He was a red flag from the moment I saw him have so many female friends Cynthia had to meet. Hope he really works on himself and does better. Love Cynthia, she seems so sweet and gave up being the queen of real housewives for him, she deserves true love 💕
Exactly, he knew dam well Cynthia wasn’t he’s type, there was no need to get married to her, he won’t be talking about his other wives it will always be about his to Cynthia, just like Mark he doesn’t like Kenya but still hooking on because of the connections.
I have been married to a black man for 12 years together for 14. Our marriage works because we went into it knowing that we were entering into a covenant with God, periodt! Perfect, nope! But I can honestly say we are best friends first of all and actually like each-other. He has my back and I have his periodt! Your mouth will get boxed if you come for either one of us! 🤣 We are perfect for each-other! I feel couples don’t take the time to get to really know each-other. Before you marry get to know the good, bad and ugly because not much will change with that person so you have to fall in-love with who they are. If you marry for superficial reason more times than not it will be a wrap at the end of the day. Marriage is honored by God and having him as your third strand, (the third person in your marriage) you have a shield, protection, comforter, love, cheerleader and you are covered by the blood of Jesus! Stop 🛑 getting married just for the sake of saying weeze married now… Shalom
I’m 52. I been married once for 13 years. I am currently engaged and I am taking it slow because I never want to divorce again. I also don’t want to grow old alone or in the arms of different men.
“…in the arms different men.” It is becoming increasingly dangerous out there for senior citizens (not referring to you). I’ve heard reports from the past and more recently that STD/STI cases are rising due to Cialis/ Viagara type meds. along with prostitution within elder homes & communities. Everyone be very careful. Best wishes to you.
Because that reason just doesn't fly. Maybe he doesn't know why he's a serial cheater but suggesting that he's unhealed from a heartbreak in high school is simply not believable. We're not mad at him, we're just saying, go back and do some more soul searching brotha, because that ain't it and it's coming off as dishonest. Was he molested as a child? Something's not making sense here. He's broken 3 womens' hearts with 3 failed marriages and he sits here talking about not himself not being able to recover from a broken heart in high school? Something's not adding up here.
I agree! I feel he has commitment issue and he is very selfish. He is good at giving advice but not good at taking his own advice. I hope he gets some help. I am curious to know if he ever had therapy.
Enjoyed the podcast and the honesty. It’s amazing that getting dumped in high school still plagues some men in their 40 and 50’s? There are so many women who experienced that sane trauma, and they are able to refrain from bringing that into their next relationships. Very interesting.
If only he and Cynthia didn’t get married so quickly they both wasted each other’s time. I once dated a man Mikes age and he was in turmoil over losing his youth. He always tried to look younger than his age and wanted to know lots of women admired him. Grow old gracefully fellas, if you find a queen start acting like the king.
To not speak highly of them would be poor for his REbranding efforts. He’s read the cultural room, you don’t speak negative of your ex especially if they are famous on social platform.
@@clarityspeakzYou shouldn't do it period. Kinda sad that although that's true it's a sad shameful fact to think that's why over actual character and integrity
That's great but he's broken 3 women's hearts with 3 failed marriages. His honesty doesn't mean a "Hill" of beans when he keeps cheating. When is he going to get it right? Is he in therapy?
If a woman stops going out it doesn't mean it is a red flag. Stop the nonsense. All women are not the same. Some are homebodies, career goals, kids, relationships, and so on. Really.
Just pointing out that everyone wants love, even if they’re traumatized. When we’re looking at Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, the need of love and belonging comes well before self-actualization. Also, we change as we get older. Marriage is loving that person through their changes. To demand people stay the same is asinine. In fact, you should be skeptical of a person who stays the same. “The man who views the world at 50 the same as he did at 20 has wasted 30 years of his life”. It’s only natural that we change as we learn.. the mark of intelligence.
Definitely have Mike Hill on a LIVE! He dropped some realness here that men just aren't taught to do without being seen as soft or not a "man's man". Looking forward to a live with him on it!
I give Mr. Hill credit for being honest and taking accountability for his past. Credit for knowing where he was vs where he wants to be, and what it takes to get there. Men/Wo-men listen to what was said. I can hug myself after listening to this episode 🤗 While waiting for that possible one to hug me genuinely and sincerely. Thank you guy’s
Yeah, but why couldn't he do that work while he was married instead of cheating? It's time to stop making excuses for his cheating and dig deeper to find out what's really going on with him.
I can relate to the child hood love experience. And I share that same sentiment when an ex girl who I was truly in love with broke up with me because my love was intense. And she dated my neighbor who was a womanizer and I warned her and she got used. 10 years later she came back and said I was the only one she ever dated who really treated with respect and love. Checked all her boxes but unfortunately I can never love like that again because I was “Scarred and became afraid to be betrayed and abandoned by a woman.” And I walk more with integrity but the women I see don’t mirror that intensity and commitment so I love you but I’m not in love with you. That’s when healing has to be done. Be like Elsa from frozen and “Let it Go!” We all messed up when we were younger. We realize our mistakes and be better individuals. You can be vulnerable with your soulmate and you both know how it feels to be betrayed. So you protect each others heart while respectfully holding on to who you are and becoming who you need to be for the whole.
EXCELLENT interview! Mike dropped a lot of information, and cleared up some past assumptions on RHOA. Mike Hill it's clear that "you've done the work", and I love it! I'm so happy for you. #NABJPride ❤
This is a very important conversation...social media or the access that sm provides is destroying relationships. Much respect to Mike for shining a light on his weaknesses. He's definitely not by himself!
This was an excellent interview, Mike shared truths and honest experiences from his heart. He dropped major nuggets. Become whole before you seek someone. Scarred and scared is real 💔
No one is 100% whole. That's just plain false. We're all a work in progress and you can do the work while you are married. Give each other grace while we learn. I disagree with that statement.
