What We Haven’t Shared Yet About Our Fertility Struggles

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  • @strengthcomfortmedia6104
    @strengthcomfortmedia6104 7 місяців тому +56

    My husband and I never had children. We helped many teens in our area and we even prevented teen suicides. We stay creative and run a global peace program. We would have enjoyed children but it was not possible in this lifetime. However we do really feel happy and fulfilled, because we are providing so much service to our community and the world.

    • @MCrvngraddip2013
      @MCrvngraddip2013 7 місяців тому

    • @ThePasinis
      @ThePasinis  6 місяців тому +6

      il tuo commento è molto bello e ti ringrazio per averlo condiviso con noi! spero che si di ispirazione per tutti! un ringraziamento dal profondo del cuore ❤️
      Jessi & Alessio

  • @beachbum7425
    @beachbum7425 7 місяців тому +56

    After 9 years of infertility treatments 5 miscarriages and a lot of tears we reevaluated and said we have such a beautiful life and marriage,let’s focus on the beautiful things we do have. We’re married now almost 31 years. Love our 🐈 cats, and enjoy being the fave aunt and uncle. It takes awhile to heal your heart. But it can happen Best wishes to both of you❤

    • @TJSPARKLE
      @TJSPARKLE 6 місяців тому

      Really weird question but would you consider doing a womb transplant? You would use your own embryos to get pregnant still? And womb from a living person? I love these guys so much they so amazing

  • @saramathenysweeney6537
    @saramathenysweeney6537 7 місяців тому +18

    “Just don’t stress” is such a frustrating thing! Of course those of us struggling with infertility don’t want to be stressed. That and “it’ll happen once you stop trying” are so diminishing.

  • @cmeflywva
    @cmeflywva 7 місяців тому +113

    Please stop asking them if they have thought of adoption. "There are so many kids who need homes." I don't think you understand how hurtful it is for couples to be told they need to consider adoption and then make them feel guilty for wanting children of their own. Most of the people who ask this question have not adopted and only have children of their own. I'm sure they have deep discussions on their available options for children. The process for an adoption itself is long and can be stressful. Please give them and their medical providers every opportunity to have children of their own.
    When comments like these are made, it can make couples feel as though they are selfish. Jessi and Alesso deserve respect for sharing their journey, and I'm sure there are people out there benefitting from their information. They didn't have to share this highly private part of their lives with us.

    • @ambergoesviolining3318
      @ambergoesviolining3318 7 місяців тому +34

      I get what you're saying, but I'd like to add to that--I'm an adoptive mother, and I am BEGGING people to stop using the phrase "children of their own, children of your own, etc." What you mean is "biological children." Nothing hurts me more than when someone says to me, "but don't you want children of your own?" "Why didn't you have children of your own?" My adopted daughter IS my own. She is no less my own daughter than if I carried her inside my body. Language and word choice matters. Please say "biogical children" when that's what you mean.

    • @Al-isthatyou
      @Al-isthatyou 7 місяців тому +3

      Totally right. They don't have to share ANYTHING.

    • @cmeflywva
      @cmeflywva 7 місяців тому +7

      @ambergoesviolining3318 You made a great point and I thank you for reminding me of this attitude from some people. A similar situation that occurs is with blended families and children having to face being asked about step-parents when this not the case for some families. A lot of people see step parents as their real parents and vice versa for the parents. Some people may have never known their biological parent or parents and shouldn't be made to feel different due to societal norms.

    • @daisy9910
      @daisy9910 7 місяців тому +3

      I've been asked this, and in my country, adoptions are open. So the bio parents can have contact. This is not always a positive experience for the child and can be very unsettling.

    • @marjoriekeough4284
      @marjoriekeough4284 7 місяців тому +5

      @@daisy9910 We have both, and much depends on the state. For closed adoptions where I am, the child may obtain the original birth certificate when (s)he reaches adulthood. The bio parents are allowed to file preference with the state, and if they don't want contact with the child the child will be told when obtaining the birth certificate. The child still gets all of the bio parents info on the birth certificate, though. This is how it should be.

  • @babs546
    @babs546 7 місяців тому +24

    I appreciate that you have a positive attitude towards a life without children. It’s not an empty and sad life. Thank you for reminding yourselves and everyone else about it.

  • @fallonbrooks1248
    @fallonbrooks1248 7 місяців тому +44

    I love you both so much. We have had 6 failed transfers this year, moving to surrogacy. I have watched your channel long before you shared your fertility journey. You are amazing people, and I appreciate you being so candid. I look forward to your updates and pray for you all of the time. Xoxo

  • @lesleydickens8831
    @lesleydickens8831 7 місяців тому +11

    Imagine if we told people that certain foods would prevent pregnancy! It’s just as crazy and you don’t need anymore stress when you are on this journey. Don’t ever beat yourself up because you are doing the best you can. Praying for the both of you!

