Something I just want to clarify that I ultimately cut out of this video is that are different types of “pricks of displeasure” as well as levels! And because I think it’s helpful to be able to put a name to things, I’d love it if we could collaborate on a list!
Sensorial discomfort, a lack of clarity, cognitive dissonance/conflicting beliefs, the pressure of perfectionism, if something is new and learning how to do it feels like climbing a mountain, if something is too easy and you’re BORED, you’re just not confident you can, something doesn’t line up with how you identify
Girl, keep making these adhd videos. I feel like finally somebody can understand me and my life right now. I have so much on my plate but i keep procrastinating on it and scroll through insta all the time. I have big dreams but it gives me anxiety and i end up with nothing because of it. Found your channel which is straight to the point. It helps alot. Keep all of us adhders in shock with your creative solutions. Thank you. Bless you. Love from India. ❤😊
Hiiii love, thank you so much. Trust me I relate to that SO much, I spent yearsssss paralyzed by anxiety and fear of making the wrong decision. I started this channel 4 years ago and I think I JUST hit 20 videos because for years I overthought every single thing! I feel like sometimes the bigger our dreams are the more scared we are of chasing them but as I learn to really think through that fear, I’m able to let it fall away you know? And I feel like I’m FINALLY going somewhere with this channel because I’m poking holes in all the little cognitive dissonances I’m finding buried in my psyche
this is the most relatable adhd video that's ever been made 😭😭 finally someone else who'd rather take a whole shower than just wash only their face, girl you GET ME
I cannot believe I’m not the only person which personal pricks like this!!!! I got diagnosed with adhd as an adult and I’m so glad I just found your channel!!!
I keep dental floss in the silverware drawer because the idea of making myself that uncomfortable right before bed is often insurmountable. Right after getting asparagus in my teeth? Sign me up.
I keep my whole family's toothbrushes and floss in the kitchen because it is a central area of my apt and it is easier to remember to brush our teeth after a meal.
C'est vrai que c'est une excellente idée, on a bien du savon pour les mains, pourquoi pas le dentifrice et la brosse pour les dents aussi !? Je vais y réfléchir !
Yes! I've started doing this to hack my bad habits too-exactly the same on washing my face so I got little wrist bands like those headbands lol So yeah. Small pricks are the problem! 😂
Underrated life hack is drying yourself off while the shower is still on, if u have the space to move the water stream. It’s oddly life changing 😂 so keep the water going and the steam and humidity will help
Hahah I love this! I will have to give this a try because you’ve piqued my curiosity but at the same time I feel like I shouldn’t because if it’s good I’ll keep doing it and water is EXPENSIVEEEE in LA haha
OMG. That is exactly why I don’t wash my face. All of that. I’m short too. The wet pajama front and sleeves. The water running down my arm. All of it. This is epic. Thank you. Leveling up my questions now 🙌
Haha of course! ISN’T IT THE WORST? I’ve wondered if tall people have the same problem, but also I think it just doesn’t bother some people as much lol… I’ve tried taking my top off before washing my face but then I’m cold, and that’s worse lol. My friend sent me a link to a headband the other day that came with little “sweatbands” kinda, except they’re for preventing water from running down your arms while washing your face! I might check it out but like I said in another comment, I think I’m gonna start using a clean but damp towel to rinse because that’s what aestheticians do when you go in for a facial!
Haha I feel that! Also, I ranted about this in the video but then cut it for brevity but besides shower, we can clean our faces with towels! I mean, times I’ve gone to get a facial, my aesthetician has never made me stand over a sink lol, right? She uses cleanser obviously but then wipes my face down with a clean but damp towel! If it’s good enough for my aesthetician, it’s good enough for me lol. So days I don’t wanna shower at night either, THAT is the other solution haha :) Good to see you here again
@thatsmellsdivine haha forreal girl, I did it last night and it was a game changer, although I think I need to order myself a few softer towels lol because the one I used was scratchy as hell!
Haha! I described managing my ADHD to my husband the other day as kind of like having an angel and devil on your shoulder only the devil is 3 year old Danielle who will meltdown and not wanna do the seemingly most basic things while the angel is 34 rational Danielle and she’s trying to keep things together but she’s exhausted from all toddler Danielle’s screaming lol
Your editing is A+..Made me go landscape on my phone at higher res to see all the funny captions and afterthoughts! Okay, so you're suggesting morphing the frustration feeling into curiosity and 🕵🏼♀️, and also, I hear it as asking Higher Consciousness (Higher Power, or G*d) for help. 🆒️
The inset closed captions are also 👏❤. I'm not D/HoH but reading helps me understand things another way, and UA-cam auto-generated captions must get improved to help children and other-language learners, and Deaf/Hard of Hearing.