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What I have found as I’ve gotten older, I’ve gone through years of therapy I’m really starting to understand life after the age of 50 you actually do need someone. We all need a mate or a friend. If you ever notice when you go to the doctor, they ask you about your social life. Do you live with family members? How close are they to you? Do you have? That’s because these things matter for your health just as Physical. And that is not just enough to be happy and content with your life and now want to kill yourself, but we thrive when we have a maid that we get along with in harmony and live together. It is what makes us thrives as Humans and we don’t want to admit that because everyone wants to wear a different type of life they think is fun and justify that whether it’s polygamy or being free and single, etc. with those long as are the ones that have their life made and wonderful relationships. They’ve been in a long time and they live a long time. You have to find someone that pours into you just as you porn to them, that is important. I just came to this revelation couple weeks ago after trying to understand health screening questions and understanding why do I feel a certain way? A lot of person is because. It’s not weakness to admit that someone makes you excited. You hear their voice to see them. That is a good thing when you find it you want to keep that feeling and you have to work hard at it but you have to work hard at any relationship even ones that you wanna have with your little children or adult children or mothers or aunts or uncles. Find your person and live long.
Mr. Hill, thank you for just being honest and transparent. Very enlightening keep being honest and helping other men who want to be helped. Relearning is correct. Thank you.
Question: Why do men in general seem to be afraid of an opiniated woman? An independent woman who can take care of her own finances is not likely to give up her voice to protect "his" manhood. Y'all need to decide. Either you want a financially independent woman, or you gonna choose a woman who you will need to provide for.
The issue is how a woman displays or brings opinion... if you talk to him like he's a child. like the saying, it's not what you say it's how you say it.
It seems this guest has mastered the art of saying what everyone else says. I look forward to this show featuring non-celebrity people to share real stories of everyday life & show the precious & specific way God touched them.
This guy is a self admitted serial cheater, Cynthia married him anyway. Where they ended up is exactly no surprise. He's minimizing his past as he sits here, but he wrote a book about it, Not about how to overcome. And BS- he was filmed flirting around with other women in a bar while Cynthia was not in town. He is so full of himself. How anyone can take this guy serious is beyond me. There are many amazing, devoted, honest men who have never stepped foot in this guy's ideologies that stand in their convictions, and do so without the history this dude has at his big age. They have my respect. And the theory there is forgiveness for women who cheat is inaccurate. Anyone disloyal has a problem and IS the problem. This dude has no respect for women and used Cynthia like the rest of the women he filtered through. He's still blaming her if you listen carefully. People tell him not to get married Not because of him finding the right person, but because he is Not right with the person he marries. I don't believe a word out of his mouth, he's interested in gaining clout and found the way to do it by preaching. He's preaching accountability while taking very little. Well, this isn't Church, and he needs to find God. There are Plenty of beautiful and amazing men to take advice from their experiences on this earth. Get better heros.
I like listening to him- Mike Hill -talk, he seems very thorough in his explaining things without telling exactly the things that happened. I will look for his books to read. I will say this: I understand the need to be whole, healed & without baggage before they enter a relationship of marriage, but if we got so completely together before another person came to stay in our life, we would really not want or need to be in a permanent relationship as marriage. Our issues don't stop most people from indulging in sexual activities. So make sure we aren't using some of these truth-awareness topics and statement as reasons to not be in a real relationship &/or to not get married. I love the men who don't mind getting and being married, but if you're not staying married and it boils down to- they just wasn't the right person (for whatever reason), then there's still something wrong...but how about- learn to stay in for the long haul.
I enjoyed this so much. It felt like Mike came in and Skooled these young guys on so many things. They way they were both wide eye, listening to him tells you that they respect what he was saying. No one was over talking or shouting, just listening to respond. None of that it was a pure listening and learning experience. Thanks!😂
This episode was cleansing. I appreciate the brother laying it down at the feet of those younger dudes like he did. Way to lead the flock Mike!...Just WOW!!! 💯 🔥🎯
Basically, he wants a woman to be consumed with work to earn a lot of money such that she will be able to provide him a lavish lifestyle. AND he will try his best to practice monogamy. These "boss" women best come to the table with wisdom to know that they are only helping their man save more than half his income to spend on things he values more than her, such as automobiles, jewelry, clothes, shoes, and other women.
@teresamarie7460 I think too many have limited views on the dynamics of people. There are narratives pushed and although there is truth to them, there is also another side. There are women who are high earners, work when it’s time and go home and are in family mode when at home. I think Mike was just saying that he wants a woman who won’t be too idle that she is bored all the time, miserable, complaining and missing him (which can and may lead to her cheating). )
@@nenajay3174 Nope... A childless woman will have plenty to do to preoccupy her time. Mike said what he said and his third ex wife was not about to provide him with a "soft life". 😂
@teresamarie7460 Some women will be busy and some won’t, and that’s with or without children. There are a number of housewives with children who have nannies and spend the day’s shopping and doing frivolous things. I’ve noticed that there are many high earning men who want thee women to nave something going on for that very reason-all they do is spend money and complain that their man is never around.
Am still watching but I wanted to answer your question about Trauma , when the person you dating act like something that happened in her past is still happening at the same severity level - this is how trauma response works , it is as if the situation is happening right now like it happened in the past - the brain and body has memory that takes folks back even people who had therapy in the past.. PSTD .. I know a woman who got raped when she was a little girl, shes married now for over 18yrs but still have trauma responses if you touch her without her knowledge . Because of the severity of what happened to her , her body takes her right back to when she was raped A lot of sympathy and empathy is needed ❤
This man is FIFTY+ YEARS OLD. Three marriages, still blaming the spouses, majority “female friends” and taking ZERO accountability. How the hell you still trying to “figure things out” at this big age???
