I have so much respect for the daughter and husband for all they do for the mother...there is laughter,sadness and yet Jami respected and love her mum so much.hope mother will gradually let go of whatever that burdens her heart and enjoy the togetherness with her beautiful daughter and her husband coz she deserves all the happiness she's blessed with...I lost my mum at a very young age and I envy this lovely mother-daughter relationship🥰....can't wait for the nxt part...
People who experience ab*se often develop the tendency to need things in order or very tidy. It’s a survival technique to minimize conflict. But it also helps victims gain a sense of control of their environment when they otherwise lack control. I hope that as the mom spends her twilight years with her loving daughter and son-in-law, she’s able to finally relax and feel comfortable enough to not overwork herself.
This. My uhmmma is the same exact way. My Korean mother endured extreme poverty, abuse and trauma. You could eat off the floors of my parents house and there’s not a single leaf in the yard lol. She’s 72. I always joke that when a leaf falls in her garden a bird knocks on the window to tell her.
omg the part at 11:45 where she says she likes her aunt, then the aunt says "I like you too" was so cute. I love my aunt too! Also the part where the daughter says her mother never experienced real love, really touched me. We all might have partners/spouses, but truly, not everyone gets to experience love. I'm sorry the mother had to go through so much domestic abuse :(. The husband and wife reminds me of my sister and my brother in law. She's a stronger character, and he's more docile. Perfect match!
What app is that to translate korean/English to help the American son-in-law and Korean mother-in-law communicate? That's awesome. Where is the new house located? Affordable build? As a Korean-born American, interesting to see Jamie re-establish her Korean citizenship! Awesome to see mom and daughter relying on each other after so many years apart😂. Best wishes!!
❤I hope all goes well. Each person needs one room aside from their bedroom. Let the kitchen be mom's, the daughter should have her own study for her treasures.😊
The daughter needs to do some yoga or find something to relax as it will be frustrating to understand the cultural differences on a daily basis. Her mom doesn’t like things scattered around the home. But that doesn’t mean she doesn’t care about her feelings, it’s just difficult for her to understand. To her they are rocks that belong in the garden or maybe displayed nicely in a 3-D frame?, she has a “extremely neat” personality and doesn’t like things scattered all over the place regardless of sentimental value. My mom was a “extremely neat” personality as well and trust me she won’t be able to change her. But think of it this way many older parents are “hoarders” and their house is basically a large trash can. I think I’d rather have a dustless house than trash all over the place. It’s a blessing that she’s still healthy and physically active to help around the home. She may also be suffering from the trauma of her past, both mom and daughter has scars, it’s not just the adopted child that has emotional trauma. Could reminders of adoption, adoptive parents, etc. bring her guilt, shame and uncomfortable feelings?
This will be their life long journey. But with love and understanding they will see it through. Me and my Korean mom had to go through this and it’s still a journey. But it’s all love. We never end the day angry with each other. It’s not going to be easy. But nothing is when trauma is involved.
seems like everyone is just so touched by this... I'm not, I'm sceptical....the mother never looked for her. I also didn't really understand why she left the children behind, certainly knowing back then (especially if you know in what state Korea was back then) it could mean they had to starve, probably on the streets, or what ever else could have happened (or maybe happened?) to them. I understood the mother had a violent husband who threatened her, but why didn't she take the children with her? When she left them there she must have known they even could have died and she still just left. To me it seems (and it's understandable to some degree) that Jami has not worked on that neglected and very hurt child part inside her. Instead she is so very eager to get that love and affection and everyting else she seems to be still missing from that now old mother, who, as I see it, can't and won't provide any of it - and again, why would she now, when back then she decided to leave three children to fend for themselves and she never looked back. It is very obvious in that scene when the mother vehemently says her daughter should call her Omoni, and not Omma, and how much this hurts Jami, she even cries. But she is so desperate for her mother's love that she would not ask critical questions, she would not speak about her anger and hurt, she is always playing it all down saying 'it's nothing'. That's not healthy. Also, where are the two other siblings that were mentioned in the first episode? It is also obvious that the mother did not want to move out of her own house. She even said she waited for it for so long to live comfortably, she is old and has her habits and routines. When Jami asks her later in the new house if she is happy? She answers 'I' m happy that you are happy' several times. She never wanted to move in with them but out of a guilty consciensce she agreed to do so. It will not end well in that house. Her husband doesn't speak Korean and is constantly excluded, her mother won't change her ways and habits and her distance, and Jami will get more and more frustrated and hurt because she tries to get someting from that mother that probably isn't even there. Hearing the mothers sister speak here, I would even guess the three children were not conceived consensually, if you know what I mean... also that can still have a strong impact and explain the distance the mother still shows towards her daughter today. It seemes desperately forced to me that Jami and her husband even moved to Korea and move in with her mother. You can't force things that are not there, no matter how much you migh want them.
