Thank you so much for all these tips! :') I'd been in a long-distance relationship for about 9 months, and since we moved in together I've been having a lot of issues not getting my emotional needs met by my autistic partner. I'm researching everything I can now to make sure I understand her as best as I can. I'll watch this video with her to see if we can work out something together. You're the best, man :)
Hi Sinah! Now worries at all, I’m glad my series has helped you truly. It can be hard and little different, but with a bit of effort from both sides I’m sure you will work through it 💙💪🏻
This is a fantastic video. I am attracted to men on the Spectrum, but I've never understood them...you've given out such good advice that I believe the next relationship just might end up happy. Thank you. You're the best.
Thank you so much Faith, I'm glad these videos are helping you out! I'm a very happy bunny :D I'll be putting out a lot more over the next few months, so I'm hoping once I finish it up they'll be some solid information out there (finally)!
Can I just say my theory of autism is that there is no psychological skin? So if one wants to have sex with no physical skin it's going to be not good, is it? Well, when having sex with no psychological skin it can be a pain, independently if one loves deep & strong. I also agree with AG that alexythimia is a disability for sex. Me, as a PDA type HFA, I have a delay between receiving a stimulus, of any kind, processing it, letting myself feel it, elaborating a response, and enacting that response. This hiatus is shorter when I am happily relaxed in my own company But when in company with someone even when I love this someone to bits, the gap between receiving stimulus, and being able to elaborate a response can take 24 hours ha ha ha Only solution I have found in my 60+ years of age is extremely slow and mindful sex with no strong light / perfume / music stimulus around. A veritable art.
I've had platonic relationships, but I think this could apply to any. Personally, my only prerequisite is that touch has to come slowly. Like a light touch on the arm is okay to start. Just be slow and gentle. No sudden grabbing or pulling and we're good.
Im put off by most men who have lots of muscles, especially when they're topless and "in your face" like on magazines, and if they are showing it off like its the only thing that matters about them. If they are using them for useful things then fine. But if they are gonna use their muscles to hurt people and force them into things, then its scary. Its a lot of sensory/sight to register that hurts my head and my eyes feel violated lol. Edit: exceptions would be people like The Rock. I dont know everything about him but from what ive seen, he is very kind and down to earth. My boyfriend is building some muscle since hes doing karate, but he isnt using it outside of his karate club, though i think its helped him deal with bullies better.
What a fab video - this makes complete sense! Thank you for de-mystifying a very complex subject and for explaining it so succinctly. This will make things much easier when I discuss this with my wonderful Aspie chap. Thanks again, you're a star! ⭐ 😊👍👏👏👏
Thank you for the video. I am trying to learn as much as I can about asbergers. My boyfriend has it. His knowledge about certain things is inspiring. He is also extremely funny, strong-willed, determined, motivated, intelligent and sweet. He notices little things no guy I have known notices. But he gets frustrated when I don't understand him. He doesn't like massages and doesn't want to talk through things. He doesn't like talking about asbergers, and I feel if I do I can say the wrong thing and offend him. I don't see him as any different than me, perhaps more interesting and smarter. Last night I tried to hold his hand and he pulled away again, he said, "Don't take it personally", and I understand what he means, and that I shouldn't feel insulted. Despite trying to rationalize it, I still feel hurt when he rejects my affection. Please help.
I don't know if your still dating your fella but I was reading your comment and your right people with Asperger's are very observation. They do notice little things I have a co worker like this. Anyway if your still with your guy maybe buy those back scratcher that looks like little hands. You have one and he has one and hold the ends but have your back scratchers holding hands.
@@missjacintarella if he can't talk through things how can you even connect through communication . He can't take on your perspective , doesn't like emotional contact or touch .
I’ve always had problems going on dates because I was so awkward and uncomfortable while the guy iz usually super relaxed I’m thinking of a million things at once and want to leave when they touch me I also always back away when ppl try to kiss me even if I like them. I also give guys compliments by saying they look unattractive in a good way but they always think I’m insulting them...but I’m not I just don’t like guys who look like ken dolls..
Well I am just going to say you should be directed with males in your life and let them no your not ready cause pulling back probably make them think they just buy you a free meal
Hiya. NT here (though i'm a tad nuts 😂) Auti friend rarely initiates contact or suggesting hang outs, she confirms to me there is an energetic/spiritual connection, lots goin on for her, she seems not keen on initiating txts or hangouts,hard to tell if she's into me or not..she recent diagnosed and i learn this to be supportive.....
