Agree and don’t agree. Some kids are lost and need help. I believe in directing my kids to the right path and be flexible with their decisions as well. What works for u might not work for others
Congratulations to the story owner. To both the failure and the successful let's not forget that wealth can't save you from the day of wrath. Jesus christ the savior.
I’m a creative and it’s not just drawing. It’s graphics, web and photography. In the creative field I’m making 6 figures doing what I love. You grow as a creative and always learning. Now it’s not just drawings, it’s film, web, motion graphics.
I’m a hair dresser and I love what I do! My parents were always against the idea because of inconsistent income. But after a year of being in the beauty industry, I make just as much as a nurse. Now they believe in me and they push my sister to go for it!
I know you so proud of your self. But don’t forget who push you there. One more thing you don’t know what day it’s going to rain. So please don’t talk too much about how good you can make big money. You shouldn’t be mad at your parents without your parents you wouldn’t have the life you have.
It’s the old people mind set. Us younger generation encourages our kids to find a job or skills that they enjoy doing. Money isn’t a issue anymore as long as our kids are happy at what they do. My 18 year old son is a barber and makes over 1000 - 1500 a week working for himself. That teaches him to be a entrepreneur and gives him the freedom to find other skills he enjoys that can make money from.
My parents also told me to be a doctor but I’m a Hmong Male entertainer here in Milwaukee, WI. I work at silk on HWY 100 and sliver spring. Make over $80k shaking my thang in female’s/male faces. Life is what you make it guys. Enjoy it.
The children will do much better and more motivate whn u let thm choose wht they want to become.if you choose fr them, you’re making thrm living your dreams nt theirs. They will failed. Let them live their own dreams it dsnt matters wht their dreams are. They will do best and more motivated to get their dreams filled. Im a mom of two college girls i did that done that. I’ve learned my lesson.
Parents forcing their dreams onto their children are selfish. Let your kids do what they love and stop chasing a ridiculous dream you can’t even achieve yourself, just so you can impress others.
@kouavang5928 They did more than just encouraged him. They told him to go die if he can’t become a doctor or lawyer and he even contemplated suicide. What a gross way to support your child. I do understand because I do have a son and I will not encourage him to go into anything that he doesn’t want.
Just starting to listen and wanted to throw my 2 cents in. I totally understand the concept of an education that doesn’t clicking in the minds of any individual in they are not interested. Been there done that I knew how difficult for a subject that I didn’t like, it was like a day dreaming and wished I wouldn’t never took it from the beginning. I never forced my kids to take a career or study in the subject they never like it, just wasted money for those class. Never make my kids to choose what I wants but their wanted instead. If I didn’t like, so my children too! So many peoples graduated and got their degrees from the University but they changed job all the time, they were able to transfer the skills from that major to utilize for a difference career wise! Even my children’s were graduated with the degree in the major they picked but they didn’t worked in that field! A careers is Career as long as they set their minds and completed, graduate!!
I am good as long as my children are happy and don’t depend on me. People have their own destiny. Some people don’t even get a job after college or in the field they majored in.
Don't be too harsh on parents of yesteryear with their wanting their children to be a doctor or lawyer because their understanding of what's possible (career wise) out there is extremely limited. Also, parents who never had the opportunity to have an education live vicariously through their children. Yes, it's very tiring (& probably at times demeaning) to hear parents harp about who you should be, but remember that at the end of the day their intentions are good and they just want you to succeed. As time goes by, the next generation of parents will do better because they will know better, hopefully.
Muaj 1 co minyuam yeej tsis nyiam mloog niam txiv tej lus qhuav qhia. Cov minyuam yug sab ub , Thaum ub, niam txiv lecturas peb, peb tsis cam niam thiab txiv. Lawv hais peb, cem peb, peb mloog lawv hais tas ces tas lawm ces Kav tsij mus khaws hauj lwm ua zoj Zerg xwb. Kuv muab ntshuas rau cov minyuam yug lub teb chaws vam meej no xyhov yog yoog noob los yog tau zoo dhau lawm los yog luag txoj niag cai khoo niam khoo txiv tsis pub ntaus ib nyuag khaub tsuav los ua cas minyuam tsis nyiam mloog niam txiv hais. Tsis hwm niam hwm txiv lawm. Yus hais lawv mas lawv tseem muaj cai los qhuav qhia yus ua niam ua txiv. Kuv cov kiag, tsis hais mas lawv mas nyob Tom lawv hoob xwb ib txog hauj lwm sab nraum no yeej tsis tawm los ua, tsis tawm los pab. Yus txib mas txib2 tsis tawm los li ces yus niag laus muaj mob los yus rov ua yus tag. Nws hoob mas khiab nyiab mas txaus rau nas ua zes tag, koj tsis hais mas tsis tu. Hauv nco tsis paub tig twg koj hais mas yeej tsis xav mloog koj hais. Koj pab sau nws tej khiab nyiab pov tseg mas nws los chua ntawv ntua tseg tsis pub yus kov thiab tseem txhaum nws. Cov minyuam tiam no noj nyuj mis xwb hais lawv tsis yuav tsis mloog lawm os.
