Vitamin D changed my life, it made standing up and doing stuff so much easier, pains in my body went away and my mood got better. I highly recommend it
as hard as it might have been to post this video, i really appreciate that you shared your frustrations about weight loss because i felt everything you said *so hard*. i have a _very_ long way to go in terms of developing a decent relationship with food, exercise, and i _know_ that it's not meant to be easy, but when you said "i'm never gonna want it!!" i would've changed already!!" like i totally understand
People are far too comfortable with being nasty to/about others....I cannot understand it. Can't we all just LIVE? God damn. You don't need someone on the internet to say this but your anger and frustration are so so valid. And you aren't broken! So far from it. Your candor is so appreciated
girl I never comment nowadays but my fiance and I were watching this vlog together and just thank you for being so transparent about how difficult it is to try to lose weight like MENTALLY? Cause everything you said we 100% related too - especially the whole idea of not being able to find this new thing of "joyful movement" and feeling broken because of it because it feels like we SHOULD have something that we enjoy that moves our bodies, but also the whole "okay, if I lose all this weight, then I have to eat salads/workout FOREVER" and I just simply don't want that type of commitment. I hate working out I hate going to the gym its the worst thing ever - why would I want to commit to that for the rest of my life? basically just yeah thanks for being so real
GIRL the airplane sitch is so real!!!!! I had the same thing happen to me on a flight this summer, texting about me and all. I called an attendant over and asked if there was another available seat because "this lady has a problem sitting next to a very large person." She tried to deny it but I refused to even look or talk to her. They didn't move me because the plane was full but it was enough just to call her out.
GIRL. I had the same experience on an my FIRST airplane trip with like a 60y.o. MAN next to me on my flight. His font was huge, and I'm a nosey bish so I glanced over and he was texting his wife that "this overweight goth couple is sitting next to me, I don't know why they think it's okay to look like that. It's disgusting." So I called him out on it and he had the audacity to say I shouldn't be reading his texts? So I blew up and said he shouldn't be talking about me or my partner. I BLEW up, and know what happened? He shut the f up and minded his business. The second our flight landed, he kept his head down and practically ran off the plane. This is all to say: 1) You're not alone. Nor are you too big, too much of anything. You deserve to be you, whatever mood or size you are. This happens to everyone and it's THEM that don't deserve to be on the flight. Your existence isn't a bother to them, theirs is a bother to you because of how inhumane they are. 2) That lady is weakminded and, if she's anything like the crusty old man I was seated next to, she's also a puss the second they're stood up against. You do you boo. Give them 30yrs and they won't be around anymore, and you'll be thriving.
"I want to be horizontal" I felt this in my soul. I have issues with "sports", "exercise", and "working out" too. I dunno if it'll work for you but I've had to rewire my brain. So, for me "soccer, the gym, hiking" all scream EXERCISE in my brain and I HATE the mere thought of doing any of them *puke* But my brain doesn't see "walking" and "dancing" as exercise or working out so I don't get stressed thinking of doing those things. Whenever people ask "do you work out? do you exercise?" I immediately reply "I don't because I hate exercise/sports/working out. But my hobby is dancing (doing it at home and not making it an event of a place I have to go to once a week has helped too), because that's fun." and it's helped seperate exercise and dancing/walking in my brain.
I don''t think I've ever related more to someones experience to weight-loss and the true emotional trauma of being fat and feeling 'responsible ' as you verbalised in this video. It's so fucking exhausting. And I hope you know you're not alone in this feeling.
Most of my life I've been overweight. I'm five three and two hundred and fifty pounds. I'm struggling and now I'm two hundred and thirty five pounds. And I've had family tell me growing up "you want to be the size of a barn?" Ouch. I can recount how many times I was bullied, had my lunches stolen (because I obviously don't need extra food) and more shit that just hurts. Your story hits hard because I've definitely been there. This is why I watch your channel. You're amazing and underappreciated and always brighten my day. Thanks for your videos. Big girls unite! ❤️
I literally have never related so much to someone before. All the things you talked about in regard to weight and weight loss, I felt that *so* hard. Half the time I hate leaving my house because of how I feel lmao
OMG your "fat problems" rant made me realize that my poor Husband has only ever sat in a middle seat on an airplane since we've been together because I feel like I need him as a buffer between me (a fat person) and whoever else sits with us. My husband is very skinny and I don't mind being in his space lol. These are literally things I think about all the time. The logistics of being fat are exhausting sometimes
i also have internalized fatphobia. it's ok for other people but not for me for some reason. at 34, i've been struggling with this for most of my adult life. here are some easy things to consider that i've learned about losing weight that might help. 1. MOST IMPORTANT: if you can, go get a physical with a full blood panel. ask that they check thyroid values. there are things that can show up there that may give you a targeted plan of attack. for example, i have pcos and insulin resistance so my ideal diet is low carb. 1a. if you can't do this for whatever reason, try taking vitamin D and magnesium. most americans are deficient in these things and i found my energy (and simply my will to live) got better. i take 5000IU of vitamin D. 2. find some easy things you like to cook that follow what you're trying to do diet wise. figure out which veggies you like to eat and how and put those wherever you can. for me, i like baking the shit out of broccoli until it's crispy or sautéed asparagus. if you rely on potatoes a lot, swap those other veggies in at least a couple times. my depression meal is simply eggs. you gotta figure out what works through trial and error most of the time though. 2a. the bare minimum diet change i would suggest is cutting down on sugar. it doesn't have to go away completely but try halving your daily intake or subbing zero sugar options if you can deal with sugar alcohols and see how you feel. 3. if i was a Ken, my job would be Horizontal. however, hopefully now you have some more energy from some other changes and can manage going on a walk. sometimes you have to do it even if you don't want to. you can encourage, entice, or coerce yourself however you want, but try not to do it with food. listen to an audiobook on the treadmill. tell yourself you can do Horizontal for the rest of the night if you just do a mile. sneak it in throughout the day when you can. 3a. the "find movement you love" is unfortunately true. sometimes you have to do it until it sneaks up on you though. try doing a simple morning yoga sunrise asana for a week and see if you feel better. personally, i like lifting weights because it makes me feel strong. i am a Viking. i am an Amazon. uni-functional gym machines are great cuz you can stay seated and only move the one thing the machine is for. you don't have to put the weight to max effort, just enough that you feel your muscles. muscles also burn more fat at rest so you're investing in your future (that's what i tell myself anyway). it doesn't have to be hard, it just has to be movement. in the end, it's all very personal. i don't follow my own rules a lot of the time, but at least now i know where i'm going wrong. i hope some of this helps, even it's just to weed out stuff that you don't like or doesn't work for you. rooting for you to feel better mentally and physically, however you get there.
10:20 stop right there! that woman was completely in the wrong. you aren’t “gross” and your body isn’t “gross” either. someone being in your personal space is a given on public transportation, especially on planes. the rows and seats are incredibly small and pretty much everyone is smushed in together as tight as possible. that’s not anything you or anyone else except the engineers could fix. you are so beautiful whit and i hate that people can be so entitled and straight up rude for no reason. thank you for sharing your story with us❤️. also real quick, i found a book rec on facebook that would go great with your plus size readathon! it’s called “the guy for me” by marzy opal and is a friends to lovers novella featuring a plus sized MFC and MMC! i ordered it yesterday and haven’t received it yet but i knew i had to tell you about it before the readathon was over! love you and your content always ❤️.