  • @Susan-cooks
    @Susan-cooks 7 місяців тому +15

    Jessi, I also struggle with anxiety and tend to over think even the smallest things. I've had multiple surgeries and have reached a point that I almost look forward to the anesthesia because it's a relief to have my mind medically shut off so I get some sleep! Since I have not experienced your challenges, I can't pretend to understand your battle against endometriosis or the IVF journey you and Alessio are going through, however, I can emphasize and keep you both in my prayers.
    What I didn't hear either of you mention in this video is the importance of communication. You two are clearly a strong, loving, understanding and communicative couple. I think communicating with and understanding each other are major reasons you've been able to remain positive. You two should take credit for your communication skills because you are clearly extremely proficient in the often difficult art of it ❤

  • @mare5718
    @mare5718 7 місяців тому +9

    So I have been through pretty much everything you are going through except the IVF. Had many cysts, many surgeries, a lot of scar tissue and years and years of pain. After much prayer we made the decision to adopt. Our son is almost 34 now. Praying you two find peace and wisdom that only the Lord can give. God Bless.

  • @JohnSheehan72
    @JohnSheehan72 7 місяців тому +6

    Keep staying positive. I'm Irish, Italian and French. A true American mutt. Your journey is your journey, and just be grateful. My dad's first wife lost multiple births before they found out she had a rare blood disease. She passed away not to long after, and somehow he met my mother and ... here I am. You can be sad, you can be depressed, but just keep going. Your journey will affect many others.

  • @GinnyScates
    @GinnyScates 7 місяців тому +13

    Positivity is found inside of us... I've been in and out of hospitals since I was 2 (34 now), i went through a rare disease, three cancers, multiple surgeries, uncountable side effects, been deaf since I was 3, two years ago I even lost my ability to walk due to nerves damage... and I'm always the most positive person in the room.
    The point is, shit happens.
    Don't be sad because you're deaf, be happy because you can turn on your earing devices when you want to listen and turn it off when you need some quiet.
    Don't be sad that you're not walking, be happy that you have a wheelchair to move around and think that you're lucky to not be forced in bed.
    You're sick? It sucks, I know... the pain, the fatigue, the frustration of not seeing any way out of it... but you can choose whether to only see the bad side of it, or focus on any "not so bad" things that happen to you day after day.
    YOU have the power to change things. Start with small things, remind yourself that you're doing it to improve your situation.
    If you try to change things, you can succeed or fail. If you don't try, you'll only fail.
    Jessi and Alessio are right, tho. You need support, and you need to find out what really matters to you. Don't be afraid of your emotions.
    In my opinion, the only limits are physics and death.
    Love yourself, you're amazing ❤

    • @bluesky7288
      @bluesky7288 7 місяців тому +3

      Your an inspiration!

  • @antoniovieira4190
    @antoniovieira4190 4 місяці тому +2

    It's so enjoyable to watch your videos. Two people with such a mature conversation. I wish you all the best.

  • @ednuijen3243
    @ednuijen3243 7 місяців тому +19

    I am really interested in your story. Instead of giving advise on how to fix your problem (eat differently etc.) I will send you my support and love ❤️, you are the best judges of your situation. Again, ❤ your videos, stay strong and healthy. From France 🇫🇷 with love.

  • @Eloiseat6
    @Eloiseat6 7 місяців тому +23

    I’ve never had kids, and I don’t regret it at all! I’ve been a professor of film studies for my entire career-here in the U.S. and at a university in Europe. I’ve also worked with kids as a volunteer tutor-in Italy, as a matter of fact. I live a rich and fulfilling life and if I could, I’d foster both dogs and cats for rescues. Unfortunately, my living situation doesn’t allow it. So I have a cat and have had cats for 30 years. I’m certainly not drawing comparisons, but it seems to me you guys really love each other and support each other. You have no end of things you do and want to do in life. Those things are a recipe for a great life!
    I hope, in the event that you can’t have a baby, that you really do practice radical acceptance. I’ve done that a number of times, and it has helped me immeasurably. However you do it, or whatever you call it, meeting yourself exactly where you are, in my experience, is the key to happiness.

    • @Michigoose
      @Michigoose 7 місяців тому +6

      Beautifully said. I chose to not have children, and this is a cat household. A&J, if one is near you, hubs and I have experienced so much joy from fostering cats and kittens from the Humane Society. You pay for nothing (depending on the place you choose, YMMV). They give you food, supplies, vet care, everything. ALL you have to do is love them, socialize them if needed, and share some of your photos with potential adopters. You'll see Micha turn into a kitten again. Our cats are older, and they get so playful when a newbie comes into the mix. When you foster a cat that you fall in love in, and Micha is sleeping in the same bed and washing their face, you can join the "Foster Fail" club.
      There are many, many ways to leave a legacy. Love each other, and love yourselves.

  • @ellendorian
    @ellendorian 7 місяців тому +5

    I admire you so much for continuing to share your journey, even when people's comments are less sensitive. Thank you. I was lucky to have a great support group when I was going through my own fertility struggles, but not everyone has that. I love following you for everything you share.

    • @saraholiverio5000
      @saraholiverio5000 2 місяці тому

      I’ve honestly been completely shocked and disgusted by the sheer ignorance and cruelty of people responding and commenting on some of their content. My own experience with endometriosis and fertility mirrors hers, but even if that wasn’t the case, I couldn’t imagine reacting to anyone in that way. Blows your mind to see how people behave and interact online, truly.

