I love ❤️ how honest you were in the video. It's very refreshing. I'm subscribed to your mom and she mentions you a lot. Hope you have as much success as she has had in her journey. Good luck.
Indira VSG I really want to be as authentic and honest as I can be, it's so helpful for me to speak my mind. Not all of life is rainbows and daisies and I think acknowledging that is helpful! 😁
Hiya, new subscriber your video just popped up as a recommended one to watch next 😊 always love to watch fellow Aussie vloggers! I think you articulated a very difficult situation very well, it must have been difficult to do. I can totally understand how hard that is to watch someone start living the life/experience you are so desperate too. I can relate it to two things I struggle with constantly... one is seeing people lose weight faster than me, and I feel really nothing but happiness for them, but so sad and disappointed for myself. Another is when I find out people are pregnant, and I can be overwhelmed with pure joy and love for them, but drowning in sadness for myself. And both of those come with a side serving of guilt and shame for feeling that way and feeling selfish. But we are human, and it's ok to feel both happy for someone and jealous / sad for yourself. You are on the home stretch now, and the Christmas period and your new job will really make the time fly! Time goes soooooo slowly pre-op and it feels like it will never be your time, but post-op life goes incredibly quickly and this will just be a distant memory. Looking forward to your next updates! xx
Thanks so much for your comment, it's nice to hear that there are people out there who can relate because it is hard to speak so candidly about such negative "selfish" feelings. I think the important thing for me this last year has been that I've made an effort to speak the way I feel and be up front and try to fight against the guilt and shame that comes from feeling badly watching someone succeed. Pushing back against guilt and shame has been a bit of a theme in my life recently. As you say, we're all human and I think we all experience things surprisingly similarly and a lot of us suffer unnecessarily and keep feelings private when being open and honest about it makes those around us more comfortable too when we all realise we aren't alone.
Hey Hayley well I just got your channel from your mums recent video so its nice to see another Australian here and I have watched your mum and her struggles and triumphs and I cant wait to see you succeed also. It is hard to do the wait honey but its getting much closer so hang in there and I have subscribed now so looking forward to more from you. Sending big hugs to a fellow aussie xox
Hi Hayley, your honesty about this stuff is SO great. It is a testament to your wonderful relationship with your mum that you can speak openly about your feelings. I waited the 12 months and was sleeved on November 9th and you're right, the time does go quickly. I'm really looking forward to following your journey. Are you going to be at the WLS meet up? I'd love to meet you. :)
Very glad that you can speak your authentic truth. Don't ever hold back on account of me. Say it how you see it. I think you know how sorry I am that I went first and didn't wait for you, I know it has been hard for you, perhaps not exactly how hard but I know it hasn't been easy. You'll do well. Things have a way of working themselves out. Your turn in the spotlight is now. Much love to you always. xxx
You made some very valid points. Honesty is the best policy. I know you love your mum and vice versa but its only natural to feel the emotions you felt. Tfs & take care 🌹
another great video. really good insight in how you have been feeling. it must have been hard at times. a partner of someone who had a vsg about 3-4 years told me that he has seen how the change of mindset after surgery has affected so many marriages and relationship. in some ways a bit like your relationship with your mum. but i can hear in your voice how strong your relationship with you mum is and even with the difficult times, you still are so excited about your mum's success. looking forward to your next video about coming out of the closet. that topic is something i still struggle with even after losing 100 pounds. catch ya later and looking forward to meeting up in a couple of weeks. let me know if there is anything a can do or any advice i can give.
VSG Steve thanks so much for the comment Steve. I can definitely understand why it would change relationships, it's an interesting thing how the perspective we have just totally changes through things like this. I'm glad that I will soon be going through the same thing and we will be back on the same page then. I guess it's also a valuable lesson for me to reflect on how my change in attitude and perspective might change my relationships with my good friends and other family members too (even though I don't have a partner) if even in a smaller way than like a marriage etc so I can keep it in check. Very interesting thing to think about indeed.
I was referred in December and my surgery is going to be in October or November of this year. I am going through the system and it takes 9-12 months. My mum had her surgery a week before my referral. Your story reminded me a bit about mine. I am in New Zealand.
I love ❤️ how honest you were in the video. It's very refreshing. I'm subscribed to your mom and she mentions you a lot. Hope you have as much success as she has had in her journey. Good luck.
