Dude.... The "defensive" mode is not just an attempt to protect their "internal fragility" ; it's a necessity to shield themselves from a very troubled world & unnecessary drama.....
Breezy the INXP / yes ... You are very knowledgeable about the inner workings of the INFJ..... I concur, my friend.... but, I don't know if it's exactly correct to consider them " fragile " . Have you ever seen a bear, protect it's cubs ?
Oh, man. My grin got wider and wider with each point you discussed because it's so true. You got us 😂. As an INFJ, I agree on pretty much everything mentioned. Wish I had people that got me that well and could have real discussions with. It's nice to stumble across videos like these ☺
Oh my gosh. This is so accurate that it's funny and scary like you're in my brain. 😂 How do you know that we know when one lies and that we just pretend we dont know about it? For me, I only pretend I dont know about a person lying, if I think it will make that person feel more at ease being around me. I'll pretend I believe them even though I know their just lying just so their feelings or their pride wont get hurt. I'd play the fool for their own good if it's not the kind of lie that could ruin anything anyway. You have such a keen sense!
Ahh I think it is because of your high extraverted intuition? Your superpower. ;) Must be really awkward. 😂 Now I'm wondering if my INFP friends notice it when I notice them lying to me. Ahhh that is awkward for me now too. Hahaha. But I can see their intentions, and it's just purely because they want to keep a conversation with me so; I treasure them for making an effort~ Thank you for taking the time to reply!~ ^^
Hey man your observation of us is extremely accurate. Sometimes I find myself lol when I'm in my bed trying to go to sleep. Very little people know that when we are by ourselves, we are not actually by ourselves. I'm as serious as a Carebear in a tuxedo. Great video!
Nice work. Pretty good. You’ve studied! You probably hit on intuition in another vid, but that also hits like a lightning bolt at times for an INFJ for things like lying, perceptiveness or knowing something without knowing how we know it. Great vid!
I'm a different person around little kids. My guard is down and I get goofy and kid-like because a kid's world is so imaginatively fun and full of wonder. It's almost like my space out mode meets kids imaginary world and goes playing for a while.
Bruuh that was way 2 real 4 me x) I agree with the comments, you have really good insight on our interpersonal tendencies.. awesome vid ! (I'd read the shit outta that book btw)
Maybe you should write a book about INFJs... but keep that last secret out! That is so mean. I felt bad when you said that, even though I've never talked to you before. 😂
Love your video, AND not only can we tell when you lie, we know when you are hiding something. And also, please, dont mess with us for your own amusement - youll never get our 'guard down' state (which is euphoric) that way, we've learned our lessons (the hard way) from the narcissist!
I hate that I’m going to regurgitate a meme, but you definitely see the the iceberg, thats above the water. Touché you nailed it! I am bit embarrassed as I am guilty of the fantasy shake, yeah... Btw~Nice editing/production
Sometimes I wish I wasn’t as observant as I am. I tend to know people better than they know themselves and sometimes people can’t handle that sort of thing so i have to hold back certain things. And I also pretend when people lie that I don’t know even though I do. Read the book “the four agreements” by Don Miguel Ruiz
You got me at the first one . I'm surprised someone took the effort to figure out our type , especially since i don't feel like i deserve someone to put effort in half the time because i'm so complicated , or feel complicated .
INFJ here and I love your videos! Loads of what you say I really relate to. It's true that I always know (or think I do) when people are lying to me, it's also correct that I don't call them on it - but there are really good non-scary reasons for it. I'm gonna do a video on this very topic of why we don't say if we're being lied to from my INFJ-ish perspective and will share with you :) xxx
It's hard to accept having it. Even if deep down it feels right, it's so rare but everything fits perfectly. Anyways, what a great video. I enjoy your personality and the way you explain things with such ease. Have a great (insert time of day here/night) because it's currently 3am here! Keep up the great work. It shows.
Like Jonathan M my smile got wider and wider with each point you made. Wish we could meet more people like you who at least try to understand. There are people who write about loathing INFJs and it's like we're being blamed for being rare (totally not our fault). So thank you so much for trying to understand.
Ahahaaa! Nicely done! Very accurate in my case anyway. When I first meet people I can be serious and formal, yet friendly, ofc, but... yes... If they get to "Guard Down" phase? Biggest goofball dork you will ever meet! XD 😊😜
It's true, we can tell when you lie, it's true, we won't tell you. On the other hand we judge lightly. After all, we lie too. I think one reason we can tell the lie is; from the time we meet we are building a construct of who you are, what our relationship is etc. As soon as that construct loses it's internal consistency we know it. That construct is one reason that an INFJ will stay your friend even after years of being out of contact.
I find your interpretation of us is very good. First i want to let you know from my perspective as an INFJ. This hard to explain but, my mind will automatically give me information when pushed into a corner. If I meet one or many people I will clam up, but that isn't a tactic, it is automatic until I understand the person.
Great video. In terms of "Fantasy Land" you have to realize that this is the INFJ at their most creative where they are processing most of the stimuli of the day. They are absent-minded because there is so much being processed internally. It is as if they are sifting through everything that has recently been impressed upon them that they just need to bask in this internal flow of ideas, sounds, sensations and reactions so that this stimuli can be integrated. These impressions will be given expression in the INFJ's life eventually but for now it is like swimming in a river of information that is absolutely engrossing and fascinating.
That's true. I refer to it as "having all my tabs open" (like a browser) Subconscious does it's weird dreamlike mishmesh while we do remedeal tasks and look like we are floating around on a fart cloud doing nothing! But, it's actually extremely important processing time for us. Also, the lie detector... However hard that is for them, it's harder for us. Can't express how hard it is to know there's a lie and not know sometimes if it's a big lie, a small lie, or what and at the same time, hide your pain and put on a smile.
@@jsh5743 Agreed. The worse thing is feeling that something is off and then finding out the person has stabbed you in the back. We are so sensitive and don't trust just anyone. Such behaviour can be a betrayal! Anyway, we're pretty cool otherwise. Would not want to be any other type!