Karma will pay that woman a visit. I'm sorry that happened to you. It happened to me on a public bus, but the only difference is I have an attitude and a mouth and I mouthed off to the person right back. People like that are so unhappy and miserable they need to bring others down with them. Also, what you said is so relatable and I feel the same. Sending you hugs xxxx
The people who made the seats need to take ALL sizes into account. My husband is 6'4" and I've seen him feel so frustrated when he doesn't fit. Some foods are an addiction and are so hard to quit! I've lost 60 pounds in the past two years with intermittent fasting and I'm keeping it off (for once). I didn't start it for weight loss. I got a blood test back that I was borderline diabetic, so I googled what diet would help and that popped up. It even helps with indigestion and my sleep. My blood test this summer showed my sugar levels are perfect. Do what makes you feel good ♥
Oh Whitney how I love your vulnerability and transparency in this video. Being a bigger woman myself you voiced every feeling I’ve ever had while being in public. I know it was hard to share this story, I wish others possessed more empathy. It’s so easy for others to be judgmental and not try to understand. I just want to tell you It is not your fault for existing in your own body! That lady clearly has some issues she needs to work through…
im sorry for blowing up your comments feed but I feel SO SEEN with your breakdown. I'm glad you didn't cut it out bc it would have been so easy to. There's more people than just us that feel the same way. You being vulnerable just helps us all know we're not alone (flashback to dear evan hansen lol). But seriously thank you. We love you.
I'm so sorry this happened to you. I've always had the same feeling of missing whatever it was that made other people "normal" and being constantly exhausted - turns out I'm autistic and just exist in the world differently! I hope you find your answer too.
IMAGINE being 50/60 and being so inconsiderate, callous and ignorant. You are so kind as too make yourself as uncomfortable as possible to make this lady comfortable. She did not deserve to sit next to you.
I just want you to know you are not alone with hating exercise. For 28 years people have told me I just need to find the right sport and that exercise releases good chemicals that make you feel better afterwards. I have never felt them. Ive tried so many sports and hated every single one. Exercise never makes me feel good. I hate every second of it. It gives me panic attacks to do cardio even alone in my home. People keep repeating that exercise is the miracle cure for my anxiety and insomnia problems and it makes me feel like its my fault that im still struggling with them, because i dont exercise enough. But it doesnt help me and just makes me feel worse. Im happy for people who like moving their bodies but that is just not me. The only thing i can do is some easy yoga stretches that i can do sitting or laying down. I put a fun youtube video on, lay down with a blanket and pillow and stretch a little. For me its so much more than i used to do, and it may not be "exercise" but its better than nothing and it makes my body feel a little better. I started with just 5 minutes a day because that was all i could handle. You're not defective and you are not alone. Also i would rather die than wake up at 5am to run. Fuck that
Honestly thank you so much for your stream of consciousness and being so real. I haven’t been through the same exact experiences as you, but it can be so alienating and lonely feeling like nobody understands the struggle of just trying to exist in your own body and get out of the house without constantly thinking of everyone’s opinion of you and just living, y’know? Your videos are always such a comfort ❤
I am so shocked about the stories you told us! You cannot just judge someone like that!! I feel so sorry for you. Your vlog hit me so hard because I really feel for you. Hope your therapy helps you feel better about yourself ❤
i have no idea if this will help. i'm on my own weight journey and the things that help me is this. i like music and i like the way walking helps me deal with negative moods/depression. so that's the path i've chosen. always having music on and taking an evening stroll around the block. we got hills so the walk home is enough of a work out for me lol. even if it takes me longer than other people who go to the gym, or like you said get up early. i'll do it my way. i don't mind if it take me two years or more. hey the time will pass anyway, so i might as well do this. i dont think you have to love it. but if you can go back to a book you didn't think you liked and read it again, to find the good in it, i think you can find your own path in this too.
I don't have a weight problem but I totally feel you when you said you just want to be horizontal. I'm lazy af. What if you gave rowing a try? On a rowing machine you're sitting the whole time and the gliding motion back and forth is actually kind of fun. I think the idea of moving all parts of one's body at once with full body workouts makes us exhausted just thinking about it. You're not alone in hating exercise. I think it's fair that you may never enjoy it, just try to think of it the same as all the other little chores you need to get done every week.
thank you for sharing your story! i was bullied for my weight, my family used to comment on my body, particularly when i gained weight and i carry it with me to this day, how aware i am of my body, of the space i take up. it's exhausting living like that. losing weight is hard, the mental health battles that come with inner fatphobia are harder. much love to you whitney, you are a beautiful person and you deserve to live a happy life doing things you enjoy.
I'm so sorry these mean things people have said about you are replaying in your head. People can be so rude for no reason. It's so hard to just exist sometimes, especially when dealing with mean people and a harsh inner critic. Give yourself grace and kindness. You deserve it. Thank you for your honesty in sharing this story.
The plane story.....exactly the way I feel every single time I get on a plane. Would always prefer to get a train or bus because the seats are larger - I recently took an eight hour flight from London to DC and the woman next to me could not have been lovelier, but I was tense the entire time about being in her space!!! Your videos got pushed to me when you came back to YT and I am so so pleased that you're in my subscription box! :) Also get that bag with the sponsors girl
I'm so sorry you have to deal with people who are rude and have some kind of insecurities of themselves. Our society is so hung up on looks and body image it's ridiculous! Thank you for sharing your videos and I appreciate you for being so honest and real. If that lady on the plane would've just say hi I'm blah blah blah I'm 100% positive she would've seen what a good person you were and how smart you are too. People are shameful and always judge before seeking out who the person is first. Thank you for sharing your videos I enjoy watching them.
Thank you for sharing your experiences. It’s just nice to see someone who I can relate to through social media. Makes me feel less alone about those sorts of issues. Sending virtual flowers 💐
Not all of us enjoy workouts or walks.. my therapist once told me that all of us have different cycles, so it's not important to wake up at 5. Its important not to feel guilty about your own cycle
I know this more than likely won’t be seen because the video has been out for a bit but-thank you. As a six foot tall, almost three hundred pound woman, no one-and I mean NO ONE-has ever articulated the experience and frustration that goes along with it as well as you did in this video. It sucks. Being plus sized and tall and a thousand other things really freaking sucks sometimes. Every time I’m in a movie theater I worry about taking up space. Every time I’m at a concert, I feel the way you felt at TSwift. It’s so hard and I’d love to wrap this up and say that it’s okay or something inspirational but all I can say is that I hear you, I see you, and I understand. (Also I don’t want to work out or eat lettuce for the rest of my life just to be able to exist like everyone else, it’s such bullshit.)
Long time viewer here - I’ve always related to you on this issue. I guess I fall into that category of people who really want it but just not bad enough to really do something about it bc here I am, still just living the same way (but also, who wants to be out in this Texas heat right now?? Not me! lol ) I’ve got some work to do but I always end up saying I’m okay being fat and happy lol it’s just the health side of it that has been getting to me lately. All that to say, I’m team Whitney! You are such a joy and light exactly as you are, and you have so many people who are here to support you on ANY journey you choose… speaking of, that last sponsor opportunity was such a cool surprise to see here! I thank you kindly for that hook up 😋 lol! Sending you love!
Oh sweet Whitney. You are normal, I totally understand and feel what you are saying. I wish I could give you a big hug. Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing this. I feel this. Love to you ❤
I really feel you about not having the desire to exercise. My butt, stomach, and boobs are simply too big to comfortably do cardio, like I will be in pain (especially boobs). I tried weightlifting instead, and I really like it! I can do it slowly and not get out of breath like with cardio, but I feel like I'm exercising. I was on a really good schedule doing around 20 minutes 3 times a week, but then I had to stop one week during my period, and getting back to that has been so hard!!! And it's so frustrating because I know I feel good when I do my routine, but I just can't bring myself to do it, and then I feel guilty and ashamed... I'm trying to get back to it again, and instead of 20 minutes it's literally 5. Just 5 minutes, but I did it, and it's a step in a good direction
Whitney, nothing I say, or possibly any of us in the comments say, is going to help really to change how you feel or think about yourself. But you are so beautiful inside and out. please don't apologise for having a melt down ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I've been on both sides. Overweight and "fit". There is so much disordered eating in the fitness community. I lost 65lbs about 6 years ago and gained a bingeing disorder that I'm still struggle with. I've gained back every lb + 10. I've been writing on my mental state instead of my weight. My body has gotten me through every day of my life. I love her. More than anything. I'd still like to lose weight but I'm not willing to ruin myself to be skinnier.
