Why men have side chicks!

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  • @yy.unlimited
    @yy.unlimited 20 днів тому +3

    Thank you Penson 🙏🏾❤️

  • @thabangmotaung4759
    @thabangmotaung4759 19 днів тому +2

    That hits home, that appreciation that thank you and smile that you give me for my little or big efforts goes a long way for me .That alone makes me to want to do more. But women these days don't appreciate like on a high level . Sometimes you ask yourself does she really know what's happening outside .
    Thanks for this video made my day .

    • @mamofranco
      @mamofranco 19 днів тому +2

      Will ur gf making u feel appreciated stop u from getting a side girl? Be honest, I agree with Penson with regards to appreciating men for the little things but girlies might confuse it wth "do it and he'll not get a side dish." Not accepting the reality that guys often get side chicks jst for the thrill, for fun nd net for control.
      Yes we'll def make our men feel appreciated but it won't stop y'all from getting a side girl.

    • @theemapsmash
      @theemapsmash 19 днів тому +3

      ​@@mamofrancohe'll still get a side girl.😂🤦 But I noticed he mentioned that he'll wanna do more for his main, which is the primary benefits of appreciating the little things ur man does for u. A faithful man, ull draw him especially if he's a fat cat.

    • @thabangmotaung4759
      @thabangmotaung4759 17 днів тому

      @@mamofranco 🤣🤣🤣🤣No comment

    • @mamofranco
      @mamofranco 15 днів тому

      @@thabangmotaung4759 I figured, if my man answered and I saw the comment it wouldn't end well so it makes sense.😂😂

  • @samuelm_studio
    @samuelm_studio 20 днів тому +19

    Absolutely not. There's no justification for ubufebe guys. Seeking something you already have? Why not communicate with the person you're with? The consequences of these extra marital affairs are dire. So no. There's no justification. Also, you speak like you do but society still bashes people like abo Mihlali who are side chicks? Be the hero at home where you're needed. Your responsibility as a husband and father is your household. Faithfulness shouldn't be a concept for men only.

    • @pensonmlotshwa
      @pensonmlotshwa  20 днів тому +15

      @@samuelm_studio You can debate whether it’s right or wrong… I’m merely explaining as to why it’s happening.
      Many men communicate, but are never heard.

    • @gcinamabaso5698
      @gcinamabaso5698 19 днів тому +2

      @@pensonmlotshwa Facts are Facts, and this won't stop due to the main reason you stated, we want to be valued and appreciated.

    • @mamofranco
      @mamofranco 19 днів тому +2

      ​@@gcinamabaso5698 Let's be honest here, a man can get a side girl for the thrill of it even if his girl is making him feel appreciated. That's the point Penson forgot to mention. This message might be confused with "make ur man feel appreciated and he'll not get a side girl." Which is not true. Yes we'll def make our men feel appreciated but it won't actually make y'all not get side chicks, something that most of our grannies, mothers and girlies have accepted.

    • @theemapsmash
      @theemapsmash 19 днів тому +3

      ​@@mamofranco True, I think he also forgot to mention the benefits of making our men feel appreciated which are basically him doing more, e.g. ur man takes u to Harties, u appreciate him then next time he's taking u to Cancun. Stroking his ego won't prevent him from getting a side here nd there. But it will def make him wanna do more for us, which if we're being honest most of us ladies want.

  • @sizwetraveladventures
    @sizwetraveladventures 20 днів тому +6

    Boys don't get a side chick. Do it for your kid ( Become a hero to your kids).If your wife does not appreciate your effort anymore your kids will. Thank you Mlotshwa.

    • @theemapsmash
      @theemapsmash 19 днів тому +3

      True, even thgh I'm a girl I do believe men shldnt get side chicks bcoz side chicks are dangerous especially if they want ur position.

  • @FictionHubZA
    @FictionHubZA 20 днів тому +14

    I don't want to go around dating multiple women. I just want one loyal wife. In today's daying climate, it almost feels like you're being forced to have backup plans.

    • @theemapsmash
      @theemapsmash 19 днів тому +4

      The reality is that men can't actually have a back up plan due to the love they have for one woman, yes they can have side dishes but the love for their gf or wife can't be defeated. It usually takes 1 to 3 years for men to move on from their beloved. For girls, it takes 1 min especially if we've found a better replacement for u.😬🤷
      For girlies it's easy to have back up plan due to our inability to love men romantically.

