That's because women have most students loan debt, credit cards debt, and auto loan debt than men. Most females arent financially literate, so they don't understand things like debt leveraging, 401k, life insurance, and etc. Women are so driven into instant gratification. I worked for Virginia Unemployment during covid and I can't tell you how many highly educated females that literally live paycheck to paycheck making over 100k a year because they wanted that lifestyle of the nice house and cars. Most men who have money you would never tell because they live frugally. Most men that have wealth know monetary possession wouldn't bring happiness. Women are the opposite. Women think monetary possession is a sign of wealth and happiness. Why do you think society caters to women? Because they carry the most debt. The government, society, and etc use women to extort money for men. Why do you think females get into the club for free when clubs are losing their profits because men will spend on them. You can think about weddings, Valentine's day, and etc. Again, the use females to extort money from men because men use money to get females, but females have been tricked by society that money is measurement of your success and happiness.
Sis, I think you just highlighted one of the problems without even knowing it. Maybe if someone had said it to sisters without always needing kid gloves on, back in grade school, middle school, high school and or college, like every other race of female on the planet, this issue wouldn't be such a phenomenon with our people. Meanwhile, back in real life... black women lead the world in sayings and catch phrases like "Fu#k Yo Feelings". Shruggs. Maybe that was the problem. You do know that Every brother is just like him. Until he realizes that he's wasting his breath. He just knows how to stay calm and get paid from it. It's easy to charm a fat girl when you've got cookies on you. As in telling women what they want to hear to get their ear later on. That's like using treats to train pets. It's kind of sad that it works but, I'm not hearing on that. One day tho, if he gets frustrated on screen and, curses y'all out, and won't share any cookies, just make sure that your view of him doesn't change and that you're still here for it because he's no different than the rest of us.
provision is spiritual, emotional, physical and financial. his message was to women but many men also dont understand that provision is not just financial.
Most men understand that and is why we constantly ask the question, "what do you bring to the table?" We have a good understanding of the concept. Many of our women don't...
@Lil08103 you can disagree, but that doesn't change the facts. Ask a man what does promising mean and you will hear the same thing you quote. Note, I said MEN....Also, many are just not doing so because of the women felling entitled. Therefore, it's not that they don't know that just aren't interested in the provision for most women today. There's a huge difference....
Not true. Men need to learn to substitute where they lack. Love, effection,spending time, communication, help around the house but when you choose to do none of that. That's when a woman gone look for a paycheck to tolerate you
@@c.b.8068Actually only women was clapping cause men need to understand where to substitute where they lack or else we will look for a paycheck. Understand how a women thinks.
It's hard for people who've never received the virtues & attributes he describes to accept infrastructure , empathy, compassion or simply being a good listener.
Men need to start carrying themselves as more than wallets- stop flashing clothes, cars and money. Talk about important things. Respect and Honesty to themselves and others.
Ex Military and Building Contractor who became ill in 2020 with 4th Stage Metastatic Cancer…. Shyt laid me out!! Doctors thought I was done but I’m still here with Gods Grace and the Will to live….. #FuckCancer. Not Cancer free but I’m still fighting…. I say all that to say my lifestyle changed in a lot of ways…. and my Bestfriend of 25 years who is now my wife…. reminded me of everything this cat just said….. Nothing but Respect & Love for my wife…. Love my woman!! Salute @ Tripp, you really have to understand what he said @ Seasons!!!
💯💯💯. I pray for super natural healing in your body right now in JESUS CHRIST name. I don’t know if you are a believer of CHRIST but even if you’re not my brother, my faith in your healing is enough. Please do this by faith first 7 days, Take the blood of JESUS one a day. SPEAK TO YAH ASKING HIM FOR WHAT YOU DESIRE IN YOUR BODY & IN YOUR LIFE. FAITH IS A VERY POWERFUL WEAPON AND/OR TOOL. I SPEAK HEALING IN YOUR LIFE🙏🏾🙌🏾❤️. I’VE SEEN IT WORK….MORE GRACE TO YOU & YOUR WONDERFUL WIFE.
May God continually bless your union ❤Does cancer run in your family? Heart issues tan in mine, it’s a generational curse that fasting & prayer can break. Just like cancer. Keeping praying to the Living God, he’ll do it & forgive everyone you haven’t forgiven. Unforgiveness opened the door to infirmity in my life, forgiving closed it
If he's making sure you're safe, if you never worry about the rent and utilities, if there is always gasoline in the tank, if he's given you a AAA card and an insurance card, if he keeps the house repaired...if you don't have to worry about your life infrastructure, he's a protector and provider.
@@mocamocam2258 Of course, which is why husbands need jobs. But a lot of that isn't direct work, and direct work can make it cheaper. Just yesterday, I installed new front struts on our car. It took ordinary hand tools and about three hours. I happen to have a lot of auto mechanical experiences, but there are plenty of UA-cam videos showing how to do it. It's a simple job. The parts cost $250. A mechanic shop would have charged nearly $1,000.
@@Mary-cg1sl Yes, it's going to take some money, if he's really being a full-scale protector. But he can do a lot of the things I mentioned, such as opening the doors, pumping the gas, and taking out the garbage. You do what you can...you don't skip the entire message because there are some parts you can't do.
That is the definition indeed, but you can’t get any supply of anything without money and you can’t get money without working. Basic human needs require money. Food, water (healthy water), running water, roof to cover your head, clothes, electricity, heat/air, gas, healthcare, vehicle to transport, and in today’s society- the internet to connect with the world and/or register online. Now, there are intangible things he can supply also like love, friendship, protection, guidance/advice, support including physical presence, mental, emotional, spiritual, and moral support, leadership, service, kindness, care, affection, and cheerfulness. Now, all of the intangibles are much needed, but those physical needs that he can pay for is what helps you survive. Without those, you can die. And in this video, he has minimized the physical to less than half. When your physical needs aren’t met for basic survival, it throws the intangible needs out the window. That’s where you get the statement: What’s love got to do with it? Love is an action word. But if somebody isn’t providing for your well-being, then they are showing they don’t care about your well-being, and if you are moving as a household unit and the man is not even carrying less than half that weight, then that means the majority of the household surviving is on the woman. And that throws things out of order and alignment. I think what he did in this video is reduced the man’s role. Others might think he expanded it, but if you play it back, he said the man would give less than half and provide in other areas, that obviously don’t involve money and will not sustain your basic wellbeing.
I had been making that mistake after having serious long term back issues. Even though I knew I was more than just a person to bring money, I wouldn't approach a woman when I started having money problems because of my back. But then an ex reached out to me and none of the money thing is an issue for her. She makes plenty of money still sees the value that's in me.
Ladies you need to walk and talk with your man, you are going to have good and bad times, but if you two talk about things you will work it, don’t be so quick to give up on each other. Loving can be hard.
The fact so many people don’t understand this just continues to make me want to stay out the dating pool. I’m grown now and running into other grown people who don’t get this is scary man.
Nothing was said here, it’s all gibberish. How does infrastructure happen without money? Oh, is it to convince some woman that you know how to build infrastructure but somehow you’re broke? Is it your friends and the connections that you have? But somehow you’re broke? Is it that you don’t use your money to create infrastructure? You know some sorcery? It’s all gibberish, get off the internet if you really wanna learn something. Nobody with a camera has ever given real advice, if there’s cameras involved it’s all nonsense.