She's talking shit about the spiritual connection , she'll be focused on work and special interests and that's not you . They pretend they can get close and can't, have difficulty understanding anyone's perspective but their own . Can't process emotions or express them , and feck all that nonsense he's talking about
I don't think I have aversion to physical intimasy, my problem is more the apparent collective decision of all men everywhere to have an aversion to me. That and me not doing anything about it because I don't know how to people.
I'm so sorry you have that difficulty, honestly I was struggling a lot to work on my attraction and dating skills... but over the years of watching videos, reading about it and practising it, I think I improved a lot!
On sex and talk about it first Adam Wonders channel. And Anna Moomin I next really like to repeat myself. I say less the autism community in the comment about sex compare to NT. It is mu anxiety that is on extreme they no interest in sex no sex drive. Or a high sex drive. So I tread with caution saying about my sex life with the autism community. The demisexual as you talk with Samdy about it's not me but I know majority of autistic are like that.
I agree with you my man, anxiety is a massive factor in sex drive, but I also think Alexithymia is a big player in that as well No need to tread caution my friend, it’s important to talk about this stuff 💪🏻
Dealing with these people in relationships is pure hell. Run before you fall in love and get stuck with them and all the misery they will bring to your life. Find someone healthy and life will be happy and normal.
Thank you for the advice, and for showing me to avoid bigoted close minded people like you. You shall find it very hard to find happiness with your attitude, not with the people around you.
@@nita_alva If you're that sensitive maybe you shouldn't criticize others who are looking for constructive advice, and you should instead work on yourself.
Thank you so much for all these tips! :') I'd been in a long-distance relationship for about 9 months, and since we moved in together I've been having a lot of issues not getting my emotional needs met by my autistic partner. I'm researching everything I can now to make sure I understand her as best as I can. I'll watch this video with her to see if we can work out something together. You're the best, man :)
Hi Sinah! Now worries at all, I’m glad my series has helped you truly. It can be hard and little different, but with a bit of effort from both sides I’m sure you will work through it 💙💪🏻
This is a fantastic video. I am attracted to men on the Spectrum, but I've never understood them...you've given out such good advice that I believe the next relationship just might end up happy. Thank you. You're the best.
Thank you so much Faith, I'm glad these videos are helping you out! I'm a very happy bunny :D I'll be putting out a lot more over the next few months, so I'm hoping once I finish it up they'll be some solid information out there (finally)!
I always asked for massages 😂 When I was younger I called French kissing the washing machine, it makes me think of a labrador...cool ending!!
Massages are the most blissful thing, when I lived in Thailand I no lie had a foot massage at least once or twice a week 😬
Can I just say my theory of autism is that there is no psychological skin? So if one wants to have sex with no physical skin it's going to be not good, is it? Well, when having sex with no psychological skin it can be a pain, independently if one loves deep & strong. I also agree with AG that alexythimia is a disability for sex. Me, as a PDA type HFA, I have a delay between receiving a stimulus, of any kind, processing it, letting myself feel it, elaborating a response, and enacting that response. This hiatus is shorter when I am happily relaxed in my own company But when in company with someone even when I love this someone to bits, the gap between receiving stimulus, and being able to elaborate a response can take 24 hours ha ha ha Only solution I have found in my 60+ years of age is extremely slow and mindful sex with no strong light / perfume / music stimulus around. A veritable art.
I've had platonic relationships, but I think this could apply to any. Personally, my only prerequisite is that touch has to come slowly. Like a light touch on the arm is okay to start. Just be slow and gentle. No sudden grabbing or pulling and we're good.
thank you!
Brilliant and very helpful! Thank you 😊
No problem at all my friend :)
I have autism and he was right through the whole video
I’m glad you resonated with the video dude!
VERY helpful THANK YOU!!!
Massages work!! Thank you for your videos.
Thank you for this. Helped a lot. Iv been reading my guys need snd im actually surprised i have been spot on. Hes amaizing in fact .thank you
Im put off by most men who have lots of muscles, especially when they're topless and "in your face" like on magazines, and if they are showing it off like its the only thing that matters about them. If they are using them for useful things then fine. But if they are gonna use their muscles to hurt people and force them into things, then its scary. Its a lot of sensory/sight to register that hurts my head and my eyes feel violated lol.
Edit: exceptions would be people like The Rock. I dont know everything about him but from what ive seen, he is very kind and down to earth.
My boyfriend is building some muscle since hes doing karate, but he isnt using it outside of his karate club, though i think its helped him deal with bullies better.