He just wants to be a player, just stay single and don't keep getting married I hope Cynthia finds a good man that really truly love her and not hurt her
Facts! He played with Cynthia's head/heart big time, souped her up and had her thinking she was "the one" and he was ready. Well well well, he now says he's "still trying to figure it out". He's full of it! And he is low key complaining about the ex-wives not being the right one (for him).
This should have been a 2hr session!! He was speaking to the men, and I’m sure you know one that needs it!!! Really enjoyed!! He most DEFINITELY NEEDS TO DO A LIVE!!!!
I am late to the party. However, hats off to Mike. I have always been a fan and was rooting for he and Cynthia. I was so glad to hear him say "that you should want someone and not need them". People seem to think I'm crazy when I say I don't need a man. He made a lot of valid points and I hope all that heard him put their listening ears on. Excellent show! ❤
Mike's reasons for getting divorced three times is not valid... Mike if you were truly honest with yourself, you'd tell the truth. You just did not commit to either marriage. Commitment involves Your mind body and soul.
Live with Mike Hill; great show guys. Mike If those men/women can look inside themselves as you have shown us, better relationships can start off & be better in them.
Financial advice should come from a person successful with money, parental advice should come from someone who successfully raised children. Likewise, marital and relationship advice should come from a person that is successful at relationships. What even is this?
@jjefferson9319 I agree to some extent. Therapists, doctors, and other professionals may give good advice but not be the best in said areas. You may have the knowledge and be a great teacher or advisor while not applying it yourself. Some are better at explaining than doing. Also there a number of “successful” marriages aren’t necessarily actually successful. They are just surviving. That being said, I believe this was meant for Mike to mostly share his experiences.
TD Jakes has been on the scene since the 80’s… But because he’s a Pastor/Bishop ya’ll don’t want to listen!! Nobody can win with you people…. Pick someone and Learn! You don’t even need any of these people, you know right from wrong hopefully…The rest you Learn will come from your partners mouth. Pick Well by prayer and you’ll see success in your relationships.
Mike Hill is the proof for Tysean and Ryan (because most of us already know) that there are a number of men who are attracted to and prefer women who are ambitious.
"Ambitious woman" for BM from the USA means a woman who desires to make a lot of money at the expense of her children and peace such that she can afford to give him a lavish lifestyle.
@teresamarie7460 Not necessarily. Most households require two incomes, and most that I know have just that (unless circumstances forces single parenting). Many work 9 to 5 and are ambitious. And then there are work from home jobs. Also they’re men who work, work and work at the expense of the family as well. We need balance for functional, successful families.
I have a friend who grinds like Mike and after talking to him about what he wants, I recommended he maybe find a women who is also ambitious like that, because that's a trait that's attractive to him too. Her ambition doesn't necessarily mean she's an alpha, or at least even if she is an alpha in her grind but she knows how to turn that off at home....we've seen plenty of women on this show that are ambitious yet walk in their feminine energy. I do believe, depending on your ambitions, that something will fall by the wayside, because we can't simply be all things and do all things, but we have to be careful that we don't just dismiss women who are labeled or who label themselves ambitious. We have to take every woman as she is and not just put her in a box because of a label.
@@teresamarie7460 that is not true. I don’t know if you’re passport bro but your view of an ambitious woman is so far off. There are many ambitious women who are therefore their children first. There are women that don’t go for their children and don’t care about their children. Don’t put them first when they’re not even working. They are in relationships and full on housewives and are therefore their children so you cannot make that a measurement. A person being in there for the children has nothing to do with the level of ambition. If a person is there for their children, will put everything first before their child. They’re gonna do that regardless of what’s in their life. You can have someone as a cancer patient that’s dying on their bed and if they’re there to put their children first, they’re gonna put their children first when they should be putting their health first. a persons life does not equate, nor does it impact anything that they find precious is important to them and that’s not only including children, including their spouse, their family, their parents, their pets. People are who they are, and what they hold. Their will always be important to them while they are who they are because it’s important to them. As a woman who has put her child first and still does and that child is 32 years old and I am as ambitious as they come. Whatever is important to you is important to you and you sacrifice and don’t let that falter.
I believe Mike is a conniver! From the time he had that party on RHOA with all this female friends, I knew it would’t work with he and Cynthia. I’m sorry. Ladies run!
What is the RIGHT person? Why does the other person needs to be right? What about what you can bring, give and offer? What does happiness mean and is it fair to depend on someone else to get your happy? Love is patience,kind,long suffering, merciful,enduring,etc.
I love both Mike & Cynthia not throwing dirt on either one as I'm a huge fan for both of them & wish them both the best in success. Response to baby daddy staying over... Although I love baby daddy, let's keep it real, drag your suitcase to the nearest hotel, and check in. Our child can visit you and me as an adult. Respect to my partner. Point Blank!!! ❤❤❤
Great answers. Great topic. My daughter's Dad and her stepdad had that understanding. Yes, there are adults in relationships who can handle that. We sat down and had a conversation about this and since she was important to both of them, they made it work.
This is the interview that will for sure go viral. Looking forward to it being informative, and Initiating 😉good conversations within the black household.
YEP!! They can be complete mental, emotional and financial failures until their mid-50s but black women are supposed to have their lives together by 22. FOH!!!
