She saved me aswell and gave me the strength to say no more abd finally be free after 11 years of torture. I love her wise council and all of her wisdom. She seriously knows her shuff
The notion of a flawless marriage or relationship is a myth. There's no set formula for success; what works for one couple may not work for another. Yet, I've discovered that there's always a way forward, even in the most challenging times. Five years ago, my wife and I encountered significant hurdles in our marriage that nearly led to divorce. Despite the adversity, we managed to weather the storm and emerge from it with our bond renewed and revitalized
There is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things
Its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is shelly renee white
How to identify a narcissist? If you observe them long enough, watch for people who groom other people. In other words, you'll never discover a narcissist who enjoys solitude and the relationship with themselves.
I studied Narcussistic Personality in college. Which was a small paragragh in a book. Years later when I ran into one (and married), I had no idea he was one. He was handsome, very social, lots of friends, weathy parents, We went to church. Then we moved near his parents, then got married. 1. Then he tried isolating me, by taking the car. 2. He got a job and when he got paid I got 200.00 for food, all the bills he wanted me to pay. 3.He tried taking $ out of my acct without letting me know. He started disappearing to the next town over. He was buying drugs to use. 4. This was the beginning. I was with this person 4 years until I divorced him. We technically stayed together because ( if he didnt have me, no one else was helping him). He died 2 1/2 years ago. The Dr. Is right. He couldnt stop having attention. Reckless driving, he tried to run over a past gf, he would make cookies for his parents and then try and charge them. There is so much more. Life is better now. There were some good times. Thats what I try and remember.
Lee has contributed much to humanity. Thank you, Lee. . Dr. ramani is a national treasure. This is such a hard subject to explain. If you have never been damaged by a narcissist, you may look at this differently. If you have been harmed...narcissist mother...lover (as I have) once you educate yourself, you can spot these fuckers a mile away. Get away if you can. If you can't, learn as much as you can. They don't change. Lee is a one in a million. Trust that. Great interviews. Thank you
My Mother. In line at check out in the grocery store she would say LOUDLY "the cashier must be new! Why is this taking so long?!! Maybe she doesn't speak English! Does management not realize she can't do her job?!" So embarassing. All of the people would turn and look at my Mom, basically glaring at her. The cashier would get flustered as she said everything so loud that everyone heard. Years later, my Mother got a job as a cashier in a Mervyns department store. She did not remember her experience as a customer. She came home complaining about all the customers that came through her line that day. She was always right and victimized by everyone. There is alot that has happened since I was young. I am 60 now and I have blocked her from my life.
I do love Dr Ramani &, Dr Carter (& Gus) as well as Jill the Enlightened Target. They have helped me understand so much about this disorder and how to heal from the abnormality of the emotional and psychological abuse I experienced. HG Tudor is an amazing source of understanding narcissism because he is a clinically-diagnosed narcissistic psychopath himself. Listening to him is like hearing the Devil himself (the original narcissist) telling you “This is how evil really works.
Oh yes, its a spectrum. You can definitely notice it when its high on the spectrum. You wont forget it either when you come out and away. That takes time. Its so insidious
If I were to bring up a hurtful event or feeling, and someone’s response was yeah I’ve been through that too, I wouldn’t think they were a narcissist I’d actually bond with them because we had something in common. This person would be more likely to understand what I went through. I’m going to disagree with that guy because I don’t feel that kind of response makes someone a narcissist. There has to be several other things to add to that to make them toxic.
If they don’t listen to your experiences and are dismissive about what you say and your feelings regarding the situation you share, I think that it’s a problem. We’re human, so many of us have common experiences, but we all approach and process things differently- someone’s inability to see how you’re different from them or to even allow for self-expression is a red flag for sure, and ESPECIALLY if they expect you to be all ears and attentive about anything they share with you without reciprocation.
I attempted to separate from my husband, and now he's not too bad ,you can barely tell he was a narcissistic person. But I still know who he is , and he's got such a sick sexual addiction,which he never admits his addiction
I've been married to a malignant narcissist for years, they all differ, she always tells me its always her way and thats the way it is, I'm more alpha in nature so our future demise is inevitable,after many sessions our marriage counselor said we will not last together.
