He is very intelligent. He can verbalize what he went through. He can articulate his feelings. He has done shadow work.. he is not looking outside himself. He sees were he went wrong.. May he live
Nah, he went to therapy or is in active therapy...he's intelectualizing his past, whereas shadow work is a WHOLE other beast, its easy to tell that shadow work hasnt even been attempted because his ego is VERY much still intact. Wishing him well on his journey nonetheless
Stop labeling people. We all do things the best we can. Go heal. This man's life hasn't ended. He is also healing and unlearning like we all are. Love and light.
By that time if things were great between them she would've been excited for the car im sure,and for him to talk about the car thing it just goes to show how petty he is he bought it for some reason the nerve.
Haibo ye Nina andisanithanda you ladies, have brains. Because this is narcissistic behavior. You can't buy forgiveness at all. His actions should have been his apology, not materialistic things.
Haibo he saw loopholes, i saw holes not even potholes. He was a whole red billboard. You apologize with your actions not possessions. Plus there is no getting over it or moving on for them, until they have fully healed in their own way. Plus the kids that bind them together forever will not make it easy.
A covert quiet narcissist. The quiet ones are harder to see. They confuse their calm and quiet manners for being in control, whilst in fact their hidden traumas brew into mental illnesses, at most narcissism.😏
Narcissist of note !!! That woman tolerated a lot of shit and she was numb to react to anything. Maybe he would cheat and buy gifts what a controlling psychopath❗️❗️❗️
Let's assume everything in the relationship was ok nne (hear me out)... in a relationship we need to understand how someone else wants to be love. Myb shes not a car person so vele she won't react the way a car person would. Learning love languages n ur persons intrests is important so that when u want to make them happy u do it in a way that you will make THEM happy n not making it being about you
So vele the majority of the comment section cannot HEAR him take accountability??? Where did he say he was apologizing with that car??? I heard him saying that HE placed HIS expectations on HER. HE wanted HIS moon to be her moon too, whereas we all have different dreams as individuals. He is literally admitting to wanting Mbali to live according to his childhood dream of marriage (the man leading at ALL TIMES) and according to what marriage meant for HIM not THEM. Aowa guys comprehension is most probably why we won’t get the land back as a people. How did 80% of people hear “I was cheating, I bought her a nice car as an apology and she didn’t jump for joy”??? There’s even someone who said shadow work must break him he is still egotistical. Hmmm. I’m hearing PRECISELY why Enhle left and why it was good for BOTH of them to accept the end of that marriage. Enhle NOW and Nathi NOW wouldn’t do marriage the same way they did it THEN. They have both changed.
Thank you because this is a man taking accountability and it takes a lot to admit gore you're the reason for your failures, people listen to answer hle jeer ba bora marn
Men think that they can control marriage just by being the bread-winner. No good women appreciates a serial cheater. Which Black Coffee can truly acknowledge Mbali for compromising her career n raising his children.
Bro you can’t cheat and expect your wife to be excited by an expensive car. You just fumbled bro. The problem here is that black coffee is a materialistic individual while on the other hand his ex-wife wasn’t 📌
Painful soooooooooo I know what is saying is Painful .It is good appreciate Guys ant time for yo hubby Yu see how small things that damaged 💔. Tell black coffee that I am available. I'll take care of Him .we will be because I will appreciate everything and taking care of Him
Its one of those where I wish Black coffee and Mbali but essentially BC can just humbke themselves, do some introspection and apologize and get back together bcz thier love looked beautiful. I say thus for the love of black love.
When you give a gift to someone, don't expect thank you, because it's a gift bra, ppl are different, if she didn't say thank you it doesn't mean she is ungrateful..
