I feel that as a female it is not our job to pursue the man that man has to take the initiative to make that first connection and if he is shy or lacks some confidence he needs to ask God to give him the strength to speak and just say hello. Too often fear becomes a factor in establishing relationships and I think this happens alot, especially for Christian men and women. I cant wait to show this vid to my sisters God bless this channel :)
Number three is definitely me. I am working towards bettering myself with a relationship with God. I'm trying to put God first in my life over myself, which trust me isn't easy.
I think part of it is the fact that when you are in Christ, things change. I can't come on to a lady in Christ the same as I came on to a lost one. A lot of times when I'm in church, I'm paying attention to the word going forth. Now that doesn't mean that I'm boring, it just means I'm attentive. Now, when church is usually over I'm the quiet type. That doesn't mean that I have no confidence. I'd really like to see the 5 reasons why Christian women are single. This is truly a conversation starter.
Glad you all liked the comments from the Trackstarzs' wives. They are all good, godly women who know the Lord and and were obedient to His voice prior. Please seek them out if you have any questions.
The 'boring' thing is honestly discouraging and to those who take it that way hear this, you're not boring to the one who's meant for you. You want to know why? Because the woman for you is not going to love you, she's going to love the Jesus inside of you.
Why is wanting a virgin expecting too much? I'm 25 and still a virgin, and if I can wait why is it too much to think there are Christian women out there that can also wait? Boring is subjective. I'm a very laid back introvert and I'm usually pretty quiet, not because I lack confidence it's just how I am. And if you give these so called "boring" men a chance who loves Jesus you'll find there is more to them than meets the eye. Also, I'm against changing how you are just for a woman. To me you're better off looking for a woman who compliments you than to change how you are to keep someone. I think Christian men lack confidence because they aren't taught how to approach women. I know for me and lots of other men we learn through trial and error. Add to the fact that dating in the church is looked down upon because you'll get accused of focusing more on the women then the Lord and you see why so many either date outside their church or missionary date.
I smirk when I meet a woman who have the same confidence as me and independence. It's a bit frightening but its the most attractive thing I ever experience. Hard to find those types...
What do you think stands out as 'good' about this? How much it glorified Christ or their own opinions? I'm genuinely interested in knowing, as I personally couldn't see the wisdom of the Heavenly Father expressed here...any player would find these fleshly minded girls easy game. There is nothing that wreaks of chasteness for God, nor wisdom.
Appreciate the honesty and talk you ladies shared, being a single christian dude. Although the segment on confidence did not make sense to me. I strongly believe that a guy should be proactive in pursuing a lady he likes, although he should not go by the worlds standards. To me rubbing your feet with rose pettles, in a hot tub sounds like something newly wed couples would do. That sounds like a recipe for sin in my view.
Haha lol.. You Girls are Dope ;) Cool conversation, Solid advices, and I like how Sean here and there would stick his nose for Us (Males) and give some solid 2 cents and stuff.. Good Stuff, Keep up the great work
dang this hit... puts a lot into perspective and things to take in.. God help us men.Id hate for any of those reasons to be why I or any other man is single.
Boring? Smh! Shouldn't we as Christians want to be with those who linger in the house of God. I met my husband as we were serving the Lord together. #speechless
#4 really had me laughing so hard! LOL1 Lets be honest, number 4 is more for Christian women than it is for Christian men because there's some women in Christ that be so picky and unrealistic and even a bit spooky to a certain extent. But that's funny tho, not saying that it doesn't happen but still funny because Christian from what I've seen are more picky. Sometimes you can't come at a guy when it comes to missionary dating because sometimes there's some lame women that are Christian that are boring. Since number 2 says that Christian men are boring, some Christian women be creepy and boring as well. It makes it worst that if ladies think that going for a bad boy and you're a Christian that's a problem. What is another problem with ladies that think Christian guys are boring is that it's sad that you won't tell the guy he's boring and don't tell him how he's boring, how he could be better and just put him in the friend zone, I wouldn't date you nor have bible Study or be the Jesus friend with you honesty LOL! As for confidence, the reason why most of Christian men don't have confidence is because y'all reject us. Sometimes you guys reject us on the spot and don't give us no play so that's not always our fault.
