that you have, day after day. Like everything good, there are no shortcuts.
Sounds like my idea of hell. - You're welcome to it. My dog doesn't ask all that of me, and he'll never wake up one morning, and think: - This isn't working for me. I'm feeling a little unfulfilled. I can do much better than this. I'll leave, and take half of everything. Job done!
When I hug my partner, he will exhale, but while exhaling, I'll squeeze him gently to make his exhales into short little bursts, and then we laugh lol
This is so cute 😂
Daaamn cuteee😂
I do the same thing lmao
Hahaha.. I do this with my wife and the sound she makes is too funny... :D
literally made him into one of those rubber chickens lol
Perhaps the hardest thing about breaking up with someone is losing this connection.
I once read somewhere that when we break up, regardless of whether it was consensual or initiated by one of the two parties, we enter a mourning phase. And what we mourn is not the loss of our lover per se, but the inside jokes, the intimacy, the memories, the whole world that existed within that relationship.
Okay, I'm not explaining myself well, but I hope you get the gist of what I'm trying to convey. Which relates to your original comment.
It's like losing a tons of XP points
And that's why I've put my ego aside to stay friends with my latest ex. The shared connection runs too deep to just throw it all away 😊❤
@@marilember The idea that not having a romantic relationship has to mean not having any relationship at all is just vile and beastly. I still miss the communication I had with my ex, while she decided that I don't exist anymore because I'm not ''the one''.
My ex told me "I miss our jokes"
This is exactly my love language. Sadly people take it for being immature and weird but this is what it all comes down to at the end.
I think most people just have a hard time never being able to be serious. Romance basically just taking your love for each other seriously, and treating it like it's sacred. I've had partners before where I've had to give them more serious moments in order for them to feel comfortable being silly with me. Compromise was important to them. I hope they're doing well.
You're not supposed to open with it. It grows naturally over time.
You just speedrun
@@Knights_of_the_Nine, bro is ascended
You will find people of your type. Don't give being yourself up. My mother is just like you and oh boi she's the sun of the house 🥹♥️
"They talk sheeeiiitt..." 😂 always funny to hear an eloquent voice swear.
perfect way to break character in the context of the video
Every healthy couple I have known, from teenagers to elders, will tell you the importance of keeping play, laughter and goofiness as a crucial part of staying in love.
If someone heard the dialog between my wife and me they would certainly think we're weird. We talk so weird it causes us to laugh 😃.
Same! ❤ we're constantly bonding through weirdness and silliness
That's me and my co workers, if anyone would walk up on the office on one of those random moments they would think we were all high😂😂
I think the FBI have absolutely listened to our conversations lmao
I remember a conversation I had with my girl about butt hairs. It was strange hilarious and we ended with 'NO ONE SHOULD HEAR US TALKING ABOUT BUTT HARIS". Yes, this is the most beautiful part of relationships. Nothing talks about everything and everything talks about nothing.
That’s normal
1:50 "They talk s**t" I don't know why that sounded soo funny in the formal voice! 😂😂
So this is why she randomly goes “ babe will you still love me if I was a worm?”😅
😂
YES!!
That's when you follow up with "would you still love me if I was a bird, or would it just not work out?" That was my response. You're welcome 😉
I GET THIS
Yeah babe, but only it i were a fish!
I'm a big believer in "Doing nothing with your everything is something." I.e literally sitting together with your partner or best friend or even pet-- the silence is just as important as what you fill it with. In both instances it's love.
Not totally relevant, but one of my favorite quotes: “People say nothing is impossible but I do nothing every day.” - Winnie the Pooh
this is so sweet. ❤ my partner and i are long distance and often sit quietly on the phone just doing things separately, but still together. and we have little spontaneous conversations about silly things and then lapse again into silence. doing nothing alone feels like doing nothing alone, but doing nothing with someone i love feels comforting and like time well spent :)
I find my coworkers and I also do this, since we're in each other's company for such long hours day after day. We know the ins and outs of each other's lives. And we share our internal monologues aloud often. We love to be silly together
The BEST work environment! I love my work family and I'm thankful for them
same here! we love being silly. my approach to interactions is to have fun and create enjoyment. spread the silliness and joy and laughter!
This is exactly what my coworkers and I do and it's one of the biggest reasons I still work where I do.
I talk this way to myself. And I am alone on Christmas. I think the banana grows that way in bunches because some part of the plant grows up toward the sun. And some bananas in the middle are very straight. It’s very neat. And I think it’s dinner time. I love you, you handsome dude.
