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In this video Joel Mark Witt goes beyond the typical ENTP personality type descriptions around behavior and talks about the mental wiring of the ENTP mind.
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- The cognitive functions for ENTPs
- How to use your personality for personal development
- Ways to stop allowing your personality to hijack your happiness
- Ways that you as an ENTP show and receive love
- Next action steps for your ENTP personal growth journey
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Can you be entp vs intp
Any other entp have a hard time watching the whole vid
K7 M7 yes
K7 M7 yes , I loaded Harmony up and drove away .
Why should it just be ENTPs having a problem with watching the entire video?
lol watch it at 2x speed
Lmao, I’m cutting it off less than a minute in 😩
entp = entreprocrastinator
realistic.
That's exactly it
I am an ENTP who also has ADHD. You can only imagine how I redefined procrastination
Pretty much summs up the entire personality type
@@kristiankolev3579 here we are
Dude the harmony part is very accurate (this sentence is too awesomely structured for this point but promise that wasn't on purpose) for me. I've tried to put on a persona of being nice and bubbly on social settings but it just wouldn't work because in time, my logic couldn't tolerate it anymore especially in times when making decisions and people would eventually see that I'm actually not as empathetic as they thought I was.
Genevieve Navales i feel the same way
I can relate! I sometimes feel really bad about myself because in my mind I know just how little interest I truly have in a particular person but on the outside we are like best friends sigh
I couldn’t possibly agree more
This is me in a nutshell: people i just meet at work think I’m sweet and bubbly and really sociable, until suddenly I’m asked for opinion and they slowly realize they misjudged me since I tend to be quite ruthless when I find no logic in an argument or ask way too many questions that may make them uncomfortable.
This is dangerous 😂 To be too kind at first and then you surprise them with backfire. It depends on the situation, but once you grow older you find the right balance between kindness and honesty. People respect honesty if you treat them still good, but they don't respect you if you are too kind. You "simply" have to gain self-confidence, then you can see clear how far you can go and feel still good when you surpress honesty sometimes.
For me, it worked to do fitness, your Ti unmisunderstandly tells you, that you are strong and worked on you, you get focus, won't be too bored by repetitive things, and you think "hey, I'm not the strongest, but I'm strong, probably stronger than most others, and I am still smart". And you don't think all the time about shit you don't want to think, because of your hormones that tell you you are fine 👍🏻
I have literally been functioning from my harmony process for the past few years and I have been miserable and in constant anxiety. Everything makes sense now. Thank you so much.
Same thing.. I don't know why but I always listen to Fe. Got to use my Ti more often
Shit i was about to get into a toxic relationship, just because I was scared that, if I rejected her she would be heart broken. Thanks the fucking Gods thats I didn't. Fuck people and their feeling, even if the commit socide fuck it, there are billions that will continue on living,
@@hafiz123875 Dude...
Same here. Thought I was a feeling type until I did much more research
How'd you start ignoring social status?
I will protect you from others but not from yourself - that's what I'm talking about :)
6:07 This "calling bullshit on your own thoughts" concept was an enormous hurtle for me to overcome, which I've been making huge strides with lately. I thought very very negatively about myself, and just analyzed how the fuck I could get out of it rationally. I had to really critically analyze my insecurities, and fears of going out alone to meet people, fear of embarassment.
I think that because of the ENTP mindset I was able to force myself to go out and do new things with the risk of embarassment, but I was actually finally able to convince myself that those thoughts were legitimate bullshit.
IDK how to explain it fully, but it was almost like I had to carefully "work out" my brain, training it to filter out the "bullshit" thoughts leaving a blank slate for new observations. I learned that I'm actually a pretty good leader and that people love to talk to me. It was a huge breakthrough for me.
yay!
I find that rather easy actually. My struggle is definitely with the harmony side of things, I'm always trying to keep the peace even at the expense of it pissing me off.
As an ENTP female, I found this presentation to be highly accurate. As I have matured and grown up I find myself calling out the naked emperor which has shaken my relationship with my sensor family and ended my relationship with a sensor-feeler partner which meant having to ignore the feedback from close loved ones in exchange for the pursuit of radical honesty with myself. i.e. I left Catholicism and organized religion completely as it simply made me very unhappy to live something I couldn't personally accept in theory or practice especially for a lifetime and I risked being disowned by my family to do so but it has paid off as my family has learned to be flexible and I am free to live my life for my natural self.
Good on you, I have to leave my SF crazy mother
It's so interesting to read about your journey, as mine is the complete opposite. Being younger, I was a very manipulative ENFP. As I started getting older and learned more about Catholicism, I turned to radical truth and started getting ENTP as my result. I went back to grad school, and I'm now doing my research on reconciliation of Christianity and contemporary art. So, I guess, I'm just trying to say that there are a lot of thinking people in every organized religion and that being a thinker can turn you towards organized religion, just as much as it can turn you away from organized religion.
