Stories like this makes me so proud of myself for never depending on a man to take care of myself or my kids. All the gold/ diamonds I bought for myself it’s all from my own bare hands. 😅😅😅 At first I was thinking you’re so lucky but, no thanks I don’t want it.
Hmong people can be so two-face! When you have money, they are your "friends" and will be willing to help out, but as soon as you don't have money, they act like they don't know you. These are not friends, they are just users! Your ex-husband Keej is a terrible human being, he will get his Karma in time. I'm just surprised you didn't know your ex-husband Keej to be a dick who only wants a trophy wife & will dump you as soon as he finds a younger female.
What I get from all these UA-cam stories are, they are all rich, they all wear expensive diamond rings, and drive expensive cars..shoot I almost can’t even afford to buy food. When I grow up, I want to have everything you all have🤣🤣
Just don’t become a gold digger, work hard when you grow up and make your own money the honest way so you can have your dignity and independence. Learn to live within your means and ability will last you longer throughout your life…😊
Never depend on someone. Pull your own weight. That way, should things ever go sour, you know you can pull yourself out. But at least you got to experience a good life for 8 year-ish with your 2nd husband.
They are not ur friends at the first place. They are your husband friends not ur friends. That's how it work. U may not realize. But that's the truth. Tsis txhob chim rau lawm os.
It’s not about you or that you are bad. That’s the charismatic of followers for benefits. Don’t ever consider followers as friends, because they are not. They follow someone only because they can benefit from that person or that group. When that benefit stops, the following stops. Or when they find someone else that they can benefit more from, they leave to go there. Just learn it from social media, y’all.
To the lady in the story, I’m also a divorced woman and know your pain. It happens to all of us. The problem with us Hmong women, married or not, is that we’ve been brain washed to think that our worth is only through a man, which is absolutely false. It’s our community that makes us feel that way; that being with a loser, abuser, or cheater is better than being alone. We need to change so that our girls will not face the same crap in the future.
Tus viv ncaus awd, pab niag dev raws nqaij ko ua li rau koj los Txhob tu siab nawb lub ntuj yeej faib haum2 os ib hnub tug lawv yeej yuav tau Txais tej yam lawv ua rau koj xwb. Lawv tau ua li cas tseg lub ntuj yeej yuav muab rov qab rau lawv os cov niag niam tsev ntawv na.
That’s why I only have limited good friends. Karmas is close by so never make fun or bad mouth about anyone. Just wish upon a star in your heart that it will not happen to you.
Lesson you have to have value yourself. You have to make you’re own living, have your own finances otherwise you add nothing to the marriage, according to him. That lifestyle of pleasing others - not real nor sustainable. Lesson 2: get everything on paper, if not you have zero proof of anything- they can turn on you anytime.
Nco ntsoov hais tias yus txoj kev txawj ntse paub tab tsij li cas ces yus mus yuav tus txiv kom dhau Lis dhau yus me me qis los kom qis tsis ntau tus xwb thiaj ua lub neej zov siab thiaj tsis mag lawv cem thiab thuam yus nawb mog nej cov niam tsev uas yog cov tsis muaj kev kawm
Legal papers are important when your spouse decides to leave you. I'm truly sorry to hear about your story. You did not deserve this. Marriage is built btw two people, it's not something we can just throw away whenever we want too. Money has made your husband cruel, he gives it freely but also freely uses it to his advantage. Having alot of money can be scary if given to the wrong people.
Peb cov poj niam txawm nyb lub teb chaw twg lo peb yuav tsum muaj peev xwm peb yuav tsum keej khw nyiaj peb tej txiv thj li saib tau u ho kv es tsev zoo lo kv khw ntawm kv sab tes ho tsheb loj zoo lo kv khw kv xb u thj li mj nqi ho
The moral of all stories like this one is that ALL hmong women need to be self reliant. That means you need to work and be able to afford your own lifestyle and NOT rely on guy to provide you with "status" and a specific lifestyle. This is called financial abuse.
