My Ex wanted me to stop working and I refused, just because I was earning more than him, he didn't want me to drive the car that I bought, he didn't like my friends, he didn't like my family. I am happy where I am with my freedom and my family, I forgave him, may GOD give him the happiness he desired. Shalom.
@@smartkefa8691 the moment u separate or divorce some men want u to go down and the moment you start to grow even more than him then the bitterness kicks in,
My hubby says such men are stupid and they forget the success of the wife is theirs too. I earn more than my hubby and he can't even encourage the thought of me quitting my job to stay at home. Plus mimi siwezi wacha ndoa ikae. It's very difficult to rely on a man.
I have an ex who demanded i resign and be a house mama because he works for the armed forces and earns well.When i could not oblidge to his demands,he said i was high headed and quite uncontrollable.
I relate with Cates story perfectly....Don't pick garbage from the pit....it remains garbage forever........I picked one and it's been tears all along.......ruruka rwa kimbu rutithiraga mungungutu
Narcissists are very dangerous.. They're happy when victim is hurting.. Masaitani. Madam you're good and hard working but you should move on. Forgive and forget.. You were just a victim of athug.. Move on
@@marykymani5466 I was really disturbed by Mumbi Kibathi's story. It's so unfortunate she's suffering so much with her kids, yet she worked so hard for all her properties.
Catherine, very heartbreaking to hear what you have been through. Thanks for making time to come and see me at the very most time I needed you. I truly didn't know that you were going through.
Ati she loves him today tomorrow and forever. Ngai.. mimi i wouldn't necessarily hate him but I don't think i would say love him unless its with the Love of God
The Ngatia's I can attest she was a good matron. We met her at Karen Hospital when my husband was going for dialysis. she has a big heart and a great smile. Keep trusting in the Lord you are going far.
Soldier on gal. It was not to work. A narcissist is an abuser. There is nothing you can do about it. Move on with your life. God is with you. Nimekupenda sana. Hope God will give you a good partner. Blessings.
This person has adopted a behavior that needs to be stopped. He knows the system and manipulates those women who don't know for his own gains. I think there is no need of hiding his identity because someone else will fall on his hands. That's sad. Ngai at least I have known about this spousal support for a while na hakuna mwanaume ama jimwanaume litapata yangu. Lazy man. Ladies don't settle for less it will catch up with u later. Pole sana
@@sallysally9011 It's true we have seen others fail too but.... wuuui Kikuyus count ....how many single mum in matter of percentage in comparison .only God knows how many Women are crying 😢 every day for absent irresponsible husbands. Lets be real call a spade a spade. it's so shameful.
You are very strong 💪 may God protect you and kudos forgiveness is key that's demonstrate that you are on the healing journey which is centered in Christ God bless you
Sec time here she is very beautiful and hardworking ingelikua ni mimi niwe na job nzuurii kenya I can't go abroad out of experience weeh ni shinda inatumaga uendee majuu
Catherine you are not to blame, it's hard. Chase your dreams and your kids need you. You are not average you are an achiever. You are brave and special You inspire many You are stronger with Jesus.
Your Ex felt insecure because you are a strong woman. Let Go guide you. Strong women live difficult lives if they have insecure husbands so be careful and let God take care of your future.
The headline remainds me of my mum one day being told to reign from job but she's didn't just to be told to go and farm which didn't sink in her mind she lives to remember.
Nurses are pure hearted but people misunderstand them we are there to help not to hurt we don’t work for money but for God nobody can pay us enough of what we do 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
Sister Catherine. Oh MY. I am really sorry about this. She was my boss for so so many years. She was my mentor in Nursing. This is absolutely heartbreaking.
So sorry Ms. Catherine, moving on is not easy especially when you truly loved your ex. May the good lord give you the strength to move on. God has greater plans ahead.
Marriage is the greatest test of life.i will do anything to counsel anyone contemplating to get married. Young girls hook up with married women they have hidden treasures in them.ukiona wananyamaza Wana mambo.
