And honestly that what it takes. Knowing your problem areas and despite the setbacks you’re like “okay, I’ll try again.” I STILL struggle with eating out and emotional spending.
I’ve always wanted to study architecture, it’s been my dream job for a while now. Right out of high school I just doubted myself, the guy I was dating at the time said it’d be too hard for me, plus I was not the best at studying or getting up early, so I didn’t do it. This year (I’m now 21) I said hey… it’s still my dream job so I signed up literally last minute and I LOVE IT! I do actually get up at 7am for it, I believed myself and got rid of that limiting belief that I could possibly get up before 11 and be productive. I was actually homeless when I applied and the first two weeks I actually had to get up at 6am and take a hour bus ride to get there from my grandmas house, now I live in a BEAUTIFUL apartment with two great roommates 5 minutes from my school. I’m very happy, I’m so glad I trusted myself.
You better focus, we're now your supportive aunts and we gonna need you to design our dream homes darling. There is no limit to anything in life. Keep going!! Proud of you.
What helped me with staying consistent with the gym was anytime I didn’t feel like going, I repeated the phrase “this is what I do” and after saying this I would talk about the gym like how I would want my future self to talk about the gym.
I LITERALLY GOT UP AND PRAYED ABOUT DISCIPLINE THIS MORNING! In the midst of me trying to figure out the root cause as to why i feel as if I can’t achieve discipline , I then realized that it’s really the fear of the results. That the results won’t look like everyone else’s or they won’t turn out how I expect. But then thats where faith comes in! Because the word of God says “seek ye the kingdom of God first and his righteousness & all these things will be added unto you” - Matthew 6:33 Then I opened up UA-cam and your video is the first video to pop up and girllll GOD IS SO GOOD.
It’s so crazy at 19 I realized I lack discipline and now at 26 after the countless mistakes I’ve made bc of it, I’m finally beginning to practice discipline. Practicing Discipline has been & is still hard for me.
Discipline is something I definitely struggle with, especially when it comes to food and my budget. Writing things down has definitely helped me hone in on wasteful spending and get back on track. I’m so proud of myself because I am now down to two business credits cards to payoff. Started off with five. Your content has been so helpful on my personal journey. Keep up the great work and continue to stay safe and blessed!
"Staying consistent becomes a lot easier because you're not self sabotaging and you have the discipline to stay committed because you know why you're worthy of it." 😍 Wow, I am stunned. Thank you so much for this video, I absolutely related and I'm so grateful for your vulnerability! You've gained a new subscriber. 🌼
Wow, this really hit home for me. I really struggle with starting something and then stopping it. Start/stop, start/stop… I have been doing it all my life. Sometimes I get so frustrated and ashamed of myself and I get really angry. I have started budgeting countless times. I know everything there is to know about budgeting, but to this day, I have never stuck with it. 😢
There’s so much tied into our lack of consistency! Limiting beliefs, our life experiences, etc. Give yourself grace while you work through what’s blocking you!
Almost gave up in life thinking that I will end up to no good because of self sabotage and indiscipline....I have experiences a reviving in my heart...discipline is self honor....I needed this...thank you for saving my life....I am worthy.
This video has helped me realize how badly I need discipline but I sabotage myself for improving because of fear and that’s something spiritual I have to also work on. Thank you and stay blessed 😊
I've been doing journaling for the past week now. I hated not being able to remember what I did the night before. Now, I can hear my voice more clearly, and it's refreshing being able to go back and look at everything that I've accomplished so far. It's done wonders. Highly recommend if people feel like they are losing track of time and events.
You are speaking facts with the statement you made regarding wanting to change your situation but being too comfortable to change that situation, even though you want to desperately change your situation. I struggle with this and I find my spiritual self dragging my physical self to the finish line. Life can be strange, but divine timing is perfect timing. 🙏
You hit the nail on the discipline thing. For a long time my problem wasn’t self discipline. It was just not knowing the most effective way to do things. Life is a journey filled with pitfalls and mistakes. I can’t believe people DM you and down you like that. You’re doing a lot better than me!
I struggle with my money and finances. I learned my lesson though. 2023 will be my year to stay things off right which I'm already working on it, but I'm going to work harder at the goals I want to achieve in my life
I’m 21 and I have a BAD habit of spending money more than I save. Especially when I’m sad as well. I really need the discipline in all areas of my life. Im just doing research on where and to exactly start. I loved your video as well and it made me feel great💕
Idk why but this made me soo emotional. Now in sitting here wet faced snotty nosed at 4:22 a.m. like I HAVE to change some things today. My problem is I know better but don't do better. I know about health, exercising, saving, budgeting, all that but I'm still overweight and broke (by my standards). I'm terrified of coming into a lump sum of money because I have before and blew it and didn't realize I blew it til it was way too late. I think my struggles are due to mental health issues honestly.
no way!!!! I literally just clicked on your video and 39 seconds into your video I was rubbing my journal because it’s soft (idk why) and the next clip was you picking up your journal!! we have the same one 😭😭😭 idk why that just made me so happy
I literally bought some food after I said I was gonna save, then in the shower I said how I was gonna honor myself following through with it and literally saw this video this morning on my way to work. Funny how the universe works. Wishing you & everyone compassion, peace & love on this journey.
When you said your current situation is "safe" because it's known/comfortable, I felt that in my SOUL. You are so motivational, I really needed to hear this right now. Thank you!!! 💜💜💜💜💜
Your video really touched me I’m 23 years old I been through it this year has been a hard year but even though it’s been a hard year . I have done things that I never thought I would. I have anxiety and going out is so hard for me I be in the house like a 50 year old woman due to anxiety but your video help me to take it step by step and know that Jesus got me and know that yeah it may seem uncomfortable for a little while it’s not gonna be that way forever. I’m gonna be good because I got Jesus . I’m still figuring out my 20s idk what I’m doing lol but who really knows what they are doing we are all going and doing what we can and that’s all that matters.
