My favorite thing to ask someone is ''so what keeps you out of trouble?'' They will generally gravitate to whatever they like most. It could be working out, a sport, their kids or their pet and they will keep talking and talking and its easy to ask deeper dive follow up questions
@@Poochadragon123 Not sure where you are from but where I am cross over for work this saying said in the correct way (friendly and curious) comes across really well. It's essentially saying what keeps you busy
1. People don’t know how to say, NOT what to say: You should encourage them to talk about themselves. 2. A anchor r reveal e encourage - Anchor the conversation by connecting it to your mutual shared reality - Reveal something about you - Encouraging by asking them questions letting them take the lead.
I’ve been designing homes for wealthy people for years, what he said is so true and a necessary skill. So many of my clients overlook really important aspects of their lives which I’ve learned to tease out and then turn into important parts of their new home design. Get them talking about themselves, their work, hobbies, kids, travel. Let them blather on and try to pick up what they value.
Oh, you posted a sarcastic comment and missed the point! I tried doing that but couldn’t be that good. You must have had some practice. How did you know to target the weather in Paris thing?😅
i like the way you talk; consistent coherent, not slow & boring, and in a munchable shorter video not dragged into 10 mins. you got a new sub. you did introduce yourself as paul, but you should include your accolades and experiences to distinguish from other influncers
My clients are business men and women that are often affected by the weather, so we talk about the weather and it’s impact on this year’s products quality or customers count. We often talk about the kids but less so about spouses. I recently had a long conversation with a client about his new pickup truck. He gave the 25 year old truck he had been driving to his daughter, who is rebuilding a house she bought. My client bought a new pickup to replace it. By new I mean “like new” lease return. It has all the additional features and add ones but the cost was much less than a new one. I don’t think my client would have gotten a new truck except that his daughter need one and his wife was complaining she didn’t feel safe in the old one when she had to drive in the snow at the lake house. My client said the old truck was still perfect for hauling tools and supplies around the vineyards.
I think all of us plebs should be given more of these instructions, to help our poor betters, feel more comfortable in being self-centred and not burdened with obligations of mutual servility.
Oh it seems like I've been using it for years, trust this video guys, it works for me as an introvert too. There's so many extroverts out there you only need to listen and willing to learn from people experiences or hear something interesting you never heard about.
@@NicksHeine One will pivot to being an extrovert to encourage the other. I'm usually the 'one' doing that even though I'm painfully shy. Lol. Other than that, getting comfortable with silence is also a blessing.
The same goes for talking to anyone. This method was covered a long time ago in the book How to make friends and influence people. As a high net individual myself, I can tell you that business owners and entrepreneurs want to talk about their work and achievements. Their work is a huge part of their identity and they've put a lot of time and energy into it. Ask them about the journey that they've been on to get to where they are now and what future plans they have.
You are so right. I also use some thing we can connect in common to trigger conversations and let them express themselves as I encourage by asking more questions on those topics
Absolutely correct about the R in that acronym as being overlooked/underused and crucial. I am an executive, and love seeing you talk about this… but you should delete it because it’s my secret sauce to getting fellow executives to talk and talk ;) just kidding, thank you for making this :)
Very nice video. but still, we don't know how to ask the first question because we don't know where to connect with them. Where are the similarities between us.
Ok I've never been to Paris or any other parts of the world outside my country. So this is how i would do it: "So, you just came back from Paris? How fortunate of you! I've never once in my life set foot on Paris. If you dont mind, would you like to share a bit of your experience going there as well as the things you love about it. Based on your great personality, im sure you have a lot to say about Paris 😊."
Please don’t do this if you speak to a European. Things like “your great personality” comes across as very phony and slimy in countries like Germany, the Netherlands, Denmark or Scandinavia (Norway, Sweden, Finland). Even if you have good intentions it makes you appear as a sales person who doesn’t show genuine interest. You can instead just ask for recommendations. Replace the last sentence with, “Could you recommend any must-visit places in Paris?” Or just remove this part “Based on your great personality.” The rest is fine.