Awh thank you haha, yeah I really missed putting together these more intensely edited videos! The one I just posted is a little more like this but my last couple before that were more podcast sit down style and I like them but I got a little bored so I appreciate your appreciation haha:) But yeah feel free to talk to “whoever/whatever” resonates with you!
@@daniellecolada "👏 I’m starting to realize that curiosity works waaaaay better than judgment," is so wise -- and good for you to be accumulating Wisdom!! Thanks for sharing that! It's a daily practice to then apply it. 😅
I feel terrible at times because the being cold and wet will sometimes keep me from showering altogether. Which isn't great, so instead I sit for an hour waiting until I can get motivated, which takes away from my sleep time... But thanks so much for putting words to what I'm experiencing lol
I feel that lol, I can’t tell you how many times I just end up hanging around in the bathroom on my phone, willing myself to get in the shower. One little hack I have found for that tho is that I HATE sitting around in my sweat and so if I go get sweaty I’ll want to immediately lol
I have no problem doing the task of washing my face because I have acne and it's so rewarding seeing it become better that the problem of my whole top getting soaked with water is miniscule compared to the reward. When it comes to lotion, I am very bad at moisturising my whole body but I got better with my hands because I keep one lotion on my nightstand and one on my bathroom sink so everytime I either wash my hands or go to bed at night, its a guarantee that I will remember to moisturise my hands at least once a day. I might need to adopt the lotion in the shower method too.
Yess it’s so funny to me though how each of our different brains decides which things are or aren’t worth the discomfort lol. Recently (because of a scary photo i saw lol) it’s still hard for me to care about my facial skin as much but it gets taken care of by default because I’m officially terrified to continue sleeping in my mascara lol
Great minds think alike haha! I was just telling someone else that I did that thing that aestheticians do last night - basically rinsed my face with a damp towel instead of bending over the sink, GAME CHANGER dude
Keeping the lotion in the shower!!!! You're a genius! 🤯 Can't wait for my next shower to try your method! Right now, I'm laying down not feeling like getting up to brush my teeth, and I just realized that my small prick of displeasure for that is only the super quick and painless movement of standing from my bed 🤯 Now that it's a clear thought, it's just SO easy to decide to do this movement and go do what needs to be done 🤯 Wait for me, I'm going to brush my teeth and will be back to finish your video in a second 🤩
OMG isn’t it a game changer! I’ve been using it the most with playing solitaire. I’ve identified playing solitaire on my phone as my mainnnn avoidance mechanism lol, so whenever I just default start playing it (it just like happens almost unconsciously lol) I’ll be like… OH, I’M AVOIDING SOMETHING RN! What am I avoiding? And then understanding the SPECIFIC thing helps me so much because then I can talk myself through why it’s not nearly as bad as I’m making it out to be in my subconscious brain! It’s changed so much for me!
hii i’m sure she’ll respond soonish lol but i also have some tips i’ve been using lol for more like readings: i love to write my opinions in the margins of readings? like i’ll make jokes or be like woohooo agreed in the margins sdkfhlskfsd so that makes it fun also from my friend: if you hate the reading start heckling the author sdflskdhfsdkf it’s so funny to just tear them to shreds in the margins for writing: personally i like just writing my thoughts out on the page? like i will drop every little word up here on the page….it kinda looks like a mess 😭 BUT i find it really helps with like a flow of ideas and i usually find inspiration that way? it’s just a record of your thought stream with no filter (i can give some examples) for science: i’m a chemistry major so lol i love love love making metaphors and games out of my notes. i also draw sparkles and stars all over them and similar to writing, a lot of my notes will have my opinions through them like “this concept is so annoying” “i’m tired” “i could go for some food rn” so that they’re no longer taking up space in your head - tip from friend again: if you have a notepad you can write it down and put the notepad away for math? : hmmmm i don’t have much i do have physics tips? with that i turn each problem into a little story dfklhskhfslkf
I love putting on an idle video game or a free online poker tournament or a movie I'm intimately familiar with. It occupies part of my brain and keeps me in the vicinity of the task I need to complete. Probably saw the matrix 40 times in a couple years of my last stay at home job.
