Dresses I've Sold and Why I Sold Them
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Lolitas: Why i sold my dress
Lol, yes 100%
You should never have to explain or apologise for selling a dress for any reason. They are your clothes and while I like the idea of reassuring people that selling is OK, remember that you too are entitled to privacy
"It's not smoking weed, it's blowing bubbles." can't say I was expecting hearing that, the story was so funny!
LMAO
Aw, it's so cute! I love that one!
Government person: So, you've decided to move BACK to America, huh?
Lor: Yes, I have.
Gov: What? Didn't like Canada? Didn't live up to your expectations?!???
Lor: No, it's beautiful and I love it. But I need to prioritize things in my life and I need to buy a house for my Lolita wardrobe.
“The squirrels are just hamsters in cosplay”
I’m using this in my real life.
I’m embroidering it on a pillow....
I had a friend that told me she couldn't wear purple and I was like "Impossible"! Then one day we went shopping together, she tried on a purple top and it looked so weird with her skin tone. I was totally mind blown at the idea that someone could not wear purple, but it is a real thing.
Skin undertones makes a big impact on how colors look on you, there are a lot of videos about that topic in the make up community. Avoid the "beauty guru"s, and stick to factual advice videos
Yup lavender tones do make me look greenish-orange if that's even possible, royal purple is fine but someone else can rock all those light purple pastels
She could try different shades of purple. There are purples closer to blue and ones closer to red, so it could just be a matter of finding the right hue. I can't wear (too much) bright cherry red because my hair looks a weird bronzy green color next to it, but it looks just find with slightly bluer shades of red like burgundy and maroon.
This is why people try the color test analysis in Korea or something. Like they find out which seasonal palettes best suit you and which ones to avoid!
Whenever I tried wearing yellow, people asked me if I wasn't feeling well; yellow literally makes me look sick!
You sold that French Cafe Op to me a few years ago! It’s still one of my favorite dresses. I hope you find the one you are looking for!
“I pretend they’re hamsters in cosplay.” 😂
:-) just a smiley face. I'm not saying I'm with or against it. Just a smiley face.
Best UA-cam line yet
I don't regret selling any of the dresses I've sold, but I wish I had asked more for them. I always thought that you needed to lower your price by half each time you tried to sell it. I ended up selling some AP and Haenuli dresses for the same price as Bodyline. I'm sure the purchasers were happy about the deals they got.
Yeah Texas is one of the last places where you can be close to a major city and your Rent isn't arm and a leg . Dispite having a full closet I'm still very basics only. I usually only have 3 blouses, 3 main pieces and 3 large accessories that I can mix and match.
My parents bought me two skirts from Bodyline in my early days and I loved them at the time and thinking back on them they're super cute, one was a pink cake print and the other was a blue Alice print and they both had bustle style backs. Anyway, I loved them to death for a long while but then I hit my "ew Bodyline" phase and wanted to save up for brand. Well a few years passed and I was talking to my mom about lolita and how I sold those skirts and she was really upset because she had bought them for me and regret hit me in the face like a baseball bat. I immediately took to the internet to try finding them to rebuy them and undo what my shitty teenage self did but alas, I haven't seen them since.
😭😭 I've been there
Wishing you all the best x
I understand how she feels, but you can't keep every gift forever. Clothing you don't want to wear being bogged down in your closet unworn isn't doing either of you any good. My mother went to Bttsb when she was in Japan and brought me back socks and a dress that I cherished and wore at the time but eventually decided weren't my style, and she understood that when I sold them. I have a giant toy elephant that I need to give away taking up lots of space in my apartment... I am nervous about what the friend who bought it for me years ago would say when I do (the literal elephant in the room), but it MUST be done. XDD
And buying them back won't really be the same. You can't guarantee it'll be the same one she got you and if not, what's the point? Just my opinion - I respect if you disagree. :)
I get feeling bad, but you don’t have to keep gifts forever. It’s something I feel bad, but style changes and you change too. I get in particular if you actually liked the skirts that would make it different. But you’re not bad for selling something that’s a gift, especially if it was a while after getting it
Even if you get them back, it's done. I have a LIEF dress that my parents bought for me. Maybe it doesn't fit anymore but it has such a sentimental value for me.