  • @kyra5067
    @kyra5067 6 місяців тому +3

    Mita is so cute! I’m chronically ill and will likely never have a family because of this. It crushes me! But my two black cats are my kids now 🐈‍⬛

  • @travelagentify
    @travelagentify 7 місяців тому +7

    Thank you so much for sharing! I had my third transfer today after pregnancy loss earlier this year. All the best to you and everyone in the comments section. ❤️

    • @annakrol6912
      @annakrol6912 7 місяців тому +2

      All the best to you ❤

  • @chrisanderson9856
    @chrisanderson9856 7 місяців тому +4

    I wish you both the best of luck on your journey thru this infertility struggle.
    My wife and I went thru all this same struggle between 2006 and 2010. It was heartbreaking to watch my wife go thru the ups and downs associated with Endo, PCOS, and other fertility issues. We did what you are doing. However, my wife decided in 2009 that after many failed attempts and much pain, she opted for a total hysterectomy. I've never felt so much love for her as when she made the decision to put her health first.
    My God bless you both. We send prayers to you on this journey.

    • @OliviaLee777
      @OliviaLee777 7 місяців тому

      I am so sorry to hear about your wife's struggles. With all the fertility issues, did she ever have her methylate levels checked? It's something I came across a couple of days ago doing research about migraines and I found out depending on where the levels are at will cause PCOS, endometriosis, other fertility issues, migraines, mental and neurological issues.

  • @DeathsAsylum.DW300s
    @DeathsAsylum.DW300s 7 місяців тому +7

    Love u guys, i never had kids due to many medical issues im almost 45 and my husband almost 50 our two kitties are our fur babies, you don’t need children to have a full life ❤

  • @lburbs
    @lburbs 7 місяців тому +3

    Wishing you a successful surgery and fast recovery. May your journey end up with a healthy, happy mom and baby.

  • @sharonmulloy2181
    @sharonmulloy2181 7 місяців тому +4

    I spent an enormous amount of time and money trying to adopt as i really felt called to be a parent. When (for various reasons) it didn't work out, it was very sad. I think you're right about the value of therapy and the work you need to do to find value in a different life. That said, I pray that your hopes result in a positive outcome. Thank you for sharing your journey.

  • @jadebeam3029
    @jadebeam3029 7 місяців тому +4

    My husband and I struggled for 6 years because of my PCOS. I then ended up getting pregnant at 37 almost 38 years old!!! I am so sorry y'all are having to go through this I understand how hard it can be. We are praying for you and your future family 🙏🙏

  • @prayer4675
    @prayer4675 5 місяців тому +2

    I wish God bless you and give you as many children as you want and bless all your children too! You're very good and positive couple and you definitely deserve the family happiness. I want to tell you a story about my ex-colleague. He and his wife were in a similar situation like you now and after many tries they did surrogacy in Georgia. The Georgian woman was already pregnant with two their children when his wife unexpectedly got pregnant as well. This is how they became parents of three children almost immediately. He had to urgently change his car to a bigger one.

  • @CuteNP
    @CuteNP 7 місяців тому +5

    So grateful for you guys and your posts. I’m too shy to comment on Facebook so thank you for having a platform on UA-cam ❤ I went through 2 IVF cycles. First resulted in ectopic and second just didn’t take. I’ve been so sad about it. Thank you for talking about your journey. It’s so helpful and makes me feel less alone ❤

  • @kiouria90
    @kiouria90 7 місяців тому +3

    Guys! Listening to you made me remember our fertility journey, it is not so long as yours.. But! I had struggles mentally to accept that we have a problem in conceiving, i was crying every single moment, I didn't want to see anyone.. I did a lot of therapy that helped me to get rid some of these feelings, try IVF (although it was difficult financialy for us) and try to have our precious baby.. Meanwhile I realized that I love my husband, I love travelling and having a good time with him, I have my 2 beautiful cats that I love so much...and that was something that made me be less depressed day by day..
    Be positive and everything will be fine! I hope that your story will have a happy ending.. It already has a happy ending, you have each other! And Micia of course!!❤ (Sorry if my English are broken, Balkan here!!😂)

  • @z.a.r.777
    @z.a.r.777 7 місяців тому +4

    Hello. My daughter in law went through all, and still does. It's heartbreaking. Now she wants to adopt. Lord willing everything will work out

  • @moonridgeretreat
    @moonridgeretreat 7 місяців тому +6

    Great post. As with most things in life, half the battle is deciding on your game plan and it looks like you both have an excellent one moving forward. Wishing you all the luck in your baby journey. ❤❤❤

  • @TinaPauHana
    @TinaPauHana 7 місяців тому +5

    Stay positive, I've had an ectopic pregnancy and am cyst prone. I also totally understand the feeling when you are so ready to have a baby and all you see are babies, baby mommas, it's frustrating (I can tell you stories on how I felt. So many feelings...). Hang in there and stay postitive. Now that I look back (I'm in my 60's now) I realize it's a marathon than a sprint. I am sorry you two are going through this, but know there are many of your viewers who are wishing you the best. btw- I now have two beautiful babies (they are 30 and 27, but are always my babies)