you know i just dont get it.. it seems like for me its much easier to get attention from a not saved girl versus a girl in church saved. . i dont understand why if people like each other why dont they jus speak rather than waiting one another.. cause all that time waitimg you could be missing out. if i like someone i say it.. im not all that but i know im not ugly so yet why am i still single?? some of my friends honestly got rea lucky
I NEED TO FIND A KINGDOM MINDED WOMAN TO MARRY AND LOVE FOREVER FOR ALL ETERNITY! I gotta be patient though cuz Im not into building something everlasting with just anybody. I could wait forever to find that because I plan on living forever...Im seeking love that transcends death and the grave. If I die, Im still part of the Bride of Christ....thats the kind of wife I want. A girl I can know if she died Id never marry anyone because we have an everlasting bond....a woman who would never remarry after my passing. Religious folk dont know nothin bout that because they dont think in Kingdom but Jesus lived out what I was walking about. His Wife and Him will be wed in the age to come(we the Bride). This all sounds corny when picturing it out of religious lips but its authentic and epic when lived in organic dedication and passion. Everlasting souls are the everlasting fruit and testimony of love that too should be everlasting.
So sad that someone would think the other is not good enough because he/ she is "boring" and only has Jesus going on. Is that even biblical? Not hating. Awesome discussion. Let's just be real. The "church" sometimes doesn't do excellence to true Christian education. Our young men and women are not taught properly. NO young Christian man should have to change for any Christian girl. Neither should a girl do for a young man. Did Abraham have to tell Sarah all of this stuff. I'm good and I NEVER had to advertise my exploits to my wife. All I had to do was Love God. She is beautiful! Like fine... she Loves God and Loves me unconditionally. I was shy, boring and all about church. When I look at her and when I see how God has blessed me with the 'total package' with my "boring self"... I can only advise any sister or brother, "Missionary Date" those who are considered shy, boring, and no confidence. You would be amazed at what a beautiful God loving woman can do for a shy, no confidence having, Jesus and nothing more to them type of person. I grew up under rock. In a very strict religion which demasculates young men before they can mature. My wife was so fine and in Love with God that I had to meet her...lol. I learned to, dance, swim, and have climbed mountains since I met her. She "Missionary Dated" the guy who had the flaws you stated on your list. I would dare say that more Christ loving young women should do the same. By the way, I am still in the friend zone... and loving every moment of it!
PREEEEAAACCHHHH!!! YES & AMEN. I was a player, a heart breaker, a spiritualiat and an athiest and then I met Jesus Christ. For any one reading this, only follow Jesus Christ, the more you build your INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP with the Lord in secret prayer and pray over strangers in public (preach the gospel to all nations, heal the sick,cast out devils, freely you have received freely give, showing them the Kingdom is at hand), the more He will bless you in the open. You do not seek a wife or a husband, you stay focuses on Jesus and only Christ Jesus and THEN He will align you with your wife/husband in your path. God knows our deepesr disires, He created us before the foundation of the world. Always build relationship with the Lord first. He knows what you want and need and He will bless you the more especially when you be fasting in Jesus name, seeking the Kingdom, loving the hell out of everyone. I just ran into a lady that got me dumb struck cuz I was so attractive to her personality, rare. I'm 1 year in with the Lord, He blesses when following only Him. He'll bless you with your soulmate, focus on Him and He will deliver and take care of you. I pray this encourages the reader. Be blessed in Jesus mighty name.
From a man's standpoint there a lot of single women who go to church but really have no God at all because they are focus on themselves ( be mainpulative, selfish) and want a charismatic rich outgoing man who can't even say the shortest verse in the Bible. Some of these women are past 35 acting like teens with their selfish fanasties. Well some women and men are only doing what they know but they must grow. It is never boring to work on being the best Christian possible so in my case because I was not serious about Him in the past but got into His Word more and sought to love Him more ( leave out the prosperity preachers who distract us) the way He wants us to like He shows us all the time. I with a amazing, beautiful, sophisicated God fearing woman who just allow me to talk about Him. I grew in part because He used her to get to me. We should never compromise our faith with God to be something we are not just to get a person of the opposite sex when He is the one who takes care of us. Having God is enough.
I don't think there's anything wrong with your wife missionary dating you but I don't think there's anything wrong with expecting a man to bring some personality or at least some life experiences to the table. Usually when a man is looking for a woman, he has a list of skills, abilities, or qualities he would like her to have, so its only fair for women to expect some reciprocation in that area.
that's the same thing I thought. The girl with the braids needs to hush. It's like she's saying "So, what else do you have going on that's interesting besides Jesus"... like Jesus is compartmentalized. I don't get a good feeling about that.
