This isn't a subject discussed enough. You really hit the nail on the head with both of your videos about this and it's so refreshing to see that I'm not the only one feeling like this. For the longest time, I used to beat myself up for not adapting just one thing and sticking with it because I thought others just had an easier time...
This has to be the best video for identity crisis. I’m starting a new position at my old place of internship. I just graduated but at the same time I was very scared that I wasn’t gonna be accepted anywhere or my degree was useless because of my results. What you said about being unsure of who you are is good because it helps to know that sometimes I throw myself into things that I eventually fell in love with (my internship for example) The labels, supportive people, do things that make me feel good, separating identity & business, discovering mental health disorder (a lot of counseling sessions seem to suggest that I might have ADHD), my meditation (cleaning the dishes, because I can’t be silently sit still), putting myself in new situations are some things I plan to do after this video. Good video
i’m so glad you got something from this video. those all sound like really great plans. try implementing them into your life gradually, and they’ll stick better. the dishes one is good, there are so many mundane little tasks we look over every day, but they can become moments to reset ourselves and be present
currently feeling a bit out of control with parts of myself. lately ive been trying to get on top of my stuff, yk like make better decisions and work hard on myself but i feel so tired. im 18 years old and im growing up nd its just so hard like the fact that ill have to work 40 hrs a week eventually just sucks ass. and so im torn between the need to get better as a person and grow and learn how to deal with reality on its terms and the little person inside me. and on top of that i feel like the people around me arent making decisions that i agree with sometimes and that makes me scared because i dont want to grow apart from them. and i dont want to tell them what to do. but theres some stuff where im just like grrr why are you doing that… idk man. i just wanna make good choices nd shit ig. but that feels so boring and ordinary and too grown up. im still a kid inside man idk how im gonna deal with this world. nd yeah the thing with feeling like a different person every week or so been going on sooo long. i just wanna be okay how i am. and ive been doing that sorta. i ride on lots of spiritual highs where i feel like my best self, but they only come around every few months or so, and when they go away i feel worthless and wonder what im doing wrong to feel so worthless. nd that just kinda loops around in a spiral of poo. something that helped was trying to put my energy into making things a little better, working out a lil, skating, shit like that to get out the energy that goes into hating myself. and so i started to feel a lil more grown up yk. but thennn today i felt like more little! and that scared me bc im not grown up anymore! im little now! but i like being little sometimes ig?! cuz i dont feel as hard at heart when im like that i suppose you know? but like if im little, i dont feel as attractive! or grown up. i dont know man. it doesnt make sense. i wish i could just be one god damn thing for fucks sake but im not 😭 i go from a positive happy innocent little man to a grown up ontop of shit grown up man guy. neither is bad! they both have good things about them! its just some parts of them are bad! and the grass is always fuxking greener!!! wtf!!! but yeah this has become a bit of a journal and like a whole book thank u for the cool vid and anyone reading this this far love you ❤
It’s okay to feel little and old at the same time!! You’ll probably feel that way for the next couple of years. People at your age are sometimes still children while others are already living on their own with jobs, it’s a weird age. Growing up is scary and confusing but just take it one step at a time. It’s hard to imagine yourself working a full time job but you’ll inch into it. It won’t happen all at once
I've been in this state for a very long time, since like, high school. I see all folks talking about their likes/dislikes/opinions/goals in such a determined manner... meanwhile I have no clue, I have a bunch of voices arguing with each other in my head all the time, where each one has a different perspective, and there just seems to be no way to assemble them. This makes me very unsure about whether to like/dislike something, or how to structure opinions/goals. I'm not even sure what to think about for this video xD. Identity crisis when it comes to sexuality and gender is fairly talked about, and even though I never had much of a crisis when it comes to these things, I still end up searching lgbt+ topics from time to time, as there is little to no information about having an identity crisis when it comes to literally anything else. Ever this crisis came up I've become a dull, plain and boring person. Seriously though, thank you. As another user has commented, this really is a subject not discussed enough. It messes with life more than it seems. I could rant about this on and on so I might just stop for now lel.