Also, it is truly horrible how there was a risk of you being disowned by your family, as such risk just shows their hypocrisy and their lack of love and acceptance - central Catholic truths. I, therefore, don't blame you for not being a fan of Catholicism, as it seems like the "Catholic" environment you were in wasn't a healthy one.
Catholicism is a fraud. It is the disgusting idea that if you don't go to church and commune you are not a Christian. They distorted the meaning of the original communion, the one you can do by yourself at home by drinking and eating with your friends. Catholicism is the idea that you can add infinite Addendum to Christian scripture, it's a ritualistic mindless process that sacrifices logic and your True Christian Identity for catholic art, music, architecture and lies. It dishonors anything that is not crazy dogma, it stumbles on truth and happiness. In Catholicism you are enslaved by your friends and family on a Pharisee cult. Catholics come up with stuff like Hail Mary, they create the idea of a Pope and of momentary fashions that change from century to century and accept NO CRITICISM WHATSOEVER. Christian Denominations are a cancer on this planet, and I'm proud to call myself a Non-Denominational Christian. And I'm also an ENTP, which I think is the best personality : D
yesssss
How did an ENTP not think as far back as the origin of the world, or into a future as far as what happens to the energy of our being after death? Catholicism is the only religion that makes logical sense to an ENTP. You sound more like an F, not a T, or maybe you just made a catastrophic decision when you were feeling down; ENTP's tend to do that.
It's funny how the commentary I made while watching this made me notice my debater/ENTP traits more. Just within the first few seconds he said your brain is wired different than all the other traits to which I responded "well duh they're all wired differently." I think it's near impossible for me to hear something and not argue, even if I agree 😂
epicdman813 i thought the same haha
IM LAUGHING SO HARD LIKE DID ALL ENTPS DO THIS AHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHA
9:43-10:00 (entp showing love)
video: "I will gift you with my precision, i will learn you, and give high performance at all levels. I will protect you from others but not from yourself. I will never judge you. Instead, I will be there for you when things go bad no matter why they went bad"
me *laughs at accuracy and knodshead*.. "yup"
video: "as an entp, you're probably knodding in agreement"
me: what the actual fuck
passingby enpf here..(with an entp daughter) I have no clue what those lines mean and all the entps here are like... yeah totally~!! nodding..
sigh
i just realized I have sooooo much to learn
i haven't gotten to this part of the video yet, but while reading i was nodding and laughing at the accuracy
I am making a connection between being a female and being conditioned to value that 10-year old harmony process more, as the accuracy process is "aggressive" etc. I'm nearing 24 and I know I'm not as youthful as my friends perceive me as. When I rely on harmony, I end up nearly hating myself. Other people love it for the most part, as my accuracy side has been labeled "hot headed" or "anal-retentive" (even though that isn't really the case, it just is when I'm defensive after relying on harmony for too long) I can get ashamed and get angry at how inaccurately I have presented myself... Yep. I'm an ENTP. This is helping a lot.
I get this 100 fucking percent
I feel you, girl! I'd say women are expected to smile and nod (even if we're not aware of it) and not be "bossy" or "triggered". I mean, do men even gossip or have a "resting bitch face"?
It ain't easy for ENTPs here, even more so female ones rite, stay strong and stay honest sisters
Yes! As females, people expect us to be sweet, and that’s what someone who just met me thinks.
Since I present myself with this harmony process first, People who actually know me disagree wholeheartedly saying that I’m quite hot-headed and have a very strong temperament for expressing my ideas (and that’s how other personality types perceive the “accuracy” process when it’s actually working.
I have the exact same experience about being conditioned to value the Fe/harmony process over others. I've heard a lot of ENTP women say this.
holy shit the accuracy of this is going to make me cry...stubborn, wooden , anal yes yes that is sooo true. but i know i will get hated if i stopped apologizing for it. Fe makes me feel tainted, like actually physically disgusted but the alternative gives me so much anxiety, i fear for my survival.
This is a quality breakdown of the ENTP.
Thank you +Charles B
I totally agree!
I used to be extremely turbulent, as in I became a people pleaser and all despite not wanting to. The harmony defense part became my personality for quite a few years, and while I didn't lose sight of what I liked or believed in, it always felt so out of touch. I also definitely didn't have much self respect back then. But then some things happened and this quarantine, slowly but surely I tried my damned hardest to crawl out of the hole I dug for myself. I was tired with playing the nice kid who's smart but at the same time not. Believe me when I say I tried really hard to be better, I studied better, I took care of myself more, I became more active and tried to get along with others WITHOUT falling to my knees, trying everything to please them, and these small habits made me realize my worth over time. I started trying to improve myself two years ago, and I still am, but through it, all I'm proud to say I've broken free from the 10 year old of harmony grip! I've become more confident and assertive, and I'm satisfied. Sure, some things could be better, but overall? Being able to be myself without worries anymore and finally being able to talk with others without worries is a great enough achievement for me!