Definitely wrong for your parents to treat you that way. Its all trial and error, every person is different. Everyone learn in their own way, not every job is for everyone. Im glad you found what you love. I just encourage my children to be successful in their own ways. As long as they can support themself when im not here anymore.
Koj ua xa tau tsis yog lawm o me kwv aw niam thiab txiv yeej xav koj tus ua nom los yog yus tus tus muaj nyiaj los yog yus tus xwb tsis muaj leej twg xav kom yus tej me nyuam tsis zoo li o
I'm a single mother and I worry so much for my son. He does not have a father figure in anyways. I don't know how to communicate nor encourage him to do better for himself. I don't even know if he worries about his future. He doesn't even want to go to college. I hope one day soon, he will find his way to find something he is good at so that when it's my time to go, I know he is good.
My kids can do what they want. As long as they have good earning potential, it’s fine. And sometimes it’s not about how much you make but about how much you keep
I understand that the parents have high hopes but whats with the belittling of your own child. You as a parent should be proud if your child have their own hopes and dreams that they are trying to fulfill.
I learned my lesson too, as a parent. Not that I was pushing my daughter to be a doctor or a lawyer. But I was guiding her and helping her at least get a college degree so that she can have a better future. But I was aware that for me pushing her to go college actually make her stressed out and hatting me. Until one day I saw she texted her friends how stressful she is and how much she hating me keep pushing her to go college. I was so hurt and cried. But i had came to realized that it’s her life. Tau noj thiab tsis tau noj los yog nws lub neej. Es kav liam. Hlub nws li kuv hlub, pab nes li kuv pab tau. Yog nws tsis peem nws ces thaum tsis muaj kuv lawm. Nws mam peem nws. Yeejnyog li tus yawm txiv no zaj dab neeg. Let them enjoy their life. Txhob zoo li cov laus thaum ub. Ua lub neej rau cov laus zoo siab es yus lub neej tsaus ntuj nti.
I have 2 adult kids and I don’t tell them to be doctors or lawyers. I just want them to have goals and ambitions so they can have a financially comfortable life. As parents, we want our kids to do better than us. We work hard to provide better resources for them so we expect them to achieve more. Success has a different meaning for everyone so we must accept what they want as long as they are doing well for themselves. After all, they are living for themselves, not us.
I'm glad your parents have high aspiration for you. I've seen some parents who don't care about their kids because getting married young and living on welfare is all they know. Your parents are hard on you because they want what's best for you. When I was young, my parents would talk down to me too. Telling me, I'm not smart enough because I didn't bring home straight A's - when they dont know a single word of English and couldn't even help out with homework assignments. My mom was convinced I needed to apply for SSI. She burnt me when I was a baby and when we came to the United States, they offered to apply for SSI for me but my dad wanted me to get a proper education so he turned it down. My mom insisted that I needed the SSI. Lol. I have a masters degree now.
Koj khav heev muaj ib hnub twg nkawv mus tag Koj yuav txom nyem xwb vim Koj yog ib tug tub dhuav niam thiab txiv txoj kev xav ua tsis tau los xij txoj kev khav rau neeg ntiaj teb nov ces lub ntuj yuav tshem koj txoj kev zoo mus kom tag xwb os tus me tub thaum niam txiv tseem nyob ces zoo tshaj plaws vim niam txiv txoj Koob moov los pov Koj xwb muaj hnub nkawv dua toj lawm Koj yuav plam tag ib puas tsav yam xwb tiag
This is the thing parents dont do, is encourage their kids to do what they like but instead, push what they consider is "good" on to their kids. Some kids will never grow up to have their own opinion on things if you tell them to do this or that and will always depend on the parents. Parents who never had a childhood or had a rough childhood, i can understand their frustration but instead of forcing something on to your kids because everyone knows what it feels like to be forced to do something you dont like, to learn what the kid loves to do and grow with them, learn with them.
