12 THINGS I'M DOING DIFFERENTLY IN MY 2ND PREGNANCY! | OLIVIA ZAPO
Вставка
- Опубліковано 7 сер 2024
- Item links & details below! ⇩⇩ Don't forget to subscribe: bit.ly/1LumMnJ
I'm so excited to be putting together this video! After going through pregnancy and having a baby once, there are SO many things that I learned that I would like to do differently this time. In today's video, I'm talking about 12 things I'll be doing differently with this 2nd pregnancy and delivery! I'm sure I'll think of others, but this is where my mind is at right now. :) I hope you enjoy! Thanks for watching!
#pregnancy #motherhood #2ndbaby
⇨ Shop my Amazon store front: www.amazon.com/shop/oliviazapo
NEW VIDEOS EVERY WEEK!
- A BIT OF MY JOURNEY SO FAR -
⇨ Labor & Delivery video: • LABOR & DELIVERY VLOG!...
⇨ Meet Christian, my baby boy: • MEET MY BABY BOY | NEW...
⇨ Losing the Baby Weight: • HOW TO LOSE THE BABY W...
⇨ Opening up about Postpartum Depression: • OPENING UP: POSTPARTUM...
⇨ Get to Know my Husband & I: • NOT SO NEWLYWED GAME |...
- LET'S CONNECT -
Instagram ⇨ @oliviazapostyle
oliviazapostyle...
oliviazapo.com/
♥ Contact Email ⇨ oliviazapostyle@gmail.com ♥
Hi, I'm Liv! I'm an Ohio girl living in a California world with my baby boy, two fur babies and husband. I make videos on motherhood, fashion, beauty, fitness, and overall health and wellness. Some of my favorite videos to make (that you'll see a lot!) are baby essentials, haul videos, lookbooks, try on videos, and style/beauty favorites. I LOVE to shop, socialize, hang out at the beach, and spread love & happiness. I pride myself on being an optimistic person and believe life is too short to be anything other than your happiest self. Welcome! ♡
This video is not sponsored. - Навчання та стиль
Here comes some unsolicited advice: do what is right for you and your family.
👏👏👏
ive been getting so much of the unsolicited advice, the worse was when a friend of mine told me "you know i dont think you should take the epidural, whatever goes into your system goes to baby!" This was coming from someone who smoked cigarettes throughout her pregnancy..... another was when someone learned im open to the pain medications and she told me to "stop being so scared and woman up"..... the audacity of some people....
Ew. I can't believe the audacity of people. Its worst when it comes from people who have no children. It's like why don't you have a seat and have a tall glass found your business.
Ew. I cannot stand that. What's worse is people who do not have children or have been pregnant that have these opinions because their sister in law did xyz while they were pregnant 😒
kaylee P. It doesn’t end. It is something I think every parent has to deal with. It starts when you get pregnant then continues until your dead. I get it with my son. At some point I just started to realize these people were not perfect parents but always want to tell me how to raise my son. There are no perfect parents and we all try the best we can. It is my call how I raise my son. I just smile and nod when I get advice and I take it or leave it. It only bugs me when it comes across as a demand instead of advice. Unless you are my husband, that is unacceptable.
How I dealt with people telling me not to get a epidural was to say something like "this is what is best for me and my family, please feel free to make a different decision for your family"... But I probably wasn't that nice.
They got some nerve... Especially the one that smoked.. Hypocrite
It sucks that people ruin the most beautiful moment of your delivery! I loved that video so much and I’m glad you’re going to do what makes YOU happy!❤️
One thing that was a lifesaver was the Hakaa when my milk first came in. You just put it on the opposite side you’re feeding on and it catches all the letdown. I would get 2-3 ounces.
I so agree about the first few weeks being a bit easier... it felt like everyone disappeared when it actually got hard
First, your hair is gorgeous!! Second, thank you for being so raw!!! I love when you’re super straight forward❤️
Isabella Marrufo me too!
There is so much emphasis now more than ever on gender especially with gender reveal parties (I loved your low key gender reveal) that I think people really do forget what is important, a healthy baby. I think there's a lot of assumptions on who your baby will be or what type of relationship you will have with them based on gender, it really comes down to personality and not gender. Your natural beachy waves look awesome 💙
Sooo... here is some advice! Lol
#1 - You are freaking awesome ... keep it up.
