Re-entering my wellness era as a mum of 2 | how I'm turning my health around in 2024!
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- Опубліковано 12 лип 2024
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TIMESTAMPS TO COME TOMORROW, I'M OUT WHEN THIS IS GIONG LIVE AND DIDN'T GET TO DO THEM LOL! THE KIDS/SOCIAL PLANS HAVE ME LIKE A HEADLESS CHICKEN! xx
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Intro song: • DON'T STOP BELIEVIN' -...
TIMESTAMPS:
00:00 - 04:45 intro: my WHY, privileges & manifesting
04:45 - 05:55 disclaimer & a habit that can help EVERYONE
05:55 - 07:12 earthing/grounding
07:12 - 08:29 cold showers
08:29 - 09:26 Wim Hof breath work
09:26 - 09:58 Sole water
09:58 - 14:55 Whole foods / minimally processed foods diet
14:55 - 18:51 Supplements I take
18:51 - 25:17 Calming evening/sleep routine!
25:17 - 31:55 Brain retraining & why I believe I became so unwell
31:55 - 32:59 Vagus nerve stimulation (Singing, dancing, music)
32:59 - 38:08 Slow re-introduction of exercise
38:08 - 39:11 Energy management & slowing down
39:11 - 41:14 Kefir/probiotics
41:14 - 46:07 Craniosacral, medication & outro
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Comment your WHY…why you want to work on your health! It’s so important to have that firmly in your mind 💖
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So many whys! To help out my household, to pursue my dreams, to be more athletic again, to help others more (NOT a complete list!).
My WHY: To improve my quality of life and to be able to live life to it's fullest!! There is so much life to live and I don't want to miss a second of it.
Important: dont just take supplements because an influencer tells you they are “amazing”. Consult with your doctor first. The only thing they almost always recommend is a vitamin D supplement. If you don’t actually need the thing you are taking as a supplement, it just becomes more that your liver and kidneys have to filter out which can lead to damage. (Sorry, English is not my native language)
I am so glad to hear you are doing better Melanie! your words influence a lot of people, I would advice some caution for them as well
100% this! definitely consult a dr first before taking supplements unnecessary as they can cause damage if you get too much of them. The body can only cope with a certain amount of each if you go over you can cause permanent damage as it will start to struggle to use them up and filter them out. So definitely see your dr first and get your bloods tested to see what your out of and listen to what your dr recommends. don't just start taking them without advice from a medical professional!
Agh thank you so so much! And omg absolutely! Hopefully people have common sense. Sharing what you're doing isn't the same thing as prescribing what others should do. Sharing what certain vitamins and minerals are important for doesn't mean everyone needs to supplement! I hope the fact that I'm talking about how Pregabalin helped my anxiety and medication doesn't mean people take that as me telling them they should go ask their doctors for Pregabalin lol
Yes I love Mel but I flinched when she said you will pee out excess supplements. This is not true of all supplements. Excess vitamin D can be toxic. Too much calcium can cause constipation and even worsen heart arrhythmias. I have had many patients who had toxic vitamin D levels. Please speak to a registered dietician, physician, or APP. If you’re eating a balanced diet and don’t have a medical problem that affects absorption(eg bariatric surgery) , you don’t need a million supplements. A multivitamin or prenatal will have everything you need
@@melaniemurphyofficial no, people do not have common sense, we all know this, and we know that people will religiously follow what their youtubers and influencers will say they are doing because they want what they have found, products or mindset. that's why brands support them because they know this. please be more mindful in what you are just oh so lightheartedly putting out there, because what you are saying does in fact come across as gospel, it's your whole vibe.
@@kcltube3 I'm not responsible for what anyone else does. If your favourite influencer talks about taking Coke on nights out, are they responsible if you stupidly decide to blindly copy them? Don't be absurd. My following is made up of people in their late 20s and their 30s who are well capable of thinking for themselves. My 'whole vibe' is sharing my life...not in prescribing.
Your dad with the tie around his head. An actual icon and legend 😂❤
He's literally SUCH A LEGEND
Would love to see a weekly vlog of this in practice. ❤
I think I'd enjoy making videos like that again it's been so long since I've made vlogs! xxx
Great idea x
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Please consult a nutritionist or dietitian if you are thinking about supplements. There is potential for harm; “you excrete everything you don’t need” - this is not true for fat soluble vitamins. However, it is true that many are deficient in various nutrients eg vitamin D. Best advice is to get levels checked first and then decide on supplementation.
Thanks for mentioning that you support your local small farms! I'm a farmer and I believe local nutritious food can heal. I know we have to charge more than the grocery store but if people can afford it it's so worth it! 🌱
I'm realising HOW important it is to support local when possible!