I honestly can’t tell you guys how much joy it gives me to see you talking to each other and helping each other in this comment section, honestly I love you guys🥰 but I’m gonna be real with you, I didn’t really do a whole lot of studying in school lol, it was too hard for me to sit and make myself do something I didn’t wanna do like that. Probably the ONLY form of studying I ever did was make flash cards, which I do think is effective for the types of things that require rote memorization… definitions or like .. idk the periodic table lol? But tbh I could not just sit and study them alone at a table… BORING! And very little feedback. If I had a friend in the class (or just someone who also needed a study buddy), I would have them do the flash cards with me… like the hold up one side and I have to repeat what’s on the other, and there’s something about them being like “YES, correct!” Or “WRONGGGG” that makes it fun lol. And if I didn’t have someone to do that with, I would HAVE TO study them on the go in snack-size increments, like waiting for a bus or a train or something. Keep them in my bag and review for a few minutes while I’m waiting for my coffee. And I didn’t do this back then but if I could go back knowing what I know now, I would listen to “lectures” on the go. For example, if I were taking a science class and what I learned in the actual class wasn’t clicking and/or sticking , I would go on UA-cam, and find someone explaining the same concepts, and I would listen to it while going on a scenic walk, because again being on the move and taking in something of interest is bearable while sitting to study with a textbook fills me with dread lol.
I accidentally discovered this a few weeks ago Me: Why can't I just get up from bed and [do whatever I needed to do]? My brain: Feet cold, bed warm. Me: Seriously? I'll just put some socks or slippers on. My brain: NO! Socks and slippers bad sensory. Me: Okay, how about I designate a pair of sneakers specifically for indoor use? My brain: ... 'aight, I'll allow it. So now I can actually get out of bed and like /make my frickin' breakfast/ or something.
It really is crazy how simple a fix it is sometimes, isn’t it lol? I mean, I know there are so many things where it is much more complicated than this but I’m gonna take this trick as far as it can go lol, I’ve been trying it on everyyyyy little thing that bothers me these days
Hi Soumya! Well first, I am very sorry to hear about all that, I’ve faced down a few depressive episodes of my own this life, and I know how much it tires you out and just makes doing what you need to do to try and pull yourself out of it even harder… I just want to say first and foremost that I don’t know your life, I can never know from afar exactly what you’re going through or what the dynamic is with your family and how that affects you. That being said, I just want to tell you that you are SO young! And I remember that 17 was a really tough age for me because I was in school and I was supposed to be getting ready to go to college and I hadn’t even applied because I had so much anxiety about making the right decision of where to go and what to study and I ended not going to college until I was 25!!! And I’ll tell you what, it was SUCH a blessing, but I couldn’t have known how my life would turn out until I looked back at it. Obviously you have the issues in your personal life, but I’d be willing to bet that much of your exhaustion and paralyzation is around this feeling of being overwhelmed with all that’s going on AND feeling like you’re at that age where you have to start having everything all mapped out. I guess I would say a few things - one being that you cannot control what your parents and your ex do/have done. I believe people must let themselves feel that pain but then begin to let it go. I know it’s so hard but if you can feel those feelings in your body and locate them… feel it… say out if you must… cry if you must…imagine them as tentacles reaching out to you (maybe this just works for me) and cut them away from you…. And that hopefully will help you reclaim a bit of your personal power and agency… and then recognize you have to begin to do the things that are good for you, like studying! I would do it in focused, short sprints so that it’s not overwhelming… I liked to make flash cards and take them on a walk as I reviewed them because I hated being forced to sit at my desk… and begin moving forward if you can. And do these things knowing… NO MATTER WHAT… you are going to be okay! Don’t put pressure on yourself to study in some “perfect” way, and know that if you don’t get the perfect grades you wanted on your exams… IT’S OKAY! You were at a really tough spot in life and you did your best… and maybe you worry it affects the school you end up getting to next…. Well, in my personal belief, your life was supposed to unfold at a different school, and you can never know these things… you have to just play the game of life and an engaged way, sincerely, but you can’t be so attached to what happens at the end… whether you take a perceived “win” or a perceived “loss” … and ironically when you let go of that outcome you can truly be free to take the risks you need to succeed… if you fall short.. it’s just redirecting your life to where you ought to be
ohh thank you for this!! i like trying to reframe the big looming problems as a fun puzzle to solve! p.s reply: i would potentially be interested in coaching depending on the price point you set! i've recently set out on a journey to better understand how my brain works and better ways i can set my self up for success.
also this editing style is still engaging and funny even if there are less cuts n' stuff than maybe a previous vid! it's like a lil short n sweet knock on the door of "heeeeey wanna hear this cool thing??"
