I used to tell my ex all the time apologizing but no change behavior. It was a pattern 23 years off and on. Sometimes I think 🤔 would he ever change, he didn’t change for me but maybe his new girl .
EX-HUSBAND USE TO LOOK ME IN THE EYE, HOLD MY HAND PROMISE TO NEVER EVER IN LIFE DO IT AGAIN...AND CRY....... NOT ONLY WOULD HE DO IT AGAIN, HE WOULD FIND A NEW "WAY" TO DO IT AGAIN.. BEING CREATIVE...
I have noticed that about my man he takes accountability and apologizes for the little things that bother me and he promises to never do it again because he cares about my feelings and I truly applaud him for that because I have been with men that rather not talk for days then to apologize for raising their voice or not calling at a certain time like Tony used as examples. I’m truly feeling some type of way about my man right now 😍 thanks Toni
Yep! My ex was an expert on apologies. Prettiest apologies I have ever heard! All lies all the time. Changed behavior is the only proof of a sincere apology.
My mother had a hard time saying she was sorry! To me, it indicates lack of emotional maturity. In her case, she did not love or like herself. I have siblings who also cannot say those words. So I am very familiar with it. Now I seek out guys and girlfriends who CAN apologize. It takes a big/good person to admit their mistakes. I see nothing wrong with it. But the apology has to be SINCERE, from the heart. It's easy to just text or say it on the phone. In person is the best way to communicate, hands down.
AMEN! SO TRULY RIGHT! GREAT INSPIRING AMAZING ENLIGHTENING WORDS OF WISDOM! GOD IS WORKIN IT OUT! ON HIS GOD GIVEN RIGHT TIME! GOD IS OUR EVERYTHING! GOD CAN HANDLE ANYTHING! GOD IS ALWAYS WITH US! GOD WILL NEVER LEAVE U NOR FORSAKE U! GOD WILL SEE US THRU ALL THINGS IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! HOLD ON TO GOD ALWAYS! PRAY OFTEN AND DAILY TO GOD ALWAYS! GLORY TO GOD ALMIGHTY ! TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR THIS BLESSED TODAY! TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR EVERYONE IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! GOD BLESS US ALL! GOD LOVES US ALL! SELF LOVE! BELOVED! LET YR LIGHT 4EVER SHINE BRIGHT! SMILE ALWAYS! ( EVEN IN STORMS THAT U GO THRU!) BE GRATEFUL AND THANKFUL FOR ALL THINGS IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! PEACE AND HARMONY TO EVERYONE IN THE WORLD RIGHT NOW! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT! AUG 2021
I have a guy in my life that calmly apologizes about things he's in the wrong about. For example, he lied about some things that really hurt me. When he had gotten cut off for a while, he took that time to think about his actions and changed his behavior. He apologized for specific things, including causing me stress. He was determined to regain my trust and to not hurt me intentionally. He has made the effort to become more transparent and open in communication with me. It's funny because sometimes I don't want to communicate if we have conflict and he won't let me end our interaction until I talk about what bothers me so we can resolve it 😆 It's amazing how this guy has matured in this area of apologizing when in the wrong and choosing to change his behavior.
Even my dad and brothers have trouble with this, imagine a man in a relationship. So glad that you brought this up Tony because pride will destroy so many things in life. Thank you 🙏 humbly ☺️
@@LA-wv7gf exactly anything that has to deal with women spaces should be kept quiet for yourself . It’s like telling them you listen and watch redpill videos smdh kept all that to yourself lol
Tony is so right! You'll see the true colours when you calmly sit them down and attempt to communicate with them. That's all you need to make your decision.