Wow. Thank you for saying out loud what so many of us are thinking about weight and bodies and taking up space. You are definitely not alone, and those crappy people are the problem, not you. Much love to you my dear! 💜
I was not expecting this video to make me so emotional but here we are. My heart aches so much for you and anyone else who has had to navigate such disgusting behavior from people who clearly need a lesson in how to be a decent human being. I appreciate the fact you were willing to be so open, raw, and honest about your feelings and even in the midst of sharing, still keeping others thoughts and feelings in mind. That speaks so loudly about just how lovely of a person you are, Whitney. ❤❤❤❤
I'm so sorry you had to deal with that. I feel you though I am not a person who likes to do sports, but I used to skateboard and I was and still am a plus size women. So I know what you are going through. And I have been on diets and they never help me. I know how you feel girl.
I will literally not fly because of this! I’m so sorry. You’re not too big - the seats are too small and everyone knows it. Ooo I’m so heated. Thank you so much for talking about this. Also, can you and Shelby do a podcast already?? God damn! (jk…but am I?)
theres plenty of exercises you can do lying down. or sitting. i have leg problems so when i flare up and cant walk or even stand thats what i have to do. also exercise isnt going to feel good if you dont do it often and regularly. the good feeling comes when your body builds some stamina and gets past the "fuck this is too tiring" part. but even if that doesnt happen for you, its not about finding an exercise that is joyful, just an exercise that you hate the least and can stick to. you should move your body because it's HEALTHY to move your body. fuck weight loss. moving is what humans are built for. maybe its as simple as a mindset shift to help you. but vast majority of weight loss comes from diet so if you hate exercise then it doesnt really effect you. and if you eat well but still struggle with weight then that's when you see a doctor. there's no shame in struggling with weight loss. but anyway, whatever journey you go on i hope you find something that helps you feel good about yourself!
People suck, I don't like going out anymore either. Everyone acts so entitled. Instead of being nice or minding your business, everyone acts so rude to strangers.
i've been wanting to read eve brown for so long!! i'm so glad you loved it. i'm so sorry that happened to you. flying on airplanes already sucks enough without horrible people being miserable excuses of human beings. and a taylor concert too?? that should've been a safe space. sending you all the love whitney, you deserve better 💛💛💛💛
I’ve been self conscious about my weight for a long time now. Seeing you cry hurts my heart, but I’m glad people are supporting you online ❤ also brb gonna go fight the Fox News lady 💅
Any discomfort she experienced is not your fault, it's the fault of airplanes that refuse to accept fat people exist and want to travel. She should never speak about another human being like that for just existing in the space space. It's not "just my internalised fatphobia" it's everyone else's fatphobia that is unrelenting. Your feeling are so valid to that mistreatment. You deserve so much more dignity snd I really hope culture will change quick. Sending resilience and love to you ❤
I just got the audio for starfish. You should read My Ideal Boyfriend is a croissant. It's also about a plus size high schooler. I did a revew on it. It was a cute book.
Honestly I would love to sit next to you in an airplane and just nerd out that I’m sitting next to the whittynovels. That woman was sitting next to an awesome woman and didn’t know it because she’s clearly the worst. ily Whitney
Sending you a huge hug and so much love. You deserve to take up space, even if it is more physical space than other people. I know it doesn't click yet, but I hope some day it does.
I completely understand how you feel. Throw having 2 kids into the mix and it’s rough to even want to try to lose weight. I’ve always been a plus sized girl and have dreamed of being smaller but when I comes down to it. I just don’t want to do it.
Go to the doctors and have them take a blood sample to see about your thyroid. That could be why it's harder for you to lose weight and why you're putting on weight in general. My thyroid literally malfunctioned Once I got pregnant and no matter what I did I was putting on weight and they literally told me until I take medicine I was never going to lose weight.
Thank you for beeing open and vulnerable. Your feelings are valid! I am also a fat person, and have felt/feel all the things you talk about. Sending lots of hugs❤ Also looove your videos!!! Ps. I have enjoyed Aubrey Gordons nonfiction books about fatness, would recomend!
honestly most of my life i've been considered overweight by everyone around me. every time i leave the house to be around people, i think about it. i avoid activities because of it and im constantly telling my boyfriend how fat i am but i think so highly of other fat women so trust me you're not alone in that aspect. people are so mean to fat people whether we're in their space or not. they create a problem when there is no problem simply because we're existing as bigger people. i just feel like no one should have the right to make you feel like you can't travel or live your life the way you want to. it's not fair to any of us and i'm so sorry that people are jerks, it is NOT your fault. planes are literally made to be uncomfy in cheaper classes.
As a fellow plus size person, flying is a huge point of anxiety. I travel a lot but still every flight am afraid about having to sitting next to someone and take up their space (whilst most of the time it's a man who is man spreading the whole flight anyways!!) I think people really do not thing we are aware of how we fit into society and how exhausting it is having to make yourself small on a daily basis. That was really awful of that person but thank you for sharing your experience. As hard as it is, truly do not let this stop you from travelling !! I'm about to go on a backpacking trip around Europe, needing to fly over 24 hours to get there from Australia. I've been planning this trip for a while and the whole time I've been unable to enjoy the thought of actually travelling cause i'm so anxious about the plane trip but honestly it's not worth the brain power - planes are uncomfortable for everybody and I have to keep reminding myself that. If people are unkind that's just a reflection of themselves.
I'm so happy you're playing Skyrim. It's one of my all time favorite games and it's definitely the best distraction when I'm in a funk. Also SO happy that you got sponsored by Bellesa! You're THRIVING QUEEN!!!!! My day, month, YEAR is made when I get a notification that you upload!
You are not alone not that it’s a comfort but most people have the solutions to their issues in their hands but it’s hard they might be skinny minnie but doesn’t mean they are happy everyone has a struggle. I’m sorry for all the pain they cause, I think your everything and enjoy your content thank you as always for sharing
I can 100% relate to you in this video, I hate the way I look and literally have no body confidence at all yet I do absolutely nothing to change that when I can lol and it’s really nice to know in a strange way that there are other people out there who feel the same way I do so thank you for making this video and helping me realise I’m not alone 💖💖
Girl, you're absolutely GORGEOUS. I'm so angry for you for what happened in the plane, it's not you who has to change, it's all the assholes out there!! Sending you lots of virtual hugs, I love your content and how real you are.
Thanks for you honestly girl, we all been there. Maybe you should try reading things that are not “self-acceptance body positivity all the time” but are instead “doesn’t matter what your body looks like and your personal feelings about it, everyone should be treated with respect and be accommodated”. I recommend Aubrey Gordon books, also her podcast. I know that my life became better the moment I truly internalized the fact that the problem is not me being fat, is the people and systems that treat me badly because of my body. Little things like, when something doesn’t fit me, going “well, too bad that this company doesn’t make this in bigger sizes” instead of “my body is horrible and I should lose the weight so clothes fit me better”. It’s a long process and internalized fatpobhia is a bitch, but you are not alone, and I hope you can feel better soon 😘
injections, exercize, healthy eating losing weight, none of it will matter if you don't love yourself first. No matter what you are a beautiful intelligent women, you're so funny and your so real. I hope you learn to love yourself one day, if there is any change you need to make, its that one. You're brilliant. I love you. I am very fat, I'm not commenting this to invalidate what you're oging through, I honestly believe learning to love yourself, finding value in oursloves as a human, first step and key to feelng worthy enough to make these changes we want.