A good name is worth more than rubies, from all the comments of those who have met you, you are a good woman, good hearted, and hard working. You me make it, it's just a scar of life
This is so careless of you Just say the Kikuyu men you know, married or dated are irresponsible.. It's unfair to drag the whole tribe. you need healing ,
Aaaah i love her so so much huyu mama i dream to meet her.Amesema mtu wa bidii ako bidii Amerika na kenya woii i cant beleive kukosa job america na makesi
Gosh that's a very evil man. Spousal support?? That's why he so wanted to marry you and take you to US. So sorry Catherine. That's an evil narcissistic man.
I have turned one down because when I listen to him he always talk bad about his ex wife but after evaluating and analysing him he is the one who is bad,there was another who got married last year after asking me I refused he went and got married to one of the gospel singers in Kenya and to my surprise he is again in my inbox he was in Kenya on dec to early this year and he kept calling me until I warned him to leave me alone he is now married, I really pity that gospel singer because she was divorced by her Bishop husband, this other one is a disaster, I pray she don’t fall from the pan to the fire,Some American men are not serious they are just players we have to be very careful, May God help us to have the discernment and to see the red flags
@@monienjeri3042 Khaii akhi mmefanya niogope kuolewa na venye nilikuwa nimeamua kuacha job by the end of this month niingie kwa ndoa reke nemwo reu🙄🙄🙄🙄
You can never a know a narcissist. They have a secret life and when you get too close, they abandon and lie about you. Those relationships are very damaging. I pray that you and the children heal.
@@nancyblessing8411 I agree with you. You don't get into a relationship knowing someone is a narcissist. Most people don't even know what they are dealing with.. I feel sorry for all those people who are being constantly abused emotionally and don't even know it. The emotional damage caused is horrible. At least awareness is being created and people are getting to know about it.
Catherine you are so beautiful, woman of God. Forgiveness is the way to go for your own healing . Let’s pray for men and women , we all need God everyday
That exactly what I went through,got married for only 2yrs to someone who is here in US,the reason why they go back to kenya looking for women to marry ni coz CV yao nibaya hapa US to appoint no one can tolerate them,am a single mom of 1 and am happy I stepped out early. I went through the same thing mom.
Reconcile with your true husband (the father of your children) and either bring him over or go back home; you said that you just had petty differences? If he’s still single and willing to reconcile, please go ahead. Getting into a 3rd marriage is not advisable
Pole sana mama. I also think The man has a right to reply. I think women are very good at articulating ourselves and that's where we are stronger than men. We need to empower our men and allow them safe spaces to talk. I've been in family mediations for long enough and I know there is always 3 sides to a story; his side, her side and TRUTH!
The sad thing with emotional abuse is that the perpetrator dishes it so skillfully without the knowledge of the victim. They Target your soul / spirit and they seek to break you. They behave like they are devil's agent. The devil seeks after your soul. The solution is to read the Bible and discover that the power lies within you.
Madam, you need to talk to the ladies who get married to divorcees because I try to and they think I am jealous. They are all Narcissists and the only person who can help them is Jesus!
I think the insecurity came from the Ex -husband. She has a good heart. It means she has a healthy relationship with her Ex who is the father of her kids. She made mistakes. It's true words are effective. She was hurting. She didn't have anyone to talk to. Sometimes we feel like no one understands. People back home may not understand. She was in the new country. Let's not blame nor judge her. Things can be tough especially when you have a legal case. And when you are facing an enemy who was your friend. She needs prayers and continue counselling. She should focus on more work. Start her own business like a nursing home. When she finds purpose in life she will heal faster
I can attest,she was my boss at Karen Hosp,so hardworking,may God continue opening your doors
My Ex wanted me to stop working and I refused, just because I was earning more than him, he didn't want me to drive the car that I bought, he didn't like my friends, he didn't like my family. I am happy where I am with my freedom and my family, I forgave him, may GOD give him the happiness he desired. Shalom.
I still don’t understand why people change or get threatened when one starts grow or get better one gets angry??!!!
That's a narcissist. Thanks God you ran.
Wivu hiyo.akanyange kubwa kubwa
@@smartkefa8691 the moment u separate or divorce some men want u to go down and the moment you start to grow even more than him then the bitterness kicks in,
My hubby says such men are stupid and they forget the success of the wife is theirs too. I earn more than my hubby and he can't even encourage the thought of me quitting my job to stay at home. Plus mimi siwezi wacha ndoa ikae. It's very difficult to rely on a man.