Oh what the heck, this comment got lost in my notifications, ugh! But yes, THANK YOU that’s kinda what I was going for! Sometimes I feel like I shouldn’t bother making a video unless I can cram exactly 5 or 10 tips into it, but then those videos become overwhelming to make and I don’t do them! This time, I was excited about this tip and I knew I just had to ride the wave ya know? But omg yay! You’re one of the first to show serious interest, and since I’m figuring this out on the go I’d actually love to run some ideas by you if you’re down to be something of a Guinea pig lol. DM me on IG?
wait this makes so much sense 😭 question: how do you get yourself into the shower 🤡 i find that i really really really hate having to take off my clothes to enter the shower idk what it is 😭 ESPECIALLY WHEN IM EXHAUSTED???? afterwards i feel find cuz i take cold showers but that right before is like wtf
a couple hours and i already have a potential solution LOL i hate having to take my clothes off outside of the shower…however i associate INSIDE the shower with no clothes because why would i wear my clothes in there they would get wet 💀 so i can use a new prick of discomfort to get me to get me in the shower sdlfkhskfh basically i am thinking turn the shower on so the bottom of the shower is covered in water and i take off my socks and get in….and then that discomfort will hit where like oof this is real i need to take my clothes off 🫡
Hahaha LOVE THIS TRICK! But actually I feel you on that because getting into the shower has ALSO been a pain point for me in the past! After making this video the other day I realized that being cold is actually a huge reason why I avoid A LOT of things lolol but at my parents old house, the downstairs floor where my room and bathroom were was WAAAAAY colder than the rest of the house and it got to the point I would avoid the shower for days at a time and it was literally THAT moment of taking off my clothes and being FREEZING before getting into the shower. I realized I had to do something about it lol so I bought s mini space heater off amazon for like $20 and an hour before I wanted to shower, I would put the space heater on in the bathroom so that by the time I wanted to shower it was sooooo warm and then I stopped having that problem!
@nmdk-design oh man, thank you so much💖 you guys are really the best, so even tho we’re small i feel like what we’re building here is great you know? Keeps me going even when the channel isn’t doing numbers haha
There's 50% chances you're gonna be known as a "productivity youtuber" and 50% that you'll be "bathrobe youtuber". Just saying! Lmao! I dunno why YT didn't notify me AS SOON as you posted thiiiis???? Wth, @youtube? I'm about to sue.
Anyway, with that off my chest. Yes! I've found out that I sometimes have ideas in our heads that are plain wrong but they end up not letting us do the things we want/need to do. Like, since I believe X requires Y, if I don't get Y perfectly, then why should I even try doing X? It's like how I grew up as a perfectionist stopped me from doing so many things just because I needed to plan something out a bit more, or learn that OTHER skill, or be better at this or that. Long story short, I never did any of those things and now I regret it! I literally feel like I lost 10 years of learning, growing, doing stuff just because an erroneus though I had. Bummer. Sad. Imma go cry now. Thanks.
Lolol I had that thought about the robe haha! But I tell ya man, sometimes I’m fresh out the shower before I film these things and I just cannot be bothered. Maybe I should make it a shtick lol. And I knowwwww right, UA-cam be bugging! And I FEEL that, I was JUST telling someone else that this channel is more than 4 years old at this point and it has barely any videos because i let myself be paralyzed by cognitive indecision and limiting beliefs but really examining them makes it so I can poke holes in them and then they like fall away almost. Still a work in progress but I can tell I’m doing much better lol. IT’S NEVER TOO LATE! And LOOOOOL that was good😂
‼more helpful info in this thread ⤵
Something I just want to clarify that I ultimately cut out of this video is that are different types of “pricks of displeasure” as well as levels! And because I think it’s helpful to be able to put a name to things, I’d love it if we could collaborate on a list!
Sensorial discomfort, a lack of clarity, cognitive dissonance/conflicting beliefs, the pressure of perfectionism, if something is new and learning how to do it feels like climbing a mountain, if something is too easy and you’re BORED, you’re just not confident you can, something doesn’t line up with how you identify
@@daniellecolada😮
📶You've upped my ability to see this issue in me, by articulating it into words. Thanks❤
Awh I’m so glad dear
Girl, keep making these adhd videos. I feel like finally somebody can understand me and my life right now. I have so much on my plate but i keep procrastinating on it and scroll through insta all the time. I have big dreams but it gives me anxiety and i end up with nothing because of it. Found your channel which is straight to the point. It helps alot. Keep all of us adhders in shock with your creative solutions. Thank you. Bless you. Love from India. ❤😊
Hiiii love, thank you so much. Trust me I relate to that SO much, I spent yearsssss paralyzed by anxiety and fear of making the wrong decision. I started this channel 4 years ago and I think I JUST hit 20 videos because for years I overthought every single thing! I feel like sometimes the bigger our dreams are the more scared we are of chasing them but as I learn to really think through that fear, I’m able to let it fall away you know? And I feel like I’m FINALLY going somewhere with this channel because I’m poking holes in all the little cognitive dissonances I’m finding buried in my psyche
But welcome and so glad you’re one of the girlies:) more to come
HAHAHAH the logical and reasonable finger 😅
Editing I was like Danielle put your finger down jeeeeez lol
this is the most relatable adhd video that's ever been made 😭😭 finally someone else who'd rather take a whole shower than just wash only their face, girl you GET ME
Haha hello again Michaela
I cannot believe I’m not the only person which personal pricks like this!!!! I got diagnosed with adhd as an adult and I’m so glad I just found your channel!!!
