Kenny, your words are PROFOUND! Nothing wrong with quoting others, but don't devalue your own words. I have read so many of the books you have recommended (prior to finding you, I should add), and learned a ton. Yet, it's your words that have woven it all together in a way that I can finally see the pattern and understand it in a way I can apply it more deeply, and best of all, successfully. You are powerful and effective, and you can own that. ;)
Yessss wow this is so good. My sister and I were both severely abused by my father and she wound up overcompensating. She was fat growing up but then she became a doctor and had the perfect husband and perfect children and all of them have that grandiose attitude. It makes perfect sense now how we wound up so different
Oh my God Ken! I just had a haha moment while you were talking about your love for golf as it relates to your brother@ 36:20. Well, for me coming from Haiti at age 12 and moving in with my estranged father and his wife, life was dark. My stepmother used to put my name on food items, what I could and couldn't touch in the kitchen. I was a kid for God's sake. I hated how her actions made me feel. Humiliated, small, and unworthy because I wasn't her child. So, as a young teen, I developed an obsession with the cooking show with Chefs Julia Child and Jacque Pepin on PBS every Sunday. I just dived myself into their beautiful culinary world. My blended family was so dysfunctional that we never sat down for dinner, not even on Sundays after church. I remember my first happy Thanksgiving memory was when I was stationed overseas. As I grew older, I saw food as a way to bring people together. Well, after high school, I went to culinary school in NY, cooked in the navy for 8 years, and now I'm a culinary and nutrition educator. Omg! Lucky for me though Ken, I taught myself to have a very healthy relationship with food by studying nutrition in college and meal prepping every Saturday. This is amazing. I'm almost in tears just thinking about this.
Beautiful story and when people learn how the worst day cycle works and all of the things I talk about and teach they have the same reaction as yourself. All of a sudden life makes sense. They understand where their pain comes from and why they have made their adult decisions both good and bad. It’s how we reclaim our authentic self and bring peace back into our life and for the life of me I can’t understand why people wouldn’t devour this information because it always leads to the exact same conclusion that you had. Complete understanding and peace. I’m very happy for you😁👏
@@kennyweiss Thank you so much Kenny. I will continue to do the work. This is completely off topic, but I wanted to address a comment you made in this vid about the Black Lives Matter movement and the unfortunate destruction of buildings that took place. Now, as a naturalized citizen living in a country that adopted me at age 22, I initially didn't understand it either. To be honest with you, I was shocked to see this happening in America because growing up in unstable and corrupt Haiti, I never thought I would witness such a thing on American soil. Haitian history is very different from Afro American history and I'm still learning about the generational trauma that still hunts and runs through the veins of black Americans. I saw this clip on Last Week Tonight with John Oliver and it sums up why black Americans take such actions. I share it with you to give you a different perspective because just like you, I didn't understand it. This young lady, Kimberly Jones summed up African American history in just 6 mins. ua-cam.com/video/llci8MVh8J4/v-deo.html
Thank you so much for helping me through some of my uncertain pain I have been experiencing! I can't believe how much I've learned from this video and there's so much more work to be done 🤗💓Keep the information flowing 💕
After I found you.. i started to avoid your videos for about a week. This was after realizing i had been enmeshed and grew up never knowing who I was.. I know God led me to these teachings. Thank you for being your authentic self so we can have the opportunity as well. God bless you
Wow Nancy what guts. Thank you so much for sharing that. I really appreciate the honesty and vulnerability! You are not alone. Most people reject me for the exact same reason. In general it takes people about 1 to 3 years before they sort of, kind of, might…. consider listening to me or liking me. In the end, it’s not about me it’s about the injury from their childhood trauma that they don’t want to admit to. They are flooded with the unhealed shame, pain, hurt and anger and they project that onto me! When they are ready to heal, they do come back. Their soul recognizes truth and that they need truth to heal.
