Wow! I once told my wife she was just right and not to gain weight. She accused me of calling her fat, which i never did, for the next few years until our divorce
I’ve alway thought we owe it to our spouses to stay in the same shape we were when we met. Aging does take its toll but there’s no excuse to deliberately let yourself go.
She cheated because she wanted to. She would rather do the easy thing and get a new guy than work on her marriage. These women won't do, or give up, a single thing for their husbands. However, you must sacrifice your standards, preferences, and future for her. Ridiculous
imagine a man saying the same except “a real woman will like a man with a empty wallet and love them for who they are” very few of them would agree or do that but apparently “real” men are supposed to
OP, I'm going to tell you what R.P.M. taught me: You are not responsible for her bad choices. That should answer your main question and probably a number of other questions, too.
If u say nothing to her she'd say "u don't care about me or my health" or maybe "u should've tried to help me more so I would've lost weight" etc etc. Doesn't matter bro. She doesn't want to take accountability so she would've found a way to blame u no matter what u did or didn't do.
Girls always know if they're attractive and she knew her attractiveness was diminishing. OP was still getting some action from her but she still enjoyed the occasional rejection. She was prepared for a weight showdown because she immediately talked of other real men liking bigger girls. Shout out to OP's ex's company for demoting her.
As soon as he saw the Dating Profile he should have filed. Actually her reaction to the weight issue was a huge red flag Why waste time? All this monitoring. Guys value your time, if you don't others will steal it
No sir you did not chase her into someone else's arms, it was a choice she made. You were trying to hold her accountable while she was seeking someone to indulge with her in her bad habits. To dodge all accountability she: 1) had to make you the scapegoat of why she did what she did. 2) had to seek the affirmations she wanted to hear to justify her path chosen. If you didn't oppose and indulged and you both gained a large amount of weight, she would have also blamed you and would most likely loose attraction to you as well, resulting to the same outcome.
She chose to cheat on you and kept gaining weight instead of lose weight and promotion. She seen too much TikTok chubby girls which some of them passed away from obesity.
You have not pushed her to cheat, she would have cheated sooner or later or would have keep gaining weight. And OP asked yourself, how can you asking your wife to manage her weight for health concern pushed her to cheat ? Isn't she a grown woman capable of taking responsibility for her actions ? And she was so secure in your relationship that she didn't see how keeping herself attractive for you (because your the most important part of her life) was her duty as a wife.
She had a personal desire to cheat. None of it is your fault. Everyone has a choice to make and she chose a move that is against you in such a disrespectful way. As though she betrayed you and spits on your face while lying and still attempted to gaslight u.
No, u didn't, this happened to me some time ago, she was very obese I'm a nutritionist I tried to help her she didn't wanted always getting and excuse to never show up at the gym she and her left because that was the easiest option because they don't want to improve because is hard, currently I'm dating a girl that is a little overweight yet she makes even more exercise than me and has been loosing weight like a champ
You didn't behave as her husband, but you were her best (girl)friend, and she treated you as such. Instead of exercising your authority as a man, you pleaded with her as some boy with his momma. Get your act together.
During my first divorce I was told by my ex wife of 21 1/2 years of marriage that she had previously gone out for lunch with a single member of the our church. I found that to be extremely strange and disrespectful, considering that we were in the church. Perhaps she told me so that it would hurt me? But, I didn’t make a big stink of it, because I had already decided to divorce her. So, I moved on with my life. And she right away ended up having a relationship with that individual which didn’t last long. But, I can see it can be perceived as cheating especially when there is deception from the situation. I just never gave it much thought before because I was moving on.
Listen OP, first dont EVER blame yourself for the actions of others especially people you give so much of yourself to care for and protect. If she loved you she would never have disrespected you by cheating. Second, you got engaged way too quickly. 2 years is not long enough to really get to know someone well enough to go to that level of commitment. Third, Marriage itself is a losing battle for men in this day and age. You need to focus on yourself and not worry about these modern jezebels. Keep working out, save up and invest and live your best life. Also if you insist on finding a wife, look to more traditional societies and stay away from western women.