I agree...I told myself and husband and everyone that I don't care if my kids go to college...but they need to atleast go get a degree or a certificate from the tech....they can go far from a certicate...they don't need a college degree to make tons of money...
Ua niam ua txiv, txhob xav tias yus tej menyuam tsis paub txoj kev kwv ua neej. Lawv yeej paub paub lawv lawm, thiab lawv yeej paub lawv lub peev xwm muaj li cas. My parents did this too… i ended up switching up majors so many times: bc I didn’t know what I wanted on top of doing what they wanted. In the end I did what I resonated with most, it took long and I was so unmotivated and unsure…but I was blessed in the end for a career that I was made for. I had to work harder, but it is appreciated & recognized in my work ethics. “When you love what you do, you don’t work a day in your life”.
Tiam tshiab tam sim no peb cov niam cov txiv tsis coj li ntawv lawm os brother kuv cia kuv me nyuam mus raws li lawv siab nyiam xwb tsis ua li koj niam lawv lawm os
Yes! The older hmong parents should hear this. Thanks for sharing your story and I'm happy you didn't kill yourself. I'm happy you got to prove to your parents that you can do well for yourself even though you took a different career path.
My parents use to tell us doctors and lawyers all the time. We are now late 30s and 40s, we all make decent good money most 6 figures, all turned out good and now my parents are asking our kids 😆
Many of these parents who want their children (child) to walk the path of their dreams, because they couldn’t or didn’t have the chance to. But the major issue is, because they never did it themselves, they don’t even have a clue of how it’s done or what it takes to walk it out. Many older parents who never went to college, let alone school, expect their children to do it, but have no understanding of what it’s like and who would and would not have the ability to. Not everyone is able to be a doctor or lawyer as the prestigious careers hmong parents only heard of. Just like not everybody is a shaman or txiv qeej txiv coj xai. Only those who have the ability can be. Young people who have these kind of limited mindset parents should explain it in their language that way and continue on what they’re confident in.
My story is the opposite: I appreciate it more if my children wouldn't say one thing and then do another. They know I support them in whatever they want to do; I don't appreciate the dishonesty. Children can be dishonest and manipulate their parents to believe them.
Yeah, I have a nephew that loves to play games. He dropped out of school. Now his at home doing nothing but waiting take take over his parents house when they die.
Your parents just wanted what’s best for you because doctors and lawyers do make lots of money if they are good and have lots of clients. Yog li no tsis txhob thuam tej laus cov lus txhob yus mus rau qhov zoo, es txhob zoo, zoo siab tias koj tsis mus kawm li lawv hais tab sis koj kuj ua tau nyiaj ntau, ntau thiab koj tus tub kuj mus kawm li nws nyiam xwb los neb ib txiv tub kuj yeej ua tau nyiaj ntau tshaj. I think you two are just lucky that you are making reasonable amount of money from what you made your decision at the beginning.
It’s very say that parents bring the kids into this world and they have already decided our life for us already! And look at them, are they lawyers and doctors???? Hell no!
Um.. in a way it's true what he said but I don't know how true that is for my kids. I don't expect my kids to get their doctor degree, just a high enough degree so that they can get a good paying job and even then I'm not hopeful that they will survive out there. 🤷🏻♀️ I'm glad that he is able to turn around and be able to become successful. Prop to him
This dude misunderstood his parents. The real reason Hmong parents want their children to be doctors and lawyers is not about money but about values and reputations. As a saying goes, "a wise man is not a man of wealth but a man of value ". Doctors, lawyers, or scholars are backbones of society. Without them, society doesn't advance to the next level. This is why not just the Hmong people but all nationals prefer scholars.
You are100% right. Muaj nyiaj muaj txiaj tsis npaum muaj lub koob npe zoo. Muaj nyiaj pub hnab tsis npaum muaj tswvyim puv plab. The dude's advice is not a good one.
@@MonaLisa-de4cp. Yeah, there are some Hmong parents think that doctors and lawyers make lots of money and have good reputation, but the reality is they don't make that much money and they are the ones who pay taxes the most. To say that all Hmong parents pressure their children to become doctors and lawyers is a generalization, because some do for values.