RE: being overwhelmed by comments
Have you considered maybe getting a virtual assistant? I dunno if that would be affordable for you, but I used to do a job where I more or less delt with comments and emails for someone--I had certain scripts I would use for common questions, send a document every day with things she might need to actually respond to, forward emails with job offers that might actually be worthwhile, responded to Facebook messages, etc. It's totally reasonable to be overwhelmed by responding to comments and keeping track of stuff once you have a lot of followers!
If that wouldn't be cost effective, then another thing you could do with the specific issue you mentioned here is keep a document or folder where you either copy-paste comments or save screenshots of ideas you like and might want to use, where you include the name and place you saw it. I'd recommend something like Google Docs for that, since you can access it on both your phone and any computer you might be using. I can be really disorganized and forgetful, so I rely on lists I've saved in Google Docs or elsewhere A LOT!
I’ve been trying to sell a children’s dress from Alice Girl that I got for my sister because I just noticed when we got it that it had a bunch of crosses on it. I’m Muslim so avoiding cross iconography can be really difficult in Lolita but something I stand by.
Imagine having to explain why you don't want a dress anymore XD
Thank you for all you do, Lor!
Lor: yeah so this is my dress
Someone: haha 420 blaze it
Lor: 🤪
The fact that some feel entitled to judge and get offended that you sell your own things is very sad. Whatever way you got rhe dress, when it's given to you it is then YOUR PROPERTY. Nobody is entitled to dictate what you do with your things. This idea of giving people shit for selling or doing whatever else with their own things as if it were public property or the person was obligated to keep it forever just because they didn't directly buy it is ridiculous.
Great video and it was interesting to hear all the reasons you have to sell items. It definitely helped me feel more comfortable with the idea I have of selling most of my lolita pieces later on because I'm switching primarily to ouji.
I regret selling my first dress. For some reason newbe me didn't know why it doesn't look good. I thought that it's too much fabric and the dress is too heavy to be fully seen. Now I own good petti and it would look stunning ;_;
13:30 I have never wanted a busy AP print dress until this very moment
It's so pretty 😍
I have one skirt that kind of got ruined for me by a bad seller on Lace Market. They had marked it as S size, I had checked from the taobao site that it would fit me, aaaaand what arrives to me is size XL skirt.
I messaged the seller bit confused, they pretty much just lied to my face about the sizing- OF A SKIRT I WAS HOLDING IN MY HAND- , saying it was the smallest size available. It's NWOT so I don't want to alter it in case I would just be able to buy the right size eventually.
But now every time I look at the print, I'm reminded of that seller and their dodgy answers and how I probably should've pushed more to get at least a partial refund :(
Didn't you pay with paypal? When you can prove it paypal does the work for you refunding. I totaly understand that the print is now connected with a negativ feel.
@@kidaria1333 it was over a year ago now, I can't really go after a refund at this point. It's just sad how a simple thing soured the whole print :(
Are you still selling it? 👀
My closet had a mass exodus because I lost over 100 pounds and could not fit into any of my JSK’s. I’m still to big for main brand, but there are lots of Indie shops I want to start collecting from.
Even if you had truly gotten the dress "for free" (which I think rarely happens), I don't see where the problem with selling it "for profit" would be*.
It's your dress, if you have more use for the money that it is worth, than the dress itself, selling it is the next logical step. Keeping a dress that has zero use to you seems irrational.
*outside of potential contract issues, of course, although I would be really weirded out if a company paid me with an object and demands me to keep it around for however many years.