Why I'm getting divorced I'm just a paycheck and the worker I said this how you make me feel soon to be ex tried to convince me working myself to death for an ungrateful family is my job,and the kids are not mine ,I said I'm not crazy so I'm 🏃🏃🏃
💯% right. Money is good, but not everything. So many man have money but acts immature, irresponsible, arrogant and entitled. Certainly not attractive to me. I rather be alone and provide for myself ❤
@@Wubby805 it only just reminds us of how petty ppl can be. A simple mistake and you take it a level where it shouldn't go. If we gotta deal with small mistakes like this then it's impossible to be a union. As long as you know what it meant, did you really have to go low on a mispelled word? Smh! Ijs!
Thank you, Tripp for explaining this to the masses. I’ve been spreading this around for the longest and it seems like it was falling on deaf ears! Been saying this since Kevin Samuel put money as the value of a high value man!
@caligulalauren9071 Exactly, just because you make 6 figures does not make you high value. You also have to the respect of your peers and the people in your industry and they see the value in you. Basically respected by those is your field.
🤔...If a man has not INVESTED in his SPIRITUAL VALUE MORE than any other aspect of his life; If he has NOT/Does NOT VALUE, and cultivate his own relationship above ALL others, (including the woman he expects to "be his peace/piece?") with The Creator/GIVER of his 1st and LAST Breath; If he doesn't seek, recognize, desire, acknowledge, and actually VALUE the "aligned and equally yoked" Spirituality the woman of interest/desire possesses--then he. Ain't. HIGH. Value... to me... If the Spiritual foundation/root is in place, EVIDENCED by the fruit, therein lies his "HIGH Value".
Come on Tripp!!! Spitting Facts!!!! Society has reduced us to just a paycheck but we get no credit for keeping the ship afloat and providing security in other ways outside of money.
No we don't think that's the only way men can provide but it surely seems like many men conveniently love coming up short in that area so they come in love bombing you with all the other shyt til they suck you in then turn into their true selves eventually. That's why so many women out here getting unalived everyday. Unequally yoked with these men who be lo key jealous of a woman's accomplishment, ability and drive to get money that he can't seem to obtain.
When my ex wife and I got divorced, the children decided to stay with me despite the fact that mommy makes more money. I did a lot with them and for them while growing up so they knew daddy can also take care of them as well as mommy if not better.🙏🏽
The main reason why many of our people lost that wisdom generations ago, is because of too many coming from dysfunctional backgrounds. Now is the time for this generation of black Americans to break the curse of the baby daddy & baby momma culture, that destroys families & communities, because of fatherlessness in the home. Don't settle for less... Marry before you carry.💪💖🕊
Well said… I’ve been trying to explain this to MEN… When asked what I want from a man and I respond with provision, they automatically assume I wanna get in their pockets. I’m forced to break it down to the very last compound🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
100% I wish men understood this too. My last boyfriend let me go because he didn't feel like he could provide financially. I told him that wasn't important to me and he said it was important to him 😭 That was a very sad disconnect because he took care of me in every way I needed and I wanted him as he was I just want a best friend that I can grow with
@@clarkkent52 You could be right. Just really weird because he pursued me for 3 years before I was ready to date again, and then after we got together he started to pull away after only a month of dating. Maybe that was just too long and he'd built me up in his head too much and I didn't match up with what he'd imagined? I figured he knew me well enough by the time we dated and it seemed like the compatibility and chemistry were there so idk 🤷♀️
@@creatureofstyle yeah u made him wait 3 years for what?…women really think backwards…let the badmon hit first night or soonish def not three years but make the decent guy wait…by that time it turns into I’ll hit it just get my investment (time money emotions and moral support) back and bounce. Here’s a novel idea let the good guy hit on the first date but make the bad boy wait it’s simple logic really
@@clarkkent52 I made him wait because I was healing from a ltr breakup and wasn't in an emotionally healthy place to date anyone. When I was ready he was the only person I wanted to be with and the first time he actually asked me on a date I accepted I only became aware that he was interested about a year before we started dating. He is shy and was good at reading the room so he waited me out until I was ready He never invested anything besides friendship prior to us dating. I don't allow men to spend money on me if I'm not dating them, and I never leaned on him for emotional support ...It's always so sad to see the bias and prejudice against women voiced so blatantly. I'm sorry if you've had some bad experiences but that's not how all women work. Pick better women to spend time with
This us why as a woman who has her own your money can’t impress me. I learned the hard way you could have all the looks and all the money but what that character do. Those attributes he speaks of are from a man with values and good character. These attributes will always win
Many men know nothing of infrastructure. I wholeheartedly agree with his message. As a woman who out earns a lot of men, monetary provision has not been my priority in dating. And while I didn’t have the words to describe it, what he’s saying is on point. I believe many women are looking for more than financial provision. So men with infrastructure… can you come off these relationship podcasts and start some Infrastructure podcasts? Can you start teaching men how men create holistic provision? Please and thank you.
Amen 🙏🏾 My father, God rest his soul, was a man who provided for our family! Not just me and my Mom but for his nephews and niece! He loved his family. He took us to baseball games, roller skating, ice skating, amusement parks, the beach, local festivals! But he also provided me with emotional support on how to get along in this world. How to protect myself and be more outspoken than I was. And not be scared, but to live life….my Dad was my best friend.
Most women won’t understand this, because all they care about is money. My wife is a RN makes about 94k I’m a manager making about 80k. The marriage mindset isn’t about who makes more, it about what we make as a team, which is almost 200k. Together we have buying power to afford a house, pay off debt and start our LLC. Tripp is spot on
@tarshaledwards7468 I didn't know the technology from the movie The Minority Report has been invented yet.🤔 Well you know others folks relationships better than them. 🤷♂️
At least you’re making 80k. That’s great. The issue is when a guy or even a woman isn’t working at all and trying to put down the 80k salary or 94k salary your wife makes.
He is absolutely right. How many women with men who make big money like oh, he’s always so busy he don’t spend time with me. He’s always working. Unless he comes from generational wealth and wealth beyond means and don’t have to work I don’t have to work very hard but he’s going to be working to make that big money. I absolutely agree. That provision is infrastructure. Because even if he’s not making a whole Lotta money and you are what else is he doing. Is he taking care of the house. Is he helping with the children? Is he being a partner? Is he lightning your load for everything else? That’s what you need to think about.
🤔...Is he praying 🙏🏾 WITH you, FOR you, OVER you... or PREY-ing on you?!? Is he Speaking LIFE into your life? What's the SPIRITUAL PROVISION he's providing for you and any little you's y'all have created together/are responsible for? What's the SPIRITUAL PROTECTION AND SPIRITUAL INFRASTRUCTURE he offers, so that you have EVERYTHING you need to cultivate the PEACE you should be (in /with an ABUNDANCE of Love ❤) offering 🫴🏾 him/your youth, and most definitely yourself?
One thing I can respect about Tripp he articulate himself in a way that makes you listen but the reality is this most of these men today's time provisions are set on mediocrity and confusion, erratic selfish realities so many are emotionally unstable and spiritually disturbed so no we as people need to focus more on ourselves than trying to be in these struggles of fake relationships and love.....
