this is so relatable - the guy I was dating just stopped texting after 5 months of dating and I wasted so much time waiting on a reply instead of just moving on sooner. Really hope you get through this + you're such a kind hearted and funny guy, I don't understand why they'd dump you!!
same here hè didnt text me back in a month and when I saw him in public I said I broke up with him and hè started crying like a baby like what are you supposed to do then?
Aww Riyadh don't let it change how you behave in a relationship, you'll meet a great guy when time is right! As you said be yourself and don't change X
Its really not the other guys fault either, beauty is in the eye of the beholder and each to his own. I think its kind of unfair of Riyadh to shame the guy publicly like this for not fancying him. Besides, people look quite different naked and stuff.
Lucy Roebuck Well I think you're right, though the gay world in Ireland and the UK is smaller than you might think and it really wouldn't be very difficult to figure out who the guy is. While I take your point its kinda unavoidable to see what the purpose of his making this video was.
He actually explained that purpose you're wondering about, TA. It was to explain to his viewers why he had tweeted that out there and come clean about it. He even admitted that it probably wasn't a good idea to share in the first place. Also, he didn't shame this guy at all. He was very respectful about him and only explained the situation. He never said anything bad about him, heck, he even called him a great guy. :)
Riyadh, I'm sorry to hear about your situation. Although honesty is the most mature way to go about navigating a breakup, hearing what you did is insanely difficult. I'm impressed by how cool, calm, and collected you are, and to be able to come on to a forum like UA-cam to share your experience without bad-mouthing your ex is awesome. Just remember that you ARE very handsome, and that you put an amazing energy out into the universe ( or at least the internet ;) ).
Agree! Don't change for anyone as true love is when both partners compromise and accepts each others flaws as we all have them. Then consider how boring it would be if everything was to be perfect.
I'm literally sitting here and crying because I know exactly how this feels. I've been through this a few times when I fell in love with someone, but because I was giving too much of myself and I was too "nice" I became unattractive. Unfortunately, this is how attraction works for most people. They are attracted to people they have to pursue, but once they got them, they lose interest. Only people that really look for something else than just attraction in a relationship overcome that and look at the real you. I was lucky that I met another human being who loved my quirks and eccentricities and we are still together. I wish the same for you, love, because you are a lovely sensitive person who deserves that.
"This is how attraction works for most people. They are attracted to people they have to pursue, but once they got them, they lose interest."That's the truest thing I've ever read, oh my god..
for the life of me, I do NOT understand how being too nice is considered bad. why on earth would anyone want to put a limit on niceness ?? what we need is MORE niceness in this world. Niceness should be upheld as something desirable.
It feels so comforting to just watch these videos where you are just being real and raw and I really feel like you're being yourself and it makes me feel empowered to be myself and that's amazing so thank you!
breaks. they suck. period. but its life. we're gonna go through it. but in time. you'll come across a guy that's genuine & wants something real. you're really cute & that next guy will be lucky to get a hold of you:)
Honey.... bad news is..... i'm 20 years older than you and it still feels exactly the same to get dumped.... and every guy you think could be the love of your life... can be the next one to dump you..... BUT.... good news is... you know now that you're able to love... able to trust, able to commit to someone.... you know that you can find beauty and passsion in somebody else.... and that is so much more... so much more than a lot of people can say about themselves... i'm not sure about this... but i truly hope for you, that you will find HIM.... as much as i hope for me to find him... you deserve it.,.. you are such a beautiful person.... beautiful as a human being!!... loads of love to you!
yes... and it means commitment and it means determination.... and quite often.... that's not what guys want... but Riyadh's right.... at least he was honest...
It's called codependency when you fall in love with everyone that shows interest, then you end up rushing things and get burned cause there are a lot of emotional predators that seek out caring and naïve people. I too was like that but you have to be complete by yourself first. Love who you are in and out and work on your confidence that will attract the right kinda person into your life. Rebounds are destructive.
So sorry to hear this Riyadh, it's always such a horrible thing to go through. Especially when you care lots and lots. But, take it with dignity and pride, move forward and onwards knowing that you tried and it didn't work out and that is completely okay. There'll be someone there for you at some point in your future, and we're all proud of all you've achieved so far. Stay happy!
I'm a firm believer in the saying "One day that someone special will come into your life, and you will finally understand why all those other ones didn't work out." He had to leave, because he's making room for Mr. Right. Keep smiling Riyadh. P.S. Speaking from personal experience :)
I just happened to run across your channel and literally only watched three videos and I've already feel in love with you and I'm not even gay or a man, lol. All silliness aside, your "open book" style is awesome and makes you an ABSOLUTELY beautiful person:) You will make a great hubby! Xoxoxo
Hi, Riyadh. I am a 54 year old guy who came out of a 22 year relationship 5 years ago and have been single since. I thought I was old and ugly and doomed to be alone. I met a guy unexpectedly on july 22nd and think I have found the man of my dreams. ( time will tell ). You are young and gorgeous and I am positive that you will not be alone for too long, so although things feel crap at the moment, trust me.... if I can find happiness at my age, you will find it a breeze. take care and be strong. x
Listening to this is very therapeutic. Hearing your pov through all of it and being so honest about it and what you were feeling makes it all so relatable. Thank you for making this video, it couldn't have possibly been easy.