But the guy is admitting that he had it wrong, that he was controlling and thought of their marriage as his,that he thought a fancy car would make her happy. etc.... what you guys on about? Engathi umona muningi
Sometimes men dont get it, things that excite them, must excite us too. Not all yhe time, Other things matters most, affection and support. Maybe he was spoiling her out of love not necessarily apologising, but she had was expecting another kind of gesture
Remember heartlines…who date his friend ex bootycall and marry her,she was visshing(targeting a guy strategically)him wven before at channel o gig but he aint about the streets so he aint heard…WHEN YOUR STATUS AINT HOOD😂😂😂
Black coffee needs to give entle some time to cool of not going public woman dont like a guy who brags then later on try to fix things 🤷🏾♂️ public will make things worse....he need to heel as well as hiz wife
All she wanted was true love not the material things you can't buy an expensive gift for a lady and expect her to be happy whilst you are busy cheating on her come on dude it means her heart was already broken
Please People don't be stupids... he's not the only one who's cheating.... men's does cheat... all over the world, uyoyitholaphi eyakho wedwa, appreciate the respect he gives you
The logic that if he wasn’t cheating she’d have been excited for the car is you guys creating imaginary situations. What if Enhle just didn’t like the car👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽? Equate it to being bought a Cadillac SUV…and all you have ever really wanted was a G Wagon…see? Most people don’t even know what a Cadillac is…so they would be grateful sure but wouldn’t jump up and down and CRY for a car they barely even know. Whereas the buyer has goated and followed the Cadillac brand since his whole awareness of it. Certainly this would cause a rift somewhere. These were two ADULTS who let their childhood traumas play out AGAINST them in their adult romantic relationship…it’s usually the crux of most divorces and relationships just ending…yes, even adultery is a manifestation of a trauma response either to mask or build a certain character. Look at us cracking our heads emjolweni wabo Nathi whereas izinto zamakwethu zijonge entshonalanga.
Aikona bhuti BC. You are bigger than this. Remember you can't mistreat someone and bruise her emotional then buy a lavish car... Let's hear Enhle's side concerning this...
I want to hear Enhle's side. You can find that he was apologising with that car.
He sleeps around and think he can buy forgiveness
Lol, pluz rich men like to do that
Ewe girl, you so smart standwa. This is so narcissistic. Did marriage his way sooooo cheating was his way
Iyoo bathong😩
@@sesethuntaphane3933narcissistic traits I would say.
He is very intelligent. He can verbalize what he went through. He can articulate his feelings. He has done shadow work.. he is not looking outside himself. He sees were he went wrong..
May he live
Nah, he went to therapy or is in active therapy...he's intelectualizing his past, whereas shadow work is a WHOLE other beast, its easy to tell that shadow work hasnt even been attempted because his ego is VERY much still intact. Wishing him well on his journey nonetheless
@@heavenly894 yabona wena, I stan
@@sesethuntaphane3933 right back at you🧡🙏🏾
I am so proud of him. May we continue being the generation that is actively healing.❤
@heavenly894 the ego is necessary. U dummy. You are the one who wants to sound intelligent..
His way was cheating and giving birth to 2 kids during his marriage, he sounds like a narcassist to me.
Stop labeling people. We all do things the best we can. Go heal. This man's life hasn't ended. He is also healing and unlearning like we all are. Love and light.
I said to me, read other comments they are saying the same thing, lol ad for me, healing ayi pls kahle nje I have a right to voice my opinion.
@@Andtherewaslight427e labeled himself hunay!
They cheat then blame you for their cheating ways.
Sounds very narcissist indeed. You buy someone a car and make it about you..... what if they don't like the damn car?
This is so hard to watch especially because Enhle has been made out to be a villian when this man clearly broke up his own family with his actions
Give coffee a break!
@user-wl8op5tz2w yep, you are so right, I have reduced my intake of coffee this year, and I figured I am addicted to caffeine.
@@sesethuntaphane3933 Great!!!!
@@sesethuntaphane3933Savage😂😂😂
@bobogona haibo singaphela, there's beyhives, swifties, and now coffees. The worst part, their favs must not be held accountable haibo siphi
Ohhh poor guy shem.. he has no idea.. He will still divorce again.. as long as he is like this..
And you have an idea? Y’all seem to know more about others’ lives than yours. God decides.
Are you married?
Till today your question still stands akakaze aphendule besalinde ukushadwa kumnyama till now unless akasekho emhlabeni umaDlamini
I fully support the idea of listening to the whole interview before commenting...I so wish we can normalize that bantu.
Haibo! You’re talking about buying a car and material things while you’re busy cheating! Tjo! 😭😫
😭😭😭
He was apologizing for cheating on you. He was buying apology.
By that time if things were great between them she would've been excited for the car im sure,and for him to talk about the car thing it just goes to show how petty he is he bought it for some reason the nerve.
Haibo ye Nina andisanithanda you ladies, have brains. Because this is narcissistic behavior. You can't buy forgiveness at all. His actions should have been his apology, not materialistic things.