    • @zimasajam
      @zimasajam 19 днів тому

      Who sets the market men or women?

    • @gisellethebunny
      @gisellethebunny 19 днів тому +1

      ​@theemapsmash
      True on the last part, I've seen/ heard stories of so many girls dating three guys in the hopes of one marrying her, when it happens the last 2 guys who also loved her are shocked.
      Like Penson said "women we are sneaky".
      But I think men can have back-ups but it's rare.

    • @FictionHubZA
      @FictionHubZA 17 днів тому

      @@theemapsmash To be honest I don't care anymore. I have given up on dating. I have accepted that i will be alone for the rest of my life.

    • @theemapsmash
      @theemapsmash 16 днів тому +1

      ​@@FictionHubZAU dnt necessarily have to give up if ur goal is to have a family. Date a girl who's into you. Think of the girl that had a crush on you in high school or varsity, yes she myb wasn't ur type physically but that shows there are gals out there who'd like u, u jst need to find the one u're attracted to. If u've been investing in ur looks, game/ rizz and leadership. If u in varsity this is the best time to find ur wife bcoz she's actually wth u for u not ur money. But u also need to show ur potential to succeed which is thru proper leadership. Remember to vet her, vet her Xter, cohabit to see her true personality. Make sure she respects u engh not to participate in anything that can make her lose u.

  • @TshepoMavimbela
    @TshepoMavimbela 20 днів тому +12

    Once the novelty fades, a lot of women you can never do enough for. I know a woman with 3 boyfriends, one is a rich fiancé she says she wants to secure the bag, the other is an ex she just wants to hurt, I'm the third and just a plumber who knows too much

    • @MyMystery9
      @MyMystery9 20 днів тому +4

      "I'm the third and just a plumber who knows too much"😂😂😂

    • @pensonmlotshwa
      @pensonmlotshwa  20 днів тому +1

      @@TshepoMavimbela YOU KNOW WAAAAAY TOO MUCH!!!!
      PHUMA!!!!

    • @pensonmlotshwa
      @pensonmlotshwa  20 днів тому

      @@MyMystery9 😅🫣

    • @TshepoMavimbela
      @TshepoMavimbela 20 днів тому +1

      @@MyMystery9 😅

    • @TshepoMavimbela
      @TshepoMavimbela 20 днів тому +1

      @@pensonmlotshwa 😅🫣 I'm exiting

  • @obakengntshoe154
    @obakengntshoe154 19 днів тому +1

    this video is golden for woman, sisters can really learn a lot from this video

  • @toji2254
    @toji2254 19 днів тому +5

    The wife is the woman who treats a man like the person he wants to be
    The side chick is the woman who makes a man feel like the person who he thinks he is
    In a perfect world it would be the same woman, but unfortunately that's not always the case

  • @pinkysmalest3233
    @pinkysmalest3233 18 днів тому +2

    We love you Penzozo😍😍❤️❤️❤️💃💃💃

  • @manfromnowhere6836
    @manfromnowhere6836 18 днів тому +2

    I don't have a side chick, would never get one either but I know exactly what you're talking about.

  • @ThulaniMdakane-vt5wm
    @ThulaniMdakane-vt5wm 20 днів тому +5

    😂😂 Definitely bro our fore fathers used to have side chicks it's natural. lake of appreciation,courage and support. A men doesn't need ukubalisa and peace.

    • @pensonmlotshwa
      @pensonmlotshwa  20 днів тому +2

      @@ThulaniMdakane-vt5wm Many will fight us and disagree… but it’s the truth.

    • @indianam7689
      @indianam7689 20 днів тому +2

      Please tell me what do you mean by natural? To me natural means it's how the Creator created it to be or meant for it to be and in light of that, I will disagree with you. God created one man and one woman out of that one man, and the first design of marriage was between one man and one woman and early marriages followed suit until.....polygamy is man made, out of our fallen state and fallen mind our desires went further and further from the will, plan and design of the Creator....and might I tell you even the first polygamous relationship birthed hatred and resentment. So nothing good comes out of multiple sexual relationships, it's not "natural" and doesn't please God.

