Your lectures have made me guilt free from many incidents of my life. I am not an ideal person. Every role of mine is flawed a little bit. But now I feel it ok not to be ideal. Rather this is more practical. Hats off to you for decluttering our minds from these unnecessary thoughts .
Yeah it's called killing your soul, so that you can do business with your dark side. All bad people have their value system. The only thing is that those values are bad. And these people tell you that values are values they are not right or wrong
Mujhe bhi bahut sehna pada tha...jab tak husband jivit the roj kisi ko bhi subah subah ghar late the ..ab me south Indian hu to wo log ghar ghus jate the subah subah ...aur un logo ke liye idli,wada,sambar, chutney sab banati thi....ab husband ka dehant ho gaya corona virus me,ab to koi puchta bhi nahi...ye sab jabardasti ki socializing karna aur ghar pe faltu ka laana,aur aurto ko pareshan karna band hona chahiye....wo log khud ke ghar pe chai tak nahi pilate the aur yaha bhabiji ko jabardasti idli,wada,dosa sab banana padta tha....south indian hone ki saja bhugatni padti thi...😮
This man is doing a favor to our society by sharing videos on issues which are real problems in our society and things which actually drag us down. Thank you so much Sir! I love each and every video of your channel.
After so many years of being a good host n realising that i have wasted a lot of time and energy on these stupid circles. I simply took back steps and stopped entertaining people. I realised it is such a heavenly blessing
You are someone who is a great stress buster, I can listen to you any time of the day it's like listening to an elderly from life's experiences way to go forward Mr. Sanghwan... You rock 🤘
100 percent relatable , my inlaws call everyone into the house for get together without asking me , after that they give me whole responsibilty to comfort the guest , i feel like i became robot to them
Whose house you are living in? Is it yours or your in-laws'? They can invite but shouldn't expect you to cook, serve and clean alone. It should be a team work. I have organized parties (4-5 times a yr) for 24-25 ppl single handedly while working full time. It used to be fun, my guests and family members enjoyed it and in return we used to be invited by some of the families as well. I think if you are away from your city, province, or country then it is a nice way to stay connected to your culture. Socializing at home is much better and economic than socializing at a restaurant. Yes! Picnicking in a park is another option where families can bring food and share it. Don't stop socializing, eating, laughing, joking with friends and relatives is tonic to your health😊.
I mean that we should not stop socializing at home. Eating, cracking healthy jokes and laughing with friends/relatives without any inhibition is a tonic to our health.
Mere yha pe sb relatives bhi aa jayengey toh sara kaam phir bhi mere maa aunty ko hi krna hai baki relatives ki taraf se ek ladies bhi help nhi kregi bhle hi bua ho ya koi aur I also had seen ghr ke ladies ki kamar toot jati hai raat tak subha se sara arrangements krne me phir bhi no respect and saas sasur unke betiya bhai unke bccche alag ji level ke kmiya gina dete hai koi kuchh
I have experienced first hand. Huge time waster. As a student, attending guest in the house was very stressful. Without information or invitation anyone could come anytime. Staying for night was common too. Never had an option to avoid. You have to be in your best in front of the guests and relatives. अतिथि देवो भव! Sacrifice your wife and children for them. Great advice. Thank you 🙏🏼 😊
He is just talking about the official matters, shouldn't come to home ( official matter here means work related to office and people associated with it) and yes the friends too. But if u r talking about relations with bloodline, then I think u should think atleast once.
Sir please make video on narcissism especially in Indian households. People in our society are still not aware of how dangerous and damaging narcissistic people can be, when their are so many in Indian families.
Many motivational speaker are now days only (storyteller) but this man is true who change our society. Genuine respect for you sir from heart❤ You are real Acharya🙏
You are absolutely right. Same is to be done while inviting marriage party where real well-wishers and near relatives only need to be invited. No need for envious and jealous people around. Please make a video on that.
Nailed it sir.... This video is the voice of most of the ladies.... Esp daughter in laws. Thank you so much for discussing topics nobody even thinks about. 👍👍👍Respect for u
This is truth of Indian society,Did this mistake almost for 20 years in life,learned from mistake in year 2018 and corrected.Lot of respect for you as you are teaching a large numbers,who to be saved from this trap.
PERFECT!!!!❤️ GLAD to know we as a family we have started doing this way before. It has been 9 years we insist on meeting out and stick by it. And your talk has filled us with assurance that we are on point with what is required for healthy living. Healthy boundaries - is a prime necessity today, no Doubt. Great video Sir. 🙏
Thankyou Sir, aapne to 20 mnt m 12 saal k guilt se nikal dia....aap jo bol rhe ho same situation were at my sasural..and last m jb maine job ki vjh se kisise jyda milna chhida tb baaat samne aai k atleast chai paani puchhne or namste krne to aaye bahu....😊
Sir thanks a million for this video. I don’t feel guilty anymore about not replying to relatives who just want to drop in on a Sunday evening because they are driving on this side of the city, when I am relaxing and getting ready for the upcoming work week.