He has excellent good manners (the mask) I just couldn't understand why he's freinds were crimalists. Now I do. He is extremely good of not getting caught!!
We have an entire ideological party who insists certain people are naturally wonderful no matter what. That's the kind of person I always had trouble with b/c once I've gotten to know them, I saw how superficial their "love" and "trust" for all those beliefs they held were simply ways to get along or to even get ahead in their careers and among their circle of "friends" who were just stepping stones and proof of status memberships. They do not genuinely have that kind of love and trust for anyone. It's all a charade. And you find out by living in the same house with them. I think they do not know how to love and trust, so they have to jump on a bandwagon and be flag-wavers for every cause. Forget about the ones who lead the cheering. Those are super narc types. Everyone's equal except they're the boss. In public, they speak those brilliant 50 cent words... in private, they cuss disgustingly at any little annoyance that doesn't kneel down to them.
I was fooled. This couple adopted my granddaughters after my daughter died. They were so nice at the beginning but right after the adoption went through, they turned all the way around. They lied to me about everything. I haven’t seen my granddaughters in 2 years.
Aww that's heart breaking..praying that that changes for you n the Lord comfort you .I can't imagine that anguish..we all have are things we go through but kids, n G..kiddo's ..are usually our hearts..so sorry..GODblz Bsav LivnluvinCHRIST Paula 😊
@ my daughter’s sorry butt husband was trying to get them and there was no way I could let that happen. All I wanted for those grandbabies is to be safe
U r acting as if u are a victim. Yor granddaughter wouldn't be there if u showed up as a sensible grandma and took her in. So just keep quiet and stop acting like a victim. U seem to be the problem here. Grandparents in Asia and third world countries would sell a kidney rather than give away their grandchildren to be adopted by other people. Regardless of their poverty or other personal problems.
A think a better way to identify a narcissist is not by selfies, but the fact that they stand in front of the mirror for ages, admiring themselves... It's really weird....
“Be a man”, more often than not implies doing whatever seems necessary at the time which mire often than not results in men sacrificing themselves or justify sacrificing someone else to whatever ends. Call me a narcissist but I heard that autism can be more or less reversed, I would wager it is probably possible albeit difficult
and then now I understand why she had to post every day on Instagram selfie it was so weird now I get it!! she tried to make a new account by the third month of going out but it didn't last long we broke up a couple weeks later and she went back to her original account
These compilations are a little annoying. The full length interviews getting chopped up to upload a new video really takes the steam out of the interviewees message. You could say they are compilations & not say its Dr. Ramani for example. Feel like I've fallen into click bait twice this week attempting to watch compilations named Gabor Mate and Dr. Ramani, but had many other people included in the interview.
Yup all the things my now x wife did .. 28 hrs and I lost all I worked for my home & savings as I also had to retire due to serious ptsd .. 👨🏻🚒. This impounded by my x wife’s smear campaign !
Longstory short its complex disorder, and have to look if people are slowing down ur development, respecting you, hurting you, ( you have to look for actions attentions) and honesty or lies
Bumper analogy I guess that 97% of population, I guess narcissism is normal. That can explain mass phycosis to get that 3% . What’s happening not enough validation in the world.😂😅
She explains there are many levels of nark 😢 not every one can handle a nark. I think two nark together a better couple 😊 they can play the gams lol like Mr. And miss Smith. 🎉
The thing is - with me and my ex I felt that he was putting everybody before me. I felt like he was putting his adult now - not little kids! - adult children who were in their twenties ahead of me. I was a recent wife to him type thing. I was his second marriage and these adult kids were his adult kids from his first marriage just to set the stage. And what I wanted - I didn't want him to come and ask me "can I take so and so to her mother's?" - that is his ex-wife. I wanted him to say to his adult daughter or daughters "look can't you get somebody else to drive you to your mother's instead of me? I'm doing something with my new wife." That's what I wanted. But he would do this thing where he'd asked me and then it would put me on the defensive and then of course I'd say oh yes sure go ahead take your daughter to her mother's". But that was not what I wanted but beforehand what I just said was what I wanted I wanted him to say you go and find your own transportation to your mother's I'm doing something with Mary.