Oh Melanie this might be my all-time favourite video you have ever made. You are making changes that will help you for the rest of your life and generationally for your babies too. You deserve all this goodness and so much more ❤
Honestly Mel you give me hope that I will survive this part of my life, and even thrive! Two young kids, a big house move/reno, illness both mentally and physically. You are a wonderful woman thank you so much for being so raw and honest x
The past couple of years have presented me with THE MOST CHALLENGES I've EVER faced and I truly at times thought it was too much for me and I'd just collapse and never get back up...nobody can understand how hard it is to juggle a home reno with pregnancies kids working mental/physical struggles unless they've been through it...and while I absolutely hate to hear that you're struggling SO much, it is in a way nice to know I'm not alone in finding this life stage A LOT. There's this bullshit pressure to appear like nothing phases you as a mother. Like, no...it's been a really hard stage, but I do feel like I'm coming out the other end of a tunnel of sorts and the light is SO BRIGHT so YOU LOOK AFTER YOURSELF AND I FULLY BELIEVE YOU'LL MAKE IT HERE TOO! Huge hugs xxx
I love hippie Melanie😂💚 I’ve been watching your videos since 2016 and you have MASSIVELY helped me with my health and body image issues through my 20s. I am now 27 and you continue to help me as you grow and learn and share🌿✨
You should see my face reading this...thank you for such a beautiful encouraging comment! xxx
You need Jesus
And not youtube
Yes, would love some vlogs seeing all of this in practise!! So glad to hear you’re feeling so much better Melanie 💚
Notes for myself on things you mentioned that I’d like to try: Wim Hof breathwork (see UA-cam), at least 60 seconds cold shower every day ideally in the morning, touching your bare feet to the earth 20 mins a day, praying in the evening before getting into bed, no phone in bed - instead do reading and visualisation of positive future experiences you want to have
Great video. I had CFS after glandular fever in the 1990s. After a few years I was able to very gradually build up my mind and body again to about 90/95% of previous health. Timing is very individual,, it took me about 7 years. I learnt patience and compassion for self and others. It is not an easy parh. I am so glad you have made progress recently
Absolutely incredible to hear that you came through it! What a long oul' road! If I kept going at the rate I was going...working evenings after minding kids all day, eating rubbish that wasn't helping my body to function in the face of a constant stream of bugs coming into the house via my son's preschool, not giving my body/mind what they need...I fully believe I'd have ended up bed bound. I've never felt fatigue like what was coming in waves since last year and it got so much worse after Covid, I had a week or two where I was horizontal constantly and just so out of it from lack of sleep, I had such fatigue but also SUCH terrible insomnia. Patience and compassion are vital. And acceptance of symptoms, of where we're at in any one moment instead of fighting against it xxx
@@melaniemurphyofficial Thanks for replying. I wish you all the best for the future and with your channel, well done on all you have achieved x
I have followed you for years, your evolution is admirable, I am forever in awe of you! I have sooo much love and respect for the love you just pour into everything you do. It truly inspires me, you’re so informative, caring, loving, hippy and I’m ALLLLL here for it! Thank you thank you, I adore that you’re similar in my age and it makes me feel all well and good there are others out there wanting and yearning for this hippy life we all clearly need and benefit soooo much from 💜 thank you for sharing, and for you being YOU!! 💚 xxxx
So happy you’re finding your health again! Love your approach and I expect that sharing your mindset and process is going to help a lot of people.❤️☺️
So happy for you that things have improved so much - you're doing great 💜. As a fellow mum of two tinies with very limited childcare or help I find the time barrier to me implementing any of the things I know I need to is a huge barrier, but every day I'm working through the sleep deprivation and constant colds towards this goal - inching closer bit by bit 🙏. I loved your reminder to slow down - wtf are we rushing for when this is life! Yet I am totally guilty of that rushing, stress and panic about how little I'm achieving from my to-do list *all* the time 😂. I would love a weekly wellness 2.0 style vlog in which you show us how you actually live like this with your childcare and work responsibilities - it would be really motivating and inspiring for a lot of other parents x
I second this
Love this for you!!✨✨ health is truly wealth, especially in an age that wants to steal it from you! Knowing that there is an all-wise, loving force that you can speak to, show gratitude to, & ask for help is also priceless. All the best to you & family 🤗
I love you Mel. I’m glad you are feeling better and so grateful to have been following you over these years 🥰
So glad you've found things that make you feel better Mel 💚 it's hard to watch this kind of video for me as a lot of these things are things I have tried for my chronic illness, or worse, people have suggested like they have all the answers to cure me. There is a certain amount of health privilege in being able to do these things and in having them work. I'm also a tad more skeptical of the science behind some of it. Still very happy you are doing well and glad you are showcasing real self care, as I think being in touch with our nervous systems can save people from illness in this hustle culture dominated world.
I feel exactly the same way. I've been bedbound 3 years now with severe long COVID and no amount of healthy eating and wellness stuff makes any difference. Some are just lucky to only get post viral fatigue syndrome from covid, which resolves by itself within a year anyway. Those of us who are unlucky end up with ME/CFS
Yeah I get you, totally agree. I've had me/cfs for 8 years now, mostly housebound the last 3. I wish you all the best.
