My wife passed away recently after a 30 year marriage. We did these things that helped keep our marriage strong was first and foremost we respected each. When we had arguments we never resorted to calling each other derogatory names and we always sat down and apologized which leads to my next point. Always say “I love you” throughout the day whether you’re in the phone hanging up or just to say it out of the blue. I always kissed my wife goodbye regardless I was leaving for a week or going to the store. You never know when that last kiss will be. Finally we always took care of each other. I would put her needs before mine and I know she did the same for me.
That sounds like a wonderful, healthy relationship David Sharon, seems you were blessed to have her as a life partner for 30 years and your Union was based on tenderness!
So sorry for your loss. Sounds like you had a wonderful relationship. I know you need time to heal, but I believe a person of your character will find somebody else wonderful to spend the rest of your life with eventually. And I'm sure your wife would want that for you
Checked out of dating over 5 years ago, and now I'm almost 30, and I've never been happier. I love my job, I have hobbies that are fulfilling, and I have great friends to do them with. A relationship would be fine, but all I've had were headaches and heartbreaks. I'm opposed to hook up culture, so being alone has given me solace.
Women would rather ride the carousel in their 20's than look for a husband. When the carousel fun ends women go back to the guys they rejected to get their marriage bailout. This happened to me in my late 20's. A bunch of ex's contacted me after years of silence. It was like 5 of them within 2 months time, it was too much to be a coincidence. I had lunch with one and she started asking me how i felt about marriage. It all made sense. I will not be suckered into being a bail out of last resort.
Well writen. Share my story with a singelmom. I'm indirectly the reason why a singelmom has her second child. Back in my blue-pilled days I chat with a singelmom online in 3 mouth's. Completaly blue-pilled moron when its came to dating I was, first time I did meet her in real life, end up took her too a vorspiel were there was plenty of other mens. She did meet another men there, friendzoned me, I was okay with that and moved on. They did get married she get her 2 child. Today she not in relationship with any of them ' She has hit the wall, 2 kids from 2 different fathers ' Doing very well successfulwise, own her own apartment and car without debt very well paid job too "I do not give a rat about" She has tried to makes me settle: I reply: You friendzoned me in you're prime years but now after you hit the wall you're wants me to be captain saver simp! No thanks!
@@heavensea141 Never bail out a single mom. You will be the least important man in her life. The father of her kids come first (no pun intended), then her kids, then her family, and even the mail man is more important than the simp that bailed her out because he drops off the welfare checks.
I was married for 35 years to an extraordinary woman. She died from cancer a little over 2 months ago. Every. Single. Morning. for THIRTY FIVE YEARS. She was so excited to see me! She tremendously respected me and I respected her too. Neither one of us was perfect by any means, but we knew how to look past those things and love each other. Now I tried a couple of online dating things, just coffee, and WOW. I can't believe how true the things are that you are saying! My first thought, after living with my dream woman for 35 years, was "why would I want a relationship with you? All you do is talk about how terrible all your exes are and how much you hate men! I don't even want to finish this coffee." Oh my goodness. Maybe she likes canoes and walks on the beach like me, but there aren't enough canoes in the world to make that work. It all seems so incredibly shallow.
Sorry for your loss brother, praying for you. 35 beautiful years is a blessing the vast majority of men will never experience. Glad you made the most of it.
Yea that is great you had a great woman. Like myself you know the contrast of the good woman you had and how it is now. I too remember when women respected men and themselves. Things are much different now as you have experienced. The world is a big place. I have traveled much and women are different in many places in the world.
You come from a different generation and I envy how easy you had it compared to mine. Nevertheless, I'm not bitter anymore about it, rather I'm going to better myself for my nephew's sake and work hard for him to make sure he won't suffer like I did.
I am a woman and I don't understand how you are already going on dates after loosing the Love of your life who you have been married to for 35 years just 2 months ago. So you claim that she was that important to you, but yet you are already dating 2 months after? I don't get it!
When most women say "men don't want relationships", they mean the men that they find attractive. Bring them a man that does want a relationship and watch them recoil in disgust. "No! Not that guy!" Is the response you will get 99.9% of the time.
@@garypierce7380 Not true. You should study the dating app stats. 80% of women choose only 20% of the men, aka Chad. Men are far more open minded in who they choose. Why would an average Joe marry a 30+ year old woman who spent her late teens and 20s being ran through by Chads? One of the saddest parts of this is that 20% of fine women who do not behave this way being lumped in with the vast majority who do.
I wanted to be in a relationship from the time I was in my late teens until my late 40s. Women did not want me, so I quit trying. I’m 60 now. Good to see that nothing changes.
That has much more to do with your outlook and perspective. It is very sad that you have bought such a lie. You need to change yourself and your perspective.
@@orderflowarchives Its not impossible. I know people who got married older than that. Perhaps they may not be able to have a family but a) there are ways to get children like adoption and b) they would still have each other.
@John S. 존 살라 Sorry to hear that but don't give up believe in yourself. You are worthy and important and sounds like a great guy if a woman pass you over it is their lost. Stay strong brother
As a guy I can honestly say that women I’ve recently tried to ask out are part of the problem why I can’t get a date. Those individuals like to play games but living in a low population area really limits options. Then you add in single moms, doing only fans, and unrealistic standards it’s like being Matt Damon stranded on Mars in the movie The Martian. It’s really funny how women complain about men when men are the ones who have to pursue and approach them. Women are doing the choosing but play it off like things just happen to them like they don’t have anything to do with it.
Stay away from single mothers. They're not looking for a lover, but a provider. You will not be happy and will always be a distant third as her priorities. Don't rely on bars, or social circle. Try day game pick up. Special events are also great places to meet new women.
............................. "Evil" is the antithesis to the virtue: 'humanity'. Humanity is the characteristic that defines the human spirit. Humanity is symbiosis across humans and society. 'Humanity' exceeds 'social-darwinism'. ............................. NEURO-PERSONALITY ............................. "SENSORY-FEELERS" ARE LARGELY RESPONSIBLE FOR SPREADING DISINFORMATION AND HATE TOWARDS ENTJ/INTJ (AGAINST "THINKERS" IN GENERAL)-BOTH IRL AND ON THE INTERNET; DESPITE THOSE NEURO-PERSONALITY TYPES BEING A BLESSING TO SOCIETY AND ALL OF MANKIND! THEY DESERVE BETTER! 😤 'ESFJ', 'ESFP', ISFP and ISFJ are a pathogen to humanity, and 'then' Cluster-B (depending on they neuro-personality). THEIR "FEELINGS 'IS' THEIR REALITY", THEY ALSO HAVE A MALICIOUS-MIND BY DEFAULT (excluding normal ISFJ). DESPITE HAVING MALICIOUS INTENT THEY ARE ALL EMOTIONALLY-WEAK AND PRONE TO COVERT/VULNERABLE-NARCISSISM. ............................... Also... To intelligent readers (who do 'not’ have a ‘pathological disregard for rationality and reality'). I recommend researching 'narcissistic personality disorder' (NPD) / 'cluster-B'; and know that they are the 'root of all evil' (especially 'ESFJ/ESTJ-narcissist'; Myers-Briggs reference, look it up)! European 'ESFJ' are the worst personality type, and they are responsible for inventing 'racism' and colonization! It is in their neuro-psychology!!! They are extremely 'manipulative' and often use 'looking pretty' to distract others from the witch's mind-games / mind-r@pe, e.g. gaslighting, playing the victim/damsel in distress, creating "flying-monkeys", and 'bribing' others (with money or BJ) to attack, or at times, kill someone for her. When caught, she will use her minions as scapegoats. European ESFJ are notorious for this especially in a racist context, e.g. Emmett Till. xSFP and ISFJ (2W1) are the most complicit, narcissistic-enablers. ISFP also tend to be 'oblivious-codependents' (look up the definition). Like ESFJ, XSFP's "feelings 'is' their reality." Most are covert/vulnerable-narcissists. ISFJ often perceive things only on the surface level (even by sensor standards), are suckers for a “pretty face", and their neuro-psychology makes them the ideal narcissitic-codependent and pawn to the ESFJ (blind-loyalty, surface level perception, susceptibility to covert-narcissism). Lastly, ISFJ are notorious for impersonating other people's identities IRL and on the internet. SUMMARY Evil personality: 'ESFJ' (ALL), ESTJ (Cluster-b), ISFJ-2W1 (covert-narc/enabler). [Secretly] Evil and narcissist-friendly gunts/flying-monkey: ISFP (ALL), ESFP (ALL), and ISFJ (2W1 enable ESFJ). ☝️ALL of them are secretly emotionally-disturbed, hence their need to create conflict as a distraction (at other people's expense, truly evil). Spread the word! Thank you. ___________ Research ref: Raudha Athif, Ghislaine Maxwell, Marilyn Monroe, Karen, ESFJ-narcissists, ESFJ-neurology, Gaslighting, Amber Heard, Fake feminism, Rising of a shield hero (Malty-'ESFJ'; XSFX spread disinformation online. ISFJ is the main culprit; ISFJ largely perceive things on the surface level), 'Brood-parasitism’- XSFJ natural psychology..
One minute men claim they don't like women who play games but when they meet someone who doesn't play games, they aren't interested because they "like the chase." Can you please make up your mind?
Im 40 and have decided 3 years ago to be single. And i have never been happier tbh. At first i was put off by the majority of men who treated me badly but im also aware that i played a part in that undoing. I tried to work on myself and blamed myself for years. When i was becoming a better person i was still meeting the wrong kind of men. So i was still doing something wrong i guess cause thats wat ur basically trying to say that its our fault too. Which i agree. In the end after years went by i stopped blaming myself, I stopped blaming men. I began to love myself and accept who i was and i started to enjoy my life on my own, it is an amazing experience! I would never trade the kind of happiness i feel now for anything. Regardless of what we are doing wrong or who was at fault, the important thing is finding happiness on our own journey. We dont need to have someone to be happy as long as you are happy thats all that matters. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being single, it doesnt matter how you got there. What matters is what youve learned along the way and how you feel about it in the end.
The unfortunate thing about women is that their leveraging power fades as they age. Specifically what men desire in women fades with time. Youth, beauty and purity for example. So if a woman chooses a bad partner from the start, she has screwed up. This is why historically the entire family would make an effort to help vet for good partners, because it is that important. The more bodies you have as a woman, the less likely you will be taken seriously for marriage.
@@RottenCheese We don't care how many partners they've had and they can easily lie about it anyways. A 35 to 45 year old woman still has much more leverage than a guy the same age. Also youth is a desirable quality for both men and women, it signifies health
@@tonygabashvili8357 for marriage… you better care about their past partner count, pair bonding for women is shot after 1-2 guys, then you’re dealing with the family courts, and that my friend as a man you should never be put in that scenario! Virgin women file for divorce only 14% of the time, women with a single previous partner file 48% of the time after 2-3 it’s over 60% numbers go up and up, if she’s college educated, there’s a 90% chance she will divorce you and steal all your shit! So yeah it fucking matters
@@jsav4269 I posted a link to a pew study that found that the more education a women has the lower their divorce rates but it was removed. Find me the source to your 90% divorce rate claim that isn't just "trust me bro" logic
I know half a dozen single guys in their 50's ( myself included) who had wives that left or never appreciated them. They are all decent, funny, hard working, good looking and no drama. Too many women focus on chemistry over character. Chemistry is the kindling but character is the large pieces of firewood that keep the fire going for the long haul.
And men focus on looks over character so what's your point. Maybe if you're friends married a women with good character they wouldn't be alone. It works BOTH ways. It's not the woman with poor character who married herself, it was the man who proposed and MARRIED HER
It is so surprising to me how many women actually believe that they are 10's, despite the fact that they are barely average looking. When you hold that mindset, the idea that men could reject you because they don't like you doesn't even cross their mind. Some of the most off putting women I know actually do believe that they have great personalities. This whole "you're perfect just the way you are" movement seems to have led to a complete lack of self awareness.
Haha, if it makes you feel better, it drives some of us women nuts, too. Im middle-aged and have been married for a very, very long time, and you wouldn't believe the shit my husband and have had to go through with some of these women. We are too old for this shit lol. I might get a guy try to start a conversation with me at the store or something, but i politely say im married, and they say "oh sorry have a nice day," and thats the end of it. My husband, on the other hand, gets the old "but im better than your wife" ploy from women who know he's happily married with 3 kids, and they can't even understand that my husband, for one, isn't attracted to them because he's not into obese women with bitchy personalities, and second, he already knows no woman is going to give him what i already do both in and out of the bedroom. These women are so full of themselves, they dont even realize they are actually offending my husband by acting like they are entitled to him because he's attractive and has a 401k. He's opened up to me about how sometimes, with the women who really try to push, it actually upsets him because he feels like they only see him as a piece of meat, and dont actually care that he's a person with a happy life, and they don't care if they destroy what he's built. The pure entitlement of these women is disgusting. I dont know how the single guys can even deal with it at this point. I feel for you gents out there.
@@carolallison9685 I live in a rural area so it's not quite as bad here, but the stuff that happens in big cities can border on real life satire. A couple of months ago I was approached by a less-than-appealing woman during a colleague's birthday party. She was rather resistant to my polite attempts of letting her down easy, insisting that she could do things I had never experienced before. So I just looked at her and said: "I've had headaches before". That did the trick.
I hope more women watch this too because you're spot on. From a man's perspective, I'm 55, I've seen society do a 180 on how men are portrayed. In this age of media and internet, men are constantly shown to be, dumb, irresponsible, sexist, clods who only are redeemed by a woman "fixing" them. Every movie, TV show, etc. portrays men this way. Couple that with the expectation that "good" men must be 6', athletic, really good looking, and able to pay for everything, and women perceive the dating world to be devoid of anyone worthwhile because those men aren't interested in them. I've told more than one woman complaining that there are no good men that they walked right past 100 good men today that would be happy to date them but they weren't "hot" enough to notice. Then throw in the fact that the men who ARE getting dates are the men least likely to want a relationship and are just in it for the sex, because they can, and suddenly all men are dogs and don't want relationships. I'm not sure this will ever get straightened out. We would have to get back to a place where both men and women are valued for the traits that each gender traditionally brings to the table and in this vapid, superficial, world-revolves-around-me society, I don't see it happening.
Well stated. While I never chose to marry, I've had a number of multi year relationships and every one of these girls (right up into my late 50s), was a good person. I never dealt with all these angry, annoying ladies that I run into here and there. I don't know why I've been so fortunate, but I think some of it is because in nearly every case, someone of value in both of our lives made the introduction. So I always suggest that folks ask trusted friends, family or other acquaintances if they know someone they can introduce you to. Better yet, just be your greatest self. Keep up a good attitude, and be open to introductions. Lots of folks want to hook you up and you probably haven't seemed open to it.
Very good explanation of what's happening these days. By now, "the science is IN", and now everyone knows how useless and harmful dating apps are, and we now know that feminism has been an immense failure and has ruined entire generations. Liberalism (such as on college and university campuses) is largely at fault for most of society's current disasters, and social media is too, since it is also almost fully implemented and controlled by "group think" liberals. Since technology is still changing and developing, and since it is all run by the very flawed minds of Silicon Valley liberals, I don't see anything improving in society any time soon. Although there are growing bodies of evidence that most people have had it "up to here" with all this upsidedown gender nonsense, race nonsense, equality nonsense, and all the other trending social inanities of our day. I will believe things can get better when I actually see it get better. Right now, things are still getting worse.
It's one of the reasons I like the movie Bad Teacher with Cameron Diaz (OK, "like" is a strong word... maybe "tolerate" lol). She starts the movie being a manipulative bitch, but reality kicks her down constantly for her actions, and while she isn't a Saint by the end of the movie, she does become a better woman. She even turns down Justin Timberlake's character (a people-pleasing pretty boy she was initially attracted to for being a hot guy, but has no self-worth), for the gym teacher who might not be rich but has tons of self-respect.
I'm with you on that, any women that expect men to do all the work in a relationship including pay for everything, whilst they bring nothing to the table and think that they're a prize and deserve diva treatment because of their gender, from a male perspective is the worst thing a woman can be
As a woman I agree with what she said. After I realized I need to be what I want to offer to a man, my whole outlook on relationships changed. It's ok to not be perfect just be the best person you can be and not s%@* on others. 🙏🏽💜💜💜
Good response. It's what I tend to express in so many words. Everyone wants the treasure chest without without realizing we are never going to having the never ending deepest pockets. The poison that was sold and bought to degrade our society was the thought process that Hollywood and the Fashion industry sold us all. You too, can have the best. Whatever that is. We are NOT the aristocrats that run the world. The chaos is ( their ) psychological doing. The essence of life is what Courtney shares. I can admit that even twice married and betrayed I still believe in a loyal relationship. Loyalty transcends all borders. Any way, I agree with your admission here.
that's great! Just being nice gets you so far with most men. Learn to cook 1 thing really well. Then when you and him fight, you can cook that as a peace offering, or when you want to be nice and show him you love him. The way to a man's heart is through his stomach. You keep him that way too, because he's too full to go out and do anything foolish
Men want what they don’t have in a relationship. My wife brings me peace. She IS my home. She is the soft nurturer that I would give my life to protect.
Good message, very important, but slightly ambiguous. If I may reinforce your message? Men want in a relationship the qualities they don't bring to it. They want peace, softness and tenderness, nurturing. When we have that in our lives, we will do everything we must to protect it.
@@elliotmyers9071 It sounds like you have no research on prenuptial agreements. If you make one single erroneous provision or unfair claim, the whole prenup gets thrown out in court. Most prenups end up getting challenged in bitter divorce cases, and about half get dismissed. Usually because the new lawyer finds a clever escape loophole. If you don't have every loophole covered exactly right, it gets thrown out instantly. In Australia they are called Binding Financial Agreements, and you choose to have one as a married couple or as an unmarried couple. If you choose the latter, it gets dismissed if you then get married. Also, it's valid for 2-4 years and then the judge can choose to dismiss it anyway.
There are a lot of great guys out there who are looking for girls to accept them for who they are. Most of us are under 6-feet tall, earn under 100K per year, but who love to be in a stable relationship free of drama and demands.
Women think they will always have options, so they spend their 20's chasing after career and the top guys. Your relationship options will dwindle quiet rapidly once you are 30. Lets face it we all loose our looks when we get older. If he met you in your 20's he would always find you beautiful. Now that you are 30, guys are thinking I am not that attracted to her, it's a bad deal for me. I will rather stay single. If having a family, getting married is what is most important to you, then make that a priority.
I find that many women today can't handle criticism. Could be because they never had to before, could be because of insecurity or both. But they tend to either turn it around and make you out to be the bad guy or they run away and say you make them uncomfortable. It's possible this is a societal issue on some level.
They've been living life on easy mode. Their dads told them they were a princess and catered to them. In early life their boyfriends just wanted sex so would cater to them. Due to the halo effect even at work they are treated with kid gloves. The entire society caters to them, they arent fat they're curvy and anyone who says otherwise is evil, not correct haha. They exist in a protected bubble. This is also why some women are so eager to physically assault men who talk shit to them, they've always been protected and never been exposed to real violence so they have no idea what they are playing with.
Most women were raised much differently than males growing up. They were coddled, told they were princesses, daddy would protect them from everything, etc. All while being simultaneously told that they have the same strengths and abilities as males, despite being raised in a totally different fashion. It's been a recipe for disaster.
have worked around and closely with many women over my business career. A consistent comment that many women made was that they did not like working with or for other women and most preferred working for a man. Many women I have known have also stated that women are crazy. These comments were made without me asking or soliciting the comment. With that being said, I offer a quote from one of my favorite movies. In the movie, “As good as it gets”, Jack Nicholson, who plays a writer in the movie, is just leaving the publisher. The young female receptionist asks Nicholson a question. Receptionist: “How do you write women so well?” Nicholson: “I think of a man and I take away reason and accountability.”
Honestly, I have been working hard on myself, improving a lot but I still have met so many women that get turned off or shut me out of their interest over the smallest things. They have such high expectations and are ready to drop someone if they don't fit exactly what they imagine in their head. Now, I have amazing female friends and they help me out with advice, so I know there are nice women out there, but they are mixed in with some very shallow women too.
@@genevieveharakidas7054 Definitely, a lot of men are real dumbasses, I have seen quite a lot treat my female friends like crap. Its a tough world out there
I've had a few strong relationships and have been married for 14 years, now. I've found that telling her what your boundaries are helps a lot. Be honest, respectful, and kind but tell her that if you feel disrespected or unwanted you're out of there, and mean it. If she can't apologize when she's obviously wrong, puts her needs above yours, constantly complains about stupid things and likes to create drama, you're better off without them. A man needs peace and partner, not an ATM-seeking harpy with issues.
Yup! Learned the hard way w my 1st college gf. After that I put my foot down and tell them like it is aa soon as the chananigans start! It works like a charm like you said, you better mean it though. Left one bc of that and my current wife is the mvp, just had to lay it down for her once!
The first time I traveled outside the United States to Mexico and Southeast Asia I must say it was like an alternative universe. It was amazing. By the time I came back home I had a new sense of worth. I had a new sense of hope and desire. It was life changing. I came back looking at these women back home that I used to try and date and I would just chuckle. It's a big world out there. If you are a man in America, you are in the gutter.