Wow. You were right on all points. The only one you should look into a bit more is what you call our fantasy mode. Rather than just fantasy, that is us listening to all the stuff bubbling up from our deeper inner self. Sure. Some of its fantasy, but definitely not all of it. There are some other people on YT that go into this part of our make up a little deeper. Its pretty interesting. Sorry I don't have the links right now to post. Thanks for the video. Enjoyed it!
I always wondered about my fantasy land states, since childhood. It's a miracle I was an A student. Most of my time was spent here. So funny how you describe our fantasy land as us being in dream states at anytime and anywhere! I have never heard it described so descriptively! Yes we have to snap out of it and interact with the real world. We waste allot of time and potential in this land. We could be so much more productive and hands on and using our NI to make changes in the world, in and around us. And yes we could also manipulate situations to our advantage. To accomplish our grand plans and ideals. We may even be the best at it. But our conscience won't suffer manipulation. We believe it's wrong to take advantage of people to our advantage. In fact we can put ourselves at a disadvantage because of a lack of take charge initiative. We need the balance of SE. The contradiction is, Alas, we hate to be unproductive. How can we manage this NI function which is always on auto pilot? How can we actively use it to our advantage? How can we develop or TE and SE to utilize our NI efficiently? I want to manage my NI if this is possible!
Hi Breezy...INTP here, This is probably the MOST helpful video i have watched on INFJ...... PLEASE make Part 2.... and 3.... and ...well ya get my point. i will be watching this one about 30 more times.
Ha! I actually am having a mini anxiety attack rn bc i just saw you made a whole series on us and ur almost 98% correct every time.... well if I die at least I’m happy to know one person in this world knows who we really are😁
So true! You can't know them if they ate in defence mode! They are naturally goofy but only their love one can see that side! Accurate! It seems like you have been close to INFJ. You can't know unless you are in their circle,Or zone in which they let people know who they are. INFP usually have good bond with INFJ.
At 10:43, my best friends that are in a relationship together do this all of the time with me lol, INFjs (being one), we tend to be very very VERY naive, or at least act like we're naive. And we just kind of trust whatever someone we trust say, just because we trust and love them. It's like a default fantasy/off gaurd thing we have. And we're always looking for the best way to understand how those in our life feel so we can then later comfort them.. God I love the MBTI community sometimes!
I love the way you express/ explain your views, and the wording you use to soften the blows. I loved your video. I think we just want everyone to live at peace and in love without all the extra unnecessary negative emotions so we truly are on our defensive guard most of the time because we do see so much in a person and it may the main reason we love fantasy land. We do not look for perfection, we are just looking for a true genuine individual who can keep their emotions in check. We are silly many times and love to have fun because that's when most people are at their happiest moment. We can figure out just about any pattern but only if we are interested in it. We do not waste any time on things or people who we already know are on a totally different frequency level. For us ladies we dream of our Prince Charming who can be fat, tall, skinny or short, depending on what we are seeking at that phase in our lives. I like the fluffy ones but usually ended up with the opposite. When younger and dressed in a beautiful slim dress and went clubbing, most men thought I was a transvestite; they would just come up to me and would not believe me. So then you tell yourself, I am going to find me an Honorable man, military trained etc who will surely understand me as a woman but it's worse because you cannot discuss certain things you see or sense/intuit/dream because they're sworn to secrecy and then they call you crazy which we know that's a lie because eventually, sooner than later, it comes to pass. Then people want to know why you know what you know as if it was all planned out but it was just our intuition. What I want to seriously do now in my older age is to find someone who gives me alone time which for young people is not easy to do because you would be accused of cheating etc and they will think you are mad but you are really mad at yourself and are trying to figure out what you did wrong to cause them to argue. We are the life of the party, if we want to be, we can and know how to make anyone fall for us if that's what we wanted to do. We despise arguments or negative talk of any kind but we will tolerate it for a while but once pushed to a certain limit we will sever any Emotional connection with you and we are not playing games once we choose to sever it. We are not jealous because we will not be number 2, and if we sense that, we will automatically let you go without any fear and just move on and keep searching. Many of us have many relationships and we always remember the best moments, this is after we've recovered from our temporary fantasy with that person which can be a day, weeks or months. IF You were Very special to us, which are very few, then we welcome the invitation to spend time with us again, after we've gone our separate ways.
Great video. The best job I had for my space out mode was watering plants in a Garden Nursery for almost 8 hours per day. I was zoned out so much. Then a coworker who happened to be a female I liked walked by and said to me I bet you're lonely. I went home and cried for an entire week every night. It was a week long intense catharsis. That space out zone is so beautiful in a way but it's also a deserted island and feeling that can really be painful. The lady who said that turned out to be jerk that just wanted to hurt me but it a way she woke me up to a reality.
Cool name, who doesn't like breezy moments to cool someone down (diminish stress)? Regarding Fantasyland state of mind, it's not a disconnect from reality perse, I think it's more of a flow state of mind. Our Se kicks in, with all of our cognitive functions turned on and humming in harmony, and we entertain ourselves with our environment in concert with rapport building bantering with people that we trust (and testing out the new people), "busting balls" mode. But there are magical moments (for me it involves birds, dogs, cats, small children..or anything innocent in nature) where my mind drifts into a fantasyland. On second thought, yes we drift into a fantasy but it's oscillating in the spectrum between guard down and fantasyland. It's our positive side of a ying yang state of mind. I connect well with the symbol of the ying yang sign, sure we are in the white spectrum, and that can be seen as pure Fanstyland but, that black dot is always present when we snapped out of it briefly when someone challenges us... just a heartbeat away of getting serious on someone, if needed. Astute and insightful observation videos about us INFJ, I subscribed to your channel and looking forward to more of your observation. It saves us energy from not knowing about ourselves very well (it feels like being a perpetual work in progress), and reaffirms our super power of knowing others very well. (An insatiable curiosity coupled with our empathy). Thank you.
Goofy goofy goober, yeah! Lol!! Sorry for the Spongebob reference but I'm my head I'm jellyfishing. You shouldn't know us this well. It's scary. Subbed.