@@onee i see.. i didnt realize that.. In my country, its okay to compliment people's personality.. However, its still depends on the tone that we're using (if we sound sarcastic, it might backfired). I really appreciate the way you explain this to me 😄.. The world is sure a big place.. And to learn about others sure is fascinating.. Thank you and have a nice day.. from Malaysia 🇲🇾
How about just being an authentic person and rather than use formulae and manipulation to engage with people so you can get something from them be yourself and sincere to yourself and others… if you have nothing to say, you probably don’t need to be talking to them. Just be truthful at all times and everything flows from there- you do not need a formula.
Naa, i dont need this kinda of formula to begin with. Just learning by naturally when mingle around. Nothing to be shy off if it doesn’t goes well at first. You will gradually improve by time to time.
Exactly friend. Luxury is taking care of your diet your health your friends family and real love- the rest is all artifice. Nothing to learn or be taught here
Actually high-net worth people hate talking to others that come to them with a motive. You must already be someone interesting for them to come TO YOU.
That was lovely!! But that's business. We gladly do that, for money in return. How about emotional relationships? We can invest but we want to be invested in too. Maybe a video, would be really nice, although the channel isn't on relationship advice. Cheers!
None of this works if you have nothing in common with the person. The only way to meet people is by doing the same actions or activities as them, thats how they feel flatered, when they see somone they visually like, doing the same things as them. Once you do that, there is no more convincing to be done, the bar lowers automatically and they will accept you. I've been able to fake this to get in, but if you faked it... you wont last in their circles, won't be called again after the second mistake.
if you go to the same tennis club, but you spit on the course mid game in front of everyone, it will send a message, very different from having a tissue in your pocket and discretely using it. And from a certain age people will stop, or boost their ways of making money, thats a big bond too, same economic speed.
I'm in my 60's now and simply refuse to partake in smalltalk. All it does is prove to me is that the other person is more boring than I first thought. I don't want to share anything with you about my life because it's simple none of your business. When I can't get out if going to a social function I now look to find a quite corner where I won't be bothered.
@@LuxuryAcademyCan't dispute that but it works for me. Once you realise that 99.9% of people are boring and not worth talking too the better. And I don't pretend that I'm part of the 0.1% who are interesting.
Alright, 2 seconds into this high-class guy's video and he says "telled" instead of "told"? And I'm suppose to take your advice on how to have better conversation skills? Huh.
@@philip_757the irony, are YOU willing to admit you made two mistakes? I edit his videos and see this script when shooting 😂 so you're wrong twice so far...
Don't be FAKE! You watch this video and apply like some kind of blueprint. That's not authentic at all. Some might fall for your crap. Most people will sense you're playing a role.
My favorite thing to ask someone is ''so what keeps you out of trouble?'' They will generally gravitate to whatever they like most. It could be working out, a sport, their kids or their pet and they will keep talking and talking and its easy to ask deeper dive follow up questions
That's a brilliant and easy way to start a conversation!
Damn good advice
Why would I be in trouble in the first place? Are you calling me a trouble maker?
@@Poochadragon123 Not sure where you are from but where I am cross over for work this saying said in the correct way (friendly and curious) comes across really well. It's essentially saying what keeps you busy
@@patrickgeorgegalvin7763 How do you say it?
1. People don’t know how to say, NOT what to say: You should encourage them to talk about themselves.
2. A anchor r reveal e encourage
- Anchor the conversation by connecting it to your mutual shared reality
- Reveal something about you
- Encouraging by asking them questions letting them take the lead.
Good breakdown!
How to be the perfect NPC in a luxury heist movie
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YES hahaha
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W comment 😂
Powerful. Simply presented. Not a 10 minute video dragged out forever. You just got a new subscriber, thanks for the tips.
Amazing thank you! We appreciate you subscribing
I’ve been designing homes for wealthy people for years, what he said is so true and a necessary skill. So many of my clients overlook really important aspects of their lives which I’ve learned to tease out and then turn into important parts of their new home design. Get them talking about themselves, their work, hobbies, kids, travel. Let them blather on and try to pick up what they value.