Fe stealing my happyness ... I found out about that when I learned that Im entp and am much happier now that I just trust that I can Ti and will be ok and not have to put Fe over it. Its lifechanging!
I just spent 2 days at a statistics seminar with my coworkers, and everyone grew more and more annoyed with my passion about the maths. My questions were too advanced and mathematically theoretical, I even did the "asking for additional homework". I felt like the nerd in middle school. I am a statistician working for the government. My solution: I'm going to let my contract run out in a year and go to do my PhD. The scientists I meet on my business trips tend to be really excited about my ideas, so maybe that's a better environment.
I would love to have a conversation with you. I wrote an automated trading system from scratch and am looking to collaborate with someone to do the statistical optimization next. I'm currently working on a marketing project that will heavily rely on statistics.
Drew Brown lmao. my dad just perfected an automated reactionary trading system and now we’re rolling in the dough and he’s selling it. hope yours works out haha
@@RemingtonHillOfficial meanwhile my INFP dad is still philosophing about creating one (for few years now lol).
Did you go for the PhD??
@@phoenixw5949 I did! I had to take a break though due to medical issues, but I should be okay to go back to work in a year or so. I enjoyed it much more than the government job!
So that's the trick... I have to focus on calling bullshit on my own irrational beliefs before focusing on others'. Damn. Okay, fine. That's accurate. lol
ENTP here, i struggle with Harmony because i know that when people get mad they become extremly annoying and they tend to get in the way. so... i tend to stop using my Accuracy, and that pissed me off quite a lot
lol same. Especially for people that aren't close to me but I still need to maintain some level of relationship with. Like, friends and family, not so much, but coworkers and people in different organizations I'm in... they get butt-hurt so easily.
But when I do challenge them, I try to make it clear that there is no reason to be butt-hurt (which actually can be counter productive because I am then basically telling them that their feelings or opinions don't matter... ugh) and I try develop a slightly joking tone (which can also backfire if they think I'm just mocking them... which I do sometimes because it is fun... but its more of just teasing, nothing serious).
I sometimes try to lay out self deprecating (for MY self, not THEIR self) chum for them to bite into so they can make fun of me. It kind of baits them into a more humorous mood. Sometimes they just use the chum to call me stupid instead of being playful.
But yeah, with those people that get butt-hurt, over react, and I cannot escape without paying a price (like them severing the relationship which then makes my presence awkward and uncomfortable at that organization, or with that team, or whatever), I just fall back on Fe and try to use Ne to make interesting / funny observations.
Fuck I feel for you so badly💀💀 it happens too often
I think its hilarious cus I walk away and let em stew hahahaha
Peace is a lie, there is only passion
It annoys me as an INFJ, how many people can't stand honesty. All I want is to hang out with INTJs and ENTPs...
This is really interesting. I've found that as I have grown older (37 currently), I've instinctively sought to hone my accuracy trait while resisting the urges to allow my harmony trait to make significant or rash decisions. The more I debate others by challenging their arguments and viewpoints, the better I become at analyzing my own problems and challenges. It is refreshing to receive confirmation that I'm on the correct course without any deliberate actions on my part. Of course, there is ALWAYS room for improvement. That's our eternal quest, yes?!
yes and when you hit your 40s...you will elevate to ENTP GOD lmao...
Yes
Entp: speed up the video
Indian Rambler 2x for real ENTP’s
Lol please just time stamp the interesting facts
Such Ne thing to say 😏
& speed before the video
Oh my this screams me
😄
That's why I'm rarely liked but logicality has kept me alive an afloat this long. Thank you
I am constantly getting called antisocial or egoistic for telling the truth lol
I have never seen/heard a more accurate description of me as an ENTP, especially the love section, that is identical with me, and yes, misunderstood.
The "selling me something" vibe I get from this video makes it hard to finish (and it's already thirteen minutes long, which is about twice as long as most non-documentary videos I have the attention-span to watch). I'm sitting here trying to really absorb what I'm hearing, while some part of me is just distracted by waiting for the pitch.
baby, you tell me this as if i’m not already constantly reevaluating my ideas and if they’re logical 24/7, i’ve gotten to the point that fixing cognitive dissonance itself isn’t even logical anymore. and oh god, the harmony issue hits, i can get so fixated on the idealogical side or social repercussions of things i want to do that i can’t do anything at all.
Exactly the same here
@@melinavdw342 it’s pretty weird that other people have the same mental mmm habits as you do, especially when everyone around you doesn’t understand what you mean and why you act like you do
Yep. I’m a female ENTP with a neurotic ESFJ mom and I think as a result I’ve allowed my Fe to take the driver’s seat too often and become too concerned with harmony. ESFJs are the worst type of parent when they are an unhealthy type.
for ENTPs. since they're one of the most contradicting personality for an ENTP.