Accurate. But be careful about pulling the “joke” you described at the end of the video. It’s easy for you to laugh it off, but INFJs are really affected by shit like that. We absolutely hate dishonesty and see it as one of the main things wrong with the world. So we don’t “get” jokes based on “just kidding” or saying something opposite of what you mean, we see that as deceptive and evil, it totally rubs us the wrong way and that is not our kind of humor at all (an INFJ is more likely to exhibit dry humor by saying that is actually TRUE yet not serious but delivered in an overly serious tone of voice - e.g. “Why are you walking so fast?” “It’s faster than walking slow.” Sadly most people don’t seem to get this humor). It may seem funny to you, but you better be damn close to an INFJ friend if you are going to pull something like that, or you WILL be doorslammed. As an INFJ I can tell you that if I met a new person and they did something like the joke you described, I would never talk to them again. I don’t hate anyone and I don’t hold grudges. I would simply lose all interest in that person. Dishonesty, or even the appearance of dishonesty, is the #1 way to get doorslammed by an INFJ.
😆😆😆 i just fell for your technique at the end of the vid 😁 hanging on all seriously to see how you could lie to me 😆 my infp friends do that to me all the time 😒😍 lol
Very good, extremely accurate, but not quite...we are actually not fragile at all. Especially as we age. When we are younger we do fall for the “I am mad at you” thing. As we get older and grow we actually could care less about who is mad or not. We will always be nice but your “anger” places you in a specific space in our world view. We start to test people to see where they fit. The funny thing about it is that only the INFJ knows there is a test going on. A seemingly casual conversation to you gives us a lot of insight as to where you may be in our view of things. We also know that you are who you are and we do not hold anything for or against that. We just want to know where you fit. Does that make any sense at all to any INFJ’s out there?
Oh so true about how to lie to INFJ. I know I take people’s words seriously and have low tolerance to others disliking me. Well unless these people are toxic or door slammed
Hello hello I am an infj my dad is also an infj I just wanted to tell you your video was at least 95% accurate I can tell that you have based your video on real life experience with people and also research you are a very observant person for sure
I remember one day I had hiccups and it wouldn’t stop so my mom (a smart istj) was like “I had 20 right where you’re sitting, where is it?! Stop lying you took it!” I was caught off guard and got scared and started looking for her money until she laughed like “Your hiccups are gone” and I was thinking “you’re so evil for this but at least the hiccups stopped” just a piece of advice, don’t lie like that or lie in general to an infj because things can get very ugly ;)
An experienced infj will see through that mean joke. We keep automatic records on all your behaviors in all your moods and habits and our own habits and how we treat people so that lie in the joke will have tell tale signs, especially when you are experienced enough to know that you haven't done anything so if you would for real be pissed it would be a redirected anger and unjust one directed at someone safe to you that is safe to be mad at without losing that friend so my brain would analyze what or who could cause enough stress to need to outlet on an infj which is a safe person to be mad at. Secondly you can't fake being a genuine pissed energy so your energy wouldn't match your words. When my friends write to me online my brain keep records on how many words on average they use with a certain mood, what kind of words they use frequently, what emojis they use frequently, how often they use a capital letter or periods, and when these patterns change, like how often they engage in questions or how they respond to my shared information I instantly can tell when they have a low mood or distracted mood because the pattern changed to fewer words, less of the frequency of emojis, maybe they start using a period at the end of their sentence, maybe they use 2 or three periods, or maybe they normally have them and that day they stop then I know their mind is preoccupied with a dilemma or problem or emotion. The guard down is very true, I even have safe zone information that I can share with anybody at any time to throw out a hook to see what they do with it to see if they are trustworthy with information that requires more responsibility and several friends I never share that deeper information with because they didn't pass the tests of being able to handle that part of me. As someone mentioned about the joke, that type of dishonesty and inflicting emotional stress for fun gets seen as immature and isn't worth your time so that joke can get you either demoted to less valuable information sharing or even door slammed because you might use my sensitive information against me one day if you do not care for my emotional well being through inflicting anxiety in the name of "kidding". We treasure mature loyal and devoted friendships because we invest so much of ourselves into everybody and their cousin that when we feel exhausted the friends are what keeps us sane so if you don't handle that trust with care you get demoted on the friendship list. We can feel what other people are feeling so we know that some people have that kind of humor but we often are emotionally exhausted so to protect ourselves we need to keep our own emotions sacred. So you are free to have that humor, just not with that person you just burned emotionally. "That's a stove I'm not touching again." You made a good video though, I apologize for the serious tone. :)
I live sometimes 17 hours a day inside my head ... an it’s always a comedy movie in there and I know I can write produce and direct tv or movies ... what helps too are attachments to spirituality as attuning or turning inwards is right up their alley in their forms of teaching
I love that 4th one lol. Another secret, personally, one that makes me scared or really uncomfortable before was reading way too deep into others and being read my self by someone like me. _Maybe it's just me, so no harm done for my fellow INFJs. This might not even be read lol._ The next, great question is- how do you make them willingly let their guard down? Just curious about your perspective or maybe you already made a video.
This is literally scary. How do you know all this?! 😂Although, now that you know our secrets, we must dispose of you. Edit: Holy cow. I had a “fantasy land” in math today. I kept fading in and out for the whole hour and a half
Meh - some you got others not so much. Carl Jung was an INFJ and the Meyers-Briggs test was based on Jungian archetypes. Yes I live inside my head but I'm not constantly being silly, I live inside my head because it's generally more interesting there and we're prone to deep periods of introspection.
HAHA "That's the scariest part: to know that they know" with the sideways glance xD. People should admit to lying. I don't get mad. I get it, I get why they do it but they have to come forth and be honest else we can't have real relations between us. I'm more comfortable with calling out liars or stating what I observere compared to when I was younger but if I feel that the other part is not being honest when I bring it up then we're essentially over.
Haha. Yeah. Had fantasy land happen today when I should be paying attention so when I come back to the present had to tell my couple of friends that I wasn't paying attention. Happens often. Along with the guard too.
Would be great fun and insightful to have a "co-chat" or something alike with you man. You know INFJs well from what I've heard in a lot of videos, and you are an interesting individual indeed. Reminds me of a more aware, even logical and perceptive" version " ( in lack of a better word right now ) than my INFP best friend. Very interesting :)
Sitting here psycho-analyzing myself in real time as I go along with the video. Doing that more often, especially thanks/due to these types of videos. Putting in more perspectives and such, to put it simply.
