How refreshing to see such honestly, I think I have be on both ends of gossiping in the past my lovely, but it shows what a beautiful soul vessel you are to admit this and to apologies, so much respect for you sweetheart 🙏 namast'e xxxxxxxxxxx
You must be suffering from karma? Yup you can’t block karma. What goes around comes around. You’ve destroyed someone’s reputation tho. Accept the consequences of your action
I have a similar strategy, I say "(name) may not want me to know about this". That returns the responsibility to the person who is gossiping. I have been hurt by gossip. It is no joke. I really try not to get involved in a conversation about anyone who is not present.
Pia Rossi me 2 I’ve been hurt by gossip 4 years at a bad school and I NEVER and I do mean NEVER EVER say anything 2 the kids that gossip about me I never said anything bad about myself or talked 2 them, but, it’s in the past, and they’ve been gossiping about me cause they don’t have good lives
Pia Rossi I wait for them to finish, then tell the person gossiping that ill be contacting the person in question, and informing them rumours are being spread by {name}
creator not all gossips are narcissists but almost all narcissists gossip. If someone used to gossip but wants to change themselves and do better than they are not a narcissist. They are just a flawed person looking to make a positive change.
If there's one thing worse than the gossip itself, it's when everyone mindlessly believes them and accuses you of lying or playing the victim when you truthfully object.
I think I've decided to stop gossiping. I live in a small town, and it can be very toxic. So I think I want to step away from it. I am proud to say I have noticed myself refraining from the opportunity several times recently.
Have you ever wondered why people gossiping? Greedy , jealousy ,begging and desgusting , hating christian gossipers , money loving , holy reptiles are still worldwide known disease -- cancer on body of mankind
Sometimes people gossip and make fun of you're not very good When I did construction 🔨 work people gossiped about me because I was so clumsy, it's never happened before or since
It'sad... i have been a victim of gossip. Hell, our family almost shattered because of neighborhood gossip turned to bullying of my mom. That was why my dad decided to change residence... and we remained complete. That is why I never gossip. Unfortunately though, when you dont do it, you dont become part of a group in the office. You dont have cliques, and all your office life is full of professional boundaries. It sometimes make me sad, but I just couldnt respond well to their favorite topics. I was forced to be some kind of a loner...
I am sorry you are going through that. I just recently had the same situation in which I was getting the same kind of looks. I know someone spread some kind of rumor around. Till this day I am not sure what it was that was put out. I hope you are hanging in there. People might sooner or later realize that whatever has been said might not be true. I believe in my case it might be related to the fact that some of the women don't like the fact that I am on a diet. I never preach about being on a diet and I never preach about how I eat. The only time I mention it is when I sometimes do not eat things being offered and people are always asking why are you not eating such and such so I tell them. Plus my stomach feels better when I keep certain things in moderation. I am not sure what the rumor was an cannot say for sure but I believe somebody went around saying I was weight shaming other people which I did not and that is not something I would do. When people have their own hangups about stuff they will get vicious. I am not sure that this is what the rumor was though. Till this day I really don't know. Like the video said this is immature behavior but the people doing it are adults. In my case most of these people are middle age like I am and the fact that middle age people can carry on like that is truly pathetic. Just act nice to everyone and maybe people will eventually realize that the rumor might not be true when they see how nice you treat others.
I am so sorry to all that I have gossiped about and hurt through other ways (including gossip). I have found that both avoiding conversations and things that lead to gossip, as well as changing the subject helped me to change.
This is exactly why I like midnights... you miss out on the majority of other people in the workplace. You're seen by some of them in the morning but besides that, you aren't focused on.
Great advice. thank you!! I cant stand people who always have to whisper about someone else. Im currently facing this issue right now only its not being said to me im overhearing it which is seriously worse because i cant say anything ugh
“Why are you telling me this?” hasn’t worked for me because the gossiper will say “I just find it fascinating!” They cannot stop to themselves because they have nothing else to say.
I lost my wife, mother of my children to this. She always gossips. When I found out she did so alot on my back to her friends about stuff that wasnt true, I tried talking to her. I told her it hurts and it affected my reputation. She laught and said, what reputation and continued on. So I decided to do it to her and make sure she wouls stumble upon it on fb messenger. It hurt her so bad she left me and tok my kids, saying I was a very agressiv personne and because of that, I get to see my kids once every 2 weeks. I regret it alot. Im ot that kind of person by any means but I just couldnt find another way to make her understand. She still gossips her heart out today.