    • @khanyisilemakhubu2938
      @khanyisilemakhubu2938 20 днів тому

      So it’s natural to ruin homes ? Ok. Good to know that a lack of self control is natural and overcomes a lot of men. How empires fall due to lack of self control. Explains why so many black men can barely make a worthy name for themselves in society. Abo Diddy.ww , congratulations… you won 🥇

    • @ThulaniMdakane-vt5wm
      @ThulaniMdakane-vt5wm 20 днів тому

      @@indianam7689 when I say natural I mean if my woman in my marriage or mjolo the relationship, her not appreciating me doing things in our relationship , her not recognizing my presents or role in my relationship, her not encouraging me that babe you really are one of a kind, and when my women doesn't recepricate that she can't live without her men not around, like needing me as her men because a men is not complete without his queen. So based on what I mentioned here that comes naturaly to a men if he sees that in his queen through talking or the queen actions towards him, that's a insight of what men are or the mentality of men. A men will go out to have a side chick because of that you as women you don't see him as a hero to you.

  • @cozmicrahop9415
    @cozmicrahop9415 20 днів тому +4

    Mara Wine gums still slap though...or am i old?

  • @khayelihlemngoma2393
    @khayelihlemngoma2393 15 днів тому

    There is no benefit for a man to marry or be in a committed relationship.

  • @portiaramabulana643
    @portiaramabulana643 19 днів тому +1

    If men can understand how they were created, they would realize that their constant desire for chasing the new stems from the vibration of creation itself. However If a man doesn't know how to ground himself, he will continuously be in pursuit of creation, never finding fulfilment. That is why its difficult for a man to sit idle by & do nothing.

  • @Thato2448
    @Thato2448 20 днів тому +2

    We have to tip the scales somehow. The law of ratios I guess. 😂❤

  • @kwazilucas
    @kwazilucas 20 днів тому +5

    Women in the comments are not getting the message and this is deep as hell.

    • @gisellethebunny
      @gisellethebunny 19 днів тому +1

      You know why it won't make sense, bcoz y'all cheat regardless. Penson shld've said "ladies make ur man feel appreciated but that doesn't mean he won't get a side gal."
      If we actually have to be real, some men get sides for the thrill of it, for fun etc. Now for some ladies it can be quite confusing if they're doing everything nd he still gets a side. Hence the misunderstanding.

    • @kwazilucas
      @kwazilucas 19 днів тому +1

      @@gisellethebunny speaking for myself if my woman was really making happy and her character is in line with what I want in a woman and does things according to the way they should be done and appreciated me I would never cheat on her. I am saying this because I've been there before.

    • @theemapsmash
      @theemapsmash 19 днів тому +1

      ​@@kwazilucaswhat is ur age range?
      You may be the exception but it cld be u're still young, there's a point in ur life u might cheat as a man net for the thrill of it, especially if u are a resourceful man. But if u indeed faithful to that point then that's what the other girlies are crying for, they want to be guaranteed that after doing all that the man won't cheat of which in most cases it doesn't work that way.

    • @kwazilucas
      @kwazilucas 19 днів тому

      @@theemapsmash lol you didn't hear what the man said in the video

    • @FictionHubZA
      @FictionHubZA 17 днів тому

      @@theemapsmash He is not the exception. From what I observe women say they want guys who don't cheat but they actively chase the types of guys who have a lot of options who have the ability to cheat anytime they want.
      Women don't understand just how the average guy has to beg just to be in a relationship while a small portion of guys get attention without even trying.

  • @IAmChosen9925
    @IAmChosen9925 19 днів тому +1

    😂😂😂Next year I'm resigning from my side chic seat and staying single kuyafana mos

  • @StrangeTimes-ji7lv
    @StrangeTimes-ji7lv 17 днів тому

    Service delivery is the problem.

  • @coachMims
    @coachMims 19 днів тому +3

    If I was a man I’d have a few sides 🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️

    • @laygossom2655
      @laygossom2655 19 днів тому +2

      Can you please tell why u say that ?

    • @coachMims
      @coachMims 19 днів тому

      @@laygossom2655 coz naturally men love women the more the merrier, everything else is a scam

  • @hlonimohohlo8009
    @hlonimohohlo8009 18 днів тому +2

    Penson is cooking, full stop

  • @wailaspirit3148
    @wailaspirit3148 20 днів тому +4

    It's a natural thing, inadvisable due to modern circumstances. However women do outnumber us & those 'spare' women need love too. However it must be done properly

    • @openmindedfairy9691
      @openmindedfairy9691 20 днів тому +3

      This stats are outdated😂

    • @pensonmlotshwa
      @pensonmlotshwa  20 днів тому +2

      @@wailaspirit3148 It must be done properly? Please unpack 🙏🏽

    • @pensonmlotshwa
      @pensonmlotshwa  20 днів тому +1

      @@openmindedfairy9691 They are 😅

    • @indianam7689
      @indianam7689 20 днів тому

      No it's not natural. God designed 1 man for one woman in the confines of marriage and polygamy was first done by humans because we are fallen and have a fallen mind but polygamy is not "natural" and multiple sexual relationships outside of marriage is diabolical, God forbids it. I don't know what do you mean by natural, maybe you can make me understand.

