I love how you come to your breakfast table with your fresh coffee and your freshly experienced truth. Grief is part of our journey in life. Everyone deals with it in different ways. I recently have gone through a similar grieving over places and friends that I left behind when I moved to a "better place" geographically. You are doing exactly the right thing, by letting the grief inform you and humanize you to a deeper level. Your humanity will grow and you will be an even more beautiful human being, because you didn't try to push it away. My Father died when I was 8 years old. The grief was unbearable for a long time. The silver lining for me was realizing that I am now very much an empath. As a man it's less common, however my empathy has been a gift that I treasure. We are human and humanity is core to a well lived life. So, yes, take that trip back to Ireland and reconnect if possible with those in your past. Just remember that on that journey to be present, so you don't miss a jewel of an opportunity that may be right in front of you! Again, I am so impressed by you and want the best for you! You are on your path my friend! God speed!.. Ward
Hello Helena, a very thoughtful video! In your conversation with Rosie (a cute cat!), whilst she was getting herself comfortable on her ‘viewing point’ you suggested that she’s probably not experienced grief? I bet she did when you returned back to live in Europe the other year! 😢If you did move back to Poland/Europe again (for a considerable time) I bet you would miss (grieve) her? Very interesting in what you had to say in reflecting on the current feelings of grief you have at the moment, triggered by the dreams and in-depth chat with your therapist friend. As you mentioned, you like and have throughout your life created constant opportunities in which you meet new people, personal relationships, places, and experiences. It sounds like it gives you immense satisfaction and fulfilment, but wanting the ‘restless’ ‘newness’ means that you move on and leave people and places behind. Intrinsic to that would be a sense of loss. If we are currently in a situation with a lot of space as we are not engaged in personal relationships reflecting back on people from the past is easy to do and can fill the ‘void’. My impression of you is someone who loves their own space, autonomy, and freedom, being very comfortable in your own company, but also loves people and personal relationships. There can be a strong potential conflict between these strong desires within you? That’s why we end up eating too much chocolate! I battle with my sweet tooth desire for the choc! 😂😂 I’m sure you would have a great adventure going to Ireland, different parts of Europe and seeing close family again! But remember it does rain a lot in Ireland😂!!! You would be lamenting the Australian sunshine again! 😊😂 When are you going to do another video from a laundrette again!?😂 A great space for meditative reflections! Get that video made! 💪🤩
Thank you so much! I'll be only going back to Ireland for a week or so, I wouldn't leave Australia forever 😊 And I unfortunately no longer go to the laundromat as now I have a washing machine at home.
I dealt with grief in December 2020 when my mom passed away of covid at 89. Then, 3 weeks, exactly my pop passed at 87 because he couldn't deal with the loss of my mom. He gave up on himself. Then I lost my job 3 months after that and then after our family dog 🐕 died due to heartbroken for the loss of my mom. Then my half siblings wanted my dad's money as he was the legal heir of both estates, and we went thru a huge probate that went on for almost 2 years. I learned I must be strong as I asked for strength, and it was provided to me. I still miss my parents, especially my mom. I hear her voice in my sleep at times as she calls out to me. Eventually, everything went back in place for the better. I found a better position at work, a place and learned to reflect on the happy memories of my parents as it eliminates sadness and grief. I know they are with me and in time I will be reunited again. Some of us in the family are united while the others are not. But what can we do? We just got to move on, live our own lives, and create our own happiness 😊.
Yes, indeed! Thank you so much for sharing all this Robert, you've truly had so much to face and deal with over the last few years. I'm so sorry about all the losses in your life... 😞💕
To acknowledge the grief is there and not try to run away from it. That's the most important steps, and which you've already done. Then, to be patient. Not easy. But things will get better. ❤
Have you read 'The Belljar' by Sylvia Plath? There's a passage in that book where the main character visualises the life she could lead as if she is sat underneath a fruit tree, and she spends so long agonising over her choice, that the fruit withers on the vine. My mother was a very troubled person, she took her own life when I was a kid, and it was me that found her body. That was many years ago now, and still, about once a month, I have this dream where I am in a very old victorian mansion, and it's dark and there are cobwebs and such everywhere, and I can hear my mother somewhere in this house, and she is calling my name, and I know that she is in pain, but I go from room to room, and I can never find her. And even during the dream, I'm thinking, wait, isn't she dead? And then I wake up, and I'm relieved that she's dead and not in pain anymore. And then I feel guilty for feeling relieved. Now, I'm not saying that more shots of your butt wearing shorts is going to ease my grief. But what I am saying, is that it can't hurt.