Ex's are fun huh?! Same happened..spreads like wildfire, lies can reach halfway around the world, while the truth is still putting on its shoes.. Author, unknown
Which is followed by this person doesn't want me to know so why are you presuming that they want me to know? Then walk away from the person. gossiping is not necessary. it's also not good mental health to over-share information.
Which is followed by this person doesn't want me to know so why are you presuming that they want me to know? Then walk away from the person. gossiping is not necessary. it's also not good mental health to over-share information.
That is why i stay on my lane most of the time. I stay on my cubicle or house bcoz it's hard to trust people. They wont stay true to u. Only your family will.
I spread a rumor once that I hooked up with a girl 3 years older than me and I honestly don’t know why. A day later the whole school found out and was praising me even though I felt sheer guilt and shame inside. I felt like if anyone ever knew it was a lie then I would be done for. The girl was given a very hard time after people in her age group heard abt it and when I found out I almost killed myself because of badly I felt and the guilt that flooded me even though nothing happened. I’m trying to get people to stop talking about it but it just seems to keep getting worse and worse and I don’t know what to do
Be bold, walk up to her and apologize in front of EVERYONE like you are the ultimate badass/most humble being alive. *Tell her you don't deserve it but you are asking for her forgiveness anyways* And you understand if she doesn't and if she hates you* But one day...... she will appreciate what you did. And you will be better off for it. Rehearse it endlessly until you find yourself with the strength to pull it off. Look her dead in her eyes when you do and then walk away when it's done. If you need to confide in a friend and ask them for help. Nothing is better than living with integrity. And you already are remorseful for your actions. So you know you have a good heart. Maybe you'll forgive yourself as well. Best of luck to you
Jeremy Sears it’s been a month and I finally confronted the situation a couple weeks ago. It feels great even though I know it will take time for her to forgive me. I appreciate the kind words man and I definitely learned my lesson. We need more people in the world like you ✊
I tend to avoid gossip situations, but also if there's a lot of unresolved problems in an organization and no one is listening, then it's out of frustration. Sometimes it takes time to work yourself out of this habit -- best way is to excuse yourself or avoid the person.
Yeah my biggest problem is telling my business when im mad or upset. Especially cause I get over it super fast then others are still mad at what I've done let go. Or something to that nature. I have to stop. I realize now it is a form of gossip because it gives people a reason to talk about not only me but the person I was venting about. I never looked as it as gossip because it was my own business. What I'm going thru. I know see that if it involves anyone else at all.. It is still gossip.
Good one right here.... it works... theres another tactic i will use for my fellow Christians when they wanna spread gossip. I ask them. "Instead of gossiping... aren't you supposed to pray for them?" That'll stop em AND make em feel stupid. Lol.
Gossiping is a habit I have to break and I always feel gross after doing it. I had a job where everyone gossiped about everyone (including me!) and my relationships in that place were terrible. I decided to stop gossiping completely at work. I’d not engage or change the subject. People stopped gossiping with me and all the drama I experienced at work disappeared - like magic!
Our teacher's pet gossips and spread bad rumors about me and then I felt bad and I revenged And the teachers hate me because they thought I started it and that I was a BULLY and the teachers didn't even asked me what he says about me , they just scold me even if they did not know the real reason. Thank you very much for the advise
I’m a freshman, and I’m dealing with gossip. The things they say hurt like shit. I fr don’t know what to do, and I deadass have no friends. I feel alone.
I would love to say that this video truly helped me. I am getting hurt by people telling me what they have said about me. Saying why are you telling me this will make the person think. It can work by the person who is being gossiped about too. In my situation, (if you are ever in it) it would go something like this: Bully: i heard (gossip stuff) Me: why are you telling me this? Bully: because i bet its true (or) i bet its making you feel bad Me: why do you want to make me feel bad?
Gossips, busybodies, and backstabbers are all losers. They have nothing else going in their lives, except to gossip and tell lies, and stir up trouble. Jealousy drives a lot of gossipers: they always have some juicy tidbit of info they're trying to scatter around, and it's mostly (if not always) lies and tall tales. Don't associate with gossips and busybodies: they're nobody's friend.
Gossip is a natural part of life. Trying to mock people who gossip doesn't make any sense. When you participate in gossip ask yourself this: Am I learning and maybe achieving information that can benefit? Or am I just confirming my already set beliefs and not obtaining anything I can do something with? Starting a quesion with why is appealing to the logic side of the brain. That's a bad idea when you want to adress something that is comming from the emotional side of the brain. Making clear that you don't want to participate in something can be a good thing for you personally. Stating your boundaries. But alienating the other part might be a bad move. It depends on the situation and who the person is. Here is my suggestion: Ask the person what they are saying about you when you're not around.