  • @BlueBird-nf2gp
    @BlueBird-nf2gp 7 місяців тому +3

    I’m glad you’ve found ways to keep a positive outlook as much as possible. Best wishes on your journey. ❤😊

  • @hbee921
    @hbee921 7 місяців тому +3

    Blessings to you both. Prayers...hugs...❤🙏🏻 I don't know of your struggles...but I recently lost a child. So steps of loss.
    .and your steps of discouragement trying. Sending hugs and prayers ❤🙏🏻

  • @helenemalenfant5435
    @helenemalenfant5435 7 місяців тому +1

    You will find your own path and what works for you. Both my sister and I had fertility issues. She had endometriosis. Mine took longer to sort out as an underlying endocrine problem with my adrenal glands it was too late by the time it got discovered. But, frankly, I took a different approach because I saw my sister become obsessed with becoming pregnant. She went on fertility drugs for way way too long and it impacted her mental health, they tried IVF which failed and she unraveled as did her marriage. I was in graduate school until quite late and by the time I was even looking into these issues I was already older and I had a number of complex health issues so it was a no brainer for me to just reformulate. I love kids but I refused to torment myself as I saw her do. It sounds like you’ve gone through a similar process and are moving forward, hoping for the best, but appreciating what you have.. I’m sure you will still have challenging times emotionally but your overall mindset and outlook is a positive one.
    And regarding lifestyle and nutrition…yes, it can affect any illness. Anything autoimmune or inflammatory, somewhat more. So yes you want to optimize, as you’ve been doing, but it’s not going to cure endometriosis. I feel your frustration. My husband has a rare bone marrow cancer and has the absolute best team who saved his life against odds. And, although well intentioned, I have friends saying he needs to eat this (actually, no, that’s not healthy for him post stem cell transplant), or use CBD oil…the guy is needing daily platelets and blood to stay alive every day with complex coordinated care but avoiding gluten will do it. So, yes, people are well intentioned but it can be a tad frustrating sometimes. Anyhow, all the best to both of you. When times are rough, remember to cherish one another. It’s been a protracted battle for us but we try to turn it around that we are both still alive and lucky to have one another.

  • @corrieclark6718
    @corrieclark6718 7 місяців тому +5

    Unless you have a chronic condition it can be hard for others to understand their well meaning questions can hurt. It’s also hard for those with chronic conditions to remember people are asking if you have tried xyz because they want to help. Or maybe something did help them or someone they know. I know for me it can be a slap in the face. You are already dealing with your body letting you down. Most people have tried all the things. So it gets annoying and frustrating when people ask if you have done this or that. Or when you shoot down their idea because you know it will not work for your situation.
    I love your mentality and perspective. My prayers are with you

  • @CarmelaV59
    @CarmelaV59 7 місяців тому +2

    Just continue to be your positive, beautiful, happy selves!
    I have had RA for almost 25 years and continue to get the same advice from people, i.e., that if I would only give up: gluten, meat, diary, nightshades, wine, bla, bla, bla. And, yes, it feels judgmental - almost like it’s your fault you have a medical condition. I have tried eliminating all of the above, to NO effect (I have found that limiting alcohol does seem to make a difference) other than being more stressed trying to figure out what the heck to eat and cook. I confess I was beyond relieved that giving up gluten and nightshades didn’t make a difference because life without pasta, good bread/bruschetta, tomatoes or eggplant would be more than I could bear! I need my pasta and caponata!!! 😂😂😂 Keep the faith!

  • @Ambimom
    @Ambimom 7 місяців тому +3

    Life is a journey. Yours may be a difficult one, but when you look back, it'll make sense. 🌺❤🌼

  • @cherylsouza4926
    @cherylsouza4926 7 місяців тому +5

    Thanks for the update. Glad to hear the present cyst has calmed down at this time. If we were neighbors I sure would be loving on Micia while you were in Italy. Cat Mom here! 💜

  • @optimusmike8680
    @optimusmike8680 7 місяців тому +2

    Speaking as someone who probably won’t have kids due to the disability I was born with, an how people especially women view an treat me cause of it, wanna say cherish having each other even though u may not be having kids,many people in this life don’t realize how precious an rare it is just to have someone u love an be able to have them by ur side, let alone have a baby/ be able to create a family. In my eyes that type of thing is privileged because only a certain amount of people actually get to experience having the ability to create a family an have it be stable at the same time !

  • @saraholiverio5000
    @saraholiverio5000 2 місяці тому

    An overwhelming thank you for broaching this topic and bravely opening up the conversation on endometriosis and fertility. I left a lengthy comment on your Instagram page today expressing my appreciation. Curious if you’ve successfully found a specialist within TN that you like? My husband and I reside about 45 min outside of Nashville and the endometriosis specialist/surgeon that previously operated on me has relocated unfortunately. Finding a new one has posed a big challenge. Hope it’s not too intrusive to ask. Thank you again for your vulnerability and the strength you’ve both displayed in sharing. It can be such a discouraging and devastating disease- something I wish no one had to live with, including myself. My heart goes out to you

  • @EvelynJoy
    @EvelynJoy 7 місяців тому +1

    The cyst is shrinking!!! I'm so glad to hear that!!!!!