@@foreveryoungblink8545 that explains why I'm so much clashing with my ESFJ grandma (living with my grandparents)
my fucking life. my lifeeeeee
my fucking life. my lifeeeeee
I’m a 19 year old ENTP. rn I’m at a low point in my life.
My pain is deep,An anxiety/tension above my stomach and a deep sense of sadness and shame that I try to hide because if I express it then people will avoid me or pity me.
Sometimes I wish I didn’t think so much.
I’m afraid of the days to come.
I’ve dealt with so much pain that I tried to shut off my emotions and now I think one thing and feel another.
Music and God saved my life.
I have to fight to stop negative thoughts but negative emotions can’t be controlled.I love people cause I understand that bad behaviour is because they didn’t get enough love. I hate the world we live in, it’s all lies to get your money and waste your time.we’re conditioned to be slaves to a check and made insecure by media and marketing.Power games and other knowledge will be used against you.you can’t fully express yourself in public must keep composure.
Your life is already planned for you...school,sex,work,children, retire,die
I could keep going but I’m afraid I’ll just depress you too. I’m hopeful I can turn my life around, I want kids,gf,adventure,freedom
I appreciate my family now more than ever.I want to help people cause it’s not their fault their life is messed up it’s society’s fault-homeless,drug addicts,abuse victims,
Hometown Rapper You're good man. You're already whole and complete and it shows. Being an Entp you can set up shop anywhere and know which end is up. My suggestion, while it may take balls (zma supplementation recommended zinc levels are epidemically low, more testosterone and 7 days semen retention) would be to move to a whole new city. It takes balls, which, conversationally, we have. And so it goes.
As an entp, I watched the video to minute 6, then forwarded it and took Screenshots from all foils. Now I will read it later.
what i do when i study lol. screenshot all the maths solutions and then use the rest of my time by googling a fly's life span
One of the best description of entp. HARMONY is brilliant word. Accurate as hell
Seriously one of the best videos I've seen in a while . Clear structure and helpful data , thank you !
MBTI helped me get to the root of myself, to call out my boss on the bullshit new system they've dreamt up. I looked at it from every damn angle - always came back to bullshit. It's also helped me to figure out where I want to go next, and find a new job where I get to be my best self, doing the things I'm actually good at. I'm going to have to get used to my out-there-yet-logical ideas being accepted rather than shot down. To be able to make a case for something with enthusiasm rather than having to dig my heels in and fight for it.
How much do I love the idea an MBTI function stack projected onto the seats of a car?!
You guys make the best content. One of the only videos that offers real solutions to problems
So , me the ENTP analyzing and debating with myself this video analyzing how ENTP think. Damn.
Joel, I think this video is great. It's really informative and straight to the point.
I am so impressed with the info you gave for free, I'm excited what a value proposition would look like. Top notch!
Don’t play status games.
Simply become high status.
No status = authentic status
jc?
Don't care enough about it to bother.
is this an ESFJ or an ESTJ speaking? :))))
Just got out of a relationship, and this make so much sense. I am a proud ENTP
I used to throw massive tantrums when others didn't agree with me and had to learn that I'm allowed to have my own truth that differs from yours and to respect others views too
after mistyping myself for years and years, you guys finally helped me make a breakthrough
clicked the video and was prepared for disappointment
but man
the last three minutes got me:
how many times did I lie to people to spare their feelings?
It hit me hard because I started 2018 out with a principle I wanted to try and stay the whole year true to - something I called the “no-bullshit-policy”
the rule is simple: just don’t bs people
it worked for me big time though!!!!
I’m screaming that this is basically the advice for personal growth for any ENTP
so color me impressed this time ✨
Thank you for the additional knowledge and straightening out my mental wiring a bit more... #ENTP
Whatsapp group only for entps
Space Explorer what’s that?
Yes!
Why not
Space Explorer47 fuck off 😂😂😂
* Nodding in agreement * “As an ENTP your probably nodding in agreement right now” 😂😂😂
I believe a true ENTP that is always asking what if or researching things that you would have to sit all the way through this.
dana Herren it was hard to at first then I started just focusing. This was by far the most real breakdown of my personality since I started going down the ENTP rabbit hole
Omg i been eating for this video long time happy you finally publish IT. 🙏🏻😭 you make suck great mbti video. Its so entertaining and knowledge.
Thank you Sara.
Joel Mark Witt
your wlecome mr Joel.
Pleasure on my side
Nice, I love seeing one of your videos show up in my news feed. I'm so into the whole MB system and just matching personalities to people. I was like 17 at the time, and it was a pivotal moment in my life when I found out all this research existed. Like I'm talking a wicked spiritual awakening.
Keep up the great work guys. Also, it would be unreal if one of your next videos was on ISFJ's
dylan mehmal hey 2 years later, do you think finding out about all this MBTI stuff benefited your well being? Have you found success directly linked to having learned about your “MBTI personality?” Genuinely curious, thanks!