well hey i think there are a lot of benefits to being unsure. there’s so much more space to grow and allow for change, which is so valuable at any point in life. if you don’t have your own opinions sometimes, you can still analyze the opinions of others and think deeply about them. and yeah i agree this topic really isn’t talked about enough, but if you want more info about this, i did make another video on this a couple years ago. i also found reading up on psychology related topics around personality helped clarify things too :-)
Thanks for making this video (and the older one too). You speak about this nerve-wracking topic in such a calm way which in itself is soothing. I have been feeling very stuck lately and I am finding out that answers I am seeking probably don't exist. It is acceptance that I need to work on in the end of the day. Accepting the me, exactly how I am, not the good version of me, but the day to day version of me. Easier said than done, but worth trying.
Thank you so much and I absolutely mean that with the most sincerity. I've been struggling with this for quite a bit and it has been overwhelming and exhausting but putting words to it and explaining what could be happening and what could be effecting it really helped thank you so much again
Hey Sarah..am also here from your previous video and you really helped in my discovery journey. You touched on something that exactly described my situation. I've recently changed my environment and I can now put a name on this thing that has been tormenting me my whole life. Few days ago I sat and questioned on what I believe about myself and for a moment I was blank😢..I took a step to start recollecting my identity and I've only gotten so far. The thing that is mostly occupying my mind right now is my ability to sing and my love for interior design..they are a part of my life but am in doubt of whether they are really meant to be..I keep looking for solid background and a base for why I do them but find nothing..I attest my singing to a certain neighbour who loved singing and feel that maybe were it not for her I wouldn't be singing..I need evidence like maybe my singing was discovered in me as a child or I'll keep believing that am living a lie. Is anyone out there with me on this?
I am so glad you got so much from this video :) if you had a concrete reason that you like to do the things you do, would that solve the problem? Like for example, if your love for interior design was bc you were genetically predispositioned to love it, would that put your mind at ease?
@@SarahKrohn Thanks for replying..yeah..it would definitely help but that seems impossible right now..maybe another solution..but it's okay..your videos helped me discover so much that I'll definitely stop at nothing until I figure this out..keep doing what you're doing..maybe something you mentioned was the only fuel I needed.
Well hey, good luck. What I’ve found in my life is that the answers I was craving to certain things either don’t exist or don’t answer my questions like I wanted them to. So don’t stress yourself out too much :-)
I think I know what I want, but I have no idea how to meet those kinds of people in my country, or how and where to find certain meetups or conventions where I can meet them, as well as them being around my age... And I don't even need a convention, I just need a little bit of a group that meets up, but IDK where to find them!
Communities are so important to have! As for where to find them, look for interests that you have, like hobbies. For example, a lot of hobbies are pretty independent but you can find other people to do them with or just talk about them with. When all else fails, the internet is a resource for a lot of those groups when you’re not in the same location
I feel like i don't exist, and i don't recognise myself in my thoughts, in my pictures , i forgot myself entirely , is it normal someone plzz reply, 🙏😥 will i back to normal? 🙏🙏🙏😥🙏🙏🙏
It mostly takes time but also being present with how you’re feeling and trying to create a greater awareness of who you are in relation to the world around you. It is normal to feel that way sometimes but if it goes on for a long time then maybe not so much. But the way you’re feeling is valid nonetheless
This isn't a subject discussed enough. You really hit the nail on the head with both of your videos about this and it's so refreshing to see that I'm not the only one feeling like this. For the longest time, I used to beat myself up for not adapting just one thing and sticking with it because I thought others just had an easier time...
right!! i did the same thing but i think most feel that way yanno
I can see how you have grown in two years! Thank you for this
This has to be the best video for identity crisis. I’m starting a new position at my old place of internship. I just graduated but at the same time I was very scared that I wasn’t gonna be accepted anywhere or my degree was useless because of my results.