Thank you Kenny, you are right about everything. It Is so true is right. I always Been the black sheep in my family and still am today. I am the oldest out of five children my parents had. I am the only one who knew growing up that something wasn't right. I knew I was set apart . Both of my parents are Naracists. More my dad then my mom. I even have one sister who is a Naracist and both of my brothers are also. My younger sister doesn't understand what I told her and she believes what my parents taught her. I am a single mother to my children. I raised my children different then how I was raised. Yes, I did married a Naracist who was My x husband I was married to him for 5 & a half years. It wasn't easy to get out of my marriage. I was brave to get out and got a divorce. I take responsibility for everything. I always been a Empath. The only reason why I probably married my x husband i was used to the abuse growing up. I gone to celebrate recovery. It has helped me . I know i am impefect person who is forgiven and loved by God. I been single since I am happy and content being single. Yes, I do admit I was in shame growing up before I be came a Christian. I been a Christian for over ten years. My friend bought me to church after my divorce. The best thing I ever did was accept Jesus as my Savior. God is good all the time. I encourage my children and let them show their feelings. I also told my children that I am impefect parent and i say i am sorry to them when i am wrong, i tell my children the truth with everything, i don't hide anything from them at all. Its always better to be open with communication and be honest to your children with everything to have a good relationship with them and for them to trust you. I do love my self as well as my imperfects that I do have. I have told people my testimony in church to others of what I went through and how I am now blessed through victory thanks to God. God changes us and gives us strength when we are weak. We can't do it on our own our lives weren't meant to be with out God in our lives. I am blameless thanks to God , I don't blame my x husband for what I went through with the him being abusive to me it has made me stronger and a wiser person who I am today thanks to God who gives us wisdom through reading the Bible. I know it wasn't my x husband fault that he was a Naracist since his mother was also. They didn't know at all . I pray for everyone all the time and give everyone encouragement and be a peace maker like I am suppose to do as being a Christian.
My god Kenny! I have the exact same mantra for the exact same reason, I always explain the same as you when they ask me why won't you let me call you Paola :O
I do Have Lots to work on my self I’m eager to dig deeply to bring everything into the light! That it terrifies me and I think I’m in place where I’m stuck! Cuz the shame I feel to let my self or false self off the hook!
The problem with being in sales is everything is up for grabs and I mean everything, this has been a big problem for me for the last twenty or thirty years I have been selling, I even sold myself, how shocking is that? Everything is just a thing I don't care about anything, as a result of all this selling I am relatively wealthy, I have those thoughts, I try not to sell everything, I have no-go areas, my cars and my house, my life has been a nightmare I caused it I don't know why, I know the reason I am wealthy now is the reason my life has been a nightmare, I have suffered, I might be broken, I don't know if I am or not, maybe I am. I watched the video where the lady said she felt small in the company of rich people, I don't feel that, I know I look a mess, but I think that's funny, I offered a large amount of money for my present house, a couple in a BMW had just left I turned up in a 15-year-old Citroën with a roof rack, I was wearing a red dress, wellington boots and a wooly hat LOL It made me feel good, the best I ever felt, look at me, it's all relative, maybe the problem is with western culture, we are amongst the richest people in the world, meanwhile our families are broken, and our civilisation is dying all because we want a new car? Having watched this video, I have never realised I have sold everything or recognised what's wrong with that, I can't see why I can survive without selling, let's face it everyone does it, it's a disease.
My ex husband tirned my daughter against me after i left him..mow my daughter as an adult w kids of her own has allowed me back in her life but she is still very angry and can be cruel towards me at times.. What can i do to help her see that i adore her
It’s been my experience that we have to let go of the concept of trying to get them to see us and see that we adore them. Because there’s a level of control in that. That’s our need for them to recognize us. We have no control over whether somebody recognizes us or not. All we can control is ourselves. Therefore, the best way to handle a situation like that is to work our own recovery plan and to recognize ourselves. Learn to adore ourselves. People are naturally drawn to those that don’t try to take from them. So when we stop demanding that others take care of us by noticing us and instead do that job for ourselves, it gives them the space to decide if they’d like to see us for who we really are.
I'm obsessed with your videos. However, please stop using Black people as examples. I don't think you're aware enough of the socio-economic, emotional, spiritual, and psychological traumas that people from that community have. As such, I don't think that you can express yourself about them in an informed and empathetic way enough. As such, it makes it very difficult for me to continue ingesting your work. Please be mindful.
