Anger Management - How to Control Your ANGER
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- Опубліковано 26 вер 2024
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What is Anger, how it develops in the body and how to control it so you
can calm down and have inner peace.
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#anger #angermanagement #rage #temper #emotions #innerpeace
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I’ve been stuck in special ed for so long due to anger, and I feel really bad about it. I’ve felt so bad because in not a kid, yet I can throw tantrums sometimes. This video helped me once more, giving me a friendly reminder that other people my age go through the same thing and I shouldn’t be ashamed. Thank you so much.
Thank you for sharing your experience Abbex. It's completely normal to feel frustrated, and it's admirable that you're seeking ways to manage your anger. Remember, you're not alone in this journey, and it's okay to ask for help when needed. I'm glad the video could offer you some reassurance and support. Keep going strong! Best, Luca
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'blamed on the closest person available'
when I'm angry, 99% of the time I'm angry at myself, so this makes sense. I've been told by others I'm too hard on myself. I've gotten better lately and talked with loved ones that had some direct knowledge of how I normally acted. It helped.
Edit: For my specific type of angery, the thing that helped the most was just a creative outlet. Journaling, photography, roleplay, all of thoseh elped channel my anger into passion for something I enjoyed.
Dear Dag,
It sounds like you've been carrying a lot of self-anger. You've internalized this anger, often directing it towards yourself. It's like your internal "bad parent" has been mistreating your inner child, criticizing them and neglecting their needs.
Reparenting is key here. Validate that inner child, ask them what they want and need, and prioritize their needs over others. It's important to start saying no and stop people-pleasing if that's something you tend to do.
Try keeping pictures of yourself as a baby nearby; it can help you subconsciously reconnect with that inner child. This process won't be easy, and it may take time-perhaps a year or more-but it's worth it.
Take care, Dag. You're on the right path! ✌☘
"hatred is the only poison that does more damage to its vessel than its target"
Exactly Koffeekage!!
The poison is assuming that people who express anger are hating. It's you being just ignorant and judgemental. It's also you projecting your own ideas and emotions on others . Funny enough it's you who damages other by judging others based on your own assumptions.
unless your name is 'Kendrick Lamar'
except u use a gun.
Hey Pixi, I followed your channel for quite some time now but never decided to comment until now. It is so impressive how your tutorials are so easy to understand but still complex. I had to deal with anger problems in the past so I am really thankful for your very inspirational video
Hello Purrpourri, I appreciate your comment and I am very glad you find this video inspiring!! 💖
Your work is actively helping people in a very calming, fun way. It's uncomplicated yet very refined. There is a gentle and friendly quality to it that makes this a lot easier to get on board with than most self help videos.
It brings hope, joy and a sense of "there's always something, the sadness is never the end" and that's very reassuring. Thank you for all your hard work, you're really making the world a little nicer.
I appreciate the kind words, @naymeequillo! It means a lot to me. I'm really glad to hear that my work is making a positive impact. It’s heartwarming to know that it brings hope and joy to others. Thank you for your support! ☘💖
Anger is also a feeling to when you loose to a video game.
Oh yes, I am sure that feeling resonates with many! 😊😺✌
this is very helpful, i have some anger issues and i dont exactly think right away, but i will try to remember this when another situation comes around!
I am glad you find this helpful Le!! :D I am not sure it's your case, but sometimes is someone is too often complaint and agreeable even when he does not agree, sudden episodes of uncontrollable rage can occur.
Can also be if someone does not see or hear you… love this video… very cute! Makes me bubble
Hello Ida, I am glad you like it!! Yes, being ignored in childhood can become a lifetime trigger, as well as attachment trauma and being wrongly accused. It feels like couples should go to psychology class before having children! 😊
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I had anger issues when I was a kid and still feel frustrated as hell sometimes when stuff doesn't go right, but I control that anger by going to sleep. When I'm angry, I get sad, when I get sad, I get tired and when I get tired, I get sleepy and just turn the power off.