I agree with you, the mother has issues and the daughter is too anxious to please and receive what she missed for so long! I give it 6-12 months and then the mother moves out again, this cannot end well!!
I see where you're coming from, and I can definitely agree with a lot of what you're saying. But I want to explain things from a korean adoptee perspective, even though I myself am not in reunion. Single mothers in Korea are extremely despised and stigmatized. When people find out you have children and don't have a husband, you are seen as inferior, like a subhuman. And it doesn't matter the circumstances in which you became an unmarried single mother. Mothers especially back then, did not have any rights on their own. Everything was patrilineal, and you had to use the fathers name to register children into the national registry. so her perspective was probably that she didnt want her children to suffer even more because of her, and the only way to help them was in giving up her rights as a mother. But also, she definitely seems to have trauma from the abuse. A lot of her "denial of love" seems to come from the fact that she never was loved herself. I myself have been in an abusive relationship and can completely understand how that messes with you mentally. You may feel like you need to be a recluse because you dont think youre deserving of love, or perhaps dont even understand it. Now, Jamis desire for affection is something that most if not all adoptees struggle with. Especially those with a strong longing for that biological relationship. But even more, for her, she has actual memories of living in Korea and being with her mother. For me, I was adopted basically at birth so its different. But I cant imagine what carrying those memories would make her feel. Adoption is technically a loss in itself. Many of us experience abandonment issues and feel like we have to overcompensate for the emptiness in some way. It seems Jamis way of doing it is to please her mother and do things for her and with her, but also, suppressing her own feelings and needs. Many adoptees do this with their birth families, and yes, it is extremely frustrating especially because we didnt choose to be adopted. Ive heard stories where adoptees were told to learn korean, and their parents not understanding why thats so difficult and frankly, unfair to ask of them. We have to constantly suppress our own feelings because we want our birth family to accept us, we dont want a double rejection. but i have heard of many adoptees who just couldnt take it anymore and cut off contact eventually. Asking the child you abandoned to change their life for you is definitely messed up. However, i can to somewhat degree understand it may be more than just us being adopted. As adoptees we tend to project our own feelings of rejection onto others. Culturally, I know Koreans especially old koreans are very set in their ways and there are these same types of conflict among biological Korean families that arent adopted as well. Koreans in general also expect respect to elderly and can be quite xenophobic, including younger people. They all kind of have these expectations that you should learn korean, and act culturally Korean, especially in Korea. A good example of this is a scene in the kdrama Move to Heaven where an adoptee who was deported tries to get a job and is turned away because he cant speak Korean and they say nasty things about asian looking foreigners who dont know korean under their breath. I have personally experienced this myself. The thing about calling her omoni was interesting to me too. And the prospect of my own mother saying smth like that would probably make me feel a bit hurt too. Like she said, "she doesnt understand my heart". I'm not sure how common it is for korean mothers to ask this of their kids, but this i guess is just another example of the adoptee having to suppress herself. Likely I'm guessing since she was denied that childhood with her mother, saying omma feels like its bringing that childhood back. but perhaps since the mother doesnt truly see how her lacking that childhood affected her, she doesnt understand. and i do agree, likely the reason why the mother is distanced from jami could also be related from her reminding her of her abusive husband and the trauma she went through. and maybe jami not doing things her way makes her feel like she has no control again, because in an abusive relationship, its all about the abuser denying the victim control over their own life. but its wrong to project that onto her daughter. its unfortunate that therapy is still stigmatized in korea, especially for older people. because i think she could really benefit from it and could help resolve that underlying trauma she has. its also not really fair that korean society is nondiscriminatorily outcasting all single mothers, even widows and abuse victims, because its not really their fault for having to go through that. historically, this stigma worsened as the country developed, which you'd expect to be the opposite. however, koreas process of economic development was very rapid, and did not allow social development to keep up. they never had any civil rights movements to help improve things. and the social movements that did exist were suppressed by the previous dictatorships. for the single mother stigma, it was park chunghees campaign against "undesirables" like them as well as economic incentives that drove the international adoption industry in korea. private adoption became big business because of demand, not supply, thus putting even more pressure on single mothers to abandon their children for the sake of the country and economy. they do have agency, but that agency was constantly taken advantage of and exploited because the government was being lobbied by the private adoption agencies. most mothers want to keep their children. but in korea, they often felt they didnt have a choice in a patriarchal, economically driven society.