I never talked about anyone until i started a job that had toxic people in it. Over heard my boss and another employee gossiping about me behind mind back. A person that doesn't do this, I retaliated and did the same thing. I was hurt. Rumors started to spread about me.
Almost all the time people gossip around whenever wherever i'am it irritates me so i choose to be silent or to be alone and then they talk about me that i am arrogant and i've some type of pride
Ever since I've known that people surrounding me these 3 years are as fake as a wig, I found it so disgusting to handle. But thankfully, the semester is ending in a month and I'll never see them again. I dislike gossiping people with a passion and find them pathetic.
Yes I sometime talk about coworkers that I want to go away cause there no good for the company and everyone knows it. However since I live a severely karmic life and nothing has worked in the way I wanted to since birth. I feel trapped and every time I attempt to do better. The rug underneath me gets pulled. So I never know what to do. Smaller things like getting the very last item at a store when it’s needed. Or finding a parking space closer and easily are smaller good things. However getting a better job. Finally going on that date. Getting promoted to a better higher paid job. Moving out on own. Those are things that seem to “almost” never work out.
I have never been into sports. Once, after sitting out of PE since I really didn’t want to do it, I was coming to the bathroom to get changed back into my normal clothes, when I heard a “friend” of mine back-talking me, questioning why I didn’t want to do sports, and about how I skipped it because I didn’t want to. I heard it, and when I walked fully in, someone said “Umm.. [insert toxic friends name] they are right there”. Then the toxic friend just said “umm.. Hi!”. I told her that I knew she back-talked (this was not the first time she back-talked, she did it all the time), then went to get changed in a different place.
I blame reality shows, celebrity shows, celebrity news disguised as "nightly news", gossipy, low self esteem adults....who model the sick behavior with their children.... ......when the evening news becomes mainly celebrity gossip... then...
LoL I have neighbors I haven't spoken to for years because I refuse to be a part of their She-Man Gossip Club. That being said I've been placed on their gossip favorite allstar list for years. The bad: These guys are in their early 60's now and still going strong while the wives mind their own business and act like adults.
I have have been lied on and Supervisor wanted me drug tested but GM wanted to talk to me first to get my side of the story they backed off lol, everyone lying had been written up and I have never been, just blessed I guess 🤗
You should use a disclaimer that this advice will only be effective on mentally stable humans. It had a terrible effect in my situation and I wish I would have just said nothing.
Truth always surfaces and a gossip is always exposed eventually. Jealousy and envy is the gossip's motivation for the most part so find inspirational people to befriend and pray for the gossips. Why waste time listening to words that hurt your spirit.
Gossiping is horrible I have lately been blames for starting a rumor even though I would never do that and I have been very sad about it but I still don't know what to do can someone help please
my ex still spreads lies about me 10 years later and everyone still believes him no matter what proof is shown. by then the damage is already done. I lost all my friends because of it.
someone said that I confirmed that I was “lesbian” I said girls can’t be gay, but what I meant to say was girls can be gay, he said that I was lesbian and he said “SAVANNAHS LESBIAN” and it made me cry bc everyone says things to me.But when someone says something nasty in my class the they don’t care but to me, they tell everyone that I said that but I didn’t he got suspended, but for some reason I felt bad ab myself even though he did that…I’m always depressed and I try to have good days but every time I talk to a boy they make up something I never said it just gurts me completely and makes me crumble in to tiny bitty pieces I just hate my school I’m in middle school to IT SUCKS BC U GET MORE…depressed…
I am watching this because there is a girl in my remediation class who likes to talk about me Like one time we were playing a quiz game and one girl was talking about an answer and chose it, I wasn't thinking about what she said and so happened to choose the same thing, the girl who likes to talk about me was sitting behind me and asked me, "did you pick that answer because she did too" obivously I I didn't. And I didn't answer, so later when we were packing up I heard her say my name and talk about the quiz, and then she gave me a weird look, I was upset while heading to the next class because she was walking at least 20 feet behind me and giggling, I thought she was laughing at me This isn't the first time she has talked about me either
I tell my "friends" to stop gossiping about me and they assume there not so they wont get in trouble..someone please tell me a good phrase to fell them the truth? Please! I felt bullied..
Hurtful is only sin to the sinful. Healing is only to the innocent few. Reality is not about feeling nor sensing. Reality is about realizing. Inna lillahi wa inna ilaihi raji'un..