Kuv muaj ib tug kwv nws twb kawm tsis tas HS, tsis kawm technical school li thiab. Nws mus ua paj qaum ntuj muaj nyiaj li muaj, tus neeg yuav muaj nyiaj tsis tas kawm ntawv siab li. Cov OG parents ruam, ruam thiaj kom cov menyuam kawm kom tau Dr, lawyer xwb hos. Kawm ntawv xiam sijhawm xwb, muaj zog ces muaj nyiaj xwb los mas.
😂 cov nam txiv hab puj yawm es muaj moo tau tub hab ntxhai, vauv hab nyaab dr na. Mej pis tsawg tug tseem tsi ntseeg nai muam hab tsi kaam moog ntsib nai muam os? Hab tseem xum moog yuav tshuaj xuv lug noj na? 😊😊😊😊
College is not for everyone so if you know that you’re slow in learning then don’t go and be in debts. As long as you’re not a loser and not work. Your parents are so cruel and mean.
Txhua lub xeev los yog nroog muaj Hmoob nyob coob zog yeej muaj cov Dr. cuav thiab lawv txoj hauj lwm tsuas yog muag life insurance los yog tshuaj ntsuab (herbs) nkaus xwb. Cov Dr. tiag poob nyiaj rau lawv txoj kev kawm tsis yog tsawg. Thaum lawv tau txoj hauj lwm rau lawv daim degrees lawm, lawv raug them rov cov nyiaj lawv qev yam ntev heev. Thaum lawv them tag, lawv twb laus tsim nyog retire lawm thiab. Parents always hope the degree of highest education of their children should fall in their category wish. Therefore, you do not blame them for their wish.
Not True brother, I let my kids go to college to become what they love, want and desire. But after graduate they cannot find the right job for what they go to college for. They end up doing something else totally different from their carrier.
No parents should force their kids to further their education. Our kids have to want it themselves to go for it. Also a higher education isn’t meant for everyone nor does it mean a better life. Feels bad for anyone that have parents that are like this person’s story.
You said it correctly! I encourage my children that college is good but go for yourself..don't go for me bc I am not the one who's going to repay the loans.
@Koua Vang listen brother. I said further education, not k-12. After high school/18 years of age, they are no longer kids. They are adults. If they want to go for a certain thing different from your point of view, then let them. You as a parent should only encourage them to give it their all and not put them down and tell them to go for something different. We can agree to disagree, but im happy that the guy in this story found what he is great at regardless if it’s competitive or not.
What Eric meant is that a parent should encourage higher education but not force. And if your children do go to college, let them decide what they want to study bc not everyone can be doctors and lawyers.
Agree and don’t agree. Some kids are lost and need help. I believe in directing my kids to the right path and be flexible with their decisions as well. What works for u might not work for others
Yog tshaj
kuv nkag siab koj zoo me tub
Thank you for sharing your story. Yes. Supporting your children's dreams. Not what parents want
Congratulations to the story owner. To both the failure and the successful let's not forget that wealth can't save you from the day of wrath. Jesus christ the savior.
Thanks 4 sharing… it was a great story… ✌️✌️✌️✌️✌️✌️
Yog kawg li os, tsis muaj hauj lwm ruam tsuas muaj neeg ruam xwb.
I’m a creative and it’s not just drawing. It’s graphics, web and photography. In the creative field I’m making 6 figures doing what I love. You grow as a creative and always learning. Now it’s not just drawings, it’s film, web, motion graphics.
I’m a hair dresser and I love what I do! My parents were always against the idea because of inconsistent income. But after a year of being in the beauty industry, I make just as much as a nurse. Now they believe in me and they push my sister to go for it!
That is typical Hmong parents.
Uncle, great story for all of us to learn from. Thank you for sharing!
I know you so proud of your self. But don’t forget who push you there. One more thing you don’t know what day it’s going to rain. So please don’t talk too much about how good you can make big money. You shouldn’t be mad at your parents without your parents you wouldn’t have the life you have.
Agreed.
It’s the old people mind set. Us younger generation encourages our kids to find a job or skills that they enjoy doing. Money isn’t a issue anymore as long as our kids are happy at what they do. My 18 year old son is a barber and makes over 1000 - 1500 a week working for himself. That teaches him to be a entrepreneur and gives him the freedom to find other skills he enjoys that can make money from.
My parents also told me to be a doctor but I’m a Hmong Male entertainer here in Milwaukee, WI. I work at silk on HWY 100 and sliver spring. Make over $80k shaking my thang in female’s/male faces. Life is what you make it guys. Enjoy it.