Absolutely. American women live in an alternate reality. When men see how traditional, feminine, attractive women actually used to be and still can be, it's like breathing fresh spring water for the first time. Men need to go abroad.
europeans too no worry , and its in africa and asia as well , except they see opportunities in you thats why they treat u better dont be fooled if u bring them home ill be shocked how quick they will cheat on u , had a guy in a restaurant he was a head chef brought back an asian chick to uk ,not even need to tell immidiately started to fk with one of the chefs :D and he found out , he was raging n stayed w the chicks and fired the chef , loser :D he should bann the girl n thank it to the chef instead
@@torhbakalit908 That’s an amateur mistake. You never bring them back. Stay there. If it doesn’t workout you can find another in 20 minutes, or come back home and they can’t follow you. I will guarantee you that your problem will be trying not to cheat on them. That will be your challenge.
It's my neighbor. She’s single. She’s shapely and beautiful and she lives right across the street... I watched her as she got home from work this evening. I was surprised when she walked across the street, up my driveway and knocked on my door. I opened the door, she looked at me and said, ”I just got home, and I have this strong urge to have a good time, get drunk, and have fun tonight. Are you doing anything?” I quickly replied, “Nope, I’m free!” “Great” she said. ”Can you watch my dog?” Moscow, Russia
I'm a 35 year old guy with everything going for him. Can't get a date for anything. 5'11 tall, 150lb, bachelors + masters degree, mature, no kids, intelligent, financially successful. Keep on doing you Courtney! Hopefully people will listen before the trend is too late
5'11 but 150 pounds means you are skin and bone. You don't have to go to the gym if you don't want, but I highly recommend you at least get into some intensive calisthenics to get basic muscle build and tone going. Not saying this to demean you, but the reality is that you are likely not attractive to women from a physical stand point.
@@jeremiahbryant123 I was in the same boat at 5'10 and 155, and luckily my brother, many years ago, said I looked like a I would blow away in a gentle breeze. Those words made me think and kind of look at myself. And frankly I was weak. It wasn't just that I looked lame, I was lame. Even lifting a 40 lb water bottle package was difficult, and I was sick of it.
I just tried getting back into dating a couple months after I filed for a divorce. After being married, and out of it for 8 years, it's like I landed in the Twilight Zone. After a few months, I threw in the towel. After seeing the way people carry on these days, I can't motivate myself to fool with it. It's kinda sad that something that's supposed to be natural, and rewarding, has been turned into a total warzone. They can duke it out without me.
Honestly, life is just easier and far less stressful when you're alone. I've been divorced for nearly 21 years, and I'll never go back to the plantation. I recently retired, and things got even better! I live off my pension and Social Security. No arguments, no disputes, no negotiations, no nagging, no compromises, no dirty looks, no yelling, no name-calling, no passive-aggressive behavior. Just peace. A man reaches a point in his life when he values peace and quiet more than a piece of anything else. Don't find out the hard way, as I did. 😊
I want a relationship, I just don’t want to be their number 1 or “god” to them. I just want to be their partner. That way I can actually be free to be myself.
More like, they don't want women who ARE such spicy disasters... Goodness gracious. Everyone's is a little messed up, but we don't have to hurt each other... Do we?
Courtney really understands the man's perspective on modern dating, relationships, and marriage. That's why I watch her channel. Keep up the good work and producing great content! Thanks!
Men do want relationships. The ones that don't want relationships are abusive assholes. But most incels want a relationship with a woman. We just can't get one.
............................. "Evil" is the antithesis to the virtue: 'humanity'. Humanity is the characteristic that defines the human spirit. Humanity is symbiosis across humans and society. 'Humanity' exceeds 'social-darwinism'. ............................. NEURO-PERSONALITY ............................. "SENSORY-FEELERS" ARE LARGELY RESPONSIBLE FOR SPREADING DISINFORMATION AND HATE TOWARDS ENTJ/INTJ (AGAINST "THINKERS" IN GENERAL)-BOTH IRL AND ON THE INTERNET; DESPITE THOSE NEURO-PERSONALITY TYPES BEING A BLESSING TO SOCIETY AND ALL OF MANKIND! THEY DESERVE BETTER! 😤 'ESFJ', 'ESFP', ISFP and ISFJ are a pathogen to humanity, and 'then' Cluster-B (depending on they neuro-personality). THEIR "FEELINGS 'IS' THEIR REALITY", THEY ALSO HAVE A MALICIOUS-MIND BY DEFAULT (excluding normal ISFJ). DESPITE HAVING MALICIOUS INTENT THEY ARE ALL EMOTIONALLY-WEAK AND PRONE TO COVERT/VULNERABLE-NARCISSISM. ............................... Also... To intelligent readers (who do 'not’ have a ‘pathological disregard for rationality and reality'). I recommend researching 'narcissistic personality disorder' (NPD) / 'cluster-B'; and know that they are the 'root of all evil' (especially 'ESFJ/ESTJ-narcissist'; Myers-Briggs reference, look it up)! European 'ESFJ' are the worst personality type, and they are responsible for inventing 'racism' and colonization! It is in their neuro-psychology!!! They are extremely 'manipulative' and often use 'looking pretty' to distract others from the witch's mind-games / mind-r@pe, e.g. gaslighting, playing the victim/damsel in distress, creating "flying-monkeys", and 'bribing' others (with money or BJ) to attack, or at times, kill someone for her. When caught, she will use her minions as scapegoats. European ESFJ are notorious for this especially in a racist context, e.g. Emmett Till. xSFP and ISFJ (2W1) are the most complicit, narcissistic-enablers. ISFP also tend to be 'oblivious-codependents' (look up the definition). Like ESFJ, XSFP's "feelings 'is' their reality." Most are covert/vulnerable-narcissists. ISFJ often perceive things only on the surface level (even by sensor standards), are suckers for a “pretty face", and their neuro-psychology makes them the ideal narcissitic-codependent and pawn to the ESFJ (blind-loyalty, surface level perception, susceptibility to covert-narcissism). Lastly, ISFJ are notorious for impersonating other people's identities IRL and on the internet. SUMMARY Evil personality: 'ESFJ' (ALL), ESTJ (Cluster-b), ISFJ-2W1 (covert-narc/enabler). [Secretly] Evil and narcissist-friendly gunts/flying-monkey: ISFP (ALL), ESFP (ALL), and ISFJ (2W1 enable ESFJ). ☝️ALL of them are secretly emotionally-disturbed, hence their need to create conflict as a distraction (at other people's expense, truly evil). Spread the word! Thank you. ___________ Research ref: Raudha Athif, Ghislaine Maxwell, Marilyn Monroe, Karen, ESFJ-narcissists, ESFJ-neurology, Gaslighting, Amber Heard, Fake feminism, Rising of a shield hero (Malty-'ESFJ'; XSFX spread disinformation online. ISFJ is the main culprit; ISFJ largely perceive things on the surface level), 'Brood-parasitism’- XSFJ natural psychology..
After a few years of marriage the mask comes off and then you see the real person. Many men stay for the children in misery. Society doesn't recognize how men sacrifice for their children by staying with narcissistic women.
I have been without a relationship for 7yrs. Recently I have discovered that the issue hasn't been me, but its been with women. My experience has been women flaking out on chats in online dating, and choosing to limit themselves by trying to only date the top tier. I had a date, where the woman walked out of the restaurant 5min after we were seated, because I didn't live in the city, but the suburbs. Women refuse to believe that there are decent men who are not top tier, who might be more worth their time than the top tier. It's the feminism belief that women should only have and deserve the best, and the only men who are the best, are the ones in the top tier. Meanwhile, guys like me, who are not top tier, but are successful, responsible, and have good lives, are reduced to a level of "2nd class undesirables" to most, if not all women.
I'm 52 and have been single for about 23 years. I started looking for a relationship 3 years ago but so far all I have found are women that want money, looks, unrealistic sexual expecttions, or material things. I'm 6ft 1in, eat healthy, workout, take care of myself but none of that seem to matter, so as of right now, I'm better off by myself instead of having the drama or materialistic women in my life. I treat women as equals and not trying to trash anyone, I'm simply speaking from the last 3 years of experience. Maybe one day I will find that right person, but until then I will continue to live my life. I can't believe how much people have changed in 23 years and all of the drama that goes on. I just want a drama free life with someone else that just want to be happy and enjoy life. Men want relationships, women just need to get their priorities straight. Men aren't perfect either and have their own issues to deal with. Maybe someday we will be able to all live together in happiness and harmony and get rid of the drama and superficial ideas and wants. MEN DO WANT RELATIONSHIPS! I just don't want someone that has tried out every other guy before they get to me. I have standards, but until women start to have the same types of standards it really don't mean much to me. I don't just sleep with women and move on, I'm looking for something meaningful that will last. I'm too old for stupid childish games and rediculous expectations.
@Josh Hernandez LOL, to true. I agree with what you're saying. Most, not all, American women are just disrespectful, no matter how well you treat them.
@Josh Hernandez LOL, too true. I agree with what you're saying. Most American women, not all, are just downright disrespectful no matter how well treat them or what you do for them. It's sad really, but it's the reality of thus new "feminist" thing they have going on these days.
I can say that as a man I recognize my own horrible taste in a partner and that also has everything to do with me and I've actively stepped away from any attempt at a relationship with anyone in that capacity till I can sort out my own issues
I know this video is a little older but Courtney you are a legend. You are a blessing to men who need to hear the truth about dating/women. Like you said yourself, videos like this can help women just as much too, but I really like your balanced and well judged approach to modern dating/relationships and it always helps clear my head of the bs that floods social media normally. Every blessing to you!
I've recently accepted my demons of 8 years ago that actually put me in a bad place. I can only speak for myself (I'm 31 and not experienced intimacy), but I'm not afraid to be single until the right woman comes along. I don't crave any relationship, I still have parts of me I need to build, and if it's gonna take a bit longer to get where I'm going, well, then it has to be
@Eddie Willers it's weird. I feel the fear in every aspect and still go in every aspect of my life, but where women are concerned I still freeze hahaha
@@declangill5138 focus on yourself brother. That’s always when the right one comes along. I thought it was bullshit. But you truly do find a partner when you’re not looking for one
@Xavier Jones there's one girl I like in my acting class. I get a vibe she likes me too, but equally, I get a vibe that I make her uncomfortable. It's frustrating lol
I'm from the UK, England to be more precise. More and more men here (young and old) are opting out of serious relationships....and it's for a few reasons. The main one is that they can't be bothered with it, sounds crazy, but's it's true. Many men here are looking for ways out of what is considered traditional types of relationships, many like me work online and can be location independent and are spending more time abroad (mainly South East Asia and South America). The cost of living is cheaper and meeting women is a lot easier....I'm starting to feel a bit sorry for women in the west.
England is a nightmare. I spent 3 years there. Most women are average or below, but they think a bit of make up makes them supermodels. Also they are like ladettes, very unfeminine
So you and the people in your circle just want to be whores. Got it. Just feel free to not further contribute to the garbage by bitching about how you can't find a woman to be with after you've finished giving out street meat.
@@hotpockets69 Well I wouldn't call myself a man whore, I just see it as having many more options. It's not that I cant find a woman here, I can, and have....my options increase 10 fold on another continent. I'm not just talking about options with women, my currency can go along way abroad.
You're so right, you know something? You're better off single, keep all your assets and wealth to yourself, if you do meet a woman you want to marry, make her sign a Pre-Nup.
Very true and having modern technology, as well as these dating apps that provide them endless attention. As a result, women end up having false hopes and expectations. A lot of women think they can always do better to the point they get little to no attention and that isn’t good for their own mental health and wellbeing. Surely if you both like each other and there is a strong connection, then that should be enough.
Yes, a woman that isn't pure, is slightly above average in looks, and wants to be a house wife wants a millionaire. Well guess what? I eat cheetos, live with my mom, and have no job and I want a Victoria secret model. There we go, now we can both live in delusion.
It’s true. We really all do need to do honest self reflection. A lot of issues would be solved if we were able to take accountability for ourselves. Too bad they didn’t teach us that in school
I don’t know but as a guy who spent most of his life alone, i’m getting used to it. I’m not willing to devote part of my time to someone else anymore. Maybe i found peace when being alone that i couldn’t find anywhere else. Guys are afraid of commitment because that would limit their freedom. Could be a valid reason.
True, it's not all sadness and loneliness. There is so much freedom to do what you want when you want, to spend your own money on what you want, when you want. To do as much or as little in any given day as you want. It can be liberating especially after a toxic relationship.
Especially seeing how damaging the marriage of my parents was for the whole family, I've also accepted and rather stay alone for the rest of my life. I would never try to have kids in a toxic relationship and traumatize them forever by not being able to create a good relationship and stable household. I'm only ashamed for not being able to continue the bloodline and last name of my father and grandfather, but maybe it's the right thing to do as that's how natural selection works - only the worthy can survive.
Courtney, I've watched a ton of your videos as someone that's been a "1 hit wonder" on the dating side and this one really resonated with me as someone that's done a ton of codependency work. It's so easy for people to blame others than to reflect on themselves and social media makes it so easy to share opinions. Opinions aren't facts. Just because someone shares an opinion that you agree with, doesn't make it a fact. The only way to truly know what someone wants is to ask them and trust their response. Painting everyone with the same brush is wrong and the world would be a better place if more people realized that. Thank you for being a champion of this! You also mentioned the "mirror test" which is awesome. "Would I live up to the standards of what I want to see in a partner and date myself?". If the answer is no, then the next question is, "why would anyone else?" Keep up the great content!
I think women in their 20's are immature in a relationship. When they reach their 30's and 40's, they mature more in a relationship and it might to be too late because he might see you that you have too much baggage.
Yep, they ride the carousel in their 20s, when they hit the wall, they have no choice but to settle and use a man for his money. So the decent guys they rejected in their youth are left with a used up woman with baggage. It's like getting sloppy seconds.
Men don’t value “maturity” in women (which typically translates to sexual experience). They value virtue, youth, friendliness, and submissiveness. Because men and women are different, they value different things which in turn defines the differences with sexual market value.
For men seeking relationships at least the majority , we want to have a family. Women in their 30s and 40s that window is very small or non existent. Plus you want to be with someone for at least a few years to make sure your compatible. It’s a tough pill to swallow for women but so is being a man who’s short, fat , broke, ugly, bald.
It’s not just compete, but we’re also expected to not only accept but embrace her past. Many women insist it makes them more attractive and valuable, oblivious to the fact we find that behavior absolutely disgusting in the context of a serious relationship.
I have divorced twice. I had two other serious relationships in my life. I ended both marriages and both relationships due to their infidelities. All of these women brought me stress and not peace. Complained rather then reassured. They spent more then they brought into the relationship. Brought criticism rather then support. Now I am 50 and relationships are not worth it.
all I ever got from women most of my life is disrespect, insults, and stress, I was never right for anyone I guess, at SWM at 68, it's game over quit dating at 46, most women put guys in the friend zone and stop there
I am an older guy, many of the same discussions happened 10 or 20 (or more) years ago. The difference is that it wasn't all over UA-cam or TikTok so people didn't get as wound up. Courtney Ryan has some very good advice, the kind of things parents should be discussing with children. I think in our modern culture people don't have time to pass on this kind of knowledge. IMO two keys: 1) Every person is an individual, don't over generalize and 2) Use your dating for learning and refine your wants and needs in a partner. Chances are by the time you reach 30 your list of "must haves" for a partner will be entirely different than at age 22.
@@CourtneyRyan ............................. "Evil" is the antithesis to the virtue: 'humanity'. Humanity is the characteristic that defines the human spirit. Humanity is symbiosis across humans and society. 'Humanity' exceeds 'social-darwinism'. ............................. NEURO-PERSONALITY ............................. "SENSORY-FEELERS" ARE LARGELY RESPONSIBLE FOR SPREADING DISINFORMATION AND HATE TOWARDS ENTJ/INTJ (AGAINST "THINKERS" IN GENERAL)-BOTH IRL AND ON THE INTERNET; DESPITE THOSE NEURO-PERSONALITY TYPES BEING A BLESSING TO SOCIETY AND ALL OF MANKIND! THEY DESERVE BETTER! 😤 'ESFJ', 'ESFP', ISFP and ISFJ are a pathogen to humanity, and 'then' Cluster-B (depending on they neuro-personality). THEIR "FEELINGS 'IS' THEIR REALITY", THEY ALSO HAVE A MALICIOUS-MIND BY DEFAULT (excluding normal ISFJ). DESPITE HAVING MALICIOUS INTENT THEY ARE ALL EMOTIONALLY-WEAK AND PRONE TO COVERT/VULNERABLE-NARCISSISM. ............................... Also... To intelligent readers (who do 'not’ have a ‘pathological disregard for rationality and reality'). I recommend researching 'narcissistic personality disorder' (NPD) / 'cluster-B'; and know that they are the 'root of all evil' (especially 'ESFJ/ESTJ-narcissist'; Myers-Briggs reference, look it up)! European 'ESFJ' are the worst personality type, and they are responsible for inventing 'racism' and colonization! It is in their neuro-psychology!!! They are extremely 'manipulative' and often use 'looking pretty' to distract others from the witch's mind-games / mind-r@pe, e.g. gaslighting, playing the victim/damsel in distress, creating "flying-monkeys", and 'bribing' others (with money or BJ) to attack, or at times, kill someone for her. When caught, she will use her minions as scapegoats. European ESFJ are notorious for this especially in a racist context, e.g. Emmett Till. xSFP and ISFJ (2W1) are the most complicit, narcissistic-enablers. ISFP also tend to be 'oblivious-codependents' (look up the definition). Like ESFJ, XSFP's "feelings 'is' their reality." Most are covert/vulnerable-narcissists. ISFJ often perceive things only on the surface level (even by sensor standards), are suckers for a “pretty face", and their neuro-psychology makes them the ideal narcissitic-codependent and pawn to the ESFJ (blind-loyalty, surface level perception, susceptibility to covert-narcissism). Lastly, ISFJ are notorious for impersonating other people's identities IRL and on the internet. SUMMARY Evil personality: 'ESFJ' (ALL), ESTJ (Cluster-b), ISFJ-2W1 (covert-narc/enabler). [Secretly] Evil and narcissist-friendly gunts/flying-monkey: ISFP (ALL), ESFP (ALL), and ISFJ (2W1 enable ESFJ). ☝️ALL of them are secretly emotionally-disturbed, hence their need to create conflict as a distraction (at other people's expense, truly evil). Spread the word! Thank you. ___________ Research ref: Raudha Athif, Ghislaine Maxwell, Marilyn Monroe, Karen, ESFJ-narcissists, ESFJ-neurology, Gaslighting, Amber Heard, Fake feminism, Rising of a shield hero (Malty-'ESFJ'; XSFX spread disinformation online. ISFJ is the main culprit; ISFJ largely perceive things on the surface level), 'Brood-parasitism’- XSFJ natural psychology..
Wow, refreshing video! Underscores the need for each party to understand what their values are and how they would like to be treated (Golden Rule), before they enter into the dating scene. And the bit about projection is, I believe, very accurate. We often apply motives to other people's actions, and these motives are constructed based upon our own personal history. I've been married to the same woman for 26 years and I find that I am becoming an increasingly rare phenomenon. Those 26 years have taught me a lot of things, but chief among them is that the fairytale romance is just that: a fairytale. Sure you'll have romantic memories (my wife and I honeymooned in Paris -- very romantic), but for a relationship to work takes work. If you continue to deceive yourself thinking "Oh it shouldn't be this hard... etc etc" you will jump from partner to partner (maybe a serial monogamist?). It sucks, but life is hard. But it's a little less hard when you're working on it together with your beloved.
Relationships are for giving. If you're standing there trying to see what you get out of it you've already lost. If you take more than what you give then you've already lost. And if you give nothing and still expect everything you've already lost.
@@Concatenate That is a tragic and real scenario that *should* be preventable, except that too often one or both parties can't (or won't, often due to trust issues) communicate their own needs honestly and respectfully, or respect that the other person's needs really are different than their own. It takes more than generosity, it also takes (reciprocal) honesty and respect.
6'5 , blue eyes, close to 100k and still hard to find a female who wants a serious relationship.. it's all just luck and who you come across unfortunately. People think over 6ft. Or $$ and you can find a good relationship not true. It's the generation and social media and everyone things their is better out there. Get lucky and find someone genuine is the key 🔑
Close to 100K ain't gonna cut it, bro. Haven't you heard some of these interviews? They want 500K dudes, lol. You're only an inch away and 400+K away from being perfect. Oh wait, blue eyes, you need to have one blue and the other hazel. Then you'll be perfect. Don't worry, man, you'll get there.
i think its just generalisations, on average you will have higher chances attracting a high-value women than someone who does not have your attributes. Doesn't mean you particularly could also have bad luck. But i guess it is getting harder for everybody for sure
@@Concatenate Haha. Do they not realize, that only 2% of men across the world earn 500k a year. Not only that, but men on average don't even hit six figures until they hit their 50's lol. And these women are 6's, and they're competing with younger women who are 9's who are also after these same 500k a year men. I earn a little over 50k a year, which is considered average, and I'm usually shun. Good thing, I have some height, and a ripped physique with a 6-pack. That's the only reason I remain in the game lol. If you don't have looks and or money, then you're pretty much screwed.