I keep dental floss in the silverware drawer because the idea of making myself that uncomfortable right before bed is often insurmountable. Right after getting asparagus in my teeth? Sign me up.
I keep my whole family's toothbrushes and floss in the kitchen because it is a central area of my apt and it is easier to remember to brush our teeth after a meal.
C'est vrai que c'est une excellente idée, on a bien du savon pour les mains, pourquoi pas le dentifrice et la brosse pour les dents aussi !? Je vais y réfléchir !
Brandon and Megan those are brilliant adaptations, I LIVE! lol
Yes! I've started doing this to hack my bad habits too-exactly the same on washing my face so I got little wrist bands like those headbands lol
So yeah. Small pricks are the problem! 😂
Underrated life hack is drying yourself off while the shower is still on, if u have the space to move the water stream. It’s oddly life changing 😂 so keep the water going and the steam and humidity will help
Hahah I love this! I will have to give this a try because you’ve piqued my curiosity but at the same time I feel like I shouldn’t because if it’s good I’ll keep doing it and water is EXPENSIVEEEE in LA haha
Nivea In-Shower Body Lotion.
You’re welcome. 😉
OMG. That is exactly why I don’t wash my face. All of that. I’m short too. The wet pajama front and sleeves. The water running down my arm. All of it. This is epic. Thank you. Leveling up my questions now 🙌
Haha of course! ISN’T IT THE WORST? I’ve wondered if tall people have the same problem, but also I think it just doesn’t bother some people as much lol… I’ve tried taking my top off before washing my face but then I’m cold, and that’s worse lol. My friend sent me a link to a headband the other day that came with little “sweatbands” kinda, except they’re for preventing water from running down your arms while washing your face! I might check it out but like I said in another comment, I think I’m gonna start using a clean but damp towel to rinse because that’s what aestheticians do when you go in for a facial!
Watching this while I'm actively procrastinating washing my face lol. Thank you for another wonderful video!!!
Haha I feel that! Also, I ranted about this in the video but then cut it for brevity but besides shower, we can clean our faces with towels! I mean, times I’ve gone to get a facial, my aesthetician has never made me stand over a sink lol, right? She uses cleanser obviously but then wipes my face down with a clean but damp towel! If it’s good enough for my aesthetician, it’s good enough for me lol. So days I don’t wanna shower at night either, THAT is the other solution haha :) Good to see you here again
@@daniellecolada omg I’ve seriously never thought about this!! My skincare game is about to get a LOT better! 😂😍
@thatsmellsdivine haha forreal girl, I did it last night and it was a game changer, although I think I need to order myself a few softer towels lol because the one I used was scratchy as hell!
OMG the water running down the arms!😭
The absolute worst!!!! lol I was just telling someone I did the damp towel clean up trick last night and it was a GAME CHANGER! No more wet arms lol
ur changing my life rn oh my goodness
Hahah hiiii again
once again, life changing :)
Heeey thank you! And welcome back haha
You're literally describing my life, I feel everything you're saying can only make sense to us with adhd lmao
Haha! I described managing my ADHD to my husband the other day as kind of like having an angel and devil on your shoulder only the devil is 3 year old Danielle who will meltdown and not wanna do the seemingly most basic things while the angel is 34 rational Danielle and she’s trying to keep things together but she’s exhausted from all toddler Danielle’s screaming lol
Your editing is A+..Made me go landscape on my phone at higher res to see all the funny captions and afterthoughts!
Okay, so you're suggesting morphing the frustration feeling into curiosity and 🕵🏼♀️, and also, I hear it as asking Higher Consciousness (Higher Power, or G*d) for help. 🆒️
The inset closed captions are also 👏❤.
I'm not D/HoH but reading helps me understand things another way, and UA-cam auto-generated captions must get improved to help children and other-language learners, and Deaf/Hard of Hearing.
Awh thank you haha, yeah I really missed putting together these more intensely edited videos! The one I just posted is a little more like this but my last couple before that were more podcast sit down style and I like them but I got a little bored so I appreciate your appreciation haha:) But yeah feel free to talk to “whoever/whatever” resonates with you!