She was th best nurse at dialysis section l love you Kate you are always in my mind
May God bless you in all your undertakings in USA
Wambui, you will go far my dear 🙏
I know this Woman & she is telling nothing but the Open Trueth 🙏
I worked with Catherine in Nairobi Hospital. So sorry for what she went through and I'm glad she is out of it.
Cecily McDonell Hoyeeee!
Oyee!
Forget the former things, forgive and move on you are strong woman thanks for sharing your story
I have an ex who demanded i resign and be a house mama because he works for the armed forces and earns well.When i could not oblidge to his demands,he said i was high headed and quite uncontrollable.
Narcissist!
He was looking for a lady to manipulate
@@Wanjamburu.23 sure yes and I could not oblige for a minute
I relate with Cates story perfectly....Don't pick garbage from the pit....it remains garbage forever........I picked one and it's been tears all along.......ruruka rwa kimbu rutithiraga mungungutu
Narcissists are very dangerous.. They're happy when victim is hurting.. Masaitani.
Madam you're good and hard working but you should move on. Forgive and forget.. You were just a victim of athug.. Move on
Yes. You are right Hannah. There are so many thugs even here in Seattle.
unfortunately some of them pretend to be Pastors.
@@kksuccesstraining if they're like that they can eat ifen the sheeps
I worked with Catherine she is very hard working and she has a very clean heart she was my colleague in Nairobi Hospital and Karen Hospital
“Catherine come back home, those people don’t value you”
That’s so deep 🙏🏾
Uuuuuiiiii Kikuyu men...
Hii story nikama ya mumbi kibathi.. pole sana.
Niliwatch kwa Wambui mwangi UA-cam..
Eeh ni kama ya mumbi wa kibathi aki ni painful hadi nililia pia apartment zake hachukuangi rent ni huyo ex husband uchukua
Haiya think about it. You’re right!
True kikuyy men are thugs. Kuna ya Mumbi kuna mwingine alitendwa niliwatch Hungura show ako UK. They need to turn to God.
That story of Mumbi i felt it and it hit me soo hard her story should be trending she needs help aki😢
@@marykymani5466 I was really disturbed by Mumbi Kibathi's story. It's so unfortunate she's suffering so much with her kids, yet she worked so hard for all her properties.
Wonderful strong woman. Very open and truthful. May God bless you and make you and your kids great. Nginya umake biu biu!
AMEEEEEN
Catherine, very heartbreaking to hear what you have been through. Thanks for making time to come and see me at the very most time I needed you. I truly didn't know that you were going through.
I love the way Jeremy interviews ..he gives someone to express herself
Professional
Ati she loves him today tomorrow and forever. Ngai.. mimi i wouldn't necessarily hate him but I don't think i would say love him unless its with the Love of God
She needs to move on
The Ngatia's
I can attest she was a good matron. We met her at Karen Hospital when my husband was going for dialysis. she has a big heart and a great smile. Keep trusting in the Lord you are going far.
I'm so sorry to hear about your husband. My ex is going through dialysis right now. How is your husband doing?
Soldier on gal. It was not to work. A narcissist is an abuser. There is nothing you can do about it. Move on with your life. God is with you. Nimekupenda sana. Hope God will give you a good partner. Blessings.
Tuned from saudia Arabia. Oooh pole sana mom.never give up God is with you.❤❤❤❤
This person has adopted a behavior that needs to be stopped. He knows the system and manipulates those women who don't know for his own gains. I think there is no need of hiding his identity because someone else will fall on his hands. That's sad.
Ngai at least I have known about this spousal support for a while na hakuna mwanaume ama jimwanaume litapata yangu. Lazy man. Ladies don't settle for less it will catch up with u later. Pole sana
True, I realised that
Just seen this video! I think that was his plan! To earn from women! Lord have e mercy!
Thank you for sharing your story. Many will benefit. You are a strong woman. More grace.