I am alone on Xmas as well and I believe that creative spark that makes us do silly things is what life is worth living for!
I think I shall have salad for dinner. I probably need the fiber.
Merry Christmas!
Merry Christmas!
I am alone, but not lonely on Xmas. I have been with myself, finding joy in the most skurril thoughts and making myself dinner, too. It has been wonderful and peaceful. Merry Christmas!
This is why the failure of communication in a relationship can be so hard. When you no longer have that person in your life, even if you are still legally together, it feels extremely isolating. It's almost living in a kind of exile. 😢
exile by Taylor swift
You’re not my home town anymore
@@SquishyMochi514 so I'm leaving out the side door
This is why I try to be as authentic to myself as possible, so I don't need that person to be open with the world.
My bf and I have both extremely deep philisophical conversations while also having dumbass conversations but both are deeply personal for me because i love having deep philisoohical conversations and he is the only one who will play ball with my thoughts and ideas and give his own view on things.
I'm sure others would love to pick your brain as well! I don't think people communicate enough these days tbh. For fear, embarrassment, trauma, anxiety, etc. bit I always find joy In talking to random people about random things ❤
I’ve always had this kind of connection with my boyfriend, but I always assumed we were just weird or maybe immature. Hearing it put this way makes so much more sense. This made me smile. Thank you for this video :)
We should really all accept that this is normal and not a sign of immaturity. Read the letters Mozart wrote and you will see that even great composers aren't above being playful and extremely silly!
"There's a lot of farting during the night,
And the farts resound with thunderous might."
-- W.A. Mozart
@ as a classical musician, I had no idea Mozart was that silly, but I love it! 🤣
@laurabowden9439 There's actually a lot of bathroom humor in his letters! 😂
I didn't know our family had the deepest connection. According to this video and the amount of crap we talk.
❤️
50/50
Intimacy is about being able to trust one another and tolerate their bs every now and then
This is my husband and I 24/7. We have so many inside jokes, many going back a decade or more, funny voices, my husband makes toys talk, we have ongoing relationships and arguments with them, just endless. We love to gossip together and we love to nickname everything and everyone!
Super relatable. Gf and I have an entire “community” of stuffed animals that started with a couple Yoshis. They have names, likes and dislikes, some have professions like “Micro Yosh” (green wooly Yoshi amiibo) who is a lawyer, or our adorable little chicken named Benry (Henry, specifically named from Kingdom Come) who is Captain of the Guard of our “island” (the bed) and a bread aficionado. All of this led by a small council and a tribal chief, but I think that’s enough unrequested lore lol.
@@Taima Love this! These connections are truly the best!
@@RubenTheCartographer Ha, thanks. They are indeed.
I miss all these things so much since my fiancé died. So much good silliness and laughs. So much peace and healing together. Much peace to everyone. 💜✨
Sorry for your loss. I hope that the memories comfort you
My partner and I talk gibberish to each other on a daily basis. We refer to it as mouse speak. "Meep meep" and so on. Some words have found established meanings, such as 'cat', 'yes' and 'yippee'.
I have this tic where I say "There are worms in the soup!". I just love the way I say it lol and it can be a jingle sometimes "There are worms in the soup! There are worms in the soup! There are worms!" and my boyfriend would be like "Soup worms!"
does it happen to be the very specific "YIPPEE!" audio?
To have someone you can talk anything under the sun without judgement is a blessing. When a relationship ends and you find yourself without it, you realize you miss this more than anything.
My exgirlfriend: “eyebrows are just muscles with hair on them,” she said as if stumbling upon something philosophically groundbreaking.
May she RIP…
Oof
I’m sorry for your loss
@@mildlymarvelous thank you.
That's adorable. Rest in peace.
rest in peace man
I love how this video reframes casual conversations as profound acts of vulnerability and trust. It’s a fresh perspective that celebrates the everyday moments in relationships.
Being progressively weird with my partner is something that comes natural to me but this vid made me realise why i dislike my brother's fiancee so much
He was always a joker and liked to fool around for no reason other than just fun of it
Like this year he wanted to fix their christmas tree to the ceiling and decorate it like that
And their kids obviously love him to bits, he plays with them like he was a kid himself, best buddy
But man that woman tries to shut down every bit of fun he's trying to have. "Stop fooling around, be serious" - As if he wasn't already carrying his own business on his shoulders AND her business which was failing before they got together as well as a family with three kids.