I was about to sell my dream dress, AP Horror Candy Shop in Lavender, because it did not fit me well. Then everyone in my community told me to just get it altered and that I would regret it later. I'm so glad I listened to them because every time I look at it, I think of the regret that I cold have suffered from!!!
"The squirrels are just hamsters in cosplay"
So, I know what I'm going to be drawing next
I totally understand the different shades of color affecting your skin tone. For example, for me its yellow. I cannot wear pale yellow shades to save my life because they make me look washed out. However i can wear darker, brighter, and more mustardy toned yellows with no problems at all. It kind of sucks because when i was in high school and shopping for prom dresses, i tried on this gorgeous baby pale yellow dress and it just looked aweful on me, i remember being so upset about it too.
I used to be really passionately straight edge too. It is good to hear I am not the only one. I started drinking when I was 27, and I was the same way as you about stuff. Now I am the same as you, I don't smoke anything, but I also don't care. It is nice to hear from other people like me who also grew up in the early days of fandom.
I am really enjoying your videos. I wear lots of alternative fashion and prolifically cosplay, but I am not a Lolita, nor have I worn the fashion. I am huge a fan of the fashion, even though it is not something I personally am not into seeing on myself. I just love looking at it and learning about it. Thanks for posting and educating.
Omg so wild that you mention skin undertones and dress colorways! I was just talking about that to someone wondering about a cream or soft blue colorway on a dress
i really appreciated you talking about undertones! i have yellow undertones, and have been so bummed lately that i can't pull off mints and greens, but then you talking about your issues with pinks made me realize that while i can't wear those greens, i can pull off some colors other people can't! lol, that sounds bad like that, but i hope i'm communicating how you've made me not be as bummed about my inability to wear mint. xD
Same!
Got so into Lolita bc of you! sadly I live in Costa Rica so the weather is too hot for the blouses and petticoats :(
Celeste Arias so true
Try a hoop petticoat! They hold all the fabric away from your legs!
Potassuim_Cation uuuuuuuh never thought of that! I’ll try it out!
Cotton bloomers also shield your legs from the polyester that most pettis are lined with, and also keep you cool.
Sheer blouses and short-sleeved cotton blouses are your friend. Avoid long-sleeved polyester blouses like the devil, they'll make you overheat. Ankle socks for your legs, cotton bloomers and hoop pettis around your waist. Get wide sunhats and trim them with bows and flowers.
Is it weird I wanted a video like this? Nobody ever talks about selling dresses it’s like taboo and idk Y.
When i first got into lolita, i was convinced id be classic only (???) After a year of that, i gave into the pastel abyss and sold a ton of my classic stuff. I kept my absolute favorite pieces but i have yet to give up my pastels, i love them so much
We are all overwhelmed! What matters is that you take the time to read the comments and do videos your audience is asking for! Thank you for being amazing and caring about your audience!
I have only one regret regarding a dress: i once owned the high waisted version in Ivory of the Vampire Requiem jsk by Alice and the Pirates. I loved it so, so much, it didn't really fit me well because i'm tall and chonky, but it was a gift from my ex in a period of my life in which i was very confused about myself, so it gained sentimental value really quickly. I made the error to say to that ex while we were still together that she could use it from time to time, since it didn't really fit me all that well and on the other end she could wear it just fine. And once we broke up, she stole it from me and i never saw it again. I don't really care for her anymore, but i still sometimes thinks of that jsk.
Omg that pink fabric vs. pink skin undertones explains so much! I had a yellow dress that made me look really sick (as in people asking "Are you okay??? Do you need to sit down?" sick, not the awesome kind lol) and I never got what was going on there because other shades of yellow look fine on me. So weird!
I was euphoric when I managed to get rid of all my bodyline from my ita phase. I actually regret selling a fanplusfriend skirt, it had a gorgeous print on the front panel was so flattering and sturdy. It was also the last gothic piece I had, so I couldn't do goth coords for awhile (still can't, lol. Too busy buying Hime)
oooo I was thinking to do a video like this for a while now too! I'll have to go through ghosts of dresses past as well!! ...
