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  • @Ki_Thelight
    @Ki_Thelight 23 години тому +6

    My heart goes out to you and Carlos. I know what you guys are dealing with, I have experienced this with my grandmother, a lot of support is needed, and I pray you guys will have that.

  • @lisajayne4425
    @lisajayne4425 23 години тому +6

    We have to learn to stop setting ourselves on 🔥 to keep other people warm. All the best to you and yours for 2025!

    • @cb4664
      @cb4664 22 години тому

      I like that. So true.

  • @kearstenw3855
    @kearstenw3855 День тому +8

    I'm so glad that you're entering your season of NO. I enter that season a few years ago and it freed me of so much stress. I simply didn't care anymore about pleasing others but cared more about pleasing myself. It's simply not worth it and it can start to cause issues with your body and overall physical and mental health. It was uncomfortable in the beginning to let some people go but so worth it. We have to advocate for ourselves because ultimately we teach people how to treat us. I'm so glad and excited for you to pump the brakes on people who aren't giving you the respect and honor you deserve.

  • @jhansiwaters5607
    @jhansiwaters5607 День тому +3

    Carolyn 😂the smile on your face after describing you (almost) knocking over the ladder in the store has me hollering 😂 Something tells me you wanted that ish to fall!!!!!

  • @michellehill6166
    @michellehill6166 День тому +21

    Just wondering if Carlos would considering going to a caregivers support group. I think they would be a good source for talking with people who understand and are going through the same thing. And they often can give resources to help get through some of the red tape and finding a good healthcare team.

    • @cb4664
      @cb4664 22 години тому +1

      Great idea. ❤

    • @lifeandstyleatlanta8689
      @lifeandstyleatlanta8689 17 годин тому

      My Dad suggested I find a support group when I was caring for my Mom. I opted not to because I thought it would be hard to sit and talk/cry about my struggles, especially with strangers. Instead, God sent me a friend who had also cared for his Mom. He was a tremendous help.

    • @michellehill6166
      @michellehill6166 14 годин тому

      @@lifeandstyleatlanta8689 It can be emotionally hard depending on what stage the caregiver is in. I went to a few support groups after my dad passed and it was helpful. But once I started getting towards the end of my grief cycle, I realized that I didn’t need to be in the group because it was hard hearing others struggle. And I also realized at that point, I was going for the free food. Lol.

    • @lifeandstyleatlanta8689
      @lifeandstyleatlanta8689 3 години тому

      @ thanks for sharing. I realize I really need grief counseling since losing my Dad in 2018 and my Mom in 2022. Maybe I should reconsider a support group. Do you think a virtual group would be equally as effective?

  • @theselfishjourney
    @theselfishjourney День тому +3

    Happy Birthday again to Carlos I’m so jealous of all the cake! Wishing you all the best Carolyn and a better year ahead.

  • @Carlyon100
    @Carlyon100 День тому +6

    Yes Carolyn, that CS rant is right on time. People just don't have kind consideration to give but expect to have grace, empathy and favour from everyone else. Love and light to both CGs.

    • @Allthingscheri
      @Allthingscheri День тому +1

      Go to PG County. These people do the same damn thing. Look at you. Nasty. Don’t help. Don’t want to ring you up. I had to report a CSR @ Nordstrom. I asked the same thing! Are y’all alright?! Making me feel like a burden. Jesus.

    • @cb4664
      @cb4664 22 години тому

      Girl I stopped reporting bad CS to the Manager and now I go straight to emailing corporate. Not me. Too old to play with these folks.

  • @sheryltrice7222
    @sheryltrice7222 День тому +6

    Capricorn Wapricorn. Everyone struggles with challenges in their lives. Miss all of us the tzodiac crap. It’s life. Happy Happy Birthday Carlos❤ And Miss Carolyn Cookie… you are my favorite YT channel. And it’s because of you I am headed to the poor house. Thank you so much. Have a happy holiday.😂

  • @MsChoxieNYC
    @MsChoxieNYC День тому +4

    I luv this epiphany for you. We often downplay the effects stress has on our lives. If we don't find a healthy way to handle it, it will surely handle us. Prepare yourself for push back from your circle. Everyone luvs a martyr. Be selfish & prioritize Carolyn.❤❤❤❤

  • @opaljohnson4762
    @opaljohnson4762 21 годину тому +1

    Girl, love your rant re lack of customer service. Don’t know what happened but care and consideration have gone through the door since COVID. I feel for Carlos and hope that he stays mentally strong so the guilt that he feels does not overtake. It is a difficult place to be. 🙏

