after knowing you on and off for nearly 6 years now I can say I am proud to have the honour of knowing you. You have always been strong, maybe not always for yourself but for others. I really struggled after my ex died and I was pretty destructive too. Hearing your comments on your brain telling you you don't deserve help made me realise that maybe that's all my head was doing. Thank you! you are really using your pretty crappy times to help others and that is more than can be asked of you.
My best friend and I both have depression and we deal with it completely differently. While therapy and writing (mainly poetry) helped me greatly, she deals with it by talking to friends and drawing. This video is so important (to me), because for years people (especially my family) told me that I was "too young" to be "this sad". Thank you so much for talking about this!
Thank you so much for taking the time to record this and share your experiences. From someone who is in the middle of recovery, I really needed to hear that it does get better and that there are ways to fight that do not necessarily involve medication or therapy. In the US, being able to receive counseling or medication is a luxury more than a right--especially in the state I live in. So, once again, thank you for this. I will be bookmarking it to watch again on the days where I feel the world has lost its color.
Thank you so much for making this video. I am just beginning to recover (at least I have the will to recover and trying to do something about myself) and seeing someone talk about how it's possible is so so encouraging. To me recovering almost seems scarier than staying sick, because what if I can't do it? Will I disappoint everyone? etc. But your video gave more hope to the side of me that doesn't want to give up. Thanks again.
I'm so glad this helped! I promise you that you can recover! I totally feel you on the thinking it would be easier to stay sick thing, but honestly recovery is so worth it! Good luck on your journey!! x
I went to my doctor for help with depression and I got sent to a company called iTalk who treat anxiety and depression through CBT. I got diagnosed with social anxiety, which I knew was a problem and effected my life negatively, but wasn't what was seriously effecting my school work and general wellbeing at school. I could deal with feeling anxious all the time, but I couldn't deal with not being able to face every single day whatsoever or be able to make myself to the shit tonnes of work thrown my way. I began those sessions of winter 2014, and am still in the process of finishing them. They certainly helped - I do feel less awkward in a lot of situations, though as you said, I partially expected a miracle, which didn't happen, but I'm proud of how far I have come in terms of my social anxiety. However, I am still depressed. I went back to my doctor recently and tried to explain this, and she told me the only option was to go through the same company again. I don't feel that CBT would work for my depression, as I find it practically impossible to talk about with my other half of two and a half years, let alone a counsellor who I have only just met and will only have for a limited number of sessions. My doctor did put me on anti-depressants, which I feel have numbed my low moods somewhat, but I am still getting the same dark and dangerous thoughts. I don't know what to do. I feel like I have been looking for help for years and haven't got it. I am also going away to uni in a few months, which is hours away from where I currently live, and my mum refused to let me put depression or anxiety on my application because she says I don't have them, I'm just shy and sad, and that I wouldn't get into the uni I wanted to if I did, so I don't have any hope of being treated there either. I really don't know what to do with myself. Any help from anyone would be much appreciated
Firstly, I loved this video. Secondly, I just wanted to let you know that you're my favourite UA-camr. I've been thinking this for a while and hadn't actually commented saying it yet so there we are :) Xxx
This video was amazing!, you have came so far and truly an inspiration!! I've over came a eaten disorder I was never diagnosed with an "eating disorder" because I never told anyone the only reason how I got over it was because i was diagnosed with cancer i went to the doctor for other reasons and the doctor wanted to weigh be because she thought I'd lost weight I'd lost 2 and a half stone in a couple of months and now back at a healthy weight. I'm like you in the way where now I have to except myself as a healthy weight and I'm trying the fake it till you make it, I find doing my makeup helps my self esteem a lot and making my self good. My self esteem is low but I watch your videos and honestly they help me lots I love them!! I feel tho I can't talk to anyone because no one takes me seriously on how I feel and can I get some advice on talking to people? And telling my mum about my eating and my struggles because I've only just came to terms with myself and my eating but I've not told my mum about it sorry for the really long message xxxx
Thank you so much for such a lovely message, you're so sweet! I'm so sorry that you had to go through an eating disorder on top of everything else! You're very brave! I think makeup is a powerfully understimated tool in making you fake your confidence until you actually start to feel confident, so I'm glad its working for you too! I think opening up little by little instead of sitting someone down and telling them every little thing all at once might help. It's really hard to talk to people about your personal problems. Choosing who you talk to might help, too. Like if your mum doesn't take you seriously or whatever, try talking to your friend (or vice versa). I also found that once I wrote things down in my journal it was easier to say them out loud because I had already gotten it off my chest a bit in a way! I hope some other people have some more tips for you too! xx
I do feel like I'm not alone now. What I find the most difficult is that although my family and I are very close and very loving, I don't feel like they understand me. I don't know how I can fully explain it to them. I'm really thankful you made this video. It must have been hard but I really appreciate it.