I totally believe this lady has saved my life with her videos…
she did save me too. past 4 years i had to learn about narcissistic traits and i had too many Narcs in my life.
She saved me aswell and gave me the strength to say no more abd finally be free after 11 years of torture. I love her wise council and all of her wisdom. She seriously knows her shuff
She’s a narc herself 😂
Amen
Dr. Ramani freaked the hell out of me. Suddenly all became clear. Crystal clear.
The notion of a flawless marriage or relationship is a myth. There's no set formula for success; what works for one couple may not work for another. Yet, I've discovered that there's always a way forward, even in the most challenging times. Five years ago, my wife and I encountered significant hurdles in our marriage that nearly led to divorce. Despite the adversity, we managed to weather the storm and emerge from it with our bond renewed and revitalized
There is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things
Its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is shelly renee white
This is helpful, I will look her up online right now...Thanks.
You wont regret it
Kevin. Good for you and wife that you're moving forward together. 😊
How to identify a narcissist? If you observe them long enough, watch for people who groom other people. In other words, you'll never discover a narcissist who enjoys solitude and the relationship with themselves.
Absolutely! They shame others who enjoy being alone and even call them narcissists to others. They are miserable having to be alone!
Thank you
I studied Narcussistic Personality in college. Which was a small paragragh in a book. Years later when I ran into one (and married), I had no idea he was one. He was handsome, very social, lots of friends, weathy parents, We went to church. Then we moved near his parents, then got married.
1. Then he tried isolating me, by taking the car.
2. He got a job and when he got paid I got 200.00 for food, all the bills he wanted me to pay.
3.He tried taking $ out of my acct without letting me know. He started disappearing to the next town over. He was buying drugs to use.
4. This was the beginning. I was with this person 4 years until I divorced him. We technically stayed together because ( if he didnt have me, no one else was helping him). He died 2 1/2 years ago. The Dr. Is right. He couldnt stop having attention. Reckless driving, he tried to run over a past gf, he would make cookies for his parents and then try and charge them. There is so much more. Life is better now. There were some good times. Thats what I try and remember.
Lee has contributed much to humanity. Thank you, Lee. .
Dr. ramani is a national treasure. This is such a hard subject to explain. If you have never been damaged by a narcissist, you may look at this differently. If you have been harmed...narcissist mother...lover (as I have) once you educate yourself, you can spot these fuckers a mile away. Get away if you can. If you can't, learn as much as you can. They don't change. Lee is a one in a million. Trust that. Great interviews. Thank you
My Mother. In line at check out in the grocery store she would say LOUDLY "the cashier must be new! Why is this taking so long?!! Maybe she doesn't speak English! Does management not realize she can't do her job?!" So embarassing. All of the people would turn and look at my Mom, basically glaring at her. The cashier would get flustered as she said everything so loud that everyone heard. Years later, my Mother got a job as a cashier in a Mervyns department store. She did not remember her experience as a customer. She came home complaining about all the customers that came through her line that day. She was always right and victimized by everyone. There is alot that has happened since I was young. I am 60 now and I have blocked her from my life.
Why aren't they treated as a mental health disorder. People and kids suffer and a Narcissist will never seek treatment thenselves
They are… but they usually don’t seek it out
One word to sum up a narcissist, is wicked!!!
for me it's the word "Toxic!"
And for me the word would be demonic.
Psychotic.
Or predator.
*6-12 months? Narcissists can lay dormant in hibernation for ... **_6-12 years!!!_*
I do love Dr Ramani &, Dr Carter (& Gus) as well as Jill the Enlightened Target. They have helped me understand so much about this disorder and how to heal from the abnormality of the emotional and psychological abuse I experienced. HG Tudor is an amazing source of understanding narcissism because he is a clinically-diagnosed narcissistic psychopath himself. Listening to him is like hearing the Devil himself (the original narcissist) telling you “This is how evil really works.