I have been in very similar situation in May, and it's still hard for me to get ove it, but I've got someone else interested in me at the moment and that gives me hopes, so far so good... Good luck, you'll find someone who really loves you the way you deserve, you're a good guy, you just need to meet another good guy.
I have been in both situations. It really is a self esteem destroyer when you get rejected or dumped. And its not a nice feeling at all. It made me feel like so ugly and so below him. I wanted to get angry but then I realized its not worth it.
Goyyboy omg exactly. right now i enjoy being single and its even quite a while now. the rejections/breaking up and letting go was too much of a burden for me. i dont even know if ill ever be in a relationship again as i see myself better off as free. but if it comes it will come. i dont wanna close my doors either.
Sweetie, you be you. Don't change for ANYONE! You gotta go through pain in life to appreciate the good feelings more. You're only 25. You still got a lot of living to do. When you get my age, THEN you can be bitter and bitchy. Love your parents btw! You're a lucky kid!
+Ewan Welsh I honestly do not have a clue how you misread or misunderstood my comment but let me make this clear to you. Before you are rude to someone in the comments please re-read their words at least 3 times for their message to set in your mind. That will ensure you do not offend one such as myself in future
10:40 on forward hit home for me so hard you don’t even know! my therapist and i discussed this exact same thing about people trying to normalize playing games. i definitely understand where you’re coming from all too well. you have a new subscriber!
I Know exactly how this feels, been there done that. I haven't dated since and now I'm in my early 40's, its so much harder when you're older. Now I'm just old and ugly and undesireable. I'm sorry you had to experience this and I wish you the best.
FP it's just my own opinion but I think the title Daddy implies an old gay man who has to pay for companionship or give shite to the younger guy to obtain companionship. I think the gay culture how we are taught is that most of them are extremely youth and image orientated and when one becomes middle aged and older, looses their youthful n fit appearance they often times become undesirable I've seen that all my life growing up and now I too am that older person and feel badly for all the older gay guys that are alone and overlooked almost to the point of gay discrimination. I don't recall off hand any or many gay themed movies where older gay people are represented but that's part of the culture. In straight culture older women have the same problem
I finished watching your video and I wanted to comment after it's done bc I wanted to hear what you had to say til the very end. But Riyadh, don't ever think "you're ugly, you're ugly, you're ugly" you are fucking awesome, handsome, funny, smart, stunning, and I could keep going but I feel like this comment might be too long. 😅😅 but what I'm trying to get at is that you are so fucking generous, kind, and honest it's literally what I want to be. (I'm not shitting you) I think you handled your breakup well even though you may not feel that way. And if I could I would give you a huge hug and a kiss babe. xx Don't be so harsh on yourself. Not everything was on you. You are charming, caring, and you always show your to your boyfriends that you love them so much. Again, don't beat yourself up bc your not ugly, you are attractive, and your not too forward ok? I know you will find that guy very soon ;) love ya babe
I am with your comment I can't add anything more then you mentioned before cos you are not agly and have this feelings forward anyone and I really like you. sick up with who you are not faking it or trying to pretend to be someone else. you are cute too that is what is importand ans kind.
I want to play devil's advocate and say "Ben" sounds like a great guy. He didn't have to be honest and upfront with you, he didn't have to try to comfort you, and he didn't have to wait around for 15 minutes to ensure you were ok. It shows he cares... but love is such a weird dynamic thing. Sounds to me that he probably loves you, but may not be in love with you... which is something you can't flip a switch and make happen. Realizing he wasn't, he did the noble thing and broke it off. Yea it'll hurt in the moment and for some time thereafter, but it was the best option in those circumstances. As for Riyadh, you're a great guy yourself and it certainly sucks that things didn't work out this time, but that's just the world of dating. Don't be despondent and don't feel you have to change yourself to fit into any else's mold, just be you and someone will come along that will be in awe of everything you are, and want to be. I know everyone is different but my best relationships were born out of just going with the flow (ie not specifically searching for love) and first being platonic friends with the guys I eventually ended up dating. That's not to say "the one" won't come along as someone you immediately start to date versus being friends with first, but generally speaking I find that the bond is a lot deeper when you know someone as a friend, without all the romantic pretense. You get to know who they really are, the good, bad, and ugly, and something magical happens when you can embrace everything that makes them tick, and say "you're the one for me". Keep your head up bud... I'm doing the same. I have 2 long serious relationships under my belt now... learned and grew a whole lot because of them... and now hoping the third time's the charm!
Great to see you have struck gold since you made this video, I think almost everyone can relate to it happening to them at some point and looking back it made you stronger. Just started watching your vlogs today and loving your adventures, lots of love to you both x
riyadh, i love how genuine you are. even at a time like this, although you are sad, you are still so rational. i totally agree with you about playing games.. it's stupid. you should just be able to be your 100% self, and if it's the right person, they will be the same as well. you're hot and you're awesome. you know this has nothing to do with you, you guys just weren't right for each other. i hope you feel better soon! the youtube fam is always for ya.
I start crying god dammit.. i got dumped too.. ... me and her been together for 7 months she wanted to end it because we use to fight a lot... she promised she'll never leave me no matter what.. but.. i'm a fool i trusted her like a blind idiot :'( i'm so sorry about your breakup.. it's true time can heal... but memories won't be never forgotten.