I love you, and I'm incredibly happy to watch your videos. I just wanted to say something regarding the support you received in your last sponsorship. I guess we support you, not only for the smut and monster romances we love, but because you are genuine. I guess certain booktubers lose followers because they are thirsting for the money and expect us to spend on them without giving us anything except for non-existing reviews, copying someone else's opinions, saying internal jokes we don't get, talking nonsense by the phone with their friends and screeching things that we unfortunately don't understand and being a walking contradiction and not realizing of it. The hypocrisy is real, and you give us you all the time, it's like that episode of friends when Phoebe sings to the kids those songs about reality, and they came for her after school because none of them will get the truth from their parents. Anyway, all this is to say that we love you for who you are!
You said you aren't happy with your body. Are you truly not happy with your body or are you not happy with how others perceive your body and treat you because of your size? I had to ask myself that question and the answer, either way, is a very important answer.
I'm sorry about what happened to you. What she did says way more about her than you. You say to us that you are happy with your body, and people has nothing to do with your life. About what you said with "eating salads", for a person to lose weight, they don't need to just eat salads! I'm a dietitian (in brazil) and we always say that people can lose weight and eat what they like, that are methods to balance that. So if you ever want to, know that's a way to lose weight and don't starve, eating actual food and etcetera. Just want to say that i love your channel and im rooting for you! ~💕
I lol’ed when Bonnie said Papaya 😂 you had the acronym right and that was just so funny. Advise from a stranger is probably the last thing you want but I would still like to share that I’m so lazy and the only way I have been able to make myself move my body is by taking up horses again and I know you like horses too. Mucking stalls and sweeping the floor is great exercise! And therapeutic 😅
Whitney: We are the same, you and I. I always want to say I love exercise and movement but I just want to sit and watch tik toks and/or listen to audiobooks and play animal crossing. Sending you love, lady.
I would sit next to you every single flight to stop others being in your business, but also for the banter, like hello..? 😜 Ppl need to mind their business and let others thrive. But they have a stick up their bums bc why let others be happy when you can make them miserable and uncomfortable… 🤦♀️ It always just comes back to hierarchy - who is “better” than others. But there is no competition bc we’re different ppl with different backgrounds, etc. It’s just not viable to compare ourselves, especially bc we usually do it with someone who’s almost opposite to us, so of course we can’t just turn into them instantly. Or even at all. And society needs to stop putting this pressure on us. But it comes back to consumerism and that only thrives when we want to change everything about ourselves (diet culture, slimming clothes, perfumes, and on and on). Sorry for the rambling. Loved the vid. Thank you for sharing 🫶🏼
You are not alone! I have overweight and hate sports with a passion😅 I understand that helps our bodies and health, but was always a torture to me 😅. We have to change our bodies when we are prepared to do so! And never doubt that you are a beautiful human being, I meant it! ❤
i think this is the first time that i've related to someone this much when it comes to my weight and weight loss. to everyone around me, i am just lazy and lesser than because i don't feel like working out or eating healthy all the time. that feeling you said about feeling broken--- literally me every single day. i always feel like i'm missing something that other people have that makes them be okay with doing something like working out. they always tell me that it'll be good for my mental health (which i also have sooo many struggles with) but every time i do it i just feel like dying and i'm so unhappy. it's such a frustrating experience and i'm so sorry for that stupid white lady and that stupid concert go-er, you did not deserve that. you're literally just a human too. i know this was probably a bitch to express and edit but i'm really grateful that you opened up about this because honestly, i've never felt so seen as i do now. love you whitney
I totally get your feelings ❤ Have you read Health at every size? That really helped me to let go of feeling like I need to want to change my body, I don’t want to and don’t need to. also, as a disabled person I can’t exercise and feel a lot of shame from society - but fuck that! You are a QUEEN and SO beautiful, honestly. Fuck the haters and live your life, you deserve to life a free and joyful life xox
I’m so sorry that happened to you. I’m so angry that lady did that. Also, when you were saying there weren’t any exercises you like, I was thinking maybe dancing or the Just Dance video games could be exercise with fun. That second meltdown when you were talking about why did you have to be into things that aren’t good for you, I can relate! You are not alone on that! I’m really sorry you were feeling so down during this vlog. On the bright side it did help me know when I’m going through similar issues I’m not alone either. Wishing you the best Whitney! ❤❤❤
Hi I love you and I’ve been watching your videos for years and years and years. Like I go way back. And you are my favorite person to watch. I just think you are incredible, funny, kind, beautiful, amazing, wonderful, smart, and I just know that if I knew you in person we would get along and be friends. But I understand you as well and I think that’s the most important. I know the feelings you have about being plus size and I feel every ounce of how you feel and It might not be helpful to say, but your not alone in your feelings and I think that is a comfort. At least for me it is. We are still beautiful and amazing and are not less than because of our size. I don’t know I just really wanted to say that. Anyway love ya ❤
The funny thing about the flag is if you flip it over, it's the Polish flag - which is in Eastern Europe! So you should give yourself half points for that one.
Omfg! Girl I feel exactly the same as you with weight loss. Being active is bulls***🤣. Love your life and b happy. To hell with peoples opinions. They don’t matter
the language that lady on the plane used in her text says way more about her character than whatever mild discomfort she may have experienced on a short flight. i’m more sorry for you having to sit next to a rude person! now that’s uncomfortable. she sucks but you deserve to travel so please try not to let people like her hold you back 💓
If it’s not one thing, it’s another. Even if you were the “ideal weight”, somebody would become upset with you or judge you for something else. I think it’s just human nature, and shouldn’t be dwelled upon too much. You’re so beautiful, inside and out, it’s very obvious to see. That woman on the plane could only meet you as deeply as she’s met herself, and thinking and typing words like that, she clearly just doesn’t have a lot of love for herself. You can’t blame her too much, maybe she has had trauma in her upbringing or something. Anyway, just do you, try not too think too much of others (easier said than done but still.) You’re awesome and perfect just the way that you are.
i know theres probably a bunch of other comments relating already but SAMESIES!!!!!!!!! literally have been a victim of that kind of behavior since i was 14 and it happened in church!!!!!! can you believe...... dont let these sad assholes stop you from seeing the world theyre never going to be able to enjoy life in the way you can
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People look for things to complain about because they’re miserable jerks. I’m sorry that happened to you. They’re the problem, not you. ❤
Vitamin D changed my life, it made standing up and doing stuff so much easier, pains in my body went away and my mood got better. I highly recommend it
as hard as it might have been to post this video, i really appreciate that you shared your frustrations about weight loss because i felt everything you said *so hard*. i have a _very_ long way to go in terms of developing a decent relationship with food, exercise, and i _know_ that it's not meant to be easy, but when you said "i'm never gonna want it!!" i would've changed already!!" like i totally understand
"i am accountable for how i look" Girl, you look stunning though????????????? Have you seen yourself????? you are GORGEOUS
People are far too comfortable with being nasty to/about others....I cannot understand it. Can't we all just LIVE? God damn. You don't need someone on the internet to say this but your anger and frustration are so so valid. And you aren't broken! So far from it. Your candor is so appreciated
girl I never comment nowadays but my fiance and I were watching this vlog together and just thank you for being so transparent about how difficult it is to try to lose weight like MENTALLY? Cause everything you said we 100% related too - especially the whole idea of not being able to find this new thing of "joyful movement" and feeling broken because of it because it feels like we SHOULD have something that we enjoy that moves our bodies, but also the whole "okay, if I lose all this weight, then I have to eat salads/workout FOREVER" and I just simply don't want that type of commitment. I hate working out I hate going to the gym its the worst thing ever - why would I want to commit to that for the rest of my life?
basically just yeah thanks for being so real
I don't know why but "what part of this is giving indonesia" is one of the funniest things ever said in a whitney vlog
GIRL the airplane sitch is so real!!!!! I had the same thing happen to me on a flight this summer, texting about me and all. I called an attendant over and asked if there was another available seat because "this lady has a problem sitting next to a very large person." She tried to deny it but I refused to even look or talk to her. They didn't move me because the plane was full but it was enough just to call her out.
