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  • @sherrybyw
    @sherrybyw  3 роки тому +9

    Out of the 6 tips, do you have any favs which you would want to try yourself? Or better yet, which ones have you tried? ☀☺ Timestamps below ⬇
    00:00 Intro
    00:31 My story
    01:08 Tip 1: At Work
    02:17 Tip 2: Attend a regular workout class
    03:20 Tip 3: Facebook groups
    05:04 Tip 4: Mix friend groups & referrals
    06:16 Tip 5: Bumble BFF
    09:30 Tip 6: Just reach out
    11:58 Final: Mindset shift

    • @alexandrucosnita1051
      @alexandrucosnita1051 3 роки тому

      Hi sherry, thx for all the videos u are doing and sharing. I will be moving to singapore next year and i would love to have like a guide if u wont mind showing around!

    • @lyrenna1270
      @lyrenna1270 3 роки тому

      Why keep to the expat enclaves? There's tons of value making effort to define friendships to integrate with the local community as well.

    • @albertkoey
      @albertkoey 3 роки тому +1

      Looks like you are super busy now, either with friends or boyfriend. :p Anyway, have a fun time in real life!

    • @Jeremiah-t5t
      @Jeremiah-t5t 3 роки тому

      Wow do not worry smartphones, tv and laptops have become our best friends🥰😇

    • @HumdrumSingaporeanREACTS
      @HumdrumSingaporeanREACTS 2 роки тому

      @@Jeremiah-t5t 😲

  • @mx.astrid29
    @mx.astrid29 7 місяців тому +1

    Absolutely loved these tips!
    One way for me, when starting a conversation with someone new, is by giving them a genuine compliment about something you like about them or something nice you've heard about them, then get the conversation going from there!

  • @benizjammmin
    @benizjammmin 2 роки тому +3

    12:20 - Sometimes the differences kinda do matter. One can only handle un-relatability for so long. It’s important to have people that know what you’re going through and to not feel like you’re the only one.
    11:30 - Well kinda, sorta. It just sucks when you put in effort and there’s no reciprocation; which leads to discouragement to keep moving forward.
    Also, there’s a huge difference between friendly acquaintances and friends. People really get this one mixed up a ton.

  • @maried8885
    @maried8885 3 роки тому +6

    Just arrived in Singapore and your video is sooo encouraging and helping. Especially in those difficult times, not really helping newcomers to meet with new friends ^^ Thank you, I will apply your advices ;)

  • @epicarnoldtravels
    @epicarnoldtravels Рік тому +1

    I love this video it’s very informative for expats. It also helps me understand what expats go through while living in Singapore. Awesome stuff Sherrybyw big fan!❤

  • @k_drive
    @k_drive 3 роки тому +6

    i love these tips! this is a small one but i've found wearing light/ bright colors tends to be more inviting for ppl to randomly interact with me. (and honestly works the other way on days when im not in a friendly mood I'll just throw on a hoodie lol)

  • @grzegorzchyb656
    @grzegorzchyb656 3 роки тому +8

    This is amazing Sherry, I’m exactly in the situation you were in 2 years ago (just moved to SG) and this vid comes in just perfectly timed

    • @sherrybyw
      @sherrybyw  3 роки тому +4

      You got this!! Let me know which tip helped you the most! Wishing you luck for your journey to finding your peeps 😊

  • @marki7275
    @marki7275 3 роки тому +1

    Well said. Just Reach out is my go to. Life is busy though and that is why I am watching UA-cam. Ha. I have a long list of things to do and I know along the way I am going to meet some amazing people.

  • @ankursingh9745
    @ankursingh9745 Рік тому +1

    Just moved to Singapore last month, finding it difficult to make friends.. this video is encouraging
    Thanks

  • @dpledoone
    @dpledoone 3 роки тому +1

    Your positivity is probably the most important factor. You are wiser than your age (no discrimination!)

    • @sherrybyw
      @sherrybyw  3 роки тому +3

      Indeed!!! While I think it's totally ok to feel down (as I clearly was in my older video when I talked about not having friends haha), I think it's important to pick yourself back up and give it another go! 😄

  • @mlee1308
    @mlee1308 3 роки тому +2

    Your so positive. Luv it. So hard to find!!! Great vid.

