No F. You just don't know how big a truth that is. Why did it take me a year and a half to see this? I knew all about narcs. He was that good at lieing!🤔
Yes, I know many Narcissists. I was shy growing up so listened. When got older and after husband died. I was able to make friends but those are Narcissists I was talking about. My sister I realized was one and turned most in friends against me. She is wealthier, straight A and greedy. It took all these years to know when I seen a report on Narcissist but no one believes me. She has made them first that I was no good, then Autistic and lastly a conspiratist. All untrue. I am not tough enough and has always been a caring and forgiving person. I stay away from her mostly except maybe a holiday. My own 2 son's have turned against me. She goes behind my back you see. Beware of not just strangers bearing gifts behind your back bribing believability. 🙁
I am in my 40s and have been dx with ADHD since age 8. I've been accused of lying many times when I'm strictly trying to form cohesive thoughts. My dad, to this day, accuses me of being a liar. It's devastating.
Anyone who knows you well enough to matter, should recognize the difference between what you do and lying. They should be able to figure out that if that is how you act when they know you are telling the truth, then you aren't lying if you act that way when they don't know the truth. In other words, you father has surely seen you tell the truth--and known it was the truth--hundreds of times. (He has a baseline-like when they do a lie detector test, they always ask some questions they know are true like your name where you are etc, so they can compare your heartrate etc when you are not lying to what changes if you do lie.) If your father has seen how you act hundreds of times when you are saying something he already knows is true but he still thinks you are lying when you act that way, he must be really, really stupid--at least emotionally stupid or stupid about people. If he isn't really stupid, then he's an ass who has his own reasons for wanting you to feel judged or in trouble or bad about yourself. Forget about his opinion. Either way (either he is stupid OR he wants you to feel bad) his opinion of you is worthless. Don't ever let it affect your opinion of you.
OMG so true! When my narc husband lies ( which is every 15 minutes, literally) I know I'll I have to do is wait. Casually, a few days later, I'll bring up the same topic. The story will change ever so slightly. I used to think he was slow-to-learn with a severe memory problem--he even dupped our first marriage therapist. She Dx'd him with A.D.D. Then he'd bitch & moan when I treated him like he was slow-to-learn! Ugh! Finally, I asked my bro-in-law who's an FBI senior supervising agent. I provided a current example. Mr. FBI said, "He knows. He understands it's that He doesn't want to do what you're asking." It's like, really? I wonder when hi stop holding my husband on the same countability level as my kids who are 6 and 8 and one has a mild cognitive delay? Relationship with a narcissist is like being on a very mild dose of psychedelics such as mushrooms or LSD every day. My husband lies so much that he would need about three secretaries to maintain all of his alternative facts. Good liars don't lie so often to where they can't remember their shit. These dudes are good liars physically--none of thus face touching crap that ppl with a decent values exhibit. BUT, no one can maintain that much false details especially against a person with the stamina of a long distance runner (college--all college--now, I only run and lock myself in the bathroom to get my alone time 😂).
That's why it is a Narcissistic Personality Disorder! A lie (Wikipedia) is a deliberate untruth. NPD is a defense mechanism, the disorder works 'automatically', not deliberate. We know they are lying but to narcissists it's reallity. That's why they seem professional liars to us, don't remember a lie, never will admit lying and keep on trying to change the story or blame you.
This is how to catch a liar who possesses empathy and remorse. Someone who may feel guilty about some act they may have committed. A true lair can fake reality. They do not think or feel anything when lying because they are able to live a lie in the moment of telling it. Most likely you'll never spot a true sociopathic liar unless you have facts about the situation. These people are so convincing you'll repeat their lie further making the tall tail into a reality for the liar.
I agree. A true liar can fake reality. I often felt like making my ex take a lie detector test but they say if they believe what they are saying, they'd pass. Not sure if my ex was a habitual, compulsive or a combo of these and other forms of lying. He wasn't good at it though.
I deal with a narcissist roommate and trust me, they bring lying to a whole new level. He lies to cover the lies that he continues lying about. I've net met such a compulsive liar in my life. They are CHAMPION LIARS This video is mild and doesn't cover the whole truth. To quote House, "everybody lies." It's to what extent some people are willing to go to protect their lies or admit fault.
natural social anxiety/fear of cops etc is found out during the preliminary, interview, however when innocuous questions are asked, you establish a base like - like your grandmother had a farm? no way! what kind of farm was it? (always ask open ended questions) conversations like that is how you establish body language, temper, and micro expressions more as you guide them through the interview
I'm pretty shy, and therefore, not the best conversationalist, but, I notice that when I'm talking to people, I'm always looking down, or all around the room or if we are outside, looking at the trees or whatever our surroundings are, and I'm not lying, its just that I'm shy, know I'm a horrible conversationalist and embarrassed by it. The only time I look at someone straight in the eye is when THEY are talking to me, and when I comment back, I'm looking down or all around. I'm pretty sure, people would think I'm a big liar, too, but, I'm not. The only lies I tell people are because I don't want to hurt their feelings and tell them I like their haircut or the outfit they are wearing when I really don't, or I like the food they brought to a potluck, when I really don't. And I lie to my kids when they ask me if I smoked marijuana or got drunk when I was a teenager. Those are the only lies I tell. :)
I'm laughing at this because my mother used to tell me that I'd go around the block to cross the street. I unnecessarily complicate every conversation I'm in. TMI, TMI. And I almost always provide too much detail. (I deleted an entire paragraph of detail in my response to you.) The biggest thing is whether complicating matters is unusual for someone or if providing a lot of detail is unusual. Unless of course, the person is lying all the time. People like that do exist. I don't think, however, most people are engaging in consequential lies on a regular basis.
A narcissist is the most convincing liar because he believes the lie himself. A Machiavellian liar is lying for a purpose, and he'll quit while he's ahead. He prepares the lie carefully and prays that he won't be found out.
I'm autistic and I have my bag on my lap and like to 'hide' behind things because it helps me feel grounded and less anxious around people or in public places. I am not a liar, but anyone watching this video might see my autistic behaviour and come to the wrong conclusion.
All these signs mean nothing if the liar beliefs himself. And yes that happens. Spotting liar is easier if you know them wel,but even than you could be surprised.
well that's awkward with narcs, compulsive liars and even sometimes borderlines in melt down can genuinely believe their own stories, however with narcs it’s guaranteed if their lips are moving they are probably lying! 🤥
That's what happened to Narcissist sister did to me. She kept changing the lies about me. One Lie after another. Fortunately for her many people in this country and my red state are ignorant. How can they believe her when I tell them the truth? I'm trying to keep control.
There are Sociopaths who were born normal, but their upbringing created their illness. Psychopaths are born psychopaths and they can pass a lie detector no problem.
The best liar is one who actually believes what they are saying is true, but that enters into a whole other realm of self denial, almost psychosis. A good liar also sticks to the same story, tells the same lie again and again, changing the story only opens you up to be discredited. A good liar also makes sure there's no way of disproving his lie. Shit, I sound like a psychopath.
Having worked with policing agencies I can tell you liars tend not tell the same story again and again. People have VERY weak memories. Very few can put up with repeated questioning in regards to an event that requires detailed answers and or proof of your whereabouts/ time place ect. Sometimes even those who tell the truth tend to get confused in repeated questioning.