GIRL. I had the same experience on an my FIRST airplane trip with like a 60y.o. MAN next to me on my flight. His font was huge, and I'm a nosey bish so I glanced over and he was texting his wife that "this overweight goth couple is sitting next to me, I don't know why they think it's okay to look like that. It's disgusting." So I called him out on it and he had the audacity to say I shouldn't be reading his texts? So I blew up and said he shouldn't be talking about me or my partner. I BLEW up, and know what happened? He shut the f up and minded his business. The second our flight landed, he kept his head down and practically ran off the plane. This is all to say: 1) You're not alone. Nor are you too big, too much of anything. You deserve to be you, whatever mood or size you are. This happens to everyone and it's THEM that don't deserve to be on the flight. Your existence isn't a bother to them, theirs is a bother to you because of how inhumane they are. 2) That lady is weakminded and, if she's anything like the crusty old man I was seated next to, she's also a puss the second they're stood up against. You do you boo. Give them 30yrs and they won't be around anymore, and you'll be thriving.
"I want to be horizontal" I felt this in my soul. I have issues with "sports", "exercise", and "working out" too. I dunno if it'll work for you but I've had to rewire my brain. So, for me "soccer, the gym, hiking" all scream EXERCISE in my brain and I HATE the mere thought of doing any of them *puke* But my brain doesn't see "walking" and "dancing" as exercise or working out so I don't get stressed thinking of doing those things. Whenever people ask "do you work out? do you exercise?" I immediately reply "I don't because I hate exercise/sports/working out. But my hobby is dancing (doing it at home and not making it an event of a place I have to go to once a week has helped too), because that's fun." and it's helped seperate exercise and dancing/walking in my brain.
I don''t think I've ever related more to someones experience to weight-loss and the true emotional trauma of being fat and feeling 'responsible ' as you verbalised in this video. It's so fucking exhausting. And I hope you know you're not alone in this feeling.
Most of my life I've been overweight. I'm five three and two hundred and fifty pounds. I'm struggling and now I'm two hundred and thirty five pounds. And I've had family tell me growing up "you want to be the size of a barn?" Ouch. I can recount how many times I was bullied, had my lunches stolen (because I obviously don't need extra food) and more shit that just hurts. Your story hits hard because I've definitely been there. This is why I watch your channel. You're amazing and underappreciated and always brighten my day. Thanks for your videos. Big girls unite! ❤️
I love how gordo always answers when you say “say hi”
I literally have never related so much to someone before. All the things you talked about in regard to weight and weight loss, I felt that *so* hard. Half the time I hate leaving my house because of how I feel lmao
OMG your "fat problems" rant made me realize that my poor Husband has only ever sat in a middle seat on an airplane since we've been together because I feel like I need him as a buffer between me (a fat person) and whoever else sits with us. My husband is very skinny and I don't mind being in his space lol. These are literally things I think about all the time. The logistics of being fat are exhausting sometimes
i also have internalized fatphobia. it's ok for other people but not for me for some reason. at 34, i've been struggling with this for most of my adult life. here are some easy things to consider that i've learned about losing weight that might help.
1. MOST IMPORTANT: if you can, go get a physical with a full blood panel. ask that they check thyroid values. there are things that can show up there that may give you a targeted plan of attack. for example, i have pcos and insulin resistance so my ideal diet is low carb.
1a. if you can't do this for whatever reason, try taking vitamin D and magnesium. most americans are deficient in these things and i found my energy (and simply my will to live) got better. i take 5000IU of vitamin D.
2. find some easy things you like to cook that follow what you're trying to do diet wise. figure out which veggies you like to eat and how and put those wherever you can. for me, i like baking the shit out of broccoli until it's crispy or sautéed asparagus. if you rely on potatoes a lot, swap those other veggies in at least a couple times. my depression meal is simply eggs. you gotta figure out what works through trial and error most of the time though.
2a. the bare minimum diet change i would suggest is cutting down on sugar. it doesn't have to go away completely but try halving your daily intake or subbing zero sugar options if you can deal with sugar alcohols and see how you feel.
3. if i was a Ken, my job would be Horizontal. however, hopefully now you have some more energy from some other changes and can manage going on a walk. sometimes you have to do it even if you don't want to. you can encourage, entice, or coerce yourself however you want, but try not to do it with food. listen to an audiobook on the treadmill. tell yourself you can do Horizontal for the rest of the night if you just do a mile. sneak it in throughout the day when you can.
3a. the "find movement you love" is unfortunately true. sometimes you have to do it until it sneaks up on you though. try doing a simple morning yoga sunrise asana for a week and see if you feel better. personally, i like lifting weights because it makes me feel strong. i am a Viking. i am an Amazon. uni-functional gym machines are great cuz you can stay seated and only move the one thing the machine is for. you don't have to put the weight to max effort, just enough that you feel your muscles. muscles also burn more fat at rest so you're investing in your future (that's what i tell myself anyway). it doesn't have to be hard, it just has to be movement.
in the end, it's all very personal. i don't follow my own rules a lot of the time, but at least now i know where i'm going wrong. i hope some of this helps, even it's just to weed out stuff that you don't like or doesn't work for you. rooting for you to feel better mentally and physically, however you get there.
10:20 stop right there! that woman was completely in the wrong. you aren’t “gross” and your body isn’t “gross” either. someone being in your personal space is a given on public transportation, especially on planes. the rows and seats are incredibly small and pretty much everyone is smushed in together as tight as possible. that’s not anything you or anyone else except the engineers could fix. you are so beautiful whit and i hate that people can be so entitled and straight up rude for no reason. thank you for sharing your story with us❤️.
also real quick, i found a book rec on facebook that would go great with your plus size readathon! it’s called “the guy for me” by marzy opal and is a friends to lovers novella featuring a plus sized MFC and MMC! i ordered it yesterday and haven’t received it yet but i knew i had to tell you about it before the readathon was over! love you and your content always ❤️.
You speaking about not having the drive to work out made me feel not so alone. I really struggle with that.
Karma will pay that woman a visit. I'm sorry that happened to you. It happened to me on a public bus, but the only difference is I have an attitude and a mouth and I mouthed off to the person right back. People like that are so unhappy and miserable they need to bring others down with them. Also, what you said is so relatable and I feel the same. Sending you hugs xxxx
I’m terrified of flying. I’m terrified of other people. Thank you for sharing this story. All the love ❤
The people who made the seats need to take ALL sizes into account. My husband is 6'4" and I've seen him feel so frustrated when he doesn't fit. Some foods are an addiction and are so hard to quit! I've lost 60 pounds in the past two years with intermittent fasting and I'm keeping it off (for once). I didn't start it for weight loss. I got a blood test back that I was borderline diabetic, so I googled what diet would help and that popped up. It even helps with indigestion and my sleep. My blood test this summer showed my sugar levels are perfect. Do what makes you feel good ♥
Oh Whitney how I love your vulnerability and transparency in this video. Being a bigger woman myself you voiced every feeling I’ve ever had while being in public. I know it was hard to share this story, I wish others possessed more empathy. It’s so easy for others to be judgmental and not try to understand. I just want to tell you It is not your fault for existing in your own body! That lady clearly has some issues she needs to work through…
im sorry for blowing up your comments feed but I feel SO SEEN with your breakdown. I'm glad you didn't cut it out bc it would have been so easy to. There's more people than just us that feel the same way. You being vulnerable just helps us all know we're not alone (flashback to dear evan hansen lol). But seriously thank you. We love you.