I don't even wear sweet, but now I want that dress solely for the one rabbit because it's funny
Your bit about Toy Fantasy was hilarious xD Toy Fantasy is my favorite print dress. I actually have the pink, sax, and white/pink jsks because I'm that obsessed. I also bought new sets from the MTO in Japan last year that will be delivered this September (hopefully). I love Lyrical blowing the bubbles and you didn't ruin it for me at all.
Edit: I haven't sold any dresses before. There's only dresses I regret buying. Dx
yes i feel you!!! for me cooler shades of pink just leaves my skin looking absolutely lifeless and yellow. if anyone out there is struggling with stuff like tht too i rly recommend watching The Art of Color by AlexandrasGirlyTalk! she explains the best shade matches for each skin and hair tone based on color theory.
I love that pastel purple dress on you! That color looks great with your skin tone and style ❤️
I hope she makes a part too. I was looking forward to her talking about her innocent world dress Cesky Krumlov
Aaaa toy fantasy is one of my dream dresses! If I could get the pink or blue version at some point I would be so happy
That last story was such an experience.
aawww I remember meeting you at the SF asian art museum meetup in 2015-16 and you were wearing the Cream Cookie OP! Its almost like bittersweet to see it in this vid
Dude I feel you on getting overwhelmed with comments and messages. I'm a pretty reclusive person, and being social is taxing. I just had a panic moment with one of my videos getting a lot of traction and feeling dread thinking about needing to respond. At a certain point, it's just unfeasable to respond to everything. Take care of yourself!
They are blowing bubbles with a Japanese bubble straw rather than a western bubble wand. You can google シャボン玉 to find pictures of Japanese children blowing bubbles with these plastic straws. It's not an uncommon outdoor/summertime toy in Japan.
I posted a pic of one of my skirts on tumblr years ago. It unfortunately found its way to the dark tumblr circuit (you know the one) and after getting thousands of notes from those types of blog I just couldn't.....wear it anymore. Buuut it's casual 'cause i'm clueless when it comes to styling skirts anyways. Had a really odd experience selling it too.
That blouse is so lovely! I love how artistic your coords are ❤️
The 420 Blaze It Bunny makes me want Toy Fantasy ten times more, thanks for that lmao
I have an usakumya JSK (it has an incredibly long name) and it has a weird pink tone, it's more rosie for sure.
I’ve been binging old Lor videos bc I need big sister lolita happy time vibes 💕🌷💕
lor i love you and the content that you make, your channel is always a nice change of place when wanting to just have nice feel good time. Thank you for always making content for us.
the blaze it bunny is my hero
(I am sorry for your fashion loss though)
Lor !!!!! You are so sweet being concerned about being unable to respond to everyone or remember anything ! it's totally okay and we understand
Hope u can feel less stressed/overwhelmed soon
As the one that bought the Bunny and Black Nurse Jumper, thank you for selling it to me! 😃 It is one of my favorite pieces - so uncommon and lovely. It took me quite a while to get everything to put together a decent coord I am happy with. I have worn it a few times including for an online meetup last month. At some point (soon) I need to get going and post it on Amino. 😅
i would've literally bought the dress for so much more than it's worth just because of the bunny smoking a joint, can't believe that was a reason to give it away
I've grown out of lolita and moved more to Otome and just dressing cute with out all the rules. Some times I just want to wear a poofy skirt for the hell of it with a t shirt! I even sold off my favorite JSK but in the end I got clothes I will wear more so it was worth it! I have four lolita dresses left , one because I can use it for other outfits, the other two because I feel like a princess and I love it. And then my first brand dress ever because it's special.