Mr Hill, I like your MIND Set, marriage is for everyone that desires it. You have to know you and . And have patience with each other and learn each other and Respect each other as individuals and bond together as ONE. Being whole is simply acknowledged your short comings and working on them and Love the person you are and who they are. The main issue with everyone is TRUST after it’s been Broken
There is a book everyone should read Gary Thomas Sacred Marriage: What If God Designed Marriage to Make Us Holy More Than to Make Us Happy? Marriage is less about finding happiness and the right one, it’s an extension of God so finding the purpose partner to fulfill your God given purpose. A Helpmate helps you to achieve the plans God has for you. Find your mate in God’s plan for you which means wholeness in God and knowing who you are and allowing God to help you discern your mate! 🙏🏾
Glad this popped up on my timeline! Good interview. Women definitely get scarred! They also carry things into a relationship from past experiences. They will have a wall up to protect their hearts and due 2 lack of trust.
I dont always beleive men that tell other men he smashed his lady. What is there to gain? I'm aware that men lie to other men to get a notch up. Did they actually date before or was the guy trying to get with her to no avail? Besides, so what, we all have a pass. Mike sounds, still unhealed and insecure.... ijs.. Cynthia has no reason to lie. Her whole life is an open book. Mike said he has mostly women friends. What's the difference 🤔 Double standards.
@@instrinsiclove Hmmm... not defending her. Yes, he did admit some truth about himself. But, you can also tell/hear that he believed the other guy. That's all. And he's still healing.... it's good that he's finally working on himself ...
Never tell a man how another man treated you or challenges you had. That new man will judge you….maybe you have grown and are better but that man will judge you
I'm not sure men get scarred. Sure, their ego may take a hit but cheaters especially those who are chronic cheaters don't have the capacity to be scarred because they never really respect women in the first place.
@Livingmyybestlife I believe a lot of men get scared but won’t admit it. Some don’t even realize it’s fear. But it’s obvious to me. Fear, embarrassment, ego-those feelings can wreak havoc and lead to destructive behavior. BUT, there are also men who don’t respect women as well, the WHY is many time a derivative from the aforementioned.
He’s so self aware, mature,wise and grounded. If he got the healing he needed sooner then he may still be married. You can tell he’s a good dude. His trauma just gets the best of him sometimes. Like all of us. I hope he keeps going with his healing journey.
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He was a red flag from the moment I saw him have so many female friends Cynthia had to meet. Hope he really works on himself and does better. Love Cynthia, she seems so sweet and gave up being the queen of real housewives for him, she deserves true love 💕
Exactly, he knew dam well Cynthia wasn’t he’s type, there was no need to get married to her, he won’t be talking about his other wives it will always be about his to Cynthia, just like Mark he doesn’t like Kenya but still hooking on because of the connections.
He's a Leo ♌️ she's a Pisces ♓️ they're not compatible.
I don't think Cynthia is sweet. I think she a boss and can go real gangsta when called to be so
@@melanatedandlovingit1305 that’s what nene said. There’s Cynthia and there’s 50 Cent. Lol
He should stop talking about women because he don’t know how to by real and with one woman because he can’t be honest. Making excuses
I have been married to a black man for 12 years together for 14. Our marriage works because we went into it knowing that we were entering into a covenant with God, periodt! Perfect, nope! But I can honestly say we are best friends first of all and actually like each-other. He has my back and I have his periodt! Your mouth will get boxed if you come for either one of us! 🤣 We are perfect for each-other! I feel couples don’t take the time to get to really know each-other. Before you marry get to know the good, bad and ugly because not much will change with that person so you have to fall in-love with who they are. If you marry for superficial reason more times than not it will be a wrap at the end of the day. Marriage is honored by God and having him as your third strand, (the third person in your marriage) you have a shield, protection, comforter, love, cheerleader and you are covered by the blood of Jesus! Stop 🛑 getting married just for the sake of saying weeze married now…
Shalom
This!!!
I’m 52. I been married once for 13 years. I am currently engaged and I am taking it slow because I never want to divorce again. I also don’t want to grow old alone or in the arms of different men.
“…in the arms different men.” It is becoming increasingly dangerous out there for senior citizens (not referring to you). I’ve heard reports from the past and more recently that STD/STI cases are rising due to Cialis/ Viagara type meds. along with prostitution within elder homes & communities. Everyone be very careful. Best wishes to you.
But that growing old alone is what keeps people in shitty marriages not understanding you're already alone within that toxic marriage
As a mature 41yr old woman i respect his transparency. Women always say they want a man thats honest yet we get mad at the man for being honest.
married people lie a lot about marriage.
@@izealliaeldridge1901 THAT PART!!! A clown will use the truth to manipulate you.
Because that reason just doesn't fly. Maybe he doesn't know why he's a serial cheater but suggesting that he's unhealed from a heartbreak in high school is simply not believable. We're not mad at him, we're just saying, go back and do some more soul searching brotha, because that ain't it and it's coming off as dishonest. Was he molested as a child? Something's not making sense here. He's broken 3 womens' hearts with 3 failed marriages and he sits here talking about not himself not being able to recover from a broken heart in high school? Something's not adding up here.
I agree! I feel he has commitment issue and he is very selfish. He is good at giving advice but not good at taking his own advice. I hope he gets some help. I am curious to know if he ever had therapy.
His transparency hell after hearing that I would run. 🏃 I would not be I would thank him for not wasting my time!!😊
I am in Jamaica and I have been learning so much from these podcasts. Keep up the good work. Excellent stuff.
Yes ...Me too, this one and so many other good relationship platforms
Enjoyed the podcast and the honesty.
It’s amazing that getting dumped in high school still plagues some men in their 40 and 50’s?
There are so many women who experienced that sane trauma, and they are able to refrain from bringing that into their next relationships.
Very interesting.
Right like what sir?!!! U talking about high school
Sorry, I don't buy that story. Go back and dig deeper brotha, because that ain't it.