Very encouraging. Thank you for opening my eyes with my son.
College isn't for everyone. I'm glad you made it work. My husband and I didn't go to college but we both work hard and are comfortable.
The children will do much better and more motivate whn u let thm choose wht they want to become.if you choose fr them, you’re making thrm living your dreams nt theirs. They will failed. Let them live their own dreams it dsnt matters wht their dreams are. They will do best and more motivated to get their dreams filled. Im a mom of two college girls i did that done that. I’ve learned my lesson.
I would love for May Vaj to not be ashamed and tell us her story when she's ready. Not to be rude but I am very curious to know if it's true.
They want you to bc a Dr for themselves so they look good and impress their friends.
Kuv yuav khaws koj cov lus no los ua kev kawm cia qhia rau kuv cov mi nyuam li koj hais ua tsaug rau koj ntau ntau os
Parents forcing their dreams onto their children are selfish. Let your kids do what they love and stop chasing a ridiculous dream you can’t even achieve yourself, just so you can impress others.
@kouavang5928 They did more than just encouraged him. They told him to go die if he can’t become a doctor or lawyer and he even contemplated suicide. What a gross way to support your child. I do understand because I do have a son and I will not encourage him to go into anything that he doesn’t want.
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Such a sweet and good story. Thanks for sharing brother.
Just starting to listen and wanted to throw my 2 cents in. I totally understand the concept of an education that doesn’t clicking in the minds of any individual in they are not interested. Been there done that I knew how difficult for a subject that I didn’t like, it was like a day dreaming and wished I wouldn’t never took it from the beginning. I never forced my kids to take a career or study in the subject they never like it, just wasted money for those class. Never make my kids to choose what I wants but their wanted instead. If I didn’t like, so my children too! So many peoples graduated and got their degrees from the University but they changed job all the time, they were able to transfer the skills from that major to utilize for a difference career wise! Even my children’s were graduated with the degree in the major they picked but they didn’t worked in that field! A careers is Career as long as they set their minds and completed, graduate!!
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College is not for everyone. do what you love and keep on doing. There's a place for everyone in this world. Not everyone can be a doctor or a lawyer.
I am good as long as my children are happy and don’t depend on me. People have their own destiny. Some people don’t even get a job after college or in the field they majored in.
Don't be too harsh on parents of yesteryear with their wanting their children to be a doctor or lawyer because their understanding of what's possible (career wise) out there is extremely limited. Also, parents who never had the opportunity to have an education live vicariously through their children. Yes, it's very tiring (& probably at times demeaning) to hear parents harp about who you should be, but remember that at the end of the day their intentions are good and they just want you to succeed. As time goes by, the next generation of parents will do better because they will know better, hopefully.
Muaj 1 co minyuam yeej tsis nyiam mloog niam txiv tej lus qhuav qhia. Cov minyuam yug sab ub , Thaum ub, niam txiv lecturas peb, peb tsis cam niam thiab txiv. Lawv hais peb, cem peb, peb mloog lawv hais tas ces tas lawm ces Kav tsij mus khaws hauj lwm ua zoj Zerg xwb. Kuv muab ntshuas rau cov minyuam yug lub teb chaws vam meej no xyhov yog yoog noob los yog tau zoo dhau lawm los yog luag txoj niag cai khoo niam khoo txiv tsis pub ntaus ib nyuag khaub tsuav los ua cas minyuam tsis nyiam mloog niam txiv hais. Tsis hwm niam hwm txiv lawm. Yus hais lawv mas lawv tseem muaj cai los qhuav qhia yus ua niam ua txiv. Kuv cov kiag, tsis hais mas lawv mas nyob Tom lawv hoob xwb ib txog hauj lwm sab nraum no yeej tsis tawm los ua, tsis tawm los pab. Yus txib mas txib2 tsis tawm los li ces yus niag laus muaj mob los yus rov ua yus tag. Nws hoob mas khiab nyiab mas txaus rau nas ua zes tag, koj tsis hais mas tsis tu. Hauv nco tsis paub tig twg koj hais mas yeej tsis xav mloog koj hais. Koj pab sau nws tej khiab nyiab pov tseg mas nws los chua ntawv ntua tseg tsis pub yus kov thiab tseem txhaum nws. Cov minyuam tiam no noj nyuj mis xwb hais lawv tsis yuav tsis mloog lawm os.