$25k may not be much to these people but that is a lot to me. I don't even have $1k!!! They see that you are good when you have your husband. Hopefully karma gets him for doing that to you.
Cas mloog niam neej vam cov dab neeg ntau 2 zaj kuj ua rau paub txog nej cov tswv yim ruam nyob nej sab ntuj peb cov tom qab peb poob qab tab sis peb lub hlwb dau nej deb npaum ntuj thiab av tiag 2 os
poj ruam ua ntej nim zoo siab tias yog nas Ej thaum kawg li mam paub hais tias yog maum dev xwb, pab tu siab ov mog ruam txog qhov nws muab koj tsuav ntsuag tau 8 lub xyoo ces txaus lawm ov mog,
Some dictator type stuff. They’re gonna disrespect you just bc your man isn’t there for you anymore and no longer loves you? Even tho the guy was a cheater? And they still wanna follow him and bow down to him? Yeahhh, no.
Ne nev tau txiv ua lag luam muaj hauj lwm zoo es yus nim tso2 siab mus nyob pw noj noj haus xwb es thaum kawg lawv muab yus pov tseg ces kawg txom nyem xwb mos. Yus txawm muaj nyiaj ntau laab los yus ham tsis yeej yuav tau khwv thiab hos
Sister- you should have hired an attorney. You could use the common law rule against him. ESP since you’re married by culture, and lived together as husband and wife.
Trophy wives knows how to expire too. Everyone loves you when you're still hot. But when it's time to move on u need to find another rich older man. Lol
I feel like this lady is too over exaggerating. But if things are going so well for her. Good for her. 👏👏👏 Nevermind...just heard 2nd half. Having it too good is never too good.
Neb txawm tsis yog niam txiv siv yuav muaj ntaub ntawv los yog neb nyob ua ke more than 5 years lawm ces thaum neb tsis kam nyob ua ke lawm no ces txhua yam yuav tsum faib sib npaug zos rau neb ob leeg yuav. Nov yog txoj cai nyob rau teb chaws USA no rau ib nkawm nkauj nraug los yog niam txiv.
Never judge others as you do not see what the future holds. One day their husband will leave them for a younger woman and they too will become a poj laib. I hate people like that!
Bunch of fakes but it’s nothing new cause that’s always been how it is once you divorce your spouse. Why is everyone so shocked? He said she didn’t bring anything to the table but lmao the one from over seas definitely won’t bring nothing to the table lol. He will use her and toss her to the side like his previous but karma has its way for bad people.
Can we the dude face and all his relatives so we know to ask them for money since they are so rich lol. Don’t worry money won’t last and someday when they died they will regret when no one care to be by their side.
All materials......you were just part of it, too. When young, you were his trophy, but that was all that you were. If you found love, you don't need his 700/800 and $25k ring. That definitely isn't love.
Poj hmoob me kas ruam aw cas yuav pab koj mob siab ua luaj li os kuj yuav muab qee yam zais thiab mo cas ruam twb ruam lo tseem ntsai xiam qhab nias thiab na
This guy's first red sign is how he responds to you when you ask to add your name to his bank account. He only wants you for a period of time but will cut tie once you are no longer benefit his needs. You married him for some many years, and he only gave you a limit of cash. RED FLAGGGG!!! Sometimes... You gotta ask yourself, why is this middle-class man divorced!?? Pretty sure there are a bunch of red flags laying around, and you just didn't care because of his luxurious lifestyle. People who make a lot of money and brag about himself are usually the biggest as*hole behind the curtains. Read the room and not look past it!!! If you're gonna depend on him, at least use his money for something useful. Such as education or hide the gold jewelry in your personal safe. Don't go chasing those fake, backstabbing traitors. Be smart and plan ahead. Smh.
Lady stop depending on your husband for money use and luxury life go to work yourself be independent that is why now he don’t want you then your useless to him… he played you good and now throw you out smhh
Learn from your mistakes and trust no one!!! Those people are bunches of robots without a brain of their own and bunches of kiss @$$!!! That is so sad!!!