On a personal note: I found #2 offensive to my sensibilities as a 30 year old virgin man. I'm still single not because I only expect her to also be a virgin, but because when I find that her qualities match to my aspirations, she just happens to have her own ideas and sees me as a friend, hence does not accept me entirely for who I am, and appreciating that enough to give me a chance. So she focusses on how convenient I am to her life, not what is convenient for me - Selfish ambitions! Reasons #2 and #4 made me really wonder, those questions cannot be asked under the banner of 'Christian'. They are really circumstantial and will depend on the person who legitimises them. To me they sound more carnal than spiritual aspirations. My view on Friendzone, It sounds more like a Double standard. How do you say a guy should overlook your virginity issue and consider other qualities a woman has, but you don't even do that because you think someone is good to be your friend but NOT good enough to be your husband? People who embrace the concept of Friendzone are people who are Not interested in a person's good character or standards. Perhaps the only thing left after listening to these ladies is pondering, Missionary dating...??? How do you fit that in the context of Christianity? I think this whole topic has been misrepresented, hence the Title is wrong for it. It sounds more like a general topic for dating than looking at the Christian context of relationships.
Being boring is definitely a deal breaker even if he has everything else in order. I will be yawning for the rest of my life and I can't have that! lol
I've found that a lot of women at church are nowhere near as Christian as they make out when you get to know them. I could see that they could potentialy lead me down a road I don't want to go as I've been there before. Also a lot of them know a lot about the Bible but lack understanding, an unchurched person isn't going to argue points with you so that can make them more appealing. That would work both ways. Not saying I have a superiority complex (but I maybe I have), I have been reading the Bible 30 years and have as good a grasp of scripture as anyone which makes me contentious with potentially everyone. I won't go along with a view I believe is wrong to suit people around me. Hence why I no longer go to church. I am 40 years old but can pass for early 30's and possibly due to my hobbies of weight training, powerlifting and cycling have a physiqe that quite a lot of women seem to find attractive. Never had a problem getting attention from women in or out of church, it's the aggrevation that's the problem when my personality doesn't fit their ideals. Men in the church that are just saying what they think people want to hear all the time are not actually that into Jesus. Reciting scripture and mentioning Jesus every sentance doesn't give any connection to the person you are talking to which is what women are looking for when they site a man as boring. Christianity itself is about connecting with people to bring them to God which is what I always look to do. I am going to be the best Christian I can be and I won't use the church or God for my own gain in relationships. If that means I spend the rest of my life on my own I'd rather that than be anything less than the real deal.
#2 Really. That's why so many Christian women today are still single. A godly man can be exciting when God brings you two together because a real man will consider your hobbies and put a woman's needs abouve his own because he would know to do that. I read a blog where Christian men now going toward worldly women because they will give them a chance more because of crap like this Sad.
personally i haven't seen much of #5 on the guys end. I know alot of guys who get initially attracted to a girl but when they see her not living the Christ like lifestyle then they lose that attraction. I've honestly seen more of the "missionary dating" issue on the female end. idk just my experience I could be wrong. Much love y'all.
Hi Brian, God may be teaching you patience, so you can meet the right Christian woman. Being single gives you opportunity to grow in yourself, career, education, or spiritual maturity. Short-term singleness is good :-)
Good points made! As a 24yr old who was raised in the church since day one, I would say I agree with them all. Number 3 and 1 are both in my opinion something that I have seen the church cultivate. I have always been taught to focus on God and not be looking around at others. Thus where the missionary dating comes into play, because we are told not to pursue women in church. Well we want to get married someday so we look elsewhere outside of the church. Sounds crazy but I have been told off by a pastor that I wasn't focused just because I was showing interest in a female member. (Actually a few different scenarios) In result this caused a setback in my ministry. Haha in wrapping up. I myself do not date fellow church members. (Yeah that leaves the equally yoked thing as quite a task lol)
+Cynthia Marte I can understand that. My church doesn't have too many single people my age (I'm 25) who's not taken already or just weekend Christians. Plus dating in the church is heavily frowned upon. So what can you do?