I don't know why people have soo much interest in others life??!!! There are rumors about me that I like a boy in 8 and I'm in 6. The whole 6,7,8 class believe in it and I don't know how to clear my name??!! The real story is that...among all the seniors I have respected him the most he's just well mannered and serious about his studies, I like this..!! One day I was just playing with a pen and JST FOR FUNNNN I wrote his name on my palm and that was my bad luck that someone had seen it during assembly and since then the rumors have started. I don't want this to spread among all the teachers??!!! I don't want them to tease me and I want them to tell the truth but don't know how?????!!!! One friend of mine had just told me about this !! Day after 2morow is my school and I don't know how to react and manage this situation !! This may seems like a small thing but its not fun for me I'm really scared what if my parents and teachers get to know about this??
In 2nd grade my friends told me somebody made fun of a women with a Hijab saying that somebody said they had a blanket on them , so I told the teacher,later they gossiped and didn't notice that I was standing legit right In front of them , she said "Emily is so annoying " ,in my head I was like "boi you dumbo I am right in front of you.." but I started fake crying . She apologized and is a show off today . One day ima gossip in front of her face just for revenge , Maybe
"If talk is cheap, then being silent is expensive. And many people it seems, can't afford to buy into it."
The virgin Mary, mother of God is a perfect example of the virtue of discretion.
@@catholicfemininity2126 huh
If they gossip to u about one of their "friends" they will probably gossip about you
True.
They will definitely talk about you too.
What if its your own mother who gossips about you
This is very good.
@lalala She has no loyalty to anyone.
I have had a problem with gossiping for a long time. I apologize to those I have hurt through gossiping and in other ways.
Hey lauren maybe to pay it forward by helping me in being severly being affected by gossip maybe u can chat with me
Lauren Spivack Me to fit me too. Lord HELP US ALL.
How refreshing to see such honestly, I think I have be on both ends of gossiping in the past my lovely, but it shows what a beautiful soul vessel you are to admit this and to apologies, so much respect for you sweetheart 🙏 namast'e xxxxxxxxxxx
You must be suffering from karma? Yup you can’t block karma. What goes around comes around. You’ve destroyed someone’s reputation tho. Accept the consequences of your action
🙏🏽same here I never did until I got my first job ever and hung around low energy low life failed in life people who just took me down with them. 🙏🏽
I have a similar strategy, I say "(name) may not want me to know about this". That returns the responsibility to the person who is gossiping. I have been hurt by gossip. It is no joke. I really try not to get involved in a conversation about anyone who is not present.
Pia Rossi me 2 I’ve been hurt by gossip 4 years at a bad school and I NEVER and I do mean NEVER EVER say anything 2 the kids that gossip about me I never said anything bad about myself or talked 2 them, but, it’s in the past, and they’ve been gossiping about me cause they don’t have good lives
they should have a finger chopped off, to remind them to shut the fuck up
Pia Rossi I wait for them to finish, then tell the person gossiping that ill be contacting the person in question, and informing them rumours are being spread by {name}
Pia Rossi That's a great way and less defensive. Thanks for sharing
I got hurt bc of some gossiping too
:(
I played this loudly in front of one of my toxic cousins that was previously gossiping about me with her mom and she got uncomfortable.
Good thinking!
Serves her right. She knew she was doing it.
@shawnmendrek3544 same brother
exactly they go completely mute
Gossip destroys lives, not worth having haters in your life. so many haters in t world today, borders pathetic individuals in many cases.
THEY GOSSIP BECAUSE THEY DON'T FEEL GOOD ABOUT THEMSELVES? This sounds like an insecure narcissist to me.
creator not all gossips are narcissists but almost all narcissists gossip.
If someone used to gossip but wants to change themselves and do better than they are not a narcissist. They are just a flawed person looking to make a positive change.
Lol
Yes many gossipers are narcissists.
Oh ur a gossiper
True. They drag u down bcoz they are insecure about u.
If there's one thing worse than the gossip itself, it's when everyone mindlessly believes them and accuses you of lying or playing the victim when you truthfully object.
I think I've decided to stop gossiping. I live in a small town, and it can be very toxic. So I think I want to step away from it. I am proud to say I have noticed myself refraining from the opportunity several times recently.
Hey crazy question but how much has your life changed over 2 years? I’m curious
This should go viral. Thanks!
Wow! This video is so true. I live in neighborhood full of poisonous gossipers. Gossip is worst than cancer and AIDS. Thank you for sharing
I'll take gossip over cancer or AIDS.