And all those friends of that husband they all fakers too just wants to be in his club due to money when no money no friends no care ppl like that stay away
What a whole bunches of fake & followers! They only like you when you have $ but talk behind your back when you broke! Good for you to not have them in your life anymore
Don’t worry about those followers. Cov dev caum nqaij ntawd hnub twg tus tswv tsis muaj nqaij yug nws ces nws los yeej yuav tom tu tswv. At least you got a great lesson from it. Live your own happy life.
Word of advice. Hmong men aren’t the only men in the world. Maybe try a different race if you feel Hmong men don’t appreciate divorced/widow Hmong women.
Men like him only want trophy wife. You're no longer a trophy wife. Don't be too upset, now you know you can't depend on anyone but yourself.
Nothing surprises me here. Most Hmong people will only help those that can help them back
Yes Sir! Hmong 1975 mindset haven't changed a bit.
Agree
U lived in a small world to think like that. Every race and ppl are like that. Including you.
Agree %
Very sad story. I can feel the heartache for you. One day all them wives and the ex will get what they deserve.
Stories like this makes me so proud of myself for never depending on a man to take care of myself or my kids.
All the gold/ diamonds I bought for myself it’s all from my own bare hands. 😅😅😅
At first I was thinking you’re so lucky but, no thanks I don’t want it.
Hmoob mas yom phem tshaj saib tsis tau neeg
Txiv neej hmoob mas thiaj phem
That's why you have to be a financially independent woman and don't wait for a man or a husband.
Twb pom kiag li koj hais lawm
Kuv yeej ntseeg li txoj neej neeg no thiab.
Bravo for you for having agency to speak for yourself when they criticized you. Wish you the best!
Hmong people can be so two-face! When you have money, they are your "friends" and will be willing to help out, but as soon as you don't have money, they act like they don't know you. These are not friends, they are just users! Your ex-husband Keej is a terrible human being, he will get his Karma in time. I'm just surprised you didn't know your ex-husband Keej to be a dick who only wants a trophy wife & will dump you as soon as he finds a younger female.
Never depend on a husband’s income. You need to be independent financially especially you have kids. It was too good to be true.
What I get from all these UA-cam stories are, they are all rich, they all wear expensive diamond rings, and drive expensive cars..shoot I almost can’t even afford to buy food. When I grow up, I want to have everything you all have🤣🤣
Just don’t become a gold digger, work hard when you grow up and make your own money the honest way so you can have your dignity and independence. Learn to live within your means and ability will last you longer throughout your life…😊
🤣😆😆and they are very pretty
Hahaha they’re stories. I’ve noticed all the bad/poor people become doctors or something hahahaha 😊
And some kind of degree
It’s all fake and exaggerated! Anyone can tell a tall tale on UA-cam.
It's a blessing in disguise that you lose those fake friends.
Lub neej ntshaw luag tug tsis yooj yim
Yus yuav tau khwv yus noj
Yus peem yus thiaj yog yus tug.
Never depend on someone. Pull your own weight. That way, should things ever go sour, you know you can pull yourself out. But at least you got to experience a good life for 8 year-ish with your 2nd husband.
Yus yog ib tug neeg tsis muaj peev xwm tsis muaj kev kawm ces zoo li koj ntag zoo nkaus li koj tsis muaj siab tsis muaj ntshws li paub tu siab thiab mas
Best to move on & live a happy life. Those fake friends are not worth it.
They are not ur friends at the first place. They are your husband friends not ur friends. That's how it work. U may not realize. But that's the truth. Tsis txhob chim rau lawm os.
Phooj ywg noj Mas txawv phooj ywg tuag ov puab yawd .
Phooj ywg noj Mas yog phooj ywg dab ,phooj ywg tuag Mas yog cov neeg ncaj nees ov
It’s not about you or that you are bad.