I'm so happy this was helpful!! It is very hard finding the words to describe depression, and to find the words to talk to your family and friends! I find it very hard to describe how I'm feeling and what I do to make myself feel better even to this day, so don't worry about it! Thank you for the lovely comment!! x
could you do a video on your self harm and how you recovered from that in more detail please? Maybe covering factors to do with your scars too and whether you believe in hiding them or not since this is something I struggle with. It would help me a lot, thank you!💕
You are so brave and amazing for doing this!! I've been through very similar issues and it's so great to know that I'm not alone and things can get better 💖 I had exactly the same experience with CBT- I felt like it didn't really offer any real solutions, it just kind of helped me understand what was going on in my brain but that's really it... But I tried hypnotherapy for my anxiety disorder and it was incredible and really helped, for me at least! You are fabulous, keep doing what you do! 🌟
Thank you so much, lovely!! :) I love feeling like part of a community once you open up about your problems. Everyone I've talked to about mental health who has also struggled is so lovely and excepting and makes you feel less alone! I think that was my main problem with CBT too, that it didn't offer real tangible solutions to me! I've never tried hypnotherapy, but that sounds really interesting actually and I'm super glad it helped you! :) Thank you so much!! x
Hi! You mentioned at one point having anxiety trouble? For me, my anxiety gets so bad I basically shut down and procrastinate and then my anxiety gets worse and it spirals. Do you (or anyone) have any tips for getting motivated to do stuff that you dont want to do that gives you anxiety? Not wanting to do something could be because of whatever reason (my reason typically is that I put something for work or school off because Im worried it will be hard or take too much time or that I wont be able to figure things out). Thank you :)
My anxiety was more social anxiety than anything else. But I also massively procrastinate, and sometimes my way of fixing that and being productive is to make sure there's nothing else I need to do other than that piece of work in the few days before I want to start on it. Like I will reorganise and tidy my room and read the book I want to read and catch up on TV and stuff so I have nothing to procrastinate with. And then I will also make sure I give myself LOTS of time so that if I do still procrastinate I have a decent amount of time, more than I necessarily need. I get a lot of anxiety about deadlines and being on time so making sure I have more time than I need to do an essay, or get ready for class, or get to the bus stop or whatever! I hope this helped a little bit! :) x
I'm struggling with the concept of things like depression and anxiety..do they exist, i mean people are anxious and people get depressed but do we have to call it a mental disease and pill it. maybe its just a symptom of having a lack of confidence and going through your teenage years. as a teenage guy you go through that phase of crying in the shower and not getting out of bed and saying whats the point, they all go through it to a degree, now thats not depression its just going through life, and then anxiety just sounds like a lack of confidence, for guys you take them to a boxing gym and they learn it their. i can't say they sound like disease that need to be pilled
The thing with mental Illness is that it's an illness that can't be seen. Plain and simple. When someone is diagnosed with cancer and you see there PHYSICAL pain and suffering people will know and can fully comprehend that they are sick. But when someone is diagnosed with a MENTAL illness it's all "in their head" and "there just faking it". But really some people are truly having problems mentally and they are crying out for help. I do believe that doctors can over prescribe people to much but I can't say that it's true for all cases. Like she said earlier
Is that with mental illness each brain and each course that the disease takes is very different. For one person things we consider normal or okay - can be unbearable. It's very important to understand that you can never 100% know how someone else may feel, so keep that in mind😌
There's definitely a difference between being a teenager and going through the hormonal and emotional elements of puberty and growing up and what I went through. Depression and anxiety and other mental illnesses exist. If you think that being unable to get out of bed or self injuring severely or having crippling panic attacks are simply a part of growing up, I would respectfully disagree. Sure, many people experience self harm or panic attacks or low mood or low self esteem without having any kind of mental illness but it doesn't mean that mental illnesses aren't real or can be treated as easily as you suggest!
Also not just teenagers have these issues. There are millions of adults who suffer with their mental health as I have described, including people in my own family. Is that just a normal part of growing up too?
irony-completed i just find it inconclusive, i mean surely people had this type of thing before 2016, so why are we labelling people with these tags when they're 10-15 years old, i mean from a mental point of view if a 12 year old is labeled as being with depression when he's 18 he's just going to take it as truth, i just think theirs a lot more to it, what happened to the people before us, i mean suicides haven't come down that much since 1990 nor even before that, so what gives.
after knowing you on and off for nearly 6 years now I can say I am proud to have the honour of knowing you. You have always been strong, maybe not always for yourself but for others. I really struggled after my ex died and I was pretty destructive too. Hearing your comments on your brain telling you you don't deserve help made me realise that maybe that's all my head was doing. Thank you! you are really using your pretty crappy times to help others and that is more than can be asked of you.