Not gonna lie, if I ask you if you’re mad at me and you respond like that, it will totally work... hell, I instinctively kinda reacted to you saying it in this video.
*shocked face* Why? Why would you do this Breezy? Is nowhere safe for INFJ's? Can we not even have a little smirk on our faces on the bus while in the middle of a Fantasy land episode, without some INFP wielder of witchcraft watching our every secret smile to ourselves? Damn you, man. I admit it does feel rather nice to know someone is interested enough to observe though. Thank you :) You're very right about defense mode. Its the generic country music version of ourselves that INFJ's present to the world. On a personal level, every minute I spend in the company of people is a performance on some level. Does that mean INFJ's really are fake? Well, I most definitely am. I'm always 'on' so to speak. Navigating round people, and keeping my shields up. Only when I'm alone do I truly feel 'myself'. Even now, Im contemplating deleting this comment as it exposes me to much, but I guess you've caught me in a rare, 'Guard down' moment,...right? ;) Thanks again for a great vid. You're adorable.
I did this all off the top of my own head with absolutely no research online, just spoken and said candidly because of my own personal experience with INFJs. This is why I believe this video got the overwhelming positive reaction it did, anyone can read a more accurate description of these things online, but not everyone can genuinely convey those descriptions with their own words brought on from a place of genuine experience.
Watching this video a year later I still agree with my previous comment about not being able to believe what you are saying. The fact is that most of what you’ve described can also fit many other types of people, the abused in particular. I would say most introverts, when meeting people, are in defense mode. Anyone with high emotional intelligence should be able to tell if someone is lying. You seem to keep your information very broad so as to not be proven wrong. Another theory is you do it for the likes/ to get people to watch your videos. Considering we make up a very small percent of the population, I find it very hard to believe that you know a lot of infjs. I believe we adapt to our situations and surroundings so in order to truly know and understand us you have to look into our past and take into account our surroundings, which is one thing we are good at and take for granted bc we expect others to instantly know us bc that’s something we do so well.
@@dannyforsyth3847 oh god, imma just stop you right there with your wild assumptions. You’ve clearly lost your ability to reason and/or show any sort of kindness towards another person you don’t know, and have decided to embrace the whole hostile and accusatory type of attitude towards people you don’t know. Which is sad. I’m sorry for whatever happened to you that caused you to end up this way, but you’re gonna have to knock it off when it comes to me. I’ve already had enough of your ridiculously wrong rants about what you think my intentions are and what you think you know about my life. Which is absolutely fucking nothing. So don’t sit here and pretend you do, cuz you don’t. Did I offend you with this video or something lmao. Next time you comment some dumb ass Shit you’re gonna get blocked from posting here on my channel so think wisely about what you say next cuz I ain’t playin right now-I got no time for the games you want to play.
@@Kito-Anime-Arena if you see nothing wrong with your previous comment, you, are the reason we are always in defense mode. Gaslighting, projection, verbal harassment, belittling all over an opinion. I’m not sure what the point of a comment section is, except to share one’s opinion. I am touched that you view me as a threat, but I am not the bad guy here. Take a look in the mirror bud, and if you can’t handle 1 person’s opinions I’m not sure why you would be on social media to begin with. I’m also fairly certain you will delete this as quickly as I can post it, I just hope 1 person reads it before you do. By you blocking me from your page it solidifies what I now know to be true about you. Just as you believe you think you are being attacked and must defend yourself so must I, for I am an infj and if everything you said in your video is true, I know when someone is lying.
"I was thinking do not give our secrets out! How dare you! I hope everyone in the commitments are telling you your wrong" then your like "They are on defence mode" 😮 so he already knows he created a mob of INFJs
To me your interpretation of fantasy land isn't totally right. Yes we might fantasize on things but for me at least that's not were I spend lots of time I'm not sure of others but it's not good for me and its easy for me to do and that's isolate myself for days weeks and if not careful much longer and that's defensive mode even when around others you still isolate from them shutting down your feeling mode . It's like going dark , loneliness shouting down from others and finding comfort in this place . In not sure if I can even describe it ware others can understand if they havent experience it them self
Dude.... The "defensive" mode is not just an attempt to protect their "internal fragility" ; it's a necessity to shield themselves from a very troubled world & unnecessary drama.....
Breezy the INXP / yes ... You are very knowledgeable about the inner workings of the INFJ..... I concur, my friend.... but, I don't know if it's exactly correct to consider them " fragile " . Have you ever seen a bear, protect it's cubs ?
Breezy the INXP
Oh, man. My grin got wider and wider with each point you discussed because it's so true. You got us 😂. As an INFJ, I agree on pretty much everything mentioned. Wish I had people that got me that well and could have real discussions with. It's nice to stumble across videos like these ☺
My "defense mode" is a trauma response.
Oh my gosh. This is so accurate that it's funny and scary like you're in my brain. 😂 How do you know that we know when one lies and that we just pretend we dont know about it?
For me, I only pretend I dont know about a person lying, if I think it will make that person feel more at ease being around me. I'll pretend I believe them even though I know their just lying just so their feelings or their pride wont get hurt. I'd play the fool for their own good if it's not the kind of lie that could ruin anything anyway.
You have such a keen sense!
Ahh I think it is because of your high extraverted intuition? Your superpower. ;)
Must be really awkward. 😂 Now I'm wondering if my INFP friends notice it when I notice them lying to me. Ahhh that is awkward for me now too. Hahaha. But I can see their intentions, and it's just purely because they want to keep a conversation with me so; I treasure them for making an effort~
Thank you for taking the time to reply!~ ^^
LOL Geniuos! I love you and all :P
Hey man your observation of us is extremely accurate. Sometimes I find myself lol when I'm in my bed trying to go to sleep. Very little people know that when we are by ourselves, we are not actually by ourselves. I'm as serious as a Carebear in a tuxedo. Great video!