What a fab video - this makes complete sense! Thank you for de-mystifying a very complex subject and for explaining it so succinctly. This will make things much easier when I discuss this with my wonderful Aspie chap. Thanks again, you're a star! ⭐ 😊👍👏👏👏
Thank you for the video. I am trying to learn as much as I can about asbergers. My boyfriend has it. His knowledge about certain things is inspiring. He is also extremely funny, strong-willed, determined, motivated, intelligent and sweet. He notices little things no guy I have known notices.
But he gets frustrated when I don't understand him. He doesn't like massages and doesn't want to talk through things. He doesn't like talking about asbergers, and I feel if I do I can say the wrong thing and offend him. I don't see him as any different than me, perhaps more interesting and smarter. Last night I tried to hold his hand and he pulled away again, he said, "Don't take it personally", and I understand what he means, and that I shouldn't feel insulted. Despite trying to rationalize it, I still feel hurt when he rejects my affection. Please help.
I don't know if your still dating your fella but I was reading your comment and your right people with Asperger's are very observation. They do notice little things I have a co worker like this. Anyway if your still with your guy maybe buy those back scratcher that looks like little hands. You have one and he has one and hold the ends but have your back scratchers holding hands.
@@missjacintarella if he can't talk through things how can you even connect through communication . He can't take on your perspective , doesn't like emotional contact or touch .
I overcame it and best thing ever doing that. Thought it was impossible.
This explains ALOT. Thanks.
Lol! It looks like you just got up and started talking! 😂
So helpful.. and great videos. Ty
Thank you very helpful to a neortypical. 😊a
Good job! Thank you : )
I’ve always had problems going on dates because I was so awkward and uncomfortable while the guy iz usually super relaxed I’m thinking of a million things at once and want to leave when they touch me I also always back away when ppl try to kiss me even if I like them. I also give guys compliments by saying they look unattractive in a good way but they always think I’m insulting them...but I’m not I just don’t like guys who look like ken dolls..
Well I am just going to say you should be directed with males in your life and let them no your not ready cause pulling back probably make them think they just buy you a free meal
hypersensitivity +and social anxiety. auti wont notice own emotions, make them feel safe n relax
I’m not autistic but I’m sensitive to touch due to trauma and I think french kissing is gross. Slimy and not fun at all.
This to trauma but i am autistic
Hiya. NT here (though i'm a tad nuts 😂) Auti friend rarely initiates contact or suggesting hang outs, she confirms to me there is an energetic/spiritual connection, lots goin on for her, she seems not keen on initiating txts or hangouts,hard to tell if she's into me or not..she recent diagnosed and i learn this to be supportive.....
She's talking shit about the spiritual connection , she'll be focused on work and special interests and that's not you . They pretend they can get close and can't, have difficulty understanding anyone's perspective but their own . Can't process emotions or express them , and feck all that nonsense he's talking about
“A massGe a day keeps the awkward away?!?!“☺️☺️😄 i could go the rest of my life by this. Witha partner who “gets it” 🌻
I don't think I have aversion to physical intimasy, my problem is more the apparent collective decision of all men everywhere to have an aversion to me. That and me not doing anything about it because I don't know how to people.
I'm so sorry you have that difficulty, honestly I was struggling a lot to work on my attraction and dating skills... but over the years of watching videos, reading about it and practising it, I think I improved a lot!
I dont know why but I don't like to be touched
i rather quit a relationship to paintful!!!
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On sex and talk about it first Adam Wonders channel.
And Anna Moomin
I next really like to repeat myself.
I say less the autism community in the comment about sex compare to NT.
It is mu anxiety that is on extreme they no interest in sex no sex drive.
Or a high sex drive.
So I tread with caution saying about my sex life with the autism community.
The demisexual as you talk with Samdy about it's not me but I know majority of autistic are like that.
I agree with you my man, anxiety is a massive factor in sex drive, but I also think Alexithymia is a big player in that as well
No need to tread caution my friend, it’s important to talk about this stuff 💪🏻
Dealing with these people in relationships is pure hell. Run before you fall in love and get stuck with them and all the misery they will bring to your life. Find someone healthy and life will be happy and normal.
Thank you for the advice, and for showing me to avoid bigoted close minded people like you. You shall find it very hard to find happiness with your attitude, not with the people around you.
Oh god, get on your broom and fly away.
Who hurt you?
@bosandaros4944 you did, stop stalking me. 🤔
@@nita_alva If you're that sensitive maybe you shouldn't criticize others who are looking for constructive advice, and you should instead work on yourself.