I'm so sorry this happened to you. I've always had the same feeling of missing whatever it was that made other people "normal" and being constantly exhausted - turns out I'm autistic and just exist in the world differently! I hope you find your answer too.
IMAGINE being 50/60 and being so inconsiderate, callous and ignorant. You are so kind as too make yourself as uncomfortable as possible to make this lady comfortable. She did not deserve to sit next to you.
i've never related more to that rant you had i get it, like literally
I just want you to know you are not alone with hating exercise. For 28 years people have told me I just need to find the right sport and that exercise releases good chemicals that make you feel better afterwards. I have never felt them. Ive tried so many sports and hated every single one. Exercise never makes me feel good. I hate every second of it. It gives me panic attacks to do cardio even alone in my home. People keep repeating that exercise is the miracle cure for my anxiety and insomnia problems and it makes me feel like its my fault that im still struggling with them, because i dont exercise enough. But it doesnt help me and just makes me feel worse. Im happy for people who like moving their bodies but that is just not me. The only thing i can do is some easy yoga stretches that i can do sitting or laying down. I put a fun youtube video on, lay down with a blanket and pillow and stretch a little. For me its so much more than i used to do, and it may not be "exercise" but its better than nothing and it makes my body feel a little better. I started with just 5 minutes a day because that was all i could handle. You're not defective and you are not alone. Also i would rather die than wake up at 5am to run. Fuck that
Honestly thank you so much for your stream of consciousness and being so real. I haven’t been through the same exact experiences as you, but it can be so alienating and lonely feeling like nobody understands the struggle of just trying to exist in your own body and get out of the house without constantly thinking of everyone’s opinion of you and just living, y’know? Your videos are always such a comfort ❤
I am so shocked about the stories you told us! You cannot just judge someone like that!! I feel so sorry for you.
Your vlog hit me so hard because I really feel for you. Hope your therapy helps you feel better about yourself ❤
i have no idea if this will help. i'm on my own weight journey and the things that help me is this. i like music and i like the way walking helps me deal with negative moods/depression. so that's the path i've chosen. always having music on and taking an evening stroll around the block. we got hills so the walk home is enough of a work out for me lol. even if it takes me longer than other people who go to the gym, or like you said get up early. i'll do it my way. i don't mind if it take me two years or more. hey the time will pass anyway, so i might as well do this.
i dont think you have to love it. but if you can go back to a book you didn't think you liked and read it again, to find the good in it, i think you can find your own path in this too.
I don't have a weight problem but I totally feel you when you said you just want to be horizontal. I'm lazy af. What if you gave rowing a try? On a rowing machine you're sitting the whole time and the gliding motion back and forth is actually kind of fun. I think the idea of moving all parts of one's body at once with full body workouts makes us exhausted just thinking about it. You're not alone in hating exercise. I think it's fair that you may never enjoy it, just try to think of it the same as all the other little chores you need to get done every week.
thank you for sharing your story! i was bullied for my weight, my family used to comment on my body, particularly when i gained weight and i carry it with me to this day, how aware i am of my body, of the space i take up. it's exhausting living like that. losing weight is hard, the mental health battles that come with inner fatphobia are harder. much love to you whitney, you are a beautiful person and you deserve to live a happy life doing things you enjoy.
I love how real you were with us. ❤
I'm so sorry these mean things people have said about you are replaying in your head. People can be so rude for no reason. It's so hard to just exist sometimes, especially when dealing with mean people and a harsh inner critic. Give yourself grace and kindness. You deserve it. Thank you for your honesty in sharing this story.
The plane story.....exactly the way I feel every single time I get on a plane. Would always prefer to get a train or bus because the seats are larger - I recently took an eight hour flight from London to DC and the woman next to me could not have been lovelier, but I was tense the entire time about being in her space!!! Your videos got pushed to me when you came back to YT and I am so so pleased that you're in my subscription box! :) Also get that bag with the sponsors girl
I'm so sorry you have to deal with people who are rude and have some kind of insecurities of themselves. Our society is so hung up on looks and body image it's ridiculous! Thank you for sharing your videos and I appreciate you for being so honest and real. If that lady on the plane would've just say hi I'm blah blah blah I'm 100% positive she would've seen what a good person you were and how smart you are too. People are shameful and always judge before seeking out who the person is first. Thank you for sharing your videos I enjoy watching them.
Thank you for sharing your experiences. It’s just nice to see someone who I can relate to through social media. Makes me feel less alone about those sorts of issues. Sending virtual flowers 💐
Not all of us enjoy workouts or walks.. my therapist once told me that all of us have different cycles, so it's not important to wake up at 5. Its important not to feel guilty about your own cycle
I know this more than likely won’t be seen because the video has been out for a bit but-thank you. As a six foot tall, almost three hundred pound woman, no one-and I mean NO ONE-has ever articulated the experience and frustration that goes along with it as well as you did in this video. It sucks. Being plus sized and tall and a thousand other things really freaking sucks sometimes. Every time I’m in a movie theater I worry about taking up space. Every time I’m at a concert, I feel the way you felt at TSwift. It’s so hard and I’d love to wrap this up and say that it’s okay or something inspirational but all I can say is that I hear you, I see you, and I understand.
(Also I don’t want to work out or eat lettuce for the rest of my life just to be able to exist like everyone else, it’s such bullshit.)
Long time viewer here - I’ve always related to you on this issue. I guess I fall into that category of people who really want it but just not bad enough to really do something about it bc here I am, still just living the same way (but also, who wants to be out in this Texas heat right now?? Not me! lol ) I’ve got some work to do but I always end up saying I’m okay being fat and happy lol it’s just the health side of it that has been getting to me lately. All that to say, I’m team Whitney! You are such a joy and light exactly as you are, and you have so many people who are here to support you on ANY journey you choose… speaking of, that last sponsor opportunity was such a cool surprise to see here! I thank you kindly for that hook up 😋 lol! Sending you love!
Oh sweet Whitney. You are normal, I totally understand and feel what you are saying. I wish I could give you a big hug. Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing this. I feel this. Love to you ❤
I really feel you about not having the desire to exercise. My butt, stomach, and boobs are simply too big to comfortably do cardio, like I will be in pain (especially boobs). I tried weightlifting instead, and I really like it! I can do it slowly and not get out of breath like with cardio, but I feel like I'm exercising. I was on a really good schedule doing around 20 minutes 3 times a week, but then I had to stop one week during my period, and getting back to that has been so hard!!! And it's so frustrating because I know I feel good when I do my routine, but I just can't bring myself to do it, and then I feel guilty and ashamed...
I'm trying to get back to it again, and instead of 20 minutes it's literally 5. Just 5 minutes, but I did it, and it's a step in a good direction
Whitney, nothing I say, or possibly any of us in the comments say, is going to help really to change how you feel or think about yourself. But you are so beautiful inside and out. please don't apologise for having a melt down ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I've been on both sides. Overweight and "fit". There is so much disordered eating in the fitness community. I lost 65lbs about 6 years ago and gained a bingeing disorder that I'm still struggle with. I've gained back every lb + 10. I've been writing on my mental state instead of my weight. My body has gotten me through every day of my life. I love her. More than anything. I'd still like to lose weight but I'm not willing to ruin myself to be skinnier.