Algorithm must be mind reading now. Ive never ever seen you a day in my life until today. You were randomly recommended and the caption was the nail in the coffin, i was drawn in. You really delivered an entire message. And messages within the Message. Ill have to watch this multiple times and actually do the homework. Thank you for doing the work and being an example of walking the talk. For helping us
A breath of fresh air! 💎s Dropped: •truly figuring out what works for you - with grace •honoring self by working towards better future •*accepting* worthiness✨ •realizing worth leads to commitment (which is not “Try” but “Am”) This hit so hard for me and the visual was super soothing 🥹🌱 I self-sabotage a lot but this was the tea I’ve been needing. Bless you and Happy New Year 😌
Discipline/Consistency is honoring ourself is a whole word! Journaling is definitely a game changer too.. Allowing our emotions/thoughts out judgement free is literally therapy in itself! Thank you Dyana!
Everything you said about our brains going into survival mode to stay comfortable is exactly what I struggle with the most when it comes to talking to people. And I can talk to anyone and have amazing conversation, so yes this video helped tremendously because I always think; oh I don’t like being around a lot of people, but it’s just that it’s not comfortable for me and I have to get comfortable with it day by day. Thank you for your positivity 💛
The side of us trying to convince ourselves out of it, addicted to where we are. Convincing ourselves out of improving our current realities because of fear and being afraid that we don’t have what it takes to have those things, that we are worthy and capable of what we are desiring (the home we want, the money we want, the relationship we want, the body we want, the business we want)! Not allowing ourselves to take action; killing the dream before we allow ourselves to realize the full vision! Wowwww gems! We get where we want by intention, full faith + confidence in ourselves, realizing what you’re capable and worthy of, becoming committed even if things go wrong / even if things mess up, I will re-route & the destination stays the same. No plan b, you’re going to figure it out!
This was sooo good!! Thank you for the amazing advice. I heard someone say when your changing you’ll constantly be in battle with the old you. The old you can’t win anymore!!
Thank you💕. I graduated hs & told myself I was taking a gap year. Truth Is I never had any intentions on going to college because I was scared & didn't belong in myself. Girl, I watched this video 3 times to ensure I received everything ❤️.
I love this video! Thank you! I only learned discipline because of my husband. When we dated I watched this man have 3 cars, buy a house and pay all the bills on a salary of 50,000 a year. Might I add we live in DC where it is not cheap! Watching him, encouraged me. I learned. Now that we are married we together make a decent amount and I will say it's because of the discipline of him. Great video dear. 💗💗💗
That the word for me " you have to be comfortable being uncomfortable. I'm 34 but have gone through so much in my life when I get to a comfortable place I want to stay there, but we can't grow in comfort!!!
This message felt like it was for me. 😭 The things you were saying were SO spot on with what I am currently going through. Job, debt, scared to progress, all of it. I have been just putting the work in to change my situation already even though I am scared for changes to happen and I just have to believe it will pay off even though I am feeling uncomfortable.
I didn’t find this video by accident. I have also been journaling every day this year and it has helped me tremendously when it comes to thinking and talking to God. Environment has been testing my discipline and mindset, but I am determined to keep trying until I find the right fit. Blessings and prosperity to you this year! 💛✨
Discipline is a struggle for me ,every time I plan and try to stay on course here is something knocking it down, every time so I'm more impulsive which is not healthy either because I'm not able to get my goals done, and I get frustrated and tired so I stop all together mad over all and it's a cycle that's hard to break.
Here something I’ve tried and works. Carry a little notebook with you and every 15 minutes right down what you’re doing at the moment or what you’re going to do. It’s made me self aware of where my time goes and I don’t waste time on stuff that’s not important.
I am so grateful this video popped up on my suggestion list. I am currently going through this and although others around me feel I'm being lazy in comparison to what I use to do, but sometimes you have to get silent and still with yourself, work on yourself and work through blockages in order to evolve. Commitment is key. Thank you so much for your transparency and for this video.
Thank you so much for sharing your experience. I’ve been struggling with change. My three year relationship ended, prior to that my mother passed and my family hasn’t been the same. I managed to graduate my MSW while grieving, shortly after felt into a major depressive breakdown. Two years later I am now a forensic social worker, living on my own - although id like to move.. single for the first time since I was 13. I’m 29 now. Realizing how much codependency, trauma, etc I have and that my romantic partners were always my crotch. I have my licensure exam coming up and still struggling with imposter syndrome, especially at work. Today I woke up and my brain wanted to convince me I wasn’t beautiful enough, smart enough, or capable enough. I stumble upon your video and I am feeling so inspired. Discipline and consistency are my goal for the rest of the year. Again, thank you for sharing and May the orisas and universe continue to bless you and your family. May you have enough hands to receive all of your blessings ❤
I surely hope you see this. I just wanted to say coming from a Woman who just turned 49, your video came on my feed, I said let me see what she has to say and I was sooo touched, inspired, and empowered by your words. Is she in my head, wow, you are wise so kudos to you. I am saving this in my new playlist. 😊
This has helped me a lot, I tend to self sabotage a lot. Going through a lot of anxiety in my life and just trying to push myself to make changes to feel more comfortable
This was so helpful. I definitely am I self sabotaging. I stay in the comfort zone and crippled by fear from living my entire life in survival mode. I want to write a memoir and children books
Physical fitness and financial fitness are a prerequisite for all the other things. I’m struggling with both right now. I’m much better than I was. So i gotta pat myself on the back for that. But right now I’m stuck - unable to push through to the next level. Ordinarily I’d quit here. But this time I’m going to keep pushing. Keep trying. Do it again.