  • @sherrieshatzen3801
    @sherrieshatzen3801 5 місяців тому

    I imagine that most people mean well when they make all of their suggestions about what the solution is for you, but I find that this is really arrogant. It is clear that both of you are extremely intelligent & that you have experience at exploring resources. I think that here in the US we tend to believe in & search for a magic bullet. Life is not about magic bullets. Sometimes what I have heard referred to as the "mystery" of life is that we don't understand; that we don't get what we want--what we pray for. We may never get an answer, or at least we may not get the answer we want & we may not understand the answer we get. I think you are both amazing individuals & together what you create is sacred.

  • @marieledu8228
    @marieledu8228 7 місяців тому +2

    You're such a beautiful couple. And I must say, Jessie, you're absolutely gorgeous. Graceful, luminous.. Your smile bless us all.
    In my prayers, I visualise you two holding your newborn with tears of happiness in your eyes. It feels so real, I'm sure it's coming.
    Lots of love from France (yeah... Sorry Alessio 😁❤️)

  • @amyo1344
    @amyo1344 7 місяців тому +5

    Your journey is helping me not feel alone in our journey of infertility. I have PCOS and we haven’t been able to conceive for a year and a half now and I’ve been watching all my friends have babies and boy it is hard. We’ve had set backs so we haven’t been able to try fertility treatments yet like IUI or IVF. So my heart goes out to you guys. Infertility is hard, but I’m glad you guys are sharing your story to help others not feel alone.

    • @OliviaLee777
      @OliviaLee777 7 місяців тому

      Have you heard of methylate and have you had those levels checked? Depending on what your levels are at, it can cause endometriosis and other fertility, mental, and neurological issues. I came across this information a couple of days ago doing research on migraines.

  • @Tureckymed
    @Tureckymed 7 місяців тому +1

    Sweethearts 🥺 You bring so much joy and laughter, I didn’t imagine the struggle you go through. May you live the happiest and the most fulfiling life ❤

  • @CrazyGamer-pv3ds
    @CrazyGamer-pv3ds 6 місяців тому +2

    Micha is truely living la dolce vita...
    You guys do what is best in your situation and you survive and thrive.
    Stay healthy stay happy. La dolce vita.
    Sorry italian is not my culture...

  • @MichaelKilby
    @MichaelKilby 6 місяців тому +1

    It’s worth the struggle. Never give up.

  • @IvyWhiskeyDram
    @IvyWhiskeyDram 7 місяців тому +1

    Jessie you'll be in great hands, make sure to write down all the questions you have in your head no matter how big or small or how silly they might seem, just ask and writing down helps you to remember them. I found that if I ask the doctor/sugeon to talk me through the procedure that I feel less worried and it helps you understand and feel more in control which is so important when going into surgery I feel. Prayers and love with you both.
    I live in Bari and I find the healthcare here is very good and I've had much quicker and better treatment than I've had in the UK. personally I think the Italian health systerm is good and I personally have nothing but praise for the treatment I've been given or the treatments of my friends or family have had too, and I think it's great how private and ASL work together unlike in the UK.

  • @Christy7434
    @Christy7434 6 місяців тому

    I have fallen in love with both of you in all your fun videos. Praying for you both from Montana ♡ May the Lord be with you and grant you true peace.

  • @caica32
    @caica32 6 місяців тому +2

    After 9 years of IVFs, spontaneous abortion, tears and fighting mostly with myself, one ordinary Thursday I held a positive test in my hands. That boy is now over 12 years old! The only thing I could never say for myself was, I will never be a mom! I always believed in my heart that God is above every medical finding. Later, the same boy told me before going to sleep that God had been persuading him for a long time to come to me, but he did not want to leave God. I didn't believe in a miracle, I counted on a miracle! Lot of love from Croatia ❤❤❤

  • @paula-ni7kz
    @paula-ni7kz 6 місяців тому

    I really enjoy you two! I don't have anything in common with you except for endometriosis and PCOS cysts, but it feels like we're friends and I want to say I feel so much love for you both. 💗 Thankyou for sharing your journey, and being so warm hearted as to answer questions from your mostly loving and loyal online "friends". I pray to Jesus, our best friend, portal to heaven and all things wonderful and true, that you will both be sustained on this journey. Gods plan for you is GOOD. It may be different than your plan for you, but ultimately His plan for you will bring you both your best life. ❤️

  • @daisy9910
    @daisy9910 7 місяців тому +6

    I just want to point out that Mischa is your first child, and will always be a child 😅 I too wanted biological children, but it didn't happen with my husband. I am now going through perimenopause, and the odds of pregnancy would be small. Be happy within your selves first, everything else is icing on the cake. PS. I'm a mother to 3 cats and 1 puppy.