    • @wailaspirit3148
      @wailaspirit3148 20 днів тому

      Go the polygamous way, it's not the best solution but a man with means can take care of more than one family. Women who don't have a permanent man in their life, either end up doing sex work or become side chicks to either survive or just pure companionship. It is very difficult but it is necessary...

  • @Mashwabade917
    @Mashwabade917 19 днів тому

    Where can i get that one hlena
    * Who will do these things without wanting ukungi goqa Jeso.?

    • @IAmChosen9925
      @IAmChosen9925 19 днів тому +1

      I'm with you 😂😂😂😂😂

  • @hlumekadumezweni7943
    @hlumekadumezweni7943 20 днів тому +3

    Then, why not stay where they are appreciated rather than hovering around or at least communicate with their partners ke about how they feel about the relationship. Hopping around has dire consequences and sometimes it affects those who are innocent.

    • @pensonmlotshwa
      @pensonmlotshwa  20 днів тому +5

      @@hlumekadumezweni7943 We don’t stay because you guys get used to the life… and it becomes an expectation.

    • @pensonmlotshwa
      @pensonmlotshwa  20 днів тому +6

      @@hlumekadumezweni7943 Then the appreciation gets less and less.

    • @gcinamabaso5698
      @gcinamabaso5698 19 днів тому +4

      @@pensonmlotshwa They won't understand the male brain brother, ladies in the comments are using emotions rather then taking notes.

  • @deseregeraud4749
    @deseregeraud4749 20 днів тому +5

    I have a simple answer. Men cheat when the opportunity presents itself. For example, dad and the nanny, boss & receptionist, colleagues, gym buddies etc. Convenience & opportunity.

    • @FictionHubZA
      @FictionHubZA 20 днів тому

      It is not just men. Women do it too.

  • @Noface_Nocase_359
    @Noface_Nocase_359 17 днів тому

    so true!!!

  • @tshephomooi2728
    @tshephomooi2728 18 днів тому

    If u leave emotions out, ul hear the reasoning here beyond ur feelings

  • @melissa-qe7fp
    @melissa-qe7fp 20 днів тому

    Men need to get it into their heads that they aren't 'helping" their partner with the dishes, with bathing the kids, with school fees etc etc, that is being a participating partner in a relationship between two adults. Men's constant need to feel needed will be abolished when they make themselves useful.

    • @kwazilucas
      @kwazilucas 20 днів тому +1

      LOL! Y'all will never listen.

    • @nicosekano5942
      @nicosekano5942 19 днів тому +1

      those are woman's duties, i dont do that in the household as the head of the house. its your job

    • @baizeyabrahams2787
      @baizeyabrahams2787 19 днів тому +2

      Bet you gonna help with providing and protecting neh

    • @mamofranco
      @mamofranco 19 днів тому +2

      Uhm u're looking at this from a 50/50 household point of view, in a 🏠whereby the man is the sole provider, the gender roles are not shared.
      And the message is that make ur man feel appreciated and needed wth the little things he does to avoid him getting a side chick.
      But knowing men they'll still get a side nyana😂😂 but at least it won't be a long term side chick.

    • @gisellethebunny
      @gisellethebunny 19 днів тому +1

      ​​​@@mamofranco😂😂😂 The last part, the guys in the comments make it seem like there's a remedy for their cheating. My man wld tell me hw much of a good woman I am to him then ta-da I found his roll on around June this year.😫
      Penson shld've said "ladies make ur men feel valued but he'll still cheat." Thina we have accepted it as long we don't find out abt the so-called side girl.