Hi @jonataneriksson8216! I’m sorry to hear about your struggles! It's good that you can manage your anger by relaxing and sleeping. Anger isn’t a negative emotion; it’s just your body (and mind) communicating with you. Often, triggers come from unresolved issues or internal conflicts we might have.
For example, I once went out with a friend, and while we were in the car, her dog jumped on my face, barking at birds outside. Surprisingly, that didn’t trigger me at all. But later, when we got home and she started eating while I was working, the sound of her fork on the plate suddenly made me feel a rush of anger towards her, even though she had no idea.
I took a moment to reflect and realized that it was the noise of the fork that bothered me. I remembered that as a child, my parents sometimes fought at the dining table, which made me very unhappy. That’s why, even years later, I still get triggered by similar sounds.
When I try to be mindful, my mind helps connect those memories to my feelings. So, I focus on positive dining experiences, like eating out with friends, which helps calm me down.
I hope my story offers some insight! Take care, and thanks for sharing! ❤
I can’t tell if this is an animation class or an emotional well-being class.
Your videos are always so helpful and positive❤
Thank you so much for the appreciation Beinting!! :D
This is actually so helpful!! Thank you yet again Pixi x
It's my pleasure Joceline, I truly appreciate your comment! 😺
Thank you so much. This helps a tremendous amount :)
Hello Tarragon/Flowers, I am glad this was helpful! :D
even as a very seldomly angry person, i like that animation and message
Thanks so much Coba, I truly appreciate it!! 💖
this captures what it really is! - as a person with anger issues who tends to lash out i love this animation >_<
i try to manage it more nowadays and this will help as well ❤
I'm glad this video resonates with you, Ggalaxy! Remember, it's not about suppressing anger, but rather recognizing when you're projecting frustrations onto others and trying to address the root cause of it. 💖✨
Neatly!!! ^^ being chill is super lit!
Glad yuo like it Helio!! :D
Very good and very good way for a very important lesson.
Now that's a good way to learn.
Impressive, mate!
Hello Morten I hope you are well, thanks so much!
I used to have "anger management problems" and yet it was not my fault when i was constantly bullied for about 10 years of my life for an apparently no reason, ane also while yes I'm autistic, that doesn't mean blaming the person with a mental disability is ok or that just because they have such a problem/disability, doesnt mean that they are always in the wrong but unfortunately just like many others, ive expericed such injustice!
Yes, @LuxTheFolf, I totally understand you! What you're describing is often referred to as 'reactive abuse.' It's an unconscious, and sometimes conscious, tactic where people who don't want to acknowledge their negative emotions project them onto others. They figure out your triggers and provoke you over time. When you finally react, you're labeled as the "crazy" one, and their role in the situation disappears, leaving you to blame.
Recognize this dynamic and try not to fall for it again, as it can be used against you in various aspects of life-school, work, relationships. To counter this, create a buffer between external triggers and your response. When you feel triggered, pause and ask yourself what caused it. Often, it's tied to past trauma from being treated unfairly or feeling abandoned. Accept and integrate that part of yourself. Practice mindfulness and breathing exercises to stay centered. Remember, bullies often project their insecurities onto others. If they call you 'stupid,' it's likely a reflection of how they feel about themselves, something they don't want to consciously acknowledge.
I hope this helps. All the best! 💖
@PixiGags Thanks for responding it means a lot to me ❤️
And I have tried breathing techniques too but it has never helped, and it really only happened when I was younger but not I only lash out due to bottling up emotions and I'm currently working on talking more about my feelings instead of holding them back ❤️
Breathe in, breathe out. Begin problem solving flowchart.
Can you do anything about it?
If no, then let the anger go. It's not productive, and it's only making things worse. It might not be as easy, I understand. Just try to focus on breathing slow and steady. Redirect to something you CAN improve.
If yes, then make a plan to fix it, if not immediately, then in a realistic timeframe. Do not try to hold yourself to a deadline, focus on one foot in front of the other.
If your progress is halted, before anger rises again you need to stop and figure out what the issue is and maybe look for alternate approaches.
I've been through this, I still struggle with it often too.
Sometimes it helps to just look at things that could cause you anger... and just laugh. Laugh at the situation. Let yourself not take things so seriously.