100% you'll learn far more if you let them talk than you will asking them asking loads of direct questions!
So talk about the weather in Paris. Got it!
LOL
Oh, you posted a sarcastic comment and missed the point! I tried doing that but couldn’t be that good. You must have had some practice. How did you know to target the weather in Paris thing?😅
@@himanshupathak2197I see what you did there.
As a management professional I find the lecture fabulous.👍
Knew about getting people to talk about themselves, but the ARE framework is supper helpful
i like the way you talk; consistent coherent, not slow & boring, and in a munchable shorter video not dragged into 10 mins. you got a new sub. you did introduce yourself as paul, but you should include your accolades and experiences to distinguish from other influncers
Thank you that's very kind, although I'd hesitate to call myself an influencer!
My clients are business men and women that are often affected by the weather, so we talk about the weather and it’s impact on this year’s products quality or customers count. We often talk about the kids but less so about spouses.
I recently had a long conversation with a client about his new pickup truck.
He gave the 25 year old truck he had been driving to his daughter, who is rebuilding a house she bought. My client bought a new pickup to replace it. By new I mean “like new” lease return. It has all the additional features and add ones but the cost was much less than a new one. I don’t think my client would have gotten a new truck except that his daughter need one and his wife was complaining she didn’t feel safe in the old one when she had to drive in the snow at the lake house. My client said the old truck was still perfect for hauling tools and supplies around the vineyards.
I think all of us plebs should be given more of these instructions, to help our poor betters, feel more comfortable in being self-centred and not burdened with obligations of mutual servility.
I shall have to do a video on how to doff your cap properly!
video starts at 2:20
😳 The video starts at 00:00 😜
Oh it seems like I've been using it for years, trust this video guys, it works for me as an introvert too.
There's so many extroverts out there you only need to listen and willing to learn from people experiences or hear something interesting you never heard about.
You're absolutely right! It works very well for introverts because it gives you a blueprint to follow. Thanks for commenting 🙏🏼
Imagine two extreme introverts trying to make each other do the talking g
@@NicksHeine One will pivot to being an extrovert to encourage the other. I'm usually the 'one' doing that even though I'm painfully shy. Lol. Other than that, getting comfortable with silence is also a blessing.
I can't believe that someone would upload this kind of video for free
You're too kind
Loved your accent and the way you explained it - we need more British channels here on UA-cam, so sophisticatedly elegant..
Thank you! 😃
Remarkable Ideas. I love how there is less of rambling and more of "what should be done, the steps". You gained a new subscriber!!
Thanks for the sub!
@@LuxuryAcademy 🖤
Congratulations on this incredible achievement! Your dedication and hard work really shine through.
1:33 these are the same areas of the brain that light up when receiving validation. This is a great insight thank you for this video!
You're so welcome!
Great advice! Small talk can be the first step to important networking!
I find the weather genuinely interesting, so that's why I often bring it up haha
Thanks a lot I've been searching on how to fire up the conversations in the starting phase got this beautiful on point knowledge.❤
Glad it was helpful!
Thank you so much for this simple but effective framework. I am grateful.
You're very welcome!
The same goes for talking to anyone. This method was covered a long time ago in the book How to make friends and influence people.
As a high net individual myself, I can tell you that business owners and entrepreneurs want to talk about their work and achievements. Their work is a huge part of their identity and they've put a lot of time and energy into it. Ask them about the journey that they've been on to get to where they are now and what future plans they have.
Everybody's favourite subject is themselves!
Good Framework
Anchor: start conversation with shared interest or situation
Reveal: something about yourself
Encourage: follow up comments and questions
You are so right. I also use some thing we can connect in common to trigger conversations and let them express themselves as I encourage by asking more questions on those topics
100%
Good input God Bless
Excellent tips 👍
2:21 start of video, thanks me later!!!
This is actually great advice, thank you
You're so welcome! 🙏🏼
1:20 This Guy has clearly never met me. I absolutely don’t like talking about myself
And yet here we are talking about you!