What you said about being unsure of who you are is good because it helps to know that sometimes I throw myself into things that I eventually fell in love with (my internship for example)
The labels, supportive people, do things that make me feel good, separating identity & business, discovering mental health disorder (a lot of counseling sessions seem to suggest that I might have ADHD), my meditation (cleaning the dishes, because I can’t be silently sit still), putting myself in new situations are some things I plan to do after this video.
Good video
i’m so glad you got something from this video. those all sound like really great plans. try implementing them into your life gradually, and they’ll stick better. the dishes one is good, there are so many mundane little tasks we look over every day, but they can become moments to reset ourselves and be present
currently feeling a bit out of control with parts of myself. lately ive been trying to get on top of my stuff, yk like make better decisions and work hard on myself but i feel so tired. im 18 years old and im growing up nd its just so hard like the fact that ill have to work 40 hrs a week eventually just sucks ass. and so im torn between the need to get better as a person and grow and learn how to deal with reality on its terms and the little person inside me. and on top of that i feel like the people around me arent making decisions that i agree with sometimes and that makes me scared because i dont want to grow apart from them. and i dont want to tell them what to do. but theres some stuff where im just like grrr why are you doing that… idk man. i just wanna make good choices nd shit ig. but that feels so boring and ordinary and too grown up. im still a kid inside man idk how im gonna deal with this world. nd yeah the thing with feeling like a different person every week or so been going on sooo long. i just wanna be okay how i am. and ive been doing that sorta. i ride on lots of spiritual highs where i feel like my best self, but they only come around every few months or so, and when they go away i feel worthless and wonder what im doing wrong to feel so worthless. nd that just kinda loops around in a spiral of poo. something that helped was trying to put my energy into making things a little better, working out a lil, skating, shit like that to get out the energy that goes into hating myself. and so i started to feel a lil more grown up yk. but thennn today i felt like more little! and that scared me bc im not grown up anymore! im little now! but i like being little sometimes ig?! cuz i dont feel as hard at heart when im like that i suppose you know? but like if im little, i dont feel as attractive! or grown up. i dont know man. it doesnt make sense. i wish i could just be one god damn thing for fucks sake but im not 😭 i go from a positive happy innocent little man to a grown up ontop of shit grown up man guy. neither is bad! they both have good things about them! its just some parts of them are bad! and the grass is always fuxking greener!!! wtf!!! but yeah this has become a bit of a journal and like a whole book thank u for the cool vid and anyone reading this this far love you ❤
It’s okay to feel little and old at the same time!! You’ll probably feel that way for the next couple of years. People at your age are sometimes still children while others are already living on their own with jobs, it’s a weird age. Growing up is scary and confusing but just take it one step at a time. It’s hard to imagine yourself working a full time job but you’ll inch into it. It won’t happen all at once
Just came here after the video from 3 years ago ^^
welcome back :-)
I've been in this state for a very long time, since like, high school. I see all folks talking about their likes/dislikes/opinions/goals in such a determined manner... meanwhile I have no clue, I have a bunch of voices arguing with each other in my head all the time, where each one has a different perspective, and there just seems to be no way to assemble them. This makes me very unsure about whether to like/dislike something, or how to structure opinions/goals. I'm not even sure what to think about for this video xD. Identity crisis when it comes to sexuality and gender is fairly talked about, and even though I never had much of a crisis when it comes to these things, I still end up searching lgbt+ topics from time to time, as there is little to no information about having an identity crisis when it comes to literally anything else. Ever this crisis came up I've become a dull, plain and boring person. Seriously though, thank you. As another user has commented, this really is a subject not discussed enough. It messes with life more than it seems. I could rant about this on and on so I might just stop for now lel.