For everyone watching this video who also has long covid, its important to remember that luck play far more of a role in recovery from long covid than any of these wellness activities. For example, breathing exercises may help, but it helps the way it would help a health person, it's not going to fix your chronic illness. Try them by all means, you might find something that helps your symptoms but if it isn't a cure all, that is not your fault.Trying these things can give a sense of hope and can feel like you're doing something and that can be hugely psychologically important xxx
Totally agree, a lot of people totally ignore the red flags their body is sending out. And I 100% acknowledge the privileges I have
Thank you for this amazing video. I've also been struggling with health for the last year, and this was so incredibly helpful (like somebody supporting you quietly from the side). Your health journey has been a motivation and inspiration. I wish you all the best!! also!! weekly videos would be amazing
I do something similar to the therapeutic exercise at the dentists. When I am in pain or uncomfortable, I will remind myself that this will all be over soon, and the results will be worth it. I imagine myself with a happier, healthier smile. ✨️
In the process of doing this myself. My year of healing. I find your voice so soothing. Thank you for this video!
So far working a treat for me to overcome perimenopause weight gain, chronic mold exposure and anxiety, depression, PMDD, adeno, chronic fatigue etc is - whole food diet (loads of protein from animal products, ditching the processed food), taking a few drops of liquid iodine a day in water, using Anna’s wild yam cream daily until my bleed, grounding and sun daily, sleeping in a separate room to hubby (the sleep deprivation from snoring etc is real!), stopping alcohol, a coffee only after food later in the day, moving by walking and weights at home (I hate gyms and we have a great set up in the garage where I can keep an eye on the kids). Prayer. I think everyone healing needs to understand it’s adding one thing in or taking one thing out every week. (Ask yourself is this hindering or helping me be my best self?) Slowly, but surely. It’s not one thing. We are complex humans and need looking after. If I can come back from this you can too. Just prioritize you! Your family needs you xxx
Absolutely brilliant to hear it!
So happy to see you doing well! I always feel like we’re in similar headspaces because half the time when you post something I’m doing the same thing! I’ve been head first into my wellness routine this last month and the video where you told us about your recent sickness and reading ultra-processed people, I had just finished reading it too! I love following along with your videos because it helps me to have such a compassionate voice to hear for my own self talk ❤ I hope to be as good a mother as you when I have (foster) kiddos.
Melanie, thank you for this video. I first found you years ago when you were starting your weight lifting journey. You inspired me so much then to get myself healthy and active. I’m a mum too and the same age as you and you are inspiring me all over again to prioritize my health ( mental, emotional, physical). I like your holistic approach, it resonates. I just want to feel good and play and be around for my family. Anyway, thanks again!
So relatable!! Glad you’re feeling so well🎉🎉
Please learn more about neurodiversity before speaking any further about it.
Lesson one: we avoid using functioning labels. For those who get labelled "high functioning", it minimises the challenges that we face and can contribute to low self-worth. For those who get labelled "low-functioning", it lowers people's expectations of what is possible for them, which in turn limits their options for life as a whole. (That's the short version)
If you'd like to learn more about ADHD, I'd recommend the How to ADHD UA-cam channel. For more on neurodivergence in women, I'd recommend The Neurodivergent Women Podcast, where internalised and masked presentations of neurodivergence are discussed.
Thanks so much for sharing this info with us. I've been personally struggling with my mental health and body image for years now and i feel like i need to change my life style to ensure i live a happier life ❤
Mel, you have made me take my health so much more seriously. I have a small child and we both need me well. I do much of what you talk about but it's so expensive. I can just about manage but most people can’t and that's rough.
So wonderful to hear that
I know it’s not a convincing argument for everyone because everyone is still relative and genetics play a role too, but just think about how you will save money by eating well in the long run. You will not need to buy medicine, pay for surgeries, hospital stays etc. Health is wealth and sickness can become goddamn expensive. I see it as an investment, just like all money-based investments that exist out there :) Also taking care of your body physically, movement, mobility and all that stuff will help tremendously in your future health costs.
So glad you’re feeling better Melanie ❤ I’d love to see weekly vlogs!!
Love this!! Ditto on health issues leading to a massive improvement in my approach to my health and body. I love these and look forward to any and all other videos you do on this topic!
I've watched you for years and rarely comment. I wanted to tell you how much these types of videos mean to me! I've got endo and it just wrecks me, but this kind of wellness journey really gives me hope. It's so refreshing that you really emphasize listening to your body!!!
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A personal preference, but I find the clips used as an example of you doing something are too short. It's a flash and then back to you sitting talking. But it's those clips that make the video. I'd like them longer with just the talking over the top. But still another great video! Showing your daily life is always the best. They're the most relatable and sometimes a good example of what could have been.
This is REALLY helpful feedback! xxxxx
@@melaniemurphyofficialI agree with this point. Sometimes being able to watch that it’s possible makes it easier for me to believe I can do it too.
I would love to see weekly vlogs! I am also dealing with similar symptoms and pains and have been moving towards a more holistic approach to heal. Of course I still see and doctor and rheumatologist, however, I found this vlog to be very helpful ❤ Thank you for sharing!
I loved this sooo much. Your chat is so non judgemental and refreshing, i just love your measured approach of moderation. Love love love 💘
You're lovely. I'm glad you're feeling happier and calmer, and grateful that you've shared what works for you
Your hair is lush!😍😍
You’re so beautiful, inside and out!❤
I would love it if you made the odd weekly vlog focusing on this approach to your wellness! This has been one of my favorite videos you have ever made! Super inspiring and helpful. I am recovering from me/cfs which I have had for 10+ years, and I am nearly well-my goal is to fully recover this year. Going to try out some of your habits with self talk. That book on manifesting is not yet available in the U.S., I hope it is released here soon! Super happy for you that you are doing so well and this video will help so many people. Slainte!