I think you are God - sent. 🙏🏼 Keep up your great work Sir. You are UNIQUE, your thinking is great. Gratitude and appreciation is just what you deserve 💞
Your videos are very good Mr. Amit. You always give so much clarity on so many issues. Most of the time I am already doing what you are advocating. It’s very reassuring. Thank you 🙏🏻May you get many more subscribers 😅
Agree totally, Amit ji. Thank you so much for posting videos. My husband and I appreciate your thoughts a lot. Absolute truth . Amazing observation with perfect solutions. You are doing a great work for the society🙏
Thank u sir for this nice content...I am 68 born..I too hv done these socializing in my young days..but over the yrs I too hv learnt alot ..and now I bluntly say NO to my hubby and to his friends ..as I remember last week I refused to my hubby's friends to have a get-together at my place.. it is due to aging and my health issues..
It is a very important topic for the new generation living in India. They must understand that their dwelling is the most important and private place that needs to be protected from your friends and far relatives.
In every video, it's like you speak my mind. I don't think it's easy to make such bold videos. It requires a paradigm shift to appreciate such content. Keep up the great work!
Excellent. I have a same thinking but my own husband doesn't understand this. I don't want to invite people and throw parties. I have been tagged as 'ghamandi'. But I don't care
Sucha practical n straight verdict on pressurising wives n whole family is so relatable.Being a vastu expert myself completely agreed to ppl have different energies n your house has an aura of you n family simply touched my❤kudos to you….subscribed.
This man is doing a favor on the small percentage of sensitive people in this country. Large part of India is insensitive on these topics and mental trauma is mostly for the sensitive minds
Meri mummy ko bhi turant shadi ke baad bahut sehna pada tha ye. Par jab meri mummy unke ghar jati thi wo chai bhi nahi puchte the. Infact jalte the aur mere parents ke bich fut dalne ka kaam karte the
@@underratedidiot4568Maa ka sabse achi dost beti ya beta hi hota he. Wo aur kiske samne roegi, feelings exchange karna jaruri hota he nehi to insan depression me chala jata he. Jisko mental health k bareme pata he wo log samajh pate he. Aur maike wale bhi sadi k bad itne puchte nehi, boldete he teri kismat ham kya kare. To maa kisse feelings share karegi, she is also a human right?????
society will force these things upon you, but remember, the time you let the environment control you, you start to loose, don't do things just because others are doing it, do what suits your needs and what benefits you and your family. Amazing content you post on this channel sir.
I recently found your channel and it has been such a delight to watch you. What beautiful takes on day to day life! What humour! Clarity on various subjects is superb. I’m writing this to appreciate so you keep making more. Thank you.
Very good content. Even I follow the same rule. My whole family like brother sisters etc when we have get together we used to do it at a central place where everybody's commutation is easy, it's good in way no budy is burdened neither the host nor the guest. Baithak system was the best...
Sir seriously ye video to mujhe apne saas ko dekhna chahiye.....m ye baat 14 saal se apne saas ko husband ko kafe samjha chuki hu.....thanks for this video 👍
100 % relatable This is still happening so much With in laws or parents both sides same system where women only have to bear the brunt but how to make our dad or father in law or uncles understand this issue ? Very difficult to bring about this change
I am so tired of these comments and pressure “ Ghar aaye mehmaan or koi bhi ghar aaya toh bina khilaye pilaye kaise bhej sakte hai !! “ Elders say such things and shame our generation always I think we are the transition generation who adjusted to such things but next genz won’t
i don't understand the negativity around this whole food thing. I feel it is a way of showing love to people. It need not be an elaborate thing - but asking someone to join for lunch is such an act of love. It is also an Indian thing. Nobody is dying to eat at my place, it is an honor if a close relative or friend is dropping by and i can share food with them.
People have their say that one should spend time with their elderlies. But I haven't found a single aged person in my entire family, thought process of whom I get inspire from. Thank you so much for filling that vacuum in my life.
Wonderful talk, Sir. You are bringing about a much needed positive change in Indian society. And since you are direct, unassuming and sensible, you tell people things as they are😅
Your content is much needed for this generation as we are confused in life and our parents dont teach us how to tackle real life problems we face in day to day life
Main bhi ye dikkat jheli hai apni pregnancy ke time par. 3rd trimster ke akhir ka 1 month bach atha jab main apne sasural gonda gayi thi. Gonda shahar ka ghar gaon ke ghar se bahut pass hone ki wajah se aur meri saas ki ati mitrta ke karan pura din koi na koi ghar mein guest rahta tha. Pura din chai pani dene mein hi bit jata tha. Pareshan hokar maine bhana banna shuru kar diya. Pregnancy ki wajah se raat mein neend na aaye aur jab din mein kisi waqt aankh lag jaye to meri saas mujhe chai banane ke liye utha deti thi. Par thank you sir ji aaj aapki baat sunkar bahut achha lag raha hai.