Maybe you never bought something expensive for someone and they don't appreciate.....bro our hard work has to be celebrated by our loved ones....
The word narcissist is pandemic yeer.
@@sesethuntaphane3933who said he was apologizing???
Girl didn't want a fancy car she needed loyalty
I think people missed the whole point of Black coffee. He’s not villainising Enhle. He’s simply saying he was the dictator in his marriage.
And his saying he got it wrong and the comment's hai shame
Yes pple are missing the point he is saying he made mistake of controlling everything he is admitting his mistakes I agree with you
Haibo he saw loopholes, i saw holes not even potholes. He was a whole red billboard. You apologize with your actions not possessions. Plus there is no getting over it or moving on for them, until they have fully healed in their own way. Plus the kids that bind them together forever will not make it easy.
🤣🤣🤣🤣potholes oe
A whole Red Billboard😢🤣🤣🤣⚰️⚰️
But the guy ddnt say he bought the fancy car to apologize.....did i miss something here?
I don't see it as well, it's just woman jumping into conclusions as usual.
A covert quiet narcissist. The quiet ones are harder to see. They confuse their calm and quiet manners for being in control, whilst in fact their hidden traumas brew into mental illnesses, at most narcissism.😏
Even if they have missing limbs, men will leave you in the desert! Ke ya dlala!😂😂😂
😹😹😹😹😹 Iketle pele
Yeyyyi 😂😂 and leave with the only water bottle
Uya dihelleng. Lenna, I'm going for laughing😂😂😂
Narcissist of note !!!
That woman tolerated a lot of shit and she was numb to react to anything.
Maybe he would cheat and buy gifts what a controlling psychopath❗️❗️❗️
Let's assume everything in the relationship was ok nne (hear me out)... in a relationship we need to understand how someone else wants to be love. Myb shes not a car person so vele she won't react the way a car person would. Learning love languages n ur persons intrests is important so that when u want to make them happy u do it in a way that you will make THEM happy n not making it being about you
Smart💯💯💯
I love ❤️ the fact that no matter how rich he is,he is down to Earth 😊
They like that vele
❤
he is aware that he was wrong too.. and admitted he could have done things right too
Please show me a man who has ever made a woman happy.
You cheated,sir.F your car.
Bvs u can't affor !!!!
So vele the majority of the comment section cannot HEAR him take accountability???
Where did he say he was apologizing with that car???
I heard him saying that HE placed HIS expectations on HER. HE wanted HIS moon to be her moon too, whereas we all have different dreams as individuals. He is literally admitting to wanting Mbali to live according to his childhood dream of marriage (the man leading at ALL TIMES) and according to what marriage meant for HIM not THEM.
Aowa guys comprehension is most probably why we won’t get the land back as a people.
How did 80% of people hear “I was cheating, I bought her a nice car as an apology and she didn’t jump for joy”???
There’s even someone who said shadow work must break him he is still egotistical. Hmmm. I’m hearing PRECISELY why Enhle left and why it was good for BOTH of them to accept the end of that marriage.
Enhle NOW and Nathi NOW wouldn’t do marriage the same way they did it THEN. They have both changed.
Thank you because this is a man taking accountability and it takes a lot to admit gore you're the reason for your failures, people listen to answer hle jeer ba bora marn
Its sad how people do not listen to understand!
I thought I was thr only one who understood his point
Men think that they can control marriage just by being the bread-winner. No good women appreciates a serial cheater. Which Black Coffee can truly acknowledge Mbali for compromising her career n raising his children.
Bro you can’t cheat and expect your wife to be excited by an expensive car. You just fumbled bro.
The problem here is that black coffee is a materialistic individual while on the other hand his ex-wife wasn’t 📌
Why do weman think he bought the car to apologize becousa no one knows what happened , cause we can also say he cheated because he was not appreciated
Whaaat ?????
There's no excuse for cheating bathong !!
Painful soooooooooo I know what is saying is Painful .It is good appreciate Guys ant time for yo hubby Yu see how small things that damaged 💔. Tell black coffee that I am available. I'll take care of Him .we will be because I will appreciate everything and taking care of Him
The only time I ever believe black coffee is lying is whenever his lips are moving
😂😂😂Very funny
In most cases when age gap is over 5 years the abusive traits are rife...