#2 - I've followed you since you were preggers with Christian because I was also pregnant. It makes me sad that anyone commented anything negitive on your labor video... because it was beautiful... and you and all the hospital staff did a wonderful job.
#3 - Life on UA-cam I would imagine it's ALOT- you deserve privacy... never think that's not ok...
#4 - Please keep up the content! You help all of us out here!
💕
My son just turned 1 today and I’ve been watching since you were pregnant with Christian. Love all your videos.
I’m a first time mom. Nobody in my family even knows I’m pregnant yet, and the baby daddy is not present. So your channel and videos are very comforting and helpful ‘cause I feel like I’m gonna have no idea what to do or expect.... due in May!
I found your page when I was 7 weeks & I was watching your old pregnancy content. Now I see that we are both expecting in April!! So excited & happy for you ♥️
This video was perfection. Keep doing you and do what’s best for your family! You’re family is beautiful ❤️
Your natural hair looks cute! I embraced my curls years ago, lol.
I love your videos. I watched you D&L video like 4 times and every time I cried. I’m pregnant and you have not idea how much your videos help me.
I totally agree about the name thing! I never understood it myself why people keep quiet about it but the negative remarks I got when we told everyone our name has ALWAYS stuck with me. Good for you for keeping it special this time around. ❤️
I just watched your birth video and it was beautiful in every way. I started crying, I was so happy for you. Thank you for sharing an uncut version of what birth is like!
I am SO happy I came across your channel! I'm at 28 weeks now and I was so nervous on breastfeeding, what to put on my registery, the birthing process, and post partum depression. Your videos have REALLY helped me and I just love how real you are and I love watching your channel! Thank you!
I have a couple things that I've decided to do differently with my third pregnancy versus the first two. One of the main things (I understand that this is not a reality for everyone and I feel very privileged to be able to do this) is I won't be going back to work for at least the first year and a half. Especially now that I have a third child on the way which means that I'm going to have more children than hands. I feel like it's going to be a lot to ask of myself, as well as those that are responsible for taking care of our children when we're both at work . I love working but I feel like I give my kids the leftovers after I get off work and I have dealt with people all day and I'm tired and I want to relax but I can't because I am now at my second job, which is to be a mom. I feel like I would be a better mom, a better wife, a better homemaker , a better teacher to my children if I am a stay at home mom at this early phase in their life.
The second thing that I'm going to change is that I will not be pumping, and the main reason why I did before is because I was trying to get a stash together for when I returned to work, but I'm planning on being home for the duration of our breast-feeding, journey. I plan to exclusively breast-feed, and I'm really excited because I am one of those people who really struggles with pumping, and I mean absolutely hate it to be honest. It's probably my least favorite part of the early phases of my children's life because I feel like a appliance sometimes because you're breast-feeding and then you're pumping and then your're breast-feed again and it just makes you feel like some thing that's being used in the house especially with the cords and the electric outlet and the charging. I think for me it's just really triggering and contributes to ppd for some reason because it makes me feel less human. So I'm excited to focus on the bonding aspect of breast-feeding, and not so much on the survival and stock pile part of it.
I really relate to some of these items! With my first, I had pretty intense postpartum anxiety which I had to figure out on my own since the doctors never talked about it. It’s something I hope I can be more on top of next time!
Love this! I love hearing your raw insight
you do the best videos!! so truthful!! every single thing you said is YES YES YES!
Next time I’m not having any expectations. My first pregnancy I was so set on being able to go into labor naturally, having a natural birth, doing skin to skin right away and having her in the room with us after birth, breastfeeding. Literally none of those things happened. We got induced which ended in a csection and then she ended up in nicu and we couldn’t breastfeed. And it killed me. But she’s happy and healthy and it’s fine. I made my life way more miserable than it needed to be.
Nisha Wilson totally agree! You really can’t plan how birth is going to happen
Almost same story here! This time I have zero expectations... 🙄
SO TRUE! I felt this.
We had a horrible induction for preeclampsia, long labor, c section, hemorrhage, baby wouldn’t latch, etc. I tried not to have too many expectations but it’s SO HARD not to.
I loved this video! So happy for you and your family! I have a 10-month-old and I’m not pregnant now but have thought about what I might do differently with my second and I agree with these, especially the saving milk one and the baby names one.