Riyadh, you are an awesome dude and I know that you will find exactly who you were meant to find :) I can relate to the position you are in to an extent. I often find myself getting invested too quickly, I care too much too quickly, and ultimately I find myself in a bad position, but I've found the more im myself the better it makes me feel
It's great that you reached out for support! That's social media's biggest strength. I'm 28 now. My partner and I got married when I was 22. I hear you about being tired of playing the game at this age. You have so much time ahead of you to settle down--don't worry, it will happen! (and you're super cute!!!)
Riyadh, I'm glad I knew about you before I went through this very experience just recently. It helped me to not feel alone. I choose not to play games, either. I'm proud of you. I'm glad you shared this.
I'm soooo proud that ur Irish 💚 I subscribed and Lysm 💚 I love watching your videos please make more because everyday I check if you made another video cause I love them sooooo much 😊
Hey Riyadh! this video made me feel so sad because seeing you heartbroken like this breaks my heart too 😕 i just want you to know that you arr such a great and kind person, stop saying that u are ugly and whatever because u r not ugly u r beautiful inside and out, if someone doesn't like u anymore it doesn't mean it's ur fault it's actually nobody's fault it's just that u r not meant to be together and u know everything happens for a reason so maybe u ll find ur soulmate soon after this break up don't be sad please 😊😊😊 sorry this was too long but i can't speak to you non stop because i know how does it feel to be dumped by someone that u love so yeah i want u to know that a lot of people in this big world love you and i love you 😚😚
"Love drunk" love your vids and your BBC episodes. The topics your covering are helping me with some of the very dark things I'm going through. You will make someone very happy one day. Thanks for opening your life like this, it does help. X
He's a silly guy! He doesn't realise what he's lost! If I had a chance to take you out on a date, I would. You're sweet, funny, handsome.. what's not to be drawn to?! Xx
im going through the exact same thing right now. it hurts more because you already feel lonely and stuff and i hate it. then you feel like shit because the person you like doesn't like you back. its a fucked up place to be in right now. but i hope you heal because you seem like a really nice guy and you don't deserve to feel that way, your biggest fan from chicago :)
You're such a kind man. Wow. You deserve a man who will just allow you to be yourself and if you are upfront you shouldn't compromise it for anyone. It's just the wrong person, you won't go wrong in the end by being you, and you is beautiful
I JUST found this channel and I have to say, you seem genuinely kind. And as a person who's been in a relationship for 8 years and getting married soon, I'm glad you're not playing "the game" anymore. Continue to be yourself, however many versions of yourself there may be as you grow. Even though I've only since 2 of your videos, I feel comfortable enough to send many hugs and support your way.
Everything you said made so much sense. I always thought I was crazy for not wanting to play the game or for feeling heartbroken over something that might not have been so official. Thank you for sharing and making me realize that I'm not alone.
Another attention hog right here people. Pay attention to me cuz nobody else matters and you have the hots for him. Lol it's obvious,imma hit you cuz I like you crap. Love yourself cuz this is damaging behavior
Aww Riyadh, you're great! My relationship of 8yrs very similarly after the Christmas holiday and it just sucks. But things get better. Dating sucks and it can feel like you'll be alone forever. But I was reading an article and it posed the question: "If you knew with absolute certainty that you would be alone for the rest of your life, what would you do differently?" The answer is a resounding "EVERYTHING" Much love, xx
Its very brave of you to open up and dont hate him, most people cant show that they have feelings and dont respect the others in this way. Think about the exs you loved and still was able to move on, this always help me! You will find a nice person for sure, never play the game, please! Be yourself and enjoy it! (:
I just went trough a very similar thing, and it really hurts like shit. I love how you can already be so positive about it, whil I still wanna scratch his car. You're a real inspiration.
This was such an honest video about how hard dating can really be. When someone rejects you it makes you deeply question your self-worth. I don't comment often, but I wanted to say that I appreciated your candidness and wish you well.
i dont know why riyadh but this is the first video on youtube that made my eyes wet like i never cry or express my emotions but this did it like it is so fuckin relatable thank you for being real with all your admirers or fans here means a lot i hope you have a nice year ahead and merry XMAS DEAR RIYADH!
Thank you for sharing, kinda ironic that I watch this very video for the first time exactly 1 year after it was uploaded. Really hope you are in a better place and have found a person who can make you smile! Cause you got a good one cutie.
What a freaking beautiful video. You had such a lovely message at the end. You're hopeful and positive and everything I'm not being with a slightly bruised heart. But it's inspiring.
This is the second video I've watched of you. Never have I gained so much respect for a person in the space of 20 minutes. The way you handled that whole situation is so amazing and rather than lashing out you understood both sides. I'm sure you'll find happiness and an amazing guy!
Sorry for what happened. You deserve so much better. You're an amazing, wonderful man and will find your man when the time is ready. I too was just dumped and feel your pain, although she decided to ghost me. Such immaturity. Sending hugs, love and positivity.