Blessings, you have a point, but that's not a solution. It shouldn't be that hard for 2 people to get along when it's been done ,with all other ethnic groups. It's about looking through the right lens. Stop competing. You can win with us or watch us win
He is absolutely right that payments are not the only way to provide. However, if that man is broke leave him lmaoo. Idc how these men try to flip it baby! When a man doesn’t have financial backing for long, he will start to lose himself and tarnish everything around him! THAT STARTS WITH YOU! GET OUT OF A DODGE THE MOMENT YOU SEE HIS LOST OF AMBITION BECOME A PATTERN
This reads like the comment of a woman... I'm going to go with that assumption and say this: How much money a man has is not an indicator of character or ambition. There are plenty of men (like Harvey Weinstein for instance) who have plenty of money yet deal significant damage to the people around them. The terms you are looking for are masculine identity, purpose, and principles. The money is an accent: it makes a man more of who he already is. But if he doesn't have that masculine identity, purpose, and principles, his only reason for making money becomes making money and, as the ancient wisdom says: the love of money is the root of all evil.
This I agree with. Provision is NOT JUST MONEY. But, if the kids can’t eat and we don’t have a pot to pee in or a window to throw it out of…then we have no infrastructure! Stability, security, these things make up infrastructure. A man doesn’t have to have a lot of money. But he should have wisdom, humility, honor, and responsibility. If he has those things, he will always make sure his family is secure and stable.
@@rhysenfyneix7864 I mean this with all due respect I don’t agree. He has already stated having a good character which I totally stand by. However, men are not kind ppl when they’re broke. Idgaf how y’all explain it. I’ve dealt with it all in reality. If that man doesn’t have money for too long it chips away at all the characteristics and personality traits you’re speaking of. That’s my stand love. Also, someone evil like Harvey and the rest of those men started before money. Money enhances it, absolutely! However, evil is fkn evil! People don’t need money to be downright diabolical. I’ve witness it all. I’ll take me man with a good soul and a secure financial status!
I've been saying this as a women for years. If you can't help pay bills. Substitute elsewhere. Put in effort, show love, effection, understanding, communication, help out around the house, show something but when we get none of that, we gone look for a paycheck to tolerate you but we ain't gone get none of those with no paycheck on top of that to tolerate you.
But sadly if you are a "provider" and don't have a expensive cars, take trips every month to other countries, have expensive clothes, watches or whatever, no women will look at him as a "provider".
Then you’re looking at the wrong women. You don’t need all of that for the right woman to notice you. Actually, a real woman wants a man who doesn’t have all that, but is instead investing his money, or building a business or side hustle, or funding an education. Do something productive with his life.
I get what he’s saying, but he should define and spell out what “provision” and “infrastructure” are within the context of a relationship. I think “provision” means *BOTH* the physical necessities: food, shelter, clothing, and transportation. A provider must at least *contribute* to these *provisions.* He or she must also *provide* emotional and psychological necessities: love, support, communication, time, availability, reliability, understanding, honesty, devotion, faithfulness, empathy, respect, fulfilling lovemaking, and trust.
I love this guy !!!! Ladies , stop listening to anyone else and completely concentrate on his views.. then go listen to others.. my mom made 3 times what my dad did.... YET.. my dad purchased foreclosed acres and flipped them... he repaired their vehicles.. he fixed anything broken in their home.. HE BUILT HER DREAM HOME FOR 25% OF what it would have cost ..
I have said this for a while now, the 3 main things men provide: 1) Protection 2) Security 3) Management (for the future) Security and managing the future of the family are two separate things. This is also the order in which they come in. What men look for from women that they can provide to men: 1) Take care if the man (physical please, verbal and emotional encouragement) 2) Submission 3) Order in the home (maintain the home from cleaning, cooking, kids/mans life structure like doctor appointments, lunch for work/school)
I was just talking to my mother about this yesterday. These women got the game messed up. Talking about “I want a millionaire man”. Meanwhile I am looking for the home inspectors, mechanics, contractors, carpenters, etc. I am looking for the men that knows how to fix things with their hands and will protect me.
I have to disagree. A man with a vision is a man with a vision. Until that infrastructure start making a mean for a way of life, it's just a thought or vision. They're more people working with money and paying bills.
He's that one dude that women listen to and don't give much pushback. Which is rare because if it was any other guy on the panel they would've been upset
@@Craigthomas322 facts he fashoo gets the best reception from the ladies but when the cam panned over i saw like half the room of ladies still sit there with pissed off looks and not clapping cuz they determined to find a guy based off his financial strength totally proving his point
Decision making and planning is way more important than labor. That's why people think CEOs don't do anything and the laborer is never asked what they think.
Men have no issue with their sole contribution being the ways in which they provide financially.. until they can't provide financially or a woman asks/expects them to. Now it's "we provide infrastructure". But if a woman were to say she can take care of herself, doesn't need your money and asks you to provide in other non-financial ways, she's "masculine" or a "modern woman".
FINALLY someone said it. Imo this is the BIGGEST LIE/MISCONCEPTION about relationships that our sisters don't understand. Provider isnt being a sugar daddy or ALL financial. There is so much more to that
PREACH! Shame the devil! Tell. The. Truth. Every relationship I have had as an adult woman I have been the bread winner. My ambition and monetary goals stem from my own ish from childhood. (In some respects a grand achievement; in others a heavy burden.) I have killed myself in trying to figure out, trying to learn how to give a man “purpose” in my life because I don’t need their money. Along with that, I’m Latina…I’m domestic…I MUST have a clean house, I love to cook for my man and make his plate. But finding man confident enough to provide the infrastructure I desire - a task that seems unattainable. Lead me. Guide me. Teach me. I’m so thirsty - but not in the secular since - I’m thirsty for a man that can inspire me, that can protect me while enabling me to grow in ways I never imagined. Comfort me. Protect me. Guide me. And I promise you, you’ll experience a love and a level of respect you never fathomed!
He's not wrong. Unfortunately, there are a lot of men who don't provide anything else. A lot of women understand this and don't desire to be "kept women", they desire partnership with someone who also understands they're more than a check and some sex.
My question is... why does every couple live at or above their means to the point where everything resolves around a Man having to be this bigballer provider 💰 just to be respected. Why can't we just live peacefully in our current situation without fronting. I guess we are our own worse enemies. He made an excellent point 🎯 , i wonder how many women actually took that home with them??
Not saying this as a shot to discourage you, sending it as a shot to add context. You not having met the man to provide infrastructure or pay the bills, says more about the men you attract, not about men in general.
Not trying to place blame. But sometimes it's the man you overlook the one that does not meet the checklist. May have the most to offer you. I know we like what we like. We also have to grow out of our old selves to expand our taste. To something more healthy for ourselves.
@@RyanBeard-c8p I agree with that but I'm well past the build a man stage. Been there done that. If I meet someone with no goals or ambition, I won't be around long. You'll lose yourself trying to help someone else. I learned my lesson giving and giving to a relationship that didn't benefit me. I put a limit on time spent and giving cause a taker will have no limit on how much they'll take.
@@58julib It's very healthy to know yourself like this. We all like what we like and if you have not found your person yet, it means you take much care in your selection process. Having said that, spending extra quality time with a potential someone that may not check every box, should not be considered settling. If he puts you first, is honest, intelligent, responsible and empathetic, these exceptional qualities should not be discarded in favor of the perfect person journey some of us sign up for.
Well said.. These are programs that have been downloaded from past generations and experiences.And it's sad that we can't wrap our head around logic, especially our black women.
Truth! Thing is most people without money come to bring chaos, if they can’t be the captain they will drown the ship with all its’ occupants, that’s the problem.
Hallelujah!! I tell women this all the time!! Praying that they catch on so we can get together and have wholesome relationships instead of this superficial lifestyle that people portray nowadays.
He right a provider doesn't just mean money. A real provider provides security, respect, love, a provider fills you up. You should feel like your seeing God through your husband. Which is why he is the head over the woman.