No, I haven't read that book. And wow, what a difficult experience to find the body of you mum as a child, I'm so sorry that happened to you... 😞💕 And yes, I've been told before that I have a particularly nice butt... 😉
Dear Helena, what you need is a great big passionate hug. I believe you need soul mate someone who can share your life and give you hugs every day. You're soul mate will find you soon, I'm sure. Who ever that is will be the luckiest person in the world. You are a very intelligent and beautiful lady, that might be intimidating to some people but follow your dream and everything will work out. I hope you don't mind, I am sending you a great big virtual passionate hug.❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ one for each day of the week. From Arizona, USA
My love, for such a spiritual person, you surprise me. Souls connect more than people realize. And they crave 5hat connection. I’ve always followed the first rule of Italian race car driving, which is “Whatsa behind you doesnta matta “ But it does matter because it brought you to where you are and made you who you are. Going back won’t cure what you’re feeling because it really relates to a very specific spiritual time and place. Really define your grief. It’s probably really very narrow in scope and related to someone or something specific. Sometimes the heart and soul realizes and recognizes things that your cognitive physical being doesn’t. We are beings of spirit. This is a realm of exile and suffering. That spiritual suffering is the worst. I truly hate to see you suffer in any way. I wish I could take the pain from you. Your spirit talks to you in dreams. Sometimes the conversation sucks. It lets you know things you were better off not knowing in an untimely manner. ❤ you lots Doll.
I myself have not had much grief in my life. Not that I have acknowledged anyway. I do get Moody perhaps and it comes in waves. It feels life is going so fast and we feel the need to catch up. When in reality we need to slow down. However the current state of the World is to go faster so we are kind of conditioned to forge ahead and either ignore or suppress feelings and use work or other outlets as a tool . So a visit to those places in your heart ❤️ might be a good start. The Universe has magical was of showing its magic and perhaps dreams is what it is doing for you. I was happy to see Rosie. . When I first saw the title and did not see the cat for a few minutes I was concerned something happened to her. Stay open and receptive to feelings and dreams ect. If you are still with a significant other you may see if they want to make the journey with you... That might play into it. But that's just a thought. Peace and Joy be with you always and forever! Kelly
For me, I'm not a very religious person, but I am spiritual based upon a number of personal experiences. Over the years, my wife and I have lost our parents, but we had each other to lean on. That's not to say it was easy, but one has no choice but to deal with it. What has helped both of us is the knowledge that they are always with us spiritually and that we can talk to them any time we want - and we do. I sense, though, that what you are feeling is not so much of a loss but more a need for someone really close to you that you can share your most intimate feelings with and knows you well enough to understand without judgement. From your previous postings, we know you are looking for someone, but that person has not shown up yet. I think that your dream of the past is showing a level of fear that in your haste to experience life, you may have missed someone. I think you should stop looking so hard much in the same way that a woman is trying so hard to become pregnant that she can't - until she stops trying and then becomes pregnant. When you're not trying to actively look for someone, but remain open to the possibility, I think that a special someone will suddenly appear in your life. Of course, I could be wrong, in which case, you should go to Ireland. Your travelogs are wonderful.
I , strangely, think that I have not experienced grief when by rights I should. Sad yes. Memories yes. It will be interesting to know if “going back” useful. A future video?
Yes, I believe that going back can be helpful. But I'm not certain if I can process all the grief in one trip. It might take a few trips over years maybe... 🤔💕
@ The important thing Helena is that you have a plan. You are addressing your issues and I guess the process will enable you to appreciate Melbourne even the more.
you should never feel guilty or bad about pursuing your own dreams and dont blame yourself for stuff that you that you have zero control of , good luck reconnecting with your old friends in Ireland i hope you find the answers you are looking for and by the way u look great a lot of women would kill to look like you
14.18 You saying with words that you want to go back to Ireland. Your body language signals you really wants this, so Helena: Go for it, and meet that very special person again.
So interesting to see someone with similar standards prepare breakfast. Snacking or eating sugar tells your brain needs more sugar. Miss out sugar and this may help with your “little bit of weight”. In uk shop purchased berries and fruits less expensive and often more tasty than fresh. Fruit is better eaten whole NOT as a smoothie. Thank you for sharing your inner thoughts.