More videos like these are greatly appreciated. Grazie Mille! 🤣🤣🤣
Hello Dema, thanks for letting me know!!! Molto gentile! 😊✨
Thanks, I needed this. ❤❤
I am glad this video helps!! :D
*awesome!*
Thanks a lot Nijat, I hope you are well!
Very good point, I like to make "angry art" which helps with anger and is also creative, which always helps me overall.
Hello Scy, that's a very good strategy, thank you so much for sharing!
I'll try that C:
I think this point of view is very interesting, thank you for the tips! 😊
Glad it was helpful! :D
I'm odd... I only have anger management problems with inanimate objects. and right after giving it a piece of my mind, I'm okay again.
I'm weird that way.
Hey Jack, I can relate to that! In the past, I used to suppress my needs and let anger build up. But as I've become more open and true to myself, I've found healthier ways to express my emotions. It sounds like you might be experiencing something similar. Remember, there's an inner child within you whose needs deserve attention. Take the time to listen to what they need and advocate for yourself when necessary. Wishing you all the best. 💖
Anger is really good!
Hey Oscar, yes... if you are in control it is! :D
This is helpful but not sure it applies to all situations of anger. What about defensive rage born of severe, unprocessed trauma? (Which had been repressed / dissociated and comes to the surface years later.) 🤔 I suppose it reflects the internal conflict of not having experienced safety at a fundamental level and believing one “should have” been kept safe. But it also can just be the pent up survival fight energy that got stuck in the energetic and ego systems during a shut down response while enduring trauma.
I dig these expressions!
Glad you like them Jack! :D
Will do, chief!
Hello Jyogurrz!
Yes
Hello Jmblue!
A really great video and as always helpful stuff you put op Pixi thanks 😍
I am glad you like it Karin!! :D
i love your animations, great vid :D
Thank you so much Miau!! :D
My problem is that when I feel angry or irritated I have to take my time to calm down but my family wants quick solutions and answers, they don't give me the space I need
Hi Vdonut,
Thank you so much for sharing your story. Having family around when you get angry can indeed present its own challenges. It's worth considering if they might inadvertently be pushing your buttons, perhaps without even realizing it. Some people, unconsciously, may project their negative emotions onto others as a way to relax. Pay attention to the dynamics when your family is around and see if you can spot this pattern.
If that's the case, remember that their behavior is more about them than it is about you. Regardless, making decisions in a state of anger rarely leads to positive outcomes. It's okay to take a few minutes for yourself to calm down and approach the situation more peacefully. Wishing you all the best. 💖✌
YIPPPPE thank you
Pretty cool. ^^
Hey Michael, thanks!! :D
@@PixiGags No problem. :3
It's interesting and toxic to teach others how they need to control emotions. Bottle up emotions doesn't help people. In fact it leads to more outbursts, unhappiness and misunderstandings. Anger just tell you, that someone feels likely unseen or misunderstood. When you teach others they need to control anger, you make all worse because you keep ignoring someone's fundamental needs. And you teach that anger makes you and others uncomfortable. Furthermore anger is an unnatural emotion which is rubbish. Instead of telling others they need control it, ask questions. LISTEN!
Hey JP,
I agree with you. But there's a big difference between feeling angry and resorting to violence. It's okay to acknowledge and validate your anger, but it's important to understand its root cause. What matters most is not projecting our frustrations onto innocent people who happen to be around us.
I love this
Everyone loves my baked goods. The secret to them is that I pour ample amounts of my anger and hate towards everyone and everything into them.
Hello CuscionSapp, thanks a lot for sharing! May I ask if you select any particular type of people to project your anger to or it just happens to anyone who is around?
@@PixiGags I live by myself, so its no one around me at the time of baking. Usually its towards people who make my job more difficult, people I hear about from news related media, or when people do stupid things like give great review scores to games that don't deserve them
@@CushionSapp Thanks again for sharing that CuscionSapp! After you lash out, do you have a feeling of remorse or it's just constant anger towards those groups?