I am on a healing journey as well! So grateful for your video. ❤ I relate to it so much.
I need to take care of myself more than I do. I'm wrecked at the end of the day and just want to veg. I do want to at least get a 15-30 min walk in to get me started so that I can chase my little boy around without being out of breath after seconds!
I wish I could do everything you suggested, and hopefully with time I will be able to.
One step at a time 😊❤
Thanks for sharing, Melanie! Love your videos
i find the point you made about not trying to do too much all at once is really relatable. adhd aside, im really bad with procrastination and this constant awareness that im procrastinating while im doing it, but couldnt help myself. that was until i started to gently make myself focus on one task at a time. instead of listing 20 odd tasks/errands i need to do today, ill choose 3 priority tasks; one thats necessary (could be making a phonecall or paying a bill), one thats going to make me physically move (maybe like watering my plants or letting my cats out on the roof), and then one being something thats fun/brain engaging (like drawing or writing up in my diary). after about 6 months of doing this ive found that im generally alot more productive and calm simultaneously. i go about it with the attitude that if ive gotten those three tasks done, then ive accomplished something today and i can pat myself on the back for that.
I find your videos about this subject so comforting and inspiring. I'm recovering from burnout and cptsd and find it hard to stick to healthy habits. I'm currently waiting on a rebounder trampoline to be delivered as I've watched some great UA-cam videos about it's many health benefits. One of them is helping with that 'sticky' post viral blood. You might be interested in learning more about rebounding too. Plus it just looks fun and a way to be more childlike again 😊
I wish I could change my financial situation but oh Melanie there is so much. Not all of it is in my control. And that is truly maddening. ❤
I wish my MCAS would go away with this type of stuff. 😢 I can't fix myself on a cellular level. Would that we all could. Oh I do not like the label high functioning...it comes from ableist people praising us for "seeming so normal." I appreciate you making this video though.
I know it's not possible to change one's financial situation overnight, trust me! It took me a long time and I spent many years with just state support and studying on the back to education allowance, counting my pennies. I've seen people age 40 with nothing make it to 50 with a million in the bank from very tiny amounts of money they invested (they learned how to do it through reading and online videos)...there's NO way to predict the future, none of us can, though I personally believe that assuming it's going to be bad / that you'll always struggle with money is a surefire way to tune out any and all opportunities that may present themselves in your surroundings over the years
@melaniemurphyofficial thank you for not taking my comment as a mean thing. You're a sweet lady. I am American. That probably explains everything right there. Our system is so beyond broken. And there's too much nuance for my own situation and so vastly different from yours. Truly I am so happy for you that you found a way out and get to have a happy life. It's beautiful to watch. I wish we could talk haha it would make this whole explanation easier. Why are you so sweet 😭❤️
Super interesting. Really appreciate you sharing, I value you also pitch it as a holistic approach yourself and your ‘why’ is a helpful angle :) wishing you well!!!!
Would love this sort of thing for those of us out here who have almost naught to work with financially. Of course there is plenty you talk about that I have incorporated into my life that doesn't cost anything but my own energy. And I'd LOVE to see a monthly vlog seeing these things in practice to have a better idea of what or would not likely benefit me.
Omg this came to me at the perfect time! Thank you so so much
❤ came to Dublin for the taylor swift concert last week and havebeen thinkin of you!
It is amazig how your videos neverfail me to inspire me and make me discover new things!!!
A big hug from Naples, Italy,
Delighted to see you recover so well from the health scare you had !
Love these videos, you're so inspirational ... keep it up please and help us all
This has helped me so much Melanie thank you ☺️ you know it’s good advice when you watch the night before, then put into action the next day. 🙌
They sell red light reading lights on Amazon, they clip on your book or side table! Great for sleep and a lot less bothersome then having your phone
OOOOHHHH, I will be ordering one today! Thank you! :)
I really enjoyed this video and found the information you shared helpful 🙏
Love watching your videos, it adds joy to my day!❣
And again thank you for another helpful video!!! Love your videos!
This is soooo helpful! Will def look ibto my bloodwork and vits and minerals - hit a major burnout after 11years of doing it all... It's been three months of trying to get back to balance, and I feel a bit scared to get back to work, but maybe trying some of these things will get me get back into it ❤ Thank you, and sooo happy for you - you look so happy 😍❤️
Can’t wait to watch this once my little one’s asleep ☺️
Masterpiece, as always 🥰👏👏👏
Definitely going to implement some of these tips! Thanks Melanie always for your no-bullshit approach :)
Loved this video!! I am really trying to get my health back as I have chronic fatigue syndrome from being in high stress for too long. I am finding it really hard so definitely going to incorporate these tips.