It's all about the gut microbiome. If we eat sugar, we feed the gut bacteria that wants it. But I don't believe that eating fruit is bad. And if I can create a diet where I eat fruit but not processed sweet, I'm happy with that 😉
Well, I guess there's a difference between "too much" and "just the right amount"... 😉 Don't let anyone shame you for wanting to process your past experiences and emotions!
You've always seemed to me a happy bouncing ball of a person. Life is absolutely about ballance and we experience different emotional things. We want to embrace the good and reject the painful. But we sometimes fail in balancing our life. Sometimes it's ok to slow down and be sad or maybe just cry. You seem to have a blessed life just remember to love all of it even the bad parts. It's what makes us who we are and you seem to be wonderful person
Hi Helena, a quick word just to let you know that I still looking up your videos, I like watching you and see how you getting on with everything in you share with us, for what I can see in this video is that you, the house, the piano and rosy all looking great, as for myself, Well I'm trying to cope with getting old ; I'll say bye for now and good luck with whatever you do, keep well & safe, 😘👍👋;
Oatmeal is very good for you and the health benefits are extremely good for you, also in regard to your dream is because you need closure and the best thing you can do is to travel to Ireland and go to the neighborhoods and walk the streets and think back then go to the pub have a few whiskeys and you will feel better, have a great trip.
Umm, your savory breakfast looked delicious. If you didn't leave Ireland you wouldn't be where you are. You left for a reason, even if it was the adventure of a new place. Maybe the grief occurs not because you left, but you didn't keep in touch?
All I want to say is be careful if you come to the anger and denial stages of grief. Those are the feelings that could change you in negative ways and the last thing I want is for you to become a different, more bitter person.
My heart is surprising me with some old accumulated grief. So now I'm looking for ways to process it... 💔
Are you from Poland, Helen?
I'll be moving to Bordeaux France later this year. Will you be visiting France, Helen?
@@GreenRevolution4 yes, I am.
@@GreenRevolution4 no, I'm not planning any trips to France.
I love how you come to your breakfast table with your fresh coffee and your freshly experienced truth. Grief is part of our journey in life. Everyone deals with it in different ways. I recently have gone through a similar grieving over places and friends that I left behind when I moved to a "better place" geographically. You are doing exactly the right thing, by letting the grief inform you and humanize you to a deeper level. Your humanity will grow and you will be an even more beautiful human being, because you didn't try to push it away. My Father died when I was 8 years old. The grief was unbearable for a long time. The silver lining for me was realizing that I am now very much an empath. As a man it's less common, however my empathy has been a gift that I treasure. We are human and humanity is core to a well lived life. So, yes, take that trip back to Ireland and reconnect if possible with those in your past. Just remember that on that journey to be present, so you don't miss a jewel of an opportunity that may be right in front of you! Again, I am so impressed by you and want the best for you! You are on your path my friend! God speed!.. Ward
Thank you so much for your kind words, Ward! 😊💕
Hello Helena, a very thoughtful video! In your conversation with Rosie (a cute cat!), whilst she was getting herself comfortable on her ‘viewing point’ you suggested that she’s probably not experienced grief? I bet she did when you returned back to live in Europe the other year! 😢If you did move back to Poland/Europe again (for a considerable time) I bet you would miss (grieve) her?
Very interesting in what you had to say in reflecting on the current feelings of grief you have at the moment, triggered by the dreams and in-depth chat with your therapist friend.
As you mentioned, you like and have throughout your life created constant opportunities in which you meet new people, personal relationships, places, and experiences. It sounds like it gives you immense satisfaction and fulfilment, but wanting the ‘restless’ ‘newness’ means that you move on and leave people and places behind. Intrinsic to that would be a sense of loss. If we are currently in a situation with a lot of space as we are not engaged in personal relationships reflecting back on people from the past is easy to do and can fill the ‘void’. My impression of you is someone who loves their own space, autonomy, and freedom, being very comfortable in your own company, but also loves people and personal relationships. There can be a strong potential conflict between these strong desires within you? That’s why we end up eating too much chocolate! I battle with my sweet tooth desire for the choc! 😂😂
I’m sure you would have a great adventure going to Ireland, different parts of Europe and seeing close family again! But remember it does rain a lot in Ireland😂!!! You would be lamenting the Australian sunshine again! 😊😂
When are you going to do another video from a laundrette again!?😂 A great space for meditative reflections! Get that video made! 💪🤩
Thank you so much! I'll be only going back to Ireland for a week or so, I wouldn't leave Australia forever 😊
And I unfortunately no longer go to the laundromat as now I have a washing machine at home.