Definitely wrong for your parents to treat you that way. Its all trial and error, every person is different. Everyone learn in their own way, not every job is for everyone. Im glad you found what you love. I just encourage my children to be successful in their own ways. As long as they can support themself when im not here anymore.
Koj ua xa tau tsis yog lawm o me kwv aw niam thiab txiv yeej xav koj tus ua nom los yog yus tus tus muaj nyiaj los yog yus tus xwb tsis muaj leej twg xav kom yus tej me nyuam tsis zoo li o
I'm a single mother and I worry so much for my son. He does not have a father figure in anyways. I don't know how to communicate nor encourage him to do better for himself. I don't even know if he worries about his future. He doesn't even want to go to college. I hope one day soon, he will find his way to find something he is good at so that when it's my time to go, I know he is good.
My kids can do what they want. As long as they have good earning potential, it’s fine. And sometimes it’s not about how much you make but about how much you keep
I understand that the parents have high hopes but whats with the belittling of your own child. You as a parent should be proud if your child have their own hopes and dreams that they are trying to fulfill.
Thanks for sharing your story…I’m a parent myself…I alway told my children to do their best and if it’s too hard as long as they pass..
Should be happy, you are where you are cause some parts of your parent’s effort.
I learned my lesson too, as a parent. Not that I was pushing my daughter to be a doctor or a lawyer. But I was guiding her and helping her at least get a college degree so that she can have a better future. But I was aware that for me pushing her to go college actually make her stressed out and hatting me. Until one day I saw she texted her friends how stressful she is and how much she hating me keep pushing her to go college.
I was so hurt and cried.
But i had came to realized that it’s her life. Tau noj thiab tsis tau noj los yog nws lub neej. Es kav liam. Hlub nws li kuv hlub, pab nes li kuv pab tau. Yog nws tsis peem nws ces thaum tsis muaj kuv lawm. Nws mam peem nws. Yeejnyog li tus yawm txiv no zaj dab neeg.
Let them enjoy their life. Txhob zoo li cov laus thaum ub. Ua lub neej rau cov laus zoo siab es yus lub neej tsaus ntuj nti.
Thov nej sau ntawv hmoob thiab lau xav saib cov cmt los twb tsi to tau li 😂😂😂
tswv ntuj yeej muab hom phiaj rau txhua tus neeg ua neej lawm
I have 2 adult kids and I don’t tell them to be doctors or lawyers. I just want them to have goals and ambitions so they can have a financially comfortable life. As parents, we want our kids to do better than us. We work hard to provide better resources for them so we expect them to achieve more. Success has a different meaning for everyone so we must accept what they want as long as they are doing well for themselves. After all, they are living for themselves, not us.
I am Auto mechanic my life is good nothing wrong..
I'm glad your parents have high aspiration for you. I've seen some parents who don't care about their kids because getting married young and living on welfare is all they know. Your parents are hard on you because they want what's best for you. When I was young, my parents would talk down to me too. Telling me, I'm not smart enough because I didn't bring home straight A's - when they dont know a single word of English and couldn't even help out with homework assignments. My mom was convinced I needed to apply for SSI. She burnt me when I was a baby and when we came to the United States, they offered to apply for SSI for me but my dad wanted me to get a proper education so he turned it down. My mom insisted that I needed the SSI. Lol. I have a masters degree now.
Teach your kids just go do marijuana in Oklahoma with May!!..👍👍👍
At least your experience with your parents teach you better understanding toward your kids.
Koj khav heev muaj ib hnub twg nkawv mus tag Koj yuav txom nyem xwb vim Koj yog ib tug tub dhuav niam thiab txiv txoj kev xav ua tsis tau los xij txoj kev khav rau neeg ntiaj teb nov ces lub ntuj yuav tshem koj txoj kev zoo mus kom tag xwb os tus me tub thaum niam txiv tseem nyob ces zoo tshaj plaws vim niam txiv txoj Koob moov los pov Koj xwb muaj hnub nkawv dua toj lawm Koj yuav plam tag ib puas tsav yam xwb tiag
Kuv xav li koj thiab vim khav theeb zog lawm niam txiv hais vim niam txiv xav kom ua tau neej zoo xwb
This is the thing parents dont do, is encourage their kids to do what they like but instead, push what they consider is "good" on to their kids. Some kids will never grow up to have their own opinion on things if you tell them to do this or that and will always depend on the parents. Parents who never had a childhood or had a rough childhood, i can understand their frustration but instead of forcing something on to your kids because everyone knows what it feels like to be forced to do something you dont like, to learn what the kid loves to do and grow with them, learn with them.