There's a few ways, not limited to: 1. Establishing rules in the relationship- what he will and won't do or tolerate from the woman. Not just in regards to unruly behavior on either part but also things like self deprecation, or people pleasing behavior, etc--any behavior that causes harm to him, her, or the relationship. 2. Seeing what problems she has and offering advice or assistance in fixing them 3. By bringing up topics of importance during dates- like marriage, kids, schooling, life goals, desired experiences: creating a team within the relationship, essentially. 4. By establishing a team purpose in the relationship so that there can BE a relationship even when there are no dependent children. 5. By leading by example: "we will not yell at each other" he may say; he makes a real effort not to yell and apologizes if he does. And he does that with as much as he can within his life generally. 6. By asserting himself when someone (including the woman) poses a threat to the relationship, or his or the woman's safety/security. 7. By ensuring there are determined roles in the relationship and family--it may be that both partners do all the things but establishing responsibility leads to ensuring accountability. If it's no one's job, it's no one's fault it doesn't get done. Better to AVERT a crisis than MANAGE a crisis. I could go on. But if you read books on business management and effectiveness (like Stephen Covey's 7 Habits of Highly Effective People), a lot of what I said just ends up being business management skills. Of course, it's my belief that men are to establish order in families: that's inherently a leadership role; if you don't believe men are to lead in marriages, then 🤷♂️ most of what I said becomes moot. Long story short: providing "infrastructure" is the underlying structure, framework, foundation etc of the relationship: those things that lead to functioning teams with the man as the leader who serves. Just FYI: I am Christian, so my answer comes from that perspective. Take what you find useful, discard the rest 😃
WTH!!! Provision is definitely money, all those things he just named translates over to money that’s just word salad. Also you can call provision something else but remember bills are due at the first of month 😂😂😂 people say anything on the internet
@@loriparks8657 Tyler Perry was just pandering. In most, meaning the majority of relationships men are the breadwinners and pay the bulk of the bills!!! Provision definitely ties over to money!!
Thank you king! Me being a wife, my soul needed to here this. My husband and I been married for 20 years and the season, what Mr. Tripp has explained is full swing. Both my parents has gone on to glory along with my grandparents and aunts so i have no wisdom around me. I refer back to my past examples and from what i recall I was shown that the man is the provider financially and if he couldn't provide financially he was consider worthless. I want to believe that because my husband is worthless because he does what he can for his family until he is blessed with employment. Hearing this made me want to stand by husband stronger than before. Thank you so much for this wisdom!
He is correct but typically it works where the man has nothing to offer no paycheck or provision and structure. Just asking woman to decrease standards and expect useless men and this is what I'm seeing in many. He speaks from a different mindset and why I usually love everything he say but he doesn't know what's out there. Good woman options are limited and especially BW and a study was proven. What he speaks in many of his videos are hard to find in men that don't think like him
Lol where is all these great BW with a lot to offer ? 99 percent don't offer nothing but mouth and a promiscuous mindset . The only part you said was true is good BW are very very limited . Hilarious
We're not talking about men with no paychecks. You wouldn't date those guys anyway. So why even make a comment about a guy that doesn't have anything to offer? He's trying to put things in perspective on how you should look at relationships with someone that you do Consider.
I'm a 64 y/o black man, and I'm totally impressed with the wisdom of this young man. Keep speaking the truth brother.
I am a 57 years old woman, and I totally understand and agree with him.
That's because women have most students loan debt, credit cards debt, and auto loan debt than men. Most females arent financially literate, so they don't understand things like debt leveraging, 401k, life insurance, and etc.
Women are so driven into instant gratification. I worked for Virginia Unemployment during covid and I can't tell you how many highly educated females that literally live paycheck to paycheck making over 100k a year because they wanted that lifestyle of the nice house and cars.
Most men who have money you would never tell because they live frugally. Most men that have wealth know monetary possession wouldn't bring happiness. Women are the opposite. Women think monetary possession is a sign of wealth and happiness. Why do you think society caters to women? Because they carry the most debt. The government, society, and etc use women to extort money for men.
Why do you think females get into the club for free when clubs are losing their profits because men will spend on them. You can think about weddings, Valentine's day, and etc. Again, the use females to extort money from men because men use money to get females, but females have been tricked by society that money is measurement of your success and happiness.
I’m a 69 year old goldfish and I’m swimming 🐟💨
Yes he is very wise for his age.
I'm a 95 year old Kunfu Master from The Shaolin. And I want to challenge this young man to the Kumate
This man is never disrespectful and tells it plainly and I’m here for it.
Sis, I think you just highlighted one of the problems without even knowing it.
Maybe if someone had said it to sisters without always needing kid gloves on, back in grade school, middle school, high school and or college, like every other race of female on the planet, this issue wouldn't be such a phenomenon with our people. Meanwhile, back in real life... black women lead the world in sayings and catch phrases like "Fu#k Yo Feelings". Shruggs. Maybe that was the problem.
You do know that Every brother is just like him. Until he realizes that he's wasting his breath. He just knows how to stay calm and get paid from it. It's easy to charm a fat girl when you've got cookies on you. As in telling women what they want to hear to get their ear later on. That's like using treats to train pets. It's kind of sad that it works but, I'm not hearing on that.
One day tho, if he gets frustrated on screen and, curses y'all out, and won't share any cookies, just make sure that your view of him doesn't change and that you're still here for it because he's no different than the rest of us.
most sisters don't like to hear what he is saying. the ones in the crowd clapping are just following along.
Why y'all need to be told with kid gloves as adults tho? Maybe that was the problem.
@@Bonsai-Sage and they claim being "skrong"
The Worst part of what this brother say. It is that women will let it go in 1 ear and out the other.
provision is spiritual, emotional, physical and financial. his message was to women but many men also dont understand that provision is not just financial.
Being a good steward has to do with being at your best even in times of struggle. Don't be fooled to believe more money, less problems.
Most men understand that and is why we constantly ask the question, "what do you bring to the table?" We have a good understanding of the concept. Many of our women don't...
@bigthurl5613 as a man who counsels men I disagree but respect your opinion
@Lil08103 you can disagree, but that doesn't change the facts. Ask a man what does promising mean and you will hear the same thing you quote. Note, I said MEN....Also, many are just not doing so because of the women felling entitled. Therefore, it's not that they don't know that just aren't interested in the provision for most women today. There's a huge difference....
@bigthurl5613 why are you being so defensive? i literally said i respect your opinion. and it's not a fact. get out your feelings.
“…That’s why so many kept women are lonely.” -Tripp
🔥🔥🔥 that's was‼️‼️ ON POINT!!!🎯
Supahotfire😂
...and "countless" women WERE NOT clapping/praizing/appreciating the statement and context🤦🏾♂️
Not true. Men need to learn to substitute where they lack. Love, effection,spending time, communication, help around the house but when you choose to do none of that. That's when a woman gone look for a paycheck to tolerate you
@@c.b.8068Actually only women was clapping cause men need to understand where to substitute where they lack or else we will look for a paycheck. Understand how a women thinks.
It's hard for people who've never received the virtues & attributes he describes to accept infrastructure , empathy, compassion or simply being a good listener.
Agreed
💯💯💯💯💯
Total Facts
If it can be taught, they can learn. No excuses. Otherwise, you failed yourself and shouldn't complain.
Empathic listening should be aspirational
THIS!!! Men can and SHOULD be valued on more than what they can “provide” monetarily 👏🏾
Tell that to the sisterhood.