I loved discipline is honoring yourself and i believe that discipline and consistency is highest forms of self love. Procrastination is form of self hate and keeps you stuck and never growing. It wasn’t until i got consistent and disciplined meal prepping and working out I didn’t love myself and when I started to be committed I started actually loving myself.
First and foremost thank you for creating this vid because I know the areas where I lack the most and want to improve in badly and yet I’ve came up short many times especially financially, as you said earlier in the video it’s going to start with my finances and becoming disciplined as well consistent with improving myself across the board. I know I can become debt free and become financial independent I have a lot of self reflecting to do while understanding my journey has it’s good in it I may not see it now but my future self will. Again thank you!
Leaving my college town and home state to a new state. Venturing into teaching at a higher level. I am beyond scared but I know that I moved from my hometown and struggled but I made it through. I started my career right out of college and it all worked out. I have faith that I can do it again.
My three words for this year 2023 are: Discipline, Detox and Delight. And UA-cam keeps recommending videos with these words. Thank you for this video 🙏
This video was so eye opening. I struggle with purchasing copious amounts of fast food and its really affected my finances. I also, am working towards becoming a UA-camr and a Book Influencer and I will plan to make content, but when I get off work I end up going to sleep instead of working on my goals most days. Definitely need to discipline myself and just make small goals to work on these changes a day at a time instead of overwhelming myself. Also, love how you showed your rainy day. It's rainy today where I live and I love it! It's my favorite weather! 🌧
Girl this was sooo helpful! The part about self sabotaging and assuming things about yourself based on your past experiences hit hard! I am worthy of all the things I desire and that God has for me! Thank you so much for this!
Aye run that sh* back turbo! ⏪️⏪️!! This was right on point for my 2023 “get your shi*t together” journey I am on! Thank you sister! I subscribed, liked & loved! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I am struggling with my finances and trying to get a better job. I kinda regret getting my master's because it hasn't helped my income. My excuses are that I don't have time because I have 4 kids, and I'm a single mom. I'm always tired, etc. This video helped a lot, and I will be getting your debt free spreadsheet. Have a great week.
Thank you for sharing..Really appreciate it..some of my goals for 2023..Is to stick with a budget , I have try it many time but can not seems to keep up with it..pay off my 3 credit cards,and being debt free..discipline is big struggle for me, But with God anything is possible
Something my therapist told me which I feel like is relatable is that we have our emotional brain and a logical brain so like when we make a decision or like you were talking about making assumptions and stuff that prevent us from doing something to better ourselves that’s based on just how you’re feeling rn which is the emotional brain but you have to think about it logically instead. For me I’ve been trying to just think about like where this is gonna get me and how I’ll feel in the future and how it’s gonna benefit me instead of not doing something because I don’t feel like it right in that moment. But yeah really in my self journey rn trying to train my brain like you talked ab a lot. You have to start with one habit at a time you can’t just assume that if you make 100 changes at once that it’s gonna work because it’s not and then you feel guilty.
I think this video is so powerful and can change someone’s life who may be struggling but not sure how to move forward. Financial trauma (where you overspend or live in scarcity mindset) is a real thing and I know you always talk about the feelings behind decisions instead of taking the behavior at face value! You encouraging to build confidence with your sense of self is my most favorite thing. Exactly what I need to hear, thank you so much ❤
I’m so glad I watched this because everything you stated is so true and I’ve been knowing these things about myself. It’s a real eye opener when someone is saying exactly what I live everyday. It all starts with just taking the steps and not holding back. Being comfortable is all fun until years pass you by and you realize you’ve been stuck and made no improvements in your life. I will definitely be using these tips 🖤 God Bless You 🙏🏽🙏🏽 definitely a new subscriber 🗣️🗣️🎯
so i finally allowed myself some time this morning before my day started to watch this video & i absolutely loved this. it really shows that we should allow ourselves grace more & take small steps because they matter to get to the big ones. we shouldn’t focus so much on every big detail in the future but allow ourselves mercy now so our small steps can naturally flow into the future. towards the end i got that i shouldn’t act out of survival mode looking at negatives but act out of reality & take change as it comes. being uncomfortable leads to new things & helps you move instead of being stagnant.
I’m working on my discipline currently…I’ve been such an emotional spender for so long it takes so much work to not fulfill that instant gratification 😅
"Discipline is honouring yourself" "New goals is new territory" Your video helped me make my 5am this morning. I was at the gym at 04:45. Unheard of. Thank you so much, it was helpful.
I came across your channel because you have a powerful way of speaking. I heard you loud and clear. I relate to alot of what you shared. Self sabotage is a big one for me.... I look forward to subscribing to your channel for the positive and uplifting vibes you bringing to the universe. Thank you thank you... God bless you. Keep pushing these types of videos. I am 61 years old but I operate as a teenager in money management and life skills sometimes. I was on alcohol and drugs for many years so I didn't allow myself the grace to learn what I should have learned at 13 I was in bondage for over 30 years.. I am drug free for 31 years and I haven't had a drink in 10, 11 years. You spoke to me. Thank my god for his grace and mercy. Happy Holidays to you and your family 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
I been working on living on my own especially after I been diagnosed with ovarian cancer. Financially independent where I can be able to provide for myself without asking for any help and not only financially but just being able to independent on my own. I don’t know much about the world, and I wasn’t taught essentials to live in this world so I’m also learning to do that while being on this journey. Actually, putting new objectives in my daily routine. I learn working on small goals will lead me to my major goals. Working out is always been one of my top tier goals and eating healthy to live and beat this cancer. the negative aspect sneaks need when I don’t plan out my meals or my day so I get upset and cope with my old habits. I’m working towards that.