AMEN! SO TRULY RIGHT! ALSO WHEN SOMEONE TELLS U THIS IS WHO I AM ! BELIEVE THEM ! GOD IS OUR EVERYTHING! GOD CAN HANDLE ANYTHING! HOLD ON TO GOD ALWAYS! PRAY OFTEN AND DAILY TO GOD ALWAYS! GLORY TO GOD ALMIGHTY! GOD IS WORKIN IT OUT! ON HIS GOD GIVEN RIGHT TIME! GOD IS ALWAYS WITH US! GOD WILL SEE US THRU ALL THINGS IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! GOD WILL NEVER LEAVE U NOR FORSAKE U! GOD BLESS US ALL! GOD LOVES US ALL! SELF LOVE! BELOVED! LET YR LIGHT 4EVER SHINE BRIGHT! SMILE ALWAYS! ( EVEN IN STORMS THAT U GO THRU!) TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR THIS BLESSED TODAY! TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR EVERYONE IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! BE GRATEFUL AND THANKFUL FOR ALL THINGS IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! PEACE AND HARMONY TO EVERYONE IN THE WORLD RIGHT NOW! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT! AUG 2021
On my soul!!! You on the money! When it comes to those sit downs it can make or break the relationship. Whew 😥 if you sweep it under the rug & don’t address it you will suffer in anxiety.
Tony, I agree with you 100%. In addition to his apology, a person (man or woman) should also accompany an apology with " Will you forgive me?" because it requires humility to ask for forgiveness. I practice this myself & have also taught this to my Son. It will definitely make a person think twice because sometimes men can apologize but not be genuine or say it to just "get back in our good graces" but I don't think a sincere man will fake asking for forgiveness from the woman he truly loves.
My Ex Narcissist said why should he APOLOGIZE when he's ALWAYS RIGHT !!! I ONCE WAS BLIND.... BUT GOD IS ALLL THAT AND A BAG OF CHIPS !!! My Exodus was very difficult but I'm so Grateful for my Father keeping me in his arms 🙏🏾
Bro Tony you're the Real Deal as a Godly Man, it's very rare for a man to truly apologize when he has done wrong. Am loving theses videos so much wisdom and enlighten. God Bless you ❤️🙏🏾
A guy I was seeing NEVER apologized for canceling dates, or when he said he would come see me, and not show up. One time he had the niggacity to tell me we didn't go out bc I did not call and check on him when he got home from work. I literally spoke to him two hours before he got off...smh, these grown little boys.
When a man apologizes and says “but” so and so, does he seem to blame you along with his apology? Is he’s trying to deflect the onus off of himself and blame you for what he did? Does he need some self reflection? Is he doing it because he knows that’s what you want? Or is he really sincere? Those are some questions to ponder. That’s what I did with my husband of 22 years.
Thank you so much, I totally appreciate you and your video content. It's so refreshing to listen to a man talk straight up about these subjects. Helps alot!
It's Labour Day in the US !! - A Day To Rest & Relax from ALL Work Requests & Demands...while our beloved Brother T❤️NY IN CHRIST is still labouring 🙏🏾🙌🙏🏾 LOL Blessed Labour Day to Brother T❤️NY and your sweet F❤️MILY over in the US !! 🙆♂️🙆♀️
Wow just discovered your videos about two weeks ago. Wishing I knew this information at 18 years old 🤧😪😢! I’m still thankful to God for learning now. How do I become a member?
AMEN! SO TRULY RIGHT! GREAT INSPIRING AMAZING ENLIGHTENING WORDS OF WISDOM! ALSO WHEN SOMEONE TELLS U THIS IS WHO I AM! BELIEVE THEM! GOD IS WORKIN IT OUT! ON HIS GOD GIVEN RIGHT TIME! GOD IS OUR EVERYTHING! GOD CAN HANDLE ANYTHING! GOD IS ALWAYS WITH US! GOD GOD WILL NEVER LEAVE U NOR FORSAKE U ! GOD WILL SEE US THRU ALL THINGS IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! GOD BLESS US ALL! GOD LOVES US ALL! SELF LOVE! BELOVED! LET YR LIGHT 4EVER SHINE BRIGHT! HOLD ON TO GOD ALWAYS! PRAY OFTEN AND DAILY TO GOD ALWAYS! GLORY TO GOD ALMIGHTY! TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR THIS BLESSED TODAY! TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR EVERYONE IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! BE GRATEFUL AND THANKFUL FOR ALL THINGS IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS!PEACE AND HARMONY TO EVERYONE IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW!HOLD TO GOD ALWAYS! PRAY OFTEN AND DAILY TO GOD ALWAYS! GLORY TO GOD ALMIGHTY! SMILE ALWAYS!( EVEN IN STORMS THAT U HO THRU!) YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT! AUG 2021
I want to pound the pavement a little bit xD Thank you for the reminder of holding space for men expressing their emotions. Lord help us do that with our boys and men in our families in Jesus Name !!!