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I dealt with grief in December 2020 when my mom passed away of covid at 89. Then, 3 weeks, exactly my pop passed at 87 because he couldn't deal with the loss of my mom. He gave up on himself. Then I lost my job 3 months after that and then after our family dog 🐕 died due to heartbroken for the loss of my mom. Then my half siblings wanted my dad's money as he was the legal heir of both estates, and we went thru a huge probate that went on for almost 2 years. I learned I must be strong as I asked for strength, and it was provided to me. I still miss my parents, especially my mom. I hear her voice in my sleep at times as she calls out to me. Eventually, everything went back in place for the better. I found a better position at work, a place and learned to reflect on the happy memories of my parents as it eliminates sadness and grief. I know they are with me and in time I will be reunited again. Some of us in the family are united while the others are not. But what can we do? We just got to move on, live our own lives, and create our own happiness 😊.
Yes, indeed! Thank you so much for sharing all this Robert, you've truly had so much to face and deal with over the last few years. I'm so sorry about all the losses in your life... 😞💕
To acknowledge the grief is there and not try to run away from it. That's the most important steps, and which you've already done. Then, to be patient. Not easy. But things will get better. ❤
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Thank you so much! 😊💕
I love you, Helena!!!! ❤❤❤❤❤
Thank you!
I'm 1 of your followers from Europa. You're so welcome here again.
Thank you! 😊💕
Beautiful ♥️ as always ❤️ 💖 ♥️ 💕 awesome video and tips on grief♥️♥️♥️
Thank you so much!!
I lost both of my parents two years ago grief is just terrible sometimes i struggle with their loss but i know their always with me.
I'm so sorry to hear that, Steven! 😞💕
@@helenanistavlogs Thank you Helena i really do appreciate that ❤️
@stevenbligh9187 you are not alone. Mine, I lost about 4 years ago. I know the grief on your losses.
@robertkellogg1199 Sorry for your loss mate.
Have you read 'The Belljar' by Sylvia Plath? There's a passage in that book where the main character visualises the life she could lead as if she is sat underneath a fruit tree, and she spends so long agonising over her choice, that the fruit withers on the vine.
My mother was a very troubled person, she took her own life when I was a kid, and it was me that found her body. That was many years ago now, and still, about once a month, I have this dream where I am in a very old victorian mansion, and it's dark and there are cobwebs and such everywhere, and I can hear my mother somewhere in this house, and she is calling my name, and I know that she is in pain, but I go from room to room, and I can never find her. And even during the dream, I'm thinking, wait, isn't she dead? And then I wake up, and I'm relieved that she's dead and not in pain anymore. And then I feel guilty for feeling relieved.
Now, I'm not saying that more shots of your butt wearing shorts is going to ease my grief. But what I am saying, is that it can't hurt.
No, I haven't read that book. And wow, what a difficult experience to find the body of you mum as a child, I'm so sorry that happened to you... 😞💕
And yes, I've been told before that I have a particularly nice butt... 😉
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣good one.@@helenanistavlogs
Dear Helena, what you need is a great big passionate hug. I believe you need soul mate someone who can share your life and give you hugs every day. You're soul mate will find you soon, I'm sure. Who ever that is will be the luckiest person in the world. You are a very intelligent and beautiful lady, that might be intimidating to some people but follow your dream and everything will work out. I hope you don't mind, I am sending you a great big virtual passionate hug.❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ one for each day of the week. From Arizona, USA
Thank you so much for your message and your kind wishes 😊
My love, for such a spiritual person, you surprise me. Souls connect more than people realize. And they crave 5hat connection. I’ve always followed the first rule of Italian race car driving, which is “Whatsa behind you doesnta matta “ But it does matter because it brought you to where you are and made you who you are. Going back won’t cure what you’re feeling because it really relates to a very specific spiritual time and place. Really define your grief. It’s probably really very narrow in scope and related to someone or something specific. Sometimes the heart and soul realizes and recognizes things that your cognitive physical being doesn’t. We are beings of spirit. This is a realm of exile and suffering. That spiritual suffering is the worst. I truly hate to see you suffer in any way. I wish I could take the pain from you. Your spirit talks to you in dreams. Sometimes the conversation sucks. It lets you know things you were better off not knowing in an untimely manner.