Very practical video sir Please make a video on mother in law staying with family on her conditions after demise of father in law How to tackle the situation positively
so true!i have seen people who are in blood relation they just come and take your hospitality and they turn their face when some callamity comes or you need them.ये बहोतही सच बात है!आपके पास आके सब आदरातिथ्य लेनेवाले सगे संबंधी,खुनके रिश्तेदार आपपर कोई आपत्ती आती है या आपको उनकी जरुरत लगती है तब मुॅंह फेर लेते है!क्या मालूम इनकी सोचही ऐसी रहती है की आपका अच्छा खासा चलते घरमें कुछ अनबन या न चाहनेवाली बाते होने लगती है,घर बिखरनेतक नौबत आती है!
10 years before in Singapore I observed this.Our neighbors though very friendly with us fever even once invited us today their house.We would sit in hotels during get together or birthday party celebrations.I appreciated their style of privacy.
Sir I have so much suffered due to behaviour of my father. For 5-6 years there wasn't a day when we don't have guest in our house. My study suffered due to this so much.
Great video guruji. My mother used to do the same tired thing when father's relative and colleagues use to visit on every holidays. Well, waiting for your video on MGTOW movement.
I don't know how to thank you for these eye-opening videos! Probably by becoming a paid subscriber 😏 If only we had this kind of information 40 yrs ago. My parents, in-laws and myself would have had much happier lives. My parents had a miserable marriage because of this issue. Thankfully at least now we have the opportunity to fix it 🙏
Ye bilkul sahi bat jinko hum khilane ko bulate h wo khud kbhi nhi bulate hume, meri life me 6’7 family aise h, pehle ladke the shadi ke bad khudki wife ayi to kbhi ek bar bhi nhi bulaya 🙄
I am 1950s model and neither me or my mother ever learnt to cook. We always had cooks. So no bhabheeji ke haath ke khana was ever offered or asked for.😅😅😅😅😅😅
Very very true sir, respect u for all video's, our privacy gets hit, we get tired of all this, bahar wala comes pokes nose, create fights in family, make fun of children,, everything is very very bad and this is true Narcassist likes this,, very good observation 🙏
Very true Sir. Moreover, I have witnessed some husbands boasting about/praising their mothers for serving guests, cooking for 30 plus people back in the days and how their current wives have so many issues doing the same. Also true, many husbands themselves would never cook for their own friends but will invite their friends and expect their wives to cook.
Meri mummy ko bhi turant shadi ke baad bahut sehna pada tha ye. Par jab meri mummy unke Ghar jati thi wo chai bhi nahi puchte the. Infact jalte the aur mere parents ke bich fut dalne ka kaam karte the
Mai varanasi se hu, bt Mere husband aise hi hai.... Kisi ko nahi bulate... Jo ana chahta h use bahar hi le jate hai.... Hamari life bohut smooth chal rahi hai,
Indian log private space ki respect nahi karte which is too essential for mental health. Mujhe to saare creative ideas hi akele mein aate hain. When we have our space we evolve better.
Amit ji, I totally agree with you. I know a person who lost his house because of inviting wrong people in his house, some of them were narcissists and emotionally toxic people. So it is very important nowadays to not invite people at home. 🤔
I am seeing this playing out in my parents house in the villege. relatives, papa ki dost aa jaye aur mera apne room me band ho jata hai, nikalna hi nahi hai jab tak log chale na jaye
My inlaws stayed separately, believe it or not , they kept coming ,and invited their relatives to my home . I spent 20 years adjusting my work, children ,inlaws, my people with Sanki maids . Suffered a lot . Women suffer when husband doesn't open mouth kyooke usko mummy henpecked bolegi.
I totally agree…..so much of socialization that happened before was majboori rather than saamajik 😅 ek to social media nahi that aur google bhi nahi toh toh relations banaane padte tha so that questions ke answer kisi se toh poochhana padega….I ❤ modern times 😊
Hello sir I really want you to make a video on ladies whose husbands are all time busy with work and ladies are house wife’s . Please guide them how to utilise their time n not get frustrated for being alone most of the time.
Urban life is so stressful. Now i get the point why they need consultants to talk other than friends, teachers, relatives.Come to villages the real sukun is here believe me or not.
It's true sir , hamare parents ke time PE to bahut zyada hua, hamare time pe bhi bahut that but ab bachhe samaghdar ho gayee hai. Na to vo kisi Ko bulaye Ghar PE aur Hume bhi kehte ki bulana hai to tab bulana jab hum Ghar PE nahi honge
Very good topic ..but sir jo real relative aake ghar me ghus ke aapki hr chij ko lekar judgemental hote h unka kya kiya jaye...I am also living in gurugram but I am bothered abt inviting anyone at my home ..because I think they will come and meri hr chij ko lekar judgemental honge...I am too much peach lover..dont want any chaos in my life❤❤❤.plz make a video on this topic also
If you are at peace with yourself then why should any judgment of anyone rattle you... You don't go to others and they won't come to your home. Period! Kabhi kabhi bahut peace bhi nuksaan dayak hoti hai. You may be young now so can afford to be aloof but once you cross 30 yrs, you will long for some social interaction. Try to strike a balance between work life and healthy social life. Loneliness can lead to depression so be wary of it, many young ppl are battling with it in their plush apartments.