Just watched your l&d video.. The first time I watched it was when I was pregnant. Now, I cry so hard watching it because yours was what I thought I was going to have. Instead it was completely opposite and needless to say I never got that skin to skin contact till he was two days old. They put him on you at a perfect time and I am glad you were able to experience your first time holding him as skin to skin contact
I love how real and genuine you are about all of your videos
Btw I’m 10w pregnant with my first and I found you through your labor & delivery video and fell in love with your family! Happy to be following you during this time in my life!🥰
Yay! You go, mama! Great ideas. Can't wait for more pregnancy and baby updates! (Placenta encapsulation, too - pleeease :))
I loved this video! Such great tips🙌🏻
Love the tips!! I’m due in 6 weeks with my first and we live out of state from family as well, spacing visitors is a great idea!
Your labor and delivery video made me cry. Also it really helped be feel ready for my delivery.
Thank you for your fabulous videos! I’m 15 weeks pregnant with my second which is also another boy, my first boy is 18 months old too. I really resonate with everything you say and are going through. I love your underlying message of not stressing about things - that’s my takeaway and biggest lesson after my first pregnancy!
I have a 2 month old girl and started watching your videos when i was pregnant. Feel you on many of the topics!
can’t wait to see your new baby boy 😍 i’m also having a boy, due in a couple of weeks!! the unsolicited advice is SO real! hard to swallow sometimes, but like you said, most people don’t have bad intentions with it.
I followed along with your journey with Christian. You were one of the first mamas I found to follow during my pregnancy with my son who just turned a year old. I just want to say you were such a help to me with all the newness and emotions of motherhood. You helped me see the more realistic side and I never felt added pressure while watching your videos like I did while watching some other youtubers. You so honest and real and share the beautiful reality of parenthood so I just want to say thank you for being that voice. Thank you for being vulnerable with all of us and opening up. You were honestly such a help to me with my first baby and I’m so thankful for your channel ❤️
I’m 35 weeks pregnant and it’s cool to see a lot of the things you’re doing/ planning on doing with your second pregnancy is what I plan on doing with my first! I’m just trying to not overthink/ obsess over everything and just figure things out for myself and my baby ❤️
Loved hearing your thoughts on family visits right after baby is born. Hubby and I are expecting our first in March, and we live far from both of our families as well. I’ve been so nervous about how to handle the flood of out of town visitors that will be staying with us once baby arrives. This was a great reminder to enjoy the love and support from our families while we can. Love your videos and your sweet family! Thanks for all you do!
I love you ...you look amazing specially your hair honestly i love it .. I’m pregnant with my second like you after 2 miscarriages .. and your video keep me happy 😊 i just watched your pregnancy essentials for maternity wear 😘
You do you girl , can’t wait to see another little angel added to your family ❤️ we are due like 4 days apart !! Happy 16 weeks ❤️🥰
I wish you a beautiful pregnancy and a wonderful delivery that I’m sure you will have for you and your family.
Great points and I can definitely relate to most of them 😊
I couldn't agree more about 6 weeks being so much harder! 6-12 weeks was so much harder than the first 6!
Thanks olivia for sharing honest advice! Truly appreciate your raw and true opinion! Congratulations to you and best wishes on baby #2 :) also u are beautiful!
I love that you mentioned soaking up the family visits. That is so challenging for me to share my space and my newborn but it really made me think of it differently. We are in Cali also and all of our family is in Maine so I know how you feel about your little ones only being that little around family for a quick time! I’m due with my second boy a month before you 💕
I'm due with a baby boy in April too!! It will be so cool to follow your journey!
Binge watching all your videos! Thank you for making so many specific ones like this!
A year later I’m watching this again, now that I’m trying for baby #2!
Hi Olivia! I just found your channel a few months ago after having my baby and don’t think I’ve ever commented before. Just wanted to say I love your videos - they’ve been so helpful so thank you for making them! Congratulations on this next pregnancy and looking forward to following along! Xxx
I also totally agree about the first few weeks being way easier and the 6-7 week mark being when it gets trickier! Our bub was a pretty good sleeper those first 2 weeks but lately it’s gotten a lot harder! 💕💕💕
Yes!! It doesn’t get hard until week 6-ish! 100% agree omg. When people talk about their newborn being the easiest & they’re only like a week or two in, I’m thinking “oh just wait” 😅😅😅
This is such a great video!