@@daniellecolada "👏 I’m starting to realize that curiosity works waaaaay better than judgment," is so wise -- and good for you to be accumulating Wisdom!! Thanks for sharing that! It's a daily practice to then apply it. 😅
I feel terrible at times because the being cold and wet will sometimes keep me from showering altogether. Which isn't great, so instead I sit for an hour waiting until I can get motivated, which takes away from my sleep time... But thanks so much for putting words to what I'm experiencing lol
I feel that lol, I can’t tell you how many times I just end up hanging around in the bathroom on my phone, willing myself to get in the shower. One little hack I have found for that tho is that I HATE sitting around in my sweat and so if I go get sweaty I’ll want to immediately lol
THIS VIDEO WAS LIFE CHANGING!
Haha yaaay! It’s the best for simple things but honestly there’s a way to make it apply to even the big stuff I swear
Been waiting for this!!!
Haha yaaaay! Hello hello, nice to see you again:)
I have no problem doing the task of washing my face because I have acne and it's so rewarding seeing it become better that the problem of my whole top getting soaked with water is miniscule compared to the reward. When it comes to lotion, I am very bad at moisturising my whole body but I got better with my hands because I keep one lotion on my nightstand and one on my bathroom sink so everytime I either wash my hands or go to bed at night, its a guarantee that I will remember to moisturise my hands at least once a day. I might need to adopt the lotion in the shower method too.
Yess it’s so funny to me though how each of our different brains decides which things are or aren’t worth the discomfort lol. Recently (because of a scary photo i saw lol) it’s still hard for me to care about my facial skin as much but it gets taken care of by default because I’m officially terrified to continue sleeping in my mascara lol
LIFE CHANGING ! ! !
YAY I’m glad😊
OMG YES! I can't stand the water dripping all over my arms, getting my top, floor and counters wet and hop in the shower too LMAO
Great minds think alike haha! I was just telling someone else that I did that thing that aestheticians do last night - basically rinsed my face with a damp towel instead of bending over the sink, GAME CHANGER dude
Keeping the lotion in the shower!!!! You're a genius! 🤯 Can't wait for my next shower to try your method! Right now, I'm laying down not feeling like getting up to brush my teeth, and I just realized that my small prick of displeasure for that is only the super quick and painless movement of standing from my bed 🤯 Now that it's a clear thought, it's just SO easy to decide to do this movement and go do what needs to be done 🤯 Wait for me, I'm going to brush my teeth and will be back to finish your video in a second 🤩
DONE
OMG isn’t it a game changer! I’ve been using it the most with playing solitaire. I’ve identified playing solitaire on my phone as my mainnnn avoidance mechanism lol, so whenever I just default start playing it (it just like happens almost unconsciously lol) I’ll be like… OH, I’M AVOIDING SOMETHING RN! What am I avoiding? And then understanding the SPECIFIC thing helps me so much because then I can talk myself through why it’s not nearly as bad as I’m making it out to be in my subconscious brain! It’s changed so much for me!
And PS I’m proud of you for figuring out the small prick and overriding it😊
do you also have tipps how to make you self studying and having fun while doing it?
hii i’m sure she’ll respond soonish lol but i also have some tips i’ve been using lol
for more like readings: i love to write my opinions in the margins of readings? like i’ll make jokes or be like woohooo agreed in the margins sdkfhlskfsd so that makes it fun
also from my friend: if you hate the reading start heckling the author sdflskdhfsdkf it’s so funny to just tear them to shreds in the margins
for writing: personally i like just writing my thoughts out on the page? like i will drop every little word up here on the page….it kinda looks like a mess 😭 BUT i find it really helps with like a flow of ideas and i usually find inspiration that way? it’s just a record of your thought stream with no filter (i can give some examples)
for science: i’m a chemistry major so lol i love love love making metaphors and games out of my notes. i also draw sparkles and stars all over them and similar to writing, a lot of my notes will have my opinions through them like “this concept is so annoying” “i’m tired” “i could go for some food rn” so that they’re no longer taking up space in your head
- tip from friend again: if you have a notepad you can write it down and put the notepad away
for math? : hmmmm i don’t have much i do have physics tips? with that i turn each problem into a little story dfklhskhfslkf
@@dabachinno1425 thx! these are great ideas! i am studying computer science / math.
I love putting on an idle video game or a free online poker tournament or a movie I'm intimately familiar with. It occupies part of my brain and keeps me in the vicinity of the task I need to complete. Probably saw the matrix 40 times in a couple years of my last stay at home job.