I agree...I told myself and husband and everyone that I don't care if my kids go to college...but they need to atleast go get a degree or a certificate from the tech....they can go far from a certicate...they don't need a college degree to make tons of money...
Ua niam ua txiv, txhob xav tias yus tej menyuam tsis paub txoj kev kwv ua neej. Lawv yeej paub paub lawv lawm, thiab lawv yeej paub lawv lub peev xwm muaj li cas.
My parents did this too… i ended up switching up majors so many times: bc I didn’t know what I wanted on top of doing what they wanted. In the end I did what I resonated with most, it took long and I was so unmotivated and unsure…but I was blessed in the end for a career that I was made for. I had to work harder, but it is appreciated & recognized in my work ethics. “When you love what you do, you don’t work a day in your life”.
Thank you for sharing advice brother
Narrow mind, dude? So you must be a dog or lawyer then. This one is good advice for a small mind like me bro.
Koj ma yuav npam tas ib neej yus miam thiab yus txiv hlub yus xwb koj npam txog hub tuag kiag os
Zoo heev li os niam tij
Tiam tshiab tam sim no peb cov niam cov txiv tsis coj li ntawv lawm os brother kuv cia kuv me nyuam mus raws li lawv siab nyiam xwb tsis ua li koj niam lawv lawm os
Tiger parents
Yes! The older hmong parents should hear this. Thanks for sharing your story and I'm happy you didn't kill yourself. I'm happy you got to prove to your parents that you can do well for yourself even though you took a different career path.
Doctor and lawyer are very prestigious careers and Hmong og only honor those careers.
All Asian parents do. 😂😂😂
My parents use to tell us doctors and lawyers all the time. We are now late 30s and 40s, we all make decent good money most 6 figures, all turned out good and now my parents are asking our kids 😆
Many of these parents who want their children (child) to walk the path of their dreams, because they couldn’t or didn’t have the chance to. But the major issue is, because they never did it themselves, they don’t even have a clue of how it’s done or what it takes to walk it out. Many older parents who never went to college, let alone school, expect their children to do it, but have no understanding of what it’s like and who would and would not have the ability to.
Not everyone is able to be a doctor or lawyer as the prestigious careers hmong parents only heard of. Just like not everybody is a shaman or txiv qeej txiv coj xai. Only those who have the ability can be.
Young people who have these kind of limited mindset parents should explain it in their language that way and continue on what they’re confident in.
My story is the opposite: I appreciate it more if my children wouldn't say one thing and then do another. They know I support them in whatever they want to do; I don't appreciate the dishonesty. Children can be dishonest and manipulate their parents to believe them.
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Yeah, I have a nephew that loves to play games. He dropped out of school. Now his at home doing nothing but waiting take take over his parents house when they die.
That’s me!!! I need to stop😂
Your parents just wanted what’s best for you because doctors and lawyers do make lots of money if they are good and have lots of clients. Yog li no tsis txhob thuam tej laus cov lus txhob yus mus rau qhov zoo, es txhob zoo, zoo siab tias koj tsis mus kawm li lawv hais tab sis koj kuj ua tau nyiaj ntau, ntau thiab koj tus tub kuj mus kawm li nws nyiam xwb los neb ib txiv tub kuj yeej ua tau nyiaj ntau tshaj. I think you two are just lucky that you are making reasonable amount of money from what you made your decision at the beginning.
It’s very say that parents bring the kids into this world and they have already decided our life for us already! And look at them, are they lawyers and doctors???? Hell no!
These are the stories we’re looking forward to, not the mos ab junkies. 😂😂
My parents wanted me to be a doctor. I became a millionaire instead. lol
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Um.. in a way it's true what he said but I don't know how true that is for my kids. I don't expect my kids to get their doctor degree, just a high enough degree so that they can get a good paying job and even then I'm not hopeful that they will survive out there. 🤷🏻♀️ I'm glad that he is able to turn around and be able to become successful. Prop to him
This dude misunderstood his parents. The real reason Hmong parents want their children to be doctors and lawyers is not about money but about values and reputations. As a saying goes, "a wise man is not a man of wealth but a man of value ". Doctors, lawyers, or scholars are backbones of society. Without them, society doesn't advance to the next level. This is why not just the Hmong people but all nationals prefer scholars.