Beautifully explained Sango veerji. Main sochta tha main alag hu society se lekin aapke videos dekhke Bahut Sukoon milta hai. Aise aur topics laaye aap.
Really good video , I don't prefer to meet at home,but bohot tane sunane padate hain ke social nahi ho ,ghar nahi bulate etc ,but muze Jo peace of mind mila hain ye cycle se bahar ake ( ghar bulao phir unke ghar jao) wo gazab hain. Apke video se laga koi to hain jo ye baat ko samazata hain
@@ayanbhattacharjee1076 it exist my dear. If you don't have depression then it does not mean depression does not exist. You only understand or relate those things which you know or hear about. This is new trend which we are facing recently
Yes this is also a underlying issue in many marriages across the world Lot of my friends have told me about this openly which then leads to affairs & divorces
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Thanks for strength my views I am very happy that I follow this rule in my home.
Sir pls make a video on current news on jyot maurya sdm and her husband type matter when many men called their wive's studies.
Ye video apka bakwas h
@@vineetatewari8808muze aap ke haath ka khana khana hai. Aap meri bhabhi ho.
Your lectures have made me guilt free from many incidents of my life. I am not an ideal person. Every role of mine is flawed a little bit. But now I feel it ok not to be ideal. Rather this is more practical. Hats off to you for decluttering our minds from these unnecessary thoughts .
Yeah it's called killing your soul, so that you can do business with your dark side. All bad people have their value system. The only thing is that those values are bad. And these people tell you that values are values they are not right or wrong
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Mujhe bhi bahut sehna pada tha...jab tak husband jivit the roj kisi ko bhi subah subah ghar late the ..ab me south Indian hu to wo log ghar ghus jate the subah subah ...aur un logo ke liye idli,wada,sambar, chutney sab banati thi....ab husband ka dehant ho gaya corona virus me,ab to koi puchta bhi nahi...ye sab jabardasti ki socializing karna aur ghar pe faltu ka laana,aur aurto ko pareshan karna band hona chahiye....wo log khud ke ghar pe chai tak nahi pilate the aur yaha bhabiji ko jabardasti idli,wada,dosa sab banana padta tha....south indian hone ki saja bhugatni padti thi...😮
Very sad.. even I faced it.. but i always tell them i am not a good cook..
Ladies ke liye same saza hai South Indian ho ya North Indian 😊
It happened with almost every innocent lady...it happens because their husbands don't value them above others.
Dear Mother,
My Mother also faced the same in Northern India. He passed away in 1997... I was 10 years old...
north Indian uncultured hote south ke comparison main i know it sorry
This man is doing a favor to our society by sharing videos on issues which are real problems in our society and things which actually drag us down. Thank you so much Sir! I love each and every video of your channel.
He is a fem!nist
You are my bhabhi.❤❤
After so many years of being a good host n realising that i have wasted a lot of time and energy on these stupid circles. I simply took back steps and stopped entertaining people. I realised it is such a heavenly blessing
Me too
Same here
I was always a good host went out of my way to cook serve or entertain and then later none invite us back
So I too have stopped now
You are someone who is a great stress buster, I can listen to you any time of the day it's like listening to an elderly from life's experiences way to go forward Mr. Sanghwan... You rock 🤘
100 percent relatable , my inlaws call everyone into the house for get together without asking me , after that they give me whole responsibilty to comfort the guest , i feel like i became robot to them
Whose house you are living in? Is it yours or your in-laws'?
They can invite but shouldn't expect you to cook, serve and clean alone. It should be a team work.
I have organized parties (4-5 times a yr) for 24-25 ppl single handedly while working full time. It used to be fun, my guests and family members enjoyed it and in return we used to be invited by some of the families as well.
I think if you are away from your city, province, or country then it is a nice way to stay connected to your culture. Socializing at home is much better and economic than socializing at a restaurant.
Yes! Picnicking in a park is another option where families can bring food and share it.
Don't stop socializing, eating, laughing, joking with friends and relatives is tonic to your health😊.
I mean that we should not stop socializing at home. Eating, cracking healthy jokes and laughing with friends/relatives without any inhibition is a tonic to our health.
Mere yha pe sb relatives bhi aa jayengey toh sara kaam phir bhi mere maa aunty ko hi krna hai baki relatives ki taraf se ek ladies bhi help nhi kregi bhle hi bua ho ya koi aur I also had seen ghr ke ladies ki kamar toot jati hai raat tak subha se sara arrangements krne me phir bhi no respect and saas sasur unke betiya bhai unke bccche alag ji level ke kmiya gina dete hai koi kuchh
Aap bhi apni friends bula lo and loud music bajao 😂
@@shubhabharti7071every one is not like you everybody is not a party person like you if there is no team work it will suck!