  • @dawnashwood4611
    @dawnashwood4611 День тому +2

    Happy and Blessed Birthday to Carlos, may you have a year of joy, peace and abundance. Carolyn this is the reason why I don't really mess with stores and shop online because the lack of customer service is gobsmacking to me. Hey sometimes you have to take inventory of your life and who is in it, especially when you are in a crisis and you get to see who is there and who is not. Please take care of yourself as best you can chile. Have a Merry Christmas and Happy and Sexy New Year!!!! 🎄🎄🎄🎀🎀🎀🎉🎉🎉

  • @Sheetacoop
    @Sheetacoop День тому +2

    Queer Eye definitely kept me in tears. Such a great show. Jeremiah did not disappoint!
    It’s sweet to hear Carlos has that relationship with your parents. We’re having a family brunch tomorrow and just chilling. Merry Christmas cookies 🍪 ♥️🎁

  • @kearstenw3855
    @kearstenw3855 День тому +2

    Gotta say, loving the leopard bodysuit with the black jeans, you go girl super cute! 😊 Loving the whole leopard vibe 🐆🐆🐆

  • @nicknamerych6442
    @nicknamerych6442 День тому +3

    BIG COOKIE! I never comment but I really rock with you soooo much, big fan of the content etc….. When you said “ I’m no longer sugarcoating why I’m not around you no more” mannnnnnnnn listen!!!!!! TALK 👏🏾 ABOUT 👏🏾 IT!!!!!!!!! HEARDJU

  • @MsChoxieNYC
    @MsChoxieNYC День тому +3

    Two things made me feel real grown and adulted; the first time I paid for my mom's vacation and being her caretaker and having children of my own. Juggling everything is a lot! You just have to do what you can to preserve your peace and well being and having the distraction of your parents in town may be just what You and Carlos need. I

  • @aishashabazz553
    @aishashabazz553 19 годин тому +1

    Good for you Cookie some people doesn't know how to say no to benefit themselves. My son once told me Mom you need to be selfish sometimes, I told him I don't want to be selfish, then he said stop being selfless start doing more things for you, You deserve it. This is what I'm saying to you Cookie take care of you first and everything else will become better. Happy Birthday to Carlos and Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays to you and your family
    Take care of you Cookie ❤😊

  • @sylviasworld8838
    @sylviasworld8838 21 годину тому +1

    OMG I feel the same way about customer service! 😡😡😡 I worked in retail for so many years back in the day as both an associate and mrg and we would never! Smh

    • @leilariley936
      @leilariley936 14 годин тому

      Human nature :SOME people have a tendency to ignore and treat you like crap (sorry )when they know that YOU NEED THEM !!!

  • @df.solaceandskin
    @df.solaceandskin День тому +2

    sat and watched her burn sounds insane smh. ugh, I will never stop praying for this world.... happy holidays and love to you and Carlos! 🫶🏽

  • @didotgee
    @didotgee 3 години тому

    Carolyn you’re truly a gem! I resented so much with that releasing + self care & refresh convo. You got this! May this new year be all that you need and want. Happy holidays to you and your family ❤

  • @SunniDai_7
    @SunniDai_7 17 годин тому

    Prayer send-up! I am so glad to hear y'all are getting Carlos's mother a caregiver at the rehab center. It's a shame she has to go through that. Take pictures and keep a record of her care. We all need to get back in counseling to keep ourselves grounded; I am in that sandwich situation taking care of growing kids and elder mother; it is hard for everyone but God! Blessings

  • @jhansiwaters5607
    @jhansiwaters5607 23 години тому +2

    I needed to hear this…“You are no longer good for my health and we have to figure out a boundary or a cut off”. 🙏🏾 I’m taking this into 2025.

  • @sherr275
    @sherr275 19 годин тому

    it sounds like your mom wants to love on Carlos and make him feel better. I understand why she was getting pushy about coming up to see y'all. she loves him like her own and she just wants him to get some hugs lol. Have an amazing holiday & prayers for an even better 2025. 💜

  • @Sidenote808
    @Sidenote808 День тому +2

    I feel ya! Ready to execute my new plan as well as it pertains to individuals and spaces that no longer serve me.

  • @missapril1618
    @missapril1618 День тому +1

    One thing about a New Yorker that cute sh*t goes out the window when it's COLD!!!🥶🥶🥶 Merry Christmas Carolyn to you and yours❤️🎅🏿

  • @EverythingQueen
    @EverythingQueen День тому +1

    HAPPY BIRTHDAY CARLOS!!!🎉😊

  • @AO-bo4qq
    @AO-bo4qq День тому +2

    Love this new plan for you. I also need to say “no” more often. Life is short and we deserve a qualify life.