I miss vlogs so much! I would love for you to start them up again!
thank u for this video!!!! would love the vlog
Love watching your videos!! Just a wee note - the use of 'high functioning' and 'low functioning' labels are being phased out cause they're pretty ableist and a way of measuring how much help people with disabilities are entitled to, which is a slippery slope (I know you don't mean anything bad by this though, its been used to describe me too its just important to not perpetuate it) xx
Wow Melanie, this video has literally made me want to make changes to my life. I feel like it’s a bit of a wake up call actually as a lot of what you said about the things you were doing I can absoloutely relate to. Im so glad you have found a path to help you with all these different things ❤ Your kids must be so proud of you. You’re amazing x
Awh Emma 😭😭💖💖💖💖💖
Love this, Melanie 😊 I forgot all about yoga with Adrienne, so I'll have to check out her channel again.
I would love a weekly vlog of your journey 💚
that was so informative and beautiful 🤍 so glad you're expliciting some of the deepest thoughts i have been thinking of for years. i so appreciate your work and autenticity
Just a gentle reminder that ADHD and autism are not a spectrum in the traditional sense of everyone is on a line. It means those who are diagnosed, will vary in how much they individually experience each symptom (e.g., some may have high sensory struggles, others may have low, some might have medium levels of communication struggles, while others with very little). I also think it's important to distinguish between multitasking and habit stacking, which can help people move from one task to another, which can be a challenge for some ADHD folks (I'm diagnosed with both ADHD and autism, each of my parents gave me one of them, I have both a psychiatrist and a therapist, and I'm six months from finishing a PhD in psychology, so I've read a lot of books and know how to read research, I know things!! 😆).
Otherwise, I love this video so much, it comes at the perfect time and either I'm already doing some of your recs or I'm keen to add them to my life! 🤍
I'll admit I know VERY little about these things! But I'd really like to learn more about it as knowing more about it might improve my day to day life a lot more than I know!
@@melaniemurphyofficial for sure!! I love inserting myself into situations to kindly and gently explain something from a more neurodiverse lens, because this area of research is rapidly changing/evolving and (for valid reasons) can be hard/time consuming for most people to keep up with! Like a lot of other ND individuals, knowing stuff about ADHD and autism is my special interest, so I am all over it and I like to share it (respectfully ofc) with others, to make the world a better place 😇
Loved this video Melanie very inspiring just a note of caution on B vitamins I had a Dutch test and was put on Pure encapsulations B complex for a while because my B6 results were not optional .However my nutritionist is now tapering me off because b6 can cause nerve tingling if used for too long. Just be careful with the B complex. You look great and I'm glad you are feeling better.xx
again, someone else commenting on the mis/sketchy info on this vlog, thank you, please people don't listen to this as gospel! because I can tell many are.
I have a relative low stress life, and I’ve been fortunate to have eaten healthy and been active since I was a kid. Even so, I’d love to start implementing a few more of these things. Specifically things that feel indulgent but are actually ways to treat yourself nicely. 😌
I work on my health to age gracefully and limit pain and digestive issues!
Would love a weekly vlog!! ❤
I love this content Mel! Please make more wellness videos
I have had days like that...just feeling annoyed that I need to do so much to just feel normal...however then I remember that 'normal' isn't 'normal' on a species level and I'm almost 35! I lived 'normally' for years (just pushing through wave after wave after wave of insanity!) and it makes sense that my body was like ACTUALLY, HEY, UM I HATE THIS SO JUST...STOP? PLEASE LOOK AFTER ME? And now my baseline has shifted and I'm able to expand a little. I'm able to do a bit more each week without any sensation of crashing. I heard someone explain why acceptable of where we are at is THE bedrock of healing and that fighting against the situation and the symptoms can make them worse...that's really clicked for me xxx
Beautiful video Mel. Thank you for sharing! I love that you pray in the evening - I do too and it’s really changed my life around. Especially reflecting on what happened that day makes you just more present in the actual day and has helped me be a better version of myself.
I have a hard time with manifestation - maybe you have some advice. As someone who has worked really hard to stay in the here and now and not live in some maybe future I don’t know how visualisation would work for me. I don’t want to keep obsessing about a possible future and neglect my now self.
For me, it's not really a feeling about obsessing over any particular future outcome but...the way I do it, I essentially just think about my future like it's already happened if that makes sense! Like it's a memory. I don't think about it ALL the time but like, if I'm a passenger in the car or am falling asleep, I like to think about something really fun that I'd like to do and I imagine the people I love/me are all there smiling happy and healthy. Or like...before I wrote my books, I used to look at my book shelf and I'd visualise a pile of books with my name on the spines. I'd imagine the feeling seeing my book in a bookshop. Sprinkling these thoughts throughout my day, I don't feel it takes away from my ability to enjoy the here and now! Though in truth - ENJOYING THE HERE AND NOW is something I've had to work harder for. As my mind naturally wanders a lot. I need to 'practice' mindfulness it certainly doesn't come naturally! xxx
@@melaniemurphyofficial thank you for your answer. Yes that’s true I do that as well, thankfulness. But for example I do long for a relationship in the long term. I know that is what I want. But I dont want to betray my hard earned at easy being with myself if that makes sense. So this is where my daydream always stops short, I can’t think about a potential partner - even though that is what I wish for. And I am doing really well being by myself, I am happy now. But I do know it’s what I wish for my future. Anyway. Thank you, I have been following you since 2015 :)
Great video! Super informative. We need to live a life that supports our body ❤
I would looove a weekly vlog!!! To see how you put this all in action. You’ve inspired me, I order the UPF book and am taking a nice shower and making a cup of tea. I have 80 pounds to lose and I think this stress minimizing approach will be wonderful for my highly sensitive nature. So easy to get caught up in a go go go lifestyle and not take care of myself…
I like how you tie a lot of the alterjative approach to the scientific method. I am very "no hippie stuff" in my core, but I also suffer from chronic illness, which I know western medicine can do really little about. I wish there was a magic pill, and resent actually taking care of myself, so I love watching you enjoying (or at least accepting) this era of slowing down.