Sounds good. Nothing is quite that easy. Sometimes an apology doesn't mean much in some circumstances. Some apologies are really just for the person who did the dirt. They need to do say more or less than the other person needs to hear it. That would be based on character. Pretty much know before an apology by the character of the individual. Yet, they need to understand sorry don't change the circumstances or scars they implemented.
what I desire is in a lot of men us the maturity I get they only think with the right side however they get A's in one subject . the rest D's and E's maybe it's bc the lack of a father or role model but a lot of women grew up without mom's and we don't make excuses ok are you trying to grow seek wats to grow
It's a bit discouraging to know that this world is so broken. How does one find healthy people in general? I came from a toxic background and working on healing myself, however I see so much hurt around me almost everywhere I turn. It's sad and discouraging.
something I've incorporated with the I'm sorry for in the past . ok what are you sorry for . so he knew what the problem was so I needed him to say what is he was sorry for . Name it. then I said I forgive you :)
As usual you are on top of it! Question Tony: Did you ever live in Effingham County, Georgia? You look like someone I went to school with there. And his name was Tony Gaskin.
Key word. Changed behavior should follow an apology!
This is so BIG!!
I used to tell my ex all the time apologizing but no change behavior. It was a pattern 23 years off and on. Sometimes I think 🤔 would he ever change, he didn’t change for me but maybe his new girl .
An apology without changed behavior is manipulation.
Mine will not apologize. I cannot build and grow with him. It began bad and now its worst. He just will not say he sorry for his errors.
Ladies!., if a man apologize and you can feel his apology or sincerely see his change.. He’s a keeper!😉
THAT'S GOOD TO KNOW 😊THANK YOU💖
💯
EX-HUSBAND USE TO LOOK ME IN THE EYE, HOLD MY HAND PROMISE TO NEVER EVER IN LIFE DO IT AGAIN...AND CRY....... NOT ONLY WOULD HE DO IT AGAIN, HE WOULD FIND A NEW "WAY" TO DO IT AGAIN.. BEING CREATIVE...
The one that cry is even a bigger liar from my experience.
Yea he*s SORRY Alright, A Sorry man for an excuse 🤔
Welp, mines apologized twice and keep cheating. Last time, blockkkkeeeedddddddd!!!! Gone on bout my business!!
I have noticed that about my man he takes accountability and apologizes for the little things that bother me and he promises to never do it again because he cares about my feelings and I truly applaud him for that because I have been with men that rather not talk for days then to apologize for raising their voice or not calling at a certain time like Tony used as examples. I’m truly feeling some type of way about my man right now 😍 thanks Toni
Because he actually loves you, congrats. 🎊
You got a good one, he was raised well. Hold on to him right 👍
When you have to make a man apologize with nagging and tears, he really isn’t sorrow.
Yep! My ex was an expert on apologies. Prettiest apologies I have ever heard! All lies all the time. Changed behavior is the only proof of a sincere apology.
My mother had a hard time saying she was sorry! To me, it indicates lack of emotional maturity. In her case, she did not love or like herself. I have siblings who also cannot say those words. So I am very familiar with it. Now I seek out guys and girlfriends who CAN apologize. It takes a big/good person to admit their mistakes. I see nothing wrong with it. But the apology has to be SINCERE, from the heart. It's easy to just text or say it on the phone. In person is the best way to communicate, hands down.
