This is vital for people to know. Too much of the narrative is that love is enough on its own, that children are lucky to be adopted (without acknowledging the loss that led to it), that birth families are awful people, etc. and most adopters talking don't raise awareness about adoptees' traumas or the value of listening to adult adoptees on their adoptions. Thank you for speaking on this and educating yourself along the way because too many don't (even more so in the US where it's often a for-profit baby trade!). I won't be able to start the adoption process for 5+ years, but I started educating myself on it 6 years ago and have done so on and off ever since. I'm glad to hear the process in the UK has improved a bit in understanding that adoption may be something to celebrate, but it's also intertwined with a lot of pain and grief for adoptees (even if it doesn't hit for years) and birth families who deserve compassion in most cases but usually don't get it, which hurts them and the adoptee.
Thank you so much for sharing this. This makes so much sense to me. The only way I've been able to explain how I feel is that I'm carrying emotions for everyone else involved in my sons story. I've never heard the vocabulary you are using and unfortunately it wasn't part of our training. Thank you so much for this video!
Thank you for this….I didn’t know what I was feeling had a name,. I just thought I was very sensitive and maybe a bit strange lol! I think it started to hit me as my son turned 2, and becoming his own little character, I realised what he has to face, and the task set before me and my husband to inform and equip him along the way. I will be doing some more research! Thank you! x
That’s a really great idea. We didn’t wait too long so I don’t feel I can do it from a personal angle but can definitely explain some of the process we, and others, went through
This is vital for people to know. Too much of the narrative is that love is enough on its own, that children are lucky to be adopted (without acknowledging the loss that led to it), that birth families are awful people, etc. and most adopters talking don't raise awareness about adoptees' traumas or the value of listening to adult adoptees on their adoptions. Thank you for speaking on this and educating yourself along the way because too many don't (even more so in the US where it's often a for-profit baby trade!). I won't be able to start the adoption process for 5+ years, but I started educating myself on it 6 years ago and have done so on and off ever since.
I'm glad to hear the process in the UK has improved a bit in understanding that adoption may be something to celebrate, but it's also intertwined with a lot of pain and grief for adoptees (even if it doesn't hit for years) and birth families who deserve compassion in most cases but usually don't get it, which hurts them and the adoptee.
Thank you so much for sharing this. This makes so much sense to me. The only way I've been able to explain how I feel is that I'm carrying emotions for everyone else involved in my sons story. I've never heard the vocabulary you are using and unfortunately it wasn't part of our training. Thank you so much for this video!
That is such a great explanation! I’m really sorry you’re struggling with it. Definitely reach out for some help if you need it xx
This was so interesting. Thank you for your honesty and I could feel all the emotions and challenges you went through. Xx
Thank you for this….I didn’t know what I was feeling had a name,. I just thought I was very sensitive and maybe a bit strange lol! I think it started to hit me as my son turned 2, and becoming his own little character, I realised what he has to face, and the task set before me and my husband to inform and equip him along the way. I will be doing some more research! Thank you! x
What about a video on waiting for a match… after all the training me n my husband feel like it’s taking so long and we are feeling a bit deflated x
That’s a really great idea. We didn’t wait too long so I don’t feel I can do it from a personal angle but can definitely explain some of the process we, and others, went through