Oh yes, its a spectrum. You can definitely notice it when its high on the spectrum. You wont forget it either when you come out and away. That takes time. Its so insidious
It takes some people months, years or whatever to figure it out because, often the target of a narcissist is maybe not 100% on the ball to begin with.
Especially considering that most victims are emphaths
A vulnerable shy person is an easy target
The driving is always justified by the narc & will engage in road rage.
If I were to bring up a hurtful event or feeling, and someone’s response was yeah I’ve been through that too, I wouldn’t think they were a narcissist I’d actually bond with them because we had something in common. This person would be more likely to understand what I went through.
I’m going to disagree with that guy because I don’t feel that kind of response makes someone a narcissist. There has to be several other things to add to that to make them toxic.
I agree.
Only have to be careful about trauma bonding. Also, if they use your feelings/ experience against you.
If they don’t listen to your experiences and are dismissive about what you say and your feelings regarding the situation you share, I think that it’s a problem.
We’re human, so many of us have common experiences, but we all approach and process things differently- someone’s inability to see how you’re different from them or to even allow for self-expression is a red flag for sure, and ESPECIALLY if they expect you to be all ears and attentive about anything they share with you without reciprocation.
They do everything to ensure someone is off rails / disregulated
What a brilliant Doctor, and she spells it out so well.
I attempted to separate from my husband, and now he's not too bad ,you can barely tell he was a narcissistic person. But I still know who he is , and he's got such a sick sexual addiction,which he never admits his addiction
My most experience of crazy making Narcissist when they got someone is, YOU ARE SO DIFFERENT, WHAT ARE YOU!
I have to stay and she is helping me survive and still be here with the narc
Find a way out, your life is worth it.
Wow the car thing! So true
So my nr. 1 way of knowing :
HIS FREINDS & FAMILY!!
I've been married to a malignant narcissist for years, they all differ, she always tells me its always her way and thats the way it is, I'm more alpha in nature so our future demise is inevitable,after many sessions our marriage counselor said we will not last together.
He has excellent good manners (the mask) I just couldn't understand why he's freinds were crimalists. Now I do. He is extremely good of not getting caught!!
You are saving lives!
Stoking an endless fire of suspicion. I spot narcissistic women right away. Still fun, just selfish. Nothing new
Your best yet, doc. Thank you!
We have an entire ideological party who insists certain people are naturally wonderful no matter what. That's the kind of person I always had trouble with b/c once I've gotten to know them, I saw how superficial their "love" and "trust" for all those beliefs they held were simply ways to get along or to even get ahead in their careers and among their circle of "friends" who were just stepping stones and proof of status memberships. They do not genuinely have that kind of love and trust for anyone. It's all a charade. And you find out by living in the same house with them.
I think they do not know how to love and trust, so they have to jump on a bandwagon and be flag-wavers for every cause. Forget about the ones who lead the cheering. Those are super narc types. Everyone's equal except they're the boss. In public, they speak those brilliant 50 cent words... in private, they cuss disgustingly at any little annoyance that doesn't kneel down to them.
I was fooled. This couple adopted my granddaughters after my daughter died. They were so nice at the beginning but right after the adoption went through, they turned all the way around. They lied to me about everything. I haven’t seen my granddaughters in 2 years.
Aww that's heart breaking..praying that that changes for you n the Lord comfort you .I can't imagine that anguish..we all have are things we go through but kids, n G..kiddo's ..are usually our hearts..so sorry..GODblz Bsav LivnluvinCHRIST Paula 😊
? why didn't you adopt them ?
@ my daughter’s sorry butt husband was trying to get them and there was no way I could let that happen. All I wanted for those grandbabies is to be safe
@@PaulaHard-mx3in thank you
U r acting as if u are a victim. Yor granddaughter wouldn't be there if u showed up as a sensible grandma and took her in. So just keep quiet and stop acting like a victim. U seem to be the problem here. Grandparents in Asia and third world countries would sell a kidney rather than give away their grandchildren to be adopted by other people. Regardless of their poverty or other personal problems.
Very true. Dr. Ramani is great
A think a better way to identify a narcissist is not by selfies, but the fact that they stand in front of the mirror for ages, admiring themselves... It's really weird....