  • @CathyLandrith
    @CathyLandrith 7 місяців тому +4

    I was much older when i married and we tried for a few years and i had 2 micarriages. Ultimately my nieces and nephews were the recipients of our love. We are the fun aunt and uncle. My niece asked me to go on her high school art trip to Florence. I wentand to this day we atill talk aboutour magical time together. Di i wish we had a child---yes, but there are things we cannot control. My husband was as suport as Alessio and believe me, that is vital to any relationshp especiaaly in this situation. Know that you both are on my nightly rosary list. Only love and good wishes. JESSI ---YOU EAT THAT COOKIE. LOL.

  • @carolynturk-hu7je
    @carolynturk-hu7je 7 місяців тому +5

    God bless you both! Sending good vibes, thoughts and prayers your way always!😊❤

  • @petitfour7687
    @petitfour7687 7 місяців тому +3

    Wishing you all the best guys!!!❤❤❤ Love to Micia too

  • @birgitwiley5540
    @birgitwiley5540 7 місяців тому +1

    My own childless godmother was a big part of my life and my upbringing and it was also my choice to have no children.I’m still happy in my 60s of my choice and my husband is as well, so you have to embrace what you do and be happy with it

  • @EvelynJoy
    @EvelynJoy 7 місяців тому +1

    Aw! I'm glad that you have neices and nephews to love and care for! That is amazing! :)

  • @shauntaestewart3846
    @shauntaestewart3846 Місяць тому

    ❤ Y’all. Your strength and positivity is wonderful

  • @jakesbel8237
    @jakesbel8237 7 місяців тому +9

    My husband was international pilot doing lot of flying for the military (he was retired military). After 9/11 he was flying in and out of war zones being shot at when taking off and landing. I prayed a lot and I was thanking God he was home safe and sound for a few days. Then God let me know it didn’t matter if he was home, on a trip, or flying only He knew what day, year, and time and I didn’t control it or keep him for one extra second. I stopped worrying about. I was scared at times then I have to remember God has it.
    As DES Daughter I was told I would not live past 30. I turn 69 next month. Lot of surgeries and little anxiety but it’s in God’s hands.

    • @lynndinovo3500
      @lynndinovo3500 7 місяців тому +2

      You are certainly one of God's very best

  • @petitfour7687
    @petitfour7687 7 місяців тому +2

    Looove Jessie's pyjama with the cat!

  • @niencat
    @niencat 7 місяців тому +1

    Very wise words Alessio, about the mind.

  • @StephanieBogart
    @StephanieBogart 7 місяців тому +5

    I think so many people ask about the nutrition thing because so many people are just now having their eyes opened and they just want to help. Personally I’ve studied nutrition for 14 years. Every single body is different. You’re right. One size does not fit all. I think the worst culprit is gluten and dairy. In the US. Not other countries.

  • @kristinmaguireDeadhead65
    @kristinmaguireDeadhead65 7 місяців тому +2

    You both are awesome! Great attitude!

    • @ThePasinis
      @ThePasinis  6 місяців тому +1

      Thank you so much!

  • @birtajonsdottir9910
    @birtajonsdottir9910 7 місяців тому

    My heart goes out to you guys. ❤ I have endometriosis, and my husband and I never made it to the finish line with IVF. I have adhesions too, and as a result, I had only one functioning tube. Then we had an ectopic pregnancy with the remaining tube. It was gut-wrenching to go through at the time, but my husband and I decided to regroup and focus on living our best life. We saved up to open a restaurant instead of spending all of our money on IVF, and it all worked out for the best in the end. Having said that, I really do hope we see a baby on the other side of this rough patch for you guys. ❤ Hang in there. ❤

    • @OliviaLee777
      @OliviaLee777 7 місяців тому

      Sending hugs your way! Also have you heard of methylate and have you had those levels checked? I came across it a couple of days ago doing research on something I found out that depending on where your methylate levels are at can cause endometriosis along with many other issues including fertility and mental and neurological.

  • @shannongalloway9500
    @shannongalloway9500 Місяць тому

    As a woman who suffered with endometriosis for years!!!! Yes if the special diet helps you, GO FOR it!!!! Honestly it all made it worse for ME because it made my anxiety and stress and my day to day life WORSE. Listen to your gut and do what your specialists are suggesting. It took us years a couple surgeries and all the tests…we now have 3 teens! Never give up!!!! Jessie:!! I LOVE your dresses!!! Where did you get them the green one, the black one. You are beautiful

  • @mariankay6482
    @mariankay6482 7 місяців тому +4

    God bless you both. Praying for health and healing and I pray you prosper, in all ways, as your soul prospers. God knows your needs and desires and He will give you the answers you seek and bless you with what you need and some of your wants.
    Romans 8:28
    This comes from a 62 year old woman who's been married for 42 years with no children of our own. We wanted them earlier in marriage and like you just thought that's what was supposed to happen. We have been blessed with the love of so many children. Scripture says that a woman with no children of her own will be the mother of many. Yeah, that's me! I love our life and I am thankful, now, that we didn't have any children. Life works out, now matter how it works out.
    I am not sayint our path is yours, at all! I am just saying this is where I am. God has His plans for you 2 and no one's lives work out the same. I want Gods best for you 2. Just keeps loving each other and living your lives and blessing where you can and it will all be fine!❤️🙂🙏🙌