I felt awful by my high school sweetheart cheated on me with my friend. I was traumatized for years. I didn’t trust guys for years
@@samonecharisma3043 : Right 😂😂😂
If only he and Cynthia didn’t get married so quickly they both wasted each other’s time. I once dated a man Mikes age and he was in turmoil over losing his youth. He always tried to look younger than his age and wanted to know lots of women admired him. Grow old gracefully fellas, if you find a queen start acting like the king.
He needs to be on Dear future wifey so he can be on the hot seat
I love that Mike is honest about his own personal trials and traumas. I love that he speaks highly of his ex wives.
To not speak highly of them would be poor for his REbranding efforts. He’s read the cultural room, you don’t speak negative of your ex especially if they are famous on social platform.
@@clarityspeakzYou shouldn't do it period. Kinda sad that although that's true it's a sad shameful fact to think that's why over actual character and integrity
He has done the work hopefully he meets his forever....
Re-read your second sentence. It's ridiculous to praise a man who has been married three times and possibly a fourth time.
That's great but he's broken 3 women's hearts with 3 failed marriages. His honesty doesn't mean a "Hill" of beans when he keeps cheating. When is he going to get it right? Is he in therapy?
If a woman stops going out it doesn't mean it is a red flag. Stop the nonsense. All women are not the same. Some are homebodies, career goals, kids, relationships, and so on. Really.
Love the hosts and the people they have on their show. The honesty is refreshing! Thank you.
Most of the men on this pod are all accountable and I love this for them!!!!
This was a dope interview. A confident man is one that can be vulnerable 💯🙌🏾
As a woman, I’m SO THANKFUL that I tuned into this episode. Thank you to Mike for being Humble. Open. & Transparent!!! Omg , amazing episode.
Mr Hill, I have a new respect for you. Thank you for what I see as honest, and as open.
And open
Just pointing out that everyone wants love, even if they’re traumatized. When we’re looking at Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, the need of love and belonging comes well before self-actualization.
Also, we change as we get older. Marriage is loving that person through their changes. To demand people stay the same is asinine. In fact, you should be skeptical of a person who stays the same. “The man who views the world at 50 the same as he did at 20 has wasted 30 years of his life”. It’s only natural that we change as we learn.. the mark of intelligence.
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Indeed... everyone needs love, some may not want marriage just a life long partner
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Maslow’s hierarchy of needs is referring to survival needs. The Love and belonging aspect refers to family/platonic relationships not romantic.
Trying to love someone with their trauma will destroy you it's never right to let people live in that state
He should have not gotten married again
She wasn’t healed he wasn’t the problem.
It's a personal choice, I'm glad his speaking out to encourage men to heal & not be ashamed that they need healing.
Exactly people change husbands and wives as if they are girlfriend and boyfriend 🙄...no respect for the meaning of marriage at all! This is sad...😒
@@sneakerheadazz7566🙄 sure he wasn't 🙄
He knew that. More Exposure on TV
Selfish
Definitely have Mike Hill on a LIVE! He dropped some realness here that men just aren't taught to do without being seen as soft or not a "man's man". Looking forward to a live with him on it!
I give Mr. Hill credit for being honest and taking accountability for his past. Credit for knowing where he was vs where he wants to be, and what it takes to get there. Men/Wo-men listen to what was said. I can hug myself after listening to this episode 🤗 While waiting for that possible one to hug me genuinely and sincerely. Thank you guy’s
Yeah, but why couldn't he do that work while he was married instead of cheating? It's time to stop making excuses for his cheating and dig deeper to find out what's really going on with him.
I appreciate Mike Hill… sharing their story.
I can relate to the child hood love experience. And I share that same sentiment when an ex girl who I was truly in love with broke up with me because my love was intense. And she dated my neighbor who was a womanizer and I warned her and she got used. 10 years later she came back and said I was the only one she ever dated who really treated with respect and love. Checked all her boxes but unfortunately I can never love like that again because I was “Scarred and became afraid to be betrayed and abandoned by a woman.” And I walk more with integrity but the women I see don’t mirror that intensity and commitment so I love you but I’m not in love with you. That’s when healing has to be done. Be like Elsa from frozen and “Let it Go!” We all messed up when we were younger. We realize our mistakes and be better individuals. You can be vulnerable with your soulmate and you both know how it feels to be betrayed. So you protect each others heart while respectfully holding on to who you are and becoming who you need to be for the whole.
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EXCELLENT interview! Mike dropped a lot of information, and cleared up some past assumptions on RHOA. Mike Hill it's clear that "you've done the work", and I love it! I'm so happy for you. #NABJPride ❤
This is a very important conversation...social media or the access that sm provides is destroying relationships. Much respect to Mike for shining a light on his weaknesses. He's definitely not by himself!
This was an excellent interview, Mike shared truths and honest experiences from his heart. He dropped major nuggets. Become whole before you seek someone. Scarred and scared is real 💔
Well said ☝🏽❤️
No one is 100% whole. That's just plain false. We're all a work in progress and you can do the work while you are married. Give each other grace while we learn. I disagree with that statement.
@@1akadiva086 thank you, often someone else's share provides a clearer view for those watching and listening.
Job Well Done Hardly Initiated hosts and guest!! I absolutely love your channel!! REAL KINGS, is what this uncertain world needs!! GOD is PERFECT, NO ONE ELSE is Perfect!! 🙏🏽🙏🏽❤️❤️
I’m glad I listened to this interview, I learned a lot of different views on both men & women! 👍🏾
What I have found as I’ve gotten older, I’ve gone through years of therapy I’m really starting to understand life after the age of 50 you actually do need someone. We all need a mate or a friend. If you ever notice when you go to the doctor, they ask you about your social life. Do you live with family members? How close are they to you? Do you have? That’s because these things matter for your health just as Physical. And that is not just enough to be happy and content with your life and now want to kill yourself, but we thrive when we have a maid that we get along with in harmony and live together. It is what makes us thrives as Humans and we don’t want to admit that because everyone wants to wear a different type of life they think is fun and justify that whether it’s polygamy or being free and single, etc. with those long as are the ones that have their life made and wonderful relationships. They’ve been in a long time and they live a long time. You have to find someone that pours into you just as you porn to them, that is important. I just came to this revelation couple weeks ago after trying to understand health screening questions and understanding why do I feel a certain way? A lot of person is because. It’s not weakness to admit that someone makes you excited. You hear their voice to see them. That is a good thing when you find it you want to keep that feeling and you have to work hard at it but you have to work hard at any relationship even ones that you wanna have with your little children or adult children or mothers or aunts or uncles. Find your person and live long.