Men are serious enough day to day. Never shame a guy for being goofy, especially if he's your partner.
And absolutely never shame your lady for being goofy or "too comfortable" around you, don't be surprised that they're human too.
Point noted
In a weird way this video is really helpful for me being neurodivergent because it made me realize that people _don’t_ normally do this and one of the reasons I’m perceived as immature even when I talk about things in a mature and reasonable way is because I don’t force myself to be “serious” when there’s no reason to
I think for many people this is true, however, I find that only with my partner do I almost mindlessly talk about anything, be it intense recollections of childhood experiences and their impacts, or something as simple as asking how any bag of candy could possibly cost more than a lamp. We don't really do much of the "pointless" chatter, but we talk about anything that comes to mind regardless of topic importance. Even the most serious of topics are discussed as easily and calmly as more mundane things like the growth of a banana. It's incredibly rewarding to have such a connection with someone who is willing to entertain any topic of conversation, and it is met both ways. The random flow of conversations is such an interesting and delightful side of relationships that not everyone forms with partners sadly. These types of conversations are one of the more rewarding parts of a relationship and I couldn't ever settle without it now that I've experienced it.
I think that is exactly what he is talking about in terms of "pointless chatter"
I agree with you. I once had the realisation that if I stayed with my then partner I would never have an interesting conversation again. It was a deal breaker.
I want both. Some of the first and a lot of the second. I love being me, but I've made the mistake of giving the wrong person the privilege of that. I'd rather stay alone than to be inauthentic with anyone.
“Why can’t you ever be serious?” “because I LOVE YOU!”
I'm ADHD.
All my conversations are like this.
Tangents, tangents everywhere.
youre a very cool person !! damn i wish i could be open about myself like you again, thats a great thing in my opinion
@annax_lmao I can't tell if this is sarcasm. Anyway, it is easy to admit to things as a stranger on the internet.
Relatable
Big facts. Pssht… insert any one of the bajillion interests it’s like that rabbit pursuading Alice to jump in the hole!! Hence the term rabbit hole for us is quite the norm😆
Reading the comments has made me chuckle. For a moment I felt like I’ve found my people and then I quickly realised “ah it’s the internet, this is as close as it gets.”
One time I had a conversation with my friend about different types of hot sauces for 45 minutes. Best conversation I’ve ever had with him.
me and my bf just find some random word or phrase and start repeating it for days or months even. at the moment, that phrase is "AHHH..... THE LIGHT", from a tiktok he sent me of a guy flamboyantly trembling amidst the presence of a light
this is true love i feel
Me and my best friend talk to each other like this, half listening half to each other while having completely separate conversations. When I tried to explain this to family they thought I was rude for not fully listening, nice to know it’s a sign of closeness. 😂
I had a friend in high school. We would hang out together and talk non sense to each other. Despite how stupid we looked, I felt genuinely happy. No wonder why I feel so empty in my adulthood now.
I had the same connection with my long time friend. She was the first person in my life to have that weird noises/nonsense kind of connection. Sometimes, we would be sitting there in silence doing nothing and it was great. She was like a soul mate to me because we had the same-interests, humor-everything. Unfortunately, I had to cut her off this year (very personal reasons) but I will always cherish those memories and the bond we shared together. I have hope that someday, we will reconnect and be dumb together again.
Being able to freely express the wonders of the mind without judgement and then expounded into something profound that both of you are satisfied. It's a closeness a relationship found in acceptance of whom they're with❤
I was dying when the duck started randomly dancing cause thats my bf right there..
THE ANIMATION IS GREAT! well done
I normally like your line drawings best,
But this hit it out of the park. KUDOS!
We are constantly joking and roasting random people, live love and laugh people. This is what we came for.
My sister and I refer to this as "sharing a braincell" and it's the best thing ever
Singles attendance
Aye aye
*deeper thinking singles attendance
Aye Aye, Captain
Ho! Ho! Ho!🎅
Here’s to another year of spending Christmas alone 🎉
My boyfriend sent me this and this is on point lmao. I love making weird noises or jingles with him and how we both can just be stupid like we're the same entity. It's nice having that connection. Very hard to have.