Privacy is previliage , protect it .
Awesome articulation and message passed with relatibililty l❤❤❤
I have experienced first hand. Huge time waster. As a student, attending guest in the house was very stressful. Without information or invitation anyone could come anytime. Staying for night was common too. Never had an option to avoid. You have to be in your best in front of the guests and relatives. अतिथि देवो भव! Sacrifice your wife and children for them. Great advice. Thank you 🙏🏼 😊
He is just talking about the official matters, shouldn't come to home ( official matter here means work related to office and people associated with it) and yes the friends too.
But if u r talking about relations with bloodline, then I think u should think atleast once.
Are yaar sch me rishtedar aajate hai poori padhai ki maa bhn ho jati hai
@@abhaysoni926 tumhari language dekh ke lag raha hai, tumne sach me padhayi nahi ki
Sir please make video on narcissism especially in Indian households.
People in our society are still not aware of how dangerous and damaging narcissistic people can be, when their are so many in Indian families.
Please I agree
Sure Amit ji neurocist log Ghar mey h us par ek video banane ki sakth jarurat h aap hi kuchh kar sakte h thanks Bhai sahab ji
Many motivational speaker are now days only (storyteller) but this man is true who change our society.
Genuine respect for you sir from heart❤
You are real Acharya🙏
आधे घंटे कोई आएगा पर पूरा दिन इसी में गुजर जाएगा और कभी कभी एक दिन पहले से ही तैयारी
You are absolutely right. Same is to be done while inviting marriage party where real well-wishers and near relatives only need to be invited. No need for envious and jealous people around. Please make a video on that.
👍👍👍👍👍👍👍 great comment and observation!!
Nailed it sir.... This video is the voice of most of the ladies.... Esp daughter in laws. Thank you so much for discussing topics nobody even thinks about. 👍👍👍Respect for u
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This is truth of Indian society,Did this mistake almost for 20 years in life,learned from mistake in year 2018 and corrected.Lot of respect for you as you are teaching a large numbers,who to be saved from this trap.
PERFECT!!!!❤️ GLAD to know we as a family we have started doing this way before. It has been 9 years we insist on meeting out and stick by it. And your talk has filled us with assurance that we are on point with what is required for healthy living. Healthy boundaries - is a prime necessity today, no Doubt. Great video Sir. 🙏
Thankyou Sir, aapne to 20 mnt m 12 saal k guilt se nikal dia....aap jo bol rhe ho same situation were at my sasural..and last m jb maine job ki vjh se kisise jyda milna chhida tb baaat samne aai k atleast chai paani puchhne or namste krne to aaye bahu....😊
Sir thanks a million for this video. I don’t feel guilty anymore about not replying to relatives who just want to drop in on a Sunday evening because they are driving on this side of the city, when I am relaxing and getting ready for the upcoming work week.
30 ,32 साल झेलने के बाद अब हाथ खड़े कर दिए।पति और उनके परिवार वालों ने जीरो इन हॉस्पिटैलिटी का खिताब दे दिया 😅😅
Bilkul sahi kiya aapne..love and value yourself first
Bahut Daer ki aapne
I think you are God - sent. 🙏🏼 Keep up your great work Sir. You are UNIQUE, your thinking is great. Gratitude and appreciation is just what you deserve 💞
Your videos are very good Mr. Amit. You always give so much clarity on so many issues. Most of the time I am already doing what you are advocating. It’s very reassuring. Thank you 🙏🏻May you get many more subscribers 😅
Agree totally, Amit ji. Thank you so much for posting videos. My husband and I appreciate your thoughts a lot. Absolute truth . Amazing observation with perfect solutions. You are doing a great work for the society🙏
Thank u sir for this nice content...I am 68 born..I too hv done these socializing in my young days..but over the yrs I too hv learnt alot ..and now I bluntly say NO to my hubby and to his friends ..as I remember last week I refused to my hubby's friends to have a get-together at my place.. it is due to aging and my health issues..
Please don't feel bad or guilty. No one will take care of you.
@@supercrazydesi ..true..
It is a very important topic for the new generation living in India. They must understand that their dwelling is the most important and private place that needs to be protected from your friends and far relatives.
In every video, it's like you speak my mind. I don't think it's easy to make such bold videos. It requires a paradigm shift to appreciate such content. Keep up the great work!
Excellent. I have a same thinking but my own husband doesn't understand this. I don't want to invite people and throw parties. I have been tagged as 'ghamandi'. But I don't care
Intelligent women who have self respect and take decisions indwpendently are generally labelled as ghamandi
Ghamandi for what? Are you earning millions?
I am tagged as non social.
Sucha practical n straight verdict on pressurising wives n whole family is so relatable.Being a vastu expert myself completely agreed to ppl have different energies n your house has an aura of you n family simply touched my❤kudos to you….subscribed.