Nice work. Pretty good. You’ve studied! You probably hit on intuition in another vid, but that also hits like a lightning bolt at times for an INFJ for things like lying, perceptiveness or knowing something without knowing how we know it. Great vid!
I'm a different person around little kids. My guard is down and I get goofy and kid-like because a kid's world is so imaginatively fun and full of wonder. It's almost like my space out mode meets kids imaginary world and goes playing for a while.
The line I say in my head, "you know that I know, that you know, that you know that I know that you lied."
Thats crazy ... I say the same thing not in exact words
Bruuh that was way 2 real 4 me x)
I agree with the comments, you have really good insight on our interpersonal tendencies.. awesome vid !
(I'd read the shit outta that book btw)
Maybe you should write a book about INFJs... but keep that last secret out! That is so mean. I felt bad when you said that, even though I've never talked to you before. 😂
Love your video, AND not only can we tell when you lie, we know when you are hiding something. And also, please, dont mess with us for your own amusement - youll never get our 'guard down' state (which is euphoric) that way, we've learned our lessons (the hard way) from the narcissist!
I feel attackted! As infjs we were always mysterious, i'm kinda scared to know there is a person who knows all the secrets about me.
Okay i was not expecting to be called out this accurately ahahahah
I cant believe how deep you can go into the understandings of us ! thank you
I hate that I’m going to regurgitate a meme, but you definitely see the the iceberg, thats above the water. Touché you nailed it! I am bit embarrassed as I am guilty of the fantasy shake, yeah...
Btw~Nice editing/production
This is actually super accurate coming from someone who isn't infj lol very good
Sometimes I wish I wasn’t as observant as I am. I tend to know people better than they know themselves and sometimes people can’t handle that sort of thing so i have to hold back certain things. And I also pretend when people lie that I don’t know even though I do. Read the book “the four agreements” by Don Miguel Ruiz
You got me at the first one . I'm surprised someone took the effort to figure out our type , especially since i don't feel like i deserve someone to put effort in half the time because i'm so complicated , or feel complicated .
Really nice to have people that understand :) . Thank you.
This is scarily accurate lol this is too much😂 no one is supposed to know this 😭
a m 🤦🏼♂️...who’s this guy 👀..
INFJ here and I love your videos! Loads of what you say I really relate to. It's true that I always know (or think I do) when people are lying to me, it's also correct that I don't call them on it - but there are really good non-scary reasons for it. I'm gonna do a video on this very topic of why we don't say if we're being lied to from my INFJ-ish perspective and will share with you :) xxx
It's hard to accept having it. Even if deep down it feels right, it's so rare but everything fits perfectly. Anyways, what a great video. I enjoy your personality and the way you explain things with such ease. Have a great (insert time of day here/night) because it's currently 3am here! Keep up the great work. It shows.
bro, you were spot on with this. And how exactly did you find out this information about me? tell me now damn you
Like Jonathan M my smile got wider and wider with each point you made. Wish we could meet more people like you who at least try to understand. There are people who write about loathing INFJs and it's like we're being blamed for being rare (totally not our fault). So thank you so much for trying to understand.
Best video explaining the infj personality
Ahahaaa! Nicely done! Very accurate in my case anyway. When I first meet people I can be serious and formal, yet friendly, ofc, but... yes... If they get to "Guard Down" phase? Biggest goofball dork you will ever meet! XD
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It's true, we can tell when you lie, it's true, we won't tell you. On the other hand we judge lightly. After all, we lie too. I think one reason we can tell the lie is; from the time we meet we are building a construct of who you are, what our relationship is etc. As soon as that construct loses it's internal consistency we know it. That construct is one reason that an INFJ will stay your friend even after years of being out of contact.
As an INFJ I approve of this message.
I find your interpretation of us is very good. First i want to let you know from my perspective as an INFJ. This hard to explain but, my mind will automatically give me information when pushed into a corner. If I meet one or many people I will clam up, but that isn't a tactic, it is automatic until I understand the person.
I'm an INFJ. U got everything right. I'm impressed. 😯
Great video. In terms of "Fantasy Land" you have to realize that this is the INFJ at their most creative where they are processing most of the stimuli of the day. They are absent-minded because there is so much being processed internally. It is as if they are sifting through everything that has recently been impressed upon them that they just need to bask in this internal flow of ideas, sounds, sensations and reactions so that this stimuli can be integrated. These impressions will be given expression in the INFJ's life eventually but for now it is like swimming in a river of information that is absolutely engrossing and fascinating.
That's true. I refer to it as "having all my tabs open" (like a browser) Subconscious does it's weird dreamlike mishmesh while we do remedeal tasks and look like we are floating around on a fart cloud doing nothing! But, it's actually extremely important processing time for us.
Also, the lie detector... However hard that is for them, it's harder for us. Can't express how hard it is to know there's a lie and not know sometimes if it's a big lie, a small lie, or what and at the same time, hide your pain and put on a smile.
@@jsh5743 Agreed. The worse thing is feeling that something is off and then finding out the person has stabbed you in the back. We are so sensitive and don't trust just anyone. Such behaviour can be a betrayal! Anyway, we're pretty cool otherwise. Would not want to be any other type!
This is the truest video I've ever seen on INFJs
Wow. You were right on all points.
The only one you should look into
a bit more is what you call our fantasy mode.
Rather than just fantasy, that is us listening to all the stuff bubbling up from our deeper inner self. Sure. Some of its fantasy, but definitely not all of it.
There are some other people on YT that go into this part of our make up a little deeper. Its pretty interesting.
Sorry I don't have the links right now to post.
Thanks for the video. Enjoyed it!
I always wondered about my fantasy land states, since childhood. It's a miracle I was an A student. Most of my time was spent here. So funny how you describe our fantasy land as us being in dream states at anytime and anywhere! I have never heard it described so descriptively! Yes we have to snap out of it and interact with the real world. We waste allot of time and potential in this land. We could be so much more productive and hands on and using our NI to make changes in the world, in and around us. And yes we could also manipulate situations to our advantage. To accomplish our grand plans and ideals. We may even be the best at it. But our conscience won't suffer manipulation. We believe it's wrong to take advantage of people to our advantage. In fact we can put ourselves at a disadvantage because of a lack of take charge initiative. We need the balance of SE. The contradiction is, Alas, we hate to be unproductive. How can we manage this NI function which is always on auto pilot? How can we actively use it to our advantage? How can we develop or TE and SE to utilize our NI efficiently? I want to manage my NI if this is possible!