Being weird means to be outside someone’s normal. To be weird is to be normal, and when you find that person with the pure intentions of letting them get to know you and vise versa, then it is a moment of realism. Being real is not weird, being yourself is what matters most of all. I found my partner with this building philosophy of mine and our marriage is newly fresh, fun, and meaningful to the ends of the earth. 🤗🎵
I remember my ex would always bring up some bizarre conversations and questions but I wouldn't engage with her. Seeing this video has taught me a valuable lesson for my relationships
My imaginary friend argues with me constantly
Have you tried cooking for them? And if they don't like the food, throw the spaghetti in their face?
I want to talk with my partner / lover regardless of topic, even nonsense because ıt is always good.
I find myself making strange noises when I am just sitting with my husband. It's not that long ago that i discovered that it was because I am comfortable with him. 😊❤
I can be completely me and i have let my guard completely down with him. My intrusive thoughts come out without a second thought and like the video said-- it allows him to know me better 😊
Haha like quaaak quaaak meeeaaaw piyoooo 😂
Awaaa :3
This video made me so happy, because it's how I can finally be around my boyfriend, after never being that way around anyone else. Xx
Yap is the highest form of affection, noted!
This made me cry 😢
I have never experienced this.
I was married to an (I realise now) neurodivergent man for 21 years, who I could never have an easy intimacy with.
I wish everyone could experience such a happy connection as depicted in this short video 💖 from Australia xx
That's sad 😢; but everyone is different. Many neurodiverse people are the most at ease with this way of communicating - and the funniest comedians. ❤😊❤
I’ve been there…!!! I hope you find someone who you can be silly with, regardless of the type of relationship
Yes it made me cry too because I have never had this with an intimate partner either
i miss doing this with him. sadly our relationship will never be like that anymore
if you don't mind, why not?
bcz you're a cheater?
The best thing about talking nonsense with your partner is developing your jokes and inside convos
There's a girl I'm dating now, and 90% of the time, we talk about pure nonsense. The other 10%, we dive into really deep topics, like our relationships with our parents and the future.
Before I saw this video, I thought that kind of behavior was 'childish,' but it turns out it's not.
I've not been listening to the 'maybe I do love her'-thought in my mind, but with this science, it's okay to feel love and accept it.
Thank you
My wife and I are savages behind closed doors 😂😂. we definitely talk shit about everything and anything. ❤❤
15 year relationship here. Sometimes It’s like we’re in South America on some drug induced holiday. The rows yes but also……the absolute belly aching laughs. ❤
It’s really tough when life changes like that. I totally get what you mean about how much joy those goofy moments with friends brought during college. Sharing jokes and being silly gave us such a sense of connection. Now that we’ve all moved on and many have gotten married, it can feel like keeping up with each other’s lives is an uphill battle. I understand how you feel-sometimes it seems like that spark has dimmed. It's completely natural to miss those carefree times and feel that sense of loss. 😢
EveryTime I am pleasantly surprised by the quality and creativity of the animation. Always great content in here❤️
There’s an intimacy in being able to say what you truly think, nonsensical or otherwise, and being able to end our sentences in peace, trusting that the one we love won’t judge or misunderstand us, because they deeply know us, and fundamentally love what they know.
my gf and I are long distance, sometimes when we call each other and don’t know what to what to say we’ll just make funny noises, we’ve been together for 6 years
1:36 .i sink into the realization of how true it is.
And how much i miss it.
And need it.
Tbh, no one is “normal” and no one is “boring” if we get to know them in depth. Everyone has their own quirks and weird stories to share, it’s just a matter of meeting the people we can be silly with. The most boring person to us can be the most interesting to someone else
It reminds me of that passage from Crime and Punishment where Razumikhin says he loves when people talk nonsense. It has this sentence in it: "To talk nonsense in one's own way is almost better than to talk a truth that's someone else's; in the first instance you behave like a human being, while in the second you are merely being a parrot!". This is from the McDuff translation.
God bless you for sharing the quote!
To know and be known, and to be accepted for all those parts. It’s a hell of a thing to have and good god do I miss it dearly.
Be glad you ever had it - some of us can only wish
@ hell yeah. Knew how lucky I was during, know it all the more now
As someone who avoids small talk and finds it dumb, this explains why i can't connect with people in a deeper manner. I want to connect with ideas, not with people...
Same here
same
this is why the closer a family is and the longer they spend together, the more incoherent their “familect” becomes (even though they can still understand almost all of it)
My ex husband and I had some of the best conversations and laughs, especially the ones that took place while one of us was sitting on the toilet lol. It’s definitely golden to have this with someone, and in spite of the things that drove us apart, I do miss our friendship.
