Thank you for your offering. This reminds me that we have choices that we don't acknowledge. There is no need to carry these burdens, I can lay them down.
Love love love this.....speaks directly to my heart....Love jack kornfield, he is so accessible and cuts straight through to the very heart of everything.....thank you Jack....you have been my guiding light for many years now.....blessings...xxxx❤️❤️❤️
Intellectually I know it is right to forgive myself, I just don’t know how to translate that idea and internalise it as truth. Guilt has had me in its clutches for decades. I’m exhausted.
Swieseede Wot yesterday it’s easier said than done. Byron Katie’s work has great tools...go through her worksheets...getting still and sometimes it’s very surprising what comes up. Yesterday, out of the blue, I got a very nasty email from someone I have known for years ..but not closely, after sending out a very well intentioned group email. I felt battered, bruised and shocked by the sheer unpleasantness and have been going through the Byron Katie worksheets and letting go and seeing why I was so upset by this. Ultimately it will be a gift and I will let go of so much ...and it isn’t always easy, but the more you resolve things now, the easier it is next time. Also meditation works for me and the Sedona method of releasing is very good...whatever works for you. Good luck 🍀...whether it’s forgiving another or yourself..it’s the same. Byron Katie says we or others do ‘bad things’ because we were believing thoughts and so cannot help it. Also worth watching her everyday on breakfast with Byron Katie on zoom at 5 pm U.K. time Monday to Thursday...google and register
@7:07 I think it was Hafez (not Rumi) that said "Don't surrender your loneliness so quickly. Let it cut you more deep. Let it ferment and season you as few human and even divine ingredients can"
Thank God for A Course in Miracles! Enlightenment is the realization that there is nothing outside of you. There is only One! Some of what Jack said is true en thus beautiful, but there are a lot of sentimental platitudes in there. There is only one, no one needs to be forgiven, except yourself and YOU never did anything wrong. You just chose experiences you didn't really want, and forgot Who YOU really are. It will be wonderful when even the Dalai lama can see that he is responsible for what he sees. I am responsible for what I see, I choose the feelings I experience, and I decide upon the goal I would achieve. And everything that seems to happen to me I've asked for & receive as I have asked. (ACIM) Jack Cornfield: Forgiviness is not condoning, not a papering over and it's not for the other person. Me: Of course, there is no other! Could you set yourself free and leave your brother in hell? Would you? The body is a fiesta? Come on, Jack, the thing we hate the most, that gives us experiences of sickness, pain, suffering and death? For the trained mind it is a good, serviceable instrument. The body is no thing, at no time does it exist. There is no world, and the body is also an illusion. True, the whole universe welcomes a loving heart. Why? 'Cause you're the ruler of the universe and what you give, you will receive in abundance. It's also called the Law of Attraction, or the Law of Resonance, of vibration. Give hate and hate returns to you, multiplied; give love and you will be showered in it, till you say: my cup runneth over! Too much...
If you would like more help to forgive - try out the seven step process in Forgiveness Made Easy: www.amazon.com/dp/199981956X/ref=sr_1_1_twi_pap_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1511478020&sr=1-1&keywords=forgiveness+made+easy
#4 My favourite one You discover in the sense of identity that it is not necessary to be loyal to your suffering, this is a big one ladies and gentlemen, that we're so loyal to our suffering, "what happened to meeeee, the trauma, the betrayal", I mean, okayyyy, it happened, it was horrible you know, and you may need to do healing, but is that what defines you? Live in joy says the Buddha, this is his instruction, live in joy and love even those who hate, live in joy and health even among the afflicted, live in joy and peace, even among the troubled, these are instructions and he tells you how to do it, so you release.... I mean look at the Dalai Lama, who has the weight of the oppression in Tibet, and the loss of the culture, yet he's also a very happy joyful person, he said they have taken so much, they have destroyed temples, burn our texts, disrobed our monks and nuns, you know... limited our culture and destroyed it in so many ways, why shoud i also let them take my joy and peace of mind, Alber Camus put it, um....., he spoke of joy as being a moral obligation, he said there's so much suffering in the world, yes, but if that's all that there was to humanity it would be hopeless, joy too is a moral obligation of humanity, so we undertand that being loyal to your suffering is not who you and are not helpful.