Hi Breezy...INTP here, This is probably the MOST helpful video i have watched on INFJ...... PLEASE make Part 2.... and 3.... and ...well ya get my point. i will be watching this one about 30 more times.
I hate and love that you're spot on about us INFJ's...
that is pretty accurate. im 63 and im still like this. Good observation and i dont usually write on these sort of things
Exposing us😂😂😂....why us!!!!
Ha! I actually am having a mini anxiety attack rn bc i just saw you made a whole series on us and ur almost 98% correct every time.... well if I die at least I’m happy to know one person in this world knows who we really are😁
he is most accurate description i come across, it really helpful to listen
So true! You can't know them if they ate in defence mode!
They are naturally goofy but only their love one can see that side! Accurate!
It seems like you have been close to INFJ. You can't know unless you are in their circle,Or zone in which they let people know who they are.
INFP usually have good bond with INFJ.
Been very close with several :)
At 10:43, my best friends that are in a relationship together do this all of the time with me lol, INFjs (being one), we tend to be very very VERY naive, or at least act like we're naive. And we just kind of trust whatever someone we trust say, just because we trust and love them. It's like a default fantasy/off gaurd thing we have. And we're always looking for the best way to understand how those in our life feel so we can then later comfort them..
God I love the MBTI community sometimes!
I love the way you express/ explain your views, and the wording you use to soften the blows. I loved your video. I think we just want everyone to live at peace and in love without all the extra unnecessary negative emotions so we truly are on our defensive guard most of the time because we do see so much in a person and it may the main reason we love fantasy land. We do not look for perfection, we are just looking for a true genuine individual who can keep their emotions in check. We are silly many times and love to have fun because that's when most people are at their happiest moment.
We can figure out just about any pattern but only if we are interested in it. We do not waste any time on things or people who we already know are on a totally different frequency level. For us ladies we dream of our Prince Charming who can be fat, tall, skinny or short, depending on what we are seeking at that phase in our lives. I like the fluffy ones but usually ended up with the opposite. When younger and dressed in a beautiful slim dress and went clubbing, most men thought I was a transvestite; they would just come up to me and would not believe me. So then you tell yourself, I am going to find me an Honorable man, military trained etc who will surely understand me as a woman but it's worse because you cannot discuss certain things you see or sense/intuit/dream because they're sworn to secrecy and then they call you crazy which we know that's a lie because eventually, sooner than later, it comes to pass. Then people want to know why you know what you know as if it was all planned out but it was just our intuition.
What I want to seriously do now in my older age is to find someone who gives me alone time which for young people is not easy to do because you would be accused of cheating etc and they will think you are mad but you are really mad at yourself and are trying to figure out what you did wrong to cause them to argue.
We are the life of the party, if we want to be, we can and know how to make anyone fall for us if that's what we wanted to do. We despise arguments or negative talk of any kind but we will tolerate it for a while but once pushed to a certain limit we will sever any Emotional connection with you and we are not playing games once we choose to sever it. We are not jealous because we will not be number 2, and if we sense that, we will automatically let you go without any fear and just move on and keep searching. Many of us have many relationships and we always remember the best moments, this is after we've recovered from our temporary fantasy with that person which can be a day, weeks or months. IF You were Very special to us, which are very few, then we welcome the invitation to spend time with us again, after we've gone our separate ways.
Great video. The best job I had for my space out mode was watering plants in a Garden Nursery for almost 8 hours per day. I was zoned out so much. Then a coworker who happened to be a female I liked walked by and said to me I bet you're lonely. I went home and cried for an entire week every night. It was a week long intense catharsis. That space out zone is so beautiful in a way but it's also a deserted island and feeling that can really be painful. The lady who said that turned out to be jerk that just wanted to hurt me but it a way she woke me up to a reality.
Cool name, who doesn't like breezy moments to cool someone down (diminish stress)?
Regarding Fantasyland state of mind, it's not a disconnect from reality perse, I think it's more of a flow state of mind. Our Se kicks in, with all of our cognitive functions turned on and humming in harmony, and we entertain ourselves with our environment in concert with rapport building bantering with people that we trust (and testing out the new people), "busting balls" mode. But there are magical moments (for me it involves birds, dogs, cats, small children..or anything innocent in nature) where my mind drifts into a fantasyland. On second thought, yes we drift into a fantasy but it's oscillating in the spectrum between guard down and fantasyland. It's our positive side of a ying yang state of mind. I connect well with the symbol of the ying yang sign, sure we are in the white spectrum, and that can be seen as pure Fanstyland but, that black dot is always present when we snapped out of it briefly when someone challenges us... just a heartbeat away of getting serious on someone, if needed.
Astute and insightful observation videos about us INFJ, I subscribed to your channel and looking forward to more of your observation. It saves us energy from not knowing about ourselves very well (it feels like being a perpetual work in progress), and reaffirms our super power of knowing others very well. (An insatiable curiosity coupled with our empathy). Thank you.
omg! I laughed so hard I'm crying, bravo! You got us bro. I have a feeling we'd make great friends lol.
Your very right on n insightful. I am one of them, good job.
Goofy goofy goober, yeah! Lol!! Sorry for the Spongebob reference but I'm my head I'm jellyfishing. You shouldn't know us this well. It's scary. Subbed.
Accurate. But be careful about pulling the “joke” you described at the end of the video. It’s easy for you to laugh it off, but INFJs are really affected by shit like that. We absolutely hate dishonesty and see it as one of the main things wrong with the world. So we don’t “get” jokes based on “just kidding” or saying something opposite of what you mean, we see that as deceptive and evil, it totally rubs us the wrong way and that is not our kind of humor at all (an INFJ is more likely to exhibit dry humor by saying that is actually TRUE yet not serious but delivered in an overly serious tone of voice - e.g. “Why are you walking so fast?” “It’s faster than walking slow.” Sadly most people don’t seem to get this humor). It may seem funny to you, but you better be damn close to an INFJ friend if you are going to pull something like that, or you WILL be doorslammed. As an INFJ I can tell you that if I met a new person and they did something like the joke you described, I would never talk to them again. I don’t hate anyone and I don’t hold grudges. I would simply lose all interest in that person. Dishonesty, or even the appearance of dishonesty, is the #1 way to get doorslammed by an INFJ.