That’s the charismatic of followers for benefits.
Don’t ever consider followers as friends, because they are not.
They follow someone only because they can benefit from that person or that group. When that benefit stops, the following stops. Or when they find someone else that they can benefit more from, they leave to go there.
Just learn it from social media, y’all.
Hey!!! Sisters you understand the hmong circle every things only money money.
Txhob tu siab mog hmoob ces yeej Xav thaj ruam ruam li koj hais mas tus cov hmoob mas coj txawv tshaj..😭😭
To the lady in the story, I’m also a divorced woman and know your pain. It happens to all of us. The problem with us Hmong women, married or not, is that we’ve been brain washed to think that our worth is only through a man, which is absolutely false. It’s our community that makes us feel that way; that being with a loser, abuser, or cheater is better than being alone. We need to change so that our girls will not face the same crap in the future.
This is why u never depend on anyone to take care of you, u have to take care of yourself,
Tus viv ncaus awd, pab niag dev raws nqaij ko ua li rau koj los Txhob tu siab nawb lub ntuj yeej faib haum2 os ib hnub tug lawv yeej yuav tau Txais tej yam lawv ua rau koj xwb. Lawv tau ua li cas tseg lub ntuj yeej yuav muab rov qab rau lawv os cov niag niam tsev ntawv na.
That’s why I only have limited good friends. Karmas is close by so never make fun or bad mouth about anyone. Just wish upon a star in your heart that it will not happen to you.
Nco ntsoov ua zoo ces tau ntuj ntoo, leej twg ua phem ib hnub twg ces yuav raug lub ntuj lem
Ouch painful ending 😢 lesson learned don’t depend on someone’s money or support. You don’t know what tomorrow will bring.
Ua neeg nyob yus tsis khwv tos lawv noj xwb ces zoo li ko naw..yus yuav tau khwv rau yus noj es nhub luag tsis yuav yus Los yus thiaj nyob tau.
1st red flag when he gave you on an allowance. She should have taken the jewelry as they were gifts.
Lesson you have to have value yourself. You have to make you’re own living, have your own finances otherwise you add nothing to the marriage, according to him. That lifestyle of pleasing others - not real nor sustainable. Lesson 2: get everything on paper, if not you have zero proof of anything- they can turn on you anytime.
Nco ntsoov hais tias yus txoj kev txawj ntse paub tab tsij li cas ces yus mus yuav tus txiv kom dhau Lis dhau yus me me qis los kom qis tsis ntau tus xwb thiaj ua lub neej zov siab thiaj tsis mag lawv cem thiab thuam yus nawb mog nej cov niam tsev uas yog cov tsis muaj kev kawm
Oh my goodness money talk does not last long 😢
Exactly sister I'm glad uou move on and karma take care where it needs.
Nov lau..qhia hais tias nyiaj txiag yuav tsis tau kev hlub..kuv yog ib tug neeg uas kuv saib kuv txoj kev hlub muaj nuj nqis tshaj nyiaj thiab kub lawm ntau npaug
This is the reason why I don’t make friends with Hmong people. I live quietly and don’t associate myself with them.
This is why i have my own account and not depend on anyone else.
Legal papers are important when your spouse decides to leave you. I'm truly sorry to hear about your story. You did not deserve this. Marriage is built btw two people, it's not something we can just throw away whenever we want too. Money has made your husband cruel, he gives it freely but also freely uses it to his advantage. Having alot of money can be scary if given to the wrong people.
Nej cov niam tsev mas ceev faj nawb. Cov aub zoo li tus thuab no muaj coob heev. Yus yuav tau peem yus thiaj li yog yus li. Txhob tos laug noj.
Yus lub neej yog yus ua tus coj yuav zoo thiab phem nyob ntawm yus xwb , tsis txawj coj cais kawg phem xwb ,ghov zoo yuav tsum txom hwj chim nkaus xwb !
