Wow! That practice was so helpful in understanding how to deal when any negativity is offered to us. Can’t tell you how relived I feel and I’m sure a lot of people will feel to have these tools. So grateful you shared this for free. You rock!
I Love the clarity here ❤ I so want to be able to remember this practice in these moments when my daughter goes through this violent internal crises and throws hateful hurtful comments at me because she s is so much pain she wants me to carry some of that pain with her.... but then everything goes so fast inward all the wisdom in me is put aside not to be seen... in that moment my ADHD mind is trying so hard to sort it all out then it ends up becoming messy withing my body and mind. I feel destabilized until she calms down or I run off and I leave her behind, alone in that house or in the car that seems like it is caught on fire, where she s unable to move, and she feels abandoned and keeps replaying that "i m abandoned" tape in her head over and over again, even after the whole scenario where she s in the house on fire traped, entirely disappears.... In the moment I have no clarity and I have to distanciate myself from this type of situation regroup and do this practice you mentioned and I feel grounded and calm again it s slow enough in me that I can see clearer that I have compassion for me and for her.... I pray and just wish I could stand next to her while she s goes through these inner violent episodes and let her move through while remaining this pilar and take a break find myself alone regroup and we start over again but I m not there just yet.....
Many thanks for this, Luis. I have a possible question for your podcast. Quite often I wake up with adrenaline pricks in my hands. I’m not aware of having had a bad dream and wonder if the body stores adrenaline and releases it over time as safety and regulation become more established. I’ve been on your quiet diet since the Spring course and regularly experience releases of fear and grief using the somatic practices.
Hi Luis, I just wanted to say this was POWERFUL 🫶 I only watched this an hour ago and I can already see how often I immediately orient myself to anything outside of myself and go into fawn. My inner monologue goes into conversation about what I’d say to what person to get them to understand me, usually completely losing myself. I don’t think I’ve ever heard anyone articulate this experience from the inside quite so perfectly for me before. I was also bullied for decades and it has continued in my adult life but so much of it is that orienting myself to the other external experience and rejecting my own inner one. I am going to practice when I’m in the world today coming back to me, and have a photo of a plant at home I love with me now so I can anchor with that. Not something I’d usually share on a public platform but it really did create a shift within me. ✨🙏🏼
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Wow! That practice was so helpful in understanding how to deal when any negativity is offered to us. Can’t tell you how relived I feel and I’m sure a lot of people will feel to have these tools. So grateful you shared this for free. You rock!
Being dehumanized and coming through that .... i can relate... the strength there is great....
Thank you for sharing the practice here ❤
What you said about cults hit like a brick. I never knew about co-dysregulation before. Thank you.
I Love the clarity here ❤ I so want to be able to remember this practice in these moments when my daughter goes through this violent internal crises and throws hateful hurtful comments at me because she s is so much pain she wants me to carry some of that pain with her.... but then everything goes so fast inward all the wisdom in me is put aside not to be seen... in that moment my ADHD mind is trying so hard to sort it all out then it ends up becoming messy withing my body and mind. I feel destabilized until she calms down or I run off and I leave her behind, alone in that house or in the car that seems like it is caught on fire, where she s unable to move, and she feels abandoned and keeps replaying that "i m abandoned" tape in her head over and over again, even after the whole scenario where she s in the house on fire traped, entirely disappears....
In the moment I have no clarity and I have to distanciate myself from this type of situation regroup and do this practice you mentioned and I feel grounded and calm again it s slow enough in me that I can see clearer that I have compassion for me and for her.... I pray and just wish I could stand next to her while she s goes through these inner violent episodes and let her move through while remaining this pilar and take a break find myself alone regroup and we start over again but I m not there just yet.....
Spot on, thanks very much 😅
Thank you so much Luis. Excellent, brillant as always. I listened to this several times. Life changer. Deep. Exercise starts at 12:50.
Many thanks for this, Luis. I have a possible question for your podcast. Quite often I wake up with adrenaline pricks in my hands. I’m not aware of having had a bad dream and wonder if the body stores adrenaline and releases it over time as safety and regulation become more established. I’ve been on your quiet diet since the Spring course and regularly experience releases of fear and grief using the somatic practices.
Great question ❓ I have delt with same with this past week 😮😅
Hi Luis, I just wanted to say this was POWERFUL 🫶 I only watched this an hour ago and I can already see how often I immediately orient myself to anything outside of myself and go into fawn. My inner monologue goes into conversation about what I’d say to what person to get them to understand me, usually completely losing myself. I don’t think I’ve ever heard anyone articulate this experience from the inside quite so perfectly for me before. I was also bullied for decades and it has continued in my adult life but so much of it is that orienting myself to the other external experience and rejecting my own inner one. I am going to practice when I’m in the world today coming back to me, and have a photo of a plant at home I love with me now so I can anchor with that. Not something I’d usually share on a public platform but it really did create a shift within me. ✨🙏🏼