Men need to start carrying themselves as more than wallets- stop flashing clothes, cars and money. Talk about important things. Respect and Honesty to themselves and others.
@@bplayerr1 The sista hood is gonna get it or get left behind. Seems the latter b/c can't nobody seem to tell them NOTHING that isn't feel good.
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Thank you for your service. Blessings, get well ❤️🩹 . Keep up the fight. God bless your support team. #fuckcancer
💯💯💯. I pray for super natural healing in your body right now in JESUS CHRIST name. I don’t know if you are a believer of CHRIST but even if you’re not my brother, my faith in your healing is enough. Please do this by faith first 7 days, Take the blood of JESUS one a day. SPEAK TO YAH ASKING HIM FOR WHAT YOU DESIRE IN YOUR BODY & IN YOUR LIFE. FAITH IS A VERY POWERFUL WEAPON AND/OR TOOL. I SPEAK HEALING IN YOUR LIFE🙏🏾🙌🏾❤️. I’VE SEEN IT WORK….MORE GRACE TO YOU & YOUR WONDERFUL WIFE.
#FuckCancer
YOU AND YOUR WIFE ARE BLESSED. PRAYERS FOR YOUR FIGHTING EVIL CANCER.
May God continually bless your union ❤Does cancer run in your family? Heart issues tan in mine, it’s a generational curse that fasting & prayer can break. Just like cancer. Keeping praying to the Living God, he’ll do it & forgive everyone you haven’t forgiven. Unforgiveness opened the door to infirmity in my life, forgiving closed it
You better tell it, Tripp 👏🏾👏🏾
If he's making sure you're safe, if you never worry about the rent and utilities, if there is always gasoline in the tank, if he's given you a AAA card and an insurance card, if he keeps the house repaired...if you don't have to worry about your life infrastructure, he's a protector and provider.
It takes money for all of that😂😂😂
He is speaking on being safe and having what one needs in other areas as well
@@mocamocam2258 Of course, which is why husbands need jobs. But a lot of that isn't direct work, and direct work can make it cheaper. Just yesterday, I installed new front struts on our car. It took ordinary hand tools and about three hours. I happen to have a lot of auto mechanical experiences, but there are plenty of UA-cam videos showing how to do it. It's a simple job. The parts cost $250. A mechanic shop would have charged nearly $1,000.
You didn't understand the message. You mentioned so many things that require money.
@@Mary-cg1sl Yes, it's going to take some money, if he's really being a full-scale protector. But he can do a lot of the things I mentioned, such as opening the doors, pumping the gas, and taking out the garbage. You do what you can...you don't skip the entire message because there are some parts you can't do.
If you can't connect to that woman emotionally, don't marry her.💯✌️
Tripp is a freaking unicorn. Just a lovely self aware man.
Come on somebody!!! So happy I have always understood this!!! ❤
Yep
I agree ❤❤
He’s got a point! The definition of provide is to supply or make available something that is wanted or needed. That’s not limited to money!
That is the definition indeed, but you can’t get any supply of anything without money and you can’t get money without working. Basic human needs require money. Food, water (healthy water), running water, roof to cover your head, clothes, electricity, heat/air, gas, healthcare, vehicle to transport, and in today’s society- the internet to connect with the world and/or register online. Now, there are intangible things he can supply also like love, friendship, protection, guidance/advice, support including physical presence, mental, emotional, spiritual, and moral support, leadership, service, kindness, care, affection, and cheerfulness. Now, all of the intangibles are much needed, but those physical needs that he can pay for is what helps you survive. Without those, you can die. And in this video, he has minimized the physical to less than half. When your physical needs aren’t met for basic survival, it throws the intangible needs out the window. That’s where you get the statement: What’s love got to do with it? Love is an action word. But if somebody isn’t providing for your well-being, then they are showing they don’t care about your well-being, and if you are moving as a household unit and the man is not even carrying less than half that weight, then that means the majority of the household surviving is on the woman. And that throws things out of order and alignment. I think what he did in this video is reduced the man’s role. Others might think he expanded it, but if you play it back, he said the man would give less than half and provide in other areas, that obviously don’t involve money and will not sustain your basic wellbeing.
I pray there’s no man out there waiting for his money to be right to approach me. Baby, bring that consistency and emotional intelligence over here.
I had been making that mistake after having serious long term back issues. Even though I knew I was more than just a person to bring money, I wouldn't approach a woman when I started having money problems because of my back. But then an ex reached out to me and none of the money thing is an issue for her. She makes plenty of money still sees the value that's in me.
👋🏾 well hello.
Stop capping
😩🙌🏽🙏🏽
Studies show that a lot of them don't have that either.
Ladies you need to walk and talk with your man, you are going to have good and bad times, but if you two talk about things you will work it, don’t be so quick to give up on each other. Loving can be hard.
The fact so many people don’t understand this just continues to make me want to stay out the dating pool. I’m grown now and running into other grown people who don’t get this is scary man.
Nothing was said here, it’s all gibberish. How does infrastructure happen without money? Oh, is it to convince some woman that you know how to build infrastructure but somehow you’re broke? Is it your friends and the connections that you have? But somehow you’re broke? Is it that you don’t use your money to create infrastructure? You know some sorcery? It’s all gibberish, get off the internet if you really wanna learn something.
Nobody with a camera has ever given real advice, if there’s cameras involved it’s all nonsense.
Exactly. Provision to women today means MONEY and that's it. That's all they care about
Why I'm getting divorced I'm just a paycheck and the worker I said this how you make me feel soon to be ex tried to convince me working myself to death for an ungrateful family is my job,and the kids are not mine ,I said I'm not crazy so I'm 🏃🏃🏃
💯% right. Money is good, but not everything. So many man have money but acts immature, irresponsible, arrogant and entitled. Certainly not attractive to me. I rather be alone and provide for myself ❤
You spelled women wrong.
You just described women 1000%.
I definitely agree. You stick by them thru the worse they get on top and start acting different, reminds me that Angela Bassett role she played
@@Wubby805 it only just reminds us of how petty ppl can be. A simple mistake and you take it a level where it shouldn't go. If we gotta deal with small mistakes like this then it's impossible to be a union. As long as you know what it meant, did you really have to go low on a mispelled word? Smh! Ijs!
You missed his point. His message is to women to stop looking at a man's money as the only means of provision. It's much more than that.
@Craigthomas322 No, she didn't miss the point. She just added more to his point.
I’m so glad we are having these conversations we need to restore families ❤
Preach tripp!! I swear every time he speaks, it makes me proud to be man!!
This brotha did an excellent job breaking this down and explaining it
Thank you, Tripp for explaining this to the masses. I’ve been spreading this around for the longest and it seems like it was falling on deaf ears! Been saying this since Kevin Samuel put money as the value of a high value man!
Straight facts
There’s other points of value that he also stated but you can’t be high value and homeless. 😅
@caligulalauren9071 what does not being "high value" means being homeless, says more again about YOU.🤔🤷🏿♂️
@caligulalauren9071 Exactly, just because you make 6 figures does not make you high value. You also have to the respect of your peers and the people in your industry and they see the value in you. Basically respected by those is your field.
🤔...If a man has not INVESTED in his SPIRITUAL VALUE MORE than any other aspect of his life; If he has NOT/Does NOT VALUE, and cultivate his own relationship above ALL others, (including the woman he expects to "be his peace/piece?") with The Creator/GIVER of his 1st and LAST Breath; If he doesn't seek, recognize, desire, acknowledge, and actually VALUE the "aligned and equally yoked" Spirituality the woman of interest/desire possesses--then he. Ain't. HIGH. Value... to me... If the Spiritual foundation/root is in place, EVIDENCED by the fruit, therein lies his "HIGH Value".