    • @sherrybyw
      @sherrybyw  3 роки тому

      Although not 100% of the time, I definitely try to be positive most of the time!!

  • @jeffjones921
    @jeffjones921 2 роки тому

    Glad to see it is working out for you. I too moved from Canada to Singapore for work, for a two year stint. That was in 2002 and i am still here...

    • @-fxoxixa-
      @-fxoxixa- Рік тому

      So you had a good time and decided to stay, that‘s great! How did you make friends there? I moved to Austria and it is difficult beginning from 0

  • @xanx3
    @xanx3 3 роки тому

    Omg the story that came with tip 6 is so cute!!

  • @milkbread5036
    @milkbread5036 3 роки тому +1

    This was so helpful and I love your video editing :D so aesthetic :D

  • @babiixjo
    @babiixjo 2 роки тому

    Love the doodles and animations!

  • @imloving__kpop
    @imloving__kpop 3 роки тому +1

    such incredible advice! Loved the last one :)

  • @keenanmiltonrip
    @keenanmiltonrip 3 роки тому +1

    I would recommend to start skateboarding: the SG skate community is small but people are very welcoming ! you can make friends just by skating by yourself at any skatepark, or any random spot, whether you are a beginner or pro, regardless of your age !

    • @sherrybyw
      @sherrybyw  3 роки тому +2

      I love this!! A hobby / sport is always a good way to meet people. I've seen some awesome skating communities around Singapore!

  • @michellefok2741
    @michellefok2741 3 роки тому

    loved all these tips! totally agree about the open-mindedness nature of using bumble bff 😉

  • @limchris1563
    @limchris1563 2 роки тому

    I used to see your video many years back. At that time you were still a young gal wearing braces. I remember you often spoke in Cantonese. Sometimes, you went to Hong Kong. I'm a S'porean & visit Hong Kong often (pre-covid). The most memorable one was you went to HK & gave funny stories, especially you ordered in cha chann teng with rapid fire pace. I really miss those video in Cantonese. Perhaps 1 of these days, you relive your memories by having a video purely in Cantonese *with English subtitles for those who don't understand Cantonese or a mixture of English with Cantonese thrown in. And welcome to S'pore, albeit belatedly! Hope you enjoy your stay here!

    • @sherrybyw
      @sherrybyw  2 роки тому +1

      Thanks for the support throughout the years! You've certainly watched me grow up on this channel haha. I'd love to do a throwback style, pure Cantonese video (although I think my ability to speak the language has deteriorated a bit 🤣).

    • @limchris1563
      @limchris1563 2 роки тому

      @@sherrybyw
      Time really flies! You should be here in S'pore at least few years now. At that time, was surprised that you were offered a job in S'pore. I believe you miss Hong Kong as well *(your parents birth place, I presumed).

  • @madhavichudasama2363
    @madhavichudasama2363 Рік тому

    Lovely video but what is this lipstick shade, Sherry? 😊

  • @AndrewTube
    @AndrewTube 3 роки тому

    thanks for sharing, i didnt know you worked so hard to make friends! props!

  • @mercurychen6185
    @mercurychen6185 3 роки тому

    Also Canadian girl just moved to Singapore!

  • @yuucreations8569
    @yuucreations8569 3 роки тому

    This is sooo valuable ! Thank you for sharing!

  • @briank4996
    @briank4996 3 роки тому

    You inspire me Sherry. God bless you.

  • @richardbarba2736
    @richardbarba2736 3 роки тому

    Aye aye aye Sherry Cola!

  • @heyvkj2412
    @heyvkj2412 3 роки тому

    Ahhh IU's Palette as the bgm hahahah! You look amazing btw!

  • @savannah6859
    @savannah6859 3 роки тому +1

    tip #7 aspire to radiate the same good energy as sherry ☀

  • @Hicks-g1m
    @Hicks-g1m 3 роки тому

    very informative Video Sherry good advice I'd like to go to Singapore someday

  • @dominichill1492
    @dominichill1492 3 роки тому

    This is very good advice, have a good day Sherry, and I you're videos.