I really empathize with this lady. There are not that many people who understand what narcissistic abuse is
Do you understand or you just had
Very intense, candid talk! I am grateful I bumped into this?!
Niki gitumaga percentage nene ya hardworking ladies most of them fall on the wrong hands ????
@ Josephine Wainana, asking myself too, these evil monitoring Spirits zishindwe
Wainaina so painful
Asking the same question
Wainaina,life is crazy in away
You're a great woman Catherine...and you're going far.... Its the journey of life...God is taking you far....great ministry being birthed
Huhuu you knew me while am working
Then uniambie niwache job huhuuu hapo diyo unaweza Jua Maina alinisomesha sio ww
Icant quit my job
You are a blessed lady and so honest with yourself 🤝
Be careful with Kikuyu married men in America. They pretend to be single and yet they are married with wives in Kenya.
Kikuyu men need to re-evaluate their values as far as the marriage institution is concerned. Most of them have failed miserably.
Very true
True
@@nancykiama8734 all tribes
@@sallysally9011
It's true we have seen others fail too but.... wuuui Kikuyus count ....how many single mum in matter of percentage in comparison .only God knows how many Women are crying 😢 every day for absent irresponsible husbands. Lets be real call a spade a spade. it's so shameful.
You are very strong 💪 may God protect you and kudos forgiveness is key that's demonstrate that you are on the healing journey which is centered in Christ God bless you
Iyo ni ngoma,move on with your life my sister
Don't regret moving to US but please move on from that ex husband, forgive and forget him.
Sec time here she is very beautiful and hardworking ingelikua ni mimi niwe na job nzuurii kenya I can't go abroad out of experience weeh ni shinda inatumaga uendee majuu
Catherine you are not to blame, it's hard. Chase your dreams and your kids need you. You are not average you are an achiever. You are brave and special You inspire many You are stronger with Jesus.
Your Ex felt insecure because you are a strong woman. Let Go guide you. Strong women live difficult lives if they have insecure husbands so be careful and let God take care of your future.
The headline remainds me of my mum one day being told to reign from job but she's didn't just to be told to go and farm which didn't sink in her mind she lives to remember.
Nurses are pure hearted but people misunderstand them we are there to help not to hurt we don’t work for money but for God nobody can pay us enough of what we do 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
Not all nurses are good,,i can attest one in kiambu hospital
Speak on ur behalf
Not all nurses. Actually majority are very rude and arrogant.
Pole sana Catherine n thanks for sharing your story to educate others God bless you 🙏 ❤
I glad for her coz she overcame all that and she's at a happy place now.
God bless her and her children.
Lesson learnt.👍👍
Sister Catherine. Oh MY. I am really sorry about this. She was my boss for so so many years. She was my mentor in Nursing. This is absolutely heartbreaking.
Catherine, I know you from Nairobi Hospital. May the Lord
heal you from this dark period in Jesus Mighty Name. May He restore your beautiful smile
Catherine Wambui my namesake God bless you ..
Of course sister yake nonginya angiakwirire mûtûmîa ari muuru 🤣onania ngiteo ndiwamiaka 23 gwatwikire ndari muuru umuthi uyu nuu wari nathina 🤷♀️
Na niguo Catherine e mutumia mwega l knew her in her first marriage. Arume mendaga atia.
This lady sounds sincere. May GBY.
So sorry Ms. Catherine, moving on is not easy especially when you truly loved your ex. May the good lord give you the strength to move on. God has greater plans ahead.
Marriage is the greatest test of life.i will do anything to counsel anyone contemplating to get married. Young girls hook up with married women they have hidden treasures in them.ukiona wananyamaza Wana mambo.
Hi Susan Wanjiku 😊
Marriage is what you make it but both has to be on the same page. Not all marriages fail, I have enjoyed mine for many years and cant change a thing.
@@estherwaithaka9815 hello.
@@janehughes6927 keep thanking God.it is His grace.
Hey, Catherine, God loves you so much.
A good name is worth more than rubies, from all the comments of those who have met you, you are a good woman, good hearted, and hard working. You me make it, it's just a scar of life
Kikuyu men don't value wives or children. God help them
What a shame!!!!