ENTP-A 18-year-old Male Here! Thank you for this Video! This gives me a much better explanation for how I think and feel! I have been very turbulent in the past and it wasn't until 1 year ago that I started making a huge change! My style of learning is an obsessive one and I need to express my thoughts to others about what I am passionate about, but my biggest growth goal right now is understanding what people want to hear my insight and what people don't. I have been accused of being obnoxious, immature and distracted in the past. I have only recently discovered the need for sensitivity in moderation and the desire of friendship that I have. I desire to be understood and to help others understand themselves. Currently, In my life, I believe that I have achieved one of the best feeling-thinking balances ever and my ability for empathy has earned me hundreds of friends in the last year. I believe that my intuitiveness is well balanced with a healthy sense of practicality that comes from all of my sensing family and friends. I don't believe in absolutes and I view most everything in life as a spectrum in my own way. One thing I have learned most recently is the power of words of affirmation and simply verbalizing my appreciation of people. When I verbalize my affirmation people tend to reciprocate and words of affirmation almost always motivate me to do best when they are authentic. Another key thing that I am working on is following through more often with what goals I seek. While I am very good at completing and excelling at big goals, smaller goals can potentially go half finished or appear to me as hard to finish. I seek to Have a better more consistent methodology of achieving my goals.
How's it going for you right now as an ENTP, I'm an ENTP my self, but recently took the risk of being on my own financially with my own spot at 23 years old. Take into concideration that emotions and thoughts change, therefore your personality type may change in the near future man. Alright.
Take that thought into concideration my man?
Are ENTPs supposed to watch this video the howl way through
Viktor Trupp - It was difficult for me as well. An ENTP liability huh? lol
I was thinking the same thing. It became unbearable at 630
An ENTP will finish anything they find interesting easily. What you guys have is calling 'having the attention span of a child' and any type can experience it, nothing to do with being an ENTP, an attention seeker, maybe.
Are you seriously looking for a rule that determines whether you are supposed to watch the 'whole' video or not? Can you not think for yourself? Now that you have an MBTI label does that mean that you now have to make sure that you behave accordingly? Wow. Just wow.
Try 1.25x speed
Joel amped up the energy with 50% for this vid 😁
Excellent video man!! 😍😍😍😍👍👍👍 Now I understood everything about the ENTP personality type 😊
I pretended to speak a foreign language on the first day of class. I was in elementary and the school called my mom to tell her I needed to be in ESL
now I start to understand myself, too hard for me especially when it comes to social politicking. I don't like do the 'people pleasant' and that makes my CEO hates me because I told him the truth even if it's a bad one. I did all the right things with my little team to launch his new business and it succeed and be a big national company just in 3 years. But when the new co-workers come, it makes me insane because they just do the speak and pleasing people. What the hell is that? But after I watched this video, make me think that it's my fault that I don't understand myself so I'll try to develop myself to be a greater ENTP. Thanks :)
Buckminster Fuller, an ENTP, said, "You never change things by fighting against the existing reality. To change something, build a new model that makes the old model obsolete.” ENTPs are status quo breakers and new systems establishers. Most people only understand concrete concepts or "things". But, ENTPs not only see the "things" but also how the "things" interact.
ENTPs are visionaries. Often we can't be understood until we put our ideas into concrete form for those without our visionary gift. And even then, as described above and in my own personal experience, with objective & unmistakably positive statistical evidence managers are not impressed -- what happened was outside their reality.
Most "really smart, high IQ MBA" managers dwell on that lower plane of trend & pattern recognition and can't understand ENTP's insights for radical improvement that come from the higher plane of systems thinking. Workplaces are prisons for ENTPs. I wish someone would have explained the world and how I fit in it back when I was a young twenty something year old.
ENTPs of the world, stop procrastinating, save your cash, and prepare to constructively smash the existing system to start your own enterprises.
I like to be social with people but when it comes to be sympathetic or talking emotionally, I can’t do that. I try to live up to peoples expectations but it’s just not me. Like, think that you grandfather is in the hospital, not any big problems, just some small tests and stuff.All of your family members are going to the hospital to see him. The hospital is far away, and there is traffic jams in the city.They will have to eat in restaurants or take food from home. So, in that situation the first thing that comes in my mind is that, will it benefit him if I go visit him? The whole family is going so what will happen if I don’t go? Then I look at the things that will happen if I go visit him-1) he will get more mental strength 2) It will cost more money in buying food for me and trouble to carry that food.3)the problem of vehicles comes next. And many many problems. Since there is more disadvantages than advantages I would rather choose not to. But if it was something like no one was trying to visit him, he is a lonely man at the end of his life, then it would be different.
And also one thing my family tells me that why don’t you ask people, how are you? I don’t ask because everyone is going to answer the same old thing, I am fine. No one is going to answer honestly about what is actually happening in their life. So there is no point of asking the question when you already know the answer!