  • @0dyss3us51
    @0dyss3us51 3 роки тому

    This is a great list, but I personally would put Meetup as the first, when I came to Japan from Europe I knew no one, but since it is interest based, you know you can quickly talk to people about the thing you met up about in the first place that you both have a passion for, 4 years later I still talk with people I met there :) just get out of your comfort zone and say hi

  • @HumdrumSingaporeanREACTS
    @HumdrumSingaporeanREACTS 2 роки тому

    🤔🤔🤔 food for thought~
    thank you so much for sharing these advices

  • @oliverpiong6558
    @oliverpiong6558 2 роки тому

    This video really inspired me!

  • @Evixfel
    @Evixfel 3 роки тому +2

    As a Singaporean who is a Canadian PR and lived in Vancouver for last 3 years I think all your tips are applicable everywhere in the world :)
    I really like how you managed to keep your English accent. 2 years might be enough to localize your accent. I'm not sure how you're coping with the weather/seasons here. I just find the weather in Singapore a little humid and hot (moved back to sg in August).

    • @sherrybyw
      @sherrybyw  3 роки тому

      Thanks so much for sharing Peter!! This makes me happy to hear that you think it's applicable anywhere in the world!

  • @kirtichandel3986
    @kirtichandel3986 3 роки тому +1

    Thank you for the pro tips... ❤️❤️❤️❤️
    I am going to apply number 2 and get back to bumble bff.. i gave up after few try but after watching your video i am going to use it more... 😘

    • @sherrybyw
      @sherrybyw  3 роки тому +3

      Bumble BFF can be tiring if you don't find people you click with, so definitely be sure to take time to recharge if you feel drained socially! However, also don't give up!! 🥰

  • @ohbessiez3774
    @ohbessiez3774 2 роки тому

    Love how tan you look in this video! Is it really easy to get tanned in SG? xx

  • @teobenedict1733
    @teobenedict1733 3 роки тому +6

    i'm local but i am already finding it hard to make friends in singapore :(🙁

    • @arena6087
      @arena6087 3 роки тому

      Must go to casino I usually make friends at the roulette table hahaha

  • @Tonytayloring
    @Tonytayloring Рік тому

    If you stubbornly hang exclusively within expats group or if you have a criteria what sort of friends you only want to hang with e.g affluent/powerful... you will never break out of these bubbles and connect meaningfully with more range of people. And also, colleagues can never be your friends. Personally I avoid meeting big groups, The world is becoming such a treacherous place teeming with fake people and backstabbers in your group photo. Big groups is not something I am proud of I would rather be alone and clique with people who only matters to me

  • @aleksandar2046
    @aleksandar2046 3 роки тому +2

    You know what? I'm gonna use these tips to make friends in my home country, since I literally have one friend... 😭😂

  • @Nolra08
    @Nolra08 3 роки тому

    The most safe tip if you are new to the place is to make friends at work coz it is hard to work with no friends. If you are invited by your co-workers to some gathering then you can grow your network of friends if you attend to those.
    If you are not so active or shy to talk to people(introverted) maybe you can find friend from playing games online. Haha
    Just find people who will make you comfortable with...

    • @sherrybyw
      @sherrybyw  3 роки тому

      I totally agree - comfort is key!!

  • @lilywu9912
    @lilywu9912 3 роки тому +17

    I LIKE TIP 6 THE MOST - the last part is the cutest hue hue but excuse me, you are not sick of my face 🤭Moral of the story, be proactive when making friends

    • @sherrybyw
      @sherrybyw  3 роки тому +1

      Just mildly sick of your face 🥰
      @the world Definitely be like Lily!! I'm grateful for her reaching out to me back in 2020!

  • @user-fb7rf4kr5k
    @user-fb7rf4kr5k 3 роки тому

    Insider tip: Speak Singlish lah! It's the language that pulls at the heartstrings of over 3 million people in the city-state. The Lost Ojisan--otherwise known simply as Ghib-- and Niel Humphreys, two brave foreigners, have cracked the secret code, after a lot of trial and error, and the whole of Singapore opened up their hearts and minds to them. And if you're a culture geek, live in an HDB like Humphreys at the start. After a few years, you'll be part of the in-crowd like him. Easy.

