Depressed BJJ White Belt after 1st Tournament Loss
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- Опубліковано 29 сер 2024
- Losing your first Brazilian Jiujitsu competition is tough. Losing at any 1on1 sport is tough. In a team sport the burden of the loss is spread amongst a large group. Whereas in a singular 1on1 sport like Brazilian Jiu-jitsu, Boxing, MMA, Wrestling, Judo, etc. The burden of the loss is placed solely on the shoulders of the combatant that failed to win.
The flip side to this is that the glory of the win is giving solely to the lone victor. While they have their team to thank in part of the win. The high feeling of victory is theirs, and theirs alone, to enjoy.
Recently I received a question from a BJJ white Belt who is depressed after his 1st tournament loss. He had been training BJJ for about 8 months. And recently, after 2 months of hard training. He did his first BJJ tournament. Unfortunately his performance didn't meet with his expectations.
After losing his very 1st Brazilian Jiu jitsu competition. Something he had poured almost of a year of effort into. Our friend is wondering on how to overcome this hard BJJ tournament loss and the negative feelings associated with it.
In this video I share some of the tips I use to help harness the negative energy that comes after a loss. As I'll share in the video. That energy can either be an incredibly destructive and overwhelming thing, or it can be amazingly constructive.
Negative emotions are often far more powerful in our minds than positive ones. Pain and frustration are what spur progress in most cases. So using the power of these negative emotions to push our BJJ training to new levels is a great tool.
In addition I share other tips on dissecting the mistakes you make after a Brazilian Jiu-jitsu tournament and lastly whether or not you should compete again sooner than later.
If you're currently down in the dumps about your recent BJJ tournament loss.
I hope this video helps you overcome that loss and helps you get back out there.
Thanks for watching!
-Chewy
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I got smashed on my first tournament last week. Lost 3 of 3 and my heart hurts badly. But I’m not giving up.
Lost 6/6 🙃 I’m only a month in but I still can’t believe how useless I was out there
@@osomnm431 it's only pointless if you didnt learn anything. The main point is to gain knowledge, and as long as you have learned something, winning or losing doesnt really matter as much.
Your not alone man, just got wrecked in my first tournament lost 4/4, Truly a humbling experience, just have to keep on getting after it we can all only get better.
Lost yesterday as a 4 month white belt, laughed about it and now it kinda lit up a fire inside to fix my mistakes. Let’s goooooo 🔥🔥🔥
This just happened to me tonight. 1st lost 1st competition. 9 month white belt. This is the shittiest embarrassing feeling ever. Didn't even feel like myself in the slightest. This video helped thank you. Back at it!
How you doing now? You still rolling?
Man, I'm starting to come across like some crazy groupie but this channel deserves so much more subs / views.
Daz Elliott couldn't agree more
Ross Heaton lol anybody not seen!
Standby? Whats that mean?
I appreciate it. Some of the videos speak more to certain people. I enjoy sharing and as long as they help people, that's all that matters.
I wish I could give you more thumbs up for this comment. Chewy is one of the most positive guys I've ever come across. You can't watch his videos and come to any other conclusion other than that he is a standup guy. I wish he were my dad, only, I probably have 20 years on him. Still, he would be a cool dad. Go have some babies, Chewy.
exactly what ive been telling myself. thank you so much for taking time from your busy life to give me some advice it means a lot to me and took every word to heart
Glad it helped Jon! Again, I appreciate the question brother.
Any updates on your Jits journey Jon?
Just did my first tournament after a month of training, loved every moment of it and won 2-8 matches but had a lot of close ones. I learned a lot and now it’s time to get back in the lab.
i also lost my first match at my first jiu jitsu tournament yesterday and this really helped me out a lot
U still train?
I lost my first one yesterday, dominated the whole fight was up massively up on points with 30 seconds left and got arm triangled. Nerves ruined me along with over exerting my energy.
Thanks for you Video, been feeling shit today, but we live and learn, moving forward I learned a lot and I’m eager to progress
Anyone bummed about their first competition don't stress. My first tourney I completely froze and couldn't do anything(had one match 0-0 tie where I won on advantage from guard). My second tourney I was more relaxed and won double gold. Nerves get to everyone
I lost my first tournament today and I can’t stop remembering my mistakes and I know I want to fix them as soon as possible, but the feeling of letting my team down is getting to me a little bit. I know this video has been out for a while but this helps me so much to better cope with what just happened. Thanks for all the advice!