@@PixiGags Look, in all seriousness, I rarely lash out at someone in legitimate anger and yes, I do feel remorse. When I get angry at an inanimate object and "lash out" at it verbally, I never feel remorse.
Bro I WISH I could do this :(((
I know it's not easy, and something like that requires time, @hopepapernacky! Just realize that when you are angry at someone, it's all a projection. Try to individuate your initial feeling before you think that person made you mad. Also, if it's because that person triggered you, they are showing you a part of you that needs your attention. I wish you all the best! 💖
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It's a very nice video!! 🙂
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Was it intentional or unintentional that this is DID coded? As a person who has DID resulting from childhood trauma while also being neurospicy, i feel seen in this video, since its a tool I had to develop in order to help be handle it.
Especially thowards the end of the video.
Hi @yogi1726, thank you for your thoughtful comment. Regarding DID, sudden anger, especially when linked to early trauma, can indeed be a dissociative state and resonate with DID experiences. I'm so sorry to hear what you’ve gone through since childhood. If you are still in the environment that caused you the trauma, chances are that people in your life will constantly push your buttons to make you snap, as some kind of subconscious need. Remember, even though your experience is valid, detachment and unidentification with those memories are key. I'm deeply moved to hear that the video made you feel seen. Wishing you all the best! Being neurospicy rocks! 😺💖✌
Man, I recall getting so mad and punching my pillow while doing body slam on bed. Yeah, lashing around like a angry wolf. Those were my teen years.... Until I controlled myself thanks therapy when I was called out crazy. Those were days, especially for a high testosterone dude like me. 😳
Hello Uriel, thanks so much for sharing your story! I am glad therapy helped. Sometimes the ones that push your buttons call you crazy when you eventually react! :D
@@PixiGagsthat is true, but after hearing that it did game me the message. After my last anger after hearing that word. 😅
the thumbnail looks like you being anger from inside out 😭
cute graphics
Glad you like the graphics Someuser!!
I failed at anger management. Now I live in a residential home with OTHER kids that annoy me.
All because of an insecure animator started harrassing me in her stream with her mods.
Dear Over, I can relate to your experience. Unrecognized injustices in life can leave us with a deep reservoir of anger, ready to erupt at any provocation. Certain individuals may unwittingly trigger us, touching upon our unresolved pain and causing us to react in ways we later regret. This type of anger, often associated with PTSD or CPTSD, can override our cognitive control, leading to actions we may not intend. While I'm not a religious fanatic, I find wisdom in Jesus' teaching to 'love your enemy as yourself' as a means of prevention. It doesn't mean condoning abuse, but rather understanding that these triggers are reflections of our own unhealed wounds. Sometimes, when people insult us, they're projecting their own insecurities onto us. I wish you all the best and send virtual hugs. 💖✌
@@PixiGags Thanks man, keep up the animations.
Remember me when you get popular.
How do I stop bottling up anger and converting it into stress
Hello Payena, the best would be to say what we really feel right away, for instance if we don't want to do something we let the other person know, this way anger does not accumulate. Another way is to learn not to personalize, for instance if somebody says to us something we don't like we perceive it as a personal insult, but it's just an internal frustration that person is trying to work out.
@@PixiGags thank you so much for your reply!!
Don't make that cat 🐈 angry...
You wouldn't like that cat 🐈,
when it's angry 😹.
Awesome video, anyway 😺👍.
Thanks a lot Arttu, I appreciate it!!! 🐱🐈
What if your "inner parts" refuse to negotiate, or are the problem??
Dear @Transformers2Fan1, please remember that none of our inner parts are ever a problem; they only seek to help you. Our inner parts constantly negotiate, but they can only do so based on the information from your belief system. Thus, the real issue might lie in your subconscious beliefs about yourself. While these beliefs can change, it requires time and introspection. ✌💖
Hello Pixi, I hope you are well.
The anger topic is great, but I need information about manipulation. Could this be the next topic? You don't have to, of course.