Oh, really, I agree so much with your reasons for not asking the common question "how are you". However, probably most people prefer to be asked. This is one of those social conventions that drive me mad
My mother is an ESTP, and we tend to clash on honesty. She wants me to seize all opportunities and never jeopardise them with what she considers trivialities. Trivial, as in not important to the thing going on.
For me, they often are, because success is not my main drive.
I self-harmed most of my life, and she helped me on concealing that. I decided against that. I still wear long sleeves at work, but me wearing my scars open had many great responses. I don't mean "wear proudly", I just refuse to wear long sleeves in 35°C. The responses were unexpectedly positive. At a party of about 30 people, a group of about 10 started talking about what medication they are using and which ones they tried. People come up to me in pubs telling me they only wear long sleeves (leather jacket inside, hard to find long-sleeved dresses, I wish I had your courage.
I guess the weirdest was when I was talking to a few women in their 50s who asked me about it and ended the conversation with "I wish my son would meet someone like you "Me too!" (which is obviously insane)..
I have started deviating from what my mother (a very successful business woman) deems appropriate for success, and going my own way, which includes complete honesty. I am not proud of my faults, but I am not ashamed either.
I have started getting happier since then. When in doubt, call the mathematicians in the company: "I know it was always done this way, but my take is that this was overlooked. What do you think about that?".
Getting my own focus, away from the "what makes you most successful", is still a process, but I'm working on it.
This is a direct response about how we handle growth, so, there is is.
I've been involved with MBTI for about 30 years and this video showed me new insights into myself. I've always been a truth-teller (as long as it wasn't about ME!) but learned early on to temper that truth to ensure the messenger didn't get shot. This is probably why some ENTPs are good at diplomacy and negotiating. This also explains my constant quest for knowledge - I want to know all the angles before committing to a position.
This video was novel and informative; I appreciate the hard work that's gone into Personality Hacker and think we would all benefit from a more empathetic ("feelery") perspective -- even if we happen to be thinkers ;)
Thanks +Andrew Bowden for the feedback. Appreciated.
I always knew something was wrong about me wanting to please everyone and stressing out about my rep while hurting and putting pressure on my own self. Turns out the key is harmony.
I’m so grateful for this video. Thank you so much. Instead of trying to be funny in the comment section maybe better listen and focus to save your damn life lol. But that’s just my opinion. Since 2 weeks I believe too that there is a strong association between understanding your personality and personal growth.
Hey fellow MBTI enthusiasts! ENTP love complexities here. You see, there is this guy I fancied for quite some time now, I guess he's INTJ, we're both at the age to look out for a good diploma and a purpose in life. Since I knew him, I also knew that it would not take long until I would transfer school another time. But I did not know when exactly, so I eventually isolated myself on purpose and focused on academics and my personal interests, with exceeding achievements. Last year I slowly realised that I fell in love with him, but did not make any attempts as I was in the process of applying for various colleges around the globe to fully explore my potential and did not expect anyone to be able to catch up with that. I ended up spending four years at the boarding school, in a few months I will transfer to college at another place not too far away to maintain a healthy relationship, especially when considering that we both will be busy with studying.Over the past few months, he made subtle attempts to test if I am interested or not, though I always figured this afterwards, when analysing it thoroughly as I am way too focused on the ideas evolving in my head - which does not imply that I am not paying attention to him. However, it turned out that he is currently in a relationship, so I started avoiding him out of indignation, which did not stop him from continuing, even after it was clear to him that I would disappear in the near future. I reflected on everything that happened, his actions and attitudes and my reactions, and came to the conclusion that he may think that he is not able to catch up with me, either, due to my insensitive actions - and this is why he sticks to his current relationship despite his feelings for me, it gives him security. That would also explain why, before getting in said relationship, he tried several times to get closer to me and to know me better (which he obviously did not manage to because ENTPs suck at really opening up towards people) and still remained on unromantic terms, whilst praising me for all the things I'm good at, not to mention the shy testing-teasing.As an ENTP, I have self esteem, but do not quite enjoy the thought of being that popular as much as I do enjoy exploring how things come to be the way they are. I admire him in many aspects, so the thought of him not having the guts to ask me out straightforwardly instead of being some playboy never crossed my mind before. I care about others well-being, his in peculiar, and am able to move on if my theories happen to be inaccurate.The question now is whether I should or should not convey my feelings and which way and time would be appropriate to do so in order not to harm him emotionally. Any ideas?
Introverted thinking is a good skill for most things. Except love. Don’t overthink love.
Best way to balance introverted thinking extraverted feeling is to tell the truth in a tactful manner. If you ever catch yourself asking how can I make them feel better instead of how can I tell them the facts without making them feel worse then your doing it wrong.
I had started focusing on developing Ti earlier (months before watching this video) but I had to stop since many people began to show discomfort with my attitude to seek for truth and logic at every situation especially my family. My family foundation is based on creating harmony, even though most of the time we gained them gained through lies and hypocrisy. I was accused for being rude, unnecessarily opinionated, and the worst part my own mother campaigning everyone to hate me just because I decided to take the approach of being upfront and solving real problem through discussion. Yes, back then I had no choice but to keep everything to myself, less using/developing Ti and my tertiary Fe took charge in most of my life decision, and I realized something is wrong but I chose to ignore. I felt like becoming more immature, including being emotional for stupid stuff, and it caused more problems than before.