Losing is learning John
Pretty bummed out over my first tourney a week ago. was so stressed out I couldn't eat, felt like i was going to puke and my matches weren't until 230 in the afternoon. I ended up winning the first match but I was so gassed and felt like passing out (real blury vision) I could not recover and lost the next two matches. It was a pretty bad experience overall even though my coach said I did good, just disappointing when you know you can do better but the nerves don't allow it
Just lost my first tournament at naga. My nerves was completely shot down i was kind of on auto-pilot, something about the tournament kind of just got my mindset wrong
same thing happened to me yesterday in the blue belt division.
Same thing happened to me at my first tournament, complete tunnel vision and unable to think at all. I guess it will get better at every competition!
Dylan Mitchell just had my first tournament today. Had 3 and lost all of them. I wasn’t aggressive enough. I was too nervous and I couldn’t think at all. Just did what I could
Just had my 1st tournament 2 days ago and lost all 3 of my matches. I did good executing techniques and transitioning between positions but got caught in subs my first two matches. I was able to survive throughout my last match which was a personal goal. I cant wait to get back onto the mats to work on my weak points!
Recently did a round robin, went 1-3 and got submitted in 30 seconds by 2 of my team mates lmao
I lost my first today. I'm only 2 months in, and just wanted to experience it. It was definitely an experience. I'm trying to make it a positive one. I was doing alright, and just blanked out. I almost got side control, just moving the steps. Then I pushed forward trying to get double under hooks and we got twisted up and he was able to take my back. I fought to try and get out and he got the choke. It's a good one, I need to build on technique, and my focus. Like I said, I blanked out, and felt like day one. Good advice.
I had my first comp a few months ago. I had been training for 7-8 months at the time and had done very little rolling in the gym. My anxiety was so bad that day that I cried multiple times that morning, and nearly left a few times without getting on the mat. I managed to push through that but when it was my round, I totally froze. I remember slap-bump and then feeling sheer panic and the next thing I knew I was bottom mount and tapped straight away; I don't even know if they had a submission on because I was panicking and thought I was going to have a heart attack. I think the whole thing was over in less than 20 seconds. I thought I was going to quit after that. But I still turned up the next day to class. I want to compete again but I don't know when I'll feel up to it.
Thank you, Chewie! The motivation of a loss is one of the greatest things. I have won a bronze in my first tournament, I didn't do too well despite the results, too stiff, too timid. My second tournament was my biggest loss, I wasn't aggressive enough, got taken down and lost by submission. After that I started working hard, harder than anyone in my gym. Learned to be aggressive and grindy. I had my third tournament last Saturday, I won silver. Beat 4 guys and lost in the final match. This time I was 100% efficient. As you said I was able to translate who I am at the gym mats to competition. Now instead of feeling good or satisfied with my second place, I am pushing myself and feeling the urge to avenge my one loss and train harder.
Just had my first tournament tonight. I had eally put the effort to prepare and absorb as much information I could over the past few weeks but lost. Your words really go a long way to positively reframe a very fresh sting.
I entered a local judo tournament once as a white belt the only person in my weight class was my instructor a national champ. I was narrowly defeated within seconds
I've just lost my first Gi match today. Not bad as experience for improve my art. Thanks you! ❤
I just did my first NAGA tournament. I lost all 3 of my matches to submission. I just got to keep grinding
I lost my first tournament match yesterday, and i feel like shit. Thanks a lot for sharing this video sir
When i had my first tournament i was so nervous that when the match started i literally frozen up and the the other guy pulled guard and armbared me in 30 seconds. After that i tought i would never compete again but I decided to work on my mistakes and use that loss to motivate me even more in training.
Same here bro,
Thanks for the great video appreciate the words of wisdom. Had my first tournament today and lost. Had the usual loss of the mind and tunnel vision. I have another IBJJF tournament coming up in three weeks. Thanks for your videos they’re a huge help.
Dang, reading all the comments hits home man. Just did my first tournament yesterday. First match I spent most of my time trying to get the guy down but nothing was working and I was just getting myself tired trying. Then he got me down and laid on me most the time. It was tough to get out from the bottom. Once he got tired I got up and tried to rest in turtle but he took my back and got the collar choke. Hit hard knowing I lost. Had another match where I was too discouraged from my first and just didn’t care. He pulled me into side control and I flipped him and got on top where I stayed for most of the match but then looked at the score and saw I had no points so I was like what the heck? And he swept me and got a choke. Just felt like I didn’t want to be there anymore. Was supposed to have my match at 1:30 but ended up having to wait until 5:30. My energy was up and down all day.