Definitely use youtube as a body double. There are plenty of youtubers out there studying live at many different times of the day.
I honestly can’t tell you guys how much joy it gives me to see you talking to each other and helping each other in this comment section, honestly I love you guys🥰 but I’m gonna be real with you, I didn’t really do a whole lot of studying in school lol, it was too hard for me to sit and make myself do something I didn’t wanna do like that. Probably the ONLY form of studying I ever did was make flash cards, which I do think is effective for the types of things that require rote memorization… definitions or like .. idk the periodic table lol? But tbh I could not just sit and study them alone at a table… BORING! And very little feedback. If I had a friend in the class (or just someone who also needed a study buddy), I would have them do the flash cards with me… like the hold up one side and I have to repeat what’s on the other, and there’s something about them being like “YES, correct!” Or “WRONGGGG” that makes it fun lol. And if I didn’t have someone to do that with, I would HAVE TO study them on the go in snack-size increments, like waiting for a bus or a train or something. Keep them in my bag and review for a few minutes while I’m waiting for my coffee. And I didn’t do this back then but if I could go back knowing what I know now, I would listen to “lectures” on the go. For example, if I were taking a science class and what I learned in the actual class wasn’t clicking and/or sticking , I would go on UA-cam, and find someone explaining the same concepts, and I would listen to it while going on a scenic walk, because again being on the move and taking in something of interest is bearable while sitting to study with a textbook fills me with dread lol.
I accidentally discovered this a few weeks ago
Me: Why can't I just get up from bed and [do whatever I needed to do]?
My brain: Feet cold, bed warm.
Me: Seriously? I'll just put some socks or slippers on.
My brain: NO! Socks and slippers bad sensory.
Me: Okay, how about I designate a pair of sneakers specifically for indoor use?
My brain: ... 'aight, I'll allow it.
So now I can actually get out of bed and like /make my frickin' breakfast/ or something.
LOL life is just about finding the loopholes
It really is crazy how simple a fix it is sometimes, isn’t it lol? I mean, I know there are so many things where it is much more complicated than this but I’m gonna take this trick as far as it can go lol, I’ve been trying it on everyyyyy little thing that bothers me these days
hiee , loved your way of killing procastination
Hi Soumya! Well first, I am very sorry to hear about all that, I’ve faced down a few depressive episodes of my own this life, and I know how much it tires you out and just makes doing what you need to do to try and pull yourself out of it even harder… I just want to say first and foremost that I don’t know your life, I can never know from afar exactly what you’re going through or what the dynamic is with your family and how that affects you. That being said, I just want to tell you that you are SO young! And I remember that 17 was a really tough age for me because I was in school and I was supposed to be getting ready to go to college and I hadn’t even applied because I had so much anxiety about making the right decision of where to go and what to study and I ended not going to college until I was 25!!! And I’ll tell you what, it was SUCH a blessing, but I couldn’t have known how my life would turn out until I looked back at it. Obviously you have the issues in your personal life, but I’d be willing to bet that much of your exhaustion and paralyzation is around this feeling of being overwhelmed with all that’s going on AND feeling like you’re at that age where you have to start having everything all mapped out. I guess I would say a few things - one being that you cannot control what your parents and your ex do/have done. I believe people must let themselves feel that pain but then begin to let it go. I know it’s so hard but if you can feel those feelings in your body and locate them… feel it… say out if you must… cry if you must…imagine them as tentacles reaching out to you (maybe this just works for me) and cut them away from you…. And that hopefully will help you reclaim a bit of your personal power and agency… and then recognize you have to begin to do the things that are good for you, like studying! I would do it in focused, short sprints so that it’s not overwhelming… I liked to make flash cards and take them on a walk as I reviewed them because I hated being forced to sit at my desk… and begin moving forward if you can. And do these things knowing… NO MATTER WHAT… you are going to be okay! Don’t put pressure on yourself to study in some “perfect” way, and know that if you don’t get the perfect grades you wanted on your exams… IT’S OKAY! You were at a really tough spot in life and you did your best… and maybe you worry it affects the school you end up getting to next…. Well, in my personal belief, your life was supposed to unfold at a different school, and you can never know these things… you have to just play the game of life and an engaged way, sincerely, but you can’t be so attached to what happens at the end… whether you take a perceived “win” or a perceived “loss” … and ironically when you let go of that outcome you can truly be free to take the risks you need to succeed… if you fall short.. it’s just redirecting your life to where you ought to be
ohh thank you for this!! i like trying to reframe the big looming problems as a fun puzzle to solve!
p.s reply: i would potentially be interested in coaching depending on the price point you set! i've recently set out on a journey to better understand how my brain works and better ways i can set my self up for success.
also this editing style is still engaging and funny even if there are less cuts n' stuff than maybe a previous vid! it's like a lil short n sweet knock on the door of "heeeeey wanna hear this cool thing??"