After watching this, I think I need to improve myself, probably by developing Ti and using it more once again in every situation. The next think I will do is to harness my communication skill in a way that making people more comfortable to listen and feel my sincerity to change things for betterment.
That showing love thing makes a million senses. Even recently I have displayed that exact formula for my way of showing a girl I liked her. I offered perfect honesty (she was INFJ so I was conflicted to saying that because I knew that she may get injured at how brutal I can lay things out.)
But then again, she values Ti if she is a true INFJ (Ti is their 3rd function). But one can always soften the blow of the truth. I have learned from my ENFP friend to prepare people for feedback - sort of ask them if they want you to be honest. And say it in a soft manner. That has really helped me in my communication.
Love this...delivered in ENTP style
Not rly
Interesting to hear how cold I must sound in my efforts to give or receive love.
Brilliant mate, bravo.
If you want to stop trying to please others and focus on growing your Ti, distance yourself from people who use guilt, shaming, etc. They keep you from growing.
I like these videos very much. When I watched the ENFJ video it reminded me so much of my own growth path. And I love that it helps me truly understand what's it's like to be the other types, too. So my question is are you going to make videos like this for the S types, too?
This is awesome!
Holy shit this is such a dope process it’s ecstasy when neuroscience meets phenomenon!
I'm an ENTJ. Let's make a team!
Sami S What advice do you have for entps to help us not procrastinate
I fucking hate that I procrastinate so much
why do we procrastinate so much?
Because your dominant function is not primarily concerned with 'doing', but simply perceiving. When doing, you will be using Introverted Thinking, which you need to conciously try to use to get into action-mode.
Idar Kalsnes Goksør i eventually got annoyed of my "what if" thinking and got my shit together so i can make atleast one "what if" become true
With more thought. It's just sad how my loved ones have had to live with my lack of squishy inside. I include myself in this lack of insight.
Do you identify with ENTP?
I agree with you. I been like that as far as i remembered. I just dont express my emotions other than excitement for scientific or marhematical concepts
My harmony has been a burden all my life almost people pleasing too preoccupied not to cause others discomfort, this lead me to feel fraudulent and brought about anger so I ended up punishing others to compensate for my lack of self respect if you are a young ENTP avoid this trap at all costs as it caused me a lot of heartache. Remember you are not responsible for other people's feelings. Stay true to yourself. Be authentic at all costs. I wish I had learnt this early. Thank you for your video. It's very accurate. Congrats 😊
How can I handle an immature&unhealthy ENTP?
That accuracy part is dead accurate to me, everyone i know doesnt like me because im honest and i focus on the working path not the happy path, i always look inward to make sure everything i say is accurate and if not to always preface by saying how it is not accurate.
One reason i hate myself so much(not trying to make a sob story or anything) is because i dont meet my own standards, like loyalty, i value complete and absolute loyalty, and although im more loyal than anyone ive ever seen and met, im still not good enough, my ex who betrayed me and didnt care that i was suicidal nearly 2 years ago, is who i have devoted myself to, but i catch myself finding other women attractive, only one woman who i would actually like to be with and still not as much as my ex, but thats not good enough, i need to be absolutely loyal. This girl is the only thing that i disregard all logic and all sense of morality and anything that would hold me back from protecting her. I would end the world to save her and i very much mean that. I have a strong moral compass and i always keep my promises and oaths, but for her all bets are off if need be. But im still not good enough, if im not absolutely loyal than im not loyal at all. This is the only part of me that defies logic and reason. Idk why but i felt this was relavent somehow, i had a reason but its slipped away, such is the entp way huh? Lol
I am an ENTP raised by an ESTJ mom (she is basically a militar robot), i think this is so perfect as possible. The big challenge here is to figure out how everything f* up. I should be rich by now.
Absolutely incredible
as soon as you talked about how often I lie to others I knew it was over for me.
I'm trying to figure out what I am. I feel like I'm an entp but I keep researching because either I want to learn everything I can on it or I'm trying to gain a understanding on what I am, I usually think about many possibilities and I have thoughts that counteract what im thinking, i feel my actions contradict what I think or feel, such as I feel like I'm alone yet I find myself always around people, I say I have no friends yet I'm around people that like me, in my head my conscience isn't in tune with my actions, I recently met someone who I feel shows me everything I do (he stimulates me to analyze my conscience and my actions through acting exactly like me), but in a puzzle, I love to solve things and want to solve who I am, but I'm uncertain about being an entp, I may even have a personality disorder, I don't know yet, I love to learn about the mind and how it works, if someone could help me analyse myself in a deeper understanding leave me a way to contact you... even now I'm thinking about if I wasn't an entp I wouldn't be asking these questions would I? Its as if I can relate to everything an entp goes through but I don't feel I'm right on that.