You are100% right. Muaj nyiaj muaj txiaj tsis npaum muaj lub koob npe zoo. Muaj nyiaj pub hnab tsis npaum muaj tswvyim puv plab. The dude's advice is not a good one.
A lot doctors out there but not doctors just doctors degree😂
Hmong like the name doctor 😝
I pick up plastics garbage and I make lot lot lot $$$😉
Of course it's the $! That's the main driver for the OGs. $ and a title.
@@solomoua5520 . You don't need an advanced degree to make lots of money. Scholars don't make tons of money.
@@MonaLisa-de4cp. Yeah, there are some Hmong parents think that doctors and lawyers make lots of money and have good reputation, but the reality is they don't make that much money and they are the ones who pay taxes the most. To say that all Hmong parents pressure their children to become doctors and lawyers is a generalization, because some do for values.
Kuv muaj ib tug kwv nws twb kawm tsis tas HS, tsis kawm technical school li thiab. Nws mus ua paj qaum ntuj muaj nyiaj li muaj, tus neeg yuav muaj nyiaj tsis tas kawm ntawv siab li. Cov OG parents ruam, ruam thiaj kom cov menyuam kawm kom tau Dr, lawyer xwb hos. Kawm ntawv xiam sijhawm xwb, muaj zog ces muaj nyiaj xwb los mas.
😂 cov nam txiv hab puj yawm es muaj moo tau tub hab ntxhai, vauv hab nyaab dr na. Mej pis tsawg tug tseem tsi ntseeg nai muam hab tsi kaam moog ntsib nai muam os? Hab tseem xum moog yuav tshuaj xuv lug noj na? 😊😊😊😊
College is not for everyone so if you know that you’re slow in learning then don’t go and be in debts. As long as you’re not a loser and not work. Your parents are so cruel and mean.
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Txhua lub xeev los yog nroog muaj Hmoob nyob coob zog yeej muaj cov Dr. cuav thiab lawv txoj hauj lwm tsuas yog muag life insurance los yog tshuaj ntsuab (herbs) nkaus xwb. Cov Dr. tiag poob nyiaj rau lawv txoj kev kawm tsis yog tsawg. Thaum lawv tau txoj hauj lwm rau lawv daim degrees lawm, lawv raug them rov cov nyiaj lawv qev yam ntev heev. Thaum lawv them tag, lawv twb laus tsim nyog retire lawm thiab. Parents always hope the degree of highest education of their children should fall in their category wish. Therefore, you do not blame them for their wish.
I wanna know where do you sell your drawing for money?
Inspiring story. Can I get owner of this story’s contact? Please.
tu me kav aw koj niam thiab koj txiv ko ma ruam dhau qhov ruam lawm os?
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Does this apply to our kids in the LGBTQ+ community as well?
Do you have class or teach people how to fix house too? Fixing house is not a bad career..
Not True brother, I let my kids go to college to become what they love, want and desire. But after graduate they cannot find the right job for what they go to college for. They end up doing something else totally different from their carrier.
Zaj no twb hais tag lawm...same story.
Yeah. I thought I heard something like this before. Glad I wasn't the only one who thought this.
You already told this story before
She needs the money!!..That’s my wife saying..🤣🤣🤣
Hmong Laus ruam ruam Hmong tsuas paub hais Doctor thiab Lawyer xwb os kuv cov tsis taus Lawyer thiab Doctor Los lawv yeej khwv taus nyiaj ntaus ib yam thiab MAs
The world changes now being an influencer and only fans make more duas las than doctors 🥼 and lawyers 😅
Thank you for bringing up this topic and making parents aware.
No parents should force their kids to further their education. Our kids have to want it themselves to go for it. Also a higher education isn’t meant for everyone nor does it mean a better life. Feels bad for anyone that have parents that are like this person’s story.
You said it correctly! I encourage my children that college is good but go for yourself..don't go for me bc I am not the one who's going to repay the loans.
@Koua Vang listen brother. I said further education, not k-12. After high school/18 years of age, they are no longer kids. They are adults. If they want to go for a certain thing different from your point of view, then let them. You as a parent should only encourage them to give it their all and not put them down and tell them to go for something different. We can agree to disagree, but im happy that the guy in this story found what he is great at regardless if it’s competitive or not.
What Eric meant is that a parent should encourage higher education but not force. And if your children do go to college, let them decide what they want to study bc not everyone can be doctors and lawyers.
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