Come on Tripp!!! Spitting Facts!!!! Society has reduced us to just a paycheck but we get no credit for keeping the ship afloat and providing security in other ways outside of money.
That is so true.. And men need to accept THAT challenge..
Priest, Promoter, protector, prayer warrior, provider . Look for all 5!
Notice How Quiet The Females In The Audience Is. Notice How Quiet The Women On Stage Is.
It had to be said. Thank you for saying it, Tripp. As a woman, it blows my mind how many women think money is the only way a man is to provide.
It's really sad.😔
You think the same way too stop lieing
@@joshpollard4591 You know me? Stop projecting and seek help.
No we don't think that's the only way men can provide but it surely seems like many men conveniently love coming up short in that area so they come in love bombing you with all the other shyt til they suck you in then turn into their true selves eventually. That's why so many women out here getting unalived everyday. Unequally yoked with these men who be lo key jealous of a woman's accomplishment, ability and drive to get money that he can't seem to obtain.
Yesyesyes!! Provision is the ability to "keep the family mission PUSHIN'...NAILED IT! 💜💪🏾💜
When my ex wife and I got divorced, the children decided to stay with me despite the fact that mommy makes more money. I did a lot with them and for them while growing up so they knew daddy can also take care of them as well as mommy if not better.🙏🏽
Bless you!
you are sooo right. People worship money over character, integrity and respect.
The main reason why many of our people lost that wisdom generations ago, is because of too many coming from dysfunctional backgrounds.
Now is the time for this generation of black Americans to break the curse of the baby daddy & baby momma culture, that destroys families & communities, because of fatherlessness in the home.
Don't settle for less...
Marry before you carry.💪💖🕊
I also think social media and the state of "black entertainment" is to blame.
@@03cornbreadBlack ppl have to stop blaming outside things for the decisions adults make. We’ve done it long enough
@@laurencameron3150
The outside stuff is a part of the blame.
Agreed 💯, but once an individual realizes the issue, now one must be accountable. When you know better, you do better .
@@exposinghiddentruth3590 We have too many resources for that to still be a hard issue to overcome.
By some of the comments i can tell many have never seen infrastructure implemented anywhere including as a child
Get your minds Right....💯✌🏾
Well said… I’ve been trying to explain this to MEN… When asked what I want from a man and I respond with provision, they automatically assume I wanna get in their pockets. I’m forced to break it down to the very last compound🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
You said that, bruh. Amen, Hallelujah and damn straight!!!!
100% I wish men understood this too. My last boyfriend let me go because he didn't feel like he could provide financially. I told him that wasn't important to me and he said it was important to him 😭 That was a very sad disconnect because he took care of me in every way I needed and I wanted him as he was
I just want a best friend that I can grow with
You’re rare because unfortunately many women reinforce his misperception
nah he let you go cos he didnt want to be with you and told you that to make it sound honorable...
@@clarkkent52 You could be right. Just really weird because he pursued me for 3 years before I was ready to date again, and then after we got together he started to pull away after only a month of dating. Maybe that was just too long and he'd built me up in his head too much and I didn't match up with what he'd imagined? I figured he knew me well enough by the time we dated and it seemed like the compatibility and chemistry were there so idk 🤷♀️
@@creatureofstyle yeah u made him wait 3 years for what?…women really think backwards…let the badmon hit first night or soonish def not three years but make the decent guy wait…by that time it turns into I’ll hit it just get my investment (time money emotions and moral support) back and bounce. Here’s a novel idea let the good guy hit on the first date but make the bad boy wait it’s simple logic really
@@clarkkent52 I made him wait because I was healing from a ltr breakup and wasn't in an emotionally healthy place to date anyone. When I was ready he was the only person I wanted to be with and the first time he actually asked me on a date I accepted
I only became aware that he was interested about a year before we started dating. He is shy and was good at reading the room so he waited me out until I was ready
He never invested anything besides friendship prior to us dating. I don't allow men to spend money on me if I'm not dating them, and I never leaned on him for emotional support
...It's always so sad to see the bias and prejudice against women voiced so blatantly. I'm sorry if you've had some bad experiences but that's not how all women work. Pick better women to spend time with
This us why as a woman who has her own your money can’t impress me. I learned the hard way you could have all the looks and all the money but what that character do. Those attributes he speaks of are from a man with values and good character. These attributes will always win
He is very well on point
Every time I watch their shows this man always on point. He is a very very intelligent human being
Preach and Facts Tripp Preach and Facts 🏆🐐🎯🙏❤️
Many men know nothing of infrastructure. I wholeheartedly agree with his message. As a woman who out earns a lot of men, monetary provision has not been my priority in dating. And while I didn’t have the words to describe it, what he’s saying is on point. I believe many women are looking for more than financial provision.
So men with infrastructure… can you come off these relationship podcasts and start some Infrastructure podcasts? Can you start teaching men how men create holistic provision? Please and thank you.
The question then becomes will you follow
Amen 🙏🏾 My father, God rest his soul, was a man who provided for our family! Not just me and my Mom but for his nephews and niece! He loved his family. He took us to baseball games, roller skating, ice skating, amusement parks, the beach, local festivals! But he also provided me with emotional support on how to get along in this world. How to protect myself and be more outspoken than I was. And not be scared, but to live life….my Dad was my best friend.
Most women won’t understand this, because all they care about is money. My wife is a RN makes about 94k I’m a manager making about 80k. The marriage mindset isn’t about who makes more, it about what we make as a team, which is almost 200k. Together we have buying power to afford a house, pay off debt and start our LLC. Tripp is spot on
Until some one cheats! Good luck!!
@tarshaledwards7468 I didn't know the technology from the movie The Minority Report has been invented yet.🤔 Well you know others folks relationships better than them. 🤷♂️
At least you’re making 80k. That’s great. The issue is when a guy or even a woman isn’t working at all and trying to put down the 80k salary or 94k salary your wife makes.
Bruh this was a standing ovation moment! But look at how many women didn’t want to receive and accept this message.
#TRIPP IS BRINGING THE KNOWLEDGE TO US EVERY TIME 🎯💯🔥🖤
Preach, because provision builds in every area, even when the area is grey. This is what true marriage is all about.
He is absolutely right. How many women with men who make big money like oh, he’s always so busy he don’t spend time with me. He’s always working. Unless he comes from generational wealth and wealth beyond means and don’t have to work I don’t have to work very hard but he’s going to be working to make that big money. I absolutely agree. That provision is infrastructure. Because even if he’s not making a whole Lotta money and you are what else is he doing. Is he taking care of the house. Is he helping with the children? Is he being a partner? Is he lightning your load for everything else? That’s what you need to think about.
Lol the problem is a lot of men aren't doing those things.. and if you're not, the least you could do is have money.
🤔...Is he praying 🙏🏾 WITH you, FOR you, OVER you... or PREY-ing on you?!? Is he Speaking LIFE into your life? What's the SPIRITUAL PROVISION he's providing for you and any little you's y'all have created together/are responsible for? What's the SPIRITUAL PROTECTION AND SPIRITUAL INFRASTRUCTURE he offers, so that you have EVERYTHING you need to cultivate the PEACE you should be (in /with an ABUNDANCE of Love ❤) offering 🫴🏾 him/your youth, and most definitely yourself?