@@leeboriack8054 trauma topic always very sensitive, only he talking about himself, can be much better, not triggered, otherwise, still trigger lots of people
And wow you see so much of that control and shame base today! With people trying to control everybody to make themselves feel better
Kenny, your words are PROFOUND! Nothing wrong with quoting others, but don't devalue your own words. I have read so many of the books you have recommended (prior to finding you, I should add), and learned a ton. Yet, it's your words that have woven it all together in a way that I can finally see the pattern and understand it in a way I can apply it more deeply, and best of all, successfully. You are powerful and effective, and you can own that. ;)
Thank you very much. That’s very kind of you to say😁
Yessss wow this is so good. My sister and I were both severely abused by my father and she wound up overcompensating. She was fat growing up but then she became a doctor and had the perfect husband and perfect children and all of them have that grandiose attitude. It makes perfect sense now how we wound up so different
Oh my God Ken! I just had a haha moment while you were talking about your love for golf as it relates to your brother@ 36:20. Well, for me coming from Haiti at age 12 and moving in with my estranged father and his wife, life was dark. My stepmother used to put my name on food items, what I could and couldn't touch in the kitchen. I was a kid for God's sake. I hated how her actions made me feel. Humiliated, small, and unworthy because I wasn't her child. So, as a young teen, I developed an obsession with the cooking show with Chefs Julia Child and Jacque Pepin on PBS every Sunday. I just dived myself into their beautiful culinary world.
My blended family was so dysfunctional that we never sat down for dinner, not even on Sundays after church. I remember my first happy Thanksgiving memory was when I was stationed overseas. As I grew older, I saw food as a way to bring people together. Well, after high school, I went to culinary school in NY, cooked in the navy for 8 years, and now I'm a culinary and nutrition educator. Omg! Lucky for me though Ken, I taught myself to have a very healthy relationship with food by studying nutrition in college and meal prepping every Saturday. This is amazing. I'm almost in tears just thinking about this.
Beautiful story and when people learn how the worst day cycle works and all of the things I talk about and teach they have the same reaction as yourself. All of a sudden life makes sense. They understand where their pain comes from and why they have made their adult decisions both good and bad. It’s how we reclaim our authentic self and bring peace back into our life and for the life of me I can’t understand why people wouldn’t devour this information because it always leads to the exact same conclusion that you had. Complete understanding and peace.
I’m very happy for you😁👏
@@kennyweiss Thank you so much Kenny. I will continue to do the work. This is completely off topic, but I wanted to address a comment you made in this vid about the Black Lives Matter movement and the unfortunate destruction of buildings that took place. Now, as a naturalized citizen living in a country that adopted me at age 22, I initially didn't understand it either. To be honest with you, I was shocked to see this happening in America because growing up in unstable and corrupt Haiti, I never thought I would witness such a thing on American soil. Haitian history is very different from Afro American history and I'm still learning about the generational trauma that still hunts and runs through the veins of black Americans. I saw this clip on Last Week Tonight with John Oliver and it sums up why black Americans take such actions. I share it with you to give you a different perspective because just like you, I didn't understand it. This young lady, Kimberly Jones summed up African American history in just 6 mins. ua-cam.com/video/llci8MVh8J4/v-deo.html
No matter where we go, there we are.
I have no problem accepting what you're saying. Almost none of my family can.
Facing our denial takes time
Same, sweet lady, same.
Thank you so much for helping me through some of my uncertain pain I have been experiencing! I can't believe how much I've learned from this video and there's so much more work to be done 🤗💓Keep the information flowing 💕
You are so welcome!
After I found you.. i started to avoid your videos for about a week. This was after realizing i had been enmeshed and grew up never knowing who I was.. I know God led me to these teachings.
Thank you for being your authentic self so we can have the opportunity as well. God bless you
Wow Nancy what guts. Thank you so much for sharing that. I really appreciate the honesty and vulnerability!
You are not alone. Most people reject me for the exact same reason.
In general it takes people about 1 to 3 years before they sort of, kind of, might…. consider listening to me or liking me.
In the end, it’s not about me it’s about the injury from their childhood trauma that they don’t want to admit to.
They are flooded with the unhealed shame, pain, hurt and anger and they project that onto me!
When they are ready to heal, they do come back. Their soul recognizes truth and that they need truth to heal.
I'm obsessed with your videos.
Wow, so eye and heart opening.