I think you have the same problem that a lot of women do: they go for guys that don't want serious relationships because all of them have options. It happens when they are good looking. One of my personal creeds is that a woman with 4 looks and 10 personality is >> than a woman with 10 looks and 4 personality.
It's a quarter past 1am in Malaysia & i almost fell asleep listening to Ms Courtney feminine voice 🤣. Anyway just my personal opinion, most men & women deep inside their hearts all want a stable, happy & long lasting relationship & marriage. It's just that due to society stigma, hook-up culture, making horrible decisions etc, it's all messed up now
I generally think some of these things are overblown, but this video has good advice and commentary. Not all women think or believe like the woman in the Tik Tok video; but, there are some that do, and men do the same too, have similar excuses. They can A) Blame all others, the universe is wrong, all men are wrong, and I am right. Or B) I am making mistakes, going about this wrong, have wrong ideas. Guys that that think "All women want a tall, hot man with money, and then divorce him," is a background belief and mindset that is a turn off. This is a self-fulfilling guarantee women won't like the man. This bad outlook will seep out no matter how they try to cover it up. The man has problems. The woman will figure it out. So too, women who say "Men don't want relationships..." is a person with a bitter, bad attitude and they will not attract good men. Good men will be repelled by this woman. She is driving good men away. Who would want to be with the woman in the Tik Tok video!? Life isn't a meme. There is waaaay, way too much simplistic thinking going on with men and women with these outlooks. If you are not attracting the right people, the problem is you.
True that, men are not intimidated or afraid of women, except for the guys that have never talked to any female other than their mother, we are either annoyed disgusted or disappointed. Not at all intimidated.
I actually needed to hear this. I used to be the one Courtney mentioned about hating the opposite sex. After being cheated on by my ex girlfriend, followed by 2 more “situationships” that ended up getting no where and getting me taken advantage of, I not only called it quits on dating, but actively carried resentment towards women for a whole year and made it my personal conviction that women are the problem. Of course, the year long loneliness and the increasing weight that it carried made me realize I was the problem in almost every relationship. It truly came down to how I carried myself, the lack of communication from my part, and the unrealistic expectations I had set that I had to tone back a bit. While it’s extremely difficult for me, I’m re-entering the dating market once again with a positive mindset (somewhat) While I’m careful, I’m still hopeful things will work out for me in the long run.
Amen brother, That negativity really burns you. I had similar issues where I set out with life goals that would leave me wealthy enough to easily support a good sized family before I was 30, By some miracle I smashed those goals out of the park but all I got was gold diggers and ice queens taking advantage of me and screwing me around, its almost like the percentage of good women has shrunk in the past few decades.
Believe me bro sometimes no matter what you do it will not be enough for some people. Do not blame yourself for somebody's bad action, cheating and taking advantage somone is not the solution. Just set proper boundaries and expectations. Look for red flags and do not be affraid to walk away that is the power that men have. Honestly I would not date because there are a lot of broken women out there and modern women are not raised to be good wives.
I'm a man, and I sure as hell want to be in a relationship. The problem is that I just can't seem to find a girl who is actually interested in dating me. I sometimes wonder why I can't find love. After all, I think I am a decently attractive guy, and I also have a university education which is something that many guys don't have. I also happen to be autistic which impairs my social skills, and I really wish women could see past that. It's just depressing to me because I'm 27 years old, and I still haven't found my partner. I have only been in one relationship, and that was back when I was in high school, so it's been about a decade now since I've dated.
Don’t chase women. Chase your dreams, and the women will chase you. In all seriousness, woman like ambition, and they like knowing you have other passions and aren’t going to rely on them exclusively for happiness. Good luck buddy!
Everything you're saying is so real this is the reason why you're going to be a marriage woman That's the reason why your husband saw the potential in you and made that commitment to you so fast you are one of the very few rare gems out here I wish you the best in your marriage
Thanks for sticking up for us Courtney! It’s not about men versus women. It’s about human versus human. Be a good human and look for another good human to do life with.
I want a relationship with a woman. A deep and profound relationship. The men that don't want relationships only want sex cause they're impulsive pigs.
@@DestinyAwaits19 Unfortunately, there's been a lot of misinformation flying around for generations on this subject. I think a lot of us are growing out of it. Let's keep our fingers crossed.
Im 33 and this past Friday here in Chicago, I went to dinner with a friend of 15 years to an Italian Spot. We went to highschool together (class of 07/08) and she and i were talking about how people are so different from not too long ago. Our parents before us and ourselves never had this type of interaction on social media where people have so many others on the back burner. We also noticed sitting around us the amount of beautiful women at multiple tables within their own parties. we noticed this was not the case in our late teens or early 20s… it was really odd not seeing men at one of these tables. None of them new each other but each table had the same display, beautiful women with Expensive high heels on, burberry purses and super tight leggings and every perfume from Nordstrom you could spray… & God only knows what the F they were sharing with one another ….the only people we noticed on dates was a couple here n there and they were older in their 50s-70s…. These single women were all around 20-45ish….. really fuckin sad. Ladies this cant be the move, even the girl i was with was telling me how bizarre that lifestyle is.. & Let me add, you only see this here in America, I have been to Europe multiple times, and Latin America…. Women do go out in groups but not in volumes where their thoughts are to be Boss Babes…
Sounds like those women were probably looking to get swept off their feet by millionaires. I might be wrong but it seems like that's what things have come to.
A lot of women hate men because they only dated abusive or hugely egotistical men. It's what they're attracted to. Nice guys don't get them excited. They have the luxury in 2023 to date the exciting guys who aren't looking for long term stuff because it's a liability if you don't have the right one. But women also think they can change these guys and it's not right to change people. People should think more about who they are spending their time with. This includes guys who are looking for a mate. Have expectations boundaries on how you want to that person to be in your life but also be realistic and live up to those standards yourself.
That's because throughout university, the men their age had it drilled into their collective skulls NOT to go anywhere NEAR then, lest they risk expulsion via perceived impropriety, resulting in loss of scholarships, loss of right to refund, and still responsible for the student loans. Yeah, the university can both expel a student and keep the money. Now tell me, what man would dare glance their way under those conditions?
@@evansmith8824 The type of woman who prefers violent men is not going to complain about her experience and start hating men because of what she wanted at first place. These are tough women, it's their lifestyle. But there are women who pretend and when they get hurt create the whole drama about it.
This is what you should take away from this, when she said "I finally matured and realized it's not that men are intimidated by me, it's that they don't like me". That's the truth, I'm not intimidated by any of you, personally I don't like most of you.
I want a relationship, but not right away. Not immediately. I recently got out of something...not sure what it was. We went one one date and the next day she said we were in a relationship. I want to get to know someone before I make that kind of commitment. Every day she'd text me a "cosmo" level relationship quiz. My defenses went up fast. I'd never dated someone that was in a relationship from the first date. She had a lot of red flags. She then sent me a breakup message followed by a week of texts apologizing and wanting to get back together. Week ended with a video call of her in tears. First thing in the morning. I ended up blocking her everywhere. Oh and the "gay" thing in the video. I had a woman I was dating back in the 90's stop a date right in the middle and said "you don't date a lot...have you ever thought you might be gay?". Um...no...and don't let the door hit you as you leave.
My brother in laws mom asked me that when I said no I’m dating right now. She said are you gay jooking of course but I still feel she kinda meant it not as a joke
What's worse than staying single is to find one of the women exhibiting the bad traits and deciding to go for it anyway. Then you lose yourself trying to be the mate she wants instead of the mate you are. If you are LUCKY, she will realize what you could both have and see the light. Usually, you just end up being a backseat provider. Single is better. Adopt if you have to. Don't settle for the backseat. It only works if you both sit up front and take turns driving.
I think I was 15 when I first came across the idea that being in a happy, fulfilling relationship is less about finding the right person than about being the right person. Of course, I took this too far and ended up trying to “fix” relationships that had deteriorated past the point of repair, but I did eventually learn those boundaries too. None of us are perfect, and if your dating history is littered with problems… we’ll, you are part of that problem too. The one constant in all of your relationships is that you are in them.
What's scary is that the "becoming the right person" can screw you over too. It did for me. I was so certain that I would be the weak link in my relationship so I became a guy who earns, cooks, cleans, is emotionally responsive, etc (not perfect but I wanted to be a great partner). Then it still wasn't enough because my ex had no skin in the game because she didn't feel needed and became disengaged. Then she cheated and we divorced. There is a balance of improving yourself (the most important) and having expectations of your partner(secondary). The key is both parties have to have self improvement as the primary and expectations as a secondary (if even secondary) goal. Just my thoughts seeing your comment.
@@gellister yes, the hard part is knowing what “being the right person” means, especially right now. We are in a transition period where the old, dysfunctional, misogynistic relationship dynamic has been rejected but still has influence over the dating scene and our expectations of relationships and of ourselves. Meanwhile, we are still trying to find a stable and understandable relationship dynamic that is more reflective of two people coming together as equals with respect for each other. It’s confusing, especially for a young person who is trying to come to terms with a dating scene and social dynamics that are in flux at the moment. Add to that a whole lot of grifters making money off young guys by telling them that being an arsehole is a guaranteed way to get the woman they want… My advice to everyone is simple: be the best version of yourself, be happy with yourself and every positive relationship you have will flow from that. If there is something you want to change (eg “I wish I knew how to approach and talk to women”) then learn the skills to do that but don’t try to be someone else when doing it.
For some women it's because they are tired of men's crap. For me it was partly that plus I went to a Baptist Church for a long time. The man who I thought I would marry and vice versa when I was in my twenties left me for his co-worker. He claimed that I did nothing wrong to make him want to leave and use me while he was with her. I am meeting men, even in my age group, who don't have any interest in anything serious.
............................. "Evil" is the antithesis to the virtue: 'humanity'. Humanity is the characteristic that defines the human spirit. Humanity is symbiosis across humans and society. 'Humanity' exceeds 'social-darwinism'. ............................. NEURO-PERSONALITY ............................. "SENSORY-FEELERS" ARE LARGELY RESPONSIBLE FOR SPREADING DISINFORMATION AND HATE TOWARDS ENTJ/INTJ (AGAINST "THINKERS" IN GENERAL)-BOTH IRL AND ON THE INTERNET; DESPITE THOSE NEURO-PERSONALITY TYPES BEING A BLESSING TO SOCIETY AND ALL OF MANKIND! THEY DESERVE BETTER! 😤 'ESFJ', 'ESFP', ISFP and ISFJ are a pathogen to humanity, and 'then' Cluster-B (depending on they neuro-personality). THEIR "FEELINGS 'IS' THEIR REALITY", THEY ALSO HAVE A MALICIOUS-MIND BY DEFAULT (excluding normal ISFJ). DESPITE HAVING MALICIOUS INTENT THEY ARE ALL EMOTIONALLY-WEAK AND PRONE TO COVERT/VULNERABLE-NARCISSISM. ............................... Also... To intelligent readers (who do 'not’ have a ‘pathological disregard for rationality and reality'). I recommend researching 'narcissistic personality disorder' (NPD) / 'cluster-B'; and know that they are the 'root of all evil' (especially 'ESFJ/ESTJ-narcissist'; Myers-Briggs reference, look it up)! European 'ESFJ' are the worst personality type, and they are responsible for inventing 'racism' and colonization! It is in their neuro-psychology!!! They are extremely 'manipulative' and often use 'looking pretty' to distract others from the witch's mind-games / mind-r@pe, e.g. gaslighting, playing the victim/damsel in distress, creating "flying-monkeys", and 'bribing' others (with money or BJ) to attack, or at times, kill someone for her. When caught, she will use her minions as scapegoats. European ESFJ are notorious for this especially in a racist context, e.g. Emmett Till. xSFP and ISFJ (2W1) are the most complicit, narcissistic-enablers. ISFP also tend to be 'oblivious-codependents' (look up the definition). Like ESFJ, XSFP's "feelings 'is' their reality." Most are covert/vulnerable-narcissists. ISFJ often perceive things only on the surface level (even by sensor standards), are suckers for a “pretty face", and their neuro-psychology makes them the ideal narcissitic-codependent and pawn to the ESFJ (blind-loyalty, surface level perception, susceptibility to covert-narcissism). Lastly, ISFJ are notorious for impersonating other people's identities IRL and on the internet. SUMMARY Evil personality: 'ESFJ' (ALL), ESTJ (Cluster-b), ISFJ-2W1 (covert-narc/enabler). [Secretly] Evil and narcissist-friendly gunts/flying-monkey: ISFP (ALL), ESFP (ALL), and ISFJ (2W1 enable ESFJ). ☝️ALL of them are secretly emotionally-disturbed, hence their need to create conflict as a distraction (at other people's expense, truly evil). Spread the word! Thank you. ___________ Research ref: Raudha Athif, Ghislaine Maxwell, Marilyn Monroe, Karen, ESFJ-narcissists, ESFJ-neurology, Gaslighting, Amber Heard, Fake feminism, Rising of a shield hero (Malty-'ESFJ'; XSFX spread disinformation online. ISFJ is the main culprit; ISFJ largely perceive things on the surface level), 'Brood-parasitism’- XSFJ natural psychology..
@@Anonymousejfi3jdujejejdieo Maybe you have some other issue you are not aware off then? I did two research studies on this topic. In one study where people should identify the three most attractive women they know personally, they had to write down the relationship status of these women. Out of over 600 women identified in this study, all of them, 100% were in relationships. Not even the exception to the rule was there. Highly attractive women are not single. And personally, I made the same (sad) experience. Over the years, travelling the world, I encountered 214 women who I found very attractive when talking to them. All of them were in long-term relationships, usually married. So, although I never in my life got rejected by a woman, I was still not able to find a loving partner. All women I liked were taken; no exception. No opportunity to flirt, no opportunity to get into a suitable relationship.
I have been single a long time 13 years in fact. I was married for 25 years and divorced amicably. I would like to be in a relationship once again but would rather be alone than with the wrong person. I'm still single because I have yet to meet someone who is right for me. I have met plenty of nice women but yet to meet a woman who is the right fit for me and yes it works both ways. I don't look for a relationship I look for a real connection. No shortage of sex but getting past the lust phase is harder than getting to it in my experience.
I was 26 dating a 30 something year old woman who's best friend was getting married to a man who had just finished dental school and was finally starting his own practice. For some reason she was compelled to share with me that she had been withholding sex from this gentleman while sharing herself with other men freely, and both were somehow proud or bragging of the fact. Needless to say my relationship ended within a short amount of time after that. She bought the business that she worked at and runs it successfully to this day and tries to reach out to me from time to time. I want nothing to do with that. My only regret was not pilling the dude at his wedding but I didn't last long enough to attend. Basically got a uhaul and ghosted the the state. She never figured out why I lost interest so quickly.
0:55 FACTS this is what I keep saying to these 'independent, I got my own money, car, house, I don't need no man, why am I single' girls - it's like sure... live your best life... but I'm not trying to date myself, I already got all this covered why are we doubling up and creating redundant skills in our relationship? I want a relationship with a woman who compliments me, who can do the things I can't do and likes to do the things I don't like to - as far as responsibilities etc. go anyway - then the recreational and fun stuff it's good to be aligned, that's how we get balance and balance breeds stability.
12:54 so true. I recently turned 30, I woke up one Sunday after a great party and a night with a girl. I never felt lonelier in my life. Did I have fun? Of course, but in the end I wasn’t completely happy. The very next week I decided to formalice with the girl I’ve been kinda dating for months, I’ve never been happier in my life. I feel complete now. I decided to choose quality over quantity, that was the wisest thing I’ve done. You need to move forward, you can’t get stuck forever in the hookup culture, otherwise you will end lonely and miserable.
Hookup culture truly is toxic and leaves people feeling unfulfilled. For so long I felt like it’s been promoted as just have fun and not stressed enough that it’s only a temporary high. I’m glad more and more people are talking about the negative aspect of hook up culture.
*I’m mid 30s, married and I haven’t had friends since I graduated college in 2011.* I’ve known my wife since 2009. If she died, I wouldn’t seek to date or love anyone moving forward. I’d just rather raise my kids and die alone than search. Even the friends market is trash.
I enjoyed listening to you, more young adults should pay attention. I am 69 years old I got married at 35 years old and still love my wife tonight I do not understand the generation coming behind me they need your help
I’m 60. Something happened between 1972 & 1981, and I think it was feminism coming of age in the Eighties Ladies that I grew up with. I think they watched too many John Hughes films.
As someone in your age bracket (just under 30) and a female in a long term, committed relationship, I agree with you that it’s not all men don’t want relationships, it’s just values don’t align and hook up culture makes it easy to keep the divide there, plus the non-committal aspect of it too. For the men who are working on themselves and listening to Courtney, keep it up, and I promise, us women aren’t all like the girls we all see online, complaining about “all men”.
So us men are just supposed to take your word on it and pray that it doesn’t end in a divorce, alimony, and child support? Seems like an unnecessary risk.
14:32 - I am exhausted. The entire dynamic that exists is why I stopped trying. It weasels its way into every aspect of my life when I’m riddled with anxiety and tired of trying so hard. I just gave up!
Great point:BOTH men & women need to look in the mirror & ask yourself "Am I the quality person that a quality partner would want?" It's a crucial process to go through. (I say this as a woman, over 50, starting to thin k about dating again: step 1: I just joined the gym (already lost almost 60 pounds--but, want to tone up & feel good) 2.doing a lot of soul-searching about what is I need in a partner and what I caan most bring to another person. I find Courtney INSPIRING
Courtney, I think this is the most powerful video that you have made so far. So much so I'm not sure that it can be topped. It's grounded, to the point, and extremely helpful. It really commands attention. Thank you for being you.
If they are in need for emotional support give them in the way they want , don’t condescend . I was dealing with serious medical issues and I just wanted her to be around me to feel supported , she pretty much scoffed at that idea , I had loved her and her non chalant response stabbed me so deep in heart that I developed so much conflict inside , between love for her and what I saw in her behavior that lacked any empathy for me , or wanting to be there for me , I would have been for her if I was asked by her and she was dealing with what I was and am. I have gotten hurt and skeptical of ever falling in love again
Join the club ! You are ( not ) alone bud ! Married 33 years , worked 60-80 hours a week to provide her a nice house , new car , and stay at home from before kids , during kids , and long after they moved out . I drove crap cars from the 1960’s and 1970’s with no a/c and some no heat , She wanted MORE ! I finally said get a job - I can’t work any MORE HOURS . She punishes me by hooking up with “ Chad “ alcoholic in a mobile home and divorced me and got a lawyer and took EVERYTHING ! But - there IS a God , and he replaced EVERYTHING she stole , and MUCH MORE ! Work on you ! Watch Rich Cooper “ Entrepreneurs In Cars “ - Courtney has even reviewed his content - “ do the work “ is one of his sayings ! I joined a gym - lost 50 unwanted pounds , bought my FIRST NEW CAR EVER IN MY LIFE at age 53 ! Bought a fixer upper house , a brand new Harley , dating QUALITY women - NO MARRIAGE , WINNING 🥇
@@puremaledark8305 I was going to fulfill my vows - I became a “ simp “ but didn’t realize it . It ( typically ) did NOT start out that way ; most men “ become “ simps because after kids leave , you are so burnt out in a job - you just want to come home to peace and a loving wife , not a bitch , so we give here , give there , do more chores , and by default FAIL MORE “ shit- tests “ and then wifey RESENTS us , and runs off with Chad , and cleans us out in a divorce …
PREACH, Sis!! Once again, hitting the nail on the head! Men want relationships, just not with those type of women. The rampant narcissism in women these days is what's keeping those women single.
You can only truly judge someone's character when you're completely vulnerable to them and they know it. If you have to set boundaries to avoid being taken advantage of at great expense for little or no equivalent return, the other person is likely not credible for a mature relationship. If they're capable, they don't take advantage without figuring out or asking in advance if that's harmful to or bothers the other person then weighing how much they really need what they want from them.
I’m a GenX married guy and have never watched a video on the TikToxic platform. I watch these videos because my kids are now dating age, and I can’t believe the weird crap they’re fed through that platform and other social media. So here I am watching reactions to this stuff on UA-cam to understand what’s going on. What a weird world young people are growing up in.
Once again, a great video on unrealistic expectations. Side note: I recently decided to quit online dating and switch to real-life encounters on spots and events, where I can meet women with similar interests. I noticed that online dating, despite me considering myself a great guy, was really hurting my confidence. Now, I will not "hate" on those who successfully met a partner through online mediums, I'm happy for them, but nowadays the dating platforms have so much toxicity due to unrealistic expectations, which can damage one's self-image to believe that their not good enough, or only good for one thing only..
Don’t be afraid to look to foreign women, either. They’ll give you a better shot at getting what you want. Just like any woman, be careful who you choose.