Smdh I never heard my mom say sorry and i’m 27 bout to be 28..I think those reasons you say apply to her too
AMEN! SO TRULY RIGHT! GREAT INSPIRING AMAZING ENLIGHTENING WORDS OF WISDOM! GOD IS WORKIN IT OUT! ON HIS GOD GIVEN RIGHT TIME! GOD IS OUR EVERYTHING! GOD CAN HANDLE ANYTHING! GOD IS ALWAYS WITH US! GOD WILL NEVER LEAVE U NOR FORSAKE U! GOD WILL SEE US THRU ALL THINGS IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! HOLD ON TO GOD ALWAYS! PRAY OFTEN AND DAILY TO GOD ALWAYS! GLORY TO GOD ALMIGHTY ! TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR THIS BLESSED TODAY! TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR EVERYONE IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! GOD BLESS US ALL! GOD LOVES US ALL! SELF LOVE! BELOVED! LET YR LIGHT 4EVER SHINE BRIGHT! SMILE ALWAYS! ( EVEN IN STORMS THAT U GO THRU!) BE GRATEFUL AND THANKFUL FOR ALL THINGS IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! PEACE AND HARMONY TO EVERYONE IN THE WORLD RIGHT NOW! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT! AUG 2021
@@dangdeionn Wow, that’s rough. Hang in there. I’ll pray for you, dear. God bless you! 🙏🏻👍🏻
I have a guy in my life that calmly apologizes about things he's in the wrong about. For example, he lied about some things that really hurt me. When he had gotten cut off for a while, he took that time to think about his actions and changed his behavior. He apologized for specific things, including causing me stress. He was determined to regain my trust and to not hurt me intentionally. He has made the effort to become more transparent and open in communication with me. It's funny because sometimes I don't want to communicate if we have conflict and he won't let me end our interaction until I talk about what bothers me so we can resolve it 😆 It's amazing how this guy has matured in this area of apologizing when in the wrong and choosing to change his behavior.
Interesting
@@mstwelvedeadlycyns it is, isn't it.
Even my dad and brothers have trouble with this, imagine a man in a relationship. So glad that you brought this up Tony because pride will destroy so many things in life. Thank you 🙏 humbly ☺️
I've come to the conclusion that if I'm ever serious about someone he will have to enjoy Tony's videos as much as I do.
Just stop don’t try to force the videos on him. Keep the videos for YOU at least wait till y’all married .
@@sungaze342 ok good strategy😉
@@LA-wv7gf exactly anything that has to deal with women spaces should be kept quiet for yourself . It’s like telling them you listen and watch redpill videos smdh kept all that to yourself lol
@@LA-wv7gf I didnt think of that, tell me more.
Tony is so right! You'll see the true colours when you calmly sit them down and attempt to communicate with them. That's all you need to make your decision.
AMEN! SO TRULY RIGHT! ALSO WHEN SOMEONE TELLS U THIS IS WHO I AM ! BELIEVE THEM ! GOD IS OUR EVERYTHING! GOD CAN HANDLE ANYTHING! HOLD ON TO GOD ALWAYS! PRAY OFTEN AND DAILY TO GOD ALWAYS! GLORY TO GOD ALMIGHTY! GOD IS WORKIN IT OUT! ON HIS GOD GIVEN RIGHT TIME! GOD IS ALWAYS WITH US! GOD WILL SEE US THRU ALL THINGS IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! GOD WILL NEVER LEAVE U NOR FORSAKE U! GOD BLESS US ALL! GOD LOVES US ALL! SELF LOVE! BELOVED! LET YR LIGHT 4EVER SHINE BRIGHT! SMILE ALWAYS! ( EVEN IN STORMS THAT U GO THRU!) TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR THIS BLESSED TODAY! TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR EVERYONE IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! BE GRATEFUL AND THANKFUL FOR ALL THINGS IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! PEACE AND HARMONY TO EVERYONE IN THE WORLD RIGHT NOW! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT! AUG 2021
On my soul!!!