Neil Mallick 💯💯
Have you ever wondered why people gossiping? Greedy , jealousy ,begging and desgusting , hating christian gossipers , money loving , holy reptiles are still worldwide known disease -- cancer on body of mankind
Sometimes people gossip and make fun of you're not very good
When I did construction 🔨 work people gossiped about me because I was so clumsy, it's never happened before or since
It'sad... i have been a victim of gossip. Hell, our family almost shattered because of neighborhood gossip turned to bullying of my mom. That was why my dad decided to change residence... and we remained complete.
That is why I never gossip. Unfortunately though, when you dont do it, you dont become part of a group in the office. You dont have cliques, and all your office life is full of professional boundaries. It sometimes make me sad, but I just couldnt respond well to their favorite topics. I was forced to be some kind of a loner...
Deborah Smith. Hey. Thanks. ^^
You are telling my story.
I'm being called anti-social because I don't engage with gossipped.
I am sorry you and your family went through that.
I am sorry you are going through that. I just recently had the same situation in which I was getting the same kind of looks. I know someone spread some kind of rumor around. Till this day I am not sure what it was that was put out. I hope you are hanging in there. People might sooner or later realize that whatever has been said might not be true. I believe in my case it might be related to the fact that some of the women don't like the fact that I am on a diet. I never preach about being on a diet and I never preach about how I eat. The only time I mention it is when I sometimes do not eat things being offered and people are always asking why are you not eating such and such so I tell them. Plus my stomach feels better when I keep certain things in moderation. I am not sure what the rumor was an cannot say for sure but I believe somebody went around saying I was weight shaming other people which I did not and that is not something I would do. When people have their own hangups about stuff they will get vicious. I am not sure that this is what the rumor was though. Till this day I really don't know. Like the video said this is immature behavior but the people doing it are adults. In my case most of these people are middle age like I am and the fact that middle age people can carry on like that is truly pathetic. Just act nice to everyone and maybe people will eventually realize that the rumor might not be true when they see how nice you treat others.
Better to be a loner than to be in the said group. I wish i had the will to keep away from such group.
I am so sorry to all that I have gossiped about and hurt through other ways (including gossip). I have found that both avoiding conversations and things that lead to gossip, as well as changing the subject helped me to change.
This is exactly why I like midnights... you miss out on the majority of other people in the workplace. You're seen by some of them in the morning but besides that, you aren't focused on.
Great advice. thank you!! I cant stand people who always have to whisper about someone else. Im currently facing this issue right now only its not being said to me im overhearing it which is seriously worse because i cant say anything ugh
Hi!
I am watching this because I am frustrated with a girl in my class >:/
She always blames random stuff on me,talks to me rudely,and gossips about me
Could she be jealous of you for some reason?
Hi I'm going thru the same sort of thing do you have snap or insta
Sounds like my workplace boss..
That was three years ago, did the issue resolve?
@@Natashahoneypot I moved away, I think everything is good, now ^^
“Why are you telling me this?” hasn’t worked for me because the gossiper will say “I just find it fascinating!” They cannot stop to themselves because they have nothing else to say.
So true, 'Why are you telling me this?' stops those gossipers constantly gossiping K Sommers
Gossip hurts others. I am so sorry for hurting others through gossip and other ways.
That was totally awesome. Thank you. I'll be sure to use that phrase! 😂😂😂
I lost my wife, mother of my children to this. She always gossips. When I found out she did so alot on my back to her friends about stuff that wasnt true, I tried talking to her. I told her it hurts and it affected my reputation. She laught and said, what reputation and continued on. So I decided to do it to her and make sure she wouls stumble upon it on fb messenger. It hurt her so bad she left me and tok my kids, saying I was a very agressiv personne and because of that, I get to see my kids once every 2 weeks. I regret it alot. Im ot that kind of person by any means but I just couldnt find another way to make her understand. She still gossips her heart out today.
Ex's are fun huh?! Same happened..spreads like wildfire, lies can reach halfway around the world, while the truth is still putting on its shoes..
Author, unknown
When she gossip about you she was saying more about her then you but she didn't realize it!
Wow, sorry you had to deal with such a hateful bitch
She is hateful (and stupid) plenty of better women out there.
Why did she take the kids, is it legal?
"Why are you telling me this?" Will be followed by "I'm trying to warn you about so and so" or "This is something you need to know."
Which is followed by this person doesn't want me to know so why are you presuming that they want me to know? Then walk away from the person. gossiping is not necessary. it's also not good mental health to over-share information.