I dated a bad apple, and I can tell you a few things. If a woman is promiscuous- Use her and lose her! If you're living with a woman, and you catch her cheating, and she says, "Get Over It!" Well, that's your invitation to go and date as many other women as possible. That happened to me and while I was still in the relationship, I dated as many women as I wanted! I didn't feel guilty and felt no remorse. Every time the girl I was living with fell asleep, I was out with other women. That happened way too often. Then it dawned on me - Why am I even with her?!!! A LOT of the other women were much prettier than the girl I was living with. I mean, it got to the point where we were more like roommates more than anything else. Not only that, but I didn't even care if I were to get caught! What was she gonna do, leave me? Oh, no, anything but that! ( Sarcasm : ) She was rude, selfish, insincere, greedy, cold, bitchy, heartless and that was without her knowing of myself sleeping around! One day I was watching Joyce Meyer, who's a preacher. What she said was if you want to know if someone loves you for you or for your money, get rid of the money and then see how that person treats you. So I did just that. However, first we went on a shopping spree to get rid of $3,000.00 I had saved up. I owned a business and it was no big deal to go out and earn that money back. So it really was no big deal. The following morning ( after the shopping spree ) I woke up and said, "Glady, I have some bad news! She said what? I said, I'm broke! Well, what happened next was truly an eye opening event! To say the least! She bitched and bitched and bitched! What am I even with you for? I have given you the best years of my life! She went on and on and on! This went on for three days straight! Then I finally said, we're moving! I'm going my way and you are going your way! Her response was "Oh, so now you're leaving me too?!!! YEP! I dated her for four years, which seemed like 10! I couldn't wait to get rid of her! Best thing I ever did! Took the trash to the curb! Then went out and celebrated with other ladies. That was in 1998! I haven't been in a serious relationship since! Nope! Women are too damn evil these days! They want a man that will do everything for them, and they also want to treat him like sh!t too! No, thanks! I'll pass. Let's just be bed buddies! The funny thing too was after I broke up with her, she kept trying to get back together with me even up to like 3 years after I dumped her! And I wouldn't touch her with a ten-foot pole! The way I finally got rid of her was she had her girlfriend come and try and talk to me about getting back together with her. LOL! I hit on her friend right in front of her! I had never seen two women get into a car and just leave so quick in all my life! My thoughts were after she left, "Oh, just get over it!" LOL! This is what happens when women use men. What comes around goes around! I have a lot of female friends thanks to Glady!
@@Therighthanddon NOT A KING! Not even close! Believe it or not, the whole experience brought me closer to God! WHAT? Yep! Allow me to explain. You see, when you deal with someone who's like Gladly was, it's like they try to strip away your manhood by doing nasty things. The way I caught her cheat was really weird. I told her I had a dream that she went back and was with her daughter's father, and that he had candles surrounding the bathtub as he was taking a bath and his apartment was completely dark. That's when Gladly confessed that he couldn't pay his electric bill. You see, God entered the equation by giving me that dream. Her daughter's father gave her the boot because while they were having sex, stupid Gladly called him by my name! It gets even way crazier than that! You see, I found ladies that I could be with but NOT have a relationship with. It was easy sex. It became so much of a problem, it made me a sex addict! I was with women all the time! I was ashamed of myself! So please don't think I'm bragging because I'm not. You see I knew I had a problem when it hit me I was with 3 different women in one day! I started praying to the Lord Jesus/God please help me, I can't stop myself! Because I was genuinely sincere, I asked God & Jesus please, I can't live like this. I was exhausted all the time. This addiction was controlling me! Well, God and or Jesus heard my cries because I had a dream that later in real life unfolded before my eyes! God and Jesus were proving to me that they ARE REAL! Let that sink in a moment. From that point on ( I still had a problem with the ladies, which seriously has diminished over time ) but my main focus now is on Jesus & God. I know this story is NOT what you expected to hear, but it's the TRUTH. You can run around with women left and right, but when you have the spirit of lust within you, You are going to need God and Jesus to help you! Because it will control your life! I know it sounds like a ton of fun. However, when it's controlling you, and you can't turn it off, turn away from it or even fight it, IT MAKES YOU FEEL WEAK!!!! God and Jesus is the ONLY Answer should you walk down this path. Please learn from my foolish mistakes and just find yourself just 1 lovely lady. I hope this helps everyone who reads it.
Courtney I want to say I commend you for trying to bridge the gap between men and women. I'm a 44 full time single dad, and a red pill bachelor. Now by my opening statement, as a GUY who has sole custody of his child, I obviously did not procreate with the right person. I gave up on relationships for several reasons, and as a middle aged parent who stands 5ft6 and is not wealthy, you can imagine the percentage of women who would be interested in me. I'm honest, loyal, athletic, and pretty good looking for my age, and I'm amazing with kids. I actually found out about you from my buddy Joker over at better bachelor. And when I hear women say where are all the good men? I think to myself we are in the ghosted/friend zone where they left us. I know I'm not perfect by any means, but I feel most women overlook me for things that are out of my control. ie, I'm not tall, and been struggling to regain being successful after being put through the meat grinder several times. I know there are good women out there, but I've yet to find myself in a relationship with one. I feel it's just not worth trying anymore. Thanks for the vid, and I hope that the superficial expectations modern women have for men produces the outcome it deserves. Nobody cries for us guys, so it's a bit silly to expect us to cry for them!
I was 27 when I decided to go at it alone… not knowing what was wrong with me decided to go in a different direction. Many women have given me the hint but all it takes it a conversation and their beauty crumbles . It turns out that we hve been selecting women for the physical beauty and they get to be whoever they want hence the term “ toxicity “… now I’m 40 now and as a human being barely recognized something within me that it’s worth sharing with another human being too bad Most women feel so shallow and empty . What Psychopathic state of mind must a human being be in to demand another human being to adore her ? So I finally came to a conclusion I hate the pretty ones and I don’t like the ugly ones … but , I’m still a sucker for femininity. You ever get that feeling of being ripped off by a bad deal ; that is how it feels to try and find a girl .to make matters worse in the end they all get fat staying fit it’s like a ball and chain they only do it because or else they get no attention, but as soon as they find “ the One “ A.K.A. “ Simp , they let go off and write it off as : “ well if you truly love me “ . Most white rich guys get their wives from a third world country . Some of them are salvageable.
With you on that. I am 35, but even women I'd deem a 6/10~ are all morons, but the other women are just plain unattractive physically. There is no motivation for the average guy to give a flying crap anymore. You either get feminist beliefs or a butt ugly appearance. I think most of the good ones were taken very early. Wish I would have acted 10-15 years sooner frankly.
Your so spot on with everything you have said in this clip Courtney , i just wished a heck of a LOT of women would take this in and start thinking differently about men . mean while i have been single for five years now and it doesn't look like that is going to change any time soon , so anyway love your content Courtney and keep up the great work !!
Came across this searching for something entirely different while discussing with a friend from another country how the gender roles feel flipped as an American man dating the women here. Explained how many people would put her on a pedestal compared to what options we have locally, and how she's taken for granted because of the culture in middle-eastern backgrounds. She found it hard to believe women would even cheat on men and said it goes against a woman's nature 💀 Told her the dating pool here is terrible and at this point American women might as well be men, how often we get cheated on, the lack of trust/accountability, etc, pretty much everything you said for months before I even found this video. Ended up watching the whole video & sending this to her because it covers pretty much both genders the way I tried to explain to her but in a much more neutral manner. I honestly do think its mostly a cultural thing, social media & hookup culture ruined dating for both genders in America to a point of being damn near irreversible. Most of the women I've been talking to who are actually nice come from different countries, one being Taiwanese & another Moroccan, etc. From what I've heard from all of them, I feel American men would prosper in other countries for dating and happiness, and women from other countries would love & respect American men a million times more than our own women do if they had the opportunities to live here. So many people born and raised here take everything we have for granted, including each other.
i think a lot of the problem stems from people not really trying to view the person for who they really are behind the face value and loving them for that. it's very easy for women to think love is so easy to just pick a great guy but not actually see him for who he really is but only what he gives her. i think a bit of the problematic portion of why it is like this, it's because we make shallow connections and don't take the time to get to know one another and like someone more deeply before we jump into bed with someone. it's great if you like sex but don't expect to get a fantastic relationship out of it, because as a guy we do not love a woman we just met, we love a woman we know by heart and love her for who she is and how she treats us. that's how i see it.
............................. "Evil" is the antithesis to the virtue: 'humanity'. Humanity is the characteristic that defines the human spirit. Humanity is symbiosis across humans and society. 'Humanity' exceeds 'social-darwinism'. ............................. NEURO-PERSONALITY ............................. "SENSORY-FEELERS" ARE LARGELY RESPONSIBLE FOR SPREADING DISINFORMATION AND HATE TOWARDS ENTJ/INTJ (AGAINST "THINKERS" IN GENERAL)-BOTH IRL AND ON THE INTERNET; DESPITE THOSE NEURO-PERSONALITY TYPES BEING A BLESSING TO SOCIETY AND ALL OF MANKIND! THEY DESERVE BETTER! 😤 'ESFJ', 'ESFP', ISFP and ISFJ are a pathogen to humanity, and 'then' Cluster-B (depending on they neuro-personality). THEIR "FEELINGS 'IS' THEIR REALITY", THEY ALSO HAVE A MALICIOUS-MIND BY DEFAULT (excluding normal ISFJ). DESPITE HAVING MALICIOUS INTENT THEY ARE ALL EMOTIONALLY-WEAK AND PRONE TO COVERT/VULNERABLE-NARCISSISM. ............................... Also... To intelligent readers (who do 'not’ have a ‘pathological disregard for rationality and reality'). I recommend researching 'narcissistic personality disorder' (NPD) / 'cluster-B'; and know that they are the 'root of all evil' (especially 'ESFJ/ESTJ-narcissist'; Myers-Briggs reference, look it up)! European 'ESFJ' are the worst personality type, and they are responsible for inventing 'racism' and colonization! It is in their neuro-psychology!!! They are extremely 'manipulative' and often use 'looking pretty' to distract others from the witch's mind-games / mind-r@pe, e.g. gaslighting, playing the victim/damsel in distress, creating "flying-monkeys", and 'bribing' others (with money or BJ) to attack, or at times, kill someone for her. When caught, she will use her minions as scapegoats. European ESFJ are notorious for this especially in a racist context, e.g. Emmett Till. xSFP and ISFJ (2W1) are the most complicit, narcissistic-enablers. ISFP also tend to be 'oblivious-codependents' (look up the definition). Like ESFJ, XSFP's "feelings 'is' their reality." Most are covert/vulnerable-narcissists. ISFJ often perceive things only on the surface level (even by sensor standards), are suckers for a “pretty face", and their neuro-psychology makes them the ideal narcissitic-codependent and pawn to the ESFJ (blind-loyalty, surface level perception, susceptibility to covert-narcissism). Lastly, ISFJ are notorious for impersonating other people's identities IRL and on the internet. SUMMARY Evil personality: 'ESFJ' (ALL), ESTJ (Cluster-b), ISFJ-2W1 (covert-narc/enabler). [Secretly] Evil and narcissist-friendly gunts/flying-monkey: ISFP (ALL), ESFP (ALL), and ISFJ (2W1 enable ESFJ). ☝️ALL of them are secretly emotionally-disturbed, hence their need to create conflict as a distraction (at other people's expense, truly evil). Spread the word! Thank you. ___________ Research ref: Raudha Athif, Ghislaine Maxwell, Marilyn Monroe, Karen, ESFJ-narcissists, ESFJ-neurology, Gaslighting, Amber Heard, Fake feminism, Rising of a shield hero (Malty-'ESFJ'; XSFX spread disinformation online. ISFJ is the main culprit; ISFJ largely perceive things on the surface level), 'Brood-parasitism’- XSFJ natural psychology..
MY-PHILOSOPHY:"INNER-STRENGTH" I have found that simply "loving myself" (inner-child) is a powerful tool against most types of social-dependency/vulnerability. .
ESFJ is Marilyn Monroe, Karen, Amber Heard, Malty (rising of shield hero), Sakura Haruno, original b×tch, gaslighter, school "mean girl", etc. Also, China is full of ESFJ. Look past the "pretty appearance" of ESFJ and you will see them for the 'covert-narcissist' they are. ESFJ/ISFJ impersonate other people, and are obsessed with controlling them for their own emotional-convenience (especially ESFJ). ISFJ are prone to 'imposter syndrome'. Both of them are "shallow humans". XSFX and unintelligent narcissits are their default pawns, particularly the former. Lastly, sensory-feelers (namely, ESFJ, ISFJ, and then XSFP) are largely responsible for spreading disinformation, both online and real life. For "sensory-feelers" their "emotions IS their reality".
I was in my late 30s when I quit dating or looking for a relationship. I'm 5' 10 and was an entertainer for kids. A lowly balloon man. I chose this because of my love of kids. I also am a woodworker and can build close to anything. Served my country in the Navy, and worked daily to better myself. I'm not Brad Pitt but not a dog either. I'm funny, caring, and an incurable romantic. Yet never good enough for any girl. So I quit. Never been happier. All the advice in the world will ever make me go back to dating or even trying. At 63 it's better to leave things alone. You have good points, and well thought out advice for both sides. But I'll never go back to a life of rejection, ridicule, and selfishness ever again.
As a happily married man, I have got to say one thing: "You nailed it"! These steps/realisations are exactly what my wife and I went through before we started dating. If there you have problems, it is vital to sort them out, otherwise you will never be in a happy relationship, and knowing your self worth is so important.
Many men now have watched those around them get divorced as women file 85% of all divorces at will. The man gets to end up losing his net worth and paying alimony for years. No man wants that downside risk which he has zero control over. If wifey decides she want to pursue a different cock, and files, will be financially collapsed. Especially if it happens over age 50. No retirement, endless alimony so will need to work second job and wiped out. Smart men wont take that risk since 60% of the time they lose. It is a big gamble. Plus men can get companionship and easy sex on dating apps, lots of variety, date younger and dump the drama of marriage and not risk losing their lifes assets because a woman decides she is tired of you. Divorce happens to even the best couples.No man wants to be collateral damage and end up broke and working until death to pay off the alimony while she has taken the house, assets and is screwing a new guy
I'm a man and I want a relationship. I've wanted a relationship for the past 10 years. Yet my time spent meeting people while I was in the military, most of the girls never gave me a second look cause "it would be hard" or "they didn't want to move with me" and the ones I did get into relationships with ended up cheating on me. Now I'm 30 and I'm just so broken and jaded and tired of being hurt I'm scared to even talk to women anymore. Cause it seems like the only women I find that haven't gone through 300 other men on tinder are 20 and just starting out their journey into sluthood. Sorry, I just don't want 30 year old Stacy that's had her back blown out by every guy in at least 50 miles. Why can't I find any decent women?
30 yr old military guy here as well, not from the US but Greece. I haven't had exactly the same experiences as you, but know that you're not alone in your grief. Just wanted to say that.
she married a multimillionaire and when she is able to get half, she will most likely divorce him... Nothing '''gold'' about her... Women who are ''gold'' are the above average looking women getting with men strictly based off their personality
Im 45 w 2 kids and good cordial relationship with my ex. Being thrust into the dating world once again; holy shit!!!! This is crazy now. Nothing but lies and ghosting. Every date is "what can you do for me", no sense of duty, loyalty or even basic caring.
Girl at this point I know it’s me cause women don’t even give me the time of day. Unless it’s to be they new best guy friend. Witch I don’t get why. Some even got the audacity to call me a perfect husband in the same sentence as rejecting me. I have taken so many Ls I don’t even feel it no more cause her actually likening me is the anomaly. I love the content I’ll figure my issues out eventually on my path to my best self
Then you're hanging out with the wrong women. While I don't know your full story there, don't be so quick to blame yourself. While there might be some things you could work on, everyone does, I guarantee it's not ALL on you.
My wife passed away recently after a 30 year marriage. We did these things that helped keep our marriage strong was first and foremost we respected each. When we had arguments we never resorted to calling each other derogatory names and we always sat down and apologized which leads to my next point. Always say “I love you” throughout the day whether you’re in the phone hanging up or just to say it out of the blue. I always kissed my wife goodbye regardless I was leaving for a week or going to the store. You never know when that last kiss will be. Finally we always took care of each other. I would put her needs before mine and I know she did the same for me.
That sounds wonderful, especially apologising, something women seem to find difficult in my experience. Sorry for your loss.
Sorry for your loss, my friend. You were a good man to your partner.
That sounds like a wonderful, healthy relationship David Sharon, seems you were blessed to have her as a life partner for 30 years and your Union was based on tenderness!
So sorry for your loss. Sounds like you had a wonderful relationship. I know you need time to heal, but I believe a person of your character will find somebody else wonderful to spend the rest of your life with eventually. And I'm sure your wife would want that for you
Salute to you, sir David. I pray my wife and I reach that milestone
Checked out of dating over 5 years ago, and now I'm almost 30, and I've never been happier. I love my job, I have hobbies that are fulfilling, and I have great friends to do them with. A relationship would be fine, but all I've had were headaches and heartbreaks. I'm opposed to hook up culture, so being alone has given me solace.
Get your passport brother. Travel overseas
I feel sorry for you because I'm sort of in the same boat I'd say do what @Young Savage Fury said and go traveling my brother met his wife that way
@@haydenglatemore no need to feel sorry. I'm happy by myself!
It’s happens but if you don’t try, you’ll never know. Don’t have to hookup just communicate your standards.
Good for you!. I went my own way decades ago been so happy No Drama, i even look younger than my friends lol.
Women would rather ride the carousel in their 20's than look for a husband. When the carousel fun ends women go back to the guys they rejected to get their marriage bailout.
This happened to me in my late 20's. A bunch of ex's contacted me after years of silence. It was like 5 of them within 2 months time, it was too much to be a coincidence. I had lunch with one and she started asking me how i felt about marriage. It all made sense.
I will not be suckered into being a bail out of last resort.
Careful, you know the game the feminists might be triggered...
+Andrew S You practically hit the nail in the head! the situation is exactly like that
Well writen.
Share my story with a singelmom.
I'm indirectly the reason why a singelmom has her second child.
Back in my blue-pilled days I chat with a singelmom online in 3 mouth's.
Completaly blue-pilled moron when its came to dating I was, first time I did meet her in real life, end up took her too a vorspiel were there was plenty of other mens.
She did meet another men there, friendzoned me, I was okay with that and moved on.
They did get married she get her 2 child.
Today she not in relationship with any of them '
She has hit the wall, 2 kids from 2 different fathers '
Doing very well successfulwise, own her own apartment and car without debt very well paid job too
"I do not give a rat about"
She has tried to makes me settle:
I reply:
You friendzoned me in you're prime years but now after you hit the wall you're wants me to be captain saver simp!
No thanks!
@@heavensea141 Never bail out a single mom. You will be the least important man in her life. The father of her kids come first (no pun intended), then her kids, then her family, and even the mail man is more important than the simp that bailed her out because he drops off the welfare checks.
@@Andrew--S
Exactly.
I was married for 35 years to an extraordinary woman. She died from cancer a little over 2 months ago. Every. Single. Morning. for THIRTY FIVE YEARS. She was so excited to see me! She tremendously respected me and I respected her too. Neither one of us was perfect by any means, but we knew how to look past those things and love each other. Now I tried a couple of online dating things, just coffee, and WOW. I can't believe how true the things are that you are saying! My first thought, after living with my dream woman for 35 years, was "why would I want a relationship with you? All you do is talk about how terrible all your exes are and how much you hate men! I don't even want to finish this coffee." Oh my goodness. Maybe she likes canoes and walks on the beach like me, but there aren't enough canoes in the world to make that work. It all seems so incredibly shallow.
Sorry for your loss brother, praying for you. 35 beautiful years is a blessing the vast majority of men will never experience. Glad you made the most of it.
Yea that is great you had a great woman. Like myself you know the contrast of the good woman you had and how it is now. I too remember when women respected men and themselves. Things are much different now as you have experienced. The world is a big place. I have traveled much and women are different in many places in the world.
@@markdanielsmarksinspiratio3547 his wife was from a different era..
You come from a different generation and I envy how easy you had it compared to mine. Nevertheless, I'm not bitter anymore about it, rather I'm going to better myself for my nephew's sake and work hard for him to make sure he won't suffer like I did.
I am a woman and I don't understand how you are already going on dates after loosing the Love of your life who you have been married to for 35 years just 2 months ago. So you claim that she was that important to you, but yet you are already dating 2 months after? I don't get it!
When most women say "men don't want relationships", they mean the men that they find attractive. Bring them a man that does want a relationship and watch them recoil in disgust. "No! Not that guy!" Is the response you will get 99.9% of the time.
And men do the same thing.
A woman has to have ATTRACTION to the man. Women need to find men that they are attracted to AND want love. It’s both!
@@garypierce7380 not as much as women, have you seen how much these land whales eat!?
@@garypierce7380 Not true. You should study the dating app stats. 80% of women choose only 20% of the men, aka Chad. Men are far more open minded in who they choose. Why would an average Joe marry a 30+ year old woman who spent her late teens and 20s being ran through by Chads? One of the saddest parts of this is that 20% of fine women who do not behave this way being lumped in with the vast majority who do.
@kelly carlson the problem is that many women are attracted to chaos and toxicity because it's familiar.
I wanted to be in a relationship from the time I was in my late teens until my late 40s. Women did not want me, so I quit trying. I’m 60 now. Good to see that nothing changes.
That has much more to do with your outlook and perspective. It is very sad that you have bought such a lie. You need to change yourself and your perspective.