Just had my first tournament today it was 4 man competition lost both fights. Feels very painful I hope I can improve my mistakes and transition from how I can roll in the gym to a competition level. Thanks for the video
went 0-3 today for my first comp. had some close matches but oh well. i’ve been doing great in training and i felt super confident going in but i lost. feeling like a huge failure but im going to keep training harder and try to fix my mistakes
I just got submitted with losing points 19-0 in my first competition. Stress sucked the breath out of me which I never saw it coming, a nasty cramp kicked in with my left leg, and the guy was really smart with his tools. It sucks but I'll keep pushing forward, Monday marks the start of the new training sesh.
I recently just lost my first match at an IBJJF tourney, I went on my own as I was the only white belt fighting in my team and it was a Sunday. I went into panic mode, I didn't get subbed and went the distance but i forgot my plan because my brain shut down. However I made a friend out of it, he sent me the video of the fight and i have spent at least 10 hours this week in training and private lessons going over the bits i messed up, and of course my fitness. Looking forward to my next one, make some more friends and advance a little bit further. There is no substitute for having a competitor go at you 100%.
Good luck in the future brother.
I'm like 0-15 and lost 3 more times today...suicidal.....been training too long for this...i quit .... It's one thing if its "only a loss...think about your wins'....I dont have any....losing isnt growing its soul stealing and reveals what i wanted the most to avoid....i just fucking suck and am not going to get any better. I was a happier person before jiu jitsu revealed the truth...im weak
Same boat lol been training 4 years never took a gold. Took one bronze thats it.
@@TheForeignNationalBornNatural I've since went back. Good luck man.
@@40tired man I just did my first tournament yesterday as a white belt. Felt like I looked so stupid man. I feel like crap knowing I do better in class but didn’t translate I know anything in the competition. I hope you are doing well since you went back. Feels embarrassing going back but I definitely want to grow and get better man.
If you are doing BJJ at all, you are winning, because you're doing something very challenging, and worthwhile. Something that fortifies character. If you are competing, you are winning.
If you compete 50 000 times and lose each time, you are still winning, because, you went through the rigours of competition. The training, the stress, the physical exertion. You could have sat on the couch and watched TV, but you didn't, so, you are a huge winner. You exerted yourself, you went hard, endured difficulties, that most people will never know. That's a gigantic win.
I remember Marcos Avellan saying something like this: If you had a crystal ball and you looked into it and it would tell you that no matter what you do, you will lose your first match at the tournament. Would you still compete?
If the answer is yes, then you shouldn't worry about it, because you just admitted that result doesn't matter that much.
runorthwest v
Great way of putting it.
If you know you’re going to lose, should that take the stress out?
That how I’ve approached the beginning of my BJJ journey, which I am still in the infancy of my training. Watching UA-cam channels like this and one consensus piece of advice is you’re going to lose a lot in the beginning so just embrace it. It takes a load off of stress. I just have fun win or lose. I’ve yet to compete but I hope to soon and carry a similar mindset. I will say however I am very competitive so I will compete to win but hopefully wise to understand and remember that I am just starting off.
Thanks chewy needed this just lost my first tournament. Now I'm more motivated Than ever and ib know exactly what i need to work on
It's okay to lose if you learn from your losses. I find that adjusting and identifying errors along the way doesn't subtract from your practice, but in fact fortifies it. I lost my first tournament quite considerably, but I had also won. It's true that with the correct mindset, you cannot lose even if you lose. Don't let fear be your motivation for winning, chances are you practice this wonderful art because you love it. Just go out there and do jiujitsu.
Losing sucks, but I’d rather compete with the possibility of losing rather than spectate and never win. Keep training, guys. Ossss
Fantastic Spirit, Posts & Advice! Thank You Sincerely Sir Chew Jitsu!!!
Thanks Bj!
This right here... thank you! I find myseld lucky to be able to get this shitty feeling and turn it into motivtion....
This is why people need to get their kids into competitions of various sorts at a young age, so they can learn how to lose. Also why they need to stop handing out participation trophies. Everything in life is a sort of competition, and if you can't enjoy the process of participating in and of itself, view it as a learning experience as Chewy said, and use losing as motivation to improve, it will hurt you all through your life. I see people all the time get salty when they essentially lose a competition, they get passed over for a promotion at work, a girl or guy they were chasing ends up picking someone else, they interview for a job and it goes well, but then the company picks someone else. Instead of getting back out there, they like die inside and shrivel up.