  • @starbrightlover
    @starbrightlover 18 годин тому

    Wow. I feel this deeply!! Thank you Carolyn for sharing so honestly. I went through a similar very tough time with my beautiful mama. It is SO hard and so much support is needed. May you receive all that you need to support your personal peace, health & boundaries 🙏🏽 Lots of love to you!

  • @B.A.C.withjeannette
    @B.A.C.withjeannette 21 годину тому +1

    Tell Carlos to hang in there. Lifting both of you in prayer for continued strength and some level of peace. When my only child was in the hospital, I would get panic/anxiety attacks. I took meds for a couple of months. It took off the edge until I could get my mind together to be able to settle my mental. My son did pass away at 17 years young. I only needed the meds for a couple of months after that ... something to consider. Also, the entire time you are talking in your closet, I'm saying to myself, her eyes are different, and you just mentioned the color contacts 😂.

  • @christineaustin8579
    @christineaustin8579 День тому +1

    So sorry to hear about Carlos mom. It made me realize my blessings when my mom was being cared for.. I pray for Carlos you and the family mostly his mom. Mothers are precious. Merry Christmas ❤

  • @sonyagarcia3477
    @sonyagarcia3477 22 години тому +1

    No need no explanation!! Cookie I been stop explaining my no, and I make sure I take care of my mental health, and physical health as well. I put me first period!! Your cookie from New Orleans.❤

  • @ittakesapair
    @ittakesapair 21 годину тому +1

    Unsolicited advice: regarding your periods, if you’re in your mid thirties and beyond, please look into Perimenopause symptoms. Wishing you all the best! And happy Holidays

  • @divinelyguided4800
    @divinelyguided4800 21 годину тому

    Girl, preach. I too am NO longer accepting anyone that cannot reciprocate my energy. And I'm loving it. I have gone out of my way to ensure that my circle is ok and yet none of them have ever reached out to me to see if I'm okay or even to say Hello. and NO I do have some personal stuff going on.

  • @ugochi1
    @ugochi1 День тому +1

    First off, prayers 🙏🏾 in abundance to you, Carlos and his mom. As a fellow earth sign, Capricorn to be exact, we don’t deal well when too many things are not in our control. We prioritize order and stability above else and when that starts to falter, we don’t falter, we go in what I like to call robot mode. We start to systematically evaluate, evaluate and re-evaluate for good measure what in our lives is causing our balanced lives to be unbalanced and we self-correct as best as we can. Pulling away from people, things and circumstances is our default when we feel like we are losing control. I think placing boundaries around your life with the intention of self healing is necessary.

  • @genevaanderson1501
    @genevaanderson1501 14 годин тому

    Praying for you & Carlos and his mom.

  • @cb4664
    @cb4664 22 години тому

    Merry Christmas to you and Carlos. Praying for peace for you both and your families. ❤

  • @tarolepettigrew7795
    @tarolepettigrew7795 15 годин тому

    The black cashmere pants are beautiful and certainly elegant. The confidence with which you stay true to your unique style is certainly inspiring to explore and embrace my own style. Thank you

    • @ITSCAROLYNGRAY
      @ITSCAROLYNGRAY  14 годин тому +1

      Literally wore them today and they’re so dang good 😍😍 thank you so much for the compliment.

    • @tarolepettigrew7795
      @tarolepettigrew7795 14 годин тому

      @ you’re welcome

  • @AshleyGrimes-nx6sj
    @AshleyGrimes-nx6sj 18 годин тому

    Sending you love and prayers to you and Carlos. How you have a great holiday, and a great New Year 🫶🏾

  • @kandidkymberly
    @kandidkymberly 20 годин тому

    Happy Holidays, Queen❤ Sending positive prayers and vibes to Carlos and his mother that God will protected her and get her well🙏 also praying for your mental health. Have a blessed day ❤

  • @leilariley936
    @leilariley936 14 годин тому

    Happy ! Happy birthday to Carlos and a very Merry Christmas to you and your family!!It's great when parents have a great relationship with guy....my dad hated anyone who took a liked me or vice versa!!Sending prayers and blessings

  • @NeittaJoki-qn2yg
    @NeittaJoki-qn2yg 20 годин тому

    Belated Happy Birthday to your Carlos!
    Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year to you and yours!
    PS I ordered the navy fringe trim and multicolored tweed lady jacket that you wore in your last vlog. ❤❤🎉

  • @HA-dn9ss
    @HA-dn9ss 23 години тому

    Prayers for you and Carlos ❤

  • @brittneyk0158
    @brittneyk0158 День тому +1

    CS and how it’s administered can mean the difference between an establishment meeting its sales goals or not. Sometimes, the lack of paying attention to a customers needs, has much to do with lackadaisical management training OR lack of training at all! Oh, yes! There’s a time in your life where you will feel comfortable enough to make “NO!” a full and whole dang sentence! No explanation will be required! Just say “NO” and “cat walk” away from whom ever or whatever!