well hey i think there are a lot of benefits to being unsure. there’s so much more space to grow and allow for change, which is so valuable at any point in life. if you don’t have your own opinions sometimes, you can still analyze the opinions of others and think deeply about them. and yeah i agree this topic really isn’t talked about enough, but if you want more info about this, i did make another video on this a couple years ago. i also found reading up on psychology related topics around personality helped clarify things too :-)
This is SUCH a good video omg
Thanks for making this video (and the older one too). You speak about this nerve-wracking topic in such a calm way which in itself is soothing. I have been feeling very stuck lately and I am finding out that answers I am seeking probably don't exist. It is acceptance that I need to work on in the end of the day. Accepting the me, exactly how I am, not the good version of me, but the day to day version of me. Easier said than done, but worth trying.
you are so right.
Thank you so much and I absolutely mean that with the most sincerity. I've been struggling with this for quite a bit and it has been overwhelming and exhausting but putting words to it and explaining what could be happening and what could be effecting it really helped thank you so much again
i’m so glad this helped. sending you the best :))
You're a very smart person.
You seem really lovely and have a very gentle and soothing voice. Thank you for making these videos 😊
Thank you for watching them!
You are so wise. Well done.
Hey Sarah..am also here from your previous video and you really helped in my discovery journey. You touched on something that exactly described my situation. I've recently changed my environment and I can now put a name on this thing that has been tormenting me my whole life. Few days ago I sat and questioned on what I believe about myself and for a moment I was blank😢..I took a step to start recollecting my identity and I've only gotten so far. The thing that is mostly occupying my mind right now is my ability to sing and my love for interior design..they are a part of my life but am in doubt of whether they are really meant to be..I keep looking for solid background and a base for why I do them but find nothing..I attest my singing to a certain neighbour who loved singing and feel that maybe were it not for her I wouldn't be singing..I need evidence like maybe my singing was discovered in me as a child or I'll keep believing that am living a lie. Is anyone out there with me on this?
I am so glad you got so much from this video :) if you had a concrete reason that you like to do the things you do, would that solve the problem? Like for example, if your love for interior design was bc you were genetically predispositioned to love it, would that put your mind at ease?
@@SarahKrohn Thanks for replying..yeah..it would definitely help but that seems impossible right now..maybe another solution..but it's okay..your videos helped me discover so much that I'll definitely stop at nothing until I figure this out..keep doing what you're doing..maybe something you mentioned was the only fuel I needed.
Well hey, good luck. What I’ve found in my life is that the answers I was craving to certain things either don’t exist or don’t answer my questions like I wanted them to. So don’t stress yourself out too much :-)
@@SarahKrohn Wow..thanks..I'll remember this.
ur so gorgeous!!
this was so helpful, thank you so much for making this video!!
i’m so glad you liked it!
thank you so much
I think I know what I want, but I have no idea how to meet those kinds of people in my country, or how and where to find certain meetups or conventions where I can meet them, as well as them being around my age... And I don't even need a convention, I just need a little bit of a group that meets up, but IDK where to find them!
Communities are so important to have! As for where to find them, look for interests that you have, like hobbies. For example, a lot of hobbies are pretty independent but you can find other people to do them with or just talk about them with. When all else fails, the internet is a resource for a lot of those groups when you’re not in the same location
Is it wrong to have an identity crisis at 21? I feel like I should know who I am by now
not at all, it’s normal in any part of life but especially in teens and young 20s
I feel like i don't exist, and i don't recognise myself in my thoughts, in my pictures , i forgot myself entirely , is it normal someone plzz reply, 🙏😥 will i back to normal? 🙏🙏🙏😥🙏🙏🙏
It mostly takes time but also being present with how you’re feeling and trying to create a greater awareness of who you are in relation to the world around you. It is normal to feel that way sometimes but if it goes on for a long time then maybe not so much. But the way you’re feeling is valid nonetheless
@@SarahKrohn , thanks for reply 🙏 new subscriber, 💗💗from india , ..... How long identity crisis lasts? How you resolve it? Thanku
this was much better