  • @Batmobile444
    @Batmobile444 3 роки тому

    Make friends when you cycle!

  • @Calisthenio
    @Calisthenio 3 роки тому

    Loved this video!

  • @babexyakult
    @babexyakult 3 роки тому +1

    Love your top :D Where is it from?

  • @Espresso_eden
    @Espresso_eden 3 роки тому

    Such a cute video!! I met my closest friend on Tumblr, and she's from Singapore!! I'm from Australia so I hope to go there and meet her when it's safer to travel internationally soon :)

    • @NewmaticKe
      @NewmaticKe 3 роки тому

      real soon, like next month

  • @RoyalAvira
    @RoyalAvira 2 роки тому

    Thanks for sharing this

  • @suntanboy22
    @suntanboy22 3 роки тому

    Nice topic!

  • @waiphyooo5176
    @waiphyooo5176 Рік тому

    Love from Myanmar ❤

  • @TheMuthiahmed
    @TheMuthiahmed Рік тому

    Hi sherry

  • @babexyakult
    @babexyakult 3 роки тому +1

    Love all 6 tips :) They are so useful!

    • @sherrybyw
      @sherrybyw  3 роки тому

      hehe glad to have you as a friend 🥰

  • @333KINGPIN33
    @333KINGPIN33 2 роки тому

    Hello from Toronto!

  • @bentan6218
    @bentan6218 3 роки тому

    Great tips. Just surprised that with your bubbly nature you have problems making or meeting new friends. Anyway thanks for the great tips. 🤩

  • @sergiysanin4767
    @sergiysanin4767 3 роки тому

    To meet a stranger from online app is gutsy...??? Out of such a huge multitude of other options so readily available during 2 years of full or partial incarceration?

  • @aaronf.186
    @aaronf.186 3 роки тому

    When you look as good as you do, I'm sure making friends isn't too hard.

  • @Wuyh99
    @Wuyh99 3 роки тому

    juz curious how much is the rough salary of a expat? hmm she seems to be living her life well in a condo and etc 🤔

  • @madcoowsti
    @madcoowsti 2 роки тому

    You dont need friend, you need ME!!!

  • @quakespr
    @quakespr 3 роки тому

    Sadly now we cannot have big meet up.

  • @knighnp
    @knighnp 3 роки тому

    After reading some things about Singapore, is it true that it's illegal to have a group of more than three people gather after 10 pm?

    • @joelkhoo57
      @joelkhoo57 2 роки тому

      a lot of us aren't as "legal" as the cuntry may seem

    • @joelkhoo57
      @joelkhoo57 2 роки тому

      it's kinda like we break the law but we look behind our back lol

  • @khm1217
    @khm1217 3 роки тому

    Now I found out some familiar background songs..... it's IU!!!!!!!!!!!!😝😝😝😝

  • @kerwintan3251
    @kerwintan3251 3 роки тому

    saw u riding your black beauty at sentosa this morning, hows the ride coming along?

    • @sherrybyw
      @sherrybyw  3 роки тому

      Omg! Haha you should say hi next time!
      Enjoying the hills with my new cycling shoes for sure :)

    • @kerwintan3251
      @kerwintan3251 3 роки тому

      @@sherrybyw couldn't really confirm until i saw the black rapha jersey and black cycling shoes, but yes, will say hi next time, did u enjoy climbs there?

  • @cfu8909
    @cfu8909 2 роки тому

  • @donalcunningham1225
    @donalcunningham1225 8 місяців тому

    Thanks Sherry, very positive!😃I find it good to keep in touch with those you grew up with, if possible! Your family! Then work, those you live with, and basically doing activities you enjoy and organising things, like monthly cycle outings etc...Church is a great way to meet people and feel at peace too! Jesus Christ is ultimately the only one who will fulfil us totally and give us that feeling of comfort and confidence!🤟

  • @runningcomposer1682
    @runningcomposer1682 3 роки тому

    Chiobu like you no problem one!!