#4 is hilarious!!!! and as a christian young lady..I feel that men should be well rounded...and I have experienced this before..and the women should be able to push a guy who is boring..push him out of his comfort zone..and vice versa
Ok now that #2 Boring, ok now I see different on that. If a guy is in the church a lot ok good. That means he's there cause he needs to be or he's there to stay out of trouble/ (temptations) and he really is content with being with the LORD, therefore he's not looking for a mate just yet
Man that boring one was hilarious looool. She doesn't want a walking talking bible lol. We are all flawed humans that is one thing we share in common, is our imperfection. And nobody let alone a woman can relate to someone who is bible all the time because quite frankly their will be times where you aren't bible and she needs to know that side of you too or you appear to be hiding something. Because all men sin and he who says he does not is a liar(oops I used the bible, maybe I'm boring too lol). So women have to see the imperfections to relate to a man as well to see that he is just as human as her. As far as lack of confidence and fear. I know I won' get any slack cut from women saying this but, Yes we men fear, and I know it's not very manly or leader-like. We fear, well at least I fear, that women don't notice, are not interested, or are looking for alot more than what we got. So I always find it SOooo shocking when I hear women say "men don't approach us" and I'm like Ya'll actually wanna be approached?! Like it doesn't look that way at all. Alot of woman got this cold focused uninterested look on their face that says "I got my whole life together and figured out, if you don't, then keep it moving." And if that's not true you coulda fooled me. Then it starts to seem like oh she just focused on herself she ain't interested in nobody. She straight. Look at her go. Like dang I don't got it like that but she sure do. So yea Fear will say "don't dare approach that girl unless you got it together brother". And then woman say stuff like " you don't have to have it all together". I DON'T BELIEVE YOU! But seriously it's hard to believe but maybe that's just my own illusion. So I will finish with the question us Christian men need to know (I don't care if if sounds like I'm being a wuss) Women give us men a reason NOT to fear approaching you?( besides what's the worst that could happen )
this video is completely wrong and incorrect. in reality, this video puts 100% of the responsibility on the man. This is evident near the end when the women complain about boring men. men aren't here to entertain you women.
I feel that as a female it is not our job to pursue the man that man has to take the initiative to make that first connection and if he is shy or lacks some confidence he needs to ask God to give him the strength to speak and just say hello. Too often fear becomes a factor in establishing relationships and I think this happens alot, especially for Christian men and women. I cant wait to show this vid to my sisters God bless this channel :)
Number three is definitely me. I am working towards bettering myself with a relationship with God. I'm trying to put God first in my life over myself, which trust me isn't easy.
Amen
Same here my friend.
Same here man. I'm going through a hardship with grad school right now and trying to learn to put my trust in Him more than anyone/anything else
I think part of it is the fact that when you are in Christ, things change. I can't come on to a lady in Christ the same as I came on to a lost one. A lot of times when I'm in church, I'm paying attention to the word going forth. Now that doesn't mean that I'm boring, it just means I'm attentive. Now, when church is usually over I'm the quiet type. That doesn't mean that I have no confidence. I'd really like to see the 5 reasons why Christian women are single. This is truly a conversation starter.
This video was everything!! That number 1was on point ladies keep these videos up I love em!!
Glad you all liked the comments from the Trackstarzs' wives. They are all good, godly women who know the Lord and and were obedient to His voice prior. Please seek them out if you have any questions.
Inspiring, bold, and real. I enjoy this!
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Girl - "and I don't understand why christian men don't have confidence"
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Boy - "y'all be rejecting them"
Exactly......
Facts
Geez if this is why we are still single then I guess I am gonna be single for a good while.
The 'boring' thing is honestly discouraging and to those who take it that way hear this, you're not boring to the one who's meant for you. You want to know why? Because the woman for you is not going to love you, she's going to love the Jesus inside of you.
Why is wanting a virgin expecting too much? I'm 25 and still a virgin, and if I can wait why is it too much to think there are Christian women out there that can also wait?
Boring is subjective. I'm a very laid back introvert and I'm usually pretty quiet, not because I lack confidence it's just how I am. And if you give these so called "boring" men a chance who loves Jesus you'll find there is more to them than meets the eye. Also, I'm against changing how you are just for a woman. To me you're better off looking for a woman who compliments you than to change how you are to keep someone.