@@worshipthecomedygodseoeunk4010 thank you for taking the time to tell me your perspective. As I have longterm friends in Korea, and thus constantly had an interest in Korean history, politics and social standards for the past 15 years, I know pretty much everything of what you said concering single mothers, baby boxes, the trouble of bringing up a child alone starting with registrating the child (seems to be the same mess for single fathers in Korea these days sadly), and of course the discrepancy of comparably superfast tech and economic development, while many other developments just didn't happen, or just started in some cases. I am not an adoptee but I have a very negative and abusive family background nonetheless, and can relate to many things you described without being an adoptee. Abuisve families can create very similar traumas all without the adoption topic. So although it's a bit of a shift situationwise, I meanwhile (I'm mid 40) just know when I see hopeless child/parent situations. I went through this full force for 20 years, and it took me another 20 to get over all the trauma, - and that was only possible when I cut all ties with that family. There is often just two choices: 1. you bang you head at that very same wall over and over again, bleeding and all, and you always hope and expect a change, or different reaction from the other side. Or 2: you understand certain givens and mechanisms and the fact that no matter how hard you try you can not change another person who is caught in their own, often totally untouched traumworld, you just have no chance, and as long as you keep banging your head into that person, you will hurt, and that other person will hurt too, because they don't even have the means to understand what they are doing. It's like living in parallel universes but for some weird reason meeting in a room, but no matter how hard you try, you can't communicate with each other. After trying for a very long time I had to understand it's option 2 , and realising that is horribly painful and if one is willing to reflect and work on yet another huge trauma, it's constant work and it will take tons of energy and time to go through the motions. But having done that for 20 years now I can say it was the right choice as it was the only way my soul and spirit could get at least a chance to heal, and it took it and it was my right to take it. I have a comparably good life now, and I couldn't be more grateful for that as it is due to my own choice it is a good life now. And honestly, although I had to deal with stigma and awful judgemental people too (people who do not care what so called 'mothers' did to their children) who didn't have more to say than: what an awful person you are, leaving your 'poor mother' for 'no reason', when she is 'your mother,' etc. But there was a point when I just didn't care about it anymore, I didn't tell it anymore as most people have their mind set on this sugarysweet commercial 'mom is your best friend and loves you regardless' lie, and this whole idea of mothers being almost untouchable (as if anyone who gives birth to a child is automatically a mother, I'd strongly disagree with that notion) so they would not ever listen to how things are for actually many children in reality anyways. So that as an explanation for why I saw Jami's situation like I saw it. What I wanted to say is that in the end it doesn't really matter if one is an adoptee and feels totally lost and rejected or if you grew up in a total loveless, destructive and abusive home with your actual parents. In the end, if you can't reach the other person at all because of their own full-blown trauma active, it's just a waste of time, and everyone will remain unhappy until either the end or until someone cuts these destructive ties again.
It’s not for you to understand. It’s their life’s journey. With the love they clearly have for each other, in time it will work out. You can be skeptical but it isn’t your life to make such a harsh assessment and judgment. Would you say that to Jamie’s mother’s face? No. Then why comment it?
@@Goldun-nah I would tell it to any mothers face, believe it or not. And my 'judgement' stems from direct experience and not romanticised hopes from someone who doesn't have direct experience with such situations.
It just seems that mom complains, and the daughter gives in. The daughter is respectful of her mother. Mom needs to be respectful of who her daughter is with her American ways, as she stated. Mom has to remember her daughter was raised in America most of her life.