Even kids who do compete at things, if they don't get pushed by competition, it's not good enough. A friend of mine told me a story about how he went to a really small school system in a rural area, his graduating class was really small, and he was pretty much top of the class academically all through school. He did little competitions at school like spelling bees, science fairs, etc, and he always won. So he kind of developed a big head since the competition wasn't that strong and he always won. Then sometime in highschool he went to like a regional spelling bee or something like that and got destroyed and was hit in the face with reality. Losing builds humility and prepares you for the real world, and it also makes winning even sweeter.
Our sensai and our brown belt coach always says there’s never losing in Jiujitsu you either win or you learn. And every tournament to always remember our training and give our best and win or lose always to be disciplined, humble and act like a champion no matter what outcome.
I just lost 1 match from the 3 and boy it sucks, no gold, but we'll get there cant wait to be back on the mat.
This really really helped me snap out of the depression after losing my first fight. I was dominating my opponent for 5/6 minutes then I made one mistake he took my back and boom fight done, videos on my channel if anyone's interested. Thanks chewy I literally went for a run straight away and booked my next competition.
Thanks again brother 🤙
Thanks man, needed this.
Thanks for the videos man. Appreciate the insights.
Thanks for the comment. I'm glad the videos help.
If you are doing BJJ at all, you are winning, because you're doing something very challenging, and worthwhile. Something that fortifies character. If you are competing, you are winning.
If you compete 50 000 times and lose each time, you are still winning, because, you went through the rigours of competition. The training, the stress, the physical exertion. You could have sat on the couch and watched TV, but you didn't, so, you are a huge winner. You exerted yourself, you went hard, endured difficulties, that most people will never know. That's a gigantic win.
Very late to the comments but I competed for the first time about 2 weeks ago. Training for a year with plenty of time off because of injuries so probably 7-8 months of consistent training. Lost 3 in a row and won my 4th and final match. The mindset that helped me the most was that each match was it's own match, I wasn't focused on the overall record of the comp. Each match was a new match and I approached it that way. Didn't care that I lost 3 matches at all because it helped me find holes in my game and I've been telling people in class to exploit them so I can be better and they have been and I'm already seeing improvements in those areas. Jiu jitsu is a long journey and your first few tournaments won't matter anyways when you're a higher belt. Plus, even at Worlds and the Pans and all these big tournaments, all of the matches have one winner and one loser. It's all going to be okay
This was perfect for me. Needed this with the Chicago Open right around the corner. First Chicago open i have never done
Nice. Good luck on your upcoming performance. I may be up there this year.
If you are it would be an honor to meet you!!
Thank you Chewy
helped me too, thanks professor!
Glad it help Robson.
I just lost my first competition today. I will fix my mistakes and will enter competition and will not stop. I have to channel my energy on a positive way. Will hit the dojo tomorrow!!!'
I really needed this
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This happened to me is still happening I to me. I lost my first match in 2 tournament and got second place because there was only one other person. Then I won two matches and again got 2 place. I now have 5 second place medals, and I have done 5 tournaments. I lost 5 matches and won 2. I have a tournament in September, hoping for a better turn out. But I got videos for all my matches and I have learnt from every match
I’m on the opposite end of the spectrum…… Been training for eight months as well took my first win. Home in a 24 man bracket in GI and no-gi. Since that tournament, I haven’t been able to train consistently because it’s been injuries in the training room and going with upper belts that makes me feel like I’m not getting anywhere progress wise. Still a white belt but I’ve been training consistently (when I’m not injured.
I really liked the idea to think about the other guy getting his hand raised and the negative feeling as motivation. Sometimes the motivation to get your hand raised isn't as good as the motivation to not be in the negative situation.
It isn't for me. Nothing is more motivating to me personally than fear or negative emotions.
I competed in my first competition this weekend, 1st fight was over before I knew it. I went for a collar drag then an ankle pick. He let me take him down and then put me in a triangle. Had a 2nd bout, dominated for most of the match, was up 15-0 but couldn't get a submission to work from the mount and I misunderstood the ref saying that we had to get something going, wrongly assumed he meant me so I went for the worst armbar ever and ended up getting rear naked choked. Frustrated hence watching this video but I'll be back for the next one. At least rock bottom is the most solid place to build back up from. Hope you kept at it
Great Video!
I'm at the moment training for my first BJJ tournament on December 4th...Wish me luck
#LUCK
Chad Preston Thanks brother
HAVE A OPEN MOVE U IMMEDIATELY DO BEFORE CLINCH! as white we always clinch and hug ect.... then go to ground... lol try IMMEDIATELY UCHIMATA. U WILL be successful. try it
If you are a white belt just know you are going to be seeing a lot of closed guard. Good Luck!!!