I think Christian men lack confidence because they aren't taught how to approach women. I know for me and lots of other men we learn through trial and error. Add to the fact that dating in the church is looked down upon because you'll get accused of focusing more on the women then the Lord and you see why so many either date outside their church or missionary date.
+UnlimitedProduction1 Amen bro!
Am the same here man...
+Keith Kitchen I feel you, but in a concerned way. Can you elaborate what you mean by "alot of us aren't virgins by choice"
+Keith Kitchen Point clear. Thank you!
I smirk when I meet a woman who have the same confidence as me and independence. It's a bit frightening but its the most attractive thing I ever experience. Hard to find those types...
wow this was so good ! thank you !
please start posting the song you guys use in ur openings and closing thanks God Bless Ya'll!
great idea!
Do you guys know about Shiwan, Benjamin Broadway, & Parris Chariz?
What do you think stands out as 'good' about this? How much it glorified Christ or their own opinions? I'm genuinely interested in knowing, as I personally couldn't see the wisdom of the Heavenly Father expressed here...any player would find these fleshly minded girls easy game. There is nothing that wreaks of chasteness for God, nor wisdom.
😂😂😂 My man said "is Y'all Chest Clear?" 😂😂HAHA
Trip Lee instrumental bangin in the background :D
+DEW Prods I forget what song that is
+DEW Prods I forget what song that is
+DEW Prods I forget what song that is
This was great! Should defly consider making this a common occurrence.
Great Convo!
Appreciate the honesty and talk you ladies shared, being a single christian dude. Although the segment on confidence did not make sense to me. I strongly believe that a guy should be proactive in pursuing a lady he likes, although he should not go by the worlds standards. To me rubbing your feet with rose pettles, in a hot tub sounds like something newly wed couples would do. That sounds like a recipe for sin in my view.
Amen
Haha lol.. You Girls are Dope ;) Cool conversation, Solid advices, and I like how Sean here and there would stick his nose for Us (Males) and give some solid 2 cents and stuff.. Good Stuff, Keep up the great work
!! The only other person with pax christi ive seen on youtube
Sherbert Nutters
Haha thats cool man!
dang this hit... puts a lot into perspective and things to take in.. God help us men.Id hate for any of those reasons to be why I or any other man is single.
This episode was actually nice. Very interesting, you know.
+Ayo Ibitayo thanks!
Boring? Smh! Shouldn't we as Christians want to be with those who linger in the house of God. I met my husband as we were serving the Lord together. #speechless
Yea I agree.
Love this!
#4 really had me laughing so hard! LOL1 Lets be honest, number 4 is more for Christian women than it is for Christian men because there's some women in Christ that be so picky and unrealistic and even a bit spooky to a certain extent. But that's funny tho, not saying that it doesn't happen but still funny because Christian from what I've seen are more picky. Sometimes you can't come at a guy when it comes to missionary dating because sometimes there's some lame women that are Christian that are boring. Since number 2 says that Christian men are boring, some Christian women be creepy and boring as well. It makes it worst that if ladies think that going for a bad boy and you're a Christian that's a problem. What is another problem with ladies that think Christian guys are boring is that it's sad that you won't tell the guy he's boring and don't tell him how he's boring, how he could be better and just put him in the friend zone, I wouldn't date you nor have bible Study or be the Jesus friend with you honesty LOL! As for confidence, the reason why most of Christian men don't have confidence is because y'all reject us. Sometimes you guys reject us on the spot and don't give us no play so that's not always our fault.
Just an advice: cover the mics with forms, and clean them after use every time. Keeps the mic clean and fresh.
you know i just dont get it.. it seems like for me its much easier to get attention from a not saved girl versus a girl in church saved. . i dont understand why if people like each other why dont they jus speak rather than waiting one another.. cause all that time waitimg you could be missing out. if i like someone i say it.. im not all that but i know im not ugly so yet why am i still single?? some of my friends honestly got rea
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+Brian Boston good question!
TRACKSTARZ thanks!
+TRACKSTARZ why all the women light skin? lupita gets NO love 😂
If the girl is saved, she's probably so focused on God and her relationship with Him that she really isn't even too pressed about not having a bae.
I agree
kinda highlights some of the problems with all this. Feminism has messed up a lot.
I NEED TO FIND A KINGDOM MINDED WOMAN TO MARRY AND LOVE FOREVER FOR ALL ETERNITY!