@@LuxuryAcademy Sarcasm is such a wonderful thing, isn’t it ;)
@@Kay-pu2jn 😂😂😂
Billion dollars content 🙏🏻 thanks you so much you save my life
Impeccable presentation!
thank you!
simply powerfull!!
I think I must officially now be old-fashioned; I thought the lapels were supposed to be wider than the tie.
In Nigeria, if you finish asking those "ARE" question to a lady, she will just tell you "yes"
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Try it and see!
Depends. If you jam the amebo type, all you need to do is be a listener. Drop a topic and off she goes 😂
are formula - anchor the conversation with familiarity and be relevant and encourage the conversation by asking questions
Brilliant video.
Yes well, you would say that wouldn't you!
@@LuxuryAcademy 😅
Thank you!
12:34pm 8-17-24
What do you do when you're just not interested in anyone?
Pretend. 🤷🏼♂️
Thank you. Tomorrow I have a meeting with a CEO of a potential customer and thus will definitely help.
Good luck with your meeting!
If you do all of these things but not in a British accent, it will work for low net worth individuals too!
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Now I gotta go to Paris first
I believe I will learn more in the comments section
Fantastic! Thanks for staying around.
thank you
There is a lot ot people overlooking the reveal part, and so I do the same with them. Simple
I tried this with Mr Patel from the corner shop and it didn't work
Which one of you are the HNWI and which luxury item were you buying there? A gold vape?
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So should the encourage element follow directly after the reveal? People will sometimes have their own reveal comment after yours.
They'll use reveal after you encourage them to. It's unlikely people would reveal something about themselves off the bat
great insight!
Thank you!
Absolutely correct about the R in that acronym as being overlooked/underused and crucial. I am an executive, and love seeing you talk about this… but you should delete it because it’s my secret sauce to getting fellow executives to talk and talk ;) just kidding, thank you for making this :)
😂😂🤫
Very nice video. but still, we don't know how to ask the first question because we don't know where to connect with them. Where are the similarities between us.
Your anchor is based on a shared reality. Observe the client and choose a topic. You don't ask a question, you make a statement and create an anchor.
@@LuxuryAcademy thank you for your answer ! still don"t it by just looking at a women in a pink dress?
When I am interested
Reminds me of John Candy :)
You're so right! He was funny, successful and liked worldwide. Pretty similar to Luxury Academy really.
@@LuxuryAcademy He's dead
@@peterharrison3318 yes, that's why we said "he was"
So good!!!!
Thank you!
Wow!!
You’ve just said, don’t mention the weather and then you’ve gone on about the weather in Paris
Urr
Ok I've never been to Paris or any other parts of the world outside my country. So this is how i would do it:
"So, you just came back from Paris? How fortunate of you! I've never once in my life set foot on Paris. If you dont mind, would you like to share a bit of your experience going there as well as the things you love about it. Based on your great personality, im sure you have a lot to say about Paris 😊."
Please don’t do this if you speak to a European. Things like “your great personality” comes across as very phony and slimy in countries like Germany, the Netherlands, Denmark or Scandinavia (Norway, Sweden, Finland). Even if you have good intentions it makes you appear as a sales person who doesn’t show genuine interest. You can instead just ask for recommendations. Replace the last sentence with, “Could you recommend any must-visit places in Paris?” Or just remove this part “Based on your great personality.” The rest is fine.
@@onee i see.. i didnt realize that.. In my country, its okay to compliment people's personality.. However, its still depends on the tone that we're using (if we sound sarcastic, it might backfired). I really appreciate the way you explain this to me 😄.. The world is sure a big place.. And to learn about others sure is fascinating.. Thank you and have a nice day.. from Malaysia 🇲🇾
Bravo!
Very nice
Thank you!
How about just being an authentic person and rather than use formulae and manipulation to engage with people so you can get something from them be yourself and sincere to yourself and others… if you have nothing to say, you probably don’t need to be talking to them. Just be truthful at all times and everything flows from there- you do not need a formula.
You could, and if that comes naturally to you then excellent. It doesn't however come naturally to many people.