I'm so sorry, Riyadh! Heartbreak happens to everyone and it's totally, 100% normal. You're honestly my favorite youtuber and I hope you find someone who loves you for YOU. And once you do it'll feel amazing. Until then it's also more than fine to be single and that does not invalidate your worth in the slightest! Sending good vibes your way 💫
I hope you know how amazing you are, i went through the exact same thing but on holiday in Crete for one week. day two three days after his birthday and a day after me organising the honeymoon sweet he said he didn't love me anymore. A week later he asked me to meet for food in Dublin and then reiterated his feelings by saying "just to clarify i still don't love you". Your video is proof that you just have to love yourself and let thing run their course. I coped by going to paris and getting long gel nails! #littlethings Ireland loves you Riyadh stay strong!! :)
I just found your channel and this video - I am so in this place right now and I just straight out ugly cried listening to this. Thank you so much for sharing this ❤️
I just discovered your channel. The first I watched was you with your parents and then I watched your bbc series. You're definitely real. Gorgeously authentic.Thanks for your grace and charm. Mucho lovage to you and yours from Australia. ;)
Oh i just want to hug you to pieces! Im glad youve been so positive about this but i hope and pray you know what a beautiful man you are, physically and personally :)
This video was.. so sad and at the same time so cute.. Like, I'm glad to be a part of your online family, and I really feel this way ! Be brave with that moment of your "journey" and please be back with a biiiig smile on your face !
He would have been so lucky to have you and you probably are way too good for him. This video is so open and not spiteful at all. You are absolutely gorgeous and amazing and I want yo let you know that for a lot of people you are the person they feel is there when they feel shit as they can watch one of your amazing videos. Lots of love and thank you x
I stumbled upon your channel today. What a breath of fresh air you are. You are insightful, caring, funny, honest, and self aware. It may take time to find someone who appreciates all those qualities you have. Don't settle, you deserve it all. Have faith in yourself and goodness will follow.
Your comments are making me want to reach into my screen and hug you! Thank you for the love. You are such an amazing bunch xx
Chocolate and wine! :)
RIYADH YOURE HUSBAND GOALS LIKE SOMETIMES I WISH I WAS A GUY JUST SO I COULD BE YOUR HUSBAND
love you. keep being yourself we all love it!
yea always here for you....I know that you will find THE ONE some day... and until then, we are all here for you ❤❤❤❤
we all love you if you ever need a hug or need to speck we're here ok 😇😇
Damn, his loss. You deserve someone who appreciates all of you. And don't worry, you're a charming, sexy guy!
You are so cute and very handsome. Do not let this bring you down on yourself. You will find someone perfect for you!
totally right !
He wasn't giving him the full Ben, as in Ben Dover.
this is so relatable - the guy I was dating just stopped texting after 5 months of dating and I wasted so much time waiting on a reply instead of just moving on sooner. Really hope you get through this + you're such a kind hearted and funny guy, I don't understand why they'd dump you!!
Guys are effing cowards
+Theodor ås not all are.
same here hè didnt text me back in a month and when I saw him in public I said I broke up with him and hè started crying like a baby like what are you supposed to do then?
What a coward... you'll be better without him!!!
Aww Riyadh don't let it change how you behave in a relationship, you'll meet a great guy when time is right! As you said be yourself and don't change X
Love drunk
He wasn't for you. No worries. You will find your forever love. Your fairy godmother has spoken. 💋
I see like 0% of ugliness on him so I have no clue what that guy was seeing.
Its really not the other guys fault either, beauty is in the eye of the beholder and each to his own. I think its kind of unfair of Riyadh to shame the guy publicly like this for not fancying him. Besides, people look quite different naked and stuff.
+Turned Around he's not shaming at all though is he? He doesn't mention his real name or shame him. In fact he says he appreciates the guy's honesty.
Lucy Roebuck Well I think you're right, though the gay world in Ireland and the UK is smaller than you might think and it really wouldn't be very difficult to figure out who the guy is. While I take your point its kinda unavoidable to see what the purpose of his making this video was.
+Turned Around I'll take that on board. But I don't think this video was created in malice in the slightest.
He actually explained that purpose you're wondering about, TA. It was to explain to his viewers why he had tweeted that out there and come clean about it. He even admitted that it probably wasn't a good idea to share in the first place. Also, he didn't shame this guy at all. He was very respectful about him and only explained the situation. He never said anything bad about him, heck, he even called him a great guy. :)
Riyadh, I'm sorry to hear about your situation. Although honesty is the most mature way to go about navigating a breakup, hearing what you did is insanely difficult. I'm impressed by how cool, calm, and collected you are, and to be able to come on to a forum like UA-cam to share your experience without bad-mouthing your ex is awesome. Just remember that you ARE very handsome, and that you put an amazing energy out into the universe ( or at least the internet ;) ).
Don't change anything about yourself for another person. Maybe you won't lose them, but you'll lose yourself.
Agree! Don't change for anyone as true love is when both partners compromise and accepts each others flaws as we all have them. Then consider how boring it would be if everything was to be perfect.
I'm literally sitting here and crying because I know exactly how this feels. I've been through this a few times when I fell in love with someone, but because I was giving too much of myself and I was too "nice" I became unattractive.
Unfortunately, this is how attraction works for most people. They are attracted to people they have to pursue, but once they got them, they lose interest. Only people that really look for something else than just attraction in a relationship overcome that and look at the real you.
I was lucky that I met another human being who loved my quirks and eccentricities and we are still together. I wish the same for you, love, because you are a lovely sensitive person who deserves that.