This stuff is flawed, I was falsely accused of stealing a ring from my parents...and I sat there and maintained full eye contact the whole time...the detective still said to my parents that I did it. I'm no saint, as I have stolen before, but this was not the case at the time.
they can't tell a story backwards, like a/woke up b/took a shower/c walked the dog d/ got ready for work if you ask them what they did before they walked the dog, they won't say I took a shower Instead they go all the way back to a and repeat abcd it is called 'script memory' a story that they had to repeat over and over so they could get it believable to the cop or whomever the person is answering to so whatever you ask them they go back to their script and repeat it over and over
MastaSmack, the alphabet is static and can be memorized. It does not change even when reciting it backwards. It's not the same thing as trying to recall events in the order it happened or telling it backwards, especially when under stress such as interrogation.
and besides, it is only one facet of many tools at the disposal of the investigator, statement analysis, polygraph, handwriting analysis - not to mention the real or documentary evidence found the old fashioned way, lots of legwork and crime scene analysis
They swear your eyes played tricks on you! You didn’t hear that right. Honestly they believe their lies and if I hadn’t seen this first hand I wouldn’t believe anyone could possibly be this stupid..
when I was younger my parents blamed me for a lot of stuff my older sibling did. So now, even into my 50's, Whenever there is conflict and someone is to blame, and I get asked if I know who "did it", or someone casually mentioning that the car had gotten broken into, I tend to get nervous to almost the point of shaking. I can feel it happening, I just know they are going to accuse me of doing something, when in fact I wasn't even in the same state...as it were.
crispyspa What they did to you sounds like narcissistic abuse. And you're reaction sounds like C-ptsd from having to live in that. If you're not familiar with these terms or conditions, PLEASE look them up! A lot of people experience this and have no idea what, was or still is, going on.
well opposite thing happened to my sister, she has been question all the time and she kept on lying and never admit anything about all the accusations and blame everyone for bulliying her where in fact she was doing all of those wrong doings, she's a narcissist... 100% Liar
Psychopaths and Narcissists aren’t as obvious. I know a few, and even when I actually know that they are lying, they are sooo convincing, I even doubt myself about what I know to be true about what they have really done or said. It’s crazy. They can look you straight in eye and convince you of anything other than what you know to be the truth
Narcs are believable because nobody would ever dream of making up the crap they lie about; however, if you are around them long enough or doubt their lies they will show their true colors. Narcs, especially the covert narc, are absolutely cowardly. They are wounded beyond repair - run!
I grew up with master liars and manipulaters .... i never see them do 80% of these things... but they do distance themselves randomly from guilt at times and get very hostile when you confront them about anything. Especially if you assume they are lying thats how you know they are lying.... Hostility
@C C , I hope everything is well with you and thanks for pointing out to Alexandria White about these people, when confronted when lies, are Narcissists.
I have some questions about this. I have social anxiety that causes me to have red spots on my chest neck and arms. I often pull my hands up by my face to sort of cover the blotches. I also fidget, A LOT. I give lots of unnecessary details bc I get nervous and ramble on. If people were paying attention to these signs of lying, everyone would think everything I say is a lie.
Me to I get so nervous around new people I wont look i thier eyes, and fidget alot. Also even around people Ive known forever if it is something personal or focousing attention on me.
Off-Road Barbie yes but being nervous is part of telling a lie. But that is just one indicator of many and should not be a final factor in deciding that your a liar.
NOT TRUE. A true "liar" is a con artist and you wont be able to tell unless you investigate the lie for yourself so just remember this, when dealing with liars.....dont try to figure out if they lied by body language....youll need to investigate.
Yeah, all this seems to apply to occasional consequential liars. However, con artists frequently answer questions not asked and say, "Honestly" and the like. So a true liar might do some of these things.
Lying is basically an art. Some people have perfected it so well that even the most common red flags don't appear when they are talking. The best way to get better at catching liars is by evaluating many of them.
Angela Falsetta My ex liar accused me of having mood swings and to go get help. Lol 😳 Wonder what fake Phil would say about that rubber toupe he wears. It's so obvious. Wonder why a guest hasn't mentioned it. Oh! Nevermind! Lol 😳. Have a lovely evening sis. God bless us all.
Gaslight? That was a British movie of the '40s with actor Charles Boyer. It was about a criminal tried convincing an heiress, that she was crazy so he could steal her dead aunt's jewels. What does Gaslight mean? Well, her husband (the criminal who married the victim) would turn down the gas for the lights in the house and then make noises to convince her she was going crazy believing in ghosts. Then, he would show up at the front door and say he heard and saw nothing. She must be crazy. All the while, he was searching for her aunt's jewels that he tried to steal 15 years earlier. Regards
Want to know if someone is lying? Ask them the question you want answered....then, be quiet. Don’t speak and let them ramble on. Guaranteed, they will feel uncomfortable if they are lying and drop themselves in it trying to convince you, they become paranoid. If they’re truthful, they will say what happened, and figure they’ve told the truth so they have no need to embellish their story. It works most of the time, obviously it’s not 100%, but like I said, guaranteed....it will definitely make a lying person uncomfortable. Unless they are a sociopath, psychopath, or a narcissist...in that case, I have nothing to help! Lol!
Huh dr Phil I'm afraid you are deluded. This sick, twisted system with its one size fits all gang mentality is built on absolute lies that permeate our pathetic society from the top matey. People should lead by example. Instead those in positions of influence and power are above the law. They are hypocrites. There is no wonder the world is spinning out of control when people like you stand up thee and spout such simplified clap trap. People lie for one reason and one reason only. Cos they can. It's a choice. And unless they admit, which is almost never or you can prove it beyond a doubt, you will always be left uncertain. Also most of the comments have this one thing in common. Neatly everybody has the signs you talk about in everyday life. It don't make em all liars do it sir. I can't lie. I'm low functioning. I'd drop myself innit. Yet if you had you're way you'd have us all in the slammer. Tut tut tut Mr. If it were that simple this godforsaken planet wouldn't be so full of the miserable, stinking toerags would it? In my experience all men are liars God is the truth.
The shitty thing is that people with low self esteem or severe introversion do a lot of the things on the body language list. So in this case, you basically have to defer to the verbal cues list.
i do the same thing i dont even relise why i tell half truths i suffer with deprission and anxiety ive moved away from family and friends so i dont upset anyone im so low i think im a jealous of everyones happines and what god parents they have been .i feel very bitter and now as ive got oldder the remorse is getting to me more and more for the way i behaved
Sue Williams hoping you can learn to love and forgive yourself. I found help by reading a book called CONQUERING SHAME AND CODEPENDENCY 8 Steps to Freeing the True You by Darlene Lancer
Sue Williams My granddaughter and I will be praying for you. Did you ever read The Dawntreader from the Chronicles of Narnia? Aslan, who represents Jesus, tells Lucy, "Take courage, dear heart."
I'm an Empath, and I don't have to see a person to know they are lieing. I can be txting someone, or having an online conversation .. and I can feel them lieing to me 3,000 miles away. I know when Im being lied to. And it makes every hair on my neck stand up. I cannot stand a liar. Everyone lies to a degree, and you woukd be a liar, to say thats not true. Some people lie, just to keep from making a person feel bad, or hurt them. But there are many types of liars. And I can tell with just looking at words and the vibes I get. Its worse when someone lies straught to my face, I usually dont say anything .. But there are times I do, and they aren't able to lie over the lie they are caught in. Its impossible to lie to an Empath. I was akso reading on the narcissist comments. I was married to a narcissist for years. We were very young when we married. As the years passed, I didnt understand his behavior until we were 20 years into it with children. He is an alcoholic on top of it. I left him a month before the death of our second child, she was murdered 3 weeks before her 26th birthday. The following year, our last daughter committed suicide, and his narcisstic tendencies were off the charts, with nobody to control n tried very hard to pull me back in. We've been divorced now for 4 years, and I still get controlling txts, that are full of accusations if jealousy. I cant be in the same room with him at times for no longer than 5 minutes. They are energy sucking vampires, and can be dangerous. I stayed all those years, thinking I was being a good mother, now that all 3 of my children are passed, looking back I wonder if I made the right choices. But, the ither side if me finds the positive things I took from it as well. Learn the traits of a narcissist and if you come across one pursuing you, run like your damn head is on fire. Because no matter what you do, or how much you love them - they will never change. And you will become the fuel to their fire. CF ♡
Some I don't agree with.. I often say "to be perfectly honest..." and it's NOT a lie that comes out of my mouth after that! I also know of convicted murderers who HAVE said what punishment the perpetrator should get if/when caught. A very old case in France, where this guy had kidnapped and murdered a young boy. When asked by media he said that whoever did this deserves the death penalty! His name was Patrick Henry.
DogsDooll TRUTH...you're so RIGHT. It's bullshit he's telling and is just PROJECTING his own narcissistic personality disorder! All traits are there...(he's shouting too, framing the 'truth, theory=nonsens and the examples of a liar....just toddler behaviour. Ever seen a true liar (liar means deliberately not telling the truth) like a politician, behave the way Phil wants us to believe? Projection of a narcissist it is!
The only way for sure is one their track record and their behavior. Their stories are inconsistent. They claim to be loaded with money yet they are always barrowing something or bumming off others. They tell you something then a few days later you ask and they don't have a clue what you're saying.