Which is followed by this person doesn't want me to know so why are you presuming that they want me to know? Then walk away from the person. gossiping is not necessary. it's also not good mental health to over-share information.
I am only in 7th grade and people are saying so many inappropriate and hurtful things about me.. it makes me want to hide in a corner forever....
That is why i stay on my lane most of the time. I stay on my cubicle or house bcoz it's hard to trust people. They wont stay true to u. Only your family will.
My sister lied to my dad about a conversation we never had.....she's either jealous or crazy. But I'm over it!
The phrase that stops gossip::: Why are you telling me this???
I spread a rumor once that I hooked up with a girl 3 years older than me and I honestly don’t know why. A day later the whole school found out and was praising me even though I felt sheer guilt and shame inside. I felt like if anyone ever knew it was a lie then I would be done for. The girl was given a very hard time after people in her age group heard abt it and when I found out I almost killed myself because of badly I felt and the guilt that flooded me even though nothing happened. I’m trying to get people to stop talking about it but it just seems to keep getting worse and worse and I don’t know what to do
Be bold, walk up to her and apologize in front of EVERYONE like you are the ultimate badass/most humble being alive. *Tell her you don't deserve it but you are asking for her forgiveness anyways* And you understand if she doesn't and if she hates you*
But one day...... she will appreciate what you did. And you will be better off for it.
Rehearse it endlessly until you find yourself with the strength to pull it off. Look her dead in her eyes when you do and then walk away when it's done. If you need to confide in a friend and ask them for help.
Nothing is better than living with integrity. And you already are remorseful for your actions. So you know you have a good heart. Maybe you'll forgive yourself as well.
Best of luck to you
Jeremy Sears it’s been a month and I finally confronted the situation a couple weeks ago. It feels great even though I know it will take time for her to forgive me. I appreciate the kind words man and I definitely learned my lesson. We need more people in the world like you ✊
I tend to avoid gossip situations, but also if there's a lot of unresolved problems in an organization and no one is listening, then it's out of frustration. Sometimes it takes time to work yourself out of this habit -- best way is to excuse yourself or avoid the person.
Yeah my biggest problem is telling my business when im mad or upset. Especially cause I get over it super fast then others are still mad at what I've done let go. Or something to that nature. I have to stop. I realize now it is a form of gossip because it gives people a reason to talk about not only me but the person I was venting about. I never looked as it as gossip because it was my own business. What I'm going thru. I know see that if it involves anyone else at all.. It is still gossip.
As soon as I made the decision to stop gossiping, the most juiciest gossip came my way! So far I haven't repeated it or gave in.
That’s great.
Good one right here.... it works... theres another tactic i will use for my fellow Christians when they wanna spread gossip. I ask them. "Instead of gossiping... aren't you supposed to pray for them?" That'll stop em AND make em feel stupid. Lol.
Gossiping is a habit I have to break and I always feel gross after doing it.
I had a job where everyone gossiped about everyone (including me!) and my relationships in that place were terrible. I decided to stop gossiping completely at work. I’d not engage or change the subject. People stopped gossiping with me and all the drama I experienced at work disappeared - like magic!
Our teacher's pet gossips and spread bad rumors about me and then I felt bad and I revenged And the teachers hate me because they thought I started it and that I was a BULLY and the teachers didn't even asked me what he says about me , they just scold me even if they did not know the real reason.
Thank you very much for the advise
I am sorry to everyone who I have gossiped about and hurt in other ways.
Don’t let them teach you their clever games
I’m a freshman, and I’m dealing with gossip. The things they say hurt like shit. I fr don’t know what to do, and I deadass have no friends. I feel alone.
when people gossip about me, once i find out who that person is i like to discuss with them in a place with no witnesses.
,,Gossip has no place in a respectful and mature society!"
People gossip because they do not feel good about themselves.
I would love to say that this video truly helped me. I am getting hurt by people telling me what they have said about me. Saying why are you telling me this will make the person think. It can work by the person who is being gossiped about too. In my situation, (if you are ever in it) it would go something like this:
Bully: i heard (gossip stuff)
Me: why are you telling me this?
Bully: because i bet its true (or) i bet its making you feel bad
Me: why do you want to make me feel bad?
I love this!! I will add to that " Take it to the source"!
Gossips, busybodies, and backstabbers are all losers. They have nothing else going in their lives, except to gossip and tell lies, and stir up trouble. Jealousy drives a lot of gossipers: they always have some juicy tidbit of info they're trying to scatter around, and it's mostly (if not always) lies and tall tales. Don't associate with gossips and busybodies: they're nobody's friend.