Omg this is so true and I feel so sad about it! I had my heart broken so many times for that
I cried too glad I wasn't the only one
I understand that...
"This is how attraction works for most people. They are attracted to people they have to pursue, but once they got them, they lose interest."That's the truest thing I've ever read, oh my god..
for the life of me, I do NOT understand how being too nice is considered bad. why on earth would anyone want to put a limit on niceness ?? what we need is MORE niceness in this world. Niceness should be upheld as something desirable.
I don't know you but god you're a sweet, sassy, handsome guy! I subscribed
Thirst
+Goat Master Ihle LMAO
It feels so comforting to just watch these videos where you are just being real and raw and I really feel like you're being yourself and it makes me feel empowered to be myself and that's amazing so thank you!
breaks.
they suck. period.
but its life. we're gonna go through it. but in time. you'll come across a guy that's genuine & wants something real. you're really cute & that next guy will be lucky to get a hold of you:)
break ups suck* & be yourself.
Honey.... bad news is..... i'm 20 years older than you and it still feels exactly the same to get dumped.... and every guy you think could be the love of your life... can be the next one to dump you..... BUT.... good news is... you know now that you're able to love... able to trust, able to commit to someone.... you know that you can find beauty and passsion in somebody else.... and that is so much more... so much more than a lot of people can say about themselves... i'm not sure about this... but i truly hope for you, that you will find HIM.... as much as i hope for me to find him... you deserve it.,.. you are such a beautiful person.... beautiful as a human being!!... loads of love to you!
In my 40's too and its no easier now, in fact its so much harder as you get older to find someone.
yeap, dating in the gay world. saying "I really like you" can be the same as saying "I love you" which can scare off a lot of gay guys
yes... and it means commitment and it means determination.... and quite often.... that's not what guys want... but Riyadh's right.... at least he was honest...
Thank you for that.
It's called codependency when you fall in love with everyone that shows interest, then you end up rushing things and get burned cause there are a lot of emotional predators that seek out caring and naïve people. I too was like that but you have to be complete by yourself first. Love who you are in and out and work on your confidence that will attract the right kinda person into your life. Rebounds are destructive.
I want to apply for the position! :)
Me too ...but I don't think he is into girls..bad for me
Only if u r a top!
So do I...
You'll find someone who's right for you Riyadh you deserve it❤️
Love Drunk 😉
I am sure that guy won't be Asians, Black or Indian.
Why did you say that? Sounds weird and awful.
So sorry to hear this Riyadh, it's always such a horrible thing to go through. Especially when you care lots and lots. But, take it with dignity and pride, move forward and onwards knowing that you tried and it didn't work out and that is completely okay. There'll be someone there for you at some point in your future, and we're all proud of all you've achieved so far. Stay happy!
I'm a firm believer in the saying "One day that someone special will come into your life, and you will finally understand why all those other ones didn't work out." He had to leave, because he's making room for Mr. Right. Keep smiling Riyadh. P.S. Speaking from personal experience :)
I Submit My APPLICATION ;)
Sorry.. Your application has been terminated.
Mine just got in first x ;)
YASSS JOE! LMAO
Where to submit the applications please?
I SHIP this
oh my god. yall are acting like drunk chicks at the bar fighting over who gets to say hi to the man in the corner.
Don't blame yourself. Games are dumb. You are perfect and a great catch for anyone. Whoever you fall for next will be lucky to have you.
I just happened to run across your channel and literally only watched three videos and I've already feel in love with you and I'm not even gay or a man, lol. All silliness aside, your "open book" style is awesome and makes you an ABSOLUTELY beautiful person:) You will make a great hubby! Xoxoxo
Christina Bo'Beanna Agree 100%!!
Hi, Riyadh. I am a 54 year old guy who came out of a 22 year relationship 5 years ago and have been single since. I thought I was old and ugly and doomed to be alone. I met a guy unexpectedly on july 22nd and think I have found the man of my dreams. ( time will tell ). You are young and gorgeous and I am positive that you will not be alone for too long, so although things feel crap at the moment, trust me.... if I can find happiness at my age, you will find it a breeze. take care and be strong. x
big virtual hugs for you buddy! Everything truly does happen for a reason, eventually!
Listening to this is very therapeutic. Hearing your pov through all of it and being so honest about it and what you were feeling makes it all so relatable. Thank you for making this video, it couldn't have possibly been easy.
I have been in very similar situation in May, and it's still hard for me to get ove it, but I've got someone else interested in me at the moment and that gives me hopes, so far so good... Good luck, you'll find someone who really loves you the way you deserve, you're a good guy, you just need to meet another good guy.
I have been in both situations. It really is a self esteem destroyer when you get rejected or dumped. And its not a nice feeling at all. It made me feel like so ugly and so below him. I wanted to get angry but then I realized its not worth it.
Y'all shouldn't date again, y'all should DATE YOURSELF until someone pops up in your life that also wants to date you!
Goyyboy omg exactly. right now i enjoy being single and its even quite a while now. the rejections/breaking up and letting go was too much of a burden for me. i dont even know if ill ever be in a relationship again as i see myself better off as free. but if it comes it will come. i dont wanna close my doors either.