  • @kearstenw3855
    @kearstenw3855 День тому +1

    This happened to me at CVS out of all places. Bad customer service is one of my pet peeves. So, I was ready to check out and I saw that the young lady was literally having a full conversation on her cell phone with someone. She seemed irritated and in a bad mood. So when I put my things on the counter she got off her cell phone didn't say a word to me and start ringing my stuff up. I nipped it in the bud right there and said "Are you good? Are you okay?"she clearly knew exactly what I was saying and said "I'm tired". I politely smiled and noticed that she was pregnant which I couldn't tell because she had on a huge coat at the register. So I decided to give her some grace but definitely checked her. She became extremely nice, and I had her check the price of a couple of items for me which she did happily. She started to make jokes and things like that to lighten the situation. But overall, there's no reason to be nasty or mad when you are in a customer service position. I seriously did feel bad for her when I saw that she was about to bust, so I let it go and we began talking and things ended nicely. But to walk into a designer store like you did and be treated like you're a second thought is unacceptable. Especially the whole elevator situation, absolutely unacceptable and rude at that. The paper store, trifling and rude. What they fail to understand is that we pay their salary, not the other way around. So put on a happy face even if you have to fake it because nobody wants to feel ignored, especially during the holiday. Don't sign up for something you don't want and if you do, fake it till you make it or get checked by me or Miss Queen cookie!!!!

  • @kearstenw3855
    @kearstenw3855 День тому +1

    Btw, those hazel specs are beautiful on you ma'am!!!!

  • @jab0623
    @jab0623 21 годину тому

    Merry Christmas to you and your family Carolyn! I’m praying for Carlos’ mom. Thank you for sharing!❤

  • @deborahbell-theobservantch3759
    @deborahbell-theobservantch3759 21 годину тому

    Nil is the best!!!! Enjoy Xmas y'All 🎉🎉🎉

  • @DemetraRobinson-yj1rc
    @DemetraRobinson-yj1rc 12 годин тому

    I am so with you on this take care of you

  • @nataliea.s.4595
    @nataliea.s.4595 21 годину тому

    I know that smell you’re talking about. It’s like fermented goat. Happens a lot in these Bronx buildings. 😂😂😂

  • @MsChoxieNYC
    @MsChoxieNYC День тому +3

    Now about customer service. It really gets under my skin. I've worked in retail and I know it is a choice to provide good customer service and a choice not to. I'm not about to pay you to treat me like shit. As a black woman I've felt at times I had something to prove shopping in luxury stores where they thought I shouldn't be in there. Some time ago, I was in Macy's balling out with my 2 daughters. My first purchase was about 10 pcs and my second was about 12 pcs. The store was closing and the cashier had an attitude and one of the items didn't have a price. She didn't want to get the price nor did the floor manager. So I gave back every item plus got my money back from the first purchase. What was about to be , $1500 purchase turned out to be $0 and she gonna stay late putting all this shit back. Got names and wrote a letter to corporate. Again, not paying to be treated poorly.

    • @cb4664
      @cb4664 22 години тому

      My kind of girl. ❤It’s the PRINCIPLE of the matter. Not only that but I email corporate. They have a right to know what kind of customer service people are experiencing in their establishments so they can correct it. Don’t play with me.

  • @nataliea.s.4595
    @nataliea.s.4595 21 годину тому

    Good for you - enforcing boundaries. Your health and happiness absolutely matter especially if other people aren’t contributing to it.
    A reason, a season, a lifetime. That’s my philosophy when it comes to people coming in and out of our lives. It’s so hard to be overly considerate and not have the sentiment returned. I’ve learned to meet people where they are and manage my expectations.
    Also understand the sadness and burden of illness and caretaking. Life be life-ing and sometimes it’s just day by day, hour by hour, minute by minute.
    I love Queer Eye and the new home guy is Jeremiah Brent, Nate Berkus husband. They are home design royalty. 😂 I love Queer Eye. And Troop 6888 was amazing. Best Tyler Perry movie.
    You give me so much to comment on. I’ll stop now. ¡Feliz Noche Buena! Merry Christmas! ☃️🎄🎅🏾

  • @Bellasoul524
    @Bellasoul524 День тому

    Happy Birthday to your Boo, Carlos!! - side note: Carlos favors Chafic Yactine from Love is Blind Habibi!