I gotta be patient though cuz Im not into building something everlasting with just anybody. I could wait forever to find that because I plan on living forever...Im seeking love that transcends death and the grave. If I die, Im still part of the Bride of Christ....thats the kind of wife I want. A girl I can know if she died Id never marry anyone because we have an everlasting bond....a woman who would never remarry after my passing. Religious folk dont know nothin bout that because they dont think in Kingdom but Jesus lived out what I was walking about. His Wife and Him will be wed in the age to come(we the Bride).
This all sounds corny when picturing it out of religious lips but its authentic and epic when lived in organic dedication and passion. Everlasting souls are the everlasting fruit and testimony of love that too should be everlasting.
That first one was good. Ill have to remember that.
Oh this is an interesting one, just bumped into it now...
So sad that someone would think the other is not good enough because he/ she is "boring" and only has Jesus going on. Is that even biblical? Not hating. Awesome discussion. Let's just be real. The "church" sometimes doesn't do excellence to true Christian education. Our young men and women are not taught properly. NO young Christian man should have to change for any Christian girl. Neither should a girl do for a young man. Did Abraham have to tell Sarah all of this stuff. I'm good and I NEVER had to advertise my exploits to my wife. All I had to do was Love God. She is beautiful! Like fine... she Loves God and Loves me unconditionally. I was shy, boring and all about church. When I look at her and when I see how God has blessed me with the 'total package' with my "boring self"... I can only advise any sister or brother, "Missionary Date" those who are considered shy, boring, and no confidence. You would be amazed at what a beautiful God loving woman can do for a shy, no confidence having, Jesus and nothing more to them type of person. I grew up under rock. In a very strict religion which demasculates young men before they can mature. My wife was so fine and in Love with God that I had to meet her...lol. I learned to, dance, swim, and have climbed mountains since I met her. She "Missionary Dated" the guy who had the flaws you stated on your list. I would dare say that more Christ loving young women should do the same. By the way, I am still in the friend zone... and loving every moment of it!
PREEEEAAACCHHHH!!! YES & AMEN. I was a player, a heart breaker, a spiritualiat and an athiest and then I met Jesus Christ. For any one reading this, only follow Jesus Christ, the more you build your INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP with the Lord in secret prayer and pray over strangers in public (preach the gospel to all nations, heal the sick,cast out devils, freely you have received freely give, showing them the Kingdom is at hand), the more He will bless you in the open. You do not seek a wife or a husband, you stay focuses on Jesus and only Christ Jesus and THEN He will align you with your wife/husband in your path. God knows our deepesr disires, He created us before the foundation of the world. Always build relationship with the Lord first. He knows what you want and need and He will bless you the more especially when you be fasting in Jesus name, seeking the Kingdom, loving the hell out of everyone. I just ran into a lady that got me dumb struck cuz I was so attractive to her personality, rare. I'm 1 year in with the Lord, He blesses when following only Him. He'll bless you with your soulmate, focus on Him and He will deliver and take care of you. I pray this encourages the reader. Be blessed in Jesus mighty name.
From a man's standpoint there a lot of single women who go to church but really have no God at all because they are focus on themselves ( be mainpulative, selfish) and want a charismatic rich outgoing man who can't even say the shortest verse in the Bible. Some of these women are past 35 acting like teens with their selfish fanasties. Well some women and men are only doing what they know but they must grow. It is never boring to work on being the best Christian possible so in my case because I was not serious about Him in the past but got into His Word more and sought to love Him more ( leave out the prosperity preachers who distract us) the way He wants us to like He shows us all the time. I with a amazing, beautiful, sophisicated God fearing woman who just allow me to talk about Him. I grew in part because He used her to get to me. We should never compromise our faith with God to be something we are not just to get a person of the opposite sex when He is the one who takes care of us. Having God is enough.
I don't think there's anything wrong with your wife missionary dating you but I don't think there's anything wrong with expecting a man to bring some personality or at least some life experiences to the table. Usually when a man is looking for a woman, he has a list of skills, abilities, or qualities he would like her to have, so its only fair for women to expect some reciprocation in that area.
wow.. some criticism of Christian guys here... but what's shocking is the hard time Jesus gets... "too much Jesus"... and this is a Christian show?
that's the same thing I thought. The girl with the braids needs to hush. It's like she's saying "So, what else do you have going on that's interesting besides Jesus"... like Jesus is compartmentalized. I don't get a good feeling about that.