Sweetie, you be you. Don't change for ANYONE! You gotta go through pain in life to appreciate the good feelings more. You're only 25. You still got a lot of living to do. When you get my age, THEN you can be bitter and bitchy. Love your parents btw! You're a lucky kid!
Aw this killed me. You're a great guy. You'll find Prince Charming some day. Love you!
Aw :( I'm so sorry. Breaking up is fucking awful. Chocolate + music, that's the medicine.
dont forget the ice cream
Wine chocolate icecream and a movie marathon on a sofa with a blanket with about 9 pillows
Dont forget the hot chocolate - milk :3
+Leon games with whipped cream marshmallows and flake
Riyadh you're incredible, never let anyone make you feel anything other than that. **digital hug from LA**
13:16 THIS SMILE
the cutest smile ever...
i know this is a while ago but hope you're much better now xx
You're incredibly handsome ! Ignore the hateful comments. Many ppl don't know what it actually means to be in love and vulnerable.
At least he's honest.. I always got dumped not being told why
ooooooof ouch ouch ouch
Riyadh honestly don't feel too depressed it's his loss.
Sorry but you do realise there's something called sympathy you can feel bad for someone
+Ewan Welsh I honestly do not have a clue how you misread or misunderstood my comment but let me make this clear to you. Before you are rude to someone in the comments please re-read their words at least 3 times for their message to set in your mind. That will ensure you do not offend one such as myself in future
10:40 on forward hit home for me so hard you don’t even know! my therapist and i discussed this exact same thing about people trying to normalize playing games. i definitely understand where you’re coming from all too well. you have a new subscriber!
I Know exactly how this feels, been there done that. I haven't dated since and now I'm in my early 40's, its so much harder when you're older. Now I'm just old and ugly and undesireable. I'm sorry you had to experience this and I wish you the best.
yuppp, that's one of the realities of dating in the gay world.
Your beautiful.. trust me, you are.
Some like daddies
+Anton Eliasson Some like daddies? What's wrong with dating someone his age? (ie. in his 40s)
FP it's just my own opinion but I think the title Daddy implies an old gay man who has to pay for companionship or give shite to the younger guy to obtain companionship.
I think the gay culture how we are taught is that most of them are extremely youth and image orientated and when one becomes middle aged and older, looses their youthful n fit appearance they often times become undesirable I've seen that all my life growing up and now I too am that older person and feel badly for all the older gay guys that are alone and overlooked almost to the point of gay discrimination.
I don't recall off hand any or many gay themed movies where older gay people are represented but that's part of the culture.
In straight culture older women have the same problem
I finished watching your video and I wanted to comment after it's done bc I wanted to hear what you had to say til the very end. But Riyadh, don't ever think "you're ugly, you're ugly, you're ugly" you are fucking awesome, handsome, funny, smart, stunning, and I could keep going but I feel like this comment might be too long. 😅😅 but what I'm trying to get at is that you are so fucking generous, kind, and honest it's literally what I want to be. (I'm not shitting you) I think you handled your breakup well even though you may not feel that way. And if I could I would give you a huge hug and a kiss babe. xx Don't be so harsh on yourself. Not everything was on you. You are charming, caring, and you always show your to your boyfriends that you love them so much. Again, don't beat yourself up bc your not ugly, you are attractive, and your not too forward ok? I know you will find that guy very soon ;) love ya babe
Oh and keep up these amazing videos :D
She's not kidding. I look at your Instagram stories and I'm just like damn, why does he look so good and I look like meh.
+Jacob Elsewhere you look good too, evry one looks good ;)
I am with your comment I can't add anything more then you mentioned before cos you are not agly and have this feelings forward anyone and I really like you. sick up with who you are not faking it or trying to pretend to be someone else. you are cute too that is what is importand ans kind.
You're honesty is so wonderful and helpful. Thank you for being so honest
I want to play devil's advocate and say "Ben" sounds like a great guy. He didn't have to be honest and upfront with you, he didn't have to try to comfort you, and he didn't have to wait around for 15 minutes to ensure you were ok. It shows he cares... but love is such a weird dynamic thing. Sounds to me that he probably loves you, but may not be in love with you... which is something you can't flip a switch and make happen. Realizing he wasn't, he did the noble thing and broke it off. Yea it'll hurt in the moment and for some time thereafter, but it was the best option in those circumstances.
As for Riyadh, you're a great guy yourself and it certainly sucks that things didn't work out this time, but that's just the world of dating. Don't be despondent and don't feel you have to change yourself to fit into any else's mold, just be you and someone will come along that will be in awe of everything you are, and want to be. I know everyone is different but my best relationships were born out of just going with the flow (ie not specifically searching for love) and first being platonic friends with the guys I eventually ended up dating. That's not to say "the one" won't come along as someone you immediately start to date versus being friends with first, but generally speaking I find that the bond is a lot deeper when you know someone as a friend, without all the romantic pretense. You get to know who they really are, the good, bad, and ugly, and something magical happens when you can embrace everything that makes them tick, and say "you're the one for me". Keep your head up bud... I'm doing the same. I have 2 long serious relationships under my belt now... learned and grew a whole lot because of them... and now hoping the third time's the charm!
Riyadh I love you as a person, you're beautiful!
Love drunk
Great to see you have struck gold since you made this video, I think almost everyone can relate to it happening to them at some point and looking back it made you stronger. Just started watching your vlogs today and loving your adventures, lots of love to you both x
We love you, Riyadh. You are special.....