The mother will never accept or even get used to the western life style of her daughter, Omoni has too many issues and old grief! I am afraid that Jamie will regret the day she moved in a house with her mom, mom has nothing left to give and will nag a wig in between all that is healthy in that family!!
남편 분이 참 따뜻한 분이라 제이미씨 좋으시겠어요! 물론 제이미씨도 아름답고 쾌활하고 매력적이세요. 다만 어머니하고의 새로운 같은 집 생활에서 상처가 남아있는 제이미씨와 미안함에 거리를 두는 어머니 사이에 남편 분의 따뜻함과 웃음이 큰 완충재(cusion) 이 되어줄 것 같아요! 세 식구 행복하게 사시길 바랍니다❤
I was adopted to the USA when I was 10, 1970. I have the same surname as mother. Is Hwang a common surname in Korea? I don't have any information to begin searching.
The daughter has a very outspoken and strong personality. Afraid that her mom will be miserable living with the daughter because each has their own ways of doing things.
I have so much respect for the daughter and husband for all they do for the mother...there is laughter,sadness and yet Jami respected and love her mum so much.hope mother will gradually let go of whatever that burdens her heart and enjoy the togetherness with her beautiful daughter and her husband coz she deserves all the happiness she's blessed with...I lost my mum at a very young age and I envy this lovely mother-daughter relationship🥰....can't wait for the nxt part...
mom and son in law get along great. how cute, to commute via the translator.
People who experience ab*se often develop the tendency to need things in order or very tidy. It’s a survival technique to minimize conflict. But it also helps victims gain a sense of control of their environment when they otherwise lack control.
I hope that as the mom spends her twilight years with her loving daughter and son-in-law, she’s able to finally relax and feel comfortable enough to not overwork herself.
This. My uhmmma is the same exact way. My Korean mother endured extreme poverty, abuse and trauma. You could eat off the floors of my parents house and there’s not a single leaf in the yard lol. She’s 72. I always joke that when a leaf falls in her garden a bird knocks on the window to tell her.
omg the part at 11:45 where she says she likes her aunt, then the aunt says "I like you too" was so cute. I love my aunt too! Also the part where the daughter says her mother never experienced real love, really touched me. We all might have partners/spouses, but truly, not everyone gets to experience love. I'm sorry the mother had to go through so much domestic abuse :(.
The husband and wife reminds me of my sister and my brother in law. She's a stronger character, and he's more docile. Perfect match!
Jami is a lovely person and David is a great husband. Love both of them
제이미씨 보는데 왜 눈물이 나는지ㅠ 상처도 많고 사랑도 많은분인데 어머니한테 끊임없이 맞춰주고 양보해주네요. 너무 좋은사람.. 상처받지말고 행복하셨으면
I love in-laws conversion. Thats good David 😅😅
What app is that to translate korean/English to help the American son-in-law and Korean mother-in-law communicate? That's awesome. Where is the new house located? Affordable build? As a Korean-born American, interesting to see Jamie re-establish her Korean citizenship! Awesome to see mom and daughter relying on each other after so many years apart😂. Best wishes!!
I think he's using Papago
Google Translate
It's Papago. I use it for translation of different languages. Google translate is terrible for proper grammar and translation.
어머니-제이미 해경씨-이모 모두 나이보다 피부가 맑고 곱고 예뻐요
좋은 유전자가 내려오는 집이네요!
어머니도 참 아름답고 딸 사위 함게 사는거 행복해 보이고 좋아요 앞으로는 아름다운 삶사시길 빕니다
❤I hope all goes well. Each person needs one room aside from their bedroom. Let the kitchen be mom's, the daughter should have her own study for her treasures.😊
Is there another part ?
i want to know too, the other updates for this series came faster, it’s been more than a week 😢
Next part??
The daughter needs to do some yoga or find something to relax as it will be frustrating to understand the cultural differences on a daily basis. Her mom doesn’t like things scattered around the home. But that doesn’t mean she doesn’t care about her feelings, it’s just difficult for her to understand. To her they are rocks that belong in the garden or maybe displayed nicely in a 3-D frame?, she has a “extremely neat” personality and doesn’t like things scattered all over the place regardless of sentimental value. My mom was a “extremely neat” personality as well and trust me she won’t be able to change her. But think of it this way many older parents are “hoarders” and their house is basically a large trash can. I think I’d rather have a dustless house than trash all over the place. It’s a blessing that she’s still healthy and physically active to help around the home. She may also be suffering from the trauma of her past, both mom and daughter has scars, it’s not just the adopted child that has emotional trauma. Could reminders of adoption, adoptive parents, etc. bring her guilt, shame and uncomfortable feelings?