I have anxiety and ptsd and had to go to court to give evidence about the crime that caused a lot of my ptsd. I was nearly passing out from anxiety and stress. The defence lawyer was aggressive and hostile - this made me feel like I wanted a barrier between me and her but I was telling the truth. So how does that pan out?
Could be a couple things. First, he could just not be as good at public speaking as he would like to think he is so, he spits everything that he needs to say out and forgets to breathe while he’s doing it (I do that - especially when i have my ducks in a row and just want to say what i have to say.). So, he could just need a speech coach. Or, it could be that his diabetes has gotten worse and he’s having kidney or CHF issues. I hope its the former.
My husband suffers anxiety and stress and he showes many of this trait when he is dealing with difficult person or situation specially when he has to stand up for himself, his hand and even whole body shivers, he breath fast n shallow but i know what he is going through...Dr.Phil you should not give half baked lecture to untraind audience who may misjudge thousands of ppl like my husband as a liar.
I have a good friend who exhibits most of these 'tells' during the course of a normal conversation. He is a victim of PTSD baggage and my heart goes out to him. His anxiety over the trauma he has been imprinted with is accepted by me and after a couple of hours of working together or just hanging out over a game of pool he settles into what can easily be mistaken for normal. He wouldn't tell a lie to me if it was on fire in his mouth. I just don't assume I'm confronted with a liar because of the tells - first I give them more rope until they tangle themselves in it.
Many times guilt will come out as anger because anger is easier to deal with than guilt. So if you confront someone and they try to turn it around on you with anger most likely they are feeling guilty about something!
Marilyn Bradley my ex said that all the time. I swear on my daughters head. I knew he was a cheater. Then i ran into him 10 years later....guess what he was engaged and his fiance was miles and wanted to be with me for one night. He tried to say he has a free pass. Lol. Busted
Marilyn Bradley smdh...yup..devil narc i wasted time with was willing to swear on a bible...and why????? CAUSE THE BASTARD DONT FOLLOW GOD..HE.SERVES THE DEVIL! smh
I find it quite funny that people would actually make up a story just to get in your head...it honestly shows that they don't have anything great going on in their present life, i also believe that low self-esteem plays a part within themselves...good video!😁
I've known many a liar that was not the least bit nervous. It was as if the lie was relaxing them and they oftentimes believe it themselves. I've known some that could pass a lie detector easily too.
Stress tells are NOT signs of lying, they are signs of DISCOMFORT. It is almost impossible to spot a very good liar but easier to identify when what the person is saying makes them uncomfortable or their body language doesn't match. The thing is, without further investigation you don't know why why they are saying makes them uncomfortable or doesn't match their body language, it MIGHT be because they're lying or it may be for many other reasons.
I do more than half of those things but I just have social anxiety. 😂 I'm a real loner, I struggle with interaction, now everybody will think I'm a liar!! 😂
My brother is autistic and can't lie even in the most tiny ounce but he does all these physical gestures and with added details. One time my mom was using the restroom and a phone call came in. He answered it and went to the bathroom door knocking because it was for her. She told him to tell the person she'll call back because she's on the toilet and my brother relays the message "my mom will call you back because she's taking a shit"😂😂. My mom screamed with humiliation and since then never explains she's on the toilet...bahahaha!
I’ve noticed that when you ask someone a simple question about the lie, they usually ask you to repeat it as though they haven’t heard. I guess it gives them time to prepare an answer, this was a CLASSIC with my ex “Who just texted you?” “My sister” “Oh, what did she want?” “Huh? Oh just something about her work” 🙄
This! I never see this mentioned but it’s 100% correct. The false confusion and the answering without clarification, indicating they heard you perfectly well and just stalled.
I disagree with the cooperation theory. some folks are tired of being treated badly by law enforcement and simply refuse to be cooperative with these in uniform.
I found this intriguing and very true. I have severe PTSD from an incredibly cruel father and 3 much older sisters. I'm 67 now, but I have found it almost impossible for me to lie and can count the times I have lied on the fingers of one hand. Here is why; When I was around five, I worked very hard for my mom on some project she had and was given a dollar. I saw in a magazine a little wooden battery car for .99 and she helped me to buy it. Before it came, dad found a small carrot with a bite out of the side in the garden. He made a big deal out of it and to find the guilty he compared tooth marks with all of us. Mine was the closest, and I was labeled a liar. For a month the round tube of my car and that carrot hung by a string from a wall sconce and I was make to look at it daily. I remember hating that car and just recently, in talking with my 75-year-old sister, she revealed that she, in a few days, confessed to him that she bit the carrot and was told to shut up. When he died in '86 I learned from her and another sister that he was angry I was born a boy, and by today's standards, he would have when to prison for what he did to them......
This is BS. Only people that are generally honest will behave like that. A practiced lier is much more subtle. (I lived with a con man.) Edit: when I get anxious in social setting I talk too much and too fast and I do lots of that body language Dr. Phil and many other videos and books mention, which have NOTHING to do with lying... The best way to spot if someone lies is to know them personally, to know what behaviour is normal for them and any changes.
Karan Boczkay well obviously this won't apply to you... And your comment is a bit silly. You'll give away whether your telling the truth or lying in other ways, I suspect
I knew some HEAVY liars that would look you straight in the eye and lie without a conscience. But they ALWAYS had a tell. Not an obvious tell but i figured out what it was because things werent adding up
well I do some of those things because I have bad social anxiety and just don't know how to be fuckin normal half the time .. I often rant when I'm nervous I feel guilty for nothing when I see the police i get nervous even though in doing nothing same in airports 😂
Me too. I get so nervous when I see the police that one time I to pull over, I couldn't even see the road. The police stoped behind me and insisted that I was guilty of something. I never had a point on my licence or had a problem with the police, after about one hour they let me go. I called my son to come and drive the car home, I sold it and haven't driven in 15 years. Some people have fear of spiders I've of cops.
@@aidarebelo , cops stopped me and had no record. She said you not acting right. She made me walk the line and patted me down. If I had not been on the pooer end then would have not got stopped; because I had no money for lawyer to sue them. I later seen another real lady done the same way; not right/ fair.
the 'BS' he was talking about was called 'accessing' you have to prepare your interview room PUT the table between you and the suspect. put them in a place where they have access to the door, do not block the door.Talk to them about banalities and just chat. They will slowly relax - ask them 'harmless' questions, something like did they play baseball, and with each answer they will look up in an area might be left might be right, might be straight up or straight down but they will do it consistently. ask them questions that they have to think about for a minute, like who was your favorite teacher, if the last name is unusual make a comment that it is an unusual name, how do you spell that? (dont write it down - it spooks them) but they will do some accessing. Their bodies tell a lot, they might tap a pencil against their chin etc (not nervously) now that you know how they tell you the truth, spotting them lie is a cakewalk.
I found more data on what he mocked, it is still taught in major police academies all over the world - the funny thing is the article suggests that the interviewer be 'less kojak' and more 'Dr Phil' en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Reid_technique nickname 'reads 9 steps' I wonder if that gimlet eyed polygraph-ista ever blinks
There are many times Dr. Phil gets it wrong, particularly when he states a CPS worker or a court evaluator's findings as if they are correct. Very, very sad for children whose abusive parent is a malignant narcissist.
Nitai Gauranga He truthful about very, very little. He always lies to guests and I believe the ones that said he & his staff set them up. What bothers me most is his repetition of credentials and “old baldy”. Plus, he traumatizes guests more than they had been.
Number One , your right on. I've had the same thoughts. But his loyal little flock wouldn't believe the truth, or even suspenions on his part, if it was staring them in their face. There's people I like on tv, actresses, actors or a certain movie, but I definitely know their all just people like me. Nothing special, they are all imperfect & lead all imperfect lives, like us all. I will not worship, idolize another human being.
No human fully discloses themselves and the more high profile,the more private u keep things because u know everybody and there brother wants in on your life. At the end of the day we are all just humans imperfect and flawed. Dr.phil addresses real life issues and gives advice, better then some shows that make a spectacle of the people, degrade them and offer no solutions on how they could better themselves n those close to them.
or they'll do anything to talk over the conversation as if your not there. or pace back and forth like a chicken with his head cut off and start yelling like ya on the back 40 or something.