I just started journaling too, so when you said that I already felt like I was on the right track. My main goal is to continue journaling everyday to prove to myself that I can have some self-discipline and stay in routine. One thing I will share is that when you can control what you eat...you can control anything! Such an important goal to implement since better eating habits call for a better mindset and a healthier body. Thank you Dyana and good luck to everyone!!
Wow! I am so grateful for this video it literally pierced my spirit. This was everything that I needed to hear and something that I already knew within myself but to hear it out loud made it everything. Thank you!
What you said about our brain and survival hit right at home! I am currently in a new job, not even three days in and my brain wants to flee! I am so tired of running. So thank you for your video, I will continue to fight and put my thoughts, my mind under subjection. I also struggle with liking myself so I need to speak life to myself and for myself
One) Just for a lil encouragement/fun note for you. Your video was the FIRST to pop up when I searched “self discipline for black women” OKAYYY 👏🏽👏🏽 Two) This video helped so much! There were a lot of areas where I could relate. I’m like wow, I knew it and you said it so eloquently. This is going to help SO many ppl realize they are not a failure 💚 Congrats to you. Blessings to you and your babies! ✨
"I did not get there by luck" I felt that I and believe you and self discipline can make a great difference in our lives I personally need to go on a serious self discipline journey 😶😇
I struggle with follow through - the example you shared about receiving a large amount of money and then blowing it, I relate to that deeply but i see how that example shows up in other spaces. right now, i'm working on making a huge shift and relocating out of the country - not sure if it's permanent or temporary but I know the work that I'm doing currently isn't fulfilling and all of the distractions I've created, have lost their fun. really looking forward to this next chapter and always good to hear that someone else has "done it" to keep this flame going!
My goals this upcoming year is to also get out of credit card debt and the scariest of all, to step on stage to show my transformation journey. My eating habits have always been my weakness, and my lack of discipline. I want to vlog my whole journey and inspire moms to go after their dreams ❤
DO ITTTT!! Please do! It keeps you accountable and you’ll be surprised how many people will need you to set your fear aside so that you can help them as well!
The fact that I just prayed for discipline on top of journaling a few of the things you said is amazing! I have been struggling with trusting myself and this was truly confirmation! Thank you ❤️💕
Thank you I really needed to hear this. My biggest problem is time management. But I realize I'm trying to do everything at one time . Thanks, baby steps and One thing at a time.
I struggle with my eating and money habits but l know all things are possible. I am not giving up determined to be financially and physically fit
And honestly that what it takes. Knowing your problem areas and despite the setbacks you’re like “okay, I’ll try again.” I STILL struggle with eating out and emotional spending.
Wow, that's really wonderful. Keep up the good work.
Keep going! I’m on the Same journey ❤
That is my goal for myself. I am looking forward to the new me.
Don’t give up we can do this
“You have to get comfortable being uncomfortable because new goals are new territory.” A word !
"Discipline is honoring yourself." This part made me think about it differently, thank you soo much 🙏💖
That's true
Discipline is honoring GOD
@@Wedrinkforhealthnotfortaste Literally the same thing. It affects you the same way
I agree, it definitely hit a nerve. New perspective.
this
That part about being worthy first is really slept on. One cannot move forward if they don’t think they’re worthy of what they want
True!!!
So true 🙂 amen 🙏
I’ve always wanted to study architecture, it’s been my dream job for a while now. Right out of high school I just doubted myself, the guy I was dating at the time said it’d be too hard for me, plus I was not the best at studying or getting up early, so I didn’t do it. This year (I’m now 21) I said hey… it’s still my dream job so I signed up literally last minute and I LOVE IT! I do actually get up at 7am for it, I believed myself and got rid of that limiting belief that I could possibly get up before 11 and be productive. I was actually homeless when I applied and the first two weeks I actually had to get up at 6am and take a hour bus ride to get there from my grandmas house, now I live in a BEAUTIFUL apartment with two great roommates 5 minutes from my school. I’m very happy, I’m so glad I trusted myself.
I'm proud of you :)
that’s absolutely incredible, I’m so happy for you :)
You better focus, we're now your supportive aunts and we gonna need you to design our dream homes darling. There is no limit to anything in life. Keep going!! Proud of you.
@@roushellereign RIGHT so happy and proud of her!!!
I am so happy for you. Truly ❤️ May Allah protect you and increase His blessings for you. Ameen. NEVER GIVE UP.
What helped me with staying consistent with the gym was anytime I didn’t feel like going, I repeated the phrase “this is what I do” and after saying this I would talk about the gym like how I would want my future self to talk about the gym.
I love this! I’m on my fitness journey too, and what helps me is saying “You never regret going to the gym, but you always regret not going”.
@@trintrintenshi Exactlyyyy
I'm going to try this. Thanks 😊
@@trintrintenshi that's such a good phrase! I'll use this with my goal habits, thank you!