Oh what the heck, this comment got lost in my notifications, ugh! But yes, THANK YOU that’s kinda what I was going for! Sometimes I feel like I shouldn’t bother making a video unless I can cram exactly 5 or 10 tips into it, but then those videos become overwhelming to make and I don’t do them! This time, I was excited about this tip and I knew I just had to ride the wave ya know? But omg yay! You’re one of the first to show serious interest, and since I’m figuring this out on the go I’d actually love to run some ideas by you if you’re down to be something of a Guinea pig lol. DM me on IG?
@@daniellecolada yess for sure!! just msged :D
@LuckyLifeguard okay yaaaay! I don’t have my IG notifs on so I am BAAAAD at responding on there but it’s on my list for today!!
wait this makes so much sense 😭 question: how do you get yourself into the shower 🤡 i find that i really really really hate having to take off my clothes to enter the shower idk what it is 😭 ESPECIALLY WHEN IM EXHAUSTED???? afterwards i feel find cuz i take cold showers but that right before is like wtf
a couple hours and i already have a potential solution LOL i hate having to take my clothes off outside of the shower…however i associate INSIDE the shower with no clothes because why would i wear my clothes in there they would get wet 💀 so i can use a new prick of discomfort to get me to get me in the shower sdlfkhskfh basically i am thinking turn the shower on so the bottom of the shower is covered in water and i take off my socks and get in….and then that discomfort will hit where like oof this is real i need to take my clothes off 🫡
Hahaha LOVE THIS TRICK! But actually I feel you on that because getting into the shower has ALSO been a pain point for me in the past! After making this video the other day I realized that being cold is actually a huge reason why I avoid A LOT of things lolol but at my parents old house, the downstairs floor where my room and bathroom were was WAAAAAY colder than the rest of the house and it got to the point I would avoid the shower for days at a time and it was literally THAT moment of taking off my clothes and being FREEZING before getting into the shower. I realized I had to do something about it lol so I bought s mini space heater off amazon for like $20 and an hour before I wanted to shower, I would put the space heater on in the bathroom so that by the time I wanted to shower it was sooooo warm and then I stopped having that problem!
@@daniellecolada for real decadence, buy a heated towel rack. I get out of the shower to a warm towel and I feel so extra.
Do you really answer every comment?
Every single one haha!
@@daniellecolada thats awesome
@nmdk-design thanks haha! Not always IMMEDIATELYYYY lol, it depends what’s going on, sometimes it’ll take me a few days but I always catch up:)
@@daniellecolada keep up this amazing channel. You‘re doing great. I really like your video editing style and your vibes!
@nmdk-design oh man, thank you so much💖 you guys are really the best, so even tho we’re small i feel like what we’re building here is great you know? Keeps me going even when the channel isn’t doing numbers haha
OMG OMG OMG OMG.
Effective for the simple things, no?
There's 50% chances you're gonna be known as a "productivity youtuber" and 50% that you'll be "bathrobe youtuber". Just saying! Lmao! I dunno why YT didn't notify me AS SOON as you posted thiiiis???? Wth, @youtube? I'm about to sue.
Anyway, with that off my chest. Yes! I've found out that I sometimes have ideas in our heads that are plain wrong but they end up not letting us do the things we want/need to do. Like, since I believe X requires Y, if I don't get Y perfectly, then why should I even try doing X? It's like how I grew up as a perfectionist stopped me from doing so many things just because I needed to plan something out a bit more, or learn that OTHER skill, or be better at this or that. Long story short, I never did any of those things and now I regret it! I literally feel like I lost 10 years of learning, growing, doing stuff just because an erroneus though I had. Bummer. Sad. Imma go cry now. Thanks.
Btw @3:56 is every girl I tried to rizz up in highschool when I told them about all the pokemon I caught during the weekend.
Lolol I had that thought about the robe haha! But I tell ya man, sometimes I’m fresh out the shower before I film these things and I just cannot be bothered. Maybe I should make it a shtick lol. And I knowwwww right, UA-cam be bugging! And I FEEL that, I was JUST telling someone else that this channel is more than 4 years old at this point and it has barely any videos because i let myself be paralyzed by cognitive indecision and limiting beliefs but really examining them makes it so I can poke holes in them and then they like fall away almost. Still a work in progress but I can tell I’m doing much better lol. IT’S NEVER TOO LATE! And LOOOOOL that was good😂