A lot of this stuff occurs with ppl with anxiety, social anxiety is a nasty disorder, and causes many ppl to self medicate...drink, drugs...which makes it worse in time. Even being innocent, an anxious person shows the same actions as liars bc they think the other person thinks they are guilty and over-compensate or go to pieces. Nervous dis-orders are no joke and can be seriously debilitating, exhausting, and wreck a persons life. So, if you go round scrutinizing ppl after seeing this on Dr Phil, make sure you know they ain't suffering with social anxiety before you condemn them and judge them as a liar as 99.9 x of 100 they are probably more honest, too honest, despite showing all these reactions a deceitful person does.
I don’t lie well when it aboutt ...But uhmm I just don’t lie!! I talk about everything I hear from ppl!!!! I touched my face and my lips , thus not make me a liar!! What about a Man U lived with for nearly 13 years and lied to u through out the relationship and left u hanging when u needed HIM!! Hum well mine ppl are liars and betrayersss
Thought Criminal With a screen name like “Thought Criminal,” telling anyone to “fuck off” would be most effectively utilized in response to those (voices and) thoughts in your own head. If that doesn’t “work,” there’s Thorazine and/or Haldol. Good luck with those “criminal thoughts.”
@@tundrawomansays5067 you have got to be kidding.....please avoid being part of the problem of society. Your sitting here judging "Thought Criminal" for voicing their opinion to the moronic comment Rebecca posted. And your doing so in such a pathetically dissmissive manor by suggesting they are possible schizophrenics. What gives you any right to assume that your personal opinion is so much more superior, that you can blatantly disregard the seriousness of those who actually ARE schizophrenic?? Ppl have commit suicide from schizophrenia. YOUR HATE SPEECH isnt wanted here...and neither is your intolerance of different opinions on this OPEN PUBLIC PLATFORM... Practice what you preach..evaluate yourself and police your own stupid opinions before speaking such misguided hypocrisy. Maybe you need a therapist....or the adoption of critical/logical/original thought. Moron.
Christopher Bradley , your probably so correct. He never ask a question to a guest or anyone on his show he already doesn't know the answer to. Everything's stacked against the guest on his show, and they come their for help, not to be made look like an idiot & a horrible parent/person. Mean while after he's destroyed the person on his show, he (Dr. Phil) stays in Hollywood & the person he destroyed goes back home to face his community, family, friends, co-workers, boss, and rebuild his reputation. No thanks.
Go watch an episode of jerry or maury n then come tell me this is staged n fake... dr. phil just like all of us is just a human, but the work he does attempts to help n bring to light issues n solutions for different people. So no need to judge this man. Judge yourselves. Everyone. Then look at the world n tell me we dont need help desperately.....often people who are imperfect are able to help others figure out the answers.
Yeah, I had fun at a poker table once with a guy who said "I never lie at the poker table" and caught him in a lie just by talking to him for a minute.
Some liars believe their lies are truth. In a relationship the man and the woman see things differently. I kept a journal and a tape recorder as advised by our marriage counselor. Even listening back on the recording my ex could still contradict and twist everything they said. Such chaos. Glad I'm out.
NARCISSISTS are the best liars - professional liars
BINGO!
No F. You just don't know how big a truth that is. Why did it take me a year and a half to see this? I knew all about narcs. He was that good at lieing!🤔
As in Dr. Phil!
WOOOOOOW!!! SO TRUE!!
Yes, I know many Narcissists. I was shy growing up so listened. When got older and after husband died. I was able to make friends but those are Narcissists I was talking about. My sister I realized was one and turned most in friends against me. She is wealthier, straight A and greedy.
It took all these years to know when I seen a report on Narcissist but no one believes me. She has made them first that I was no good, then Autistic and lastly a conspiratist. All untrue. I am not tough enough and has always been a caring and forgiving person.
I stay away from her mostly except maybe a holiday.
My own 2 son's have turned against me. She goes behind my back you see. Beware of not just strangers bearing gifts behind your back bribing believability. 🙁
A drug addict lies so much that it becomes a habit, and they lie even when they don't need to. It is just automatic.
Thats profound. When u dont know ur lying anymore coz its automatic
I know many many many more people who are not drug addicts that lie as well and habitually too. It's disgusting.
I am in my 40s and have been dx with ADHD since age 8. I've been accused of lying many times when I'm strictly trying to form cohesive thoughts. My dad, to this day, accuses me of being a liar. It's devastating.
Anyone who knows you well enough to matter, should recognize the difference between what you do and lying. They should be able to figure out that if that is how you act when they know you are telling the truth, then you aren't lying if you act that way when they don't know the truth.
In other words, you father has surely seen you tell the truth--and known it was the truth--hundreds of times. (He has a baseline-like when they do a lie detector test, they always ask some questions they know are true like your name where you are etc, so they can compare your heartrate etc when you are not lying to what changes if you do lie.) If your father has seen how you act hundreds of times when you are saying something he already knows is true but he still thinks you are lying when you act that way, he must be really, really stupid--at least emotionally stupid or stupid about people. If he isn't really stupid, then he's an ass who has his own reasons for wanting you to feel judged or in trouble or bad about yourself. Forget about his opinion. Either way (either he is stupid OR he wants you to feel bad) his opinion of you is worthless. Don't ever let it affect your opinion of you.
They Never Remember the LIE ❗❗😐
BINGO!
Right. Mine. Always. Denies. All. The. Bs. Said. The. Year. Earlier
OMG so true! When my narc husband lies ( which is every 15 minutes, literally) I know I'll I have to do is wait. Casually, a few days later, I'll bring up the same topic. The story will change ever so slightly. I used to think he was slow-to-learn with a severe memory problem--he even dupped our first marriage therapist. She Dx'd him with A.D.D. Then he'd bitch & moan when I treated him like he was slow-to-learn! Ugh!
Finally, I asked my bro-in-law who's an FBI senior supervising agent. I provided a current example. Mr. FBI said, "He knows. He understands it's that He doesn't want to do what you're asking." It's like, really? I wonder when hi stop holding my husband on the same countability level as my kids who are 6 and 8 and one has a mild cognitive delay? Relationship with a narcissist is like being on a very mild dose of psychedelics such as mushrooms or LSD every day.
My husband lies so much that he would need about three secretaries to maintain all of his alternative facts. Good liars don't lie so often to where they can't remember their shit. These dudes are good liars physically--none of thus face touching crap that ppl with a decent values exhibit. BUT, no one can maintain that much false details especially against a person with the stamina of a long distance runner (college--all college--now, I only run and lock myself in the bathroom to get my alone time 😂).
That's why it is a Narcissistic Personality Disorder! A lie (Wikipedia) is a deliberate untruth. NPD is a defense mechanism, the disorder works 'automatically', not deliberate. We know they are lying but to narcissists it's reallity. That's why they seem professional liars to us, don't remember a lie, never will admit lying and keep on trying to change the story or blame you.
Correct 😁🎀
This is how to catch a liar who possesses empathy and remorse. Someone who may feel guilty about some act they may have committed. A true lair can fake reality. They do not think or feel anything when lying because they are able to live a lie in the moment of telling it. Most likely you'll never spot a true sociopathic liar unless you have facts about the situation. These people are so convincing you'll repeat their lie further making the tall tail into a reality for the liar.
Super Saiyan I’m one
I agree. A true liar can fake reality. I often felt like making my ex take a lie detector test but they say if they believe what they are saying, they'd pass. Not sure if my ex was a habitual, compulsive or a combo of these and other forms of lying. He wasn't good at it though.
I deal with a narcissist roommate and trust me, they bring lying to a whole new level. He lies to cover the lies that he continues lying about. I've net met such a compulsive liar in my life. They are CHAMPION LIARS This video is mild and doesn't cover the whole truth. To quote House, "everybody lies." It's to what extent some people are willing to go to protect their lies or admit fault.
ya should meet my ex old lady of 12 years, cock hopper, think she's screwing in cars and trucks by now for $... pretty sure...
@@christophermichael4372 Sounds like she has more problems than being allergic to the truth
I'm always nervous and doing all those gestures and stutter even when I'm telling the truth. Even for simple conversation.