I LITERALLY GOT UP AND PRAYED ABOUT DISCIPLINE THIS MORNING! In the midst of me trying to figure out the root cause as to why i feel as if I can’t achieve discipline , I then realized that it’s really the fear of the results. That the results won’t look like everyone else’s or they won’t turn out how I expect. But then thats where faith comes in! Because the word of God says “seek ye the kingdom of God first and his righteousness & all these things will be added unto you” - Matthew 6:33
Then I opened up UA-cam and your video is the first video to pop up and girllll GOD IS SO GOOD.
all the time!!! God bless you this new year sis
Amen ❤
Yes I am also working on my discipline and this popped up
Amen ❤️❤️❤️❤️
“Change is rooted in discomfort.” That’s facts 💯and I needed that reminder.
It’s so crazy at 19 I realized I lack discipline and now at 26 after the countless mistakes I’ve made bc of it, I’m finally beginning to practice discipline. Practicing Discipline has been & is still hard for me.
Struggling with Discipline myself when it comes to setting boundaries in relationships & with how I spend
Same!
I'm almost 22 and I realized this lack of discipline of mine since I was 14. And I'm still struggling with it, but I know God is helping me change
Tools to check your goals that you mentioned - Specific - Measurable - Attainable - Realistic - Time bound (SMART)
Discipline is something I definitely struggle with, especially when it comes to food and my budget. Writing things down has definitely helped me hone in on wasteful spending and get back on track. I’m so proud of myself because I am now down to two business credits cards to payoff. Started off with five. Your content has been so helpful on my personal journey. Keep up the great work and continue to stay safe and blessed!
As you should be!!! Paying off credit cards is no joke. Congrats to you!
Very proud of you Winter! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
"Staying consistent becomes a lot easier because you're not self sabotaging and you have the discipline to stay committed because you know why you're worthy of it." 😍 Wow, I am stunned. Thank you so much for this video, I absolutely related and I'm so grateful for your vulnerability! You've gained a new subscriber. 🌼
Love this! Needed this! Thank you.
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Wow, this really hit home for me. I really struggle with starting something and then stopping it. Start/stop, start/stop… I have been doing it all my life. Sometimes I get so frustrated and ashamed of myself and I get really angry. I have started budgeting countless times. I know everything there is to know about budgeting, but to this day, I have never stuck with it. 😢
There’s so much tied into our lack of consistency! Limiting beliefs, our life experiences, etc. Give yourself grace while you work through what’s blocking you!
It's not only you who stuggles my dear. Keep on tying until you get it.
Almost gave up in life thinking that I will end up to no good because of self sabotage and indiscipline....I have experiences a reviving in my heart...discipline is self honor....I needed this...thank you for saving my life....I am worthy.
This video has helped me realize how badly I need discipline but I sabotage myself for improving because of fear and that’s something spiritual I have to also work on. Thank you and stay blessed 😊
Discipline is really key for sure
I also struggle with spirit of FEAR I don't believe in myself
You worded it perfectly 😅
I've been doing journaling for the past week now. I hated not being able to remember what I did the night before. Now, I can hear my voice more clearly, and it's refreshing being able to go back and look at everything that I've accomplished so far. It's done wonders. Highly recommend if people feel like they are losing track of time and events.
You are speaking facts with the statement you made regarding wanting to change your situation but being too comfortable to change that situation, even though you want to desperately change your situation. I struggle with this and I find my spiritual self dragging my physical self to the finish line. Life can be strange, but divine timing is perfect timing. 🙏
You hit the nail on the discipline thing. For a long time my problem wasn’t self discipline. It was just not knowing the most effective way to do things. Life is a journey filled with pitfalls and mistakes. I can’t believe people DM you and down you like that. You’re doing a lot better than me!
I struggle with my money and finances. I learned my lesson though. 2023 will be my year to stay things off right which I'm already working on it, but I'm going to work harder at the goals I want to achieve in my life
Yes!! We both can do it! Motivation and discipline is key! ❤
The struggles are not only yours but also with many people. Keep trying my dear again and again until
Same ! I stop buying things I don’t need and taking the time to find cheaper prices .
I’m 21 and I have a BAD habit of spending money more than I save. Especially when I’m sad as well. I really need the discipline in all areas of my life. Im just doing research on where and to exactly start. I loved your video as well and it made me feel great💕
Idk why but this made me soo emotional. Now in sitting here wet faced snotty nosed at 4:22 a.m. like I HAVE to change some things today. My problem is I know better but don't do better. I know about health, exercising, saving, budgeting, all that but I'm still overweight and broke (by my standards). I'm terrified of coming into a lump sum of money because I have before and blew it and didn't realize I blew it til it was way too late. I think my struggles are due to mental health issues honestly.
I'm pretty disciplined & I get results but I get tired of pushing myself 24/7. Its sad to me that it will be like this forever.
no way!!!! I literally just clicked on your video and 39 seconds into your video I was rubbing my journal because it’s soft (idk why) and the next clip was you picking up your journal!! we have the same one 😭😭😭 idk why that just made me so happy
Girl I love touching the front of this journal 🤣🤣
I literally bought some food after I said I was gonna save, then in the shower I said how I was gonna honor myself following through with it and literally saw this video this morning on my way to work. Funny how the universe works. Wishing you & everyone compassion, peace & love on this journey.
Discipline is definitely something I'm working on as well as shifting my mindset to be more optimistic and less pessimistic. We can do this!
When you said your current situation is "safe" because it's known/comfortable, I felt that in my SOUL. You are so motivational, I really needed to hear this right now. Thank you!!! 💜💜💜💜💜
Your video really touched me I’m 23 years old I been through it this year has been a hard year but even though it’s been a hard year . I have done things that I never thought I would. I have anxiety and going out is so hard for me I be in the house like a 50 year old woman due to anxiety but your video help me to take it step by step and know that Jesus got me and know that yeah it may seem uncomfortable for a little while it’s not gonna be that way forever. I’m gonna be good because I got Jesus . I’m still figuring out my 20s idk what I’m doing lol but who really knows what they are doing we are all going and doing what we can and that’s all that matters.