Indira VSG I really want to be as authentic and honest as I can be, it's so helpful for me to speak my mind. Not all of life is rainbows and daisies and I think acknowledging that is helpful! 😁
I love your honesty in this video. I really look forward to watching your journey
Hiya, new subscriber your video just popped up as a recommended one to watch next 😊 always love to watch fellow Aussie vloggers! I think you articulated a very difficult situation very well, it must have been difficult to do. I can totally understand how hard that is to watch someone start living the life/experience you are so desperate too. I can relate it to two things I struggle with constantly... one is seeing people lose weight faster than me, and I feel really nothing but happiness for them, but so sad and disappointed for myself. Another is when I find out people are pregnant, and I can be overwhelmed with pure joy and love for them, but drowning in sadness for myself. And both of those come with a side serving of guilt and shame for feeling that way and feeling selfish. But we are human, and it's ok to feel both happy for someone and jealous / sad for yourself. You are on the home stretch now, and the Christmas period and your new job will really make the time fly! Time goes soooooo slowly pre-op and it feels like it will never be your time, but post-op life goes incredibly quickly and this will just be a distant memory. Looking forward to your next updates! xx
Thanks so much for your comment, it's nice to hear that there are people out there who can relate because it is hard to speak so candidly about such negative "selfish" feelings. I think the important thing for me this last year has been that I've made an effort to speak the way I feel and be up front and try to fight against the guilt and shame that comes from feeling badly watching someone succeed. Pushing back against guilt and shame has been a bit of a theme in my life recently. As you say, we're all human and I think we all experience things surprisingly similarly and a lot of us suffer unnecessarily and keep feelings private when being open and honest about it makes those around us more comfortable too when we all realise we aren't alone.
Hey Hayley well I just got your channel from your mums recent video so its nice to see another Australian here and I have watched your mum and her struggles and triumphs and I cant wait to see you succeed also. It is hard to do the wait honey but its getting much closer so hang in there and I have subscribed now so looking forward to more from you. Sending big hugs to a fellow aussie xox
Tina's VSG ChitChat thanks for the comment! It is really nice to connect with other Aussies. I will jump over and subscribe to you. 😊
Hi Hayley, your honesty about this stuff is SO great. It is a testament to your wonderful relationship with your mum that you can speak openly about your feelings. I waited the 12 months and was sleeved on November 9th and you're right, the time does go quickly. I'm really looking forward to following your journey. Are you going to be at the WLS meet up? I'd love to meet you. :)
Ash Gets Sleeved hey Ash! Yeah I will be at WLS meet up! See you there!
hi Haley just want to wish you a happy holiday and so looking forward to your next update be safe my friend
Very glad that you can speak your authentic truth. Don't ever hold back on account of me. Say it how you see it.
I think you know how sorry I am that I went first and didn't wait for you, I know it has been hard for you, perhaps not exactly how hard but I know it hasn't been easy.
You'll do well. Things have a way of working themselves out. Your turn in the spotlight is now. Much love to you always. xxx
Green Machine VSG Aussie - 💗
You made some very valid points. Honesty is the best policy. I know you love your mum and vice versa but its only natural to feel the emotions you felt.
Tfs & take care 🌹
You are a wise beautiful young woman! I am so excited for you! xoxoxo
another great video. really good insight in how you have been feeling. it must have been hard at times. a partner of someone who had a vsg about 3-4 years told me that he has seen how the change of mindset after surgery has affected so many marriages and relationship. in some ways a bit like your relationship with your mum. but i can hear in your voice how strong your relationship with you mum is and even with the difficult times, you still are so excited about your mum's success. looking forward to your next video about coming out of the closet. that topic is something i still struggle with even after losing 100 pounds. catch ya later and looking forward to meeting up in a couple of weeks. let me know if there is anything a can do or any advice i can give.
VSG Steve thanks so much for the comment Steve. I can definitely understand why it would change relationships, it's an interesting thing how the perspective we have just totally changes through things like this. I'm glad that I will soon be going through the same thing and we will be back on the same page then. I guess it's also a valuable lesson for me to reflect on how my change in attitude and perspective might change my relationships with my good friends and other family members too (even though I don't have a partner) if even in a smaller way than like a marriage etc so I can keep it in check. Very interesting thing to think about indeed.
I was referred in December and my surgery is going to be in October or November of this year. I am going through the system and it takes 9-12 months. My mum had her surgery a week before my referral. Your story reminded me a bit about mine. I am in New Zealand.
good day Hayley! im danny and I just subed to you love the vid ill be watching(not in a stalker way..lol) be safe and keep posting!!
Journey Over 40 thanks so much Danny!