YES!!! Well said!! Exactly!!! You nailed it my friend! 💯😂🤗
😆😆😆 i just fell for your technique at the end of the vid 😁 hanging on all seriously to see how you could lie to me 😆 my infp friends do that to me all the time 😒😍 lol
although, i technically consider that a trick 😉
Very good, extremely accurate, but not quite...we are actually not fragile at all. Especially as we age. When we are younger we do fall for the “I am mad at you” thing. As we get older and grow we actually could care less about who is mad or not. We will always be nice but your “anger” places you in a specific space in our world view. We start to test people to see where they fit. The funny thing about it is that only the INFJ knows there is a test going on. A seemingly casual conversation to you gives us a lot of insight as to where you may be in our view of things. We also know that you are who you are and we do not hold anything for or against that. We just want to know where you fit. Does that make any sense at all to any INFJ’s out there?
Yes, it does.
I am a INFJ and you are exactly on point:)
Oh so true about how to lie to INFJ. I know I take people’s words seriously and have low tolerance to others disliking me. Well unless these people are toxic or door slammed
Wow i've never been figured out so much before!
Hello hello I am an infj my dad is also an infj I just wanted to tell you your video was at least 95% accurate I can tell that you have based your video on real life experience with people and also research you are a very observant person for sure
Fantasy land omg 😱 I’m glad you brought this up how do I get out of this weird cycle ?
Breezy, you’re right on ...
I remember one day I had hiccups and it wouldn’t stop so my mom (a smart istj) was like “I had 20 right where you’re sitting, where is it?! Stop lying you took it!” I was caught off guard and got scared and started looking for her money until she laughed like “Your hiccups are gone” and I was thinking “you’re so evil for this but at least the hiccups stopped” just a piece of advice, don’t lie like that or lie in general to an infj because things can get very ugly ;)
An experienced infj will see through that mean joke. We keep automatic records on all your behaviors in all your moods and habits and our own habits and how we treat people so that lie in the joke will have tell tale signs, especially when you are experienced enough to know that you haven't done anything so if you would for real be pissed it would be a redirected anger and unjust one directed at someone safe to you that is safe to be mad at without losing that friend so my brain would analyze what or who could cause enough stress to need to outlet on an infj which is a safe person to be mad at. Secondly you can't fake being a genuine pissed energy so your energy wouldn't match your words.
When my friends write to me online my brain keep records on how many words on average they use with a certain mood, what kind of words they use frequently, what emojis they use frequently, how often they use a capital letter or periods, and when these patterns change, like how often they engage in questions or how they respond to my shared information I instantly can tell when they have a low mood or distracted mood because the pattern changed to fewer words, less of the frequency of emojis, maybe they start using a period at the end of their sentence, maybe they use 2 or three periods, or maybe they normally have them and that day they stop then I know their mind is preoccupied with a dilemma or problem or emotion.
The guard down is very true, I even have safe zone information that I can share with anybody at any time to throw out a hook to see what they do with it to see if they are trustworthy with information that requires more responsibility and several friends I never share that deeper information with because they didn't pass the tests of being able to handle that part of me.
As someone mentioned about the joke, that type of dishonesty and inflicting emotional stress for fun gets seen as immature and isn't worth your time so that joke can get you either demoted to less valuable information sharing or even door slammed because you might use my sensitive information against me one day if you do not care for my emotional well being through inflicting anxiety in the name of "kidding". We treasure mature loyal and devoted friendships because we invest so much of ourselves into everybody and their cousin that when we feel exhausted the friends are what keeps us sane so if you don't handle that trust with care you get demoted on the friendship list.
We can feel what other people are feeling so we know that some people have that kind of humor but we often are emotionally exhausted so to protect ourselves we need to keep our own emotions sacred. So you are free to have that humor, just not with that person you just burned emotionally. "That's a stove I'm not touching again."
You made a good video though, I apologize for the serious tone. :)
I live sometimes 17 hours a day inside my head ... an it’s always a comedy movie in there and I know I can write produce and direct tv or movies ... what helps too are attachments to spirituality as attuning or turning inwards is right up their alley in their forms of teaching
I love that 4th one lol. Another secret, personally, one that makes me scared or really uncomfortable before was reading way too deep into others and being read my self by someone like me. _Maybe it's just me, so no harm done for my fellow INFJs. This might not even be read lol._
The next, great question is- how do you make them willingly let their guard down? Just curious about your perspective or maybe you already made a video.
As an INFJ, I stay up in my fantasy world so much so that often I tend to forget to breathe even. Then I've to gasp for air intentionally
Good job.
Sexy precision in your observation dude... U rock.......how can you penetrate the subjective... sooo accurately...mind blowing
I know am very unique and helpful Spirit and I try to keep My cool when people get ignorant.
Like pink guy. And that little trick has been noted, ty 😉👍
This is literally scary. How do you know all this?! 😂Although, now that you know our secrets, we must dispose of you.
Edit: Holy cow. I had a “fantasy land” in math today. I kept fading in and out for the whole hour and a half
Meh - some you got others not so much. Carl Jung was an INFJ and the Meyers-Briggs test was based on Jungian archetypes. Yes I live inside my head but I'm not constantly being silly, I live inside my head because it's generally more interesting there and we're prone to deep periods of introspection.
HAHA "That's the scariest part: to know that they know" with the sideways glance xD.
People should admit to lying. I don't get mad. I get it, I get why they do it but they have to come forth and be honest else we can't have real relations between us. I'm more comfortable with calling out liars or stating what I observere compared to when I was younger but if I feel that the other part is not being honest when I bring it up then we're essentially over.