This is so careless of you
Just say the Kikuyu men you know, married or dated are irresponsible.. It's unfair to drag the whole tribe. you need healing ,
@@makena381 True I apologize
Jeremy you are too funny atī irio cia kīunduire 🤣🤣 aregete ciothe 😂😂😂
😂😂😂
Tuned from saudi what a gorgeous lady .God bless you mama
This lady she is a Royal woman and she is honest fit sure may God bless you dear facebook is where we release our distress and somewhere it help a lot
I am living with one NPD spouse and confirm what you say is true. They are sweet if they want to and nasty too if they choose. Always a victim
Ati irio cia unduire nimaa Jeremy reke ngwire maundu maya 😝😝😝
Sad....Pole Mami
You are such a strong woman Catherine.God be your strength.
Aaaah i love her so so much huyu mama i dream to meet her.Amesema mtu wa bidii ako bidii Amerika na kenya woii i cant beleive kukosa job america na makesi
Good to see you Çatherine, thank you for being open.You have help many Kenyans.
Catherine you have a loving and very, kind and generous heart. I just detected from your talk. May God give you His Grace.
Jeremy you are a very good journalist ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Gosh that's a very evil man. Spousal support?? That's why he so wanted to marry you and take you to US.
So sorry Catherine. That's an evil narcissistic man.
my former high school prefect. Was a genuine saved girl
Well said, when marrying a person who was married before, always try to find out what happened to the other person who was there before .
Well said munyi me I cannot marry to divocee sister kezeh where are yu...listen this.
Sometimes there’s nobody to tell you the truth
@@wambosunshine5600 very true there is no one to tell someone the truth
You're right rosephine dnt expect you will be better than the ex you dnt know what she went thro
Negotiating with a narcissist is totally impossible.......moving on is the best decision. These men are pathological liars
😊 kizungu noted
Yes, that is the key word....pathological liars.
This is what am going through. Mine lies about everything. I feel like ur talking about me.
Kwanza wanaume wame kaa diaspora 1 million years ati wana rudi home kutafuta bibi ni wanaume expired...jii hadari kabisa...
@@lucianaabbigael6736 pole
I have turned one down because when I listen to him he always talk bad about his ex wife but after evaluating and analysing him he is the one who is bad,there was another who got married last year after asking me I refused he went and got married to one of the gospel singers in Kenya and to my surprise he is again in my inbox he was in Kenya on dec to early this year and he kept calling me until I warned him to leave me alone he is now married, I really pity that gospel singer because she was divorced by her Bishop husband, this other one is a disaster, I pray she don’t fall from
the pan to the fire,Some American men are not serious they are just players we have to be very careful, May God help us to have the discernment and to see the red flags
Khaii don't tell me it's the guy who married Jane muthoni God forbid oooo
@@carolgathoni1818 no not that one
waaa don't tell me not the one am thinking
Khaiii nimemjua aki,, na huyo singer hutangaza Mashammba ya kuuzwa,, uyu niwe anga tiwe
@@monienjeri3042 Khaii akhi mmefanya niogope kuolewa na venye nilikuwa nimeamua kuacha job by the end of this month
niingie kwa ndoa reke nemwo reu🙄🙄🙄🙄
Catherine you have a good heart, you shall get through this and if this man loves you for real,he will come back to you in future.
Hey guys nitafutiyeni job American ni come na watoi wangu
Karibu dada to the Land of milk and honey. Jobs ni mingi. What job are you looking for?
Wee ndiye ulimpenda lakini yeye hakukupenda kabisaaa
So true
So sad. Some men have egos and feel threatened by strong women. He needed real counseling
Naniguo madam ino ikuo...waaaa
Hugs Sr Catherine, you are indeed a strong woman 👌
Wee I don't regret refusing to move to Washington in the name of love. I strongly feel as a friend told me it was all for revenge purposes.
Woiye jeremey saidia mumbi aki atauwawa
It's *irio Cia kinduire for me*🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣Jeremy u are so comical
But if you have your well paying job, si you live your life while healing,kwani what's the problem?
Catherine God bless you for sharing
Some men feel threatened when women earns more . God bless you Mum. Hope you are working now.