Stick to GOD and his word!
Girl same here I'm 23 I also struggle with anxiety and never go out always at home. The struggle is real.😭 I'll be praying for you.🙏
Algorithm must be mind reading now. Ive never ever seen you a day in my life until today. You were randomly recommended and the caption was the nail in the coffin, i was drawn in. You really delivered an entire message. And messages within the Message. Ill have to watch this multiple times and actually do the homework.
Thank you for doing the work and being an example of walking the talk. For helping us
A breath of fresh air! 💎s Dropped:
•truly figuring out what works for you - with grace
•honoring self by working towards better future
•*accepting* worthiness✨
•realizing worth leads to commitment (which is not “Try” but “Am”)
This hit so hard for me and the visual was super soothing 🥹🌱 I self-sabotage a lot but this was the tea I’ve been needing. Bless you and Happy New Year 😌
It's so hard you know. But ppl like you motivate me to move forward and pursue my dreams💜 thank you
Discipline/Consistency is honoring ourself is a whole word! Journaling is definitely a game changer too.. Allowing our emotions/thoughts out judgement free is literally therapy in itself! Thank you Dyana!
Everything you said about our brains going into survival mode to stay comfortable is exactly what I struggle with the most when it comes to talking to people. And I can talk to anyone and have amazing conversation, so yes this video helped tremendously because I always think; oh I don’t like being around a lot of people, but it’s just that it’s not comfortable for me and I have to get comfortable with it day by day. Thank you for your positivity 💛
The side of us trying to convince ourselves out of it, addicted to where we are. Convincing ourselves out of improving our current realities because of fear and being afraid that we don’t have what it takes to have those things, that we are worthy and capable of what we are desiring (the home we want, the money we want, the relationship we want, the body we want, the business we want)!
Not allowing ourselves to take action; killing the dream before we allow ourselves to realize the full vision!
Wowwww gems!
We get where we want by intention, full faith + confidence in ourselves, realizing what you’re capable and worthy of, becoming committed even if things go wrong / even if things mess up, I will re-route & the destination stays the same. No plan b, you’re going to figure it out!
Getting over traumas and getting to live my life successfully is my goal
This was sooo good!! Thank you for the amazing advice. I heard someone say when your changing you’ll constantly be in battle with the old you. The old you can’t win anymore!!
Gotta help the new you speak louder than the old!
You are so dam right!
“Discipline and consistency is you honouring yourself”. This video came up at the perfect time. Thank you x
Thank you💕. I graduated hs & told myself I was taking a gap year. Truth Is I never had any intentions on going to college because I was scared & didn't belong in myself. Girl, I watched this video 3 times to ensure I received everything ❤️.
Sending you so much love!
I love this video! Thank you! I only learned discipline because of my husband. When we dated I watched this man have 3 cars, buy a house and pay all the bills on a salary of 50,000 a year. Might I add we live in DC where it is not cheap! Watching him, encouraged me. I learned. Now that we are married we together make a decent amount and I will say it's because of the discipline of him. Great video dear. 💗💗💗
That the word for me " you have to be comfortable being uncomfortable. I'm 34 but have gone through so much in my life when I get to a comfortable place I want to stay there, but we can't grow in comfort!!!
This message felt like it was for me. 😭 The things you were saying were SO spot on with what I am currently going through. Job, debt, scared to progress, all of it. I have been just putting the work in to change my situation already even though I am scared for changes to happen and I just have to believe it will pay off even though I am feeling uncomfortable.
I realized self discipline gon get you into doors that other habits can’t. This video fire fasho. 🔥
Hit the nail on the head when you said it’s really that you haven’t found a way that really works for you! Glad I came across this video
I didn’t find this video by accident. I have also been journaling every day this year and it has helped me tremendously when it comes to thinking and talking to God. Environment has been testing my discipline and mindset, but I am determined to keep trying until I find the right fit. Blessings and prosperity to you this year! 💛✨
Discipline is a struggle for me ,every time I plan and try to stay on course here is something knocking it down, every time so I'm more impulsive which is not healthy either because I'm not able to get my goals done, and I get frustrated and tired so I stop all together mad over all and it's a cycle that's hard to break.
It's always a struggle dear, you are not alone. But never give up with your plans.
Here something I’ve tried and works. Carry a little notebook with you and every 15 minutes right down what you’re doing at the moment or what you’re going to do. It’s made me self aware of where my time goes and I don’t waste time on stuff that’s not important.
@@sameena713 wow, that's sounds great. I think Iam going to be doing that as well.
@@Extralessons I found a daily planner/appointment book on Amazon with 15 minute intervals. Super helpful!
I am so grateful this video popped up on my suggestion list. I am currently going through this and although others around me feel I'm being lazy in comparison to what I use to do, but sometimes you have to get silent and still with yourself, work on yourself and work through blockages in order to evolve. Commitment is key. Thank you so much for your transparency and for this video.
Thank you so much for sharing your experience. I’ve been struggling with change. My three year relationship ended, prior to that my mother passed and my family hasn’t been the same. I managed to graduate my MSW while grieving, shortly after felt into a major depressive breakdown. Two years later I am now a forensic social worker, living on my own - although id like to move.. single for the first time since I was 13. I’m 29 now. Realizing how much codependency, trauma, etc I have and that my romantic partners were always my crotch. I have my licensure exam coming up and still struggling with imposter syndrome, especially at work.