  • @andrew097
    @andrew097 3 роки тому

    Join a club of something your interested in. You will hang out with people who share the same and in no time you are part of the community.
    My two are cycling and rugby, they both are passports to friendships throughout the world.

    • @sherrybyw
      @sherrybyw  3 роки тому

      Passports to friendships. I love that

  • @ip85
    @ip85 3 роки тому

    Aw man i felt so sad hearing this, if u ever come to South Africa I swear u can be my bestie! ❤️👸🏻

    • @sherrybyw
      @sherrybyw  3 роки тому +1

      🥺💛

    • @ip85
      @ip85 3 роки тому

      @@sherrybyw totally get the natural introvert vibes, you'd never say though your UA-cam content is amazing u come across like an extrovert! 🤗😘👸🏻

  • @thalescoelho3687
    @thalescoelho3687 2 роки тому

    Lol UA-cam just recommended me this video - 1st day in Singapore here 😂

    • @sherrybyw
      @sherrybyw  2 роки тому

      😂😂😂 I hope it helps!!!

  • @Wuyh99
    @Wuyh99 3 роки тому

    respect

  • @101cabinet
    @101cabinet 2 роки тому

    👍

  • @mlee1308
    @mlee1308 3 роки тому

    What does byw stand for?

    • @sherrybyw
      @sherrybyw  3 роки тому +1

      Haha good question! Those are my initials for my middle/last name actually 😄

  • @peacenwachokor1944
    @peacenwachokor1944 2 роки тому

    I want be friends with you but i do.nt have phone

  • @rlrh1996
    @rlrh1996 3 роки тому +1

    me: how tf do you make new friends after uni in the city you were born in?

  • @albertkoey
    @albertkoey 3 роки тому +2

    Meeting strangers of the same gender is easier and safer. On the other hand, IMHO, for a girl to meet a male stranger for the first time can be dangerous. Even in Singapore. Just take precautions, like meeting in a very public place, no alcoholic drinks, no dark places, etc.
    So, can we meet up? Wait.... consider first... I'm a guy, faceless UA-cam profile, total stranger who could be some weirdo. Best NOT to meet up. lol
    Anyway, take care and stay healthy and don't be friends with Covid-19. :)

    • @Tonytayloring
      @Tonytayloring Рік тому

      If you perceive all opposite gender to be dangerous, then we can forget about chances of making friends with the opposite gender. Because thats the perception that limits us

  • @victorvaldez760
    @victorvaldez760 2 роки тому

    JBW is the most brutal pill in singapore .. m sure can easily find a new wite boi to fill your void every weekend

  • @alphonsusgilana3958
    @alphonsusgilana3958 3 роки тому

    Hi

  • @kennleong7519
    @kennleong7519 3 роки тому

    Come. Bring your bike to Malaysia. :P

  • @Tantemify
    @Tantemify 3 роки тому

    good looking girl

  • @sherwinsalvatori6997
    @sherwinsalvatori6997 3 роки тому

    You definitely cute

  • @jasonong7097
    @jasonong7097 3 роки тому

    Can just PM me or join a Meetup group :-)

  • @jemhor
    @jemhor 3 роки тому

    All cyclist are friends!

    • @sherrybyw
      @sherrybyw  3 роки тому

      The cycling community is SO awesome!! I love how nice everyone is when people cycle past each other in the morning and smile & say good morning! 😆

    • @jemhor
      @jemhor 3 роки тому

      @@sherrybyw you’ll never have no friends in cycling unless you decides to 😉

  • @retroworldnews
    @retroworldnews 2 роки тому

    haha, no friends than your neighbours is who? :P

  • @christinalee4523
    @christinalee4523 3 роки тому +4

    LOVE this video and wish I had it when I moved to Singapore in 2019 with 0 friends 🥲 the tip that resonated with me the most is bumble bff. I was skeptical at first but it’s a game changer, and led to us being friends! 🥰 just get out there and your group will fall into place!

    • @sherrybyw
      @sherrybyw  3 роки тому

      MY SISTER 🥰 Forever grateful for Bumble BFF and Leah for bringing us together!!