Naa, i dont need this kinda of formula to begin with. Just learning by naturally when mingle around. Nothing to be shy off if it doesn’t goes well at first.
You will gradually improve by time to time.
Exactly friend. Luxury is taking care of your diet your health your friends family and real love- the rest is all artifice. Nothing to learn or be taught here
Actually high-net worth people hate talking to others that come to them with a motive. You must already be someone interesting for them to come TO YOU.
@maboo736 If they're in your retail space then they're interested in you.
Honestly just be yourself around me
What if the person is moody and doesn't want to talk?
Yeah, I can imagine the person about to buy a £200,000 watch being in a right mood 😂
LOL
As a natural extrovert, i already know all this lmao
1:25 that is absolutely not true! I don’t think that I am the most interesting person. I am a very boring person. Nothing to talk about me.
sure it might not be true for most mediocre individuals. but for HNWI, they are full of themselves (atleast most of them)
LOL we see what you did there!
@@LuxuryAcademyexactly :D
I'm boring too. And so is my wife.
1:10
Guy said don’t talk about the weather, then talked about the weather
It makes sense. The reality is, though that immigration isn’t about helping the poor. It’s about changing the country. 🤷♂️
No wonder therapists make so much
I do not like to talk about myself.
Well that's what you just did
That was lovely!!
But that's business. We gladly do that, for money in return.
How about emotional relationships? We can invest but we want to be invested in too. Maybe a video, would be really nice, although the channel isn't on relationship advice. Cheers!
LOL. I know Paul is a Behavioural Psychologist but I don't think his expertise stretches into those kind of relationships. But who knows!
None of this works if you have nothing in common with the person. The only way to meet people is by doing the same actions or activities as them, thats how they feel flatered, when they see somone they visually like, doing the same things as them. Once you do that, there is no more convincing to be done, the bar lowers automatically and they will accept you. I've been able to fake this to get in, but if you faked it... you wont last in their circles, won't be called again after the second mistake.
if you go to the same tennis club, but you spit on the course mid game in front of everyone, it will send a message, very different from having a tissue in your pocket and discretely using it. And from a certain age people will stop, or boost their ways of making money, thats a big bond too, same economic speed.
I'm in my 60's now and simply refuse to partake in smalltalk. All it does is prove to me is that the other person is more boring than I first thought. I don't want to share anything with you about my life because it's simple none of your business. When I can't get out if going to a social function I now look to find a quite corner where I won't be bothered.
Victor Meldrew was the same
@@LuxuryAcademyCan't dispute that but it works for me. Once you realise that 99.9% of people are boring and not worth talking too the better. And I don't pretend that I'm part of the 0.1% who are interesting.
@@LuxuryAcademyMy wife agrees with you.
Just be yourself. What's the point of faking anything?
Nobody's faking anything. It's simply good manners to make people feel at ease and comfortable.
Criminalize small talk
LOL. Why?
Alright, 2 seconds into this high-class guy's video and he says "telled" instead of "told"? And I'm suppose to take your advice on how to have better conversation skills? Huh.
You need to get your ears tested. He used the word "told".
@@LuxuryAcademy not buying it. Seems like you're not willing to admit you made a mistake. Probably because you edit your own videos 👀
@@philip_757the irony, are YOU willing to admit you made two mistakes? I edit his videos and see this script when shooting 😂 so you're wrong twice so far...
He says "told".
Lol. He said the word"told". You are not a native english speaker. That is a luxury!
The American pronunciation of LUGsury is insufferable.
You're not wrong. I wonder when I picked up that habit 😱
Talk
MISS MANNERS AND LOUIE DE PALMA DOES IT MUCH BETTER!
Don't be FAKE! You watch this video and apply like some kind of blueprint. That's not authentic at all. Some might fall for your crap. Most people will sense you're playing a role.
Bla bla bla
This is garbage. And you know it
Keyboard Warriors are our favourite commenters!
@@LuxuryAcademy Weak Content lives in denial and defensiveness. Good luck creating a group of professional hanger-ons and free loaders.
I HATE SMALL TALK