  • @monicabarnett9231
    @monicabarnett9231 7 місяців тому +1

    Sending you guys all the good vibes! ❤ love and support from NYC

  • @kathyrichardson6044
    @kathyrichardson6044 6 місяців тому

    Please look into acupuncture before and after your transfer of your embryos. 🙏

  • @Ccamero123
    @Ccamero123 5 місяців тому

    See this is the problem with putting your life on line. You’ve brought us these beautiful videos of two wonderful people but there are idiots out there who can’t wait to tell you what worked for them. It makes me angry. My husband and I wish everything wondrous for the two of you. No matter what happens we can see the love you have for each other and the cat! After almost forty six years I have loved my husband and I know you two are the same because we were young and in love too. So forget those people and no matter what just be kind and love each other😘😘😘😘

  • @fatimaadeel6382
    @fatimaadeel6382 7 місяців тому +1

    i also had 8 hours long surgery my doctor told me ,this is first time she saw that much worse case but she did very well .some nurse told me this in belgium after endometriosis surgery that don't eat cheese, cheese make endometriosis worse try don't eat all kind of process food and also all soft drinks . I had surgery like 4 years ago and never eat these thing . I'm still fine . I also have one kid after surgery. soo always stay positive you will have kid buy your own. (Insha Allah)

  • @davidholiday4494
    @davidholiday4494 7 місяців тому +2

    great to see you guys again!!!!

  • @StitchetyDoodah
    @StitchetyDoodah 7 місяців тому +1

    Praying for you right now. 💚

  • @maurofattori95
    @maurofattori95 7 місяців тому +4

    ciao ragazzi... tifiamo per voi !! vi aspetto a Verona quanto siete qui in italia!!

  • @joycupollilo2605
    @joycupollilo2605 7 місяців тому

    Love the journey with you both and thank you for sharing your life with all of us. I have always been so fascinated with Italy 🇮🇹 .

  • @DinaMadi23
    @DinaMadi23 7 місяців тому

    Hey guys! Always lovely to see your beaming faces! I know everyone wants to throw their 2 cents and it's because despite never having met you, we all truly care. So here is my question: Have you ever looked into something called Histamine Intolerance or MCAS? As I heard it can be closely related to endometriosis. It's a disorder that can manifest in a plethora of ways depending on the person. I have it and have been managing it for years now and things have gotten a lot better. Once you read up about it many things may click. You can listen to Michelle Shapiro, RD and Organic Olivia on UA-cam, they really knows what they're talking about. In bocca al lupo and looking forward to your next update 😘

  • @tmd7514
    @tmd7514 7 місяців тому

    Sending you lots of hope and good wishes to meet your future babies ❤

  • @emnas82
    @emnas82 7 місяців тому

    OMG its like you're talking about my journey although I didn't take therapy... In the beginning it was not easy but then after 6 ivf fails, removed my fallopian tubes too, i started concentrating about my career and forgot about kids.....yes I miss it sometimes but in general I'm in peace with it now, and i feel much better without all the medicines & injections....life must always goes on....anyhow good luck to both of u I wish you all the best
    Oh and I have a cat too 😸😁

  • @The9thDaisy
    @The9thDaisy 7 місяців тому +7

    Hi - I was one of the people who asked about and suggested diet a video ago (didn't know you tried it). I'm sorry! Please forgive the ignorant and best wishes.

    • @lynndinovo3500
      @lynndinovo3500 7 місяців тому +2

      You are truly humble and certainly wishing the best for those with fertility issues. Just a fyi I knew a woman who had food allergies and learned that avoiding those allergens was key for her. For those with blocked tubes diet is of no consequence. You are surely a kind lady with good intentions. Everyone here wishes this couple all the best. I surely do.

  • @kimberlyg4693
    @kimberlyg4693 7 місяців тому

    Praying 🙏 for you all that you will be able to able to have a successful transfer!!

  • @nojaw11
    @nojaw11 7 місяців тому

    Praying for you guys and sending lots of good vibes your way... much love 💗

  • @garymacmillan
    @garymacmillan 7 місяців тому

    Wedge in more food shows too; they are so darn good. Oscar worthy!

  • @suev7235
    @suev7235 7 місяців тому +1

    God always has a plan! 🙏 Believe in him.

  • @awhippersnapper
    @awhippersnapper 7 місяців тому +1

    Hi there from an endo friend. Thanks for the update and sharing your experience. We are over here cheering you on! Praying your dreams do come true. 💛
    Not advice just my brain being curious: Something that came to mind that I wonder about for people with infertility due to fallopian tube problems is if a fallopian tube transplant is an option. Pretty radical but if possible I imagine could be a possible solution to help people.

  • @patriciamcpherson4667
    @patriciamcpherson4667 7 місяців тому

    Believe me I know what you're going through I had endometriosis so bad it was even wrapped around my colon surgery was the only answer. I survived it and you can too.