Met this guy...he is cold yhooooo...he smelt so good though
Loved AKA , but he was WORST and the fact that I screamed " BONANG" in sesotho when I really meant "look at him"!! didn't help at all. ....shuuu!
@@mazwideamahle4091😂😂😂😂😂😂
I think people misunderstood what he was saying ,what he said was he was giving his ex things she wanted him he realized later .
Its one of those where I wish Black coffee and Mbali but essentially BC can just humbke themselves, do some introspection and apologize and get back together bcz thier love looked beautiful. I say thus for the love of black love.
Black Coffee for life. You can never ever make me hate this man ❤️🥰 mbanonya with your bs
"There's things we wish for people; there's things they wish for themselves. And we make a mistake of imposing our wishes on them."
*-Black Coffee
When you give a gift to someone, don't expect thank you, because it's a gift bra, ppl are different, if she didn't say thank you it doesn't mean she is ungrateful..
Out of everything he said in the interview, buying his ex a car is what sat with you. Aii ya neh😂
No matter how much our brother hurt her, we will never forget she lied about the abuse allegations to get even
Exactly
But the guy is admitting that he had it wrong, that he was controlling and thought of their marriage as his,that he thought a fancy car would make her happy. etc.... what you guys on about? Engathi umona muningi
Sometimes men dont get it, things that excite them, must excite us too. Not all yhe time, Other things matters most, affection and support. Maybe he was spoiling her out of love not necessarily apologising, but she had was expecting another kind of gesture
Remember heartlines…who date his friend ex bootycall and marry her,she was visshing(targeting a guy strategically)him wven before at channel o gig but he aint about the streets so he aint heard…WHEN YOUR STATUS AINT HOOD😂😂😂
What about cheating on her aaah nina hehehe akasazenzi msulwa aah😂😂
Tnx my brother for being honest with yourself
Black coffee needs to give entle some time to cool of not going public woman dont like a guy who brags then later on try to fix things 🤷🏾♂️ public will make things worse....he need to heel as well as hiz wife
But I think his trying to apologize here
All she wanted was true love not the material things you can't buy an expensive gift for a lady and expect her to be happy whilst you are busy cheating on her come on dude it means her heart was already broken
Is he MAD....in miss XO voice🤔🤔
But what's the lesson there?😭
We don't care it was their marriage at the end
A pure narcissist
His sounding like his accounting
This whole convo was for him to look like he tried,,, ai this guy bores me, and people are going on about how Mbali is
If you are treating her like rubbish and you think a car will fix it.
Please People don't be stupids... he's not the only one who's cheating.... men's does cheat... all over the world, uyoyitholaphi eyakho wedwa, appreciate the respect he gives you
She has to cheat so that you will also feel how she was feeling.
Peasants and feminists in the comment section failing to make sense of this - failing to see that this man is actually taking accountability, smh
Mxm
The logic that if he wasn’t cheating she’d have been excited for the car is you guys creating imaginary situations.
What if Enhle just didn’t like the car👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽?
Equate it to being bought a Cadillac SUV…and all you have ever really wanted was a G Wagon…see? Most people don’t even know what a Cadillac is…so they would be grateful sure but wouldn’t jump up and down and CRY for a car they barely even know. Whereas the buyer has goated and followed the Cadillac brand since his whole awareness of it. Certainly this would cause a rift somewhere.
These were two ADULTS who let their childhood traumas play out AGAINST them in their adult romantic relationship…it’s usually the crux of most divorces and relationships just ending…yes, even adultery is a manifestation of a trauma response either to mask or build a certain character.
Look at us cracking our heads emjolweni wabo Nathi whereas izinto zamakwethu zijonge entshonalanga.
Aikona bhuti BC. You are bigger than this. Remember you can't mistreat someone and bruise her emotional then buy a lavish car... Let's hear Enhle's side concerning this...
This guy learned late how entitled women feel on your money and assets in relationships, but a the first to point it out if you do the same.😅
What's wrong with his mouth
Someone not appreciating.thats important right there.something always dies
True
Now I want to give Entle a hug cause she was really married to a narcissist...hole 😢.
I really see a reformer here,he admitted his wrongs…. Don’t know why you are stilll judging him
I don't like this guy
The world don't give a f*ck about your opinion on black coffee, you just a sour feminist loser