  • @MasegoMutloane
    @MasegoMutloane 20 днів тому +2

    ❤❤❤

  • @rollykgware
    @rollykgware 18 днів тому

    It cuts both ways

  • @Sterfillah
    @Sterfillah 19 днів тому

    The reasoning from men who grew up in broken homes is so bizarre and toxic. Ladies/gents do not have a relationship with a guy/lady whose parents were not married. Brokenness follows them in their past (coming from broken homes), present (created broken homes) and future (cycle repeats itself with their descendants). His big brother is a mess and it seems like also him he is messy . They come from a broken home, they have created broken homes and so will their kids continue the cycle (God forbid)

    • @gcinamabaso5698
      @gcinamabaso5698 19 днів тому +1

      That's an unfair statement; some people come from broken families and up with beautiful families; life is not a cookie-cutter. His arguments are valid facts, remove emotions from what he said; if you have married friends who were not respected and valued by their wives, you will know this happens a lot.

    • @theemapsmash
      @theemapsmash 19 днів тому +1

      ​@@gcinamabaso5698 That's just the exception, it doesn't change the fact that a potential spouse coming from a healthy 2 parent household is a much better option than one coming from a broken home.

    • @Sterfillah
      @Sterfillah 19 днів тому

      @@gcinamabaso5698 valid for who? Men .

    • @Sterfillah
      @Sterfillah 19 днів тому

      @@gcinamabaso5698 its ok for men to trash women coming from broken homes but men who come from the same broken families want to be exempted. Ukufeba should be criminalised in this country ngoba wow

    • @gisellethebunny
      @gisellethebunny 19 днів тому +1

      You're very right with the broken home notion.
      But I think u missed Penson's message, he was giving reasons as to why a man wld keep a side gal, which can be the result of a lady not stroking his ego thru appreciating him for the little things etc. But it's not necessarily a broken home thing. It's a man thing.

  • @Luk012NW
    @Luk012NW 20 днів тому +3

    I am not sure if men only want side chicks because they want to feel needed. I was a side-snack to a man for over 10 years. I met him when he had a girlfriend. They broke up. Then he asked for my permission to marry his new girlfriend. I was at his wedding also, but two kids later they divorced. Now he wants us to be official, but I'm not about to be made a step-mother to children who found me here. Im thinking maybe there are more reasons why men want a side piece? I dont know 🤷

    • @pensonmlotshwa
      @pensonmlotshwa  20 днів тому +1

      @@Luk012NW There’s definitely more reasons!
      Many gents are looking for peace… many are looking for a smash!

    • @PoSHEmediaglobal
      @PoSHEmediaglobal 19 днів тому +2

      😂😂😂😂😂 I have no words. Women

    • @theemapsmash
      @theemapsmash 19 днів тому

      😳😳 yoh, with your experience as a side chick, what do u think was ur role in ur 10 year relationship?
      If I may ask, are you an own man gal or do u enjoy just being a side chick?

    • @Luk012NW
      @Luk012NW 19 днів тому +1

      @@theemapsmash All he has ever said to me is "I love how I feel when I am with you" and at the end of our situation, he said "I love that you didn't change". I honestly don't know what that meant to him. I met that man in our early 20's and we saw each other grow in life and in our careers. I stayed 10 years with him because he truly never made me feel like a side chick. He had time for me. I don't know how. And I also respected his marriage and it was me who set up the boundaries for him to not get caught. Now I am ready for marriage and motherhood and I am now going into that with someone who also does not have children.

    • @theemapsmash
      @theemapsmash 19 днів тому

      ​@@Luk012NWYour journey & experience is very unique and intriguing, I'm not gonna lie, I have a lot of questions but due to respect for privacy I'mma keep them to myself. What's important now is you being in a healthy relationship leading to marriage.
      Wish you well🤍🤍🤍

  • @zusipejobe-fw6qk
    @zusipejobe-fw6qk 20 днів тому +1

    Pens mf2 uphezkwayo straight danki bhuti

  • @damn7696
    @damn7696 19 днів тому +1

    This is very interesting. I think we should move away from expecting an individual to fulfil this deep need to be needed🤔
    Maybe volunteering and being of service to our communities will help with that need to be needed, and not just expect our partner to be the sole fulfiller of this need.
    I don't know maybe we've become so isolated that we put all our hopes and needs on one or two people. That's a pretty ridiculous request in my books

  • @GINB329
    @GINB329 20 днів тому

    The things you choose to talk about bro 😢. Stop mentioning what it means to be a man man really 🤞. You have no idea. Men act out being a man, because they have women by their side.

  • @tshephomooi2728
    @tshephomooi2728 18 днів тому

    If u leave emotions out, ul hear the reasoning here beyond ur feelings