You on the money! When it comes to those sit downs it can make or break the relationship. Whew 😥 if you sweep it under the rug & don’t address it you will suffer in anxiety.
Child that’s exactly where I am now…playing housekeeper and I am so anxious because I don’t believe that I addressed my issue the right way…
Tony, I agree with you 100%. In addition to his apology, a person (man or woman) should also accompany an apology with " Will you forgive me?" because it requires humility to ask for forgiveness. I practice this myself & have also taught this to my Son. It will definitely make a person think twice because sometimes men can apologize but not be genuine or say it to just "get back in our good graces" but I don't think a sincere man will fake asking for forgiveness from the woman he truly loves.
Apologies don't have a but in them.
My Ex Narcissist said why should he APOLOGIZE when he's ALWAYS RIGHT !!!
I ONCE WAS BLIND.... BUT GOD IS ALLL
THAT AND A BAG OF CHIPS !!! My Exodus was very difficult but I'm so Grateful for my Father keeping me in his arms 🙏🏾
Bro Tony you're the Real Deal as a Godly Man, it's very rare for a man to truly apologize when he has done wrong. Am loving theses videos so much wisdom and enlighten. God Bless you ❤️🙏🏾
Tony, you're the dude.
💭 Holding yourself accountable for your actions.💯👏🏾
Loving the back to back videos. Thank you!!!
Thank you for the truth. God has blessed your mouth. Just like Jeremiah 🤎
Them "apololies" tho'.🤨 If he doesn't mean it, I'd rather not hear it. And if it's that difficult, just never mind.😒🤦🏽♀️
“I am sorry or I apologize for but without using the word BUT.” TG
Tony dropping jewels and teaching the real stuff!! Appreciate you 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼
Definitely glad I took the time to watch this 🙌🏽
I am a female and I have struggled with apologizing in the past.
Thank you for sharing your knowledge Tony, as always I appreciate your videos. Be BLESSED !!!!
Someone cal me and said he owed me an apology for not keeping his word I thought oh my he’s serious how sweet 🙏♥️
Agreed. Visual change is the only change in accepting at this point.
The more I listen to Tony, the more understanding I have of R&B hit songs of the 90's "It's hard for me to say I'm sorry" by Az Yet
You hit that on the nail TG
Hey, hey, hey I'm here teacher. Present. Be blessed
Actions speak louder than words. It’s taken me so long to get that.
A guy I was seeing NEVER apologized for canceling dates, or when he said he would come see me, and not show up. One time he had the niggacity to tell me we didn't go out bc I did not call and check on him when he got home from work. I literally spoke to him two hours before he got off...smh, these grown little boys.
Gon crank these videos out! Thanks for all you do!!
When a man apologizes and says “but” so and so, does he seem to blame you along with his apology? Is he’s trying to deflect the onus off of himself and blame you for what he did? Does he need some self reflection? Is he doing it because he knows that’s what you want? Or is he really sincere? Those are some questions to ponder. That’s what I did with my husband of 22 years.
My recent X true colors showed up when he told me to stop being so sensitive
Thank you so much, I totally appreciate you and your video content. It's so refreshing to listen to a man talk straight up about these subjects. Helps alot!
True , a apology is rare . Change behavior can be rare . Won’t take my boyfriend back after cheating we talked about this no cheating for both of us .
Great message here 🥰🌸🌸
Definitely want to hear this 💯💯💯
i can see everything in his EYES, he looked at me and LIED (which i knew) he never took accountabilty for his lies, he did the blame game !!
Yes, Tony, that is a man loving a woman.
It's Labour Day in the US !! - A Day To Rest & Relax from ALL Work Requests & Demands...while our beloved Brother T❤️NY IN CHRIST is still labouring 🙏🏾🙌🙏🏾 LOL
Blessed Labour Day to Brother T❤️NY and your sweet F❤️MILY over in the US !! 🙆♂️🙆♀️
PRIDE and EGO
Wow just discovered your videos about two weeks ago. Wishing I knew this information at 18 years old 🤧😪😢! I’m still thankful to God for learning now.