A liar is nervous because they're lying, it's not that nervous people are liars
natural social anxiety/fear of cops etc is found out during the preliminary, interview, however when innocuous questions are asked, you establish a base like - like your grandmother had a farm? no way! what kind of farm was it? (always ask open ended questions) conversations like that is how you establish body language, temper, and micro expressions more as you guide them through the interview
Same here!
I think you’re lying about that 😂
I'm pretty shy, and therefore, not the best conversationalist, but, I notice that when I'm talking to people, I'm always looking down, or all around the room or if we are outside, looking at the trees or whatever our surroundings are, and I'm not lying, its just that I'm shy, know I'm a horrible conversationalist and embarrassed by it. The only time I look at someone straight in the eye is when THEY are talking to me, and when I comment back, I'm looking down or all around. I'm pretty sure, people would think I'm a big liar, too, but, I'm not. The only lies I tell people are because I don't want to hurt their feelings and tell them I like their haircut or the outfit they are wearing when I really don't, or I like the food they brought to a potluck, when I really don't. And I lie to my kids when they ask me if I smoked marijuana or got drunk when I was a teenager. Those are the only lies I tell. :)
Truth is easy to grasp. Lies make you have to think hard and you have to strain your mind to make it make sense
The more you lie and come up with creative stories on the fly the better you will get at it...it will be easier than the truth.
Bryan Ovalasiti , but alot of people now days can sit straight up, look you straight in the eyes and have no changing demeanor. Crazy!
I'm laughing at this because my mother used to tell me that I'd go around the block to cross the street. I unnecessarily complicate every conversation I'm in. TMI, TMI. And I almost always provide too much detail. (I deleted an entire paragraph of detail in my response to you.) The biggest thing is whether complicating matters is unusual for someone or if providing a lot of detail is unusual. Unless of course, the person is lying all the time. People like that do exist. I don't think, however, most people are engaging in consequential lies on a regular basis.
A narcissist is the most convincing liar because he believes the lie himself. A Machiavellian liar is lying for a purpose, and he'll quit while he's ahead. He prepares the lie carefully and prays that he won't be found out.
People and children that have been abused will do all of those because they are hiding their shame. That and more. Anxiety disorders and ptsd.
Yes, thats very true
Yes yes yes!!!
I thought that too. I was thinking I call Bull on this.
I'm autistic and I have my bag on my lap and like to 'hide' behind things because it helps me feel grounded and less anxious around people or in public places. I am not a liar, but anyone watching this video might see my autistic behaviour and come to the wrong conclusion.
mei5050 , That's how I feel also sometimes, liking hiding out. I found that just wearing glasses is helpful in feeling safer out around people.
All these signs mean nothing if the liar beliefs himself. And yes that happens. Spotting liar is easier if you know them wel,but even than you could be surprised.
well that's awkward with narcs, compulsive liars and even sometimes borderlines in melt down can genuinely believe their own stories, however with narcs it’s guaranteed if their lips are moving they are probably lying! 🤥
The truth about a liar is they hope you don't know any better. Education is a liar's worst enemy and the truth's best friend.
A person that lies much will after a while loose control over the lies and then the lies start contradict each other.
BINGO! their bs made up stories change, you got it.
That's what happened to Narcissist sister did to me. She kept changing the lies about me. One Lie after another. Fortunately for her many people in this country and my red state are ignorant. How can they believe her when I tell them the truth? I'm trying to keep control.
...and then someday they get to president.
Everyday liars are easy to spot but pathological liars can fool anyone, can even pass a lie detector test.
Joseph Van Zandt
My thoughts exactly
There are Sociopaths who were born normal, but their upbringing created their illness. Psychopaths are born psychopaths and they can pass a lie detector no problem.
and that's why I'm a problem
Joseph Van Zandt Absolutely. There are narcissists, sociopaths, and psychopaths out there straight lying their lives away and they feel nothing.
THIS.
I'm not a liar. I try to be honest at all times, but honesty sometimes gets you in trouble.
Say "I'll be honest, I'm not talking to you or anyone else"
MastaSmack am I? Do u RING? 👋....no B.S.
Yes, it takes courage.
The only folks that are totally honest tend to have a mental impairment or personality disorder.
no, honesty gets THEM in trouble...
Top tip,if someone is lying to others, don't make the mistake to think they won't lie to you
Learning how to be an excellent liar with Dr.Phil.
Elena Ruth Chondrogianni lolll
lmaooo
The best liar is one who actually believes what they are saying is true, but that enters into a whole other realm of self denial, almost psychosis. A good liar also sticks to the same story, tells the same lie again and again, changing the story only opens you up to be discredited. A good liar also makes sure there's no way of disproving his lie. Shit, I sound like a psychopath.
I’ve liars that do none of that. I dealt with liars that looked me in the face with out blinking and I knew they were lying.
Having worked with policing agencies I can tell you liars tend not tell the same story again and again. People have VERY weak memories. Very few can put up with repeated questioning in regards to an event that requires detailed answers and or proof of your whereabouts/ time place ect. Sometimes even those who tell the truth tend to get confused in repeated questioning.
This stuff is flawed, I was falsely accused of stealing a ring from my parents...and I sat there and maintained full eye contact the whole time...the detective still said to my parents that I did it. I'm no saint, as I have stolen before, but this was not the case at the time.
they can't tell a story backwards, like a/woke up b/took a shower/c walked the dog d/ got ready for work
if you ask them what they did before they walked the dog, they won't say I took a shower Instead they go all the way back to a and repeat abcd it is called 'script memory' a story that they had to repeat over and over so they could get it believable to the cop or whomever the person is answering to
so whatever you ask them they go back to their script and repeat it over and over
Some people can say the alphabet backwords, some can't...doesn't make them a liar.
MastaSmack, the alphabet is static and can be memorized. It does not change even when reciting it backwards. It's not the same thing as trying to recall events in the order it happened or telling it backwards, especially when under stress such as interrogation.
and besides, it is only one facet of many tools at the disposal of the investigator, statement analysis, polygraph, handwriting analysis - not to mention the real or documentary evidence found the old fashioned way, lots of legwork and crime scene analysis
In my experience, with practiced liars, they learn to first believe their lie, then it becomes real to them.
They swear your eyes played tricks on you! You didn’t hear that right. Honestly they believe their lies and if I hadn’t seen this first hand I wouldn’t believe anyone could possibly be this stupid..
when I was younger my parents blamed me for a lot of stuff my older sibling did. So now, even into my 50's, Whenever there is conflict and someone is to blame, and I get asked if I know who "did it", or someone casually mentioning that the car had gotten broken into, I tend to get nervous to almost the point of shaking. I can feel it happening, I just know they are going to accuse me of doing something, when in fact I wasn't even in the same state...as it were.
crispyspa What they did to you sounds like narcissistic abuse. And you're reaction sounds like C-ptsd from having to live in that. If you're not familiar with these terms or conditions, PLEASE look them up! A lot of people experience this and have no idea what, was or still is, going on.
well opposite thing happened to my sister, she has been question all the time and she kept on lying and never admit anything about all the accusations and blame everyone for bulliying her where in fact she was doing all of those wrong doings, she's a narcissist... 100% Liar
Why don't you just say ' it wasn't me' ? Then say "fuck off"
Wow same...
YOU NEED HELP.
There are some people that a really believable liars. Generally they are narcs
mike riolo with narcs, the too much detail & answering questions not asked are major red flags/giveaways in my experience.
Psychopaths and Narcissists aren’t as obvious. I know a few, and even when I actually know that they are lying, they are sooo convincing, I even doubt myself about what I know to be true about what they have really done or said. It’s crazy. They can look you straight in eye and convince you of anything other than what you know to be the truth
Because it's a disorder! It's their (defense mechanism) reality (!) to survive...
Yes, even the USA, indisputably, has one in charge of the country, for now, UNFORTUNATELY. Here's a big hint:👿Tresident Prump👺👹💀💩🤡☠️
Narcs are believable because nobody would ever dream of making up the crap they lie about; however, if you are around them long enough or doubt their lies they will show their true colors. Narcs, especially the covert narc, are absolutely cowardly. They are wounded beyond repair - run!
I grew up with master liars and manipulaters .... i never see them do 80% of these things... but they do distance themselves randomly from guilt at times and get very hostile when you confront them about anything. Especially if you assume they are lying thats how you know they are lying.... Hostility
Yes I agree
@C C , I hope everything is well with you and thanks for pointing out to Alexandria White about these people, when confronted when lies, are Narcissists.