Mr. Hill, thank you for just being honest and transparent. Very enlightening keep being honest and helping other men who want to be helped. Relearning is correct. Thank you.
This was a great interview. It was nice to see the growth and the honest conversation among black men.
Question:
Why do men in general seem to be afraid of an opiniated woman?
An independent woman who can take care of her own finances is not likely to give up her voice to protect "his" manhood. Y'all need to decide. Either you want a financially independent woman, or you gonna choose a woman who you will need to provide for.
The issue is how a woman displays or brings opinion... if you talk to him like he's a child. like the saying, it's not what you say it's how you say it.
@@amariematthews4888Exactly!
It seems this guest has mastered the art of saying what everyone else says. I look forward to this show featuring non-celebrity people to share real stories of everyday life & show the precious & specific way God touched them.
Great content, thanks for the podcast, keep doing what you are doing. You are helping lots of people!!!!
Exactly Mike! The baggage should not go into a New Relation! You should heal from the past relationships before entering a new relationship.
This guy is a self admitted serial cheater, Cynthia married him anyway. Where they ended up is exactly no surprise. He's minimizing his past as he sits here, but he wrote a book about it, Not about how to overcome. And BS- he was filmed flirting around with other women in a bar while Cynthia was not in town. He is so full of himself. How anyone can take this guy serious is beyond me. There are many amazing, devoted, honest men who have never stepped foot in this guy's ideologies that stand in their convictions, and do so without the history this dude has at his big age. They have my respect. And the theory there is forgiveness for women who cheat is inaccurate. Anyone disloyal has a problem and IS the problem.
This dude has no respect for women and used Cynthia like the rest of the women he filtered through. He's still blaming her if you listen carefully. People tell him not to get married Not because of him finding the right person, but because he is Not right with the person he marries. I don't believe a word out of his mouth, he's interested in gaining clout and found the way to do it by preaching. He's preaching accountability while taking very little. Well, this isn't Church, and he needs to find God. There are Plenty of beautiful and amazing men to take advice from their experiences on this earth. Get better heros.
I ❤️ the honesty and accountability he takes.
O wow, I now see Mike in a different light! This was a very good interview!
Thank you for this interview!
I like listening to him- Mike Hill -talk, he seems very thorough in his explaining things without telling exactly the things that happened. I will look for his books to read.
I will say this: I understand the need to be whole, healed & without baggage before they enter a relationship of marriage, but if we got so completely together before another person came to stay in our life, we would really not want or need to be in a permanent relationship as marriage. Our issues don't stop most people from indulging in sexual activities. So make sure we aren't using some of these truth-awareness topics and statement as reasons to not be in a real relationship &/or to not get married. I love the men who don't mind getting and being married, but if you're not staying married and it boils down to- they just wasn't the right person (for whatever reason), then there's still something wrong...but how about- learn to stay in for the long haul.
Great interview! I love that Mike was very transparent. All that matters in life is learning from your mistakes and moving forward !❤
I enjoyed this so much. It felt like Mike came in and Skooled these young guys on so many things. They way they were both wide eye, listening to him tells you that they respect what he was saying. No one was over talking or shouting, just listening to respond. None of that it was a pure listening and learning experience. Thanks!😂
This episode was cleansing. I appreciate the brother laying it down at the feet of those younger dudes like he did.
Way to lead the flock Mike!...Just WOW!!! 💯
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Loving these interviews!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Great conversation. Mike was honest from the heart.
Great conversation, Mike I wish you much blessings
Basically, he wants a woman to be consumed with work to earn a lot of money such that she will be able to provide him a lavish lifestyle. AND he will try his best to practice monogamy. These "boss" women best come to the table with wisdom to know that they are only helping their man save more than half his income to spend on things he values more than her, such as automobiles, jewelry, clothes, shoes, and other women.
@teresamarie7460 I think too many have limited views on the dynamics of people. There are narratives pushed and although there is truth to them, there is also another side. There are women who are high earners, work when it’s time and go home and are in family mode when at home.
I think Mike was just saying that he wants a woman who won’t be too idle that she is bored all the time, miserable, complaining and missing him (which can and may lead to her cheating). )
@@nenajay3174 Nope... A childless woman will have plenty to do to preoccupy her time. Mike said what he said and his third ex wife was not about to provide him with a "soft life". 😂
@teresamarie7460 Some women will be busy and some won’t, and that’s with or without children.
There are a number of housewives with children who have nannies and spend the day’s shopping and doing frivolous things.
I’ve noticed that there are many high earning men who want thee women to nave something going on for that very reason-all they do is spend money and complain that their man is never around.
Am still watching but I wanted to answer your question about Trauma , when the person you dating act like something that happened in her past is still happening at the same severity level - this is how trauma response works , it is as if the situation is happening right now like it happened in the past - the brain and body has memory that takes folks back even people who had therapy in the past.. PSTD ..