My best friend and I both have depression and we deal with it completely differently. While therapy and writing (mainly poetry) helped me greatly, she deals with it by talking to friends and drawing.
This video is so important (to me), because for years people (especially my family) told me that I was "too young" to be "this sad". Thank you so much for talking about this!
Thank you so much for taking the time to record this and share your experiences. From someone who is in the middle of recovery, I really needed to hear that it does get better and that there are ways to fight that do not necessarily involve medication or therapy. In the US, being able to receive counseling or medication is a luxury more than a right--especially in the state I live in. So, once again, thank you for this. I will be bookmarking it to watch again on the days where I feel the world has lost its color.
Thank you so much for making this video. I am just beginning to recover (at least I have the will to recover and trying to do something about myself) and seeing someone talk about how it's possible is so so encouraging. To me recovering almost seems scarier than staying sick, because what if I can't do it? Will I disappoint everyone? etc. But your video gave more hope to the side of me that doesn't want to give up. Thanks again.
I'm so glad this helped! I promise you that you can recover! I totally feel you on the thinking it would be easier to stay sick thing, but honestly recovery is so worth it! Good luck on your journey!! x
This helped me immensely. Thank you so much
I'm so happy! Thank you! x
I went to my doctor for help with depression and I got sent to a company called iTalk who treat anxiety and depression through CBT. I got diagnosed with social anxiety, which I knew was a problem and effected my life negatively, but wasn't what was seriously effecting my school work and general wellbeing at school. I could deal with feeling anxious all the time, but I couldn't deal with not being able to face every single day whatsoever or be able to make myself to the shit tonnes of work thrown my way. I began those sessions of winter 2014, and am still in the process of finishing them. They certainly helped - I do feel less awkward in a lot of situations, though as you said, I partially expected a miracle, which didn't happen, but I'm proud of how far I have come in terms of my social anxiety. However, I am still depressed. I went back to my doctor recently and tried to explain this, and she told me the only option was to go through the same company again. I don't feel that CBT would work for my depression, as I find it practically impossible to talk about with my other half of two and a half years, let alone a counsellor who I have only just met and will only have for a limited number of sessions. My doctor did put me on anti-depressants, which I feel have numbed my low moods somewhat, but I am still getting the same dark and dangerous thoughts. I don't know what to do. I feel like I have been looking for help for years and haven't got it. I am also going away to uni in a few months, which is hours away from where I currently live, and my mum refused to let me put depression or anxiety on my application because she says I don't have them, I'm just shy and sad, and that I wouldn't get into the uni I wanted to if I did, so I don't have any hope of being treated there either. I really don't know what to do with myself. Any help from anyone would be much appreciated
Firstly, I loved this video. Secondly, I just wanted to let you know that you're my favourite UA-camr. I've been thinking this for a while and hadn't actually commented saying it yet so there we are :) Xxx
This video was amazing!, you have came so far and truly an inspiration!! I've over came a eaten disorder I was never diagnosed with an "eating disorder" because I never told anyone the only reason how I got over it was because i was diagnosed with cancer i went to the doctor for other reasons and the doctor wanted to weigh be because she thought I'd lost weight I'd lost 2 and a half stone in a couple of months and now back at a healthy weight. I'm like you in the way where now I have to except myself as a healthy weight and I'm trying the fake it till you make it, I find doing my makeup helps my self esteem a lot and making my self good. My self esteem is low but I watch your videos and honestly they help me lots I love them!! I feel tho I can't talk to anyone because no one takes me seriously on how I feel and can I get some advice on talking to people? And telling my mum about my eating and my struggles because I've only just came to terms with myself and my eating but I've not told my mum about it sorry for the really long message xxxx
Thank you so much for such a lovely message, you're so sweet! I'm so sorry that you had to go through an eating disorder on top of everything else! You're very brave! I think makeup is a powerfully understimated tool in making you fake your confidence until you actually start to feel confident, so I'm glad its working for you too!
I think opening up little by little instead of sitting someone down and telling them every little thing all at once might help. It's really hard to talk to people about your personal problems. Choosing who you talk to might help, too. Like if your mum doesn't take you seriously or whatever, try talking to your friend (or vice versa). I also found that once I wrote things down in my journal it was easier to say them out loud because I had already gotten it off my chest a bit in a way! I hope some other people have some more tips for you too! xx
I do feel like I'm not alone now. What I find the most difficult is that although my family and I are very close and very loving, I don't feel like they understand me. I don't know how I can fully explain it to them. I'm really thankful you made this video. It must have been hard but I really appreciate it.