that weed bunny story is actually HILARIOUS haha
Oh my gosh that story about the weed bunny just killed me🤣🤣🤣🤣 Idk why there aren't more comments of people dying of laughter. Idk I'm sorry if it wasn't meant to be funny but just the way you described your reactions to the "weed smoking" bunny was hilarious😂
ah wow i love that cord
420 blaze it bunny HSJDKSKDJK now i want that dress lmao
I kinda get the 420 rabbit thing, I've never been straight edge but was very conservative when I was a teen. Thank the universe I let go of that bs, didn't take me anywhere 😓
I recently sold Milky Cross. I specifically bought for a Saints and Sinners themed tea party. It was the first AP dress I owned, and it helped me realize I could actually wear brand. (I had convinced myself that AP was unattainable, and that it would never fit me. Weird how we talk ourselves out of our dreams.) Now I own sooo much AP. I guess you could say it was my gateway dress lol. It just didn't really fit my style and I'm not a huge fan of crosses. It is a really lovely dress though, and I appreciate the confidence it gave me.
I have such an affinity for lolita fashion ( and goth) even though I don't wear it myself. Maybe our kindred spirits come from me being a prep through and through. I love pastels, blouses with pussy cat bows, cardigans, gingham, plaid, lace, pearls, kitten heels and Keds©. Lol. Lolita is the version of myself I imagine if I had a lot more $ and appropriate activities to attend in it. The solid dresses and Halloween type prints just speak to my soul. Love it!
I got rid of all my Lolita back in like 2010 and I REGRET selling Metamorphose March of Ducks. I loved that dress so much and wore it a ton. Obviously that was ten years ago and I probably wouldn’t still be wearing it but now I don’t even have the opportunity to have it and NOT wear it lol
My grandma lives in Toronto! Maybe if I go visit her we will run into each other hehe 💖
I feel that previously being completely straight edge 😢 Sending good vibes to find the dress again!
No shame in selling something that doesn’t fit right/isn’t comfortable. I ended up selling my first Angelic Pretty dress because I wasn’t happy with the fit of the cut i had. My wardrobe turnover has been either clearing out the random things I bought when I was first getting into lolita that don’t match my style anymore or things that weren’t fitting me comfortably
Omg now i want the dress with the weed bunny
I looked up the Bunny&Black Nurse jsk and the first thing that showed up was a picture of you
420blazeitbunny is the funniest story I've ever heard about a lolita dress, especially as currently a straight edge person lol
I sold my first two dresses in 2017 when I was jobless and couldn't justify delving any further in lolita: BtSSB's Ribbon JSK in pink from the 2012 winter lucky pack and Bodyline's Chocoberry JSK, (spoiler: i'm more into lolita now than i've ever been lol). Out of the 3 dresses I owned at the time, I'd only worn the Ribbon JSK once years prior to a convention. I thought I'd be okay letting go of it after convincing myself it wasn't really my style anyway even if I did get back into the fashion, and I was keeping another Baby dress I got for much cheaper as a consolation of sorts...fast forward to now, my wardrobe is slowly but surely growing again, I've worn what I have several times, and I'm sorely missing my first dress ;__; The worst part is that I have very little hope of finding it again since it's a really obscure dress, as I've only seen it for secondhand sale twice (once on Closet Child when I purchased it and once on LM in the black colorway). I'm just keeping my fingers crossed that it'll show up on the market again someday.
8:14
WE COULD OF TWINNED LOR. WE COULD OF FUCKING TWINNED.
I sold my Sugary Carnival skirt last year because I just wasn't into skirts, and now I regret it SO much. I've just resigned myself to the fact I'm not going to own it again because the prices it goes for now is absolute insanity. I also have a Diamond Honey jsk I'm planning on selling because it's a really pale sax and it makes me look hella orange!
I just sold a dress I was really excited to receive, because it was red. I expected it to be red, I thought it was pretty. I hate the color red... Just in general. It does NOT spark joy.... I love the print, I loved the way the dress looked on me, but I couldn't be happy looking at it because of the colo rway I selected. I'd say that's the weirdest reason I've sold a dress.