How do I become a member?
It yelling at me for the rest of my life wow that is a fantasy that I would like to live in as a true reality
Be Blessed 😊
Please keep your videos longer I’m learning so much ‼️
Awww Labor Day and giving us content , appreciate that ! He’s so cute doesn’t wanna go home and watch tv ☺️👏🏻
Ty TG we appreciate you!
Appreciate you Tony!!
Good information on how to communicate with men!!💯💯
I am moving on and think its not worth the time and energy walking away from him
Thank you for your content Tony, you have really helped me.
FACTS!!!
Be Blessed,, thank you
Gon
Bout yo
Business.
AMEN! SO TRULY RIGHT! GREAT INSPIRING AMAZING ENLIGHTENING WORDS OF WISDOM! ALSO WHEN SOMEONE TELLS U THIS IS WHO I AM! BELIEVE THEM! GOD IS WORKIN IT OUT! ON HIS GOD GIVEN RIGHT TIME! GOD IS OUR EVERYTHING! GOD CAN HANDLE ANYTHING! GOD IS ALWAYS WITH US! GOD GOD WILL NEVER LEAVE U NOR FORSAKE U ! GOD WILL SEE US THRU ALL THINGS IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! GOD BLESS US ALL! GOD LOVES US ALL! SELF LOVE! BELOVED! LET YR LIGHT 4EVER SHINE BRIGHT! HOLD ON TO GOD ALWAYS! PRAY OFTEN AND DAILY TO GOD ALWAYS! GLORY TO GOD ALMIGHTY! TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR THIS BLESSED TODAY! TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR EVERYONE IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! BE GRATEFUL AND THANKFUL FOR ALL THINGS IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS!PEACE AND HARMONY TO EVERYONE IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW!HOLD TO GOD ALWAYS! PRAY OFTEN AND DAILY TO GOD ALWAYS! GLORY TO GOD ALMIGHTY! SMILE ALWAYS!( EVEN IN STORMS THAT U HO THRU!) YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT! AUG 2021
Thank you for explaining this 📝
I want to pound the pavement a little bit xD Thank you for the reminder of holding space for men expressing their emotions. Lord help us do that with our boys and men in our families in Jesus Name !!!
Be blessed 🙏💕
Thank you for sharing!
Sounds good. Nothing is quite that easy. Sometimes an apology doesn't mean much in some circumstances. Some apologies are really just for the person who did the dirt. They need to do say more or less than the other person needs to hear it. That would be based on character. Pretty much know before an apology by the character of the individual. Yet, they need to understand sorry don't change the circumstances or scars they implemented.
what I desire is in a lot of men us the maturity I get they only think with the right side however they get A's in one subject . the rest D's and E's maybe it's bc the lack of a father or role model but a lot of women grew up without mom's and we don't make excuses ok are you trying to grow seek wats to grow
It's a bit discouraging to know that this world is so broken. How does one find healthy people in general? I came from a toxic background and working on healing myself, however I see so much hurt around me almost everywhere I turn. It's sad and discouraging.
something I've incorporated with the I'm sorry for in the past . ok what are you sorry for . so he knew what the problem was so I needed him to say what is he was sorry for . Name it. then I said I forgive you :)
I like well rounded men I asked one have you ever used a lawn mower do you want to learn have you ever painted have you ever changed a tire .
As usual you are on top of it!
Question Tony: Did you ever live in Effingham County, Georgia? You look like someone I went to school with there. And his name was Tony Gaskin.
I thought this was going to be about being faithful lol
Can we purchase this shirt?? Tony?
Thank you for helping us on labor day hehe God bless you and your family(:
Most don't feel like they did anything wrong 😕
Hi Tony if a man never apologize at all and still treating you badly
Good evening☺️ ready
hi Tony ur page is infiltrated by a page w ur profile pic or ur making deals with crooks which one is it?
It's a fake page.. just report it
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