I can't belive I'm still crying until now!😭
riyadh, i love how genuine you are. even at a time like this, although you are sad, you are still so rational. i totally agree with you about playing games.. it's stupid. you should just be able to be your 100% self, and if it's the right person, they will be the same as well. you're hot and you're awesome. you know this has nothing to do with you, you guys just weren't right for each other. i hope you feel better soon! the youtube fam is always for ya.
I start crying god dammit.. i got dumped too.. ... me and her been together for 7 months she wanted to end it because we use to fight a lot... she promised she'll never leave me no matter what.. but.. i'm a fool i trusted her like a blind idiot :'( i'm so sorry about your breakup.. it's true time can heal... but memories won't be never forgotten.
Riyadh, you are an awesome dude and I know that you will find exactly who you were meant to find :) I can relate to the position you are in to an extent. I often find myself getting invested too quickly, I care too much too quickly, and ultimately I find myself in a bad position, but I've found the more im myself the better it makes me feel
Btw yes you are #husbandgoals Cx c:
It's great that you reached out for support! That's social media's biggest strength.
I'm 28 now. My partner and I got married when I was 22. I hear you about being tired of playing the game at this age. You have so much time ahead of you to settle down--don't worry, it will happen! (and you're super cute!!!)
Better not to have any ties to "Ben".....it would only serve as a distraction in your life. Onwards to something new! :) Jack
If he dumped you, he wasn't worth wasting your time on. You're adorable. Love from New York!
Riyadh,
I'm glad I knew about you before I went through this very experience just recently. It helped me to not feel alone. I choose not to play games, either. I'm proud of you. I'm glad you shared this.
I'm soooo proud that ur Irish 💚 I subscribed and Lysm 💚 I love watching your videos please make more because everyday I check if you made another video cause I love them sooooo much 😊
Hey Riyadh! this video made me feel so sad because seeing you heartbroken like this breaks my heart too 😕 i just want you to know that you arr such a great and kind person, stop saying that u are ugly and whatever because u r not ugly u r beautiful inside and out, if someone doesn't like u anymore it doesn't mean it's ur fault it's actually nobody's fault it's just that u r not meant to be together and u know everything happens for a reason so maybe u ll find ur soulmate soon after this break up don't be sad please 😊😊😊 sorry this was too long but i can't speak to you non stop because i know how does it feel to be dumped by someone that u love so yeah i want u to know that a lot of people in this big world love you and i love you 😚😚
i can*
sorry for my bad english 😆
Never change you for anyone! You said it twice and I think you saved yourself from a lot of heartache. I love you!
:-((( you're beautiful Riyadh, you'll find someone who sees that
You are an amazing person.
"Love drunk" love your vids and your BBC episodes. The topics your covering are helping me with some of the very dark things I'm going through. You will make someone very happy one day. Thanks for opening your life like this, it does help. X
He's a silly guy! He doesn't realise what he's lost! If I had a chance to take you out on a date, I would. You're sweet, funny, handsome.. what's not to be drawn to?! Xx
You're gorgeous! He did you a favour. Never change who you are for anyone!!!! Btw discovered you via the Sacconejolys. 😘
Bless you. I'm so sorry you had to go through this. I can't even begin to imagine your heartache. I'm praying for you, and I love and support you!
You are a gorgeous creature!!! Anyone would be damn lucky to be with you!!!!
OMG WHEN YOU WERE SAYING THE POP SONG THING, FIRST THOUGHT WAS ARIANA GRANDE HAHAHAHAHAHAHA
Now realising this isn't as funny when it's typed out....
im going through the exact same thing right now. it hurts more because you already feel lonely and stuff and i hate it. then you feel like shit because the person you like doesn't like you back. its a fucked up place to be in right now. but i hope you heal because you seem like a really nice guy and you don't deserve to feel that way, your biggest fan from chicago :)
damn that shits got me depressed lol
Yeah it got me that way also yet I know how it feels on both ends. It sucks!!!
oh bless dude
I wish I look handsome as you are :(
You're such a kind man. Wow. You deserve a man who will just allow you to be yourself and if you are upfront you shouldn't compromise it for anyone. It's just the wrong person, you won't go wrong in the end by being you, and you is beautiful
"Riyadh Khalaf"
You have a very, VERY Arabic name Riyadh.
His dad is from Iraq.
tcorbett72
Luckily we have Riyadh away from the shithole of Iraq. He can be gay freely here.
He also has an Arab nose ;)
Lucas M mate stfu America sucks even worse😂😂
Ben is struggling. Love you.😁
you're just like the most handsome person i've ever seen!
I JUST found this channel and I have to say, you seem genuinely kind. And as a person who's been in a relationship for 8 years and getting married soon, I'm glad you're not playing "the game" anymore. Continue to be yourself, however many versions of yourself there may be as you grow. Even though I've only since 2 of your videos, I feel comfortable enough to send many hugs and support your way.
You are wonderful and not ugly...:)))
I feel very drawn to Riyadh
Everything you said made so much sense. I always thought I was crazy for not wanting to play the game or for feeling heartbroken over something that might not have been so official. Thank you for sharing and making me realize that I'm not alone.