@@jus4000kicks in his 60s? He can't start a family anymore.
@@orderflowarchives Its not impossible. I know people who got married older than that. Perhaps they may not be able to have a family but a) there are ways to get children like adoption and b) they would still have each other.
@John S. 존 살라 Sorry to hear that but don't give up believe in yourself. You are worthy and important and sounds like a great guy if a woman pass you over it is their lost. Stay strong brother
I’m in that same exact boat.
As a guy I can honestly say that women I’ve recently tried to ask out are part of the problem why I can’t get a date. Those individuals like to play games but living in a low population area really limits options. Then you add in single moms, doing only fans, and unrealistic standards it’s like being Matt Damon stranded on Mars in the movie The Martian. It’s really funny how women complain about men when men are the ones who have to pursue and approach them. Women are doing the choosing but play it off like things just happen to them like they don’t have anything to do with it.
Im not trying to be that guy but *Matt Damon
@@andradeb2695 lol you’re right I’ll fix it
Stay away from single mothers. They're not looking for a lover, but a provider. You will not be happy and will always be a distant third as her priorities. Don't rely on bars, or social circle. Try day game pick up. Special events are also great places to meet new women.
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"Evil" is the antithesis to the virtue: 'humanity'. Humanity is the characteristic that defines the human spirit. Humanity is symbiosis across humans and society. 'Humanity' exceeds 'social-darwinism'.
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NEURO-PERSONALITY
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"SENSORY-FEELERS" ARE LARGELY RESPONSIBLE FOR SPREADING DISINFORMATION AND HATE TOWARDS ENTJ/INTJ (AGAINST "THINKERS" IN GENERAL)-BOTH IRL AND ON THE INTERNET; DESPITE THOSE NEURO-PERSONALITY TYPES BEING A BLESSING TO SOCIETY AND ALL OF MANKIND! THEY DESERVE BETTER! 😤
'ESFJ', 'ESFP', ISFP and ISFJ are a pathogen to humanity, and 'then' Cluster-B (depending on they neuro-personality).
THEIR "FEELINGS 'IS' THEIR REALITY", THEY ALSO HAVE A MALICIOUS-MIND BY DEFAULT (excluding normal ISFJ). DESPITE HAVING MALICIOUS INTENT THEY ARE ALL EMOTIONALLY-WEAK AND PRONE TO COVERT/VULNERABLE-NARCISSISM.
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Also... To intelligent readers (who do 'not’ have a ‘pathological disregard for rationality and reality').
I recommend researching 'narcissistic personality disorder' (NPD) / 'cluster-B'; and know that they are the 'root of all evil' (especially 'ESFJ/ESTJ-narcissist'; Myers-Briggs reference, look it up)!
European 'ESFJ' are the worst personality type, and they are responsible for inventing 'racism' and colonization! It is in their neuro-psychology!!!
They are extremely 'manipulative' and often use 'looking pretty' to distract others from the witch's mind-games / mind-r@pe, e.g. gaslighting, playing the victim/damsel in distress, creating "flying-monkeys", and 'bribing' others (with money or BJ) to attack, or at times, kill someone for her. When caught, she will use her minions as scapegoats. European ESFJ are notorious for this especially in a racist context, e.g. Emmett Till.
xSFP and ISFJ (2W1) are the most complicit, narcissistic-enablers. ISFP also tend to be 'oblivious-codependents' (look up the definition). Like ESFJ, XSFP's "feelings 'is' their reality." Most are covert/vulnerable-narcissists.
ISFJ often perceive things only on the surface level (even by sensor standards), are suckers for a “pretty face", and their neuro-psychology makes them the ideal narcissitic-codependent and pawn to the ESFJ (blind-loyalty, surface level perception, susceptibility to covert-narcissism). Lastly, ISFJ are notorious for impersonating other people's identities IRL and on the internet.
SUMMARY
Evil personality: 'ESFJ' (ALL), ESTJ (Cluster-b), ISFJ-2W1 (covert-narc/enabler).
[Secretly] Evil and narcissist-friendly gunts/flying-monkey: ISFP (ALL), ESFP (ALL), and ISFJ (2W1 enable ESFJ).
☝️ALL of them are secretly emotionally-disturbed, hence their need to create conflict as a distraction (at other people's expense, truly evil).
Spread the word! Thank you.
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Research ref: Raudha Athif, Ghislaine Maxwell, Marilyn Monroe, Karen, ESFJ-narcissists, ESFJ-neurology, Gaslighting, Amber Heard, Fake feminism, Rising of a shield hero (Malty-'ESFJ'; XSFX spread disinformation online. ISFJ is the main culprit; ISFJ largely perceive things on the surface level), 'Brood-parasitism’- XSFJ natural psychology..
One minute men claim they don't like women who play games but when they meet someone who doesn't play games, they aren't interested because they "like the chase." Can you please make up your mind?
Im 40 and have decided 3 years ago to be single. And i have never been happier tbh. At first i was put off by the majority of men who treated me badly but im also aware that i played a part in that undoing. I tried to work on myself and blamed myself for years. When i was becoming a better person i was still meeting the wrong kind of men. So i was still doing something wrong i guess cause thats wat ur basically trying to say that its our fault too. Which i agree. In the end after years went by i stopped blaming myself, I stopped blaming men. I began to love myself and accept who i was and i started to enjoy my life on my own, it is an amazing experience! I would never trade the kind of happiness i feel now for anything. Regardless of what we are doing wrong or who was at fault, the important thing is finding happiness on our own journey. We dont need to have someone to be happy as long as you are happy thats all that matters. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being single, it doesnt matter how you got there. What matters is what youve learned along the way and how you feel about it in the end.
The unfortunate thing about women is that their leveraging power fades as they age. Specifically what men desire in women fades with time. Youth, beauty and purity for example.
So if a woman chooses a bad partner from the start, she has screwed up. This is why historically the entire family would make an effort to help vet for good partners, because it is that important.
The more bodies you have as a woman, the less likely you will be taken seriously for marriage.
congrats
@@RottenCheese We don't care how many partners they've had and they can easily lie about it anyways. A 35 to 45 year old woman still has much more leverage than a guy the same age. Also youth is a desirable quality for both men and women, it signifies health
@@tonygabashvili8357 for marriage… you better care about their past partner count, pair bonding for women is shot after 1-2 guys, then you’re dealing with the family courts, and that my friend as a man you should never be put in that scenario! Virgin women file for divorce only 14% of the time, women with a single previous partner file 48% of the time after 2-3 it’s over 60% numbers go up and up, if she’s college educated, there’s a 90% chance she will divorce you and steal all your shit! So yeah it fucking matters
@@jsav4269 I posted a link to a pew study that found that the more education a women has the lower their divorce rates but it was removed. Find me the source to your 90% divorce rate claim that isn't just "trust me bro" logic
I know half a dozen single guys in their 50's ( myself included) who had wives that left or never appreciated them. They are all decent, funny, hard working, good looking and no drama. Too many women focus on chemistry over character. Chemistry is the kindling but character is the large pieces of firewood that keep the fire going for the long haul.
And men focus on looks over character so what's your point. Maybe if you're friends married a women with good character they wouldn't be alone. It works BOTH ways. It's not the woman with poor character who married herself, it was the man who proposed and MARRIED HER
Exactly!! Men love to blame women when they’re the ones picking the wanna be kardashian th0ts. Then can’t figure out why they only want money . Lmao
@@cha9165 lol let me guess, single mom?
Both of y’all are right no need to argue
Instant gratification.
It is so surprising to me how many women actually believe that they are 10's, despite the fact that they are barely average looking. When you hold that mindset, the idea that men could reject you because they don't like you doesn't even cross their mind.
Some of the most off putting women I know actually do believe that they have great personalities.
This whole "you're perfect just the way you are" movement seems to have led to a complete lack of self awareness.
Haha, if it makes you feel better, it drives some of us women nuts, too. Im middle-aged and have been married for a very, very long time, and you wouldn't believe the shit my husband and have had to go through with some of these women. We are too old for this shit lol. I might get a guy try to start a conversation with me at the store or something, but i politely say im married, and they say "oh sorry have a nice day," and thats the end of it. My husband, on the other hand, gets the old "but im better than your wife" ploy from women who know he's happily married with 3 kids, and they can't even understand that my husband, for one, isn't attracted to them because he's not into obese women with bitchy personalities, and second, he already knows no woman is going to give him what i already do both in and out of the bedroom. These women are so full of themselves, they dont even realize they are actually offending my husband by acting like they are entitled to him because he's attractive and has a 401k. He's opened up to me about how sometimes, with the women who really try to push, it actually upsets him because he feels like they only see him as a piece of meat, and dont actually care that he's a person with a happy life, and they don't care if they destroy what he's built. The pure entitlement of these women is disgusting. I dont know how the single guys can even deal with it at this point. I feel for you gents out there.
@@carolallison9685 I live in a rural area so it's not quite as bad here, but the stuff that happens in big cities can border on real life satire.
A couple of months ago I was approached by a less-than-appealing woman during a colleague's birthday party.
She was rather resistant to my polite attempts of letting her down easy, insisting that she could do things I had never experienced before.
So I just looked at her and said: "I've had headaches before".
That did the trick.
I drive Uber and I see it everyday....
It’s because so many women get worshipped on social media or by guys who are trying to sleep with them.
That will inflate anybodies head 🤷🏾♂️
Not only do they think they look like 10s, they think their personalities are 10, when that number is even lower than their physical appearance.
I hope more women watch this too because you're spot on. From a man's perspective, I'm 55, I've seen society do a 180 on how men are portrayed. In this age of media and internet, men are constantly shown to be, dumb, irresponsible, sexist, clods who only are redeemed by a woman "fixing" them. Every movie, TV show, etc. portrays men this way. Couple that with the expectation that "good" men must be 6', athletic, really good looking, and able to pay for everything, and women perceive the dating world to be devoid of anyone worthwhile because those men aren't interested in them. I've told more than one woman complaining that there are no good men that they walked right past 100 good men today that would be happy to date them but they weren't "hot" enough to notice. Then throw in the fact that the men who ARE getting dates are the men least likely to want a relationship and are just in it for the sex, because they can, and suddenly all men are dogs and don't want relationships. I'm not sure this will ever get straightened out. We would have to get back to a place where both men and women are valued for the traits that each gender traditionally brings to the table and in this vapid, superficial, world-revolves-around-me society, I don't see it happening.
Well stated. While I never chose to marry, I've had a number of multi year relationships and every one of these girls (right up into my late 50s), was a good person. I never dealt with all these angry, annoying ladies that I run into here and there. I don't know why I've been so fortunate, but I think some of it is because in nearly every case, someone of value in both of our lives made the introduction. So I always suggest that folks ask trusted friends, family or other acquaintances if they know someone they can introduce you to. Better yet, just be your greatest self. Keep up a good attitude, and be open to introductions. Lots of folks want to hook you up and you probably haven't seemed open to it.
Very good explanation of what's happening these days. By now, "the science is IN", and now everyone knows how useless and harmful dating apps are, and we now know that feminism has been an immense failure and has ruined entire generations. Liberalism (such as on college and university campuses) is largely at fault for most of society's current disasters, and social media is too, since it is also almost fully implemented and controlled by "group think" liberals. Since technology is still changing and developing, and since it is all run by the very flawed minds of Silicon Valley liberals, I don't see anything improving in society any time soon. Although there are growing bodies of evidence that most people have had it "up to here" with all this upsidedown gender nonsense, race nonsense, equality nonsense, and all the other trending social inanities of our day. I will believe things can get better when I actually see it get better. Right now, things are still getting worse.
It's one of the reasons I like the movie Bad Teacher with Cameron Diaz (OK, "like" is a strong word... maybe "tolerate" lol). She starts the movie being a manipulative bitch, but reality kicks her down constantly for her actions, and while she isn't a Saint by the end of the movie, she does become a better woman. She even turns down Justin Timberlake's character (a people-pleasing pretty boy she was initially attracted to for being a hot guy, but has no self-worth), for the gym teacher who might not be rich but has tons of self-respect.
Most amazing is that, while these women want everything, all they have to offer is a very well used vagina.
I'm with you on that, any women that expect men to do all the work in a relationship including pay for everything, whilst they bring nothing to the table and think that they're a prize and deserve diva treatment because of their gender, from a male perspective is the worst thing a woman can be
As a woman I agree with what she said. After I realized I need to be what I want to offer to a man, my whole outlook on relationships changed. It's ok to not be perfect just be the best person you can be and not s%@* on others. 🙏🏽💜💜💜
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RIGHT ON!
Good response. It's what I tend to express in so many words. Everyone wants the treasure chest without without realizing we are never going to having the never ending deepest pockets. The poison that was sold and bought to degrade our society was the thought process that Hollywood and the Fashion industry sold us all. You too, can have the best. Whatever that is. We are NOT the aristocrats that run the world. The chaos is ( their ) psychological doing. The essence of life is what Courtney shares. I can admit that even twice married and betrayed I still believe in a loyal relationship. Loyalty transcends all borders. Any way, I agree with your admission here.
that's great! Just being nice gets you so far with most men. Learn to cook 1 thing really well. Then when you and him fight, you can cook that as a peace offering, or when you want to be nice and show him you love him. The way to a man's heart is through his stomach. You keep him that way too, because he's too full to go out and do anything foolish
@@richardy2071 😅😅😅
Men want what they don’t have in a relationship. My wife brings me peace. She IS my home. She is the soft nurturer that I would give my life to protect.
Good message, very important, but slightly ambiguous.
If I may reinforce your message?
Men want in a relationship the qualities they don't bring to it.
They want peace, softness and tenderness, nurturing. When we have that in our lives, we will do everything we must to protect it.
We aren’t dumb. Just do a prenuptial contract. I implore men to learn from the divorce trend.
@@elliotmyers9071 It sounds like you have no research on prenuptial agreements. If you make one single erroneous provision or unfair claim, the whole prenup gets thrown out in court. Most prenups end up getting challenged in bitter divorce cases, and about half get dismissed. Usually because the new lawyer finds a clever escape loophole. If you don't have every loophole covered exactly right, it gets thrown out instantly.
In Australia they are called Binding Financial Agreements, and you choose to have one as a married couple or as an unmarried couple. If you choose the latter, it gets dismissed if you then get married.
Also, it's valid for 2-4 years and then the judge can choose to dismiss it anyway.
That's awesome, and it just made me realize I've seen very few examples of that in my whole life even.
Get the sick bucket....
There are a lot of great guys out there who are looking for girls to accept them for who they are. Most of us are under 6-feet tall, earn under 100K per year, but who love to be in a stable relationship free of drama and demands.
…It feels like they want to step into a “ready to go” lifestyle instead of building a life together…
A lot of women love the toxicity
Women think they will always have options, so they spend their 20's chasing after career and the top guys. Your relationship options will dwindle quiet rapidly once you are 30.
Lets face it we all loose our looks when we get older. If he met you in your 20's he would always find you beautiful.
Now that you are 30, guys are thinking I am not that attracted to her, it's a bad deal for me. I will rather stay single. If having a family, getting married is what is most important to you, then make that a priority.
The “ sixes “ !
1.) 6’ tall
2.) 6 figure income
3.) 6 pack abs
4.) 6,000 sq ft house
5.) 600 hp car
@@rudeawakening3833 what’s the 6th one? 😂
I find that many women today can't handle criticism. Could be because they never had to before, could be because of insecurity or both. But they tend to either turn it around and make you out to be the bad guy or they run away and say you make them uncomfortable. It's possible this is a societal issue on some level.
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They've been living life on easy mode. Their dads told them they were a princess and catered to them. In early life their boyfriends just wanted sex so would cater to them. Due to the halo effect even at work they are treated with kid gloves. The entire society caters to them, they arent fat they're curvy and anyone who says otherwise is evil, not correct haha. They exist in a protected bubble. This is also why some women are so eager to physically assault men who talk shit to them, they've always been protected and never been exposed to real violence so they have no idea what they are playing with.
Most women were raised much differently than males growing up. They were coddled, told they were princesses, daddy would protect them from everything, etc. All while being simultaneously told that they have the same strengths and abilities as males, despite being raised in a totally different fashion. It's been a recipe for disaster.
Women have quick labels they use towards men so they will never have to face accountability.
have worked around and closely with many women over my business career. A consistent comment that many women made was that they did not like working with or for other women and most preferred working for a man. Many women I have known have also stated that women are crazy. These comments were made without me asking or soliciting the comment. With that being said, I offer a quote from one of my favorite movies.
In the movie, “As good as it gets”, Jack Nicholson, who plays a writer in the movie, is just leaving the publisher. The young female receptionist asks Nicholson a question.
Receptionist:
“How do you write women so well?”
Nicholson:
“I think of a man and I take away reason and accountability.”
Honestly, I have been working hard on myself, improving a lot but I still have met so many women that get turned off or shut me out of their interest over the smallest things. They have such high expectations and are ready to drop someone if they don't fit exactly what they imagine in their head. Now, I have amazing female friends and they help me out with advice, so I know there are nice women out there, but they are mixed in with some very shallow women too.
So many women have unrealistic expectations. I’ve met men who do the same.
You are taking advice from women?
@@genevieveharakidas7054 Definitely, a lot of men are real dumbasses, I have seen quite a lot treat my female friends like crap. Its a tough world out there
I've had a few strong relationships and have been married for 14 years, now. I've found that telling her what your boundaries are helps a lot. Be honest, respectful, and kind but tell her that if you feel disrespected or unwanted you're out of there, and mean it. If she can't apologize when she's obviously wrong, puts her needs above yours, constantly complains about stupid things and likes to create drama, you're better off without them. A man needs peace and partner, not an ATM-seeking harpy with issues.
Yup! Learned the hard way w my 1st college gf. After that I put my foot down and tell them like it is aa soon as the chananigans start! It works like a charm like you said, you better mean it though. Left one bc of that and my current wife is the mvp, just had to lay it down for her once!
PREACH!
The first time I traveled outside the United States to Mexico and Southeast Asia I must say it was like an alternative universe. It was amazing. By the time I came back home I had a new sense of worth. I had a new sense of hope and desire. It was life changing. I came back looking at these women back home that I used to try and date and I would just chuckle. It's a big world out there. If you are a man in America, you are in the gutter.
Absolutely. American women live in an alternate reality. When men see how traditional, feminine, attractive women actually used to be and still can be, it's like breathing fresh spring water for the first time. Men need to go abroad.
Yup I met fiance when touring Europe. I'm honestly traumatized by American women
europeans too no worry , and its in africa and asia as well , except they see opportunities in you thats why they treat u better dont be fooled if u bring them home ill be shocked how quick they will cheat on u , had a guy in a restaurant he was a head chef brought back an asian chick to uk ,not even need to tell immidiately started to fk with one of the chefs :D and he found out , he was raging n stayed w the chicks and fired the chef , loser :D he should bann the girl n thank it to the chef instead
@@torhbakalit908 That’s an amateur mistake. You never bring them back. Stay there. If it doesn’t workout you can find another in 20 minutes, or come back home and they can’t follow you. I will guarantee you that your problem will be trying not to cheat on them. That will be your challenge.
@@MDpart2 exactly :)
It's my neighbor.
She’s single.
She’s shapely and beautiful and she lives right across the street...
I watched her as she got home from work this evening.
I was surprised when she walked across the street, up my driveway and knocked on my door.
I opened the door, she looked at me and said, ”I just got home, and I have this strong urge to have a good time, get drunk, and have fun tonight. Are you doing anything?”
I quickly replied, “Nope, I’m free!”
“Great” she said. ”Can you watch my dog?”
Moscow, Russia
Sorry, that's kinda hilarious if true 😂
I laugh with sympathy 😂
I hope you said "Nope".
@@undefinedvariable8085
Actually I said "Yup" because dogs are always a lot happier to see me again than women ...
@@steelfanther328 Then she will never respect you. Enter the Friend Zone. Expect never ending favor requests, and expect nothing for them.
I'm a 35 year old guy with everything going for him. Can't get a date for anything. 5'11 tall, 150lb, bachelors + masters degree, mature, no kids, intelligent, financially successful.
Keep on doing you Courtney! Hopefully people will listen before the trend is too late
I'm a female, do you go out at least? I find this odd that you have these great qualities but can't get a date.
Where do you live you sound like a great guy. I'm a female
5'11 but 150 pounds means you are skin and bone. You don't have to go to the gym if you don't want, but I highly recommend you at least get into some intensive calisthenics to get basic muscle build and tone going. Not saying this to demean you, but the reality is that you are likely not attractive to women from a physical stand point.
@@someone-ji2zb yea I think you might be right. I’m 5’8 150 and people call me skinny , and say I need to gain weight all the time
@@jeremiahbryant123 I was in the same boat at 5'10 and 155, and luckily my brother, many years ago, said I looked like a I would blow away in a gentle breeze.
Those words made me think and kind of look at myself. And frankly I was weak. It wasn't just that I looked lame, I was lame. Even lifting a 40 lb water bottle package was difficult, and I was sick of it.
"**What we allow is what continues.**" Wise profound words, Courtney!
Or, worded a little differently, “What you allow, you encourage”
Anyone can get a date except for me and that's the way everyone wants it.
Which is why I gave up dating!