Not some but All men! It's in the DNA of a man to be above the woman.
True
Spousal support my foot! Wacha nikae kenya
That's true there are a lot of narcissistic men around. Thanks for touching on this topic.
You will never win with a narcissist.. the secret is to disengage and move on
B.K thats true100%
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You can never a know a narcissist. They have a secret life and when you get too close, they abandon and lie about you. Those relationships are very damaging. I pray that you and the children heal.
@@nancyblessing8411 I agree with you. You don't get into a relationship knowing someone is a narcissist. Most people don't even know what they are dealing with.. I feel sorry for all those people who are being constantly abused emotionally and don't even know it. The emotional damage caused is horrible. At least awareness is being created and people are getting to know about it.
Pole for all that she went through... however nurses in America... hmmmm icio ngaria ukuru...
Catherine you are so beautiful, woman of God. Forgiveness is the way to go for your own healing . Let’s pray for men and women , we all need God everyday
That exactly what I went through,got married for only 2yrs to someone who is here in US,the reason why they go back to kenya looking for women to marry ni coz CV yao nibaya hapa US to appoint no one can tolerate them,am a single mom of 1 and am happy I stepped out early. I went through the same thing mom.
Yes ma'am....expired men of diaspora...wana julikana...in every State...
he was your destiny connector. but negatively for you to be there now
They are called men moto wa kuotea mbali
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Ur 100% right.. Wambui run for ur life...
Weeeh !!!!
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
She advices only come to America with spouse visa not fiance visa.
Woooyaa wathoondekaa,,naake '"'absence grows fonder to the heart'"after some time off ,,magacookaanwo..ok
What mwathani what a sad story I love to be independent woman
Reconcile with your true husband (the father of your children) and either bring him over or go back home; you said that you just had petty differences? If he’s still single and willing to reconcile, please go ahead. Getting into a 3rd marriage is not advisable
Catherine don't go to any man stay single
there's always more than meets the eyes
Just take time heal mambo itajipanga
He's an ex for a reason. I'm sure if she wanted to go back to him, she would have by now
No way! In fact she said the children did not want her to go to another abusive marriage!
This is a very strong woman, Forgiveness is not easy, but she is victorious
Where do these men who ask their wives to resign or not work come from. Na vile I love mine working, even earning more than I do!
👏 God bless you
I concur with you
Marry me now now 😃😆🤣
@@njorok7368 🤣🤣
You are one in a million
Pole sana mama. I also think The man has a right to reply. I think women are very good at articulating ourselves and that's where we are stronger than men. We need to empower our men and allow them safe spaces to talk. I've been in family mediations for long enough and I know there is always 3 sides to a story; his side, her side and TRUTH!
The man's side
Haki mammie you really have a good and great heart.....stay blessed
The sad thing with emotional abuse is that the perpetrator dishes it so skillfully without the knowledge of the victim. They Target your soul / spirit and they seek to break you. They behave like they are devil's agent. The devil seeks after your soul. The solution is to read the Bible and discover that the power lies within you.
So true. Beneath it all is masked inferiority complex. Glory to God Catherine is on her healing journey
Madam, you need to talk to the ladies who get married to divorcees because I try to and they think I am jealous. They are all Narcissists and the only person who can help them is Jesus!
Soo sad 😭😭😭 but its good you came out of it God is great
He didn't want to be exposed on FB coz a third victim will know the truth!. Lazy Adam!.
Never give up your source of income because you are getting married.. Its a grevious mistake that most women make
Never chose a man over any man!!!!😣
Any man or woman who is divorced think twice before you jump in don’t ever use assumptions that you can be better than the other who left !
I think the insecurity came from the Ex -husband. She has a good heart. It means she has a healthy relationship with her Ex who is the father of her kids.
She made mistakes. It's true words are effective. She was hurting. She didn't have anyone to talk to. Sometimes we feel like no one understands. People back home may not understand. She was in the new country.
Let's not blame nor judge her.
Things can be tough especially when you have a legal case. And when you are facing an enemy who was your friend.
She needs prayers and continue counselling. She should focus on more work. Start her own business like a nursing home. When she finds purpose in life she will heal faster