Hello Zeynep, I hope you are well! That's an interesting subject! Is there a specific type of manipulation you are interested in? For instance romantic, in friendship, family, toxic, how to recognize manipulation, how to respond to manipulation etc. Manipulation is quite broad, an infant manipulates to get what he wants as he doesn't have the vocabulary; pathological manipulators are stuck with the emotional intelligence of an 18 months old child and they become very good at it as they practice it for their all life. There are also every day small manipulations we all do as survival coping mechanism.
Thank you so much for the detailed information.
I guess romantic. I'm not sure, cause that's what manipulation requires. 😊
Hey Pixy,I go through: Depression,Emotional probloms,Anxiety,Anger Issues,and HDHD I’m so messed up. Is it still possible to calm down still?
Hello EmmeDean, thank you for reaching out! It's very hard what you are going through, I know because I can relate to some of it. The reasons can be various but if you have symptoms like a constant pain+sadness feeling inside (this can be in a specific area like the chest) it can be caused by an early attachment trauma. If you have a feeling of hyper stimulation and anxiety it could be because the right hemisphere of your brain is active very often (meaning that every little stimulus you receive puts you in danger mode).
The best is to understand which are the outside stimulus that trigger you, keep a journal if you will, and try to make space between that stimulus and your reaction.
Most of those feelings will always be there, but if you control your projections you won't be as reactive. Example: you have to meet a friend but he cancels, that makes you depressed... that feeling of depression is inside of you already, but then you associate the idea of your friend cancelling, causing you to feel worst and start ruminating about other people canceling other events in the past back and forth.
So... try to dissociate all memory events form your feeling of sadness and anger; but when they occur, you shouldn't neglect them either, just accept, validate them and soon after they will fade. Next time, you do that again etc. etc.
How did you know what’s going on my life- and how I calm myself is snuggling with my cat. You are the best 💖 @@PixiGags
hi i have anger issues :)
Hello Marimba, thank you for sharing! 💖 Is it very often, do you project a lot on other people, like it really feels they are the cause of your discomfort?
oh hello@@PixiGags! in fact, yes, i am still working on that 😅😅
anger is a normal human emotion this video implies that it is a mental illness, what if im angry at idk (insert political issue here) or (insert suffering from bigotry here). what im supposed to be happy with that, "oh thank you oh so much i am genuinely and unironically happy you think i should die because of my sexual orientation"
It's not exactly that. It's just not good for yourself to stay angry at something because it stresses your body out. Which can cause issues with your health.
It's not easy to simply forget about the things that affect you, but if you work on it slowly and you focus more on the good things you have or the things that bring you joy, ultimately, it will be better for you in the long run.
Obviously, don't try and rush it and don't give up easily either. You have to go through difficult situations in order to learn and to gain experiences.
And even if it's hard to do, try to hold your tongue when someone says something maliciously. It's not worth your time and energy to fight with someone, especially if they're the kind who probably won't put an effort to change for the better.
Bru asked us what is anger 💀
Hello Zip, what answer would you have given? :D
@@PixiGags i never understood these questions: why do we..? What is...? Then they answer to their own questions
@@PixiGags id give the answer: is a bad feeling, starting from the head, going to feet then to chest, causing head ache, or really serious tummy-pain diseases.
@@ZipZap9 Dear ZipZap, thanks for sharing!! In general how anger manifests can be subjective. The idea that is an internal conflict projected outwards really helped me to calm down, I hope it can help others as well.
This is such an insightful and just a lovley video🥲🥲,
i feel like it could definitely help some people, great job!!!
Thank you so much OC, I am glad you find it helpful!
This is very true. I always project anger towards myself and my closest ones. It's horrible and wrong. I'm learning how to separate myself from other people before the outbursts and I'm getting better. I also need to find the inner conflict to understand how to avoid these angry mood swings.
Thank you for sharing your journey, @helenTW. It’s great to hear that you’re learning to separate yourself from others before those outbursts. It takes a lot of self-awareness and effort to make that kind of progress. Recognizing that inner conflict is a crucial step in understanding and managing your emotions. I wish you the best of luck with it! 🌈
@@PixiGags Thank you from the bottom of my heart! I wish you the best as well. You're a very kind and talented soul! 💖