Forgiveness does not make you feel better. Only resolving issues makes you feel better. And serious criminals are never reformed. That is a lie IMO or at least a misconception. Forgive only those worthy of forgiveness, those who recognized the wrong, have remorse and are willing to make amends without having to be asked. A person who has done serious crimes has NO conscience. They have deadened their conscience and severed the spiritual connectivity with other that is the nature of love. Hence they have no empathy. This is the darkening of the soul. They have crossed the abyss from whence there is no return. Claiming that a serious criminal offender can go through a transformation and be forgiven is impossible. All that such a claim does is say, loud and clear, that "you can do horrendous crimes and you can, at the end of the day, be A okay and go to Heaven. That is NOT true.
@@spicynspiky there is nothing to gain for the practitioner in forgiveness. It is the offender, the wrong doer that carries the debt. If forgiven the debt is cleared. It is downright foolhardy to forgive an offender who is not repentant and willing to make amends.
@@spicynspikyYou don't transform the other. You can only cancel the debt where you are concerned if you have been wronged and the wrongdoer has remorse. The debt is a karmic condition that is created when the person has does some unethical or criminal action.
@@spicynspiky This is not about transforming anyone else. This is about forgiving a debt IF and ONLY IF the wrongdoer admits to the wrongdoing and has remorse and wants to make amends. This means a karmiic condition is cleared NOT by the forgiver, but by the person who has sought forgiveness genuinely. They set new karmic conditions for themselves overwriting the old karmic condition.
Thank you for your offering. This reminds me that we have choices that we don't acknowledge. There is no need to carry these burdens, I can lay them down.
Love love love this.....speaks directly to my heart....Love jack kornfield, he is so accessible and cuts straight through to the very heart of everything.....thank you Jack....you have been my guiding light for many years now.....blessings...xxxx❤️❤️❤️
Beautiful video. Thank you
beautiful......its self appreciation! thank you!
+Ruby Cane yes it is ...but you gotta know ''why'' for ''the truth'' to fully be realized in your life... Capische?
Intellectually I know it is right to forgive myself, I just don’t know how to translate that idea and internalise it as truth. Guilt has had me in its clutches for decades. I’m exhausted.
Swieseede Wot yesterday it’s easier said than done. Byron Katie’s work has great tools...go through her worksheets...getting still and sometimes it’s very surprising what comes up. Yesterday, out of the blue, I got a very nasty email from someone I have known for years ..but not closely, after sending out a very well intentioned group email. I felt battered, bruised and shocked by the sheer unpleasantness and have been going through the Byron Katie worksheets and letting go and seeing why I was so upset by this. Ultimately it will be a gift and I will let go of so much ...and it isn’t always easy, but the more you resolve things now, the easier it is next time. Also meditation works for me and the Sedona method of releasing is very good...whatever works for you. Good luck 🍀...whether it’s forgiving another or yourself..it’s the same. Byron Katie says we or others do ‘bad things’ because we were believing thoughts and so cannot help it. Also worth watching her everyday on breakfast with Byron Katie on zoom at 5 pm U.K. time Monday to Thursday...google and register
“You can't reason with your heart; it has its own laws, and thumps about things which the intellect scorns.”
Mark Twain
Forgiveness is a ticket out of pain. First I took a bus, then a train, then a plane & now thanks to you a rocket !
I'm curious to know more about Buddhist trainings for letting go of thoughts and encouraging new thoughts...
+Jennifer Hawkins Lo jong
wow, now there's a graceful 13 minutes and 43 seconds
@7:07 I think it was Hafez (not Rumi) that said "Don't surrender your loneliness so quickly. Let it cut you more deep. Let it ferment and season you as few human and even divine ingredients can"
מדיטצית מטא
What is the name of the poem he read? It was so eloquent and beautiful
Jaun ramon Jimenez
“I am not I” or for the Spanish version, “Yo soy no soy”
Good stuff
Thank God for A Course in Miracles! Enlightenment is the realization that there is nothing outside of you. There is only One!
Some of what Jack said is true en thus beautiful, but there are a lot of sentimental platitudes in there. There is only one, no one needs to be forgiven, except yourself and YOU never did anything wrong. You just chose experiences you didn't really want, and forgot Who YOU really are.
It will be wonderful when even the Dalai lama can see that he is responsible for what he sees.
I am responsible for what I see, I choose the feelings I experience, and I decide upon the goal I would achieve. And everything that seems to happen to me I've asked for & receive as I have asked. (ACIM)
Jack Cornfield: Forgiviness is not condoning, not a papering over and it's not for the other person.
Me: Of course, there is no other! Could you set yourself free and leave your brother in hell? Would you?