Peb cov poj niam txawm nyb lub teb chaw twg lo peb yuav tsum muaj peev xwm peb yuav tsum keej khw nyiaj peb tej txiv thj li saib tau u ho kv es tsev zoo lo kv khw ntawm kv sab tes ho tsheb loj zoo lo kv khw kv xb u thj li mj nqi ho
Muaj tseeb naw yus muaj nyiaj muaj tus txiv ce muaj nqis
Make your own money, feed your own kids, and buy your own things. Most importantly, trust no one.
The moral of all stories like this one is that ALL hmong women need to be self reliant. That means you need to work and be able to afford your own lifestyle and NOT rely on guy to provide you with "status" and a specific lifestyle.
This is called financial abuse.
Always get legally married so, your spouse will think twice about messing around.
Lolus; “Naa’Ej” ma yuav tsum sau lino thiajli nyeem tau meej rawsli lolus nplog os nawb.
When you’ve been kicked out of the clan lol. Shaman wives came be easily replaced.
Omg the story is ending and where is the krama 😂😂😂
$25k may not be much to these people but that is a lot to me. I don't even have $1k!!! They see that you are good when you have your husband. Hopefully karma gets him for doing that to you.
Cia niam mos AB Poj nrauj los muab nws kau es nws thiaj lis paub ma !
Cas mloog niam neej vam cov dab neeg ntau 2 zaj kuj ua rau paub txog nej cov tswv yim ruam nyob nej sab ntuj peb cov tom qab peb poob qab tab sis peb lub hlwb dau nej deb npaum ntuj thiab av tiag 2 os
Wow wondering what Keng doing?? 25m diamond 💎 ring.
Money talks!
Fake friends, you got there. Never depends on a man's money. Gonna make your own money.
poj ruam ua ntej nim zoo siab tias yog nas Ej thaum kawg li mam paub hais tias yog maum dev xwb, pab tu siab ov mog ruam txog qhov nws muab koj tsuav ntsuag tau 8 lub xyoo ces txaus lawm ov mog,
Hlub tsis tom thawj li os… lub neej thib 2 only 30% work out only.
Some dictator type stuff. They’re gonna disrespect you just bc your man isn’t there for you anymore and no longer loves you? Even tho the guy was a cheater? And they still wanna follow him and bow down to him? Yeahhh, no.
Never wait on anyone. Always have your own ground to stand on with or without your significant others!
Ne nev tau txiv ua lag luam muaj hauj lwm zoo es yus nim tso2 siab mus nyob pw noj noj haus xwb es thaum kawg lawv muab yus pov tseg ces kawg txom nyem xwb mos. Yus txawm muaj nyiaj ntau laab los yus ham tsis yeej yuav tau khwv thiab hos
Peb ua lub neej- nyob yeej tsi pom txoj hmoo lawv e yuav tsum txhob thuam luag tej thiab txhob nyos luag tej ntuj nyob qes qes lawm.
Sister- you should have hired an attorney. You could use the common law rule against him. ESP since you’re married by culture, and lived together as husband and wife.
He see that u not value him for 8 years
Kuv Xav tias cov niag thuam thuam koj ntawm yeej ruam tshaj koj
Trophy wives knows how to expire too. Everyone loves you when you're still hot. But when it's time to move on u need to find another rich older man. Lol
Too good to be last
I feel like this lady is too over exaggerating. But if things are going so well for her. Good for her. 👏👏👏 Nevermind...just heard 2nd half. Having it too good is never too good.
She called you a poj laib you should go after her husband. haha 😂😅
Neb txawm tsis yog niam txiv siv yuav muaj ntaub ntawv los yog neb nyob ua ke more than 5 years lawm ces thaum neb tsis kam nyob ua ke lawm no ces txhua yam yuav tsum faib sib npaug zos rau neb ob leeg yuav. Nov yog txoj cai nyob rau teb chaws USA no rau ib nkawm nkauj nraug los yog niam txiv.
Never judge others as you do not see what the future holds. One day their husband will leave them for a younger woman and they too will become a poj laib. I hate people like that!