I'm the first view? sweet. also AW WHY WOULD ANYONE DUMP YOU?
haha how come!
Is he gay
+faze crazy yes, it's not hard to guess.
+faze crazy considering he talks about getting a boyfriend
+KawaiiController thanks
I wish I was that ugly. >.>
But you are that ugly. 😂
Another attention hog right here people. Pay attention to me cuz nobody else matters and you have the hots for him. Lol it's obvious,imma hit you cuz I like you crap. Love yourself cuz this is damaging behavior
Aww Riyadh, you're great! My relationship of 8yrs very similarly after the Christmas holiday and it just sucks. But things get better. Dating sucks and it can feel like you'll be alone forever. But I was reading an article and it posed the question: "If you knew with absolute certainty that you would be alone for the rest of your life, what would you do differently?" The answer is a resounding "EVERYTHING" Much love, xx
Great news everybody, Riyadh's single! back off bitches I saw him first :D.
Application signed. You're gorgeous and genuine.
Its very brave of you to open up and dont hate him, most people cant show that they have feelings and dont respect the others in this way. Think about the exs you loved and still was able to move on, this always help me! You will find a nice person for sure, never play the game, please! Be yourself and enjoy it! (:
I would date you so hard man :) cheer up fella.
Riyadh you're so gorgeous!! I'm a straight girl and I'm fucking attracted to you 😂
I'm so so sorry about your heart break... currently right now I'm in the same messy situation, so I can 100% relate to what you feel :'(
Love drunk
Good luck with your relationships in the future hope everything works out for you 😘
+jamie hurd your not ugly Riyadh full support to you
This is truly vulnerable and beautiful. Stay around people who you want to be around and true family and friends. Love from Atlanta,Ga USA..xo
I just went trough a very similar thing, and it really hurts like shit. I love how you can already be so positive about it, whil I still wanna scratch his car.
You're a real inspiration.
This was such an honest video about how hard dating can really be. When someone rejects you it makes you deeply question your self-worth. I don't comment often, but I wanted to say that I appreciated your candidness and wish you well.
i dont know why riyadh
but this is the first video on youtube that made my eyes wet
like i never cry or express my emotions
but this did it
like it is so fuckin relatable
thank you for being real with all your admirers or fans here
means a lot
i hope you have a nice year ahead
and merry XMAS DEAR RIYADH!
Thank you for sharing, kinda ironic that I watch this very video for the first time exactly 1 year after it was uploaded. Really hope you are in a better place and have found a person who can make you smile! Cause you got a good one cutie.
What a freaking beautiful video. You had such a lovely message at the end. You're hopeful and positive and everything I'm not being with a slightly bruised heart. But it's inspiring.
I respect your honesty such a brave move you do this. We deserve someone better. You got new subcriber!
I'm so sorry! I know breakups are hard. You are such a sweet man, you will find proper love when it's right!
Always be Yourself, cause is better and less stressful. It seems like you really know what you want and that's incredible. My respects
This is the second video I've watched of you. Never have I gained so much respect for a person in the space of 20 minutes. The way you handled that whole situation is so amazing and rather than lashing out you understood both sides. I'm sure you'll find happiness and an amazing guy!
Sorry for what happened. You deserve so much better. You're an amazing, wonderful man and will find your man when the time is ready. I too was just dumped and feel your pain, although she decided to ghost me. Such immaturity. Sending hugs, love and positivity.
I'm so sorry, Riyadh! Heartbreak happens to everyone and it's totally, 100% normal. You're honestly my favorite youtuber and I hope you find someone who loves you for YOU. And once you do it'll feel amazing. Until then it's also more than fine to be single and that does not invalidate your worth in the slightest! Sending good vibes your way 💫
I hope you know how amazing you are, i went through the exact same thing but on holiday in Crete for one week. day two three days after his birthday and a day after me organising the honeymoon sweet he said he didn't love me anymore. A week later he asked me to meet for food in Dublin and then reiterated his feelings by saying "just to clarify i still don't love you". Your video is proof that you just have to love yourself and let thing run their course. I coped by going to paris and getting long gel nails! #littlethings Ireland loves you Riyadh stay strong!! :)
I just found your channel and this video - I am so in this place right now and I just straight out ugly cried listening to this. Thank you so much for sharing this ❤️
I just discovered your channel. The first I watched was you with your parents and then I watched your bbc series. You're definitely real. Gorgeously authentic.Thanks for your grace and charm. Mucho lovage to you and yours from Australia. ;)
Oh i just want to hug you to pieces! Im glad youve been so positive about this but i hope and pray you know what a beautiful man you are, physically and personally :)
This video was.. so sad and at the same time so cute.. Like, I'm glad to be a part of your online family, and I really feel this way ! Be brave with that moment of your "journey" and please be back with a biiiig smile on your face !
He would have been so lucky to have you and you probably are way too good for him. This video is so open and not spiteful at all. You are absolutely gorgeous and amazing and I want yo let you know that for a lot of people you are the person they feel is there when they feel shit as they can watch one of your amazing videos. Lots of love and thank you x
I stumbled upon your channel today. What a breath of fresh air you are. You are insightful, caring, funny, honest, and self aware. It may take time to find someone who appreciates all those qualities you have. Don't settle, you deserve it all. Have faith in yourself and goodness will follow.