I know a woman who got raped when she was a little girl, shes married now for over 18yrs but still have trauma responses if you touch her without her knowledge . Because of the severity of what happened to her , her body takes her right back to when she was raped
A lot of sympathy and empathy is needed ❤
This man is FIFTY+ YEARS OLD. Three marriages, still blaming the spouses, majority “female friends” and taking ZERO accountability. How the hell you still trying to “figure things out” at this big age???
I totally agree
Exactly! He said he made all these great changes when he was with Cynthia.
He just wants to be a player, just stay single and don't keep getting married I hope Cynthia finds a good man that really truly love her and not hurt her
When did he blame anyone? I heard him take most of the blame .
Facts! He played with Cynthia's head/heart big time, souped her up and had her thinking she was "the one" and he was ready. Well well well, he now says he's "still trying to figure it out". He's full of it! And he is low key complaining about the ex-wives not being the right one (for him).
This should have been a 2hr session!! He was speaking to the men, and I’m sure you know one that needs it!!! Really enjoyed!!
He most DEFINITELY NEEDS TO DO A LIVE!!!!
I enjoyed this conversation. Much respect to Mike Hill for sharing his truth.
Mike, I so much enjoyed your discussion and perspective. God bless you to find love, again. You're a King 👑
I am late to the party. However, hats off to Mike. I have always been a fan and was rooting for he and Cynthia. I was so glad to hear him say "that you should want someone and not need them". People seem to think I'm crazy when I say I don't need a man. He made a lot of valid points and I hope all that heard him put their listening ears on. Excellent show! ❤
Outstanding interview!! Thank you for providing QUALITY Content and Guest.😊❤🙏 🌻
Great conversation, I really appreciate this. Thank you Kings
Loved how Ty handled this interview. He asked all the questions I was thinking🤌🏾✨
Thanks for sharing your truth Mike Hill🤍 wishing for more love in your life!
Knowledge self is critical to growth. Keep growing and showing.
Love this interview and exchange. Now, this a mature man! I see him in a new light.
Great Conversation w/Mike Hill🎉🎉🎉
Fire 🔥 interview
Mike's reasons for getting divorced three times is not valid... Mike if you were truly honest with yourself, you'd tell the truth. You just did not commit to either marriage. Commitment involves Your mind body and soul.
Good Job Mike Hill man-ning up w/accountability and teaching it to others.
Live with Mike Hill; great show guys. Mike If those men/women can look inside themselves as you have shown us, better relationships can start off & be better in them.
Omg I really enjoyed this conversation. I'm definitely subscribing to this channel ❤
Amazing interview. Thank you Mike.
Great interview, Great interview !
I love Mike for this❤ Thank you for being honest.
Financial advice should come from a person successful with money, parental advice should come from someone who successfully raised children. Likewise, marital and relationship advice should come from a person that is successful at relationships. What even is this?
Totally agree!
@jjefferson9319 I agree to some extent. Therapists, doctors, and other professionals may give good advice but not be the best in said areas. You may have the knowledge and be a great teacher or advisor while not applying it yourself. Some are better at explaining than doing. Also there a number of “successful” marriages aren’t necessarily actually successful. They are just surviving.
That being said, I believe this was meant for Mike to mostly share his experiences.
I'm still confused also!!
TD Jakes has been on the scene since the 80’s… But because he’s a Pastor/Bishop ya’ll don’t want to listen!!
Nobody can win with you people….
Pick someone and Learn!
You don’t even need any of these people, you know right from wrong hopefully…The rest you Learn will come from your partners mouth.
Pick Well by prayer and you’ll see success in your relationships.
Not necessarily so. So a midwife has to have had a baby to be successful?
Thank you for being straight forward. I really appreciate your mature perspective.
❤ your guest.. Genuinely expressed sound knowledge of topic..Excellent! Thank you
Something off about this dude, can't quite put my finger on it.
Mike you said something that made sense about the social media texting is cheating depending on what you are texting
Mike Hill is the proof for Tysean and Ryan (because most of us already know) that there are a number of men who are attracted to and prefer women who are ambitious.
"Ambitious woman" for BM from the USA means a woman who desires to make a lot of money at the expense of her children and peace such that she can afford to give him a lavish lifestyle.
@teresamarie7460 Not necessarily. Most households require two incomes, and most that I know have just that (unless circumstances forces single parenting). Many work 9 to 5 and are ambitious. And then there are work from home jobs.
Also they’re men who work, work and work at the expense of the family as well.
We need balance for functional, successful families.
I have a friend who grinds like Mike and after talking to him about what he wants, I recommended he maybe find a women who is also ambitious like that, because that's a trait that's attractive to him too. Her ambition doesn't necessarily mean she's an alpha, or at least even if she is an alpha in her grind but she knows how to turn that off at home....we've seen plenty of women on this show that are ambitious yet walk in their feminine energy. I do believe, depending on your ambitions, that something will fall by the wayside, because we can't simply be all things and do all things, but we have to be careful that we don't just dismiss women who are labeled or who label themselves ambitious. We have to take every woman as she is and not just put her in a box because of a label.
@dawnallen274 EXACTLY!
@@teresamarie7460 that is not true. I don’t know if you’re passport bro but your view of an ambitious woman is so far off. There are many ambitious women who are therefore their children first. There are women that don’t go for their children and don’t care about their children. Don’t put them first when they’re not even working. They are in relationships and full on housewives and are therefore their children so you cannot make that a measurement. A person being in there for the children has nothing to do with the level of ambition. If a person is there for their children, will put everything first before their child. They’re gonna do that regardless of what’s in their life. You can have someone as a cancer patient that’s dying on their bed and if they’re there to put their children first, they’re gonna put their children first when they should be putting their health first. a persons life does not equate, nor does it impact anything that they find precious is important to them and that’s not only including children, including their spouse, their family, their parents, their pets.