I want to work on my health, in short, to be strong. Yes, I deffo want to get married and have kids, but at 31, working on a 2nd career in education, and no romantic prospects in sight, I know that - whether I have kids biologically or adopt, I'll likely be an older mum. I used to swim and run (casually, but regularly) in high school, and its extraordinary how much strength and energy I've lost over the last dozen years. I want to eat better and actually be excited about it (which is why I've been oogling the meals in your recent health videos). I miss the stamina and even lung capacity I used to have (I love to sing for my own enjoyment, particularly when I clean or go on solo walks, but I cant sing as loud/powerfully as i used to). I've gained weight over the years, sure, but actually since watching your videos over the past decade, I care little about the size of my clothes or number on the scale. I just want to feel strong and powerful, energetic and actually sleep better. I plan to shift careers from nursing to elementary/primary school teacher, and I want to be able to keep up with the little ones - my students and own children. If I lose weight and change how my body looks, hey that's grand. But I really just want to be healthy and strong enough to actually enjoy my life 💚
I wish you would upload the audio as a podcast so I can listen as I do things. I need this on repeat!
Thank you 🤍
Love your nails! Glad you’re doing better 😊❤
I ditched the strict eating times too (intermittent fasting) because I just feel better not stressing or thinking into it, and I don't need it for losing weight. I've been trying to focus more on learning how to eat, workout, and even plan around my cycle.
The biggest difference for me was to chill out during my luteal phase and listen to my body wanting more carbs. I highly recommend the app 28 Wellness, they're great for daily insights throughout your cycle. It's stuff you can learn through research on your own, (like some of Ray Peat's work, I think he's right about the anti-estrogen carrot salad among many other tips) but it's nicely put together into one app and looks great!
I'm so glad you're grounding! One of the most impactful decisions I made in the past year was to ground daily, and be in the sun a lot more. It changed so much for me. I had been what I thought was maybe perpetually anemic since I was like 16/17. I went into an alternative doctor at the time, and after examining my blood, she basically told me I need red meat, grounding, and sunlight. Which I at the time didn't take seriously.
Fast-forward to now 28, and ever since I started to do it religiously while also in the sun (and moved away from a moldy house), all of my symptoms are gone. Especially my horrible temperature regulation. I was always cold; strangely cold when I shouldn't have been. Now I regulate temperature perfectly and haven't had issues since. I'm thinking it was my thyroid.
I follow a lot of people who swear by health based on light, and the effects of watching the sunrise/sunset, grounding as much as possible, etc. I've done the blue light blocking in the evening for years, but I had no idea how much it can harm our hormonal balance as women to have so much blue light all day. I haven't tried the sunrise/sunset gazing, but if I can get my butt up at 5:30am I'll test it out! 😂
I've also been drinking kefir daily! I bought old organic kefir grains online, and they pump out kefir super quick, plus you can multiply them easily to make big batches. The store bought kind (from what I read about) contains far less healthy bacteria than homemade, so I opted to make it myself. It's so easy to make and saves money! 😄 Also check out Lead Free Mama online, she tests all kinds of kitchenware for lead toxic stuff that can leach into your food. Through her I found Bormioli Rocco (Italian brand, they seem to make everything right there lol), I use their jugs to contain the kefir.
Another change I made is daily castor oil packs. They work, I wish I had done it years ago when I first heard about it!
Something else I really want to take more seriously is controlling EMF/EMR exposure. It's something that I'm shocked more people don't talk about when we have 5g rolling in everywhere here. There's so much data on it too. In Ireland, is your government pushing for 5g towers everywhere?
Thanks for letting us into a slice of your life! I'm trying to make an effort to leave some comments on your channel because it's been a favorite of mine for so many years now
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Hi Melanie, Love your videos! I’m so glad you have found a way of eating and a life style that makes you feel great! I am a registered dietitian and I just wanted to note one thing. Unfortunately your body will not excrete out all supplementation taken in excess. Some vitamins/minerals can build up in the system and cause toxicity. This is actually a common reason young adults (20-35) are admitted to hospital emergency rooms. It’s best take supplements which are prescribed by a GP or other HCP, or for deficiencies that have been confirmed by a blood test or other test. Lots of love 💕
you're being very kind about this, I cannot believe how many people 'discover' wellness and immediately think they know stuff.