Stop dealing with two-faced people. They have to know where they really stand. #loyalty #dealingwithbackbiters
Beautifully Brilliant!
Gossip is a lot easier for me to avoid when people do more of what I want.
Gossip is a natural part of life. Trying to mock people who gossip doesn't make any sense. When you participate in gossip ask yourself this: Am I learning and maybe achieving information that can benefit? Or am I just confirming my already set beliefs and not obtaining anything I can do something with?
Starting a quesion with why is appealing to the logic side of the brain. That's a bad idea when you want to adress something that is comming from the emotional side of the brain.
Making clear that you don't want to participate in something can be a good thing for you personally. Stating your boundaries. But alienating the other part might be a bad move. It depends on the situation and who the person is.
Here is my suggestion: Ask the person what they are saying about you when you're not around.
Me: "why are you telling me this?"
Them: *mumbles gibberish and walks off*
Also them: *talks abt me instead"
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Gossip is bad but every country has an agency that is listening to it.
I never talked about anyone until i started a job that had toxic people in it. Over heard my boss and another employee gossiping about me behind mind back. A person that doesn't do this, I retaliated and did the same thing. I was hurt. Rumors started to spread about me.
Almost all the time people gossip around whenever wherever i'am it irritates me so i choose to be silent or to be alone and then they talk about me that i am arrogant and i've some type of pride
Ever since I've known that people surrounding me these 3 years are as fake as a wig, I found it so disgusting to handle. But thankfully, the semester is ending in a month and I'll never see them again. I dislike gossiping people with a passion and find them pathetic.
This is excellent.
Only narcissists who, are delusional, spend their time, gossiping. Without it, they really ha ve nothing to give.
Great wisdom! Thank you 🙏
Very very useful!!
I’m going to try this? Lately I’ve been getting pulled into gossip.
“Why are you telling me this?”
“Why are you talking about me?”
why are you telling me this ?
why are you talking about me ?
"Gossip is trial-in-absentia with some truth mixed with lots of scandal." - brian padrick drake
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It's true
"Why are you telling me that" 👌
Only good people watch this video not gossipers !
It is also one of the bigest sins..but problem is, people couldn't care less..
LOVE IT!!!!!!
Great idea!
My mom told me when I was young that those that gossip to you, will also gossip about you.
Yes I sometime talk about coworkers that I want to go away cause there no good for the company and everyone knows it. However since I live a severely karmic life and nothing has worked in the way I wanted to since birth. I feel trapped and every time I attempt to do better. The rug underneath me gets pulled. So I never know what to do. Smaller things like getting the very last item at a store when it’s needed. Or finding a parking space closer and easily are smaller good things. However getting a better job. Finally going on that date. Getting promoted to a better higher paid job. Moving out on own. Those are things that seem to “almost” never work out.
I have never been into sports.
Once, after sitting out of PE since I really didn’t want to do it, I was coming to the bathroom to get changed back into my normal clothes, when I heard a “friend” of mine back-talking me, questioning why I didn’t want to do sports, and about how I skipped it because I didn’t want to.
I heard it, and when I walked fully in, someone said “Umm.. [insert toxic friends name] they are right there”.
Then the toxic friend just said “umm.. Hi!”.
I told her that I knew she back-talked (this was not the first time she back-talked, she did it all the time), then went to get changed in a different place.
TELL THEM TO TALK AND DISCUSS THERE ISSUES WITH THE PERSON THERE ARE GOSSIPING ABOUT! A ACT OF JEALOUSY !
I blame reality shows, celebrity shows, celebrity news disguised as "nightly news", gossipy, low self esteem adults....who model the sick behavior with their children....
......when the evening news becomes mainly celebrity gossip... then...
Im quite sure gossiping is a favorite pastime to many people for decades... even before you and I were born.
Don’t blame media, practically everyone knows gossip is wrong deep down they make the choice to do it
I have this tendency to gossip and I really need to stop.
This is super true.
LoL I have neighbors I haven't spoken to for years because I refuse to be a part of their She-Man Gossip Club. That being said I've been placed on their gossip favorite allstar list for years. The bad: These guys are in their early 60's now and still going strong while the wives mind their own business and act like adults.
I have have been lied on and Supervisor wanted me drug tested but GM wanted to talk to me first to get my side of the story they backed off lol, everyone lying had been written up and I have never been, just blessed I guess 🤗
You should use a disclaimer that this advice will only be effective on mentally stable humans. It had a terrible effect in my situation and I wish I would have just said nothing.