21:34 catching up on your vids and I relate to this SO MUCH!!!! Thank you for talking about it and being raw about it. ❤
Wow. Thank you for saying out loud what so many of us are thinking about weight and bodies and taking up space. You are definitely not alone, and those crappy people are the problem, not you. Much love to you my dear! 💜
I was not expecting this video to make me so emotional but here we are. My heart aches so much for you and anyone else who has had to navigate such disgusting behavior from people who clearly need a lesson in how to be a decent human being. I appreciate the fact you were willing to be so open, raw, and honest about your feelings and even in the midst of sharing, still keeping others thoughts and feelings in mind. That speaks so loudly about just how lovely of a person you are, Whitney. ❤❤❤❤
I'm so sorry you had to deal with that. I feel you though I am not a person who likes to do sports, but I used to skateboard and I was and still am a plus size women. So I know what you are going through. And I have been on diets and they never help me. I know how you feel girl.
I will literally not fly because of this! I’m so sorry. You’re not too big - the seats are too small and everyone knows it. Ooo I’m so heated. Thank you so much for talking about this.
Also, can you and Shelby do a podcast already?? God damn! (jk…but am I?)
theres plenty of exercises you can do lying down. or sitting. i have leg problems so when i flare up and cant walk or even stand thats what i have to do. also exercise isnt going to feel good if you dont do it often and regularly. the good feeling comes when your body builds some stamina and gets past the "fuck this is too tiring" part. but even if that doesnt happen for you, its not about finding an exercise that is joyful, just an exercise that you hate the least and can stick to. you should move your body because it's HEALTHY to move your body. fuck weight loss. moving is what humans are built for. maybe its as simple as a mindset shift to help you.
but vast majority of weight loss comes from diet so if you hate exercise then it doesnt really effect you. and if you eat well but still struggle with weight then that's when you see a doctor. there's no shame in struggling with weight loss. but anyway, whatever journey you go on i hope you find something that helps you feel good about yourself!
People suck, I don't like going out anymore either. Everyone acts so entitled. Instead of being nice or minding your business, everyone acts so rude to strangers.
i've been wanting to read eve brown for so long!! i'm so glad you loved it.
i'm so sorry that happened to you. flying on airplanes already sucks enough without horrible people being miserable excuses of human beings. and a taylor concert too?? that should've been a safe space. sending you all the love whitney, you deserve better 💛💛💛💛
I’ve been self conscious about my weight for a long time now. Seeing you cry hurts my heart, but I’m glad people are supporting you online ❤ also brb gonna go fight the Fox News lady 💅
Sorry that happened to you. I have an exercise bike in my bedroom..i do a mile a day..and been doing good with it for 4 years
Any discomfort she experienced is not your fault, it's the fault of airplanes that refuse to accept fat people exist and want to travel. She should never speak about another human being like that for just existing in the space space. It's not "just my internalised fatphobia" it's everyone else's fatphobia that is unrelenting. Your feeling are so valid to that mistreatment. You deserve so much more dignity snd I really hope culture will change quick.
Sending resilience and love to you ❤
So feeling this vlog. I'm Never gonna want it either. Yea horizontal! Hell ya! I don't wanna be outside. I don't wanna sweat.
Society tells women that they must be small in every way. But you are allowed to take up space. ❤️
That is disgusting that she would talk about someone like that. I’m sorry you had to experience that 😢
The audacity to disrespect our precious Whitney! I will throw hands 😡
I just got the audio for starfish. You should read My Ideal Boyfriend is a croissant. It's also about a plus size high schooler. I did a revew on it. It was a cute book.
Honestly I would love to sit next to you in an airplane and just nerd out that I’m sitting next to the whittynovels. That woman was sitting next to an awesome woman and didn’t know it because she’s clearly the worst. ily Whitney
Sending you a huge hug and so much love. You deserve to take up space, even if it is more physical space than other people. I know it doesn't click yet, but I hope some day it does.
Only 3 minutes in, and editing Whitney is cracking me up
I completely understand how you feel. Throw having 2 kids into the mix and it’s rough to even want to try to lose weight. I’ve always been a plus sized girl and have dreamed of being smaller but when I comes down to it. I just don’t want to do it.
Go to the doctors and have them take a blood sample to see about your thyroid. That could be why it's harder for you to lose weight and why you're putting on weight in general. My thyroid literally malfunctioned Once I got pregnant and no matter what I did I was putting on weight and they literally told me until I take medicine I was never going to lose weight.
lol i'm in moldova right now and your friend saying that's a county makes me feel seen XD we are small and shaped like a fish
Thank you for beeing open and vulnerable. Your feelings are valid! I am also a fat person, and have felt/feel all the things you talk about. Sending lots of hugs❤ Also looove your videos!!! Ps. I have enjoyed Aubrey Gordons nonfiction books about fatness, would recomend!
hi whitney, just wanted to send you some love and positive vibes 🤍 i’m so glad that you are you :)
honestly most of my life i've been considered overweight by everyone around me. every time i leave the house to be around people, i think about it. i avoid activities because of it and im constantly telling my boyfriend how fat i am but i think so highly of other fat women so trust me you're not alone in that aspect. people are so mean to fat people whether we're in their space or not. they create a problem when there is no problem simply because we're existing as bigger people. i just feel like no one should have the right to make you feel like you can't travel or live your life the way you want to. it's not fair to any of us and i'm so sorry that people are jerks, it is NOT your fault. planes are literally made to be uncomfy in cheaper classes.
As a fellow plus size person, flying is a huge point of anxiety. I travel a lot but still every flight am afraid about having to sitting next to someone and take up their space (whilst most of the time it's a man who is man spreading the whole flight anyways!!) I think people really do not thing we are aware of how we fit into society and how exhausting it is having to make yourself small on a daily basis. That was really awful of that person but thank you for sharing your experience. As hard as it is, truly do not let this stop you from travelling !! I'm about to go on a backpacking trip around Europe, needing to fly over 24 hours to get there from Australia. I've been planning this trip for a while and the whole time I've been unable to enjoy the thought of actually travelling cause i'm so anxious about the plane trip but honestly it's not worth the brain power - planes are uncomfortable for everybody and I have to keep reminding myself that. If people are unkind that's just a reflection of themselves.
I'm sorry that happened to you. Sending you love.
Girl I'm with u on being big and not wanting to do anything about it.
I'm so happy you're playing Skyrim. It's one of my all time favorite games and it's definitely the best distraction when I'm in a funk. Also SO happy that you got sponsored by Bellesa! You're THRIVING QUEEN!!!!! My day, month, YEAR is made when I get a notification that you upload!
You are not alone not that it’s a comfort but most people have the solutions to their issues in their hands but it’s hard they might be skinny minnie but doesn’t mean they are happy everyone has a struggle. I’m sorry for all the pain they cause, I think your everything and enjoy your content thank you as always for sharing
I’m so sorry you experienced all of that! Love you Whitney ❤️❤️❤️
So happy every time you upload! 💚💛💜♥️
I can 100% relate to you in this video, I hate the way I look and literally have no body confidence at all yet I do absolutely nothing to change that when I can lol and it’s really nice to know in a strange way that there are other people out there who feel the same way I do so thank you for making this video and helping me realise I’m not alone 💖💖
Girl, you're absolutely GORGEOUS. I'm so angry for you for what happened in the plane, it's not you who has to change, it's all the assholes out there!! Sending you lots of virtual hugs, I love your content and how real you are.