Jinka east positive result na de unke yaha itni socializing ni hoti
I lost it at "Chuna hain kya?" 😂😂😂😂
everyone did haha
"CHUNA HAI KYA"...i laughed out so loud🤣🤣🤣🤣
Really...😂😂😂....much-needed topic, as usual Amit Sir all your topics are essential n mind-blowing...Thank you 😊😊
This man is doing a favor on the small percentage of sensitive people in this country. Large part of India is insensitive on these topics and mental trauma is mostly for the sensitive minds
Right
Meri mummy ko bhi turant shadi ke baad bahut sehna pada tha ye. Par jab meri mummy unke ghar jati thi wo chai bhi nahi puchte the. Infact jalte the aur mere parents ke bich fut dalne ka kaam karte the
Meri mummy 20 saal tak sahi.
@@vikashranjan1436Fir kya hua
@@vikashranjan1436
Bhai aab India mein bhi west ki tarah nuclear family system chalu hoo Gaya hain
Apki mummy apke samne roti thi ye sab baato pe? Very bad mother tbh
@@underratedidiot4568Maa ka sabse achi dost beti ya beta hi hota he. Wo aur kiske samne roegi, feelings exchange karna jaruri hota he nehi to insan depression me chala jata he. Jisko mental health k bareme pata he wo log samajh pate he. Aur maike wale bhi sadi k bad itne puchte nehi, boldete he teri kismat ham kya kare. To maa kisse feelings share karegi, she is also a human right?????
society will force these things upon you, but remember, the time you let the environment control you, you start to loose, don't do things just because others are doing it, do what suits your needs and what benefits you and your family. Amazing content you post on this channel sir.
I can only say great things to learn n listen as usual. MAZA aa Gaya or kush samajhne ko mila. Thanks
Very practical sir. A very clear line should be there in friendship. I maintain it throughout my life.
I recently found your channel and it has been such a delight to watch you. What beautiful takes on day to day life! What humour! Clarity on various subjects is superb. I’m writing this to appreciate so you keep making more. Thank you.
Very good content. Even I follow the same rule. My whole family like brother sisters etc when we have get together we used to do it at a central place where everybody's commutation is easy, it's good in way no budy is burdened neither the host nor the guest. Baithak system was the best...
Each word makes complete sense . Worth listening.
Sir seriously ye video to mujhe apne saas ko dekhna chahiye.....m ye baat 14 saal se apne saas ko husband ko kafe samjha chuki hu.....thanks for this video 👍
Very relevant advise Amit ji. Bahut dino se koi case study nahi aayi. Eagerly waiting for the same.
Absolutely true...my mom entertained cousins CMG from USA and every time they stayed for days and it was so disturbing
100 % relatable
This is still happening so much
With in laws or parents both sides same system where women only have to bear the brunt but how to make our dad or father in law or uncles understand this issue ?
Very difficult to bring about this change
True that. I regret falling in line with such freeloaders
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send this video to them.....
@@Hetal28 same with me.even still I am doing.
Its your family. Do it lovingly and you will also get a lot of love and affection
Festivals per bhi mandatory hota hai ki nanad aayegi to bhabhi hi khana banayegi aur serve karne ke aur unke jaane ke baad hi woh apne ghar jaayegi.
Yah culture m.p. mai bahut hain.
Nothing wrong 😅
@@utsavmehra98bhabhi maike ja sakti hai ,kya bhiya khana nahi khilayenge?
I am so tired of these comments and pressure “ Ghar aaye mehmaan or koi bhi ghar aaya toh bina khilaye pilaye kaise bhej sakte hai !! “
Elders say such things and shame our generation always
I think we are the transition generation who adjusted to such things but next genz won’t
Not transition gen ,sandwich gen between 2 dominating gen.
Simple that aaye Rehman ko bolo apne ghar jake aaram se khaye jo khana h❤😂😂😂😂
@@aarthishetty2214 yes you are right
We are sandwiched for sure
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i don't understand the negativity around this whole food thing. I feel it is a way of showing love to people. It need not be an elaborate thing - but asking someone to join for lunch is such an act of love. It is also an Indian thing. Nobody is dying to eat at my place, it is an honor if a close relative or friend is dropping by and i can share food with them.
Please share this video as much as possible! It is very important that people understand this.
100% relatable content. Guruji always on point.
People have their say that one should spend time with their elderlies. But I haven't found a single aged person in my entire family, thought process of whom I get inspire from. Thank you so much for filling that vacuum in my life.
Very deep video.. I understand these things quite well. Thank u for bringing out these issues openly in society.
Sir aapke video practical , spiritual aur bahot hi knowledgeable hai🎉
Best thing about videos is that it gives awareness of our surroundings in utmost interesting way. Thank you Guruji
Wonderful talk, Sir. You are bringing about a much needed positive change in Indian society. And since you are direct, unassuming and sensible, you tell people things as they are😅
Great video! The occasional dinner or lunch invitation to friends is fine I think. But inviting office colleagues at home is completely not required.