People are who they are, and what they hold. Their will always be important to them while they are who they are because it’s important to them. As a woman who has put her child first and still does and that child is 32 years old and I am as ambitious as they come. Whatever is important to you is important to you and you sacrifice and don’t let that falter.
I believe Mike is a conniver! From the time he had that party on RHOA with all this female friends, I knew it would’t work with he and Cynthia. I’m sorry. Ladies run!
What is the RIGHT person? Why does the other person needs to be right? What about what you can bring, give and offer? What does happiness mean and is it fair to depend on someone else to get your happy? Love is patience,kind,long suffering, merciful,enduring,etc.
I love both Mike & Cynthia not throwing dirt on either one as I'm a huge fan for both of them & wish them both the best in success. Response to baby daddy staying over... Although I love baby daddy, let's keep it real, drag your suitcase to the nearest hotel, and check in. Our child can visit you and me as an adult. Respect to my partner. Point Blank!!! ❤❤❤
Great guest with maturity and great show!!
He didn't love Cynthia, he just tried to play her,and messed around and got played upon. 😊
Great answers. Great topic. My daughter's Dad and her stepdad had that understanding. Yes, there are adults in relationships who can handle that. We sat down and had a conversation about this and since she was important to both of them, they made it work.
This is the interview that will for sure go viral. Looking forward to it being informative, and Initiating 😉good conversations within the black household.
When are black men AA men going to be Matured, act Matured and be Respectable, Responsible Men? Everyone has excuses on why they do what they do! 🙄
It's unfortunate but this is the reality we are living in
YEP!! They can be complete mental, emotional and financial failures until their mid-50s but black women are supposed to have their lives together by 22. FOH!!!
I agree - it’s like grow up already. 🙄
This was a great show. Michael was so authentic and transparent. Love it!
Mr Hill, I like your MIND Set, marriage is for everyone that desires it. You have to know you and . And have patience with each other and learn each other and Respect each other as individuals and bond together as ONE.
Being whole is simply acknowledged your short comings and working on them and Love the person you are and who they are. The main issue with everyone is TRUST after it’s been Broken
There is a book everyone should read Gary Thomas
Sacred Marriage: What If God Designed Marriage to Make Us Holy More Than to Make Us Happy? Marriage is less about finding happiness and the right one, it’s an extension of God so finding the purpose partner to fulfill your God given purpose. A Helpmate helps you to achieve the plans God has for you. Find your mate in God’s plan for you which means wholeness in God and knowing who you are and allowing God to help you discern your mate! 🙏🏾
Thank you! I was looking for a new read.
You are most welcome
Man! Y'all are pulling in some people! Looking forward to it.
Live! Appreciate y’all’s honesty!! Thanks
Only cowards cheat….
Before you think about cheating just liberate that person
We all need to start changing our mental and emotional feel and learn that we are growing in life
Loved n appreciate this show. Mike kept it 1hunnid
This was definitely a learning interview. LIVE!
Glad this popped up on my timeline! Good interview. Women definitely get scarred! They also carry things into a relationship from past experiences. They will have a wall up to protect their hearts and due 2 lack of trust.
wise words from a wise man! 😇 thanks for these gems Mike!
I dont always beleive men that tell other men he smashed his lady.
What is there to gain? I'm aware that men lie to other men to get a notch up. Did they actually date before or was the guy trying to get with her to no avail? Besides, so what, we all have a pass. Mike sounds, still unhealed and insecure.... ijs..
Cynthia has no reason to lie. Her whole life is an open book.
Mike said he has mostly women friends. What's the difference 🤔 Double standards.
He didn't say he has only women friends he said he has mostly women friends
lol ya’ll will defend other women until the death like he didn’t just acknowledge his fault the ENTIRE VIDEO
@@instrinsiclove Hmmm... not defending her.
Yes, he did admit some truth about himself. But, you can also tell/hear that he believed the other guy. That's all. And he's still healing.... it's good that he's finally working on himself ...
@@marshathompson9580 True, neither did I
Yeah that he probably smashed
Never tell a man how another man treated you or challenges you had. That new man will judge you….maybe you have grown and are better but that man will judge you
Exactly because I’m going through a sad marriage right now
So true! You really can’t tell men anything honestly. It’s like you’re not even human to them.
And it also telegraphs what you have put up with in the past and what you might be willing to put up with in the future
I mean his own daughter basically tried to warn Cynthia about this man!!! He's a huge red flag!
I'm not sure men get scarred. Sure, their ego may take a hit but cheaters especially those who are chronic cheaters don't have the capacity to be scarred because they never really respect women in the first place.
@Livingmyybestlife I believe a lot of men get scared but won’t admit it. Some don’t even realize it’s fear. But it’s obvious to me. Fear, embarrassment, ego-those feelings can wreak havoc and lead to destructive behavior. BUT, there are also men who don’t respect women as well, the WHY is many time a derivative from the aforementioned.
Mike Hill you dropped 💎!!! Those who know get it, let the rest of them catch up 🤷♀️
He’s so self aware, mature,wise and grounded. If he got the healing he needed sooner then he may still be married. You can tell he’s a good dude. His trauma just gets the best of him sometimes. Like all of us. I hope he keeps going with his healing journey.
"self aware, mature, wise, and grounded"? Really? I don't know what interview you listened to.
Doesn't sound like he's healed thou.
Being self-aware means nothing without honesty and decency.
Idk... it's a lot of who shot John...
So he's selfish and delusional
Brother, you need the Most High. Repent, give your life to Christ and wait. WAIT for the Most High to fix you and send you a righteous woman. Change YOUR LIFE.
Real Talk, You Need To Be Whole, Complete And Working On Self Daily.....
I really enjoyed this video. Ive always said its not needing a man or woman, its "wanting" one. I admire him for sharing that.