I think your mistake was not getting her to go to a counselor. It sounds like she was eating emotionally . She needs help to solve the underlying problem. Just telling her to hit the gym won't work.
I never tell my wife to go to the gym if she wants to go Ill support her. She cheated because she wanted to, to be honest. Some women seek validation for dumb reasons. I thank God I dont have that issue with my wife. Now that I listened to the whole story, both of them are wrong in the situation. Yes she went out on a date with another man, that is wrong as shit fam but, he kept bringing up her weight. Yeah she lied to you about the reason why she didnt want to have sex with you. She shouldve just told you how she felt about you briging up her weight all the time. Im a bbw lover myself. I never bring up my wifes weight unless there is sudden or rapid change because I would be concerned. Communication was the best thing to do here. They are couples in the world today where the man is in physical shape and the woman is a bbw. Sorry man, you had a role to play to onwhy this marriage failed too. Her 80%, you 20%. You didn't push her to in the arms of another man. You kept bringing up weight. You wasn't encouraging her.
OP dodged a bullet, by not having kids with her.
He asked her to lose pounds and instead she got pounded. Not your fault buddy.
OP should count his blessings.
By each pound or kilogram lol
Never let anyone blame you for THEIR actions and choices. It all on THEM!!!
A friend of mine divorced his wife because he worked hard to lose weight and build muscle while she kept gaining weight.
Wow! I once told my wife she was just right and not to gain weight. She accused me of calling her fat, which i never did, for the next few years until our divorce
I’ve alway thought we owe it to our spouses to stay in the same shape we were when we met. Aging does take its toll but there’s no excuse to deliberately let yourself go.
She cheated because she wanted to. She would rather do the easy thing and get a new guy than work on her marriage. These women won't do, or give up, a single thing for their husbands. However, you must sacrifice your standards, preferences, and future for her. Ridiculous
imagine a man saying the same except “a real woman will like a man with a empty wallet and love them for who they are” very few of them would agree or do that
but apparently “real” men are supposed to
OP, I'm going to tell you what R.P.M. taught me:
You are not responsible for her bad choices.
That should answer your main question and probably a number of other questions, too.
If u say nothing to her she'd say "u don't care about me or my health" or maybe "u should've tried to help me more so I would've lost weight" etc etc. Doesn't matter bro. She doesn't want to take accountability so she would've found a way to blame u no matter what u did or didn't do.
Sugar addiction
You told her to push herself away from the table, she decided to pushup on another man
Girls always know if they're attractive and she knew her attractiveness was diminishing. OP was still getting some action from her but she still enjoyed the occasional rejection. She was prepared for a weight showdown because she immediately talked of other real men liking bigger girls.
Shout out to OP's ex's company for demoting her.
That's all I kept saying...she was going to do it anyway! By the end I was screaming it... Lol 😅
#NoLandwhales
ever!!
You can't force someone to change and you can't help someone that doesn't want to be helped
No one makes anyone cheat; it is an affirmative decision on the part of the cheater. They cheat because it is want they want.
As soon as he saw the Dating Profile he should have filed. Actually her reaction to the weight issue was a huge red flag
Why waste time? All this monitoring. Guys value your time, if you don't others will steal it
No sir you did not chase her into someone else's arms, it was a choice she made. You were trying to hold her accountable while she was seeking someone to indulge with her in her bad habits. To dodge all accountability she: 1) had to make you the scapegoat of why she did what she did. 2) had to seek the affirmations she wanted to hear to justify her path chosen. If you didn't oppose and indulged and you both gained a large amount of weight, she would have also blamed you and would most likely loose attraction to you as well, resulting to the same outcome.
She chose to cheat on you and kept gaining weight instead of lose weight and promotion. She seen too much TikTok chubby girls which some of them passed away from obesity.