  • @andig2218
    @andig2218 6 місяців тому

    Prayers for you❤

  • @betta8536
    @betta8536 6 місяців тому

    Video stupendo ❤
    In bocca al lupo per tutto!

  • @invioletsky
    @invioletsky 7 місяців тому +1

    I think in Europe they do not transfer more than 2 in one attempt. It is considered very risky and a bad practice.

  • @celestinaanderson3979
    @celestinaanderson3979 7 місяців тому +1

    I love to see little Miss Micia🖤🖤🖤🖤

  • @EvelynJoy
    @EvelynJoy 7 місяців тому

    Hugs! I'm about to start the video now.

  • @srqlisa7881
    @srqlisa7881 7 місяців тому

    I have a question and please know if you answered this in another video I apologize.
    I am just curious have you ever been tested for any autoimmune illness’? This is part of my history so curious.
    ❤❤ thanks for the honesty here.

  • @helganakiyingi3379
    @helganakiyingi3379 7 місяців тому

    I pray that God will grant you the desires of your heart

  • @laurarobin1768
    @laurarobin1768 6 місяців тому +1

    "You bring to bloom what is barren. We ask your presence and care for all those who seek to be parents. Bless them with the conception, healthy delivery and joyful rearing of children to cherish made in your image and likeness. Dwell with them and console them as they wait for the gifts given in your good time."
    God, be with you both
    : St. Anne, please accompany all those who are struggling to conceive.
    :Good St. Anne, you were granted favor with the Lord to carry the most Holy Virgin Mary inside your womb. You know my deep desire for a child: a little one to love, to hold, to care for, and to cherish. Grant that my body may conceive and give birth to a beautiful, healthy baby in God’s holy image. Guide me in all my choices so that this conception, my pregnancy and my baby’s birth are in line with God’s will. Heavenly Father and Holy Mother, hear this prayer of my heart, mind and spirit. Amen.”

  • @FreezyAbitKT7A
    @FreezyAbitKT7A 7 місяців тому +1

    No matter what happens, it takes practice and more practice to make a happy family. Keep the boyfriend/girlfriend romance going your entire marriage. Romantic laziness of a spouse is a terrible thing. If you are too sad to be romantic, there is something wrong.

  • @lucias8558
    @lucias8558 7 місяців тому +1

    Sending love to you ❤

  • @gerib4234
    @gerib4234 7 місяців тому +1

    Keep in mind, unfortunately food in America is allowed many ingredients that are banned in other countries. Many.

  • @ewb211200
    @ewb211200 7 місяців тому

    Cute couple... I love your reviews. Funny.

  • @gunznin
    @gunznin 6 місяців тому

    What about adopting ?

  • @TheK448
    @TheK448 7 місяців тому +1

    ❤ you are THE BEST.
    But i have one problem, and maybe someone in comments has some advice?
    I cannot deal with the fact that my husband wont have kids because of me. I know that pcos is not my fault, but i cannot to stop thinking how happy he could be If he be with anyone else, any of my friends of girls from highschool…all of them made familiies. I have the best husband, he is such a sweet man with golden heart. I think how cute he would be with pregnant wife how happy, and he would be the best dad ever. I dont really cry when see pregnant women, but when i see those happy to be farhers my heart is broken.
    Sometimes i think that mayby i should leave him so he could be with better women :( im shit Haha sorry for sad comment for such a wonderfull and hopefull viedeo.

    • @marymahar8446
      @marymahar8446 2 місяці тому

      Please don't take on all the blame. Many factors contribute to infertility. Try to give your husband, and yourself, grace, and rejoice in the love you share together. If he didn't want to be with you, he wouldn't stay. Hug him and take good care of each other. 💕

  • @aymanrammal1532
    @aymanrammal1532 6 місяців тому

    I know many couples who decided to adopt and at that time they discovered that they were pregnant

  • @TeriPfaff
    @TeriPfaff 6 місяців тому

    Praying

  • @barbararoberts4471
    @barbararoberts4471 2 місяці тому

    Bless your hearts!,,,xoxo

  • @marypowers9974
    @marypowers9974 7 місяців тому +1

    Try a carnivore diet (grass fed). our food supply has so much artificial ingredients, it can't be good for us. it would be neat for you guys to go on a carnivore adventure. love your videos and you both will be in my prayers.

  • @Irene.Shalom
    @Irene.Shalom 7 місяців тому +3

    Not because I'm Italian also....but living in Italy and exploring more traditional, ancestral, clean food and lifestyle would definitely help you out. It's considered "conspiracy" talk, but with some research it's crazy the amount of things you find that can impact our hormones and overall health. More and more women have fertility issues, more and more men have incredibly low testosterone levels... to the point that they changed the standard reference levels because the average has dropped significantly. If you have the option, leave the US

    • @bananayummyable
      @bananayummyable 6 місяців тому

      Excuse me but as an Italian person, lots of people have fertility issues here too? Lots of couples doing IVF? Being in Italy will not cure endometriosis or other health problems, it’s hurtful and ignorant to imply that