I just tried getting back into dating a couple months after I filed for a divorce. After being married, and out of it for 8 years, it's like I landed in the Twilight Zone. After a few months, I threw in the towel. After seeing the way people carry on these days, I can't motivate myself to fool with it. It's kinda sad that something that's supposed to be natural, and rewarding, has been turned into a total warzone. They can duke it out without me.
get that passport my guy
Totally agree with ya , it's like a bloody war zone out there , like Courtney said we just keep Butting heads together and going no where !!
Try to date again --but, NOT ONLINE! That's the most TOXIC place! There are good wmoen & men out here. We just have to look for them in the REAL world
This isn't just for romantic relationships. Modern life has skewed many people's perception of all relationships. From romantic, Familia, friendship.
Honestly, life is just easier and far less stressful when you're alone. I've been divorced for nearly 21 years, and I'll never go back to the plantation. I recently retired, and things got even better! I live off my pension and Social Security. No arguments, no disputes, no negotiations, no nagging, no compromises, no dirty looks, no yelling, no name-calling, no passive-aggressive behavior. Just peace. A man reaches a point in his life when he values peace and quiet more than a piece of anything else. Don't find out the hard way, as I did. 😊
I want a relationship, I just don’t want to be their number 1 or “god” to them. I just want to be their partner. That way I can actually be free to be myself.
As a relationship should be.
You’re not a ride or die, bae soulmate kinda guy?
Was Eve Adam’s partner?
Aww how a good boy William you are
@@CourtneyRyan what should be ??
Professional man here, I can confirm the fact that men do want relationships, the problem is they don't want it with women named spicy disaster.
😂😂😂
I've been there :-/
Yeah, you want a relationship. Just not with women, that are available to you. Same as women you complain about
More like, they don't want women who ARE such spicy disasters... Goodness gracious. Everyone's is a little messed up, but we don't have to hurt each other... Do we?
Courtney really understands the man's perspective on modern dating, relationships, and marriage. That's why I watch her channel. Keep up the good work and producing great content! Thanks!
Men do want relationships. The ones that don't want relationships are abusive assholes. But most incels want a relationship with a woman. We just can't get one.
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"Evil" is the antithesis to the virtue: 'humanity'. Humanity is the characteristic that defines the human spirit. Humanity is symbiosis across humans and society. 'Humanity' exceeds 'social-darwinism'.
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NEURO-PERSONALITY
.............................
"SENSORY-FEELERS" ARE LARGELY RESPONSIBLE FOR SPREADING DISINFORMATION AND HATE TOWARDS ENTJ/INTJ (AGAINST "THINKERS" IN GENERAL)-BOTH IRL AND ON THE INTERNET; DESPITE THOSE NEURO-PERSONALITY TYPES BEING A BLESSING TO SOCIETY AND ALL OF MANKIND! THEY DESERVE BETTER! 😤
'ESFJ', 'ESFP', ISFP and ISFJ are a pathogen to humanity, and 'then' Cluster-B (depending on they neuro-personality).
THEIR "FEELINGS 'IS' THEIR REALITY", THEY ALSO HAVE A MALICIOUS-MIND BY DEFAULT (excluding normal ISFJ). DESPITE HAVING MALICIOUS INTENT THEY ARE ALL EMOTIONALLY-WEAK AND PRONE TO COVERT/VULNERABLE-NARCISSISM.
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Also... To intelligent readers (who do 'not’ have a ‘pathological disregard for rationality and reality').
I recommend researching 'narcissistic personality disorder' (NPD) / 'cluster-B'; and know that they are the 'root of all evil' (especially 'ESFJ/ESTJ-narcissist'; Myers-Briggs reference, look it up)!
European 'ESFJ' are the worst personality type, and they are responsible for inventing 'racism' and colonization! It is in their neuro-psychology!!!
They are extremely 'manipulative' and often use 'looking pretty' to distract others from the witch's mind-games / mind-r@pe, e.g. gaslighting, playing the victim/damsel in distress, creating "flying-monkeys", and 'bribing' others (with money or BJ) to attack, or at times, kill someone for her. When caught, she will use her minions as scapegoats. European ESFJ are notorious for this especially in a racist context, e.g. Emmett Till.
xSFP and ISFJ (2W1) are the most complicit, narcissistic-enablers. ISFP also tend to be 'oblivious-codependents' (look up the definition). Like ESFJ, XSFP's "feelings 'is' their reality." Most are covert/vulnerable-narcissists.
ISFJ often perceive things only on the surface level (even by sensor standards), are suckers for a “pretty face", and their neuro-psychology makes them the ideal narcissitic-codependent and pawn to the ESFJ (blind-loyalty, surface level perception, susceptibility to covert-narcissism). Lastly, ISFJ are notorious for impersonating other people's identities IRL and on the internet.
SUMMARY
Evil personality: 'ESFJ' (ALL), ESTJ (Cluster-b), ISFJ-2W1 (covert-narc/enabler).
[Secretly] Evil and narcissist-friendly gunts/flying-monkey: ISFP (ALL), ESFP (ALL), and ISFJ (2W1 enable ESFJ).
☝️ALL of them are secretly emotionally-disturbed, hence their need to create conflict as a distraction (at other people's expense, truly evil).
Spread the word! Thank you.
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Research ref: Raudha Athif, Ghislaine Maxwell, Marilyn Monroe, Karen, ESFJ-narcissists, ESFJ-neurology, Gaslighting, Amber Heard, Fake feminism, Rising of a shield hero (Malty-'ESFJ'; XSFX spread disinformation online. ISFJ is the main culprit; ISFJ largely perceive things on the surface level), 'Brood-parasitism’- XSFJ natural psychology..
After a few years of marriage the mask comes off and then you see the real person. Many men stay for the children in misery. Society doesn't recognize how men sacrifice for their children by staying with narcissistic women.
Really? she's really understands man's perspective???? sorry but i still doubt that.
Yes take her advice and watch yourself being 50 and single.
There is no hope for any of you and I’m there to record it for future men to see.
I have been without a relationship for 7yrs. Recently I have discovered that the issue hasn't been me, but its been with women. My experience has been women flaking out on chats in online dating, and choosing to limit themselves by trying to only date the top tier. I had a date, where the woman walked out of the restaurant 5min after we were seated, because I didn't live in the city, but the suburbs.
Women refuse to believe that there are decent men who are not top tier, who might be more worth their time than the top tier. It's the feminism belief that women should only have and deserve the best, and the only men who are the best, are the ones in the top tier.
Meanwhile, guys like me, who are not top tier, but are successful, responsible, and have good lives, are reduced to a level of "2nd class undesirables" to most, if not all women.
they only learn when it's too late
I'm 52 and have been single for about 23 years. I started looking for a relationship 3 years ago but so far all I have found are women that want money, looks, unrealistic sexual expecttions, or material things. I'm 6ft 1in, eat healthy, workout, take care of myself but none of that seem to matter, so as of right now, I'm better off by myself instead of having the drama or materialistic women in my life. I treat women as equals and not trying to trash anyone, I'm simply speaking from the last 3 years of experience. Maybe one day I will find that right person, but until then I will continue to live my life. I can't believe how much people have changed in 23 years and all of the drama that goes on. I just want a drama free life with someone else that just want to be happy and enjoy life. Men want relationships, women just need to get their priorities straight. Men aren't perfect either and have their own issues to deal with. Maybe someday we will be able to all live together in happiness and harmony and get rid of the drama and superficial ideas and wants. MEN DO WANT RELATIONSHIPS! I just don't want someone that has tried out every other guy before they get to me. I have standards, but until women start to have the same types of standards it really don't mean much to me. I don't just sleep with women and move on, I'm looking for something meaningful that will last. I'm too old for stupid childish games and rediculous expectations.
@Josh Hernandez LOL, to true. I agree with what you're saying. Most, not all, American women are just disrespectful, no matter how well you treat them.
@Josh Hernandez LOL, too true. I agree with what you're saying. Most American women, not all, are just downright disrespectful no matter how well treat them or what you do for them. It's sad really, but it's the reality of thus new "feminist" thing they have going on these days.
I can say that as a man I recognize my own horrible taste in a partner and that also has everything to do with me and I've actively stepped away from any attempt at a relationship with anyone in that capacity till I can sort out my own issues
Perfectly said, same here!
Teach me. because when I _think_ this woman might be perfect for me,
_SHe's turns out absolute betch_
@L' Avatr was that reply for me? I'm just curious I'm an easily confused dude sorry it's not for a lack of intelligence just I like clarity
Well done you
Amazing. I'll incorporate this to my arsenal
"try being kind and sweet and nice and not bring drama into their life". She is not wrong honestly
🤣just be kind bro
I know this video is a little older but Courtney you are a legend. You are a blessing to men who need to hear the truth about dating/women. Like you said yourself, videos like this can help women just as much too, but I really like your balanced and well judged approach to modern dating/relationships and it always helps clear my head of the bs that floods social media normally. Every blessing to you!
I've recently accepted my demons of 8 years ago that actually put me in a bad place.
I can only speak for myself (I'm 31 and not experienced intimacy), but I'm not afraid to be single until the right woman comes along. I don't crave any relationship, I still have parts of me I need to build, and if it's gonna take a bit longer to get where I'm going, well, then it has to be
Peace and strength to you, Brother - you will prevail.
@Eddie Willers it's weird. I feel the fear in every aspect and still go in every aspect of my life, but where women are concerned I still freeze hahaha
@@declangill5138 focus on yourself brother. That’s always when the right one comes along. I thought it was bullshit. But you truly do find a partner when you’re not looking for one
@Xavier Jones there's one girl I like in my acting class. I get a vibe she likes me too, but equally, I get a vibe that I make her uncomfortable. It's frustrating lol
@@declangill5138 Do not chase her, focus on yourself bro. Improve yourself.
I'm from the UK, England to be more precise. More and more men here (young and old) are opting out of serious relationships....and it's for a few reasons. The main one is that they can't be bothered with it, sounds crazy, but's it's true. Many men here are looking for ways out of what is considered traditional types of relationships, many like me work online and can be location independent and are spending more time abroad (mainly South East Asia and South America). The cost of living is cheaper and meeting women is a lot easier....I'm starting to feel a bit sorry for women in the west.
England is a nightmare. I spent 3 years there. Most women are average or below, but they think a bit of make up makes them supermodels. Also they are like ladettes, very unfeminine
Mate, don't scare me like this. I just moved here from Asia.
So you and the people in your circle just want to be whores. Got it. Just feel free to not further contribute to the garbage by bitching about how you can't find a woman to be with after you've finished giving out street meat.
@@hotpockets69 Well I wouldn't call myself a man whore, I just see it as having many more options. It's not that I cant find a woman here, I can, and have....my options increase 10 fold on another continent. I'm not just talking about options with women, my currency can go along way abroad.
@@airynod I'm not trying to scare anyone, It's just that South East Asia has offered me so much over the last 7 years.
Unrealistic expectations, Standards and preferences are what’s wrong with the dating world now
They are delusional and unrealistic.
You're so right, you know something? You're better off single, keep all your assets and wealth to yourself, if you do meet a woman you want to marry, make her sign a Pre-Nup.
The expectations are set sky-high on purpose. Young women don't really want to settle down with anyone at all.
Very true and having modern technology, as well as these dating apps that provide them endless attention. As a result, women end up having false hopes and expectations. A lot of women think they can always do better to the point they get little to no attention and that isn’t good for their own mental health and wellbeing. Surely if you both like each other and there is a strong connection, then that should be enough.
Yes, a woman that isn't pure, is slightly above average in looks, and wants to be a house wife wants a millionaire. Well guess what? I eat cheetos, live with my mom, and have no job and I want a Victoria secret model. There we go, now we can both live in delusion.
It’s true. We really all do need to do honest self reflection. A lot of issues would be solved if we were able to take accountability for ourselves. Too bad they didn’t teach us that in school
I don’t know but as a guy who spent most of his life alone, i’m getting used to it. I’m not willing to devote part of my time to someone else anymore. Maybe i found peace when being alone that i couldn’t find anywhere else. Guys are afraid of commitment because that would limit their freedom. Could be a valid reason.
Also to avoid heartbreak. Got out of 3 serious relationships the past 2 years and they all ended the same. Dumping me for someone else
True, it's not all sadness and loneliness. There is so much freedom to do what you want when you want, to spend your own money on what you want, when you want. To do as much or as little in any given day as you want. It can be liberating especially after a toxic relationship.
Especially seeing how damaging the marriage of my parents was for the whole family, I've also accepted and rather stay alone for the rest of my life. I would never try to have kids in a toxic relationship and traumatize them forever by not being able to create a good relationship and stable household. I'm only ashamed for not being able to continue the bloodline and last name of my father and grandfather, but maybe it's the right thing to do as that's how natural selection works - only the worthy can survive.
get that passport my guy
Courtney, I've watched a ton of your videos as someone that's been a "1 hit wonder" on the dating side and this one really resonated with me as someone that's done a ton of codependency work. It's so easy for people to blame others than to reflect on themselves and social media makes it so easy to share opinions. Opinions aren't facts. Just because someone shares an opinion that you agree with, doesn't make it a fact.
The only way to truly know what someone wants is to ask them and trust their response. Painting everyone with the same brush is wrong and the world would be a better place if more people realized that. Thank you for being a champion of this!
You also mentioned the "mirror test" which is awesome. "Would I live up to the standards of what I want to see in a partner and date myself?". If the answer is no, then the next question is, "why would anyone else?"
Keep up the great content!
I think women in their 20's are immature in a relationship. When they reach their 30's and 40's, they mature more in a relationship and it might to be too late because he might see you that you have too much baggage.
I think this is true for many.
Yep, they ride the carousel in their 20s, when they hit the wall, they have no choice but to settle and use a man for his money. So the decent guys they rejected in their youth are left with a used up woman with baggage. It's like getting sloppy seconds.
Men don’t value “maturity” in women (which typically translates to sexual experience). They value virtue, youth, friendliness, and submissiveness. Because men and women are different, they value different things which in turn defines the differences with sexual market value.
Especially if they're fresh out of college. They should find their professional man there and leave us serious regular guys out of it.
For men seeking relationships at least the majority , we want to have a family. Women in their 30s and 40s that window is very small or non existent. Plus you want to be with someone for at least a few years to make sure your compatible. It’s a tough pill to swallow for women but so is being a man who’s short, fat , broke, ugly, bald.
There isn't a person in this world that wouldn't have a better day if they knew that they had someone to hug, kiss and see their smile.
We want relationships, but we don't want to have to compete with anyone's past.
It’s not just compete, but we’re also expected to not only accept but embrace her past. Many women insist it makes them more attractive and valuable, oblivious to the fact we find that behavior absolutely disgusting in the context of a serious relationship.
I also doubt women want that. No one wants to compete in that way.
@@user-kcrpineI told my last gf to never mention her past to me but she still did it anyways 🤷♂️
I think men are just tired of the demand’s and expectations……it gets tiring …..most have stopped caring and just do what makes us happy unfortunately.
Exactly and these same women bring nothing to the table
we going overseas for real women
@@chriscast329it's fucked everywhere
i love your content
💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾
Good for you, most western women have forgotten that it should be a two-way street.
And what about men? Y’all aren’t worth the trouble anymore. Took a good look at yourself first
If what you say is true, stay a virgin (if you're not a used sloot). Otherwise no self respecting man will ever take you.
@@HKona7 lol what type are you looking for
I have divorced twice. I had two other serious relationships in my life. I ended both marriages and both relationships due to their infidelities. All of these women brought me stress and not peace. Complained rather then reassured. They spent more then they brought into the relationship. Brought criticism rather then support. Now I am 50 and relationships are not worth it.
now you are free. Freedom is great.
@@tomkrzyt it really is.
all I ever got from women most of my life is disrespect, insults, and stress, I was never right for anyone I guess, at SWM at 68, it's game over quit dating at 46, most women put guys in the friend zone and stop there
I am an older guy, many of the same discussions happened 10 or 20 (or more) years ago. The difference is that it wasn't all over UA-cam or TikTok so people didn't get as wound up. Courtney Ryan has some very good advice, the kind of things parents should be discussing with children. I think in our modern culture people don't have time to pass on this kind of knowledge. IMO two keys: 1) Every person is an individual, don't over generalize and 2) Use your dating for learning and refine your wants and needs in a partner. Chances are by the time you reach 30 your list of "must haves" for a partner will be entirely different than at age 22.
Very wise!
There’s an old saying: when someone brings nothing to the table, they expect YOU to fill the table.
A lot of people are just *exhausting* nowadays.
🫠 true lol
Oh, a lot of people have always been exhausting. The difference is now they can be loud and exhausting where everyone can see them.
THIS! And some just want to be at the table because everyone else is doing it not because they're hungry.
Bingo bongo.
Love this
2:55 - You know the topic is serious when Courtney out of nowhere does an engagement ring flex.
😂😭
@@CourtneyRyan .............................
"Evil" is the antithesis to the virtue: 'humanity'. Humanity is the characteristic that defines the human spirit. Humanity is symbiosis across humans and society. 'Humanity' exceeds 'social-darwinism'.
.............................
NEURO-PERSONALITY
.............................
"SENSORY-FEELERS" ARE LARGELY RESPONSIBLE FOR SPREADING DISINFORMATION AND HATE TOWARDS ENTJ/INTJ (AGAINST "THINKERS" IN GENERAL)-BOTH IRL AND ON THE INTERNET; DESPITE THOSE NEURO-PERSONALITY TYPES BEING A BLESSING TO SOCIETY AND ALL OF MANKIND! THEY DESERVE BETTER! 😤
'ESFJ', 'ESFP', ISFP and ISFJ are a pathogen to humanity, and 'then' Cluster-B (depending on they neuro-personality).
THEIR "FEELINGS 'IS' THEIR REALITY", THEY ALSO HAVE A MALICIOUS-MIND BY DEFAULT (excluding normal ISFJ). DESPITE HAVING MALICIOUS INTENT THEY ARE ALL EMOTIONALLY-WEAK AND PRONE TO COVERT/VULNERABLE-NARCISSISM.
...............................
Also... To intelligent readers (who do 'not’ have a ‘pathological disregard for rationality and reality').
I recommend researching 'narcissistic personality disorder' (NPD) / 'cluster-B'; and know that they are the 'root of all evil' (especially 'ESFJ/ESTJ-narcissist'; Myers-Briggs reference, look it up)!
European 'ESFJ' are the worst personality type, and they are responsible for inventing 'racism' and colonization! It is in their neuro-psychology!!!
They are extremely 'manipulative' and often use 'looking pretty' to distract others from the witch's mind-games / mind-r@pe, e.g. gaslighting, playing the victim/damsel in distress, creating "flying-monkeys", and 'bribing' others (with money or BJ) to attack, or at times, kill someone for her. When caught, she will use her minions as scapegoats. European ESFJ are notorious for this especially in a racist context, e.g. Emmett Till.
xSFP and ISFJ (2W1) are the most complicit, narcissistic-enablers. ISFP also tend to be 'oblivious-codependents' (look up the definition). Like ESFJ, XSFP's "feelings 'is' their reality." Most are covert/vulnerable-narcissists.
ISFJ often perceive things only on the surface level (even by sensor standards), are suckers for a “pretty face", and their neuro-psychology makes them the ideal narcissitic-codependent and pawn to the ESFJ (blind-loyalty, surface level perception, susceptibility to covert-narcissism). Lastly, ISFJ are notorious for impersonating other people's identities IRL and on the internet.
SUMMARY
Evil personality: 'ESFJ' (ALL), ESTJ (Cluster-b), ISFJ-2W1 (covert-narc/enabler).
[Secretly] Evil and narcissist-friendly gunts/flying-monkey: ISFP (ALL), ESFP (ALL), and ISFJ (2W1 enable ESFJ).
☝️ALL of them are secretly emotionally-disturbed, hence their need to create conflict as a distraction (at other people's expense, truly evil).
Spread the word! Thank you.
___________
Research ref: Raudha Athif, Ghislaine Maxwell, Marilyn Monroe, Karen, ESFJ-narcissists, ESFJ-neurology, Gaslighting, Amber Heard, Fake feminism, Rising of a shield hero (Malty-'ESFJ'; XSFX spread disinformation online. ISFJ is the main culprit; ISFJ largely perceive things on the surface level), 'Brood-parasitism’- XSFJ natural psychology..
Male game is the ability to attract women, female game is the ability to retain a man and get him to commit. So for women, it's the ultimate flex.
Wow, refreshing video! Underscores the need for each party to understand what their values are and how they would like to be treated (Golden Rule), before they enter into the dating scene. And the bit about projection is, I believe, very accurate. We often apply motives to other people's actions, and these motives are constructed based upon our own personal history. I've been married to the same woman for 26 years and I find that I am becoming an increasingly rare phenomenon. Those 26 years have taught me a lot of things, but chief among them is that the fairytale romance is just that: a fairytale. Sure you'll have romantic memories (my wife and I honeymooned in Paris -- very romantic), but for a relationship to work takes work. If you continue to deceive yourself thinking "Oh it shouldn't be this hard... etc etc" you will jump from partner to partner (maybe a serial monogamist?). It sucks, but life is hard. But it's a little less hard when you're working on it together with your beloved.