You should sue half of what he had, make him paid alimony for life “
The first story of fake and gold digging friends all in one.
Bunch of fakes but it’s nothing new cause that’s always been how it is once you divorce your spouse. Why is everyone so shocked? He said she didn’t bring anything to the table but lmao the one from over seas definitely won’t bring nothing to the table lol. He will use her and toss her to the side like his previous but karma has its way for bad people.
This is what happens when you depend so much on your spouse. So sad girl, go help yourself.
Can we the dude face and all his relatives so we know to ask them for money since they are so rich lol. Don’t worry money won’t last and someday when they died they will regret when no one care to be by their side.
All materials......you were just part of it, too. When young, you were his trophy, but that was all that you were. If you found love, you don't need his 700/800 and $25k ring. That definitely isn't love.
When are these women going to learn ? Never depend on a man. Get your education so you have something to fall back on.. Geeze
Txhob tos leej twg kev hlub kiag li os lawv aws..
Poj hmoob me kas ruam aw cas yuav pab koj mob siab ua luaj li os kuj yuav muab qee yam zais thiab mo cas ruam twb ruam lo tseem ntsai xiam qhab nias thiab na
Kuv tsis paub uas koj tus txiv sab, yog muaj li koj hais tab sis mas koj twb nyob ntev teb chaws no ntxim koj yuav paub lawm, yog koj twb nrog koj tus txiv nyob tshaj 5 xyoos rov tov tsis muaj ntaub ntawv sib yuav los yog mus hais nram court ces court yeej faib tej nyuag vaj tse thiab nyiaj leeg nrab
Towards the end of the story. This is why I don’t have any friends. Some women are sppp fake.
Karma is real.
Your ex friend are right! They don’t want their spouse to cheat on them.
MONEY TALKS,
This guy's first red sign is how he responds to you when you ask to add your name to his bank account. He only wants you for a period of time but will cut tie once you are no longer benefit his needs. You married him for some many years, and he only gave you a limit of cash. RED FLAGGGG!!! Sometimes... You gotta ask yourself, why is this middle-class man divorced!?? Pretty sure there are a bunch of red flags laying around, and you just didn't care because of his luxurious lifestyle. People who make a lot of money and brag about himself are usually the biggest as*hole behind the curtains. Read the room and not look past it!!!
If you're gonna depend on him, at least use his money for something useful. Such as education or hide the gold jewelry in your personal safe. Don't go chasing those fake, backstabbing traitors. Be smart and plan ahead. Smh.
Lady stop depending on your husband for money use and luxury life go to work yourself be independent that is why now he don’t want you then your useless to him… he played you good and now throw you out smhh
Learn from your mistakes and trust no one!!! Those people are bunches of robots without a brain of their own and bunches of kiss @$$!!! That is so sad!!!
And all those friends of that husband they all fakers too just wants to be in his club due to money when no money no friends no care ppl like that stay away
Sister, koj yuav tau txiv dev xwb tsis yog txiv tsev. That's what happens when you want to marry another woman's trash. Poj liab yuav txiv laib 😢.
Wow I can't believe people are this evil!
Those are the fakest people. Remember! Tus Ua zoo tshaj thaum kawg yog tus phem tshaj! I don’t need any friends for that reason
What a whole bunches of fake & followers! They only like you when you have $ but talk behind your back when you broke! Good for you to not have them in your life anymore
Don’t worry about those followers. Cov dev caum nqaij ntawd hnub twg tus tswv tsis muaj nqaij yug nws ces nws los yeej yuav tom tu tswv. At least you got a great lesson from it. Live your own happy life.
Agree
Off course this is a hmoob story. Nothing new.
Women problems and women issues.
Word of advice. Hmong men aren’t the only men in the world. Maybe try a different race if you feel Hmong men don’t appreciate divorced/widow Hmong women.
Don’t hmong people know that gifts are gifts and they can keep it? They can take you to court but they going to lose.