I really like the natural hair. I totally agree with keeping some things to yourself whether it be the name or the actual birth of your baby You've got to keep some things private because unfortunately people give their advice no matter what.
Girl, it took an hour before I got to hold my baby after I delivered even though I had included in my birth plan that I wanted him placed on me immediately. I had no concept of time and I’m still beating myself up over that, even though it was completely out of my control. I’m thankful you showed a true depiction of what labor is like, and I can’t imagine opening myself up to criticism for something so intimate and personal. I watched your videos all through my pregnancy and I took a lot of your recommendations! Thanks for being real!
Why did it take an hour for you to hold your baby? (I am still not done watching the video)
We love you Olivia! I'm also a 17th week pregnant mommah with a 14 month old baby boy & expecting another baby boy! Your videos make my days. Thank you for keeping it real✌🏽. It's so comforting for me to hear you. I follow you since your first pregnancy & watching your journeys has helped me in so many ways. You have no idea of the good that you do to others with your videos I just wanted you to become aware. I'm so excited to share this second pregnancy with you, virtually with my favorite youtuber. Keep up that awesome attitude and personality that distinguishes you. Much love from the ISLAND of Puerto Rico🏝❤ Hope your sister in law is doing well. Let us know in your next video how her pregnancy is going please!!! Lotta Love & Blessings to Both!
I'm so thankful I found your channel! I'm a first time mama, 11 weeks. I truly appreciate all your candid advice. It's very helpful!! Thank you
I love that you talked about PPD. I’m planning on my second and that is one worry I have because I experienced it with my first. This is definitely my number 1
I found your channel last year while searching for “positive birth vlogs.” Your L&D vlog was so sweet and made me feel more prepared-I especially took note of how calm you were when they put the oxygen mask on you (random!) but I had to wear one too during my L&D and probably would have been terrified had I not seen your vlog. 💕
That's so sweet! I'm SO happy that it was helpful! Thank you for sharing!! ❤️
Thank you for this!!!! Can’t believe ppls has the audacity to criticize your birth vlog 🤯 I watched it when I was pregnant with my first and it helped so much!!!! Thank you for being so real and raw and honest!!!! Now I’m pregnant with baby #2 - excited to get caught up with your videos again!!
Love all your videos! 💛
I totally understand wanting to keep certain things private, but I personally really loved your labor & delivery video!! It has definitely helped me feel better prepared for labor myself! I can’t believe people actually commented anything negative/judgmental on such a special moment.
Placenta encapsulation video!!! Yes please:) Looking forward to that
Great video Olivia!!
You are doing great. I'm due in December with my third baby and I find your videos helpful.
I am super new to your channel and I LOVE IT. Your labor and delivery video, and the reality of it was amazing and my husband and i watched it twice. It was so super helpful, that i cannot believe you got negative comments. I just wanted to say thank you for sharing. (Also cannot believe how people can spin something so informative for others and use it to critize you). We really appreciated that video a lot.
I had the exact same experience with PPD and anxiety. It hit me after all the back to back visits with family. ❤️
Great advice! Thank you
Loved the video! I’m pregnant with my second, and I’m planning on only having our parents come visit while we are still in the hospital. I was so overwhelmed with guests during the day, then the baby was awake all night.
Also I totally agree, the 6 week point was so hard for us. That’s when we took her to my family (9 hours away) for the first time, and it was rough.
One other thing- she was 2 weeks old at thanksgiving, and we spent a whole day at my in laws, which I regret big time. We should have gone for a couple of hours instead.
Having my first in July this information was really helpful, can totally relate
would LOVE to hear about your experience with the placenta encapsulation! i had ppd as well and i didnt even realize until it was gone. i’m seriously considering doing the placenta capsules after my current pregnancy
#10 & 11 🙌🏻 after I had my daughter I searched for videos about postpartum depression and that was actually how I found you! That’s something I’m totally doing with my current pregnancy as well. I think it will be less debilitating lol
The best advice I got in my first pregnancy was 'You do You'. I am lucky to have good friends. ❤️ I'm 26 weeks pregnant with my 2nd and there are definitely a few things I am going to be doing differently like not neglect myself and my mental health. PPD was hard the first time around. Love your videos! Thank you.