Muze aapke hath ka khana hai.❤
Your content is much needed for this generation as we are confused in life and our parents dont teach us how to tackle real life problems we face in day to day life
Main bhi ye dikkat jheli hai apni pregnancy ke time par. 3rd trimster ke akhir ka 1 month bach atha jab main apne sasural gonda gayi thi. Gonda shahar ka ghar gaon ke ghar se bahut pass hone ki wajah se aur meri saas ki ati mitrta ke karan pura din koi na koi ghar mein guest rahta tha. Pura din chai pani dene mein hi bit jata tha. Pareshan hokar maine bhana banna shuru kar diya. Pregnancy ki wajah se raat mein neend na aaye aur jab din mein kisi waqt aankh lag jaye to meri saas mujhe chai banane ke liye utha deti thi. Par thank you sir ji aaj aapki baat sunkar bahut achha lag raha hai.
Very practical video sir
Please make a video on mother in law staying with family on her conditions after demise of father in law
How to tackle the situation positively
so true!i have seen people who are in blood relation they just come and take your hospitality and they turn their face when some callamity comes or you need them.ये बहोतही सच बात है!आपके पास आके सब आदरातिथ्य लेनेवाले सगे संबंधी,खुनके रिश्तेदार आपपर कोई आपत्ती आती है या आपको उनकी जरुरत लगती है तब मुॅंह फेर लेते है!क्या मालूम इनकी सोचही ऐसी रहती है की आपका अच्छा खासा चलते घरमें कुछ अनबन या न चाहनेवाली बाते होने लगती है,घर बिखरनेतक नौबत आती है!
10 years before in Singapore I observed this.Our neighbors though very friendly with us fever even once invited us today their house.We would sit in hotels during get together or birthday party celebrations.I appreciated their style of privacy.
Dhamakedaaaaaaar Mazzaaaaa Aaaa Gayaaaaa, Amit Guru Ji!!! 🔥✨🌪️🔥✨
I agree with you Sir.We should invite only a few,trusted and genuine people to our homes.
Sir I have so much suffered due to behaviour of my father. For 5-6 years there wasn't a day when we don't have guest in our house. My study suffered due to this so much.
This was a very needed video. I have personally faced and observed the same. Thanks for bringing these topics in light.
Sir, please make video on narcissism especially in Indian households. Liked each video by you.Hats off to you.
Defence sector ke families jo quarters mei rehte hai unko yahi kaam hai. Dusro ke ghar jaana.
Great video guruji. My mother used to do the same tired thing when father's relative and colleagues use to visit on every holidays. Well, waiting for your video on MGTOW movement.
बहुत ही अच्छे टॉपिक पर विडियो बनाया और बहुत ही सही बात की है, आशा करते हैं कि आगे भी ऐसे ही वीडियो देखने को मिलेंगे
I don't know how to thank you for these eye-opening videos! Probably by becoming a paid subscriber 😏
If only we had this kind of information 40 yrs ago. My parents, in-laws and myself would have had much happier lives.
My parents had a miserable marriage because of this issue.
Thankfully at least now we have the opportunity to fix it 🙏
Ye bilkul sahi bat jinko hum khilane ko bulate h wo khud kbhi nhi bulate hume, meri life me 6’7 family aise h, pehle ladke the shadi ke bad khudki wife ayi to kbhi ek bar bhi nhi bulaya 🙄
Sir, cent% relatable. You have said the truth. Please do make more of such much-needed videos. Really eye-opening.
Another 20/10 video sir. Please make a video on guests staying at your house & vice versa to save hotel expenses. 😊
I am 1950s model and neither me or my mother ever learnt to cook. We always had cooks. So no bhabheeji ke haath ke khana was ever offered or asked for.😅😅😅😅😅😅
Sso lucky.
@@SK-ge3vi my 7 decades on living in society has taught me one thing: DO NOT ATTEMPT TO DO ANYTHING YOU DO NOT LIKE.
Really at least someone stood for middle class. God bless you
Very very true sir, respect u for all video's, our privacy gets hit, we get tired of all this, bahar wala comes pokes nose, create fights in family, make fun of children,, everything is very very bad and this is true Narcassist likes this,, very good observation 🙏
Very true Sir. Moreover, I have witnessed some husbands boasting about/praising their mothers for serving guests, cooking for 30 plus people back in the days and how their current wives have so many issues doing the same. Also true, many husbands themselves would never cook for their own friends but will invite their friends and expect their wives to cook.
I can understand this.....but my husband doesn't understand this ...