Good luck brother! Hope it goes well!
Thanks for the good advice
Thank you
Lost in the finals.... Texas cloverleaf and the worst part is I know I didn’t leave everything out on the field for my first tournament
I have my first tournament next week and I'm afraid of losing and making a fool of myself. i'm so nervous I'm almost too scared to go. It's pretty discouraging.
I am a 47 year old 3 stripe white belt. I did NAGA yesterday and lost my only match 5-2.
There wasn't anyone on my division (because I'm old) so the put me with a 37 year old 4 stripe white belt. He didn't have anyone in his division either.
I am 6'3 and 200 pounds. He was the same. I can tell he is a fitness freak like me.
Couldn't take each other down so I pulled spider guard, right into an armbar. I overcommited and he got the sweep to side control and put his knee on my belly..boom 5 points.
I immediately rolled him over but it was into his guard, I choked the crap out of him with his lapel but i couldn't get out of his guard and he won.
Congratulations.
My coach was a complete dick to me after me loss.
I had covid for 2 weeks. That was 3 and 4 weeks ago.
I had custody of my kids this week and only was able to train for 2 days.
My coach told me I needed to compete in this tournament on Monday.
The loss is one thing. Whatever
..next time I will be more prepared.
My coach treating me like that after the fight makes me never want to go back to train again.
Dang man I’m sorry to hear your coach was a jerk after. Considering all the obstacles you did good man. I am a white belt and also have 3 stripes. But man I felt like I looked stupid yesterday. Just felt like I looked like I’ve never trained. My coach actually said I did good but I felt really disappointed. Hope you’re still training man! Sounds like you did a great job.
My first couple tournaments I just couldn't get the mentality right or handle my adrenaline dump. But just who I am, i took those L's not as losses but as lessons, learning how to get my mind right and learning from things I did making it harder on myself
John, I lost my first tournament ibjjf, but... I won second one - Naga, won - 3rd one, 4th I lost , 5 th Ibjjf Gold again, don't give up, train harder.
Nice job Mike.
Chewjitsu thanks, great channel !
lost my first tournament as a white belt last week..
Man yesterday was my first competition I lost 24-0 the guy didn’t submit me but yet he was able to get dominate position….
You win or you learn no one that steps on the mat is a loser
nice video
My first tourney was as a blue belt and i lost my first match as Well. I dont know what happened, thought I was decent at Bjj and now Im not sure about that
First tournament I was maybe 90 days in as a white belt I lost the first match but won the second two but i still didn't medal. Just had another recent tournament over a year later as a 3 stripe white belt, I know doesn't mean much but just trying to explain I'm not a new white belt, so i thought I would be a sure to win my division. I lost in the first match didn't even get a second match, that one hurt just bad. It sucks, but i still love the competitions. I'll keep competing until I win damn it.
Yes you will Jeffery. Keep it up.
I just had my first competition yesterday. I am a white belt with three strips. But man, felt like I looked like I just started an hour before competition. Embarrassed and disappointed. But I want to get better man. I want to go all the way and earn my black belt someday. But I definitely feel sucky right now after loosing.
@@supergiantmario6444 you'll get there! That comment from me was year ago and I have several medals now, I have even win gold in gi and gold in no gi at the same comps. I still lose often but I win at times too! keep grinding!!! I'm a brown belt now just got it recently :)
@@jeffp899 wow!! Yeah man had a hard time sleeping last night, just kept thinking of my loss. But your reply encourages me, thanks man! Very impressive you got your brown belt so quickly! Congratulations man!
I just lost my first tourney 🔥🔥🔥 lol it was fun though.
How are questions answered? Asking because I'd like to submit one as I am two weeks out from my second tournament.
Twitter usually bud... But he gets to it if/when he does... So no guarantee
I like you Chewy ..... :-*
Haha thanks! I'm glad you don't dislike me. :P
shiiiiii there is no difference from winning and losing. the next day of training is exactly the same. actually at least loosing gives you a steady blue print. it's almost like winning does more damage...
bullshit.....im 0-15 in my last 5 tournaments...got slaughtered 17-0 today again in front of my friends and family...i train hard too....i fucking hate jiu jitsu now...i carry it around with me for weeks....huge difference between winning and losing
i lost my first tournament yesterday i feel oke about it. I lost by points against a green belt and a orange belt and won by sub agianst a yellow belt. while i am still a white belt no stripes
There is no green or yellow or orange belt in bjj, da fuck you talking about ? Judo ?
Chris Vaughn kids belt
Chris Vaughn idiot lol