I love your natural hair! I use a hair serum and curling cream to tame my waves. Sometimes a little bit of gel if they get too frizzy.
Also I feel like I will do a lot of these as well my second time around. Especially about the name. I feel like people won’t give their opinions once the baby has officially been named.
Youre so absolutely right though especially qbout the unsolicited advice. Its really taken its toll on me too and this is my first pregnancy.
Olivia, you helped me SO much during my first pregnancy and everything involved. I also just checked in to see how you make your baby food. I have a very spunky or "bubbly" personality as people tend to call it. It's hard to push the comments people write out of my head. When you referenced your share of dramatic and ridiculous comments on your L&D video it makes me feel so sad for them. Some people have nothing nice to say, I could never have thick enough skin to do what you do, let alone do it so well! I wish YT could be full of positivity and lifting one another up, but it seems it'll only go further the other way of the spectrum. We didn't tell anyone what her name was until she came out. Only 2 family members knew and it was SUPER hard to keep it off FB, next time around it'll be just hubby and I knowing. Tons of people tried to talk us out of her name, but we made it up at 10 weeks and that was always her name! Our little girl is 6 months old and your channel has been a true Godsend. We will be raising her in loving light, positivity, and warmth towards all creatures on Earth. I hope a lot of new moms will do the same to do what we can in spreading love instead of hate❤
I found your channel through your birth vlog! I really liked that you showed how emotional it is and what could happen as a first time mom. That video made me subscribe and follow you on instagram. That being said, following you for a year now, I can see how there are things you want to keep private and have a personal moment instead of sharing with strangers on the internet.
I’m expecting n April too!!!! And it’s a boy. I’m super excited!!!! Continue to be an awesome mom gf. You rock!!!
Me too on the milk saving!!! I'm also going to accept more help this time, especially since we'll have a toddler and a newborn.
What you said about not showing names, is exactly why we don't share our babies' names until they are born! it's enough work to get two people to agree on a name, without everyone else putting in their two cents.
I just love your honesty.
I agree with so much you said in this video! Especially getting asked from strangers “What are you naming him?” Then getting instantly judged! 🙄 I don’t know if I’ll share my second’s name either.
love your hair!!😍
My nephews name is Christian and my brothers name is Jordan lol I love watching these videos and keeping up with your pregnancy! I’m happy that you’re changing things that will make it easier and better for you. I’m excited to meet your son when he is born!
Oh, my baby is almost 4 months and I already know what I'm doing differently if we have another baby.
I leaked everywhere too 😭 I think I did more laundry of washing my sheets instead of washing baby clothes the first few months. I wish milk regulated way quicker before 12 weeks.
I'm so happy for you, here's to a healthy and happy baby #2. Can't wait to see your family grow 💙
love the natural hair!!
Not sure that helps but I saw your l&d video like 30 times before I had my baby and it helped me a lot to stop freaking out about it, for me it was perfect and you should not worry about those people, you rocked!
Thank you so so much!! I really appreciate that! ❤️so glad it was helpful!
This is going to be my second baby to! I’m deff doing things different also I feel like the first time around you don’t know what to expect or do but now you know you have more experience lol
Girl you are so strong cuz idk if I could take that criticism from people. Even though they just might even seem to be trying to help, just nooo. Soo you go girl 💯 your my role model!!! ❤️❤️❤️
We only shared it with my mom and my grandma! I love it this way. If she comes out and she doesn't look or feel like "her name" then changing it will be much harder.
My son just turned 2 and we’re expecting baby boy in February 😍💙 so excited to be a boy mom too
I have a 6 month old baby girl and am 16 weeks pregnant with another girl ☺️😍 You’re my go-to person for mommy advice & now I’m way too excited to know we’re pregnant at the same time! 😭
I’m due with my 1st in April as well, I love your videos and it’s kinda strange but nice knowing someone else who is due around my same time 😅 I promise I’m not crazy
I'm also due with my first in April and I am loving these videos! Super helpful, there is so much information out there.
I'm also due with my first in April! I'm 19 and currently 15 weeks pregnant
I'm due with my first in April too!