Thanks for you honestly girl, we all been there. Maybe you should try reading things that are not “self-acceptance body positivity all the time” but are instead “doesn’t matter what your body looks like and your personal feelings about it, everyone should be treated with respect and be accommodated”. I recommend Aubrey Gordon books, also her podcast. I know that my life became better the moment I truly internalized the fact that the problem is not me being fat, is the people and systems that treat me badly because of my body. Little things like, when something doesn’t fit me, going “well, too bad that this company doesn’t make this in bigger sizes” instead of “my body is horrible and I should lose the weight so clothes fit me better”. It’s a long process and internalized fatpobhia is a bitch, but you are not alone, and I hope you can feel better soon 😘
Seconding the Aubrey Gordon recommendations 10000000% ☝ Her podcast over the past 6 months has fully altered the way I view my body & society.
injections, exercize, healthy eating losing weight, none of it will matter if you don't love yourself first. No matter what you are a beautiful intelligent women, you're so funny and your so real. I hope you learn to love yourself one day, if there is any change you need to make, its that one. You're brilliant. I love you.
I am very fat, I'm not commenting this to invalidate what you're oging through, I honestly believe learning to love yourself, finding value in oursloves as a human, first step and key to feelng worthy enough to make these changes we want.
I love you, and I'm incredibly happy to watch your videos. I just wanted to say something regarding the support you received in your last sponsorship. I guess we support you, not only for the smut and monster romances we love, but because you are genuine.
I guess certain booktubers lose followers because they are thirsting for the money and expect us to spend on them without giving us anything except for non-existing reviews, copying someone else's opinions, saying internal jokes we don't get, talking nonsense by the phone with their friends and screeching things that we unfortunately don't understand and being a walking contradiction and not realizing of it. The hypocrisy is real, and you give us you all the time, it's like that episode of friends when Phoebe sings to the kids those songs about reality, and they came for her after school because none of them will get the truth from their parents.
Anyway, all this is to say that we love you for who you are!
You said you aren't happy with your body. Are you truly not happy with your body or are you not happy with how others perceive your body and treat you because of your size? I had to ask myself that question and the answer, either way, is a very important answer.
I'm sorry about what happened to you. What she did says way more about her than you. You say to us that you are happy with your body, and people has nothing to do with your life. About what you said with "eating salads", for a person to lose weight, they don't need to just eat salads! I'm a dietitian (in brazil) and we always say that people can lose weight and eat what they like, that are methods to balance that. So if you ever want to, know that's a way to lose weight and don't starve, eating actual food and etcetera. Just want to say that i love your channel and im rooting for you! ~💕
I lol’ed when Bonnie said Papaya 😂 you had the acronym right and that was just so funny. Advise from a stranger is probably the last thing you want but I would still like to share that I’m so lazy and the only way I have been able to make myself move my body is by taking up horses again and I know you like horses too. Mucking stalls and sweeping the floor is great exercise! And therapeutic 😅
Whitney: We are the same, you and I. I always want to say I love exercise and movement but I just want to sit and watch tik toks and/or listen to audiobooks and play animal crossing. Sending you love, lady.
We love you Whitney. ❤
binging skyrim instead of reading is so real
I would sit next to you every single flight to stop others being in your business, but also for the banter, like hello..? 😜 Ppl need to mind their business and let others thrive. But they have a stick up their bums bc why let others be happy when you can make them miserable and uncomfortable… 🤦♀️ It always just comes back to hierarchy - who is “better” than others. But there is no competition bc we’re different ppl with different backgrounds, etc. It’s just not viable to compare ourselves, especially bc we usually do it with someone who’s almost opposite to us, so of course we can’t just turn into them instantly. Or even at all. And society needs to stop putting this pressure on us. But it comes back to consumerism and that only thrives when we want to change everything about ourselves (diet culture, slimming clothes, perfumes, and on and on). Sorry for the rambling. Loved the vid. Thank you for sharing 🫶🏼
I think you’re beautiful and you don’t need to change yourself for anyone.
You are not alone! I have overweight and hate sports with a passion😅 I understand that helps our bodies and health, but was always a torture to me 😅. We have to change our bodies when we are prepared to do so! And never doubt that you are a beautiful human being, I meant it! ❤
i think this is the first time that i've related to someone this much when it comes to my weight and weight loss. to everyone around me, i am just lazy and lesser than because i don't feel like working out or eating healthy all the time. that feeling you said about feeling broken--- literally me every single day. i always feel like i'm missing something that other people have that makes them be okay with doing something like working out. they always tell me that it'll be good for my mental health (which i also have sooo many struggles with) but every time i do it i just feel like dying and i'm so unhappy. it's such a frustrating experience and i'm so sorry for that stupid white lady and that stupid concert go-er, you did not deserve that. you're literally just a human too. i know this was probably a bitch to express and edit but i'm really grateful that you opened up about this because honestly, i've never felt so seen as i do now. love you whitney
I totally get your feelings ❤ Have you read Health at every size? That really helped me to let go of feeling like I need to want to change my body, I don’t want to and don’t need to. also, as a disabled person I can’t exercise and feel a lot of shame from society - but fuck that! You are a QUEEN and SO beautiful, honestly. Fuck the haters and live your life, you deserve to life a free and joyful life xox
I’m so sorry that happened to you. I’m so angry that lady did that. Also, when you were saying there weren’t any exercises you like, I was thinking maybe dancing or the Just Dance video games could be exercise with fun. That second meltdown when you were talking about why did you have to be into things that aren’t good for you, I can relate! You are not alone on that! I’m really sorry you were feeling so down during this vlog. On the bright side it did help me know when I’m going through similar issues I’m not alone either. Wishing you the best Whitney! ❤❤❤
Whitney you are beautiful PERIOD!!!!!
Hi I love you and I’ve been watching your videos for years and years and years. Like I go way back. And you are my favorite person to watch. I just think you are incredible, funny, kind, beautiful, amazing, wonderful, smart, and I just know that if I knew you in person we would get along and be friends. But I understand you as well and I think that’s the most important. I know the feelings you have about being plus size and I feel every ounce of how you feel and It might not be helpful to say, but your not alone in your feelings and I think that is a comfort. At least for me it is. We are still beautiful and amazing and are not less than because of our size. I don’t know I just really wanted to say that. Anyway love ya ❤
The funny thing about the flag is if you flip it over, it's the Polish flag - which is in Eastern Europe! So you should give yourself half points for that one.
Omfg! Girl I feel exactly the same as you with weight loss. Being active is bulls***🤣. Love your life and b happy. To hell with peoples opinions. They don’t matter
the language that lady on the plane used in her text says way more about her character than whatever mild discomfort she may have experienced on a short flight. i’m more sorry for you having to sit next to a rude person! now that’s uncomfortable. she sucks but you deserve to travel so please try not to let people like her hold you back 💓
If it’s not one thing, it’s another. Even if you were the “ideal weight”, somebody would become upset with you or judge you for something else. I think it’s just human nature, and shouldn’t be dwelled upon too much. You’re so beautiful, inside and out, it’s very obvious to see. That woman on the plane could only meet you as deeply as she’s met herself, and thinking and typing words like that, she clearly just doesn’t have a lot of love for herself. You can’t blame her too much, maybe she has had trauma in her upbringing or something. Anyway, just do you, try not too think too much of others (easier said than done but still.) You’re awesome and perfect just the way that you are.
i know theres probably a bunch of other comments relating already but SAMESIES!!!!!!!!! literally have been a victim of that kind of behavior since i was 14 and it happened in church!!!!!! can you believe...... dont let these sad assholes stop you from seeing the world theyre never going to be able to enjoy life in the way you can