Relationships are for giving. If you're standing there trying to see what you get out of it you've already lost. If you take more than what you give then you've already lost. And if you give nothing and still expect everything you've already lost.
Amen Dev
What if both people give more than they take to the point of only giving and NEVER taking? Yeah, answer that one.
@@Concatenate that makes no sense. Either both parties put in 100% or none. Power shifts to either side and the balance is thrown off
Brilliant
@@Concatenate
That is a tragic and real scenario that *should* be preventable, except that too often one or both parties can't (or won't, often due to trust issues) communicate their own needs honestly and respectfully, or respect that the other person's needs really are different than their own.
It takes more than generosity, it also takes (reciprocal) honesty and respect.
6'5 , blue eyes, close to 100k and still hard to find a female who wants a serious relationship.. it's all just luck and who you come across unfortunately. People think over 6ft. Or $$ and you can find a good relationship not true. It's the generation and social media and everyone things their is better out there. Get lucky and find someone genuine is the key 🔑
Close to 100K ain't gonna cut it, bro. Haven't you heard some of these interviews? They want 500K dudes, lol. You're only an inch away and 400+K away from being perfect. Oh wait, blue eyes, you need to have one blue and the other hazel. Then you'll be perfect. Don't worry, man, you'll get there.
i think its just generalisations, on average you will have higher chances attracting a high-value women than someone who does not have your attributes. Doesn't mean you particularly could also have bad luck. But i guess it is getting harder for everybody for sure
@A B haha true I just need 400k more and some better luck to attract a women that's a 6 😂😂😂😂
@@Concatenate Haha. Do they not realize, that only 2% of men across the world earn 500k a year. Not only that, but men on average don't even hit six figures until they hit their 50's lol. And these women are 6's, and they're competing with younger women who are 9's who are also after these same 500k a year men. I earn a little over 50k a year, which is considered average, and I'm usually shun. Good thing, I have some height, and a ripped physique with a 6-pack. That's the only reason I remain in the game lol. If you don't have looks and or money, then you're pretty much screwed.
I think you have the same problem that a lot of women do: they go for guys that don't want serious relationships because all of them have options. It happens when they are good looking. One of my personal creeds is that a woman with 4 looks and 10 personality is >> than a woman with 10 looks and 4 personality.
It's a quarter past 1am in Malaysia & i almost fell asleep listening to Ms Courtney feminine voice 🤣. Anyway just my personal opinion, most men & women deep inside their hearts all want a stable, happy & long lasting relationship & marriage. It's just that due to society stigma, hook-up culture, making horrible decisions etc, it's all messed up now
I generally think some of these things are overblown, but this video has good advice and commentary.
Not all women think or believe like the woman in the Tik Tok video; but, there are some that do, and men do the same too, have similar excuses.
They can
A) Blame all others, the universe is wrong, all men are wrong, and I am right.
Or B) I am making mistakes, going about this wrong, have wrong ideas.
Guys that that think "All women want a tall, hot man with money, and then divorce him," is a background belief and mindset that is a turn off. This is a self-fulfilling guarantee women won't like the man. This bad outlook will seep out no matter how they try to cover it up. The man has problems. The woman will figure it out.
So too, women who say "Men don't want relationships..." is a person with a bitter, bad attitude and they will not attract good men. Good men will be repelled by this woman. She is driving good men away. Who would want to be with the woman in the Tik Tok video!?
Life isn't a meme.
There is waaaay, way too much simplistic thinking going on with men and women with these outlooks.
If you are not attracting the right people, the problem is you.
True that, men are not intimidated or afraid of women, except for the guys that have never talked to any female other than their mother, we are either annoyed disgusted or disappointed. Not at all intimidated.
Mostly disappointed typically.
I might fall under disgusted, and if I see a few things, I'll already know they're fucked in the head (more depth later, I'm still watching the video)
I actually needed to hear this. I used to be the one Courtney mentioned about hating the opposite sex. After being cheated on by my ex girlfriend, followed by 2 more “situationships” that ended up getting no where and getting me taken advantage of, I not only called it quits on dating, but actively carried resentment towards women for a whole year and made it my personal conviction that women are the problem. Of course, the year long loneliness and the increasing weight that it carried made me realize I was the problem in almost every relationship. It truly came down to how I carried myself, the lack of communication from my part, and the unrealistic expectations I had set that I had to tone back a bit. While it’s extremely difficult for me, I’m re-entering the dating market once again with a positive mindset (somewhat) While I’m careful, I’m still hopeful things will work out for me in the long run.
Well, any relationship takes hard work. It's about that simple. Good luck.
well basing your opinion of an entire species on your own foolish decisions is never wise. glad you got over it
Amen brother, That negativity really burns you. I had similar issues where I set out with life goals that would leave me wealthy enough to easily support a good sized family before I was 30, By some miracle I smashed those goals out of the park but all I got was gold diggers and ice queens taking advantage of me and screwing me around, its almost like the percentage of good women has shrunk in the past few decades.
@@jkaugust3586 But modern women don't like hard work.
Believe me bro sometimes no matter what you do it will not be enough for some people. Do not blame yourself for somebody's bad action, cheating and taking advantage somone is not the solution. Just set proper boundaries and expectations. Look for red flags and do not be affraid to walk away that is the power that men have. Honestly I would not date because there are a lot of broken women out there and modern women are not raised to be good wives.
I'm a man, and I sure as hell want to be in a relationship. The problem is that I just can't seem to find a girl who is actually interested in dating me. I sometimes wonder why I can't find love. After all, I think I am a decently attractive guy, and I also have a university education which is something that many guys don't have. I also happen to be autistic which impairs my social skills, and I really wish women could see past that. It's just depressing to me because I'm 27 years old, and I still haven't found my partner. I have only been in one relationship, and that was back when I was in high school, so it's been about a decade now since I've dated.
Don’t chase women. Chase your dreams, and the women will chase you.
In all seriousness, woman like ambition, and they like knowing you have other passions and aren’t going to rely on them exclusively for happiness.
Good luck buddy!
go overseas brother. u will find many women. SE asia, africa, south america, u will find what u are looking for
Everything you're saying is so real this is the reason why you're going to be a marriage woman That's the reason why your husband saw the potential in you and made that commitment to you so fast you are one of the very few rare gems out here I wish you the best in your marriage
Thanks for sticking up for us Courtney!
It’s not about men versus women. It’s about human versus human. Be a good human and look for another good human to do life with.
I want a relationship with a woman. A deep and profound relationship. The men that don't want relationships only want sex cause they're impulsive pigs.
@@DestinyAwaits19 Unfortunately, there's been a lot of misinformation flying around for generations on this subject. I think a lot of us are growing out of it. Let's keep our fingers crossed.
@@MekonenMeteor123 yeah!
This channel should be required viewing before any dating period. 👏👏
Im 33 and this past Friday here in Chicago, I went to dinner with a friend of 15 years to an Italian Spot. We went to highschool together (class of 07/08) and she and i were talking about how people are so different from not too long ago. Our parents before us and ourselves never had this type of interaction on social media where people have so many others on the back burner. We also noticed sitting around us the amount of beautiful women at multiple tables within their own parties. we noticed this was not the case in our late teens or early 20s… it was really odd not seeing men at one of these tables. None of them new each other but each table had the same display, beautiful women with Expensive high heels on, burberry purses and super tight leggings and every perfume from Nordstrom you could spray… & God only knows what the F they were sharing with one another ….the only people we noticed on dates was a couple here n there and they were older in their 50s-70s…. These single women were all around 20-45ish….. really fuckin sad. Ladies this cant be the move, even the girl i was with was telling me how bizarre that lifestyle is.. & Let me add, you only see this here in America, I have been to Europe multiple times, and Latin America…. Women do go out in groups but not in volumes where their thoughts are to be Boss Babes…
Most likely a lesbian fest
Sounds like those women were probably looking to get swept off their feet by millionaires. I might be wrong but it seems like that's what things have come to.
A lot of women hate men because they only dated abusive or hugely egotistical men. It's what they're attracted to. Nice guys don't get them excited. They have the luxury in 2023 to date the exciting guys who aren't looking for long term stuff because it's a liability if you don't have the right one. But women also think they can change these guys and it's not right to change people. People should think more about who they are spending their time with. This includes guys who are looking for a mate. Have expectations boundaries on how you want to that person to be in your life but also be realistic and live up to those standards yourself.
That's because throughout university, the men their age had it drilled into their collective skulls NOT to go anywhere NEAR then, lest they risk expulsion via perceived impropriety, resulting in loss of scholarships, loss of right to refund, and still responsible for the student loans.
Yeah, the university can both expel a student and keep the money.
Now tell me, what man would dare glance their way under those conditions?
@@evansmith8824 The type of woman who prefers violent men is not going to complain about her experience and start hating men because of what she wanted at first place. These are tough women, it's their lifestyle. But there are women who pretend and when they get hurt create the whole drama about it.
This is what you should take away from this, when she said "I finally matured and realized it's not that men are intimidated by me, it's that they don't like me". That's the truth, I'm not intimidated by any of you, personally I don't like most of you.
All true. That is why I stopped dating years ago. Not that I don't want to get married, but it would take a real partner.
Have you considered exploring beyond these shores? It doesn’t have to be American, or Western. Look further, mate!
I want a relationship, but not right away. Not immediately. I recently got out of something...not sure what it was. We went one one date and the next day she said we were in a relationship. I want to get to know someone before I make that kind of commitment. Every day she'd text me a "cosmo" level relationship quiz. My defenses went up fast. I'd never dated someone that was in a relationship from the first date. She had a lot of red flags. She then sent me a breakup message followed by a week of texts apologizing and wanting to get back together. Week ended with a video call of her in tears. First thing in the morning. I ended up blocking her everywhere.
Oh and the "gay" thing in the video. I had a woman I was dating back in the 90's stop a date right in the middle and said "you don't date a lot...have you ever thought you might be gay?". Um...no...and don't let the door hit you as you leave.
Oh, please Jason! Don't make us wait any more than we already have! The longing!!
My brother in laws mom asked me that when I said no I’m dating right now. She said are you gay jooking of course but I still feel she kinda meant it not as a joke
What's worse than staying single is to find one of the women exhibiting the bad traits and deciding to go for it anyway. Then you lose yourself trying to be the mate she wants instead of the mate you are. If you are LUCKY, she will realize what you could both have and see the light. Usually, you just end up being a backseat provider. Single is better. Adopt if you have to. Don't settle for the backseat. It only works if you both sit up front and take turns driving.
I think I was 15 when I first came across the idea that being in a happy, fulfilling relationship is less about finding the right person than about being the right person. Of course, I took this too far and ended up trying to “fix” relationships that had deteriorated past the point of repair, but I did eventually learn those boundaries too.
None of us are perfect, and if your dating history is littered with problems… we’ll, you are part of that problem too. The one constant in all of your relationships is that you are in them.
What's scary is that the "becoming the right person" can screw you over too. It did for me. I was so certain that I would be the weak link in my relationship so I became a guy who earns, cooks, cleans, is emotionally responsive, etc (not perfect but I wanted to be a great partner). Then it still wasn't enough because my ex had no skin in the game because she didn't feel needed and became disengaged. Then she cheated and we divorced. There is a balance of improving yourself (the most important) and having expectations of your partner(secondary). The key is both parties have to have self improvement as the primary and expectations as a secondary (if even secondary) goal. Just my thoughts seeing your comment.
@@gellister yes, the hard part is knowing what “being the right person” means, especially right now. We are in a transition period where the old, dysfunctional, misogynistic relationship dynamic has been rejected but still has influence over the dating scene and our expectations of relationships and of ourselves. Meanwhile, we are still trying to find a stable and understandable relationship dynamic that is more reflective of two people coming together as equals with respect for each other. It’s confusing, especially for a young person who is trying to come to terms with a dating scene and social dynamics that are in flux at the moment. Add to that a whole lot of grifters making money off young guys by telling them that being an arsehole is a guaranteed way to get the woman they want…
My advice to everyone is simple: be the best version of yourself, be happy with yourself and every positive relationship you have will flow from that. If there is something you want to change (eg “I wish I knew how to approach and talk to women”) then learn the skills to do that but don’t try to be someone else when doing it.
Absolutely TRUE
Cute, kind, and feminine women who take care for themselves are NEVER single. If a woman is single, then there is always a good reason for it.
For some women it's because they are tired of men's crap. For me it was partly that plus I went to a Baptist Church for a long time. The man who I thought I would marry and vice versa when I was in my twenties left me for his co-worker. He claimed that I did nothing wrong to make him want to leave and use me while he was with her. I am meeting men, even in my age group, who don't have any interest in anything serious.
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"Evil" is the antithesis to the virtue: 'humanity'. Humanity is the characteristic that defines the human spirit. Humanity is symbiosis across humans and society. 'Humanity' exceeds 'social-darwinism'.
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NEURO-PERSONALITY
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"SENSORY-FEELERS" ARE LARGELY RESPONSIBLE FOR SPREADING DISINFORMATION AND HATE TOWARDS ENTJ/INTJ (AGAINST "THINKERS" IN GENERAL)-BOTH IRL AND ON THE INTERNET; DESPITE THOSE NEURO-PERSONALITY TYPES BEING A BLESSING TO SOCIETY AND ALL OF MANKIND! THEY DESERVE BETTER! 😤
'ESFJ', 'ESFP', ISFP and ISFJ are a pathogen to humanity, and 'then' Cluster-B (depending on they neuro-personality).
THEIR "FEELINGS 'IS' THEIR REALITY", THEY ALSO HAVE A MALICIOUS-MIND BY DEFAULT (excluding normal ISFJ). DESPITE HAVING MALICIOUS INTENT THEY ARE ALL EMOTIONALLY-WEAK AND PRONE TO COVERT/VULNERABLE-NARCISSISM.
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Also... To intelligent readers (who do 'not’ have a ‘pathological disregard for rationality and reality').
I recommend researching 'narcissistic personality disorder' (NPD) / 'cluster-B'; and know that they are the 'root of all evil' (especially 'ESFJ/ESTJ-narcissist'; Myers-Briggs reference, look it up)!
European 'ESFJ' are the worst personality type, and they are responsible for inventing 'racism' and colonization! It is in their neuro-psychology!!!
They are extremely 'manipulative' and often use 'looking pretty' to distract others from the witch's mind-games / mind-r@pe, e.g. gaslighting, playing the victim/damsel in distress, creating "flying-monkeys", and 'bribing' others (with money or BJ) to attack, or at times, kill someone for her. When caught, she will use her minions as scapegoats. European ESFJ are notorious for this especially in a racist context, e.g. Emmett Till.
xSFP and ISFJ (2W1) are the most complicit, narcissistic-enablers. ISFP also tend to be 'oblivious-codependents' (look up the definition). Like ESFJ, XSFP's "feelings 'is' their reality." Most are covert/vulnerable-narcissists.
ISFJ often perceive things only on the surface level (even by sensor standards), are suckers for a “pretty face", and their neuro-psychology makes them the ideal narcissitic-codependent and pawn to the ESFJ (blind-loyalty, surface level perception, susceptibility to covert-narcissism). Lastly, ISFJ are notorious for impersonating other people's identities IRL and on the internet.
SUMMARY
Evil personality: 'ESFJ' (ALL), ESTJ (Cluster-b), ISFJ-2W1 (covert-narc/enabler).
[Secretly] Evil and narcissist-friendly gunts/flying-monkey: ISFP (ALL), ESFP (ALL), and ISFJ (2W1 enable ESFJ).
☝️ALL of them are secretly emotionally-disturbed, hence their need to create conflict as a distraction (at other people's expense, truly evil).
Spread the word! Thank you.
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Research ref: Raudha Athif, Ghislaine Maxwell, Marilyn Monroe, Karen, ESFJ-narcissists, ESFJ-neurology, Gaslighting, Amber Heard, Fake feminism, Rising of a shield hero (Malty-'ESFJ'; XSFX spread disinformation online. ISFJ is the main culprit; ISFJ largely perceive things on the surface level), 'Brood-parasitism’- XSFJ natural psychology..
@@Anonymousejfi3jdujejejdieo Maybe you have some other issue you are not aware off then? I did two research studies on this topic. In one study where people should identify the three most attractive women they know personally, they had to write down the relationship status of these women. Out of over 600 women identified in this study, all of them, 100% were in relationships. Not even the exception to the rule was there. Highly attractive women are not single. And personally, I made the same (sad) experience. Over the years, travelling the world, I encountered 214 women who I found very attractive when talking to them. All of them were in long-term relationships, usually married. So, although I never in my life got rejected by a woman, I was still not able to find a loving partner. All women I liked were taken; no exception. No opportunity to flirt, no opportunity to get into a suitable relationship.
@@ProfWho-ut5he Story of my life bra
My wife was single for a year+ before we shacked up. She’s a 10, it’s hereditary.
I have been single a long time 13 years in fact. I was married for 25 years and divorced amicably. I would like to be in a relationship once again but would rather be alone than with the wrong person. I'm still single because I have yet to meet someone who is right for me. I have met plenty of nice women but yet to meet a woman who is the right fit for me and yes it works both ways. I don't look for a relationship I look for a real connection. No shortage of sex but getting past the lust phase is harder than getting to it in my experience.
Congratulations on getting engaged. With your insight on relationships, I hope you have a wonderful marriage.
We will see. Women are women, if a few try and get to "our level". None of them will ever understand. They are not wired for it.
I was 26 dating a 30 something year old woman who's best friend was getting married to a man who had just finished dental school and was finally starting his own practice. For some reason she was compelled to share with me that she had been withholding sex from this gentleman while sharing herself with other men freely, and both were somehow proud or bragging of the fact. Needless to say my relationship ended within a short amount of time after that. She bought the business that she worked at and runs it successfully to this day and tries to reach out to me from time to time. I want nothing to do with that. My only regret was not pilling the dude at his wedding but I didn't last long enough to attend. Basically got a uhaul and ghosted the the state. She never figured out why I lost interest so quickly.
0:55 FACTS this is what I keep saying to these 'independent, I got my own money, car, house, I don't need no man, why am I single' girls - it's like sure... live your best life... but I'm not trying to date myself, I already got all this covered why are we doubling up and creating redundant skills in our relationship? I want a relationship with a woman who compliments me, who can do the things I can't do and likes to do the things I don't like to - as far as responsibilities etc. go anyway - then the recreational and fun stuff it's good to be aligned, that's how we get balance and balance breeds stability.
12:54 so true. I recently turned 30, I woke up one Sunday after a great party and a night with a girl. I never felt lonelier in my life. Did I have fun? Of course, but in the end I wasn’t completely happy. The very next week I decided to formalice with the girl I’ve been kinda dating for months, I’ve never been happier in my life. I feel complete now. I decided to choose quality over quantity, that was the wisest thing I’ve done. You need to move forward, you can’t get stuck forever in the hookup culture, otherwise you will end lonely and miserable.
Hookup culture truly is toxic and leaves people feeling unfulfilled. For so long I felt like it’s been promoted as just have fun and not stressed enough that it’s only a temporary high. I’m glad more and more people are talking about the negative aspect of hook up culture.
Please tell that to the men. I know men in their 40s still acting like they are 18 lol
@@cha9165 this
*I’m mid 30s, married and I haven’t had friends since I graduated college in 2011.* I’ve known my wife since 2009. If she died, I wouldn’t seek to date or love anyone moving forward. I’d just rather raise my kids and die alone than search. Even the friends market is trash.
I enjoyed listening to you, more young adults should pay attention. I am 69 years old I got married at 35 years old and still love my wife tonight I do not understand the generation coming behind me they need your help
I’m 60. Something happened between 1972 & 1981, and I think it was feminism coming of age in the Eighties Ladies that I grew up with. I think they watched too many John Hughes films.
Feminism has and will continue to destroy the west.
Hi, I’ve spoken to many women who say they don’t need a man they can’t support themselves, they don’t need no man for nothing, I leave them alone!
As someone in your age bracket (just under 30) and a female in a long term, committed relationship, I agree with you that it’s not all men don’t want relationships, it’s just values don’t align and hook up culture makes it easy to keep the divide there, plus the non-committal aspect of it too.
For the men who are working on themselves and listening to Courtney, keep it up, and I promise, us women aren’t all like the girls we all see online, complaining about “all men”.
How do you deal with a girl who has daddy issues
@@daveenadams588 tell her that daddy wasnt an authority on chit and that you can give her what daddy couldnt
@@rickmorgan1441 lol
So us men are just supposed to take your word on it and pray that it doesn’t end in a divorce, alimony, and child support? Seems like an unnecessary risk.
14:32 - I am exhausted. The entire dynamic that exists is why I stopped trying. It weasels its way into every aspect of my life when I’m riddled with anxiety and tired of trying so hard. I just gave up!
"What we allow is what continues." ... "Have self-respect, boundaries, and be realistic". Best advice ever, Courtney.
Great point:BOTH men & women need to look in the mirror & ask yourself "Am I the quality person that a quality partner would want?" It's a crucial process to go through. (I say this as a woman, over 50, starting to thin k about dating again: step 1: I just joined the gym (already lost almost 60 pounds--but, want to tone up & feel good) 2.doing a lot of soul-searching about what is I need in a partner and what I caan most bring to another person. I find Courtney INSPIRING
Courtney, I think this is the most powerful video that you have made so far. So much so I'm not sure that it can be topped. It's grounded, to the point, and extremely helpful. It really commands attention. Thank you for being you.