Hi Olivia, I am a first time mom and I’ve truly loved watching all of your videos, thank you for sharing some of your most intimate & private moments in your life, I’m sure it’s not easy to do whatsoever especially when you get ugly feedback. I just had my baby October 4th and something I’ve been taking for postpartum depression is Pink Stork Postpartum Reset it helps with mood & hormone support, I’m really loving it along with the Postpartum Recovery tea, it’s delicious, just letting you know in case you’d like to look into those, I hope they can help you like they’ve helped me ☺️ thank you again for being so open and honest in all your videos 😊
Yay congratulations!!! I’m 15 weeks and also due April 2020!! This is my second pregnancy but hoping for a live birth! 🌈 baby on the way. I wish you the best of luck and watching your videos for great advice!
I had my first baby 11 years ago and am due now with my second. Your videos have helped me so much with getting back into baby mom mode. The things I wanted to do differently this time were to make more memories of my pregnancy and his infancy, since I was younger and in a worse place financially and a poor relationship the first time I feel like I didn't save anything, photos or videos, and all my memories are unpleasant due to the hardships. I am also trying breastfeeding and cloth diapering this time around. And taking a full 12 weeks of maternity leave. Last time I had just started the semester in college and was in class 3 days after birth because a professor said if I fell behind I'd never catch up.
I just had my first and I like your thoughts for the second!
I love your natural hair! You are beautiful!!! Love this video!
I just wanted to comment, im 24 weeks and have been binge watching all your pregnancy related content. Your first birth video made me cry and was so beautiful as well as educational for me. It makes me really sad that you got some negative comments on it. I had been wondering why the comments were turned off, as I just thought it was such a great video! Thank you for sharing your life with us
I am very thankful for your advises and sharing your experiences! I am a newbie in maternity so learning a lot from you! And thinking your second may be on the way :) wishing you the best...
THANKS!
I agree with all the points you mentioned! I am not pregnant yet with baby #2 but my first pregnancy / delivery / postpartum experience was similar to yours and the postpartum depression was the biggest struggle I had to face... I kept it to myself for so long, this time around I want to have a babysitter to help me get some free time for myself sooner, I am one of these who want to do it all by myself but you get burnt! I want to plan for visitors later in the year like from 6 to 9 months in, when you are sick and tired of being alone all day LOL. One thing to consider is learn CBT tools beforehand so when you're about to hit the wall you can use some tools and avoid the crash... It worked with me the last couple months
Currently pregnant with my 2nd. This time around I will be purchasing reusable breast pads, the disposable ones were uncomfortable and messy! Also, I would like to have a postpartum kit ready so that I don’t feel so yucky the first few weeks after labour! This time I’m a lot more relaxed and not stressed about buying everything because I’ve realised you don’t need a lot ❤️
I’d due with baby no. 2 in March (my son turns 2 on Halloween), also with boy number 2. I vibe with a lot of these. I’m trying to be much more calm and go with the flow with this one. We are selling house/buying house right now too so although stressful it’s helping keep me busy! Congrats on your blessing!
While I love having twins, I'm going to try to have one baby next time LOL wish me luck😂
Caitlin Vaughn good luck!!😊😂
Caitlin Vaughn this made me LOL literally 😂 best of luck girl
I'm a first time mom and i was so nervous about milk supply because all i was hearing about breastfeeding was terror stories so i started stocking up early. I collected colostrum in the third trimester and started collecting milk as soon as it came in. I use the Haakaa on the oposite side when i feed and collect 3 to 4 oz per feeding. All my worries were for nothing, I make a ton of milk. I have extra colostrum in the deep freezer still and i have so much milk stored and my son is 7 weeks now. I only use my breast pump if my husband feeds him in the morning so I can catch a few extra hours of sleep but all of my milk was collected using the haakaa. I love that thing. Negative advice is not needed, good on you for taking it all with a grain of salt. Love your videos
Seriously your videos are so helpful, I'm 37 weeks. What is wrong with people judging your delivery like that?! Even if the doctor was "slow" (and that's probably not true) what would they have liked you or your husband to do about it? And what good does it do to point it out later? I get why you want to avoid that this time around but it's a shame, it was great to see everything for someone wanting to know what to expect.
Lis K Aw I’m due November 10th were so close together congratulations!!!!