The body is a fiesta? Come on, Jack, the thing we hate the most, that gives us experiences of sickness, pain, suffering and death? For the trained mind it is a good, serviceable instrument. The body is no thing, at no time does it exist. There is no world, and the body is also an illusion.
True, the whole universe welcomes a loving heart. Why? 'Cause you're the ruler of the universe and what you give, you will receive in abundance. It's also called the Law of Attraction, or the Law of Resonance, of vibration. Give hate and hate returns to you, multiplied; give love and you will be showered in it, till you say: my cup runneth over! Too much...
margarethlee and it’s also beyond a course in miracles ...and I understand that it’s easier to talk than do...all best wishes
The coughing was annoying
nice talk1
Thank you, Jack! Sending good wishes & love 💕🙏❄️☃️
If you would like more help to forgive - try out the seven step process in Forgiveness Made Easy: www.amazon.com/dp/199981956X/ref=sr_1_1_twi_pap_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1511478020&sr=1-1&keywords=forgiveness+made+easy
this helped me, but i am in the beginning of this process. thank you. my heart is so hateful right now, but a hateful heart will fix no wrongs
Beautiful. Thank you
Not forgiving yourself is ruining your future for the sake of a ruined past.
Mr knornfield, I've been been listening to you for years
You always make my world feel that bit softer.
Love from Australia.
Tibetans are not victims it’s their own beliefs that has brought this upon them. Don’t have double standards.
wonderful teaching with heart
I want a hug from this man.
Elegant.
great video!
Nice..
So True!!
This is brilliant, thank you - he's such a good speaker, and the reasoning he gives for forgiveness is very powerful for me :)
Thanks for posting this helped...
#4 My favourite one
You discover in the sense of identity that it is not necessary to be loyal to your suffering, this is a big one ladies and gentlemen, that we're so loyal to our suffering, "what happened to meeeee, the trauma, the betrayal", I mean, okayyyy, it happened, it was horrible you know, and you may need to do healing, but is that what defines you?
Live in joy says the Buddha, this is his instruction, live in joy and love even those who hate, live in joy and health even among the afflicted, live in joy and peace, even among the troubled, these are instructions and he tells you how to do it, so you release....
I mean look at the Dalai Lama, who has the weight of the oppression in Tibet, and the loss of the culture, yet he's also a very happy joyful person, he said they have taken so much, they have destroyed temples, burn our texts, disrobed our monks and nuns, you know... limited our culture and destroyed it in so many ways, why shoud i also let them take my joy and peace of mind,
Alber Camus put it, um....., he spoke of joy as being a moral obligation, he said there's so much suffering in the world, yes, but if that's all that there was to humanity it would be hopeless, joy too is a moral obligation of humanity, so we undertand that being loyal to your suffering is not who you and are not helpful.
Forgiveness does not make you feel better. Only resolving issues makes you feel better. And serious criminals are never reformed. That is a lie IMO or at least a misconception. Forgive only those worthy of forgiveness, those who recognized the wrong, have remorse and are willing to make amends without having to be asked.
A person who has done serious crimes has NO conscience. They have deadened their conscience and severed the spiritual connectivity with other that is the nature of love. Hence they have no empathy. This is the darkening of the soul. They have crossed the abyss from whence there is no return. Claiming that a serious criminal offender can go through a transformation and be forgiven is impossible. All that such a claim does is say, loud and clear, that "you can do horrendous crimes and you can, at the end of the day, be A okay and go to Heaven. That is NOT true.
Forgiveness is for the practitioner's benefit.
@@spicynspiky there is nothing to gain for the practitioner in forgiveness. It is the offender, the wrong doer that carries the debt. If forgiven the debt is cleared. It is downright foolhardy to forgive an offender who is not repentant and willing to make amends.
@@Kyrani99 it doesn't work that way according to the Buddhist teachings.
You cannot transform another. All you can do change oneself only.
@@spicynspikyYou don't transform the other. You can only cancel the debt where you are concerned if you have been wronged and the wrongdoer has remorse.
The debt is a karmic condition that is created when the person has does some unethical or criminal action.
@@spicynspiky This is not about transforming anyone else. This is about forgiving a debt IF and ONLY IF the wrongdoer admits to the wrongdoing and has remorse and wants to make amends. This means a karmiic condition is cleared NOT by the forgiver, but by the person who has sought forgiveness genuinely. They set new karmic conditions for themselves overwriting the old karmic condition.