I relate too much when you say that you feel alone despite being with people, and when you say that you don't have friends but you are with people that does the same as you. Why do you think you have a problem?
Just do the MIBT test online ^-^
As an ENTP i had to take about fives breaks and come back to this video because it’s too long
Kodee Delantai yep
Now I understand why I spend my time thinking of solutions to problems in the world.
This is a great video
As an entp i approve the car analogy
Would love a video for ESFPs! I think my boyfriend is one and I want to get to know his type more, and how he can work on personal growth etc...
Omggggg this is really accurate.
Yes!! Geographer here! Always, What if???
My accuracy got a lot better over the years.
Hello ENTP's! You are the best partners for INFJ's. Gotta catch'em all!
I can't get along with this personality. It's not the debate that I mind, it's the way they say it, without caring about the emotions of others. It's probably not really true about them, but that's energy I just don't want in my life.
Ahh I watched till 2:00 I will comeback and continue watching some other day..
My inner harmony process is constantly badgering me that I should be posting on social media so that people will interact with me, invite me to things, and see me as the fun and social person I am. But I can never bring myself to do it because my other processes convince me that it is shallow, fake and pointless vanity project that will be not make me happy in the end. This causes quite serious internal turmoil that Ive been dealing with for years.
a very informative video greetings from turkey!
I've noticed some of these qualities like "Accuracy" I have managed to develop well when working on my own or when writing my scientific reports. I feel I have time to investigate and have what I am explaining make complete sense. But when I am having to communicate in front of peers, I feel i don't have time, and I revert to the 3 year old. I guess if I remember to take my time and relax
I am an ENFJ and this is actually helping me lol
Awesome!!!
Very good content
It it just me or have I never had a problem with accuracy....harmony on the other hand.
i am like a mix of entp and enfp
i find myself acting on the "what if" all too often in social settings. i'm from a multicultural background, the rational in me demands i speak the languages of my heritage (arabic, french) - that is my logic stating i should have these qualities, even though i don't. Therefore i realize this logic by stating that i am, in fact, rusty but not fluent when i feel challenged to be something more. I.E i did in fact lie about speaking arabic and french, when i started at my university. This creates discord within my own mind, as harmony dictates i be truthful, absolutely truthful almost arrogantly so. This is what holds me back, from achieving and accomplishing real bonds with other people. Sure i feel drawn to discourse on subjects i am interested in, pedagogics for example is what i demand of myself to be faultless on. Therefore i emerge myself in different thesis on the matter, to a point where i want to take charge when we have projects revolving around the subject. BUT here is the proverbial kicker; as i flow between INTP and ENTP fairly often, due to caging myself in untruths, i delve deeper into INTP in periods of depression or self-doubt. Hence the lies work as a fence, between my psyche and my extrovert qualities. I want to be social. But when i feel like i am being so to a point of exhaustion, my rational gives me a dose of realization through the lies i've told to feel confident in my abilities. My lies work as a transition into a period of needed recouperation. I end up wallowing in self-disgust up untill the point where i feel i need to make amends. Not by being truthful about my actual bi-linguality, but trying to take charge and help others on the subjects i delve deeper into.
By being ultimately truthful i will burn the bridges i've built as extrovert, and in so doing - shut myself in.
Good video! My biggest question is about the ages of those back seat drivers. I have read that Ti would start developing in middle school and Fe in closer to 20s, and Si, 30-40s. I don't know whether that's correct, I think I've seen different speculations. But what age is this geared to? Because I'm sure that a 50 year ENTP is going to have more developed functions than a 20 year old like me. Maybe my Fe is 10 but theirs is already a teenager? Or do you believe it stays static? Or do they all age proportionally, so everyone in the car is just older but they still have the same age gaps? how does the metaphor account for that function growth?
What if the functions evolves through your relationships? I think you Ti is not linked to your age, is based on your life and how much you use it.
I dated an ISFJ and as a result I've moved toward that harmony function and in arguments I would get angry despite previously being very level headed
One way I let my harmony process steel happiness is by withholding information that might cause emotional conflict with people.
Withholding valuable information is like a ticking time bomb just like lieing
first, i started to read comments while video was still going and then i decided to watch it later.
But but but. How do I keep the peace in a work setting with clients and grow my Ti? I can't just start getting all real with customers, but at the same time I feel like I just capitulate a lot to them.
You can ask them if they want some honest feedback - or honest answers - and then just cushion the blow a bit (of course, this depends on whether or not you are being honest about THEM or honest about your own services (which wouldn't be so optimal if it's negative)).
In the "Mind Wiring" playlist description, it says that it is "A series of videos showing the cognitive functions and mental wiring of each of the 16 personality types". However, only 8 videos are uploaded? Where are the other 8 personalities? :(