Thank you Kenny, you are right about everything. It Is so true is right. I always Been the black sheep in my family and still am today. I am the oldest out of five children my parents had. I am the only one who knew growing up that something wasn't right. I knew I was set apart . Both of my parents are Naracists. More my dad then my mom. I even have one sister who is a Naracist and both of my brothers are also. My younger sister doesn't understand what I told her and she believes what my parents taught her. I am a single mother to my children. I raised my children different then how I was raised. Yes, I did married a Naracist who was My x husband I was married to him for 5 & a half years. It wasn't easy to get out of my marriage. I was brave to get out and got a divorce. I take responsibility for everything. I always been a Empath. The only reason why I probably married my x husband i was used to the abuse growing up. I gone to celebrate recovery. It has helped me . I know i am impefect person who is forgiven and loved by God. I been single since I am happy and content being single. Yes, I do admit I was in shame growing up before I be came a Christian. I been a Christian for over ten years. My friend bought me to church after my divorce. The best thing I ever did was accept Jesus as my Savior. God is good all the time. I encourage my children and let them show their feelings. I also told my children that I am impefect parent and i say i am sorry to them when i am wrong, i tell my children the truth with everything, i don't hide anything from them at all. Its always better to be open with communication and be honest to your children with everything to have a good relationship with them and for them to trust you. I do love my self as well as my imperfects that I do have. I have told people my testimony in church to others of what I went through and how I am now blessed through victory thanks to God. God changes us and gives us strength when we are weak. We can't do it on our own our lives weren't meant to be with out God in our lives. I am blameless thanks to God , I don't blame my x husband for what I went through with the him being abusive to me it has made me stronger and a wiser person who I am today thanks to God who gives us wisdom through reading the Bible. I know it wasn't my x husband fault that he was a Naracist since his mother was also. They didn't know at all . I pray for everyone all the time and give everyone encouragement and be a peace maker like I am suppose to do as being a Christian.
Uhhhh this is deep. Everything you say is true , its not easy to hear how we manipulate with being nice, but its TRUE. Thank you!
My god Kenny! I have the exact same mantra for the exact same reason, I always explain the same as you when they ask me why won't you let me call you Paola :O
I just found your video today I'm hooked
I do Have Lots to work on my self I’m eager to dig deeply to bring everything into the light! That it terrifies me and I think I’m in place where I’m stuck! Cuz the shame I feel to let my self or false self off the hook!
This is so true
I often get told I’m not nice, what that really means is I’m not fake
Great video. I also want to know where I can get that mirror on your wall!
Thankyou for this series of videos......some fab golden nuggets of wisdom....lots to think about and integrate 🙏
The problem with being in sales is everything is up for grabs and I mean everything, this has been a big problem for me for the last twenty or thirty years I have been selling, I even sold myself, how shocking is that? Everything is just a thing I don't care about anything, as a result of all this selling I am relatively wealthy, I have those thoughts, I try not to sell everything, I have no-go areas, my cars and my house, my life has been a nightmare I caused it I don't know why, I know the reason I am wealthy now is the reason my life has been a nightmare, I have suffered, I might be broken, I don't know if I am or not, maybe I am.
I watched the video where the lady said she felt small in the company of rich people, I don't feel that, I know I look a mess, but I think that's funny, I offered a large amount of money for my present house, a couple in a BMW had just left I turned up in a 15-year-old Citroën with a roof rack, I was wearing a red dress, wellington boots and a wooly hat LOL
It made me feel good, the best I ever felt, look at me, it's all relative, maybe the problem is with western culture, we are amongst the richest people in the world, meanwhile our families are broken, and our civilisation is dying all because we want a new car?
Having watched this video, I have never realised I have sold everything or recognised what's wrong with that, I can't see why I can survive without selling, let's face it everyone does it, it's a disease.
My ex husband tirned my daughter against me after i left him..mow my daughter as an adult w kids of her own has allowed me back in her life but she is still very angry and can be cruel towards me at times..
What can i do to help her see that i adore her
It’s been my experience that we have to let go of the concept of trying to get them to see us and see that we adore them. Because there’s a level of control in that. That’s our need for them to recognize us. We have no control over whether somebody recognizes us or not. All we can control is ourselves.
Therefore, the best way to handle a situation like that is to work our own recovery plan and to recognize ourselves. Learn to adore ourselves.
People are naturally drawn to those that don’t try to take from them. So when we stop demanding that others take care of us by noticing us and instead do that job for ourselves, it gives them the space to decide if they’d like to see us for who we really are.
❤️
There is no political solution for a spiritual problem. We need to get off the hamster wheel and become real ..
There is no political solution for a spiritual problem..
I'm obsessed with your videos. However, please stop using Black people as examples. I don't think you're aware enough of the socio-economic, emotional, spiritual, and psychological traumas that people from that community have. As such, I don't think that you can express yourself about them in an informed and empathetic way enough.
As such, it makes it very difficult for me to continue ingesting your work.
Please be mindful.
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and feelings👏😁
Could it be possible he was trying to be inclusive and acknowledge the Black community?
@@leeboriack8054 trauma topic always very sensitive, only he talking about himself, can be much better, not triggered, otherwise, still trigger lots of people