Awww. I am so sorry that you both could not work it out.😢
@ thank you
I got this one friend at school where this is the kind of talking nonsense. Shit talk, random thoughts, and stuff like that.
This was deeply touching. I felt the universe used the UA-cam algorithm to send me this video. The part when one of the beaky dudes is pretending to shit on a glass coffee table made me smile. Thank you for that!
My partner and I randomly quote whatever we can think of at each other and just transform it into something silly. Like making our own impromptu YTPs to make each other laugh. Or I'll take a random section of a song and sing/hum it in distorted way, or repeat it until he giggles. It always feels like when I realize we're just saying nonsense I should calm down, but often that makes me laugh even more. These are the types of things we live for, that we cherish. Everyone needs someone who will make them laugh.
I've always said that I want to find a smart person I can talk about dumb things with, rather than a dumb person to talk about smart things with.
true :)
such a joy when it's people you love💜to just spend time & volley silliness back & forth :)
I split when I realize this exchange stopped in our couple... Still cannot say if it was a cause or an effect, though.
I want some of both sides. I just want someone to be with while I am my own self. I want someone to love me for me.
One of my favorite moments with my husband is when he starts a sentence, I assume its going to be deep, or important, or serious and he says something like “Ya know, I really gotta take a shit right now 👍”
I love this so much. And its something i hardly had a concept of before. But when you think about it, yes, absolutely. The most heathy couples are the ones who can just talk about anything for any reason at any time, and the other just understands what they mean and why they're doing it. They get it, because theyve taken the time to learn the other.
This is seriously impactful, and idk if i can state that enough. You'll have to trust me lol
These figures resembling birds is interesting because side I’ve heard we’re really just singing to each other when we talk.
I have never been in a relationship but I talk absurd with my mom she scold me like in a cool manner but puts a smile 😁 on my face
I used to think I hated small talk. I had trouble keeping up a conversation with strangers, so I thought I'd only be able to talk about something I was truly interested in. But then, while I was talking with my partner, I realized... that we were doing small talk 95% of the time. Just speaking pure nonsense. And I enjoyed it.
So true ❤ i also am fully myself with my child. More than with my parents.
Happy Christmas, everyone! It's great to have a conversation which sounds odd to everyone else, but to you and your loved ones, it's perfectly delightful.
Thank you School of Life for always creating such impactful, sweet, and insightful videos that feel so well polished and genuine. Incredible work!!
"... for no apparent reason, in a bad imitation of a German accent..." The reason may never be known to humanity, but I do that exact same thing, so in a way I understand, while not knowing.
He's not here to listen to my nonsense anymore, I love him, I don't care if it's not romantic, I love him.
Beautifully said 😊 that is peak love to give and receive from those special ones ❤️
This one time I burped with a rhythm that felt like the starting of a Metallica song. I recorded it and sent it to my girlfriend. She sounded impressed and laughed at it.
I know she’s the one.
My twin sister and I are truly incomprehensible when together. It's not uncommon for us to start chatting in the most absurd accents about the most ridiculous topics
goddamn this goes with friendships as well. you don't realize how deep it runs until you lose it
I love talking to my dad about random stuff so much :] ❤
My wife and I love being goofy with each other.
By the title alone, I already agree.
i miss her so much bro
Oh this was wonderful, i felt like someone put into words what I would love to experience.
Me and my girlfriend are about to hit our sixth anniversary, whenever we get to actually sit down and just be with eachother we never really talk about much of anything in particular, mostly just weird half-formed thoughts. It's nice to not have to have complex conversations, but rather just sit down with someone you love and not do much anything else.
From lovers to yappers. Based.
The majority of conversations I have with my partner are just making random noises and putting a description of what we’re currently doing to the melody of “spiderman”
I love these shared moments ❤❤❤ it makes everyday life feels happier!
In that case my family is at Olympic level intimacy, gold medal bullshit spoken here! 😁
Shooting debris gold medalist 😅
Yes! This is why I feel like I can't get close to some people I know! We don't talk about these silly little things and I feel like I'm unable to open up to them out of fear they may not like me like this.
My favorite example of this is mainly with friends, one says a dumb ass quote from a cartoon or movie only to have the other person finish the quote or throw in another one
My ADHD has these conversations everyday since the 1st date.