This was great to watch for me to get excuses to sell dresses ,as I’m quite the hoarder haha. Thanks for sharing!
I am a hoarder, I rarely sale my dresses, but I recently sold an IW one because I had to accept it doesn't fit me anymore and whenever I put it on, I would be so self conscious and I hated feeling that way. Also, I needed the money.
Hi, just want to say that AP is re-releasing French Cafe if you are still interested :)
He doesn’t look like he’s smoking a joint lmao.... the bunny is blowing bubbles.
Great video though, very interesting.
Yes, Lor, come to Texas!
Great video as usual :)
You would love Texas, yes old fashioned just how like it.
There's only one dress I regret selling but I was in a really bad financial situation & I needed the cash. Of course it's a btssb one that I haven't really seen since 😭.
i love your vids and i am trying to be a lolita and watching these videos really help me choose
For me it was happy baloon... when i got the dress it just did'nt read well with my style so i sold it :).
Was just watching your videos and saw you posted! Woooh! :)
Please move to Texas! The DFW Comm needs you ❤️
Toy fantasy was once my dd and that bunny blowes soap bubbles nothing to do with weed looool it is also a matching bunny bubbles necklace
MOVE TO TEXAS LOR YESSS
I live in Texas. You dreaming of coming to Texas is the same as me dreaming of going to Canada. My rent is ridiculous, but I’d rather get human rights than a bunch of land in a more rural area of Texas.
I sold my memorial cake skirt because I just don't know how to coordinate skirts and now I'm looking for this print :-(
I know the prices of renting in Toronto are insane, but have you looked at other areas around the GTA? I heard the rent in Stratford isn't as insane
You shouldn't need to defend yourself on why you sold something own but also it was interesting to hear your reason why the dresses didn't work for you.
The last one, I see it as blowing bubbles, not smoking a joint though i can see where the idea came from.😊
Weed bunny made me cackle and I couldn't adequately explain to my husband why. lol
Omg that toy fantasy rant is so funny tbh hahaha
I sold milky planet and now I regret it 😭😭😭 do you have any tips on how to find Lolita dresses other than lace market? What are some ways to go about finding your dream dresses?
Lor please tell me where did you get that wig... It's so cute!!! 😭🤍
It's from Rockstar Wigs, apparently. Lor always does an Instagram post for her videos coords that tells you where her pieces are from.
@@lady_sir_knight3713 Ooh I see, thank you! I don't have instagram, so I wouldn't know :p
So I made a promise to myself that I’d only wear OPs. I have 5. Never worn them. I have just not been prioritizing buying accessories and such to go with them. I’m not ready to give up on OPs (I haven’t even really tried). Any advice??
Do you know why you haven't worn your OPs yet? Is it because you have nothing to wear them with? It's a bit difficult to offer advice without knowing what exactly is the problem.
Either way, 5 OPs is plenty of dresses to start off your wardrobe, so I'd suggest focusing on getting accessories, shoes and a petticoat to wear with them so you can at least try wearing them (even if only indoors) and see if you like them.
THERE'S A 4:20 BLAZE IT BUNNY SMOKING WEED IN MY DRESS
I LOST IT AJHSGDHJGA
i own your old jewel marine now !! i'm taking good care of it :)
I'm not into lolita fashion, I do dress alternatively tho, but not lolita, but omg after seeing the toy fantasy print I found it so funny how it looked like he was smoking a blunt, and then I checked the dress and I found the blue op one and found it so gorgeous, I just really feel the need to have it now. But that raises one question, is it offensive or bad for me, who doesn't wear lolita at all, to own and wear a lolita dress, despite not being in the community and possibly not even wearing it in a lolita co-ord situation? Cause I think it would look really cute juxtaposed with black combat boots and fishnets casually. Help!