I want a relationship, but I'm not going to settle for "just my turn". I want just mine.
No man should. Any woman that wouldnt date you exclusively during their prime doesnt deserve your time of day.
If they are in need for emotional support give them in the way they want , don’t condescend . I was dealing with serious medical issues and I just wanted her to be around me to feel supported , she pretty much scoffed at that idea , I had loved her and her non chalant response stabbed me so deep in heart that I developed so much conflict inside , between love for her and what I saw in her behavior that lacked any empathy for me , or wanting to be there for me , I would have been for her if I was asked by her and she was dealing with what I was and am. I have gotten hurt and skeptical of ever falling in love again
feel that. the ex did the same to me
@@puremaledark8305 there is evil out there , covert narcissists are the worst as so hard to see their true face until they stab you in the heart
Join the club !
You are ( not ) alone bud !
Married 33 years , worked 60-80 hours a week to provide her a nice house , new car , and stay at home from before kids , during kids , and long after they moved out .
I drove crap cars from the 1960’s and 1970’s with no a/c and some no heat ,
She wanted MORE !
I finally said get a job - I can’t work any MORE HOURS .
She punishes me by hooking up with “ Chad “ alcoholic in a mobile home and divorced me and got a lawyer and took EVERYTHING !
But - there IS a God , and he replaced EVERYTHING she stole , and MUCH MORE !
Work on you !
Watch Rich Cooper “ Entrepreneurs In Cars “ - Courtney has even reviewed his content - “ do the work “ is one of his sayings !
I joined a gym - lost 50 unwanted pounds , bought my FIRST NEW CAR EVER IN MY LIFE at age 53 !
Bought a fixer upper house , a brand new Harley , dating QUALITY women - NO MARRIAGE , WINNING 🥇
@@rudeawakening3833 fucking hell 33 years?! Id be going to jail.
Cooper is a good dude
@@puremaledark8305
I was going to fulfill my vows - I became a “ simp “ but didn’t realize it .
It ( typically ) did NOT start out that way ; most men “ become “ simps because after kids leave , you are so burnt out in a job - you just want to come home to peace and a loving wife , not a bitch , so we give here , give there , do more chores , and by default FAIL MORE “ shit- tests “ and then wifey RESENTS us , and runs off with Chad , and cleans us out in a divorce …
PREACH, Sis!! Once again, hitting the nail on the head! Men want relationships, just not with those type of women. The rampant narcissism in women these days is what's keeping those women single.
10:04
"Am I someone that the person I want to be with ... would also want to be with?"
Thank you for this.
You can only truly judge someone's character when you're completely vulnerable to them and they know it. If you have to set boundaries to avoid being taken advantage of at great expense for little or no equivalent return, the other person is likely not credible for a mature relationship. If they're capable, they don't take advantage without figuring out or asking in advance if that's harmful to or bothers the other person then weighing how much they really need what they want from them.
I’m a GenX married guy and have never watched a video on the TikToxic platform. I watch these videos because my kids are now dating age, and I can’t believe the weird crap they’re fed through that platform and other social media. So here I am watching reactions to this stuff on UA-cam to understand what’s going on. What a weird world young people are growing up in.
Same Gen X here. My son is a tween. I fear for his time as a teen with toxic social media.
Once again, a great video on unrealistic expectations.
Side note: I recently decided to quit online dating and switch to real-life encounters on spots and events, where I can meet women with similar interests. I noticed that online dating, despite me considering myself a great guy, was really hurting my confidence. Now, I will not "hate" on those who successfully met a partner through online mediums, I'm happy for them, but nowadays the dating platforms have so much toxicity due to unrealistic expectations, which can damage one's self-image to believe that their not good enough, or only good for one thing only..
Don’t be afraid to look to foreign women, either. They’ll give you a better shot at getting what you want. Just like any woman, be careful who you choose.
I dated a bad apple, and I can tell you a few things.
If a woman is promiscuous- Use her and lose her! If you're living with a woman, and you catch her cheating, and she says, "Get Over It!" Well, that's your invitation to go and date as many other women as possible. That happened to me and while I was still in the relationship, I dated as many women as I wanted! I didn't feel guilty and felt no remorse. Every time the girl I was living with fell asleep, I was out with other women. That happened way too often.
Then it dawned on me - Why am I even with her?!!! A LOT of the other women were much prettier than the girl I was living with. I mean, it got to the point where we were more like roommates more than anything else. Not only that, but I didn't even care if I were to get caught! What was she gonna do, leave me? Oh, no, anything but that! ( Sarcasm : ) She was rude, selfish, insincere, greedy, cold, bitchy, heartless and that was without her knowing of myself sleeping around!
One day I was watching Joyce Meyer, who's a preacher. What she said was if you want to know if someone loves you for you or for your money, get rid of the money and then see how that person treats you. So I did just that. However, first we went on a shopping spree to get rid of $3,000.00 I had saved up. I owned a business and it was no big deal to go out and earn that money back. So it really was no big deal. The following morning ( after the shopping spree ) I woke up and said, "Glady, I have some bad news! She said what? I said, I'm broke!
Well, what happened next was truly an eye opening event! To say the least! She bitched and bitched and bitched! What am I even with you for? I have given you the best years of my life! She went on and on and on! This went on for three days straight! Then I finally said, we're moving! I'm going my way and you are going your way! Her response was "Oh, so now you're leaving me too?!!! YEP! I dated her for four years, which seemed like 10! I couldn't wait to get rid of her! Best thing I ever did! Took the trash to the curb! Then went out and celebrated with other ladies.
That was in 1998! I haven't been in a serious relationship since! Nope! Women are too damn evil these days! They want a man that will do everything for them, and they also want to treat him like sh!t too! No, thanks! I'll pass. Let's just be bed buddies! The funny thing too was after I broke up with her, she kept trying to get back together with me even up to like 3 years after I dumped her! And I wouldn't touch her with a ten-foot pole! The way I finally got rid of her was she had her girlfriend come and try and talk to me about getting back together with her. LOL! I hit on her friend right in front of her! I had never seen two women get into a car and just leave so quick in all my life! My thoughts were after she left, "Oh, just get over it!"
LOL!
This is what happens when women use men. What comes around goes around! I have a lot of female friends thanks to Glady!
I was praying that you would reveal that you cheated on her with different women 😂. You go king
@@Therighthanddon NOT A KING! Not even close! Believe it or not, the whole experience brought me closer to God! WHAT? Yep! Allow me to explain. You see, when you deal with someone who's like Gladly was, it's like they try to strip away your manhood by doing nasty things. The way I caught her cheat was really weird. I told her I had a dream that she went back and was with her daughter's father, and that he had candles surrounding the bathtub as he was taking a bath and his apartment was completely dark. That's when Gladly confessed that he couldn't pay his electric bill. You see, God entered the equation by giving me that dream.
Her daughter's father gave her the boot because while they were having sex, stupid Gladly called him by my name! It gets even way crazier than that!
You see, I found ladies that I could be with but NOT have a relationship with. It was easy sex. It became so much of a problem, it made me a sex addict! I was with women all the time! I was ashamed of myself! So please don't think I'm bragging because I'm not. You see I knew I had a problem when it hit me I was with 3 different women in one day! I started praying to the Lord Jesus/God please help me, I can't stop myself!
Because I was genuinely sincere, I asked God & Jesus please, I can't live like this. I was exhausted all the time. This addiction was controlling me! Well, God and or Jesus heard my cries because I had a dream that later in real life unfolded before my eyes!
God and Jesus were proving to me that they ARE REAL! Let that sink in a moment. From that point on ( I still had a problem with the ladies, which seriously has diminished over time ) but my main focus now is on Jesus & God.
I know this story is NOT what you expected to hear, but it's the TRUTH. You can run around with women left and right, but when you have the spirit of lust within you, You are going to need God and Jesus to help you! Because it will control your life! I know it sounds like a ton of fun. However, when it's controlling you, and you can't turn it off, turn away from it or even fight it, IT MAKES YOU FEEL WEAK!!!! God and Jesus is the ONLY Answer should you walk down this path.
Please learn from my foolish mistakes and just find yourself just 1 lovely lady.
I hope this helps everyone who reads it.
@@Therighthanddon So cheating to get back at her would make him a king? Not integrity and moving forward with his life, but cheating…got it.
@@popcorn58138 The first thing he said is he caught her cheating.
@@popcorn58138 Why do you care about her if she was caught cheating?
I can't wait to see Courtney Ryan hit 500k subscribers!
Thanks very much my online mate
Aww thank you so much 🥹
On the road to 2M!
@@LatimusChadimus one day!
"we're constantly blaming everybody else..." that sums up contemporary America very well.
Courtney I want to say I commend you for trying to bridge the gap between men and women. I'm a 44 full time single dad, and a red pill bachelor. Now by my opening statement, as a GUY who has sole custody of his child, I obviously did not procreate with the right person. I gave up on relationships for several reasons, and as a middle aged parent who stands 5ft6 and is not wealthy, you can imagine the percentage of women who would be interested in me. I'm honest, loyal, athletic, and pretty good looking for my age, and I'm amazing with kids. I actually found out about you from my buddy Joker over at better bachelor. And when I hear women say where are all the good men? I think to myself we are in the ghosted/friend zone where they left us. I know I'm not perfect by any means, but I feel most women overlook me for things that are out of my control. ie, I'm not tall, and been struggling to regain being successful after being put through the meat grinder several times. I know there are good women out there, but I've yet to find myself in a relationship with one. I feel it's just not worth trying anymore. Thanks for the vid, and I hope that the superficial expectations modern women have for men produces the outcome it deserves. Nobody cries for us guys, so it's a bit silly to expect us to cry for them!
If you want be sure to not create troubles to your child then it is better that you do not take any other woman.
lol "Red Pill Batchelor"? No wonder you are single.
@@movieswithmatticus5469 if you're asking g for a date my answer is no
Red pill is the reason why you’re single not height
@@Yomel123I'm fairly certain you'd be a perfect example as to why I quit dating...
I was 27 when I decided to go at it alone… not knowing what was wrong with me decided to go in a different direction. Many women have given me the hint but all it takes it a conversation and their beauty crumbles .
It turns out that we hve been selecting women for the physical beauty and they get to be whoever they want hence the term “ toxicity “… now I’m 40 now and as a human being barely recognized something within me that it’s worth sharing with another human being too bad Most women feel so shallow and empty .
What Psychopathic state of mind must a human being be in to demand another human being to adore her ?
So I finally came to a conclusion I hate the pretty ones and I don’t like the ugly ones … but , I’m still a sucker for femininity.
You ever get that feeling of being ripped off by a bad deal ; that is how it feels to try and find a girl .to make matters worse in the end they all get fat staying fit it’s like a ball and chain they only do it because or else they get no attention, but as soon as they find “ the One “ A.K.A. “ Simp , they let go off and write it off as : “ well if you truly love me “ .
Most white rich guys get their wives from a third world country . Some of them are salvageable.
With you on that. I am 35, but even women I'd deem a 6/10~ are all morons, but the other women are just plain unattractive physically. There is no motivation for the average guy to give a flying crap anymore. You either get feminist beliefs or a butt ugly appearance.
I think most of the good ones were taken very early. Wish I would have acted 10-15 years sooner frankly.
Your so spot on with everything you have said in this clip Courtney , i just wished a heck of a LOT of women would take this in and start thinking differently about men . mean while i have been single for five years now and it doesn't look like that is going to change any time soon , so anyway love your content Courtney and keep up the great work !!
Came across this searching for something entirely different while discussing with a friend from another country how the gender roles feel flipped as an American man dating the women here. Explained how many people would put her on a pedestal compared to what options we have locally, and how she's taken for granted because of the culture in middle-eastern backgrounds. She found it hard to believe women would even cheat on men and said it goes against a woman's nature 💀 Told her the dating pool here is terrible and at this point American women might as well be men, how often we get cheated on, the lack of trust/accountability, etc, pretty much everything you said for months before I even found this video. Ended up watching the whole video & sending this to her because it covers pretty much both genders the way I tried to explain to her but in a much more neutral manner. I honestly do think its mostly a cultural thing, social media & hookup culture ruined dating for both genders in America to a point of being damn near irreversible. Most of the women I've been talking to who are actually nice come from different countries, one being Taiwanese & another Moroccan, etc. From what I've heard from all of them, I feel American men would prosper in other countries for dating and happiness, and women from other countries would love & respect American men a million times more than our own women do if they had the opportunities to live here. So many people born and raised here take everything we have for granted, including each other.
Stop fighting!! This statement was absolute. ❤
"They want to be in a relationship, they just don't want to be in a relationship with you" most people don't understand this common sense
i think a lot of the problem stems from people not really trying to view the person for who they really are behind the face value and loving them for that.
it's very easy for women to think love is so easy to just pick a great guy but not actually see him for who he really is but only what he gives her.
i think a bit of the problematic portion of why it is like this, it's because we make shallow connections and don't take the time to get to know one another and like someone more deeply before we jump into bed with someone.
it's great if you like sex but don't expect to get a fantastic relationship out of it, because as a guy we do not love a woman we just met, we love a woman we know by heart and love her for who she is and how she treats us.
that's how i see it.
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"Evil" is the antithesis to the virtue: 'humanity'. Humanity is the characteristic that defines the human spirit. Humanity is symbiosis across humans and society. 'Humanity' exceeds 'social-darwinism'.
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NEURO-PERSONALITY
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"SENSORY-FEELERS" ARE LARGELY RESPONSIBLE FOR SPREADING DISINFORMATION AND HATE TOWARDS ENTJ/INTJ (AGAINST "THINKERS" IN GENERAL)-BOTH IRL AND ON THE INTERNET; DESPITE THOSE NEURO-PERSONALITY TYPES BEING A BLESSING TO SOCIETY AND ALL OF MANKIND! THEY DESERVE BETTER! 😤
'ESFJ', 'ESFP', ISFP and ISFJ are a pathogen to humanity, and 'then' Cluster-B (depending on they neuro-personality).
THEIR "FEELINGS 'IS' THEIR REALITY", THEY ALSO HAVE A MALICIOUS-MIND BY DEFAULT (excluding normal ISFJ). DESPITE HAVING MALICIOUS INTENT THEY ARE ALL EMOTIONALLY-WEAK AND PRONE TO COVERT/VULNERABLE-NARCISSISM.
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Also... To intelligent readers (who do 'not’ have a ‘pathological disregard for rationality and reality').
I recommend researching 'narcissistic personality disorder' (NPD) / 'cluster-B'; and know that they are the 'root of all evil' (especially 'ESFJ/ESTJ-narcissist'; Myers-Briggs reference, look it up)!
European 'ESFJ' are the worst personality type, and they are responsible for inventing 'racism' and colonization! It is in their neuro-psychology!!!
They are extremely 'manipulative' and often use 'looking pretty' to distract others from the witch's mind-games / mind-r@pe, e.g. gaslighting, playing the victim/damsel in distress, creating "flying-monkeys", and 'bribing' others (with money or BJ) to attack, or at times, kill someone for her. When caught, she will use her minions as scapegoats. European ESFJ are notorious for this especially in a racist context, e.g. Emmett Till.
xSFP and ISFJ (2W1) are the most complicit, narcissistic-enablers. ISFP also tend to be 'oblivious-codependents' (look up the definition). Like ESFJ, XSFP's "feelings 'is' their reality." Most are covert/vulnerable-narcissists.
ISFJ often perceive things only on the surface level (even by sensor standards), are suckers for a “pretty face", and their neuro-psychology makes them the ideal narcissitic-codependent and pawn to the ESFJ (blind-loyalty, surface level perception, susceptibility to covert-narcissism). Lastly, ISFJ are notorious for impersonating other people's identities IRL and on the internet.
SUMMARY
Evil personality: 'ESFJ' (ALL), ESTJ (Cluster-b), ISFJ-2W1 (covert-narc/enabler).
[Secretly] Evil and narcissist-friendly gunts/flying-monkey: ISFP (ALL), ESFP (ALL), and ISFJ (2W1 enable ESFJ).
☝️ALL of them are secretly emotionally-disturbed, hence their need to create conflict as a distraction (at other people's expense, truly evil).
Spread the word! Thank you.
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Research ref: Raudha Athif, Ghislaine Maxwell, Marilyn Monroe, Karen, ESFJ-narcissists, ESFJ-neurology, Gaslighting, Amber Heard, Fake feminism, Rising of a shield hero (Malty-'ESFJ'; XSFX spread disinformation online. ISFJ is the main culprit; ISFJ largely perceive things on the surface level), 'Brood-parasitism’- XSFJ natural psychology..
MY-PHILOSOPHY:"INNER-STRENGTH"
I have found that simply "loving myself" (inner-child) is a powerful tool against most types of social-dependency/vulnerability.
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ESFJ is Marilyn Monroe, Karen, Amber Heard, Malty (rising of shield hero), Sakura Haruno, original b×tch, gaslighter, school "mean girl", etc. Also, China is full of ESFJ.
Look past the "pretty appearance" of ESFJ and you will see them for the 'covert-narcissist' they are.
ESFJ/ISFJ impersonate other people, and are obsessed with controlling them for their own emotional-convenience (especially ESFJ). ISFJ are prone to 'imposter syndrome'. Both of them are "shallow humans". XSFX and unintelligent narcissits are their default pawns, particularly the former.
Lastly, sensory-feelers (namely, ESFJ, ISFJ, and then XSFP) are largely responsible for spreading disinformation, both online and real life. For "sensory-feelers" their "emotions IS their reality".
Women dont care about men , they only care about how they feel solely and what a man can do for her as in provide support and security
I was in my late 30s when I quit dating or looking for a relationship. I'm 5' 10 and was an entertainer for kids. A lowly balloon man. I chose this because of my love of kids. I also am a woodworker and can build close to anything. Served my country in the Navy, and worked daily to better myself. I'm not Brad Pitt but not a dog either. I'm funny, caring, and an incurable romantic. Yet never good enough for any girl. So I quit. Never been happier. All the advice in the world will ever make me go back to dating or even trying. At 63 it's better to leave things alone. You have good points, and well thought out advice for both sides. But I'll never go back to a life of rejection, ridicule, and selfishness ever again.
As a happily married man, I have got to say one thing: "You nailed it"!
These steps/realisations are exactly what my wife and I went through before we started dating. If there you have problems, it is vital to sort them out, otherwise you will never be in a happy relationship, and knowing your self worth is so important.
Many men now have watched those around them get divorced as women file 85% of all divorces at will. The man gets to end up losing his net worth and paying alimony for years. No man wants that downside risk which he has zero control over. If wifey decides she want to pursue a different cock, and files, will be financially collapsed. Especially if it happens over age 50. No retirement, endless alimony so will need to work second job and wiped out. Smart men wont take that risk since 60% of the time they lose. It is a big gamble. Plus men can get companionship and easy sex on dating apps, lots of variety, date younger and dump the drama of marriage and not risk losing their lifes assets because a woman decides she is tired of you. Divorce happens to even the best couples.No man wants to be collateral damage and end up broke and working until death to pay off the alimony while she has taken the house, assets and is screwing a new guy
I'm a man and I want a relationship. I've wanted a relationship for the past 10 years. Yet my time spent meeting people while I was in the military, most of the girls never gave me a second look cause "it would be hard" or "they didn't want to move with me" and the ones I did get into relationships with ended up cheating on me. Now I'm 30 and I'm just so broken and jaded and tired of being hurt I'm scared to even talk to women anymore. Cause it seems like the only women I find that haven't gone through 300 other men on tinder are 20 and just starting out their journey into sluthood. Sorry, I just don't want 30 year old Stacy that's had her back blown out by every guy in at least 50 miles.
Why can't I find any decent women?
We are a broken generation in a broken culture. Social media has made nearly everyone hybrid cyborgs.
and thanks for serving our country
30 yr old military guy here as well, not from the US but Greece. I haven't had exactly the same experiences as you, but know that you're not alone in your grief. Just wanted to say that.
you're trying way too hard and you expect to find something that for the most part no longer exists
I'm close to my 40s and already jaded. Seriously considering MGTOW route at this rate
This woman is gold…wow
she married a multimillionaire and when she is able to get half, she will most likely divorce him... Nothing '''gold'' about her... Women who are ''gold'' are the above average looking women getting with men strictly based off their personality
Im 45 w 2 kids and good cordial relationship with my ex. Being thrust into the dating world once again; holy shit!!!! This is crazy now. Nothing but lies and ghosting. Every date is "what can you do for me", no sense of duty, loyalty or even basic caring.
Girl at this point I know it’s me cause women don’t even give me the time of day. Unless it’s to be they new best guy friend. Witch I don’t get why.
Some even got the audacity to call me a perfect husband in the same sentence as rejecting me. I have taken so many Ls I don’t even feel it no more cause her actually likening me is the anomaly.
I love the content I’ll figure my issues out eventually on my path to my best self
Then you're hanging out with the wrong women. While I don't know your full story there, don't be so quick to blame yourself. While there might be some things you could work on, everyone does, I guarantee it's not ALL on you.
That's because you are very nice to them. Why are you nice to women?, stop being nice & kind to them.