Meri mummy ko bhi turant shadi ke baad bahut sehna pada tha ye. Par jab meri mummy unke Ghar jati thi wo chai bhi nahi puchte the. Infact jalte the aur mere parents ke bich fut dalne ka kaam karte the
Mai varanasi se hu, bt Mere husband aise hi hai.... Kisi ko nahi bulate... Jo ana chahta h use bahar hi le jate hai.... Hamari life bohut smooth chal rahi hai,
Thik baat k hai.....guru g main aapki baat se puri tarah sahmat hun
What a crackerjack of an explosive topic, Sir...Incisive and insightful analysis as always
Indian log private space ki respect nahi karte which is too essential for mental health. Mujhe to saare creative ideas hi akele mein aate hain. When we have our space we evolve better.
Namaskar Mr. Sangwan 🙏you are quite right. We stopped calling people home 10 years ago
Amit ji, I totally agree with you. I know a person who lost his house because of inviting wrong people in his house, some of them were narcissists and emotionally toxic people. So it is very important nowadays to not invite people at home. 🤔
This won't sit well with some people 😏 but you are absolutely right about all the aspects of this .
I am seeing this playing out in my parents house in the villege.
relatives, papa ki dost aa jaye aur mera apne room me band ho jata hai, nikalna hi nahi hai jab tak log chale na jaye
My inlaws stayed separately, believe it or not , they kept coming ,and invited their relatives to my home . I spent 20 years adjusting my work, children ,inlaws, my people with Sanki maids . Suffered a lot . Women suffer when husband doesn't open mouth kyooke usko mummy henpecked bolegi.
I totally agree…..so much of socialization that happened before was majboori rather than saamajik 😅 ek to social media nahi that aur google bhi nahi toh toh relations banaane padte tha so that questions ke answer kisi se toh poochhana padega….I ❤ modern times 😊
Hello sir
I really want you to make a video on ladies whose husbands are all time busy with work and ladies are house wife’s .
Please guide them how to utilise their time n not get frustrated for being alone most of the time.
Look for a job if you have so much of free time. He has mentioned that thousands of times in his videos.
Sir aapke video se bht knowledge milti hai. Maza 😂 aajata hai.
Urban life is so stressful. Now i get the point why they need consultants to talk other than friends, teachers, relatives.Come to villages the real sukun is here believe me or not.
Thanks for this video. U r showing the real truth of our society.
It's true sir , hamare parents ke time PE to bahut zyada hua, hamare time pe bhi bahut that but ab bachhe samaghdar ho gayee hai. Na to vo kisi Ko bulaye Ghar PE aur Hume bhi kehte ki bulana hai to tab bulana jab hum Ghar PE nahi honge
Very true sir , you are my inspiration. Hats off to you 🎉😊😊😊
Sir bahut hi badia topic
Ye reality hai jo apne kaha hai
Bilkul sahi kaha
Very good topic ..but sir jo real relative aake ghar me ghus ke aapki hr chij ko lekar judgemental hote h unka kya kiya jaye...I am also living in gurugram but I am bothered abt inviting anyone at my home ..because I think they will come and meri hr chij ko lekar judgemental honge...I am too much peach lover..dont want any chaos in my life❤❤❤.plz make a video on this topic also
If a man of house is not stronge for their family then it will happened.stupid husband
If you are at peace with yourself then why should any judgment of anyone rattle you...
You don't go to others and they won't come to your home. Period!
Kabhi kabhi bahut peace bhi nuksaan dayak hoti hai.
You may be young now so can afford to be aloof but once you cross 30 yrs, you will long for some social interaction. Try to strike a balance between work life and healthy social life.
Loneliness can lead to depression so be wary of it, many young ppl are battling with it in their plush apartments.
Beautifully explained..hats off you Sir
Bahut badhiya baat. It's a big social issue jisko shayad aj se pehle kisi ne realise b nahi Kiya Tha.
Yea topic hamari society ki requirement hayn abhi kuch log bohot bholay hayn . GOD BLESS YOU ❤
Beautifully explained Sango veerji. Main sochta tha main alag hu society se lekin aapke videos dekhke Bahut Sukoon milta hai. Aise aur topics laaye aap.
U r 100% right. My father insulted in front of everybody who came to our house.
Really good video , I don't prefer to meet at home,but bohot tane sunane padate hain ke social nahi ho ,ghar nahi bulate etc ,but muze Jo peace of mind mila hain ye cycle se bahar ake ( ghar bulao phir unke ghar jao) wo gazab hain. Apke video se laga koi to hain jo ye baat ko samazata hain
Sir plz make a video on Sexless marriages which me & most of my friends of this generation are going through
Nothing like that exists
@@ayanbhattacharjee1076 it exist my dear. If you don't have depression then it does not mean depression does not exist. You only understand or relate those things which you know or hear about. This is new trend which we are facing recently
Yes this is also a underlying issue in many marriages across the world
Lot of my friends have told me about this openly which then leads to affairs & divorces
@@dumcharaz8538really
Underated topic.
Sir you always discuss such real topics... PRANAAM
गुरु जी आप है असली गुरु जी आप की एक एक बातें बिल्कुल निजी जिंदगी की सत्य है
Bahut bahut bahut a66a laga 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
You are amazing sir...
Thanks a lot 🙏❤