Why don’t people just date people in their own career field if they have standards of someone making as much as they do? Problem solved
@@jas1565you mean the men you find aren't doing those things. Time for self-reflection
He's right... Provision is NOT only money; yet it does include it. Nurturing, guidance, leadership and support by a Husband is just important.
Tripp and Kitty should do their own podcast. They truly understand the assignment.
I'm here to tell you, they do not care. It's money first. Money last. And money in the middle.
One thing I can respect about Tripp he articulate himself in a way that makes you listen but the reality is this most of these men today's time provisions are set on mediocrity and confusion, erratic selfish realities so many are emotionally unstable and spiritually disturbed so no we as people need to focus more on ourselves than trying to be in these struggles of fake relationships and love.....
Blessings, you have a point, but that's not a solution. It shouldn't be that hard for 2 people to get along when it's been done ,with all other ethnic groups. It's about looking through the right lens. Stop competing. You can win with us or watch us win
The "sprinkle" of applause by the women in the audience shows how much they're not feeling the TRUTH he's ministering to them! Sad 😢
He is absolutely right that payments are not the only way to provide. However, if that man is broke leave him lmaoo. Idc how these men try to flip it baby! When a man doesn’t have financial backing for long, he will start to lose himself and tarnish everything around him!
THAT STARTS WITH YOU! GET OUT OF A DODGE THE MOMENT YOU SEE HIS LOST OF AMBITION BECOME A PATTERN
U didn't get the message.
@@tneilly I did, you just see it your way.
This reads like the comment of a woman... I'm going to go with that assumption and say this:
How much money a man has is not an indicator of character or ambition. There are plenty of men (like Harvey Weinstein for instance) who have plenty of money yet deal significant damage to the people around them. The terms you are looking for are masculine identity, purpose, and principles.
The money is an accent: it makes a man more of who he already is. But if he doesn't have that masculine identity, purpose, and principles, his only reason for making money becomes making money and, as the ancient wisdom says: the love of money is the root of all evil.
This I agree with. Provision is NOT JUST MONEY. But, if the kids can’t eat and we don’t have a pot to pee in or a window to throw it out of…then we have no infrastructure! Stability, security, these things make up infrastructure. A man doesn’t have to have a lot of money. But he should have wisdom, humility, honor, and responsibility. If he has those things, he will always make sure his family is secure and stable.
@@rhysenfyneix7864 I mean this with all due respect I don’t agree. He has already stated having a good character which I totally stand by. However, men are not kind ppl when they’re broke. Idgaf how y’all explain it. I’ve dealt with it all in reality. If that man doesn’t have money for too long it chips away at all the characteristics and personality traits you’re speaking of. That’s my stand love.
Also, someone evil like Harvey and the rest of those men started before money. Money enhances it, absolutely! However, evil is fkn evil! People don’t need money to be downright diabolical. I’ve witness it all.
I’ll take me man with a good soul and a secure financial status!
Looking at this audience I would have thought this was a big time church. You guys are really speaking truth because the people obviously hear it.
Trip be speaking facts!!!!!
As always
I've been saying this as a women for years. If you can't help pay bills. Substitute elsewhere. Put in effort, show love, effection, understanding, communication, help out around the house, show something but when we get none of that, we gone look for a paycheck to tolerate you but we ain't gone get none of those with no paycheck on top of that to tolerate you.
But sadly if you are a "provider" and don't have a expensive cars, take trips every month to other countries, have expensive clothes, watches or whatever, no women will look at him as a "provider".
Wow that's a sobering truth
Then you’re looking at the wrong women. You don’t need all of that for the right woman to notice you. Actually, a real woman wants a man who doesn’t have all that, but is instead investing his money, or building a business or side hustle, or funding an education. Do something productive with his life.
I get what he’s saying, but he should define and spell out what “provision” and “infrastructure” are within the context of a relationship.
I think “provision” means *BOTH* the physical necessities: food, shelter, clothing, and transportation. A provider must at least *contribute* to these *provisions.*
He or she must also *provide* emotional and psychological necessities: love, support, communication, time, availability, reliability, understanding, honesty, devotion, faithfulness, empathy, respect, fulfilling lovemaking, and trust.
Speak the truth in all honesty and humility. Amen.
TV has truly blurred the reality of things. I love that I know this & that he said it! #FixItJESUS
I love this guy !!!! Ladies , stop listening to anyone else and completely concentrate on his views.. then go listen to others.. my mom made 3 times what my dad did.... YET.. my dad purchased foreclosed acres and flipped them... he repaired their vehicles.. he fixed anything broken in their home.. HE BUILT HER DREAM HOME FOR 25% OF what it would have cost ..
That's awesome ❤
FACTS!!!!❤❤❤
LOVE❤LOVE❤LOVE❤.... HOW HE BROKE THIS DOWN, YES!!!... Believe What He Is Saying Young Ladies!!!...
He continuously shuts the entire room down. Wisdom. Money is a god to people now
Tell them that at the grocery when you are hungry
I have said this for a while now, the 3 main things men provide:
1) Protection
2) Security
3) Management (for the future)
Security and managing the future of the family are two separate things. This is also the order in which they come in.
What men look for from women that they can provide to men:
1) Take care if the man (physical please, verbal and emotional encouragement)
2) Submission
3) Order in the home (maintain the home from cleaning, cooking, kids/mans life structure like doctor appointments, lunch for work/school)
I was just talking to my mother about this yesterday.
These women got the game messed up.
Talking about “I want a millionaire man”.
Meanwhile I am looking for the home inspectors, mechanics, contractors, carpenters, etc.
I am looking for the men that knows how to fix things with their hands and will protect me.
I love this person (Tripp). He is so on point,without being disrespectful and tacky.
I have to disagree. A man with a vision is a man with a vision. Until that infrastructure start making a mean for a way of life, it's just a thought or vision.
They're more people working with money and paying bills.
I wanna thank Tripp's parents. Based off of his answers, I can tell he was raised right 💯❤️
Hella ladies in there pissed off he said that lol still avoiding accountability 🙄
He's that one dude that women listen to and don't give much pushback. Which is rare because if it was any other guy on the panel they would've been upset
@@Craigthomas322 facts he fashoo gets the best reception from the ladies but when the cam panned over i saw like half the room of ladies still sit there with pissed off looks and not clapping cuz they determined to find a guy based off his financial strength totally proving his point
Decision making and planning is way more important than labor. That's why people think CEOs don't do anything and the laborer is never asked what they think.
Men have no issue with their sole contribution being the ways in which they provide financially.. until they can't provide financially or a woman asks/expects them to. Now it's "we provide infrastructure". But if a woman were to say she can take care of herself, doesn't need your money and asks you to provide in other non-financial ways, she's "masculine" or a "modern woman".
You’re mixing two different kinds of men together beloved.
@@butterflymage5623no
Straight forward truths right there for you . 🖤 ❤
That “so many kept women are lonely” geeesh 🥶😬 iykyk
I love and respect this young man's mentality and intelligence.