Dr. RAMANI is correct. 🎉
CARTER IS GREAT ❤
Love this video ❤
I very much doubt that narcissism is more prevalent in Men than Women
My next door neighbor is this. I run...lol
So the fastest way is 'it takes a while'?
Thank you for the wisdom and insight about narcissistic behavior. 💯🙏♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹😎
But narcisim is just a male complex...as a woman, after 58 years on earth, I decide to join the 4B movement
“Be a man”, more often than not implies doing whatever seems necessary at the time which mire often than not results in men sacrificing themselves or justify sacrificing someone else to whatever ends.
Call me a narcissist but I heard that autism can be more or less reversed, I would wager it is probably possible albeit difficult
and then now I understand why she had to post every day on Instagram selfie it was so weird now I get it!! she tried to make a new account by the third month of going out but it didn't last long we broke up a couple weeks later and she went back to her original account
Lee hammock 👍💯💯💯
What if both people in the relationship are narcissists does it work?
"we should get rid of the NPD-diagnostic", ok, I agree, but what instead?
I felt like she was describing me when she talked about narcissistic behaviour 😢
MENTAL WELLNESS ❤LEE 😂🎉
You can recognized the easily by the lack of emotions. Just don't tell em
My validation is SIlent,Sex , and Sandwich give me that! And you found my chosen one….. 😂
These compilations are a little annoying. The full length interviews getting chopped up to upload a new video really takes the steam out of the interviewees message. You could say they are compilations & not say its Dr. Ramani for example. Feel like I've fallen into click bait twice this week attempting to watch compilations named Gabor Mate and Dr. Ramani, but had many other people included in the interview.
The usual cause/ origin of Narcissism is PARENTS
Socially Programming = SURE
Yup all the things my now x wife did .. 28 hrs and I lost all I worked for my home & savings as I also had to retire due to serious ptsd .. 👨🏻🚒. This impounded by my x wife’s smear campaign !
Mine was not grandiose,but did have some other things..
Longstory short its complex disorder, and have to look if people are slowing down ur development, respecting you, hurting you, ( you have to look for actions attentions) and honesty or lies
It sounds so much like me 😅😅
Bumper analogy I guess that 97% of population, I guess narcissism is normal. That can explain mass phycosis to get that 3% . What’s happening not enough validation in the world.😂😅
How About seven years
When it’s a long time, they were a pro. Don’t fret many before the internet people stayed decades!
Stoicism
Slow down, lady, you're talking at mach 10 with your hair on fire...
BS
Whenever a couple breaks up now the guy is a narcissist thanks to people like Ramani.
Wish my empathetic son would divorce his narcissistic wife 😢
Why the guy? Why not the woman? Lol
Yes. Narcs are a 50-50 gender ratio. I am female, and she is spreading misinformation and straight up bullshit. I always feel like she's doing meth.
She explains there are many levels of nark 😢 not every one can handle a nark. I think two nark together a better couple 😊 they can play the gams lol like Mr. And miss Smith.
🎉
@ liberal mind virus.
The thing is - with me and my ex I felt that he was putting everybody before me. I felt like he was putting his adult now - not little kids! - adult children who were in their twenties ahead of me. I was a recent wife to him type thing. I was his second marriage and these adult kids were his adult kids from his first marriage just to set the stage. And what I wanted - I didn't want him to come and ask me "can I take so and so to her mother's?" - that is his ex-wife. I wanted him to say to his adult daughter or daughters "look can't you get somebody else to drive you to your mother's instead of me? I'm doing something with my new wife." That's what I wanted. But he would do this thing where he'd asked me and then it would put me on the defensive and then of course I'd say oh yes sure go ahead take your daughter to her mother's". But that was not what I wanted but beforehand what I just said was what I wanted I wanted him to say you go and find your own transportation to your mother's I'm doing something with Mary.
I was wife # 3. He was my first (&only) husband. I grew up with enough of it that it took me nearly a lifetime to accept my losses.
Even adult daughters need their Father.
Why not go with him to drop off the adult child? 🤷🏻♀️