Haha. Yeah. Had fantasy land happen today when I should be paying attention so when I come back to the present had to tell my couple of friends that I wasn't paying attention. Happens often. Along with the guard too.
That joke is very accurate 😂
Oh THIS should be interesting!! :) Lovely "topic" my friend!
Would be great fun and insightful to have a "co-chat" or something alike with you man. You know INFJs well from what I've heard in a lot of videos, and you are an interesting individual indeed. Reminds me of a more aware, even logical and perceptive" version " ( in lack of a better word right now ) than my INFP best friend. Very interesting :)
Sitting here psycho-analyzing myself in real time as I go along with the video. Doing that more often, especially thanks/due to these types of videos. Putting in more perspectives and such, to put it simply.
OMG YOU JUST READ ME LIKE A BOOK
This is so accurate. Wow. Lol!
Not gonna lie, if I ask you if you’re mad at me and you respond like that, it will totally work... hell, I instinctively kinda reacted to you saying it in this video.
Yes, we do hide ourselves too kuch.
...much...
This cat could easily be a stand up comedian!
no stay in imagination land the more you use it the better that skill will get. the ability to imagine a solution out of no where but thin air
The only time I am in fantasy land is when I am putting pen to paper, I see everything I write in color...
Sounds like you have Synaesthesia! Which I'm kinda jealous of, that must be so cool.
I feel so exposed.
Great insights.
Great video! Spot on.
Be me, INFJ who does everything possible to hide my Fi from the world:
INFP UA-camr: nice try
Me: 😳
Not bad.. Good job!!!
Lol good banter at the end
Not defence..... stealth 😎❤
Check out Anne Dresden infj on youtube!
Very good but how far can one go down the INFJ rabbit hole. Tea time anyone🤪
I have the lie detector but i keep testing out as infp
We’re good at that too (:
What if we didn't want the world to know though?
*shocked face* Why? Why would you do this Breezy? Is nowhere safe for INFJ's? Can we not even have a little smirk on our faces on the bus while in the middle of a Fantasy land episode, without some INFP wielder of witchcraft watching our every secret smile to ourselves? Damn you, man. I admit it does feel rather nice to know someone is interested enough to observe though. Thank you :) You're very right about defense mode. Its the generic country music version of ourselves that INFJ's present to the world. On a personal level, every minute I spend in the company of people is a performance on some level. Does that mean INFJ's really are fake? Well, I most definitely am. I'm always 'on' so to speak. Navigating round people, and keeping my shields up. Only when I'm alone do I truly feel 'myself'. Even now, Im contemplating deleting this comment as it exposes me to much, but I guess you've caught me in a rare, 'Guard down' moment,...right? ;) Thanks again for a great vid. You're adorable.
You fucker 😂😂😂 well done, dont map us out that Hard too. Great vid :)
There are some “truths” in this video most of which can be found on the internet with more accurate descriptions.
It is very hard to believe what you have to say. The only reason I can agree with some of your points is because I know firsthand.
I did this all off the top of my own head with absolutely no research online, just spoken and said candidly because of my own personal experience with INFJs. This is why I believe this video got the overwhelming positive reaction it did, anyone can read a more accurate description of these things online, but not everyone can genuinely convey those descriptions with their own words brought on from a place of genuine experience.
Watching this video a year later I still agree with my previous comment about not being able to believe what you are saying. The fact is that most of what you’ve described can also fit many other types of people, the abused in particular. I would say most introverts, when meeting people, are in defense mode. Anyone with high emotional intelligence should be able to tell if someone is lying. You seem to keep your information very broad so as to not be proven wrong. Another theory is you do it for the likes/ to get people to watch your videos. Considering we make up a very small percent of the population, I find it very hard to believe that you know a lot of infjs. I believe we adapt to our situations and surroundings so in order to truly know and understand us you have to look into our past and take into account our surroundings, which is one thing we are good at and take for granted bc we expect others to instantly know us bc that’s something we do so well.
@@dannyforsyth3847 oh god, imma just stop you right there with your wild assumptions. You’ve clearly lost your ability to reason and/or show any sort of kindness towards another person you don’t know, and have decided to embrace the whole hostile and accusatory type of attitude towards people you don’t know. Which is sad. I’m sorry for whatever happened to you that caused you to end up this way, but you’re gonna have to knock it off when it comes to me. I’ve already had enough of your ridiculously wrong rants about what you think my intentions are and what you think you know about my life. Which is absolutely fucking nothing. So don’t sit here and pretend you do, cuz you don’t. Did I offend you with this video or something lmao. Next time you comment some dumb ass Shit you’re gonna get blocked from posting here on my channel so think wisely about what you say next cuz I ain’t playin right now-I got no time for the games you want to play.
@@Kito-Anime-Arena if you see nothing wrong with your previous comment, you, are the reason we are always in defense mode. Gaslighting, projection, verbal harassment, belittling all over an opinion. I’m not sure what the point of a comment section is, except to share one’s opinion. I am touched that you view me as a threat, but I am not the bad guy here. Take a look in the mirror bud, and if you can’t handle 1 person’s opinions I’m not sure why you would be on social media to begin with. I’m also fairly certain you will delete this as quickly as I can post it, I just hope 1 person reads it before you do. By you blocking me from your page it solidifies what I now know to be true about you. Just as you believe you think you are being attacked and must defend yourself so must I, for I am an infj and if everything you said in your video is true, I know when someone is lying.
Very accurate lol
so true :)
Truth
Great vid man! So accurate xD
"I was thinking do not give our secrets out! How dare you! I hope everyone in the commitments are telling you your wrong" then your like "They are on defence mode" 😮 so he already knows he created a mob of INFJs
omg the fantasy land is so true
👀 I see you.
Peace. ✌
To me your interpretation of fantasy land isn't totally right. Yes we might fantasize on things but for me at least that's not were I spend lots of time I'm not sure of others but it's not good for me and its easy for me to do and that's isolate myself for days weeks and if not careful much longer and that's defensive mode even when around others you still isolate from them shutting down your feeling mode . It's like going dark , loneliness shouting down from others and finding comfort in this place . In not sure if I can even describe it ware others can understand if they havent experience it them self
Infj here. 😎😂👏