This will be their life long journey. But with love and understanding they will see it through. Me and my Korean mom had to go through this and it’s still a journey. But it’s all love. We never end the day angry with each other. It’s not going to be easy. But nothing is when trauma is involved.
Thanks for the update ❤❤❤
waiting for the next part to drop 😢
seems like everyone is just so touched by this... I'm not, I'm sceptical....the mother never looked for her. I also didn't really understand why she left the children behind, certainly knowing back then (especially if you know in what state Korea was back then) it could mean they had to starve, probably on the streets, or what ever else could have happened (or maybe happened?) to them. I understood the mother had a violent husband who threatened her, but why didn't she take the children with her? When she left them there she must have known they even could have died and she still just left.
To me it seems (and it's understandable to some degree) that Jami has not worked on that neglected and very hurt child part inside her. Instead she is so very eager to get that love and affection and everyting else she seems to be still missing from that now old mother, who, as I see it, can't and won't provide any of it - and again, why would she now, when back then she decided to leave three children to fend for themselves and she never looked back. It is very obvious in that scene when the mother vehemently says her daughter should call her Omoni, and not Omma, and how much this hurts Jami, she even cries. But she is so desperate for her mother's love that she would not ask critical questions, she would not speak about her anger and hurt, she is always playing it all down saying 'it's nothing'. That's not healthy. Also, where are the two other siblings that were mentioned in the first episode?
It is also obvious that the mother did not want to move out of her own house. She even said she waited for it for so long to live comfortably, she is old and has her habits and routines. When Jami asks her later in the new house if she is happy? She answers 'I' m happy that you are happy' several times. She never wanted to move in with them but out of a guilty consciensce she agreed to do so. It will not end well in that house. Her husband doesn't speak Korean and is constantly excluded, her mother won't change her ways and habits and her distance, and Jami will get more and more frustrated and hurt because she tries to get someting from that mother that probably isn't even there. Hearing the mothers sister speak here, I would even guess the three children were not conceived consensually, if you know what I mean... also that can still have a strong impact and explain the distance the mother still shows towards her daughter today.
It seemes desperately forced to me that Jami and her husband even moved to Korea and move in with her mother. You can't force things that are not there, no matter how much you migh want them.
I agree with you, the mother has issues and the daughter is too anxious to please and receive what she missed for so long! I give it 6-12 months and then the mother moves out again, this cannot end well!!
I see where you're coming from, and I can definitely agree with a lot of what you're saying. But I want to explain things from a korean adoptee perspective, even though I myself am not in reunion.
Single mothers in Korea are extremely despised and stigmatized. When people find out you have children and don't have a husband, you are seen as inferior, like a subhuman. And it doesn't matter the circumstances in which you became an unmarried single mother. Mothers especially back then, did not have any rights on their own. Everything was patrilineal, and you had to use the fathers name to register children into the national registry. so her perspective was probably that she didnt want her children to suffer even more because of her, and the only way to help them was in giving up her rights as a mother. But also, she definitely seems to have trauma from the abuse. A lot of her "denial of love" seems to come from the fact that she never was loved herself. I myself have been in an abusive relationship and can completely understand how that messes with you mentally. You may feel like you need to be a recluse because you dont think youre deserving of love, or perhaps dont even understand it. Now, Jamis desire for affection is something that most if not all adoptees struggle with. Especially those with a strong longing for that biological relationship. But even more, for her, she has actual memories of living in Korea and being with her mother. For me, I was adopted basically at birth so its different. But I cant imagine what carrying those memories would make her feel. Adoption is technically a loss in itself. Many of us experience abandonment issues and feel like we have to overcompensate for the emptiness in some way. It seems Jamis way of doing it is to please her mother and do things for her and with her, but also, suppressing her own feelings and needs. Many adoptees do this with their birth families, and yes, it is extremely frustrating especially because we didnt choose to be adopted. Ive heard stories where adoptees were told to learn korean, and their parents not understanding why thats so difficult and frankly, unfair to ask of them. We have to constantly suppress our own feelings because we want our birth family to accept us, we dont want a double rejection. but i have heard of many adoptees who just couldnt take it anymore and cut off contact eventually. Asking the child you abandoned to change their life for you is definitely messed up. However, i can to somewhat degree understand it may be more than just us being adopted. As adoptees we tend to project our own feelings of rejection onto others. Culturally, I know Koreans especially old koreans are very set in their ways and there are these same types of conflict among biological Korean families that arent adopted as well. Koreans in general also expect respect to elderly and can be quite xenophobic, including younger people. They all kind of have these expectations that you should learn korean, and act culturally Korean, especially in Korea. A good example of this is a scene in the kdrama Move to Heaven where an adoptee who was deported tries to get a job and is turned away because he cant speak Korean and they say nasty things about asian looking foreigners who dont know korean under their breath. I have personally experienced this myself.