I have some questions about this. I have social anxiety that causes me to have red spots on my chest neck and arms. I often pull my hands up by my face to sort of cover the blotches. I also fidget, A LOT. I give lots of unnecessary details bc I get nervous and ramble on. If people were paying attention to these signs of lying, everyone would think everything I say is a lie.
Me to I get so nervous around new people I wont look i thier eyes, and fidget alot. Also even around people Ive known forever if it is something personal or focousing attention on me.
sounds like herpes
noah one are you bored or what? Just trying to start something over a Dr. Phil video? Damn, you’re so witty. I mean, why?
you are right and I apologize
Off-Road Barbie yes but being nervous is part of telling a lie. But that is just one indicator of many and should not be a final factor in deciding that your a liar.
NOT TRUE. A true "liar" is a con artist and you wont be able to tell unless you investigate the lie for yourself so just remember this, when dealing with liars.....dont try to figure out if they lied by body language....youll need to investigate.
and when you find yourself playing detective, it is because you already know...
@@christophermichael4372
Isn't that the TRUTH!
Yeah, all this seems to apply to occasional consequential liars. However, con artists frequently answer questions not asked and say, "Honestly" and the like. So a true liar might do some of these things.
A con artist can make you suspend your disbelief.
Lying is basically an art. Some people have perfected it so well that even the most common red flags don't appear when they are talking. The best way to get better at catching liars is by evaluating many of them.
What of gaslighters?? Gaslighting! Very damaging and mind blowing narc tactic and destroys any relationship! AND the other person!
Angela Falsetta
My ex liar accused me of having mood swings and to go get help. Lol 😳
Wonder what fake Phil would say about that rubber toupe he wears. It's so obvious. Wonder why a guest hasn't mentioned it. Oh! Nevermind! Lol 😳. Have a lovely evening sis. God bless us all.
Yes, been through gaslighting with Narcissist friend.
Michael John Morren. Liar. Narc. Expert Gaslighter. Bastard criminal.
Gaslight? That was a British movie of the '40s with actor Charles Boyer. It was about a criminal tried convincing an heiress, that she was crazy so he could steal her dead aunt's jewels.
What does Gaslight mean? Well, her husband (the criminal who married the victim) would turn down the gas for the lights in the house and then make noises to convince her she was going crazy believing in ghosts. Then, he would show up at the front door and say he heard and saw nothing. She must be crazy. All the while, he was searching for her aunt's jewels that he tried to steal 15 years earlier.
Regards
@@tomprice3258 , who is he?
The most important thing... lose your complicity... your desire to believe the liar.
Good One.
Want to know if someone is lying? Ask them the question you want answered....then, be quiet. Don’t speak and let them ramble on. Guaranteed, they will feel uncomfortable if they are lying and drop themselves in it trying to convince you, they become paranoid. If they’re truthful, they will say what happened, and figure they’ve told the truth so they have no need to embellish their story. It works most of the time, obviously it’s not 100%, but like I said, guaranteed....it will definitely make a lying person uncomfortable. Unless they are a sociopath, psychopath, or a narcissist...in that case, I have nothing to help! Lol!
Not if a very honest person feels you are not believing them and cares a lot about being believed.
Huh dr Phil I'm afraid you are deluded. This sick, twisted system with its one size fits all gang mentality is built on absolute lies that permeate our pathetic society from the top matey. People should lead by example. Instead those in positions of influence and power are above the law. They are hypocrites. There is no wonder the world is spinning out of control when people like you stand up thee and spout such simplified clap trap. People lie for one reason and one reason only. Cos they can. It's a choice. And unless they admit, which is almost never or you can prove it beyond a doubt, you will always be left uncertain. Also most of the comments have this one thing in common. Neatly everybody has the signs you talk about in everyday life. It don't make em all liars do it sir. I can't lie. I'm low functioning. I'd drop myself innit. Yet if you had you're way you'd have us all in the slammer. Tut tut tut Mr. If it were that simple this godforsaken planet wouldn't be so full of the miserable, stinking toerags would it? In my experience all men are liars God is the truth.
Now we got a senior judge who is the most dramatic/bombasic of liars
I touch my face all the time - nervous habit, and I also breathe oddly because I'm asthmatic. Clearly not all these signs mean a person's lying.
You don't have asthma, liar.
(j/k)
The shitty thing is that people with low self esteem or severe introversion do a lot of the things on the body language list.
So in this case, you basically have to defer to the verbal cues list.
One thing blunt introverts don’t do is lie. And they don’t speak too formally.
i do the same thing i dont even relise why i tell half truths i suffer with deprission and anxiety ive moved away from family and friends so i dont upset anyone im so low i think im a jealous of everyones happines and what god parents they have been .i feel very bitter and now as ive got oldder the remorse is getting to me more and more for the way i behaved
Sue Williams hoping you can learn to love and forgive yourself. I found help by reading a book called CONQUERING SHAME AND CODEPENDENCY 8 Steps to Freeing the True You by Darlene Lancer
Isosceles Kramer That is so true. I am extremely shy and I do those things. I really try to tell the truth, though.
Sue Williams My granddaughter and I will be praying for you. Did you ever read The Dawntreader from the Chronicles of Narnia? Aslan, who represents Jesus, tells Lucy, "Take courage, dear heart."
If a story does not make sense, there is a reason for that. That is a flag.
Chris Daniels I agree
I'm an Empath, and I don't have to see a person to know they are lieing. I can be txting someone, or having an online conversation .. and I can feel them lieing to me 3,000 miles away. I know when Im being lied to. And it makes every hair on my neck stand up. I cannot stand a liar. Everyone lies to a degree, and you woukd be a liar, to say thats not true. Some people lie, just to keep from making a person feel bad, or hurt them. But there are many types of liars. And I can tell with just looking at words and the vibes I get. Its worse when someone lies straught to my face, I usually dont say anything .. But there are times I do, and they aren't able to lie over the lie they are caught in. Its impossible to lie to an Empath.
I was akso reading on the narcissist comments. I was married to a narcissist for years. We were very young when we married. As the years passed, I didnt understand his behavior until we were 20 years into it with children. He is an alcoholic on top of it. I left him a month before the death of our second child, she was murdered 3 weeks before her 26th birthday. The following year, our last daughter committed suicide, and his narcisstic tendencies were off the charts, with nobody to control n tried very hard to pull me back in. We've been divorced now for 4 years, and I still get controlling txts, that are full of accusations if jealousy. I cant be in the same room with him at times for no longer than 5 minutes. They are energy sucking vampires, and can be dangerous. I stayed all those years, thinking I was being a good mother, now that all 3 of my children are passed, looking back I wonder if I made the right choices. But, the ither side if me finds the positive things I took from it as well. Learn the traits of a narcissist and if you come across one pursuing you, run like your damn head is on fire. Because no matter what you do, or how much you love them - they will never change. And you will become the fuel to their fire.
CF ♡
Some I don't agree with.. I often say "to be perfectly honest..." and it's NOT a lie that comes out of my mouth after that! I also know of convicted murderers who HAVE said what punishment the perpetrator should get if/when caught. A very old case in France, where this guy had kidnapped and murdered a young boy. When asked by media he said that whoever did this deserves the death penalty! His name was Patrick Henry.
justme33126 yes he is a psychologist I believe.
Dr. Phil is breathing heavily with short breaths and keeps tightly crossing his arms....hummmmm, why is he seemingly uncomfortable?
DogsDroolll TRUTH He is talking to an audience and then and the rest of the world.
Because he has millions of
people criticing him like you.
thats because hes out of texas and not comfortable.hes from the south you know.and this aint his first rodeo.
DogsDroolll TRUT
DogsDooll TRUTH...you're so RIGHT. It's bullshit he's telling and is just PROJECTING his own narcissistic personality disorder! All traits are there...(he's shouting too, framing the 'truth, theory=nonsens and the examples of a liar....just toddler behaviour. Ever seen a true liar (liar means deliberately not telling the truth) like a politician, behave the way Phil wants us to believe? Projection of a narcissist it is!