I'm so happy this was helpful!! It is very hard finding the words to describe depression, and to find the words to talk to your family and friends! I find it very hard to describe how I'm feeling and what I do to make myself feel better even to this day, so don't worry about it! Thank you for the lovely comment!! x
could you do a video on your self harm and how you recovered from that in more detail please? Maybe covering factors to do with your scars too and whether you believe in hiding them or not since this is something I struggle with. It would help me a lot, thank you!💕
Yes for sure I want to make a new mental health vid soon so I will make one later this month! X
You are so brave and amazing for doing this!! I've been through very similar issues and it's so great to know that I'm not alone and things can get better 💖 I had exactly the same experience with CBT- I felt like it didn't really offer any real solutions, it just kind of helped me understand what was going on in my brain but that's really it... But I tried hypnotherapy for my anxiety disorder and it was incredible and really helped, for me at least! You are fabulous, keep doing what you do! 🌟
Thank you so much, lovely!! :) I love feeling like part of a community once you open up about your problems. Everyone I've talked to about mental health who has also struggled is so lovely and excepting and makes you feel less alone! I think that was my main problem with CBT too, that it didn't offer real tangible solutions to me! I've never tried hypnotherapy, but that sounds really interesting actually and I'm super glad it helped you! :) Thank you so much!! x
Wow that's you without makeup?? you still look amazing
Hi! You mentioned at one point having anxiety trouble? For me, my anxiety gets so bad I basically shut down and procrastinate and then my anxiety gets worse and it spirals. Do you (or anyone) have any tips for getting motivated to do stuff that you dont want to do that gives you anxiety? Not wanting to do something could be because of whatever reason (my reason typically is that I put something for work or school off because Im worried it will be hard or take too much time or that I wont be able to figure things out).
Thank you :)
My anxiety was more social anxiety than anything else. But I also massively procrastinate, and sometimes my way of fixing that and being productive is to make sure there's nothing else I need to do other than that piece of work in the few days before I want to start on it. Like I will reorganise and tidy my room and read the book I want to read and catch up on TV and stuff so I have nothing to procrastinate with. And then I will also make sure I give myself LOTS of time so that if I do still procrastinate I have a decent amount of time, more than I necessarily need. I get a lot of anxiety about deadlines and being on time so making sure I have more time than I need to do an essay, or get ready for class, or get to the bus stop or whatever! I hope this helped a little bit! :) x
I'm struggling with the concept of things like depression and anxiety..do they exist, i mean people are anxious and people get depressed but do we have to call it a mental disease and pill it. maybe its just a symptom of having a lack of confidence and going through your teenage years. as a teenage guy you go through that phase of crying in the shower and not getting out of bed and saying whats the point, they all go through it to a degree, now thats not depression its just going through life, and then anxiety just sounds like a lack of confidence, for guys you take them to a boxing gym and they learn it their. i can't say they sound like disease that need to be pilled
The thing with mental Illness is that it's an illness that can't be seen. Plain and simple. When someone is diagnosed with cancer and you see there PHYSICAL pain and suffering people will know and can fully comprehend that they are sick. But when someone is diagnosed with a MENTAL illness it's all "in their head" and "there just faking it". But really some people are truly having problems mentally and they are crying out for help. I do believe that doctors can over prescribe people to much but I can't say that it's true for all cases. Like she said earlier
Is that with mental illness each brain and each course that the disease takes is very different. For one person things we consider normal or okay - can be unbearable. It's very important to understand that you can never 100% know how someone else may feel, so keep that in mind😌
There's definitely a difference between being a teenager and going through the hormonal and emotional elements of puberty and growing up and what I went through. Depression and anxiety and other mental illnesses exist. If you think that being unable to get out of bed or self injuring severely or having crippling panic attacks are simply a part of growing up, I would respectfully disagree. Sure, many people experience self harm or panic attacks or low mood or low self esteem without having any kind of mental illness but it doesn't mean that mental illnesses aren't real or can be treated as easily as you suggest!
Also not just teenagers have these issues. There are millions of adults who suffer with their mental health as I have described, including people in my own family. Is that just a normal part of growing up too?
irony-completed i just find it inconclusive, i mean surely people had this type of thing before 2016, so why are we labelling people with these tags when they're 10-15 years old, i mean from a mental point of view if a 12 year old is labeled as being with depression when he's 18 he's just going to take it as truth, i just think theirs a lot more to it, what happened to the people before us, i mean suicides haven't come down that much since 1990 nor even before that, so what gives.