Today I woke up and my brain wanted to convince me I wasn’t beautiful enough, smart enough, or capable enough. I stumble upon your video and I am feeling so inspired. Discipline and consistency are my goal for the rest of the year.
Again, thank you for sharing and May the orisas and universe continue to bless you and your family. May you have enough hands to receive all of your blessings ❤
Comments is 444 meant for me to hear. This video really spoke to me on another level. I need to push myself even more when obstacles come my way.
“You have to train your mind to think of the positive side of things” ❤ that
I surely hope you see this. I just wanted to say coming from a Woman who just turned 49, your video came on my feed, I said let me see what she has to say and I was sooo touched, inspired, and empowered by your words. Is she in my head, wow, you are wise so kudos to you. I am saving this in my new playlist. 😊
This has helped me a lot, I tend to self sabotage a lot. Going through a lot of anxiety in my life and just trying to push myself to make changes to feel more comfortable
I’m not sure if anyone has already said it but your braids are gorgeous ❤
This was so helpful. I definitely am I self sabotaging. I stay in the comfort zone and crippled by fear from living my entire life in survival mode. I want to write a memoir and children books
Thank you Dyana for sharing your journaling, financial and life advice goals. It helps to hear that I am not alone on my journey.
Physical fitness and financial fitness are a prerequisite for all the other things. I’m struggling with both right now. I’m much better than I was. So i gotta pat myself on the back for that. But right now I’m stuck - unable to push through to the next level. Ordinarily I’d quit here. But this time I’m going to keep pushing. Keep trying. Do it again.
I loved discipline is honoring yourself and i believe that discipline and consistency is highest forms of self love. Procrastination is form of self hate and keeps you stuck and never growing. It wasn’t until i got consistent and disciplined meal prepping and working out I didn’t love myself and when I started to be committed I started actually loving myself.
First and foremost thank you for creating this vid because I know the areas where I lack the most and want to improve in badly and yet I’ve came up short many times especially financially, as you said earlier in the video it’s going to start with my finances and becoming disciplined as well consistent with improving myself across the board. I know I can become debt free and become financial independent I have a lot of self reflecting to do while understanding my journey has it’s good in it I may not see it now but my future self will. Again thank you!
I know that this is mainly about finances, but I've applied this advice to leaving my relationship. Thank you.
Leaving my college town and home state to a new state. Venturing into teaching at a higher level. I am beyond scared but I know that I moved from my hometown and struggled but I made it through. I started my career right out of college and it all worked out. I have faith that I can do it again.
Yes you can beautiful sister !
My three words for this year 2023 are: Discipline, Detox and Delight. And UA-cam keeps recommending videos with these words. Thank you for this video 🙏
This video was so eye opening. I struggle with purchasing copious amounts of fast food and its really affected my finances. I also, am working towards becoming a UA-camr and a Book Influencer and I will plan to make content, but when I get off work I end up going to sleep instead of working on my goals most days. Definitely need to discipline myself and just make small goals to work on these changes a day at a time instead of overwhelming myself.
Also, love how you showed your rainy day. It's rainy today where I live and I love it! It's my favorite weather! 🌧
Girl this was sooo helpful! The part about self sabotaging and assuming things about yourself based on your past experiences hit hard! I am worthy of all the things I desire and that God has for me! Thank you so much for this!
Amen!❤️🙏🏽
Aye run that sh* back turbo! ⏪️⏪️!!
This was right on point for my 2023 “get your shi*t together” journey I am on! Thank you sister! I subscribed, liked & loved! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Thank you❤️
I am struggling with my finances and trying to get a better job. I kinda regret getting my master's because it hasn't helped my income. My excuses are that I don't have time because I have 4 kids, and I'm a single mom. I'm always tired, etc. This video helped a lot, and I will be getting your debt free spreadsheet. Have a great week.
Im right there with you. Im going on 3 months of this discipline journey and God is good!
Thank you for sharing..Really appreciate it..some of my goals for 2023..Is to stick with a budget , I have try it many time but can not seems to keep up with it..pay off my 3 credit cards,and being debt free..discipline is big struggle for me, But with God anything is possible
Something my therapist told me which I feel like is relatable is that we have our emotional brain and a logical brain so like when we make a decision or like you were talking about making assumptions and stuff that prevent us from doing something to better ourselves that’s based on just how you’re feeling rn which is the emotional brain but you have to think about it logically instead. For me I’ve been trying to just think about like where this is gonna get me and how I’ll feel in the future and how it’s gonna benefit me instead of not doing something because I don’t feel like it right in that moment. But yeah really in my self journey rn trying to train my brain like you talked ab a lot. You have to start with one habit at a time you can’t just assume that if you make 100 changes at once that it’s gonna work because it’s not and then you feel guilty.
Finally something new here, everyone talks about the same things. This was brilliant. Thanks💕
You are a powerful woman and beautiful.. thanks for this video! ✨
Loved the Hindz camo, superb energy right there✨
I think this video is so powerful and can change someone’s life who may be struggling but not sure how to move forward. Financial trauma (where you overspend or live in scarcity mindset) is a real thing and I know you always talk about the feelings behind decisions instead of taking the behavior at face value! You encouraging to build confidence with your sense of self is my most favorite thing. Exactly what I need to hear, thank you so much ❤
I’m so glad I watched this because everything you stated is so true and I’ve been knowing these things about myself. It’s a real eye opener when someone is saying exactly what I live everyday. It all starts with just taking the steps and not holding back. Being comfortable is all fun until years pass you by and you realize you’ve been stuck and made no improvements in your life. I will definitely be using these tips 🖤 God Bless You 🙏🏽🙏🏽 definitely a new subscriber 🗣️🗣️🎯
so i finally allowed myself some time this morning before my day started to watch this video & i absolutely loved this. it really shows that we should allow ourselves grace more & take small steps because they matter to get to the big ones. we shouldn’t focus so much on every big detail in the future but allow ourselves mercy now so our small steps can naturally flow into the future. towards the end i got that i shouldn’t act out of survival mode looking at negatives but act out of reality & take change as it comes. being uncomfortable leads to new things & helps you move instead of being stagnant.