  • @Ccgemini
    @Ccgemini День тому

    Merry Christmas to you Carlos and the family. Just in time while I make breakfast turkey bacon, scrambled eggs and avocado on a wrap🤤🤤. Carlos take it one day at a time.

  • @Allthingscheri
    @Allthingscheri 23 години тому

    I got so much to say about that damn nurse. 😢 I feel so baddddd.
    You were wearing those coated jeans Carolyn also the cashmere pants were beautiful. OMGOSH @ the Jordans I bought them for my son when he was 2! Beautiful classic. (1988)
    God bless Carlos Mama. God bless Carlos. God bless you.. Jesus help us all! ❤
    Oops wanted to add. This little brunch for my parents 2 of the 3 sons. 2 year old granddaughter is costing hundreds. In shock. 😮

  • @parrishdove8184
    @parrishdove8184 16 годин тому

    Even the Beverly Hills suit supply in LA, has a reputation for only prioritizing clients who have an appointment. In general, A lot of people in retail don’t take pride in giving quality customer service. A lot of them are just collecting a check & going home. There’s nothing worse than entering an establishment where the employees CLEARLY hate their jobs.

  • @B.A.C.withjeannette
    @B.A.C.withjeannette 22 години тому

    Hey Carolyn, I so agree with the service issue. I will call the person out in a minute! I'm in the business of providing service and I don't care what I got going on ... I expect a good services, it doesn't have to be exceptional, but damnit, you got to greet me, help if I needed and do it with a damn smile! 😁. The same with personal relationship, a relationship takes 2, we feed each other or I will love you from afar! MERRY CHRISTMAS! ❤

  • @nicolegari
    @nicolegari День тому +1

    Theeeeere She Is🍪🥂

  • @RamonaAlgarin-27
    @RamonaAlgarin-27 13 годин тому

    My heart goes out to Carlos. My wife had to nagivgate the decision for her late mother during Covid and felt an immense amount of regret making choices on her behalf. It’s not easy. Whether you have a sibling or alone, it’s hard to know what is right. Sometimes it’s okay to feel sad about the right decision that was presented for that situation in time. There’s no mirror to see into the future, never stop trusting your gut. Carolyn, I am proud of you for making a choice to out yourself first no matter who or what it may be that you may have to say, “No” to: it’s a full sentence. You deserve to make sure your peace is never disturbed because of someone else, even if that means cutting them or the circumstance off. 🙏 love and light 💡 always.

  • @utube432p
    @utube432p День тому +1

    What do you brush on your eyebrows?

  • @kearstenw3855
    @kearstenw3855 День тому +1

    Again, what they all don't understand or realize is that we pay their salary not the other way around. But clearly a lot of them don't care either way. That's why I'm quick to nip it in the bud or find someone Tell someone else what's going on. Nobody deserves funky customer service. Period.

  • @EverythingQueen
    @EverythingQueen День тому +2

    Do NOT eat yogurt that has become warm! Trust me please.

  • @er6333
    @er6333 18 годин тому

    Can we find some cooler carts? Help

  • @EverythingQueen
    @EverythingQueen День тому +1

    I called off my retail job because my Gen Z coworkers were pushing my Grinchy buttons WAYYYYYYYYYY too hard.
    Keep that $16/hr cause Ima need bail money playing with other people kids.

  • @NormaJackson-v2m
    @NormaJackson-v2m 11 годин тому

    Hi Carolyn I've been watching your Vlogs 3 years never left a comment However I've never missed a Vlog just wanted you to I was going through something so similar it almost messed me up 😢 I got myself together 2months ago My Body said STOP NOW I founded some words I had written to myself years back I have to share with you It said I will not set myself on FIRER to keep you warm And I almost Burnt Up NOW I'm BACK 💛

  • @maxinemuhammad5979
    @maxinemuhammad5979 17 годин тому

    Love❤️❤️❤️❤️🫶🏿🫶🏿🫶🏿🫶🏿👍🏿👍🏿👍🏿👍🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿

  • @er6333
    @er6333 18 годин тому

    It’s Hard Enuf…

  • @kearstenw3855
    @kearstenw3855 День тому +1

    Clonazepam is really good for panic attacks. It's nothing to be ashamed of and something that Carlos might want to check out with his doctor. It helps so much!!!

    • @cb4664
      @cb4664 22 години тому

      Prayer is too. ❤