I agree, this video is giving too much credit to people who do this.
Brilliant thankyou..
Hi, excellent video ty so much
Truth always surfaces and a gossip is always exposed eventually. Jealousy and envy is the gossip's motivation for the most part so find inspirational people to befriend and pray for the gossips. Why waste time listening to words that hurt your spirit.
If I don't engage in a gossips and keep my life private, I'll be the most interesting gossip.
Gossiping is horrible I have lately been blames for starting a rumor even though I would never do that and I have been very sad about it but I still don't know what to do can someone help please
When I was a young man I would gossip ..... Until I got my jaw punched..... I quit gossip, and now I'm a better man because of it....
I have had working relationships destroyed because of gossip.
my ex still spreads lies about me 10 years later and everyone still believes him no matter what proof is shown. by then the damage is already done. I lost all my friends because of it.
If a person brings nothing positive to your life, then get rid of them
someone said that I confirmed that I was “lesbian” I said girls can’t be gay, but what I meant to say was girls can be gay, he said that I was lesbian and he said “SAVANNAHS LESBIAN” and it made me cry bc everyone says things to me.But when someone says something nasty in my class the they don’t care but to me, they tell everyone that I said that but I didn’t he got suspended, but for some reason I felt bad ab myself even though he did that…I’m always depressed and I try to have good days but every time I talk to a boy they make up something I never said it just gurts me completely and makes me crumble in to tiny bitty pieces I just hate my school I’m in middle school to IT SUCKS BC U GET MORE…depressed…
I am watching this because there is a girl in my remediation class who likes to talk about me
Like one time we were playing a quiz game and one girl was talking about an answer and chose it, I wasn't thinking about what she said and so happened to choose the same thing, the girl who likes to talk about me was sitting behind me and asked me, "did you pick that answer because she did too" obivously I I didn't. And I didn't answer, so later when we were packing up I heard her say my name and talk about the quiz, and then she gave me a weird look, I was upset while heading to the next class because she was walking at least 20 feet behind me and giggling, I thought she was laughing at me
This isn't the first time she has talked about me either
Great advice!
I tell my "friends" to stop gossiping about me and they assume there not so they wont get in trouble..someone please tell me a good phrase to fell them the truth? Please! I felt bullied..
They are not your friends period, stay away from those kind of people when they speak they are saying more about themselves then about you!
Great video thank you ❤️🕊
Hurtful is only sin to the sinful. Healing is only to the innocent few.
Reality is not about feeling nor sensing. Reality is about realizing. Inna lillahi wa inna ilaihi raji'un..
I don't know why people have soo much interest in others life??!!! There are rumors about me that I like a boy in 8 and I'm in 6. The whole 6,7,8 class believe in it and I don't know how to clear my name??!! The real story is that...among all the seniors I have respected him the most he's just well mannered and serious about his studies, I like this..!! One day I was just playing with a pen and JST FOR FUNNNN I wrote his name on my palm and that was my bad luck that someone had seen it during assembly and since then the rumors have started. I don't want this to spread among all the teachers??!!! I don't want them to tease me and I want them to tell the truth but don't know how?????!!!! One friend of mine had just told me about this !! Day after 2morow is my school and I don't know how to react and manage this situation !! This may seems like a small thing but its not fun for me I'm really scared what if my parents and teachers get to know about this??
IDGAF works well enough for me.
I just say "dang, that's crazy" and change the subject
What’s the difference between gossiping and venting?
Hi it's the motive behind the discussion
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someone started a rumour about me having a crush on one of my friends-
Why are you telling me this?!!
Often, I just i walk away and say im going to the bathroom to escape their gossiping session😊
I like this.... The world needs to grow up I blame schools
Seen it! Still gossiping lol!
We r at Casey RV Park Lake City Florida .. People gossiping to my husband all the time.
There is one WORD that stops gossiping. The word is ‘Anyway’. Stops any conversation.
I say " i have no opinion about this" or i just dont respond at all & will change the subj myself
In 2nd grade my friends told me somebody made fun of a women with a Hijab saying that somebody said they had a blanket on them , so I told the teacher,later they gossiped and didn't notice that I was standing legit right In front of them , she said "Emily is so annoying " ,in my head I was like "boi you dumbo I am right in front of you.." but I started fake crying . She apologized and is a show off today . One day ima gossip in front of her face just for revenge , Maybe
My classmates always spread rumours about me
I’ve asked why you telling me about this they’ll say I don’t have no one too tell my problems to.