While i strongly believe in using medically researched practices to help yourself. I totall agree health is a holistic thing that needs a multifaceted approach ❤
Would love a weekly vlog!
I understand the panic attacks with not being able to do 'normal' things. I went into kidney failure when I was pregnant with my baby and when she was 4 weeks old, I couldn't pick her up. It upset me so much. She was premature and so teeny and I couldn't lift her. It mentally was awful, mainly because of the guilt. I had a difficult 9 months of dialysis and transplant and recovery. Thankfully I'm so healthy now and I see her running around and I can pick her up and throw her around and she just laughs laughs. That laugh, is my reason. Her smiles are my reason. Me being able to bath her and sooth her and seeing her thrive is my reason. Meditation and deep breathing was and is still amazing for me. I still feel guilty when I think about last year but I try to be present to enjoy today and so can enjoy tomorrow. Also, I bought your second fiction book and am loving it so far!
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For me, I'm pretty happy with my health and lifestyle, food wise I think I do pretty well (probs abit too many treats) and I have to do a big hill walk everyday to the bus stop which basically takes care of exercise. Since moving back to Brisbane (Aus) I couldnt be happier with my new house and backyard for the nature aspect 🙂
But before having my daughter I was doing yoga almost everyday. Right now I'm striving (and failing lol) to do it once a week. Seeing your two little beans together makes me even more So so keen for my second baby (just ttc now). Yoga was a big part of my previous ttc and pregnancy journey so it feels...necessary to be at least a small part of my next one.
You look gorgeous today❤❤❤❤❤❤
Oh, and WHY I want to work on my health is to maintain good mental health, and be able to spend time and energy with my kids ❤
Also: you say you do "alternative" things, but they aren't really that alternative - most of what you do has been backed by science 😊
I wish Hello Fresh was available in my country and city. Looks so good and convenient!
You can get tiny clip on light that fit on top of your book, I have one for my husband when he’s reading but I want to sleep. They’re cheap and super handy
I would love a vlog. ❤
Hugs from Mexico
Ultimately, i want to be a happy, healthy, present wife/mother/daughter/friend/person, and that means me taking my health seriously, taking my mental health seriously. I never had any real support when i was growing up, i grew up in a "there are bigger problems, just get on with it" household. So thats what i did, for years. The first thing i've done, and this is huge for me, is to tell my husband and friends when i'm having a low day.
Omg such a greeaaaattt videooıo❤️❤️ thank you thank you❤️❤️❤️
Awesome! I do a lot of the same things 😄 Hreat to hear that you are better, and these habits are likely to ALWAYS serve you ❤ I'm not that good at my breath work anymore though (I learnt to meditate during uni, where I had to sit through lectures with a professor who drove me crazy 🙈), and same with grounding :( We have a large yard, but it's full of slugs 😢
Was recently told by a friend that I'm so much skinnier, and it's only been 3.5 months since I gave birth...! She was wondering whether I'd lost a lot of weight, but I haven't: only 2.5 kg. I do try to be healthy in a lot of ways though, and my little baby son helps me so much! He's such a ray of sunshine ❤
I too take D, B12 and magnesium - I have always felt a difference when I skip them for some time. I take magnesium in the form of... deodorant, though 😂 Have a stick of Humble Unscented Sensitive, and noticed during pregnancy that I slept better after switching to it. Not too strange though, as magnesium can be absorbed through skin too, which is why Epsom salt baths can be so good😊 I don't take fish oil though - a bit conflicted about whether it is good. I try to eat fish instead, although I'm sure I eat too little. Vitamin C through tea, fruit and veggies. I also drink matcha tea daily. I dooooo need to start turmeric though - I've known it's healthy for at least 10 years now! 🙈
Some supplimemts have actually made my muscles/ anxiety/, depression worse. Its definitely good to check what you actually need before buying and taking lots of supplements! I didnt realise they could affect you negatively Xx
100%! SO important! xxx
yup!!! every single person listen to this. ashwagandha which every single tik tok touts and being a mircal medicine is bad for bipolar disorder and can exacerbate anxiety for instance, which it does for many and people just keep thinking they are having more anxiety when it was oh that natural medicine you bought from the health food store.
One thing about breathwork: I used to try the WimHof method, but it gave me mad anxiety. It was horrific! I have since learned that there are breathwork exercises that activate the sympathetic nervous system, and those that activate the parasympathetic nervous system!!! So, for now, I stick to those that give me a more calming feeling!!!
wimhof is sketchy af, not a cure-all, not a guru to follow, not magic, and often not good for nerve disorders because it can damage the nerves further to be exposed to extreme temps that it doesn't have the circulation to regulate.
So interesting that you mentioned not staying in bed longer than 20 minutes if you are struggling to go to sleep. Because it's so true, I do.find myself getting stressed because I can't fall asleep, and I then worry that I'm going to be tired and grumpy the next day (working mum to a 5 year old and 2 year old). I do get out of bed and have a herbal tea and read for 20 minutes and that really does help.