Amen Tripp💯
He spoke real facts...a true man provides much more than money
Black men needs to understand want manhood means not 50% or whatever i can give you
FINALLY someone said it. Imo this is the BIGGEST LIE/MISCONCEPTION about relationships that our sisters don't understand. Provider isnt being a sugar daddy or ALL financial. There is so much more to that
If he is 19-23, but after that age provision should be $ or he needs to leave women alone and re arrange his priorities
PREACH! Shame the devil! Tell. The. Truth. Every relationship I have had as an adult woman I have been the bread winner. My ambition and monetary goals stem from my own ish from childhood. (In some respects a grand achievement; in others a heavy burden.) I have killed myself in trying to figure out, trying to learn how to give a man “purpose” in my life because I don’t need their money. Along with that, I’m Latina…I’m domestic…I MUST have a clean house, I love to cook for my man and make his plate. But finding man confident enough to provide the infrastructure I desire - a task that seems unattainable. Lead me. Guide me. Teach me. I’m so thirsty - but not in the secular since - I’m thirsty for a man that can inspire me, that can protect me while enabling me to grow in ways I never imagined. Comfort me. Protect me. Guide me. And I promise you, you’ll experience a love and a level of respect you never fathomed!
He's so right
He's not wrong. Unfortunately, there are a lot of men who don't provide anything else. A lot of women understand this and don't desire to be "kept women", they desire partnership with someone who also understands they're more than a check and some sex.
Amen
Thats real ❤ loyalty, kindness, support emotionally the non tangibles❤
Amen 🙏 💯
My question is... why does every couple live at or above their means to the point where everything resolves around a Man having to be this bigballer provider 💰 just to be respected. Why can't we just live peacefully in our current situation without fronting. I guess we are our own worse enemies. He made an excellent point 🎯 , i wonder how many women actually took that home with them??
Haven't met a man yet giving infrastructure, let alone paying bills lol
Not saying this as a shot to discourage you, sending it as a shot to add context. You not having met the man to provide infrastructure or pay the bills, says more about the men you attract, not about men in general.
@@WilluOrNot Its my fault. I don't stick around long enough for the relationship to get that far.
Not trying to place blame. But sometimes it's the man you overlook the one that does not meet the checklist. May have the most to offer you. I know we like what we like. We also have to grow out of our old selves to expand our taste. To something more healthy for ourselves.
@@RyanBeard-c8p I agree with that but I'm well past the build a man stage. Been there done that. If I meet someone with no goals or ambition, I won't be around long. You'll lose yourself trying to help someone else. I learned my lesson giving and giving to a relationship that didn't benefit me. I put a limit on time spent and giving cause a taker will have no limit on how much they'll take.
@@58julib It's very healthy to know yourself like this. We all like what we like and if you have not found your person yet, it means you take much care in your selection process. Having said that, spending extra quality time with a potential someone that may not check every box, should not be considered settling. If he puts you first, is honest, intelligent, responsible and empathetic, these exceptional qualities should not be discarded in favor of the perfect person journey some of us sign up for.
I rarely agree with this dude. But he's spot on with this one. Well said sir
Light clapping for these facts huh???
You notice that too huh?
😂I noticed that too, any other time they clapping and cheering.
Clear sign they don't want true solutions and real information but sweet dreams and soft lies to empower their delusions, it's truly sad
Well said.. These are programs that have been downloaded from past generations and experiences.And it's sad that we can't wrap our head around logic, especially our black women.
Truth!
Thing is most people without money come to bring chaos, if they can’t be the captain they will drown the ship with all its’ occupants, that’s the problem.
Teach em something Tripp.
Hallelujah!! I tell women this all the time!! Praying that they catch on so we can get together and have wholesome relationships instead of this superficial lifestyle that people portray nowadays.
Now make that a song!!
He right a provider doesn't just mean money. A real provider provides security, respect, love, a provider fills you up. You should feel like your seeing God through your husband. Which is why he is the head over the woman.
How do Men provide infrastructure? Enlighten me, please.
Lol 😂 if you need that question answered I don’t think you’ve experienced a good relationship
@@imanigordon6803 You're more than welcome to answer it. I'm still waiting for an answer.
@@imanigordon6803 I still need the question answered.
When you s h u t up we will
There's a few ways, not limited to:
1. Establishing rules in the relationship- what he will and won't do or tolerate from the woman. Not just in regards to unruly behavior on either part but also things like self deprecation, or people pleasing behavior, etc--any behavior that causes harm to him, her, or the relationship.
2. Seeing what problems she has and offering advice or assistance in fixing them
3. By bringing up topics of importance during dates- like marriage, kids, schooling, life goals, desired experiences: creating a team within the relationship, essentially.
4. By establishing a team purpose in the relationship so that there can BE a relationship even when there are no dependent children.
5. By leading by example: "we will not yell at each other" he may say; he makes a real effort not to yell and apologizes if he does. And he does that with as much as he can within his life generally.
6. By asserting himself when someone (including the woman) poses a threat to the relationship, or his or the woman's safety/security.
7. By ensuring there are determined roles in the relationship and family--it may be that both partners do all the things but establishing responsibility leads to ensuring accountability. If it's no one's job, it's no one's fault it doesn't get done. Better to AVERT a crisis than MANAGE a crisis.
I could go on. But if you read books on business management and effectiveness (like Stephen Covey's 7 Habits of Highly Effective People), a lot of what I said just ends up being business management skills. Of course, it's my belief that men are to establish order in families: that's inherently a leadership role; if you don't believe men are to lead in marriages, then 🤷♂️ most of what I said becomes moot. Long story short: providing "infrastructure" is the underlying structure, framework, foundation etc of the relationship: those things that lead to functioning teams with the man as the leader who serves.
Just FYI: I am Christian, so my answer comes from that perspective. Take what you find useful, discard the rest 😃
He's so awesome 💯,god thank you for black 🖤 men like him,his mindset is everything, protect the Black man at all cost
That’s why when a man pays all bills he may not get any respect whatsoever.
Huh? Oh because the women...
Yep
Whoever dating this man, you are a lucky woman.
🎯💯♥️♥️♥️
He's correct.
WTH!!! Provision is definitely money, all those things he just named translates over to money that’s just word salad. Also you can call provision something else but remember bills are due at the first of month 😂😂😂 people say anything on the internet
Maybe he's talking about when Tyler Perry made that statement he can pay the light bill, but the wife got to do everything else.
@@loriparks8657 Tyler Perry was just pandering. In most, meaning the majority of relationships men are the breadwinners and pay the bulk of the bills!!! Provision definitely ties over to money!!
Thank you king! Me being a wife, my soul needed to here this. My husband and I been married for 20 years and the season, what Mr. Tripp has explained is full swing. Both my parents has gone on to glory along with my grandparents and aunts so i have no wisdom around me. I refer back to my past examples and from what i recall I was shown that the man is the provider financially and if he couldn't provide financially he was consider worthless. I want to believe that because my husband is worthless because he does what he can for his family until he is blessed with employment. Hearing this made me want to stand by husband stronger than before. Thank you so much for this wisdom!
Grammer correction-I don't want to believe my husband is worthless because he is sooo much more.
He is correct but typically it works where the man has nothing to offer no paycheck or provision and structure. Just asking woman to decrease standards and expect useless men and this is what I'm seeing in many. He speaks from a different mindset and why I usually love everything he say but he doesn't know what's out there. Good woman options are limited and especially BW and a study was proven. What he speaks in many of his videos are hard to find in men that don't think like him
I agree w most of your comment except where is this study that says that good options of BW are especially limited?
Lol where is all these great BW with a lot to offer ? 99 percent don't offer nothing but mouth and a promiscuous mindset . The only part you said was true is good BW are very very limited . Hilarious
That works both ways! There are plenty of BW out here with absolutely nothing to offer!
We're not talking about men with no paychecks. You wouldn't date those guys anyway. So why even make a comment about a guy that doesn't have anything to offer? He's trying to put things in perspective on how you should look at relationships with someone that you do Consider.