On a personal note: I found #2 offensive to my sensibilities as a 30 year old virgin man. I'm still single not because I only expect her to also be a virgin, but because when I find that her qualities match to my aspirations, she just happens to have her own ideas and sees me as a friend, hence does not accept me entirely for who I am, and appreciating that enough to give me a chance. So she focusses on how convenient I am to her life, not what is convenient for me - Selfish ambitions!
Reasons #2 and #4 made me really wonder, those questions cannot be asked under the banner of 'Christian'. They are really circumstantial and will depend on the person who legitimises them. To me they sound more carnal than spiritual aspirations.
My view on Friendzone, It sounds more like a Double standard. How do you say a guy should overlook your virginity issue and consider other qualities a woman has, but you don't even do that because you think someone is good to be your friend but NOT good enough to be your husband? People who embrace the concept of Friendzone are people who are Not interested in a person's good character or standards.
Perhaps the only thing left after listening to these ladies is pondering, Missionary dating...??? How do you fit that in the context of Christianity? I think this whole topic has been misrepresented, hence the Title is wrong for it. It sounds more like a general topic for dating than looking at the Christian context of relationships.
deep
what was that song in the beginning
Being boring is definitely a deal breaker even if he has everything else in order. I will be yawning for the rest of my life and I can't have that! lol
I've found that a lot of women at church are nowhere near as Christian as they make out when you get to know them. I could see that they could potentialy lead me down a road I don't want to go as I've been there before.
Also a lot of them know a lot about the Bible but lack understanding, an unchurched person isn't going to argue points with you so that can make them more appealing. That would work both ways.
Not saying I have a superiority complex (but I maybe I have), I have been reading the Bible 30 years and have as good a grasp of scripture as anyone which makes me contentious with potentially everyone. I won't go along with a view I believe is wrong to suit people around me. Hence why I no longer go to church.
I am 40 years old but can pass for early 30's and possibly due to my hobbies of weight training, powerlifting and cycling have a physiqe that quite a lot of women seem to find attractive. Never had a problem getting attention from women in or out of church, it's the aggrevation that's the problem when my personality doesn't fit their ideals.
Men in the church that are just saying what they think people want to hear all the time are not actually that into Jesus. Reciting scripture and mentioning Jesus every sentance doesn't give any connection to the person you are talking to which is what women are looking for when they site a man as boring. Christianity itself is about connecting with people to bring them to God which is what I always look to do.
I am going to be the best Christian I can be and I won't use the church or God for my own gain in relationships. If that means I spend the rest of my life on my own I'd rather that than be anything less than the real deal.
#2 Really. That's why so many Christian women today are still single. A godly man can be exciting when God brings you two together because a real man will consider your hobbies and put a woman's needs abouve his own because he would know to do that. I read a blog where Christian men now going toward worldly women because they will give them a chance more because of crap like this Sad.
personally i haven't seen much of #5 on the guys end. I know alot of guys who get initially attracted to a girl but when they see her not living the Christ like lifestyle then they lose that attraction. I've honestly seen more of the "missionary dating" issue on the female end. idk just my experience I could be wrong. Much love y'all.
WAIT........YOU WANT A CHRISTIAN MAN. BUT, NOT ONE THAT GO TO CHURCH ALL THE TIME. WHAT ????? YOU SEE WHY BLACKWOMEN ARE LAST TO BE DATED.
Why you gotta generalize bro?
BECAUSE THATS THE WAY THE WORLD OPERATE. ALL DOG LIKE "BONES". WOULD THAT BE A GENERALIZE STATEMENT.
Ok this is the first time I saw this and you can tell Sean is not the normal camera person.
+Roosevelt Crawford truth!
She said within TWO DAYS he was inside her house, running bathwater with rose pedals and rubbing her feet ...I wonder if he proposed on the third day?
Hi Brian,
God may be teaching you patience, so you can meet the right Christian woman. Being single gives you opportunity to grow in yourself, career, education, or spiritual maturity. Short-term singleness is good :-)
Good points made!