This! Tea and a book that's my go-to as well, in the living room...then when I'm feeling like I'm actually ready for sleep I go back in! I HATED having that negative association with my bed from the insomnia it was really stressful xxx
My future goal is finishing my PhD in history while juggling being a wife and mom to a baby son. I gotta be on my A game health wise (physical and mental) in order to accomplish this beast of a task!!! 💪💪
Could you make a video about bedsharing? Your experience, tips, how to get baby to stop needing to nurse constantly to fall asleep. I’m currently bedsharing with 5 month old and husband is bedsharing with our two year old 🙃
Would love to see the vlogs of this
I can recommend supplementing mushrooms as well! Reishi is super good for calming down the nervous system, Lions Mane is amazing for gut health and concentration. Chaga has lots of amazing anti inflammatory properties. They have been studied for a while now and a used in Japan for people going through cancer treatment. Definitely recommend looking into them! Just make sure you buy from a good source (not from China), sometimes they used grain to supplement the mushrooms and then it barely contains any mushroom.
Really interesting video! I was also diagnosed with a panic disorder and generalized anxiety in my early twenties. Turns out I'm autistic and ADHD! Most of my panic attacks were actually meltdowns from over stimulation (could be external, but also internal like racing thoughts etc).
I was never diagnosed because I was also seemingly high functioning (I dislike functioning labels but that is another discussion). I got good grades, had friends, romantic relationships etc and so my symptoms weren't really taken seriously.
I'm now 31 and only got properly diagnosed a couple of years ago because I really pushed for it. ADHD meds have really helped me, but I've recently had to quit because I'm pregnant (yay!). It's been tough because even though I got the diagnoses I still wasn't really taken seriously but my therapists and psychiatrist and never truly learned to cope without the meds. I have a new therapist now and it's the first time I actually feel like I'm getting somewhere!
Also had long covid. Which is more common in people with ADHD! It took me almost 2 years to fully recover, which I'm honestly grateful for because I've seen people around me struggle for way longer or even still struggling. I'm glad more and more things are being discovered that actually help. For me learning to listen to my body and a good sleep routine was definitely so important. I remember the PEM and man, am I glad that's behind me😅
Wishing you a good recovery!💚
Goodness, twinning on the causes of my panic attacks! Can I ask, how did the meds impact your day to day in a positive way? I can really let clutter build up but then I will become hyper focused and the place will be immaculate…loads of things like that I’d maybe prefer to just…be different haha, but at the same time I don’t find that any of these things impact my life badly enough to make me want to risk med side effects if you get me! The way I work is similar I will find it impossible to focus I will procrastinate for ages but then when my laser focus comes I will get SO much done in a couple of days but because I am self employed I get away with that! If I had a normal job maybe I’d need to be properly diagnosed and medicated 🤷🏻♀️ I love my brain though and I don’t want to see myself as ‘broken’ just hate how awful people can be about autism and adhd! 💔 the spectrum of being human is HUGE xxxxx
@@melaniemurphyofficial Completely agree with you that people with ADHD/autism or other disabilities aren't broken. We're different and yes, sometimes it's a struggle but for me I also wouldn't wish my brain to be different. Although I do know some people disagree and I do speak from a place of some privilege (these conversation can get messy real quick, but I think you get my pov).
Anyway, I'd love to tell you something about my meds. I used to take dexamphetamine. It's one of two standard treatments in the Netherlands where I'm from. I've also tried ritalin which I absolutely hated (it works for some, but it just made my heart race) and I've also tried an anti-psychotic type of med (not sure what it would be called in English) which was supposed to help with overstimulation but just made me feel like I was trippin' (not fun). Wanted to include this, because it can take time to find the right meds and right dosage.
So my current meds they make me feel like I'm not on anything but things just get easier. Like you mentioned with cleaning for example. Right now I really struggle to do basic stuff like loading the dishwasher, but on my meds I would almost automatically just do it when I was making coffee or something. Instead of tasks being these big obstacles it's just 'oh I should do that' and then I did it. It also stabilized my mood, slowed down my thoughts so especially in bigger company I'd feel less self-conscience, and it also really helped with getting not as over-stimulated as quickly. Mind you, it's not like everyday was perfect but things were just easier. Side effects were mostly a dry mouth and less hunger cues. But because I was able to have more routine I actually ate better (I don't have strong hunger cues anyway due to the autism).
There's probably still loads I'm forgetting because you know, pregnancy brain lol.
Hope this helps!
I have fibromyalgia but I haven't really researched it a lot for the past few years, because it used to take up the little energy I had left & rarely yielded any actual results since the information is so often inconclusive. But it's interesting to hear all the things you've tried! I haven't heard of craniosacral therapy before, although your description reminds me of a combination of reflexology and lymphedema therapy. I tried lymphedema therapy and it was very relaxing and reduced inflammation a bit, but it wasn't life changing enough to warrant the cost. I still have reflexology on my list of things to try, and I guess now craniosacral therapy as well. For me, the biggest difference has been taking Duloxetine 60mg once a day. It was absolutely awful for the first few weeks going onto it (like, significantly worse than any of the other meds I've been on and that's a lot), but once I adjusted to it it has been life changing. Needs to be used in conjunction with life changes though of course, I don't think anything would have been able to help me if I was still living in my parents house for instance