The thing about calling her omoni was interesting to me too. And the prospect of my own mother saying smth like that would probably make me feel a bit hurt too. Like she said, "she doesnt understand my heart". I'm not sure how common it is for korean mothers to ask this of their kids, but this i guess is just another example of the adoptee having to suppress herself. Likely I'm guessing since she was denied that childhood with her mother, saying omma feels like its bringing that childhood back. but perhaps since the mother doesnt truly see how her lacking that childhood affected her, she doesnt understand.
and i do agree, likely the reason why the mother is distanced from jami could also be related from her reminding her of her abusive husband and the trauma she went through. and maybe jami not doing things her way makes her feel like she has no control again, because in an abusive relationship, its all about the abuser denying the victim control over their own life. but its wrong to project that onto her daughter. its unfortunate that therapy is still stigmatized in korea, especially for older people. because i think she could really benefit from it and could help resolve that underlying trauma she has. its also not really fair that korean society is nondiscriminatorily outcasting all single mothers, even widows and abuse victims, because its not really their fault for having to go through that. historically, this stigma worsened as the country developed, which you'd expect to be the opposite. however, koreas process of economic development was very rapid, and did not allow social development to keep up. they never had any civil rights movements to help improve things. and the social movements that did exist were suppressed by the previous dictatorships. for the single mother stigma, it was park chunghees campaign against "undesirables" like them as well as economic incentives that drove the international adoption industry in korea. private adoption became big business because of demand, not supply, thus putting even more pressure on single mothers to abandon their children for the sake of the country and economy. they do have agency, but that agency was constantly taken advantage of and exploited because the government was being lobbied by the private adoption agencies. most mothers want to keep their children. but in korea, they often felt they didnt have a choice in a patriarchal, economically driven society.
@@worshipthecomedygodseoeunk4010 thank you for taking the time to tell me your perspective.
As I have longterm friends in Korea, and thus constantly had an interest in Korean history, politics and social standards for the past 15 years, I know pretty much everything of what you said concering single mothers, baby boxes, the trouble of bringing up a child alone starting with registrating the child (seems to be the same mess for single fathers in Korea these days sadly), and of course the discrepancy of comparably superfast tech and economic development, while many other developments just didn't happen, or just started in some cases.
I am not an adoptee but I have a very negative and abusive family background nonetheless, and can relate to many things you described without being an adoptee. Abuisve families can create very similar traumas all without the adoption topic.
So although it's a bit of a shift situationwise, I meanwhile (I'm mid 40) just know when I see hopeless child/parent situations.
I went through this full force for 20 years, and it took me another 20 to get over all the trauma, - and that was only possible when I cut all ties with that family.
There is often just two choices: 1. you bang you head at that very same wall over and over again, bleeding and all, and you always hope and expect a change, or different reaction from the other side.
Or 2: you understand certain givens and mechanisms and the fact that no matter how hard you try you can not change another person who is caught in their own, often totally untouched traumworld, you just have no chance, and as long as you keep banging your head into that person, you will hurt, and that other person will hurt too, because they don't even have the means to understand what they are doing. It's like living in parallel universes but for some weird reason meeting in a room, but no matter how hard you try, you can't communicate with each other.
After trying for a very long time I had to understand it's option 2 , and realising that is horribly painful and if one is willing to reflect and work on yet another huge trauma, it's constant work and it will take tons of energy and time to go through the motions. But having done that for 20 years now I can say it was the right choice as it was the only way my soul and spirit could get at least a chance to heal, and it took it and it was my right to take it.