I’m working on my discipline currently…I’ve been such an emotional spender for so long it takes so much work to not fulfill that instant gratification 😅
You are not alone. Just keep trying the disciplines.
True
"Discipline is honouring yourself"
"New goals is new territory"
Your video helped me make my 5am this morning. I was at the gym at 04:45. Unheard of. Thank you so much, it was helpful.
Oh wow!!! I’m happy to hear this!
I came across your channel because you have a powerful way of speaking. I heard you loud and clear. I relate to alot of what you shared. Self sabotage is a big one for me.... I look forward to subscribing to your channel for the positive and uplifting vibes you bringing to the universe. Thank you thank you... God bless you. Keep pushing these types of videos. I am 61 years old but I operate as a teenager in money management and life skills sometimes. I was on alcohol and drugs for many years so I didn't allow myself the grace to learn what I should have learned at 13 I was in bondage for over 30 years.. I am drug free for 31 years and I haven't had a drink in 10, 11 years. You spoke to me. Thank my god for his grace and mercy. Happy Holidays to you and your family 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
This is exactly what I needed to hear this morning. Thank you
Congratulations Dyana, bring order and discipline to your life. Watch your life become positive, light and beautiful. Keep up the amazing work.
I been working on living on my own especially after I been diagnosed with ovarian cancer. Financially independent where I can be able to provide for myself without asking for any help and not only financially but just being able to independent on my own. I don’t know much about the world, and I wasn’t taught essentials to live in this world so I’m also learning to do that while being on this journey. Actually, putting new objectives in my daily routine. I learn working on small goals will lead me to my major goals. Working out is always been one of my top tier goals and eating healthy to live and beat this cancer.
the negative aspect sneaks need when I don’t plan out my meals or my day so I get upset and cope with my old habits. I’m working towards that.
I just started journaling too, so when you said that I already felt like I was on the right track. My main goal is to continue journaling everyday to prove to myself that I can have some self-discipline and stay in routine. One thing I will share is that when you can control what you eat...you can control anything! Such an important goal to implement since better eating habits call for a better mindset and a healthier body. Thank you Dyana and good luck to everyone!!
Spirit-touched. thank u
Wow! I am so grateful for this video it literally pierced my spirit. This was everything that I needed to hear and something that I already knew within myself but to hear it out loud made it everything. Thank you!
What you said about our brain and survival hit right at home! I am currently in a new job, not even three days in and my brain wants to flee! I am so tired of running. So thank you for your video, I will continue to fight and put my thoughts, my mind under subjection. I also struggle with liking myself so I need to speak life to myself and for myself
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Just for a lil encouragement/fun note for you. Your video was the FIRST to pop up when I searched “self discipline for black women” OKAYYY 👏🏽👏🏽
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This video helped so much! There were a lot of areas where I could relate. I’m like wow, I knew it and you said it so eloquently. This is going to help SO many ppl realize they are not a failure 💚
Congrats to you. Blessings to you and your babies! ✨
youtube recommendations has been stepping up it's game...this video was god sent. thank you love 💗
awesome video - Great advice and beautiful energy. God Bless!
It was all God's plan that I come across your videos this morning. Thank you
“I didn’t get here by luck, I got here by intention” whooo I felt that in my soul ✨
God bless if u see this and her testimony help me a lot
Thank you Jesus for your help and your testimony ❤
"I did not get there by luck" I felt that I and believe you and self discipline can make a great difference in our lives I personally need to go on a serious self discipline journey 😶😇
I struggle with follow through - the example you shared about receiving a large amount of money and then blowing it, I relate to that deeply but i see how that example shows up in other spaces. right now, i'm working on making a huge shift and relocating out of the country - not sure if it's permanent or temporary but I know the work that I'm doing currently isn't fulfilling and all of the distractions I've created, have lost their fun. really looking forward to this next chapter and always good to hear that someone else has "done it" to keep this flame going!
This is the type of conversation I need to hear daily. Thank you for sharing so much wisdom. Subscribing and excited to follow along ❤
My goals this upcoming year is to also get out of credit card debt and the scariest of all, to step on stage to show my transformation journey. My eating habits have always been my weakness, and my lack of discipline. I want to vlog my whole journey and inspire moms to go after their dreams ❤
DO ITTTT!! Please do! It keeps you accountable and you’ll be surprised how many people will need you to set your fear aside so that you can help them as well!
I’m going to make a video to add to this because there’s so much to unpack here. Thank You for this video.
The fact that I just prayed for discipline on top of journaling a few of the things you said is amazing! I have been struggling with trusting myself and this was truly confirmation! Thank you ❤️💕
Figuring out the the plan that works for you, was very good advice.
Thanks for this video beautiful Queen. Thanks for helping others. This makes the world go around.
Whatever u want to accomplish you have to be consistent and make it a habit ❤
Thank you I really needed to hear this. My biggest problem is time management. But I realize I'm trying to do everything at one time . Thanks, baby steps and One thing at a time.
Thank you so much for this video it has helped me so very much... I have been on an up and down roller coster for so long and I'm just over it!💖😊
"I didn't get to the place i'm at right now simply out of luck," "I got here by intention." FACTS❤