As a 24yr old who was raised in the church since day one, I would say I agree with them all. Number 3 and 1 are both in my opinion something that I have seen the church cultivate. I have always been taught to focus on God and not be looking around at others. Thus where the missionary dating comes into play, because we are told not to pursue women in church. Well we want to get married someday so we look elsewhere outside of the church. Sounds crazy but I have been told off by a pastor that I wasn't focused just because I was showing interest in a female member. (Actually a few different scenarios) In result this caused a setback in my ministry.
Haha in wrapping up. I myself do not date fellow church members. (Yeah that leaves the equally yoked thing as quite a task lol)
Appreciate the comment and prayer! I will be sure to ask God to provide that opportunity for you as well! :)
+Cynthia Marte I can understand that. My church doesn't have too many single people my age (I'm 25) who's not taken already or just weekend Christians. Plus dating in the church is heavily frowned upon. So what can you do?
+JDQuest hey. You said you grew up in church right? So I have a question for you. What makes someone a Christian? I'm just asking.
Winter To Haha this comment was some time ago. To your question, A christian is a follower of Christ.
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For real. What do you do when everybody seems like sisters and it becomes hard to see them as anything else.. You know
I've been in the friends zone all my life.Lol!!!
dang, lol, advice needed
so fun! #word!
#4 is hilarious!!!! and as a christian young lady..I feel that men should be well rounded...and I have experienced this before..and the women should be able to push a guy who is boring..push him out of his comfort zone..and vice versa
This video makes me sad. Little bit of theology and a whole lot of the world mixed in.
Ok now that #2 Boring, ok now I see different on that. If a guy is in the church a lot ok good. That means he's there cause he needs to be or he's there to stay out of trouble/ (temptations) and he really is content with being with the LORD, therefore he's not looking for a mate just yet
Man that boring one was hilarious looool. She doesn't want a walking talking bible lol. We are all flawed humans that is one thing we share in common, is our imperfection. And nobody let alone a woman can relate to someone who is bible all the time because quite frankly their will be times where you aren't bible and she needs to know that side of you too or you appear to be hiding something. Because all men sin and he who says he does not is a liar(oops I used the bible, maybe I'm boring too lol). So women have to see the imperfections to relate to a man as well to see that he is just as human as her.
As far as lack of confidence and fear. I know I won' get any slack cut from women saying this but,
Yes we men fear, and I know it's not very manly or leader-like. We fear, well at least I fear, that women don't notice, are not interested, or are looking for alot more than what we got. So I always find it SOooo shocking when I hear women say "men don't approach us" and I'm like Ya'll actually wanna be approached?! Like it doesn't look that way at all. Alot of woman got this cold focused uninterested look on their face that says "I got my whole life together and figured out, if you don't, then keep it moving." And if that's not true you coulda fooled me. Then it starts to seem like oh she just focused on herself she ain't interested in nobody. She straight. Look at her go. Like dang I don't got it like that but she sure do. So yea Fear will say "don't dare approach that girl unless you got it together brother". And then woman say stuff like " you don't have to have it all together". I DON'T BELIEVE YOU! But seriously it's hard to believe but maybe that's just my own illusion.
So I will finish with the question us Christian men need to know (I don't care if if sounds like I'm being a wuss)
Women give us men a reason NOT to fear approaching you?( besides what's the worst that could happen )
These girls are lame!
Too much Jesus??? Really???
King Nothing I agree
Ya who came up with list? SMH
And how you know a woman is feeling you?
Trust me the boring ones was raised by their mommas to be like that. Real men need full lives with interests and hobbies.
haha,, Jesus friend,,,,,on point
I think how ever you spell em sierra is beautiful imma christian
Why can't the woman introduce herself from across the room? Ruth is the one who proposed to Boaz. Go read the book
This episode is jokes, lol
just how american Christian women are dont matter if you muslim, christian, jewish... doesnt matter.
I AM x2!!!
this video is completely wrong and incorrect. in reality, this video puts 100% of the responsibility on the man.
This is evident near the end when the women complain about boring men. men aren't here to entertain you women.
All of those reasons that they just named off you can flip it around and say the same thing about Christian women.
We are not to be of the World. Be not unequally yoked. Some church women sound like King Divide wife telling him he was wrong for dancing.
These people are wack
Ok see on this topic I would like to hear what the guys have to say, but ok
+Rhonda JJ ua-cam.com/video/0p4J_kilLNc/v-deo.html
Missionary dating OMG....