I have a comparably good life now, and I couldn't be more grateful for that as it is due to my own choice it is a good life now. And honestly, although I had to deal with stigma and awful judgemental people too (people who do not care what so called 'mothers' did to their children) who didn't have more to say than: what an awful person you are, leaving your 'poor mother' for 'no reason', when she is 'your mother,' etc. But there was a point when I just didn't care about it anymore, I didn't tell it anymore as most people have their mind set on this sugarysweet commercial 'mom is your best friend and loves you regardless' lie, and this whole idea of mothers being almost untouchable (as if anyone who gives birth to a child is automatically a mother, I'd strongly disagree with that notion) so they would not ever listen to how things are for actually many children in reality anyways.
So that as an explanation for why I saw Jami's situation like I saw it. What I wanted to say is that in the end it doesn't really matter if one is an adoptee and feels totally lost and rejected or if you grew up in a total loveless, destructive and abusive home with your actual parents. In the end, if you can't reach the other person at all because of their own full-blown trauma active, it's just a waste of time, and everyone will remain unhappy until either the end or until someone cuts these destructive ties again.
It’s not for you to understand. It’s their life’s journey. With the love they clearly have for each other, in time it will work out. You can be skeptical but it isn’t your life to make such a harsh assessment and judgment. Would you say that to Jamie’s mother’s face? No. Then why comment it?
@@Goldun-nah I would tell it to any mothers face, believe it or not. And my 'judgement' stems from direct experience and not romanticised hopes from someone who doesn't have direct experience with such situations.
Would love to see more of their videos ..beautiful home n family ❤
Im half Korean and David reminds me so much of my dad and Jamie’s uhmma reminds me of my uhmma lol and Jamie is just like my noona, My older sister.
Beautiful family of 3 , lots of love ❤ in their home 😊
It just seems that mom complains, and the daughter gives in. The daughter is respectful of her mother. Mom needs to be respectful of who her daughter is with her American ways, as she stated. Mom has to remember her daughter was raised in America most of her life.
The mother will never accept or even get used to the western life style of her daughter, Omoni has too many issues and old grief! I am afraid that Jamie will regret the day she moved in a house with her mom, mom has nothing left to give and will nag a wig in between all that is healthy in that family!!
Where are her siblings?
Wanna know if her daughter have siblings?
Yes, she has two other siblings, it was mentioned a few times throughout the series.
남편 분이 참 따뜻한 분이라 제이미씨 좋으시겠어요! 물론 제이미씨도 아름답고 쾌활하고 매력적이세요. 다만 어머니하고의 새로운 같은 집 생활에서 상처가 남아있는 제이미씨와 미안함에 거리를 두는 어머니 사이에 남편 분의 따뜻함과 웃음이 큰 완충재(cusion) 이 되어줄 것 같아요! 세 식구 행복하게 사시길 바랍니다❤
I was adopted to the USA when I was 10, 1970. I have the same surname as mother. Is Hwang a common surname in Korea? I don't have any information to begin searching.
Kim is a much common family name in korea, hwang not so much so you may have better luck searching if you want to
Yes
There are lots of Hwang in korea
The daughter has a very outspoken and strong personality. Afraid that her mom will be miserable living with the daughter because each has their own ways of doing things.
There's nothing wrong with being outspoken and standing up for herself, she has done nothing wrong through out this series, stop being such a Coward!
That’s what my mom did too … give all the meat to us kids and she wouldn’t have any.
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Ah. Asian mother will always nag their daughter.
lol never ends always the same … but with love 🤣
Koreans will do the same as Americans. They yell louder expecting you to understand when it's not the volume, but the actual words.
You have to use words like “ imma,kyna,ur, cuz”
First
Why suddenly sad mother?
Are they real mother and daughter? Why is the daughter calling her “omoni” and not “Oma”? Isn’t mother-in-law called omoni?
It’s the same meaning…uma is a little more informal though
If you watch one of the other parts further back she explains why she calls her mom more formal.
the mother said she does not want to be called 'omma' by ger daughter
The daughter said she uses formal bc calling for uhmma makes her trauma come back. A form of PTSD.
Pretty disgusting
It would be a different story if the son in law was black haha