The only way for sure is one their track record and their behavior. Their stories are inconsistent. They claim to be loaded with money yet they are always barrowing something or bumming off others. They tell you something then a few days later you ask and they don't have a clue what you're saying.
I mboo exactly true
The best way to tell a liar is to measure their actions against their words. If the two don’t match...liar!
I have anxiety and ptsd and had to go to court to give evidence about the crime that caused a lot of my ptsd. I was nearly passing out from anxiety and stress. The defence lawyer was aggressive and hostile - this made me feel like I wanted a barrier between me and her but I was telling the truth. So how does that pan out?
Dr. Phil is so out of breath. I felt like I needed to take a deep breath for him. 😥
Could be a couple things. First, he could just not be as good at public speaking as he would like to think he is so, he spits everything that he needs to say out and forgets to breathe while he’s doing it (I do that - especially when i have my ducks in a row and just want to say what i have to say.). So, he could just need a speech coach. Or, it could be that his diabetes has gotten worse and he’s having kidney or CHF issues. I hope its the former.
My husband suffers anxiety and stress and he showes many of this trait when he is dealing with difficult person or situation specially when he has to stand up for himself, his hand and even whole body shivers, he breath fast n shallow but i know what he is going through...Dr.Phil you should not give half baked lecture to untraind audience who may misjudge thousands of ppl like my husband as a liar.
I have a good friend who exhibits most of these 'tells' during the course of a normal conversation. He is a victim of PTSD baggage and my heart goes out to him. His anxiety over the trauma he has been imprinted with is accepted by me and after a couple of hours of working together or just hanging out over a game of pool he settles into what can easily be mistaken for normal. He wouldn't tell a lie to me if it was on fire in his mouth. I just don't assume I'm confronted with a liar because of the tells - first I give them more rope until they tangle themselves in it.
I got " would I lie to you?" every time and wiping the sweat off his brow and forehead.
Many times guilt will come out as anger because anger is easier to deal with than guilt. So if you confront someone and they try to turn it around on you with anger most likely they are feeling guilty about something!
I swear on my children's lives. I swear on a stack of Bibles...
Marilyn Bradley my ex said that all the time. I swear on my daughters head. I knew he was a cheater. Then i ran into him 10 years later....guess what he was engaged and his fiance was miles and wanted to be with me for one night. He tried to say he has a free pass. Lol. Busted
Marilyn Bradley smdh...yup..devil narc i wasted time with was willing to swear on a bible...and why????? CAUSE THE BASTARD DONT FOLLOW GOD..HE.SERVES THE DEVIL! smh
Marilyn Bradley
Don't forget "I swear to god." That is sure proof they are lieing. Happy day to you.
Mine swore on his mom & our son and was LYING!!!
Learning how not to lie with Dr. Phil
Lemonskilledmyson 😩🤣🤣🤣🤣
I find it quite funny that people would actually make up a story just to get in your head...it honestly shows that they don't have anything great going on in their present life, i also believe that low self-esteem plays a part within themselves...good video!😁
I don't need any of that, my gut tells me when someone is lying. It's like the atmosphere changes I can feel it
Look at all the women in the crowd getting concerned
oh you know it... let's see them BUILD SOMETHING... shall we? : )
Men are the best liars. I know!!
Doesn't that tell youj something about men!!!
ONE TRUTH about a LIAR, THEY have to REMEMBER the LIES that THEY STARTED,, USUALLY THEY CAN'T EVEN
He admits it’s junk science then goes on to proliferate it.
Every person who raised their hand should never serve on a jury.
Smooth hacking services, wonderful and brilliant steps. Having access to the target’s phone without any notice
I've known many a liar that was not the least bit nervous. It was as if the lie was relaxing them and they oftentimes believe it themselves. I've known some that could pass a lie detector easily too.
I. Know. Many. Liars. Tooo. The. Majority. Of. The. Culture. Wants. The. Liar. So. All. Get. Rewards. Together. They. Hate. Truth. Telllers
@@joycebruhn3672 why do you put a period after ever word?
@@joycebruhn3672, they hate me because I am a truth teller. I've sacrificed having friends or sibs for telling about Narcissist sister.
Mandy Simmons. Those people are call narcissists sweetie. They are awesome at lying because they are so charismatic and likable.
I hate liers
I needed this decades ago! My trust was abused.
A lie is saying: I never have lied in my life.. Except For the. 43,000 times when I went to a casino. LoL
Stress tells are NOT signs of lying, they are signs of DISCOMFORT. It is almost impossible to spot a very good liar but easier to identify when what the person is saying makes them uncomfortable or their body language doesn't match. The thing is, without further investigation you don't know why why they are saying makes them uncomfortable or doesn't match their body language, it MIGHT be because they're lying or it may be for many other reasons.
I’m the worst liar. My face turns red and my voice cracks
I do more than half of those things but I just have social anxiety. 😂 I'm a real loner, I struggle with interaction, now everybody will think I'm a liar!! 😂
lol...I do all that stuff when I'm telling the truth
My brother is autistic and can't lie even in the most tiny ounce but he does all these physical gestures and with added details. One time my mom was using the restroom and a phone call came in. He answered it and went to the bathroom door knocking because it was for her. She told him to tell the person she'll call back because she's on the toilet and my brother relays the message "my mom will call you back because she's taking a shit"😂😂. My mom screamed with humiliation and since then never explains she's on the toilet...bahahaha!
M Trinidad autistic boys are true geniuses and highly conscious individuals.
@@parme1241 yes! so true. my son has Autism
M Trinidad
Hahaha that’s so funny! 🤣
I’ve noticed that when you ask someone a simple question about the lie, they usually ask you to repeat it as though they haven’t heard. I guess it gives them time to prepare an answer, this was a CLASSIC with my ex
“Who just texted you?”
“My sister”
“Oh, what did she want?”
“Huh? Oh just something about her work” 🙄
This! I never see this mentioned but it’s 100% correct. The false confusion and the answering without clarification, indicating they heard you perfectly well and just stalled.
One I noticed with many people is they open their eyes wide saying I'm not lying...
I disagree with the cooperation theory. some folks are tired of being treated badly by law enforcement and simply refuse to be cooperative with these in uniform.
The truth (in moderation) shall set you free.
I found this intriguing and very true. I have severe PTSD from an incredibly cruel father and 3 much older sisters. I'm 67 now, but I have found it almost impossible for me to lie and can count the times I have lied on the fingers of one hand. Here is why; When I was around five, I worked very hard for my mom on some project she had and was given a dollar. I saw in a magazine a little wooden battery car for .99 and she helped me to buy it. Before it came, dad found a small carrot with a bite out of the side in the garden. He made a big deal out of it and to find the guilty he compared tooth marks with all of us. Mine was the closest, and I was labeled a liar. For a month the round tube of my car and that carrot hung by a string from a wall sconce and I was make to look at it daily. I remember hating that car and just recently, in talking with my 75-year-old sister, she revealed that she, in a few days, confessed to him that she bit the carrot and was told to shut up. When he died in '86 I learned from her and another sister that he was angry I was born a boy, and by today's standards, he would have when to prison for what he did to them......
Middle fifties. Have been lied to all my life.
This is BS. Only people that are generally honest will behave like that. A practiced lier is much more subtle. (I lived with a con man.)
Edit: when I get anxious in social setting I talk too much and too fast and I do lots of that body language Dr. Phil and many other videos and books mention, which have NOTHING to do with lying... The best way to spot if someone lies is to know them personally, to know what behaviour is normal for them and any changes.
if you are normal and true you will be able to look someone in the eye.
barbara chipley yes exactly now that is the truth
barbara chipley No, Barbara, I am a teacher and sometimes kids will look you right in the eyes and tell outright lies.
@@marymacdonald1651 @Mary so dump them out your class and send them to the retarded kids side of life forever...
I never hide behind barriers. I confront people and call them out
Send this to my entire family and friends
“Believe me!” Ring a bell???
Dianne Inkpen Good one! 😂
This is good 😊
One of Donald's favorite lines
Dianne Inkpen 😂👍
E B yes!!! 👍
Top tell....they will NOT look at you....
JD this is not true. I usually look away because it is a kind of respect in our culture.
I've looked people straight in the eye and lied to them, and they believed me. That's exactly why they believed me.