….this divorce was a long time coming before the cheating.
You have not pushed her to cheat, she would have cheated sooner or later or would have keep gaining weight.
And OP asked yourself, how can you asking your wife to manage her weight for health concern pushed her to cheat ? Isn't she a grown woman capable of taking responsibility for her actions ? And she was so secure in your relationship that she didn't see how keeping herself attractive for you (because your the most important part of her life) was her duty as a wife.
She had a personal desire to cheat. None of it is your fault. Everyone has a choice to make and she chose a move that is against you in such a disrespectful way. As though she betrayed you and spits on your face while lying and still attempted to gaslight u.
Honestly, it’s not your fault. Either way she was gonna make the decision. She just wasn’t happy.
I’m fat as f#@k and my wife is 112lbs. I do my part and she knows that if she were to get fat, that’s a deal breaker
Guys food will kill you. I have diabetes and legally blind. OP did the right thing. Good video.
Is this a fat shaming story? Pike Jesus, i haven't seen an Op so focused on that that it seems like that's the problem, not him being cheated on.
No, u didn't, this happened to me some time ago, she was very obese I'm a nutritionist I tried to help her she didn't wanted always getting and excuse to never show up at the gym she and her left because that was the easiest option because they don't want to improve because is hard, currently I'm dating a girl that is a little overweight yet she makes even more exercise than me and has been loosing weight like a champ
Losing*
You didn't behave as her husband, but you were her best (girl)friend, and she treated you as such. Instead of exercising your authority as a man, you pleaded with her as some boy with his momma. Get your act together.
It's not your fault she cheated because she wanted to not because of what you said to her about looseing wight !!
During my first divorce I was told by my ex wife of 21 1/2 years of marriage that she had previously gone out for lunch with a single member of the our church. I found that to be extremely strange and disrespectful, considering that we were in the church. Perhaps she told me so that it would hurt me? But, I didn’t make a big stink of it, because I had already decided to divorce her. So, I moved on with my life. And she right away ended up having a relationship with that individual which didn’t last long. But, I can see it can be perceived as cheating especially when there is deception from the situation. I just never gave it much thought before because I was moving on.
Good move. Well done. Hurts to have happened in Church the last place one would even think as such.
Listen OP, first dont EVER blame yourself for the actions of others especially people you give so much of yourself to care for and protect. If she loved you she would never have disrespected you by cheating. Second, you got engaged way too quickly. 2 years is not long enough to really get to know someone well enough to go to that level of commitment. Third, Marriage itself is a losing battle for men in this day and age. You need to focus on yourself and not worry about these modern jezebels. Keep working out, save up and invest and live your best life. Also if you insist on finding a wife, look to more traditional societies and stay away from western women.
Please restrain yourself from giving advice to others. You are a dimwit.
She liked pound cake.
I think your mistake was not getting her to go to a counselor. It sounds like she was eating emotionally . She needs help to solve the underlying problem. Just telling her to hit the gym won't work.
I never tell my wife to go to the gym if she wants to go Ill support her. She cheated because she wanted to, to be honest. Some women seek validation for dumb reasons. I thank God I dont have that issue with my wife.
Now that I listened to the whole story, both of them are wrong in the situation. Yes she went out on a date with another man, that is wrong as shit fam but, he kept bringing up her weight. Yeah she lied to you about the reason why she didnt want to have sex with you. She shouldve just told you how she felt about you briging up her weight all the time. Im a bbw lover myself. I never bring up my wifes weight unless there is sudden or rapid change because I would be concerned. Communication was the best thing to do here. They are couples in the world today where the man is in physical shape and the woman is a bbw. Sorry man, you had a role to play to onwhy this marriage failed too. Her 80%, you 20%.
You didn't push her to in the arms of another man. You kept bringing up weight. You wasn't encouraging her.
She literally did this guy a favor . Ditch the Whale and never look back .