JD that's true or they get really quiet as if to think about something or what the next lie will be
I have a bad eye so I am not able to look people in the eye so guess I am lying 24/7
Karan Boczkay well obviously this won't apply to you... And your comment is a bit silly. You'll give away whether your telling the truth or lying in other ways, I suspect
Years of careful observation, and researching when I sense a lie almost ALWAYS gives the liar away...Remember folks.. the first rule is DENY DENY DENY
Thinking: Those who suffer from abuse, depression or anxiety are screwed.
Disagree with everything he said .
he has a degree and you don’t.
I thought I touched my nose because it itched and I breathed shallow because I have asthma.
These are all great ways to spot liars who are bad at lying
I knew some HEAVY liars that would look you straight in the eye and lie without a conscience. But they ALWAYS had a tell. Not an obvious tell but i figured out what it was because things werent adding up
well I do some of those things because I have bad social anxiety and just don't know how to be fuckin normal half the time .. I often rant when I'm nervous I feel guilty for nothing when I see the police i get nervous even though in doing nothing same in airports 😂
Me too. I get so nervous when I see the police that one time I to pull over, I couldn't even see the road. The police stoped behind me and insisted that I was guilty of something. I never had a point on my licence or had a problem with the police, after about one hour they let me go. I called my son to come and drive the car home, I sold it and haven't driven in 15 years. Some people have fear of spiders I've of cops.
@@aidarebelo , cops stopped me and had no record. She said you not acting right. She made me walk the line and patted me down. If I had not been on the pooer end then would have not got stopped; because I had no money for lawyer to sue them.
I later seen another real lady done the same way; not right/ fair.
the 'BS' he was talking about was called 'accessing' you have to prepare your interview room PUT the table between you and the suspect. put them in a place where they have access to the door, do not block the door.Talk to them about banalities and just chat. They will slowly relax - ask them 'harmless' questions, something like did they play baseball, and with each answer they will look up in an area might be left might be right, might be straight up or straight down but they will do it consistently. ask them questions that they have to think about for a minute, like who was your favorite teacher, if the last name is unusual make a comment that it is an unusual name, how do you spell that? (dont write it down - it spooks them) but they will do some accessing. Their bodies tell a lot, they might tap a pencil against their chin etc (not nervously) now that you know how they tell you the truth, spotting them lie is a cakewalk.
I found more data on what he mocked, it is still taught in major police academies all over the world - the funny thing is the article suggests that the interviewer be 'less kojak' and more 'Dr Phil'
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Reid_technique
nickname 'reads 9 steps'
I wonder if that gimlet eyed polygraph-ista ever blinks
Nah... BS... I was lied to multiple times while this person looked me square in the eye.
Sunshine S I hate that. It's the worst & ultimate disrespect.
noah one , were you a detective or something?
You have to frame them first and then u can interpret their responses to lies and truth.
There are many times Dr. Phil gets it wrong, particularly when he states a CPS worker or a court evaluator's findings as if they are correct. Very, very sad for children whose abusive parent is a malignant narcissist.
Someone on my swim team stole my AirPods. How do I narrows it down to the suspect without hurting any feelings?
DR Phil is not completely truthful about himself
Nitai Gauranga He truthful about very, very little. He always lies to guests and I believe the ones that said he & his staff set them up. What bothers me most is his repetition of credentials and “old baldy”. Plus, he traumatizes guests more than they had been.
Where are you getting all this?
Nitai Gauranga , you know that's right.
Number One , your right on. I've had the same thoughts. But his loyal little flock wouldn't believe the truth, or even suspenions on his part, if it was staring them in their face.
There's people I like on tv, actresses, actors or a certain movie, but I definitely know their all just people like me. Nothing special, they are all imperfect & lead all imperfect lives, like us all. I will not worship, idolize another human being.
No human fully discloses themselves and the more high profile,the more private u keep things because u know everybody and there brother wants in on your life. At the end of the day we are all just humans imperfect and flawed. Dr.phil addresses real life issues and gives advice, better then some shows that make a spectacle of the people, degrade them and offer no solutions on how they could better themselves n those close to them.
or they'll do anything to talk over the conversation as if your not there. or pace back and forth like a chicken with his head cut off and start yelling like ya on the back 40 or something.
A lot of this stuff occurs with ppl with anxiety, social anxiety is a nasty disorder, and causes many ppl to self medicate...drink, drugs...which makes it worse in time.
Even being innocent, an anxious person shows the same actions as liars bc they think the other person thinks they are guilty and over-compensate or go to pieces. Nervous dis-orders are no joke and can be seriously debilitating, exhausting, and wreck a persons life. So, if you go round scrutinizing ppl after seeing this on Dr Phil, make sure you know they ain't suffering with social anxiety before you condemn them and judge them as a liar as 99.9 x of 100 they are probably more honest, too honest, despite showing all these reactions a deceitful person does.
Some people "wall in" to protect themselves from the liars!
I don’t lie well when it aboutt ...But uhmm I just don’t lie!! I talk about everything I hear from ppl!!!! I touched my face and my lips , thus not make me a liar!! What about a Man U lived with for nearly 13 years and lied to u through out the relationship and left u hanging when u needed HIM!! Hum well mine ppl are liars and betrayersss
Look for orange skin
Thought Criminal With a screen name like “Thought Criminal,” telling anyone to “fuck off” would be most effectively utilized in response to those (voices and) thoughts in your own head.
If that doesn’t “work,” there’s Thorazine and/or Haldol.
Good luck with those “criminal thoughts.”
@@tundrawomansays5067 you have got to be kidding.....please avoid being part of the problem of society. Your sitting here judging "Thought Criminal" for voicing their opinion to the moronic comment Rebecca posted. And your doing so in such a pathetically dissmissive manor by suggesting they are possible schizophrenics. What gives you any right to assume that your personal opinion is so much more superior, that you can blatantly disregard the seriousness of those who actually ARE schizophrenic?? Ppl have commit suicide from schizophrenia. YOUR HATE SPEECH isnt wanted here...and neither is your intolerance of different opinions on this OPEN PUBLIC PLATFORM... Practice what you preach..evaluate yourself and police your own stupid opinions before speaking such misguided hypocrisy.
Maybe you need a therapist....or the adoption of critical/logical/original thought.
Moron.
You are a poor little moron
Rebecca Phillips your comment is so very true!
I love it ! 😂👍🏻❤️
Angelina C, so you are defending the racist POTUS, and complaining about intolerance?.... smh
It’s always wise to tell the truth therefore you don’t have to remember your lies.
No one knows how to spot a liar with 100% certainty.
The majority of his shows are staged and fake and he has the nerve to talk about lying?
Christopher Bradley dont watch then, why have you clicked on this? Very strange for somebody who says he doesnt like his shows lol
Christopher Bradley , your probably so correct. He never ask a question to a guest or anyone on his show he already doesn't know the answer to. Everything's stacked against the guest on his show, and they come their for help, not to be made look like an idiot & a horrible parent/person. Mean while after he's destroyed the person on his show, he (Dr. Phil) stays in Hollywood & the person he destroyed goes back home to face his community, family, friends, co-workers, boss, and rebuild his reputation. No thanks.
Go watch an episode of jerry or maury n then come tell me this is staged n fake...
dr. phil just like all of us is just a human, but the work he does attempts to help n bring to light issues n solutions for different people. So no need to judge this man. Judge yourselves.
Everyone. Then look at the world n tell me we dont need help desperately.....often people who are imperfect are able to help others figure out the answers.
Let's see, if they are a human being and they are talking then 9 out of 10 times they are lying. Welcome to reality.
Yeah, I had fun at a poker table once with a guy who said "I never lie at the poker table" and caught him in a lie just by talking to him for a minute.
Some liars believe their lies are truth. In a relationship the man and the woman see things differently. I kept a journal and a tape recorder as advised by our marriage counselor. Even listening back on the recording my ex could still contradict and twist everything they said. Such chaos. Glad I'm out.
Now we know why politicians nod their head side to side when they respond yes and vice a versa with a no response.😀😛😳😜
Is this about 'President' Trump?
alphatrion100 ...no, he’s talking about Democrats. Most of which were involved in the Obama administration at different degrees and departments.
Justin Trudeau
He’s not a liar he’s really that dumb
0:15 you can see the immense power Dr. Phil commands as he casually removes the commercials from existence.
Actions speak louder than words.