❤ you lots Doll.
Thank you! 💕
@@helenanistavlogs. You’re in my heart and thoughts.
We're here for you Helena❤
Thank you so much! 😍
I myself have not had much grief in my life. Not that I have acknowledged anyway. I do get Moody perhaps and it comes in waves. It feels life is going so fast and we feel the need to catch up. When in reality we need to slow down. However the current state of the World is to go faster so we are kind of conditioned to forge ahead and either ignore or suppress feelings and use work or other outlets as a tool . So a visit to those places in your heart ❤️ might be a good start. The Universe has magical was of showing its magic and perhaps dreams is what it is doing for you. I was happy to see Rosie. . When I first saw the title and did not see the cat for a few minutes I was concerned something happened to her. Stay open and receptive to feelings and dreams ect. If you are still with a significant other you may see if they want to make the journey with you... That might play into it. But that's just a thought. Peace and Joy be with you always and forever!
Kelly
Thank you so much, Kelly! 💕
And Rosie is doing very well but I can't even begin to imagine the grief I'll feel once I lose her...
For me, I'm not a very religious person, but I am spiritual based upon a number of personal experiences. Over the years, my wife and I have lost our parents, but we had each other to lean on. That's not to say it was easy, but one has no choice but to deal with it. What has helped both of us is the knowledge that they are always with us spiritually and that we can talk to them any time we want - and we do. I sense, though, that what you are feeling is not so much of a loss but more a need for someone really close to you that you can share your most intimate feelings with and knows you well enough to understand without judgement. From your previous postings, we know you are looking for someone, but that person has not shown up yet. I think that your dream of the past is showing a level of fear that in your haste to experience life, you may have missed someone. I think you should stop looking so hard much in the same way that a woman is trying so hard to become pregnant that she can't - until she stops trying and then becomes pregnant. When you're not trying to actively look for someone, but remain open to the possibility, I think that a special someone will suddenly appear in your life. Of course, I could be wrong, in which case, you should go to Ireland. Your travelogs are wonderful.
Thank you for your kind, thoughtful words, Glenn 😊💕
And I'm not actually looking for or desiring a partner.
I love you and I love your main channel and your so happy about the topics
Thank you so much!
@@helenanistavlogs you’re welcome can I have your number?
@@helenanistavlogs you’re welcome. Can I have your phone number?
@@helenanistavlogs you’re welcome. Can I have your phone number because I really like your videos and I really would want to text you
Helena, it's always easier said than done but try to transform sadness about loss into excitement about new encounters and opportunities.
Thanks but I'm not sure that it can be done without trying to suppress the grief. At this stage, I believe that I need to face it and feel it.
Witaj Helenko przy porannej kawie😊
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Hi! You can have your oats with fruits during the day, just for breakfest its not the best option ;)
Thanks, darling 😊💕
I , strangely, think that I have not experienced grief when by rights I should. Sad yes. Memories yes. It will be interesting to know if “going back” useful. A future video?
Yes, I believe that going back can be helpful. But I'm not certain if I can process all the grief in one trip. It might take a few trips over years maybe... 🤔💕
@ The important thing Helena is that you have a plan. You are addressing your issues and I guess the process will enable you to appreciate Melbourne even the more.
you should never feel guilty or bad about pursuing your own dreams and dont blame yourself for stuff that you that you have zero control of , good luck reconnecting with your old friends in Ireland i hope you find the answers you are looking for and by the way u look great a lot of women would kill to look like you
Awww, thank you so much!
I know what grief feels like and it’s honestly horrible
It's a truly difficult emotion.
I’m here for you 😘 I promise
14.18 You saying with words that you want to go back to Ireland.
Your body language signals you really wants this, so Helena: Go for it, and meet that very special person again.
Yes, I will! Thank you so much 😊💕
So interesting to see someone with similar standards prepare breakfast. Snacking or eating sugar tells your brain needs more sugar. Miss out sugar and this may help with your “little bit of weight”. In uk shop purchased berries and fruits less expensive and often more tasty than fresh. Fruit is better eaten whole NOT as a smoothie. Thank you for sharing your inner thoughts.
It's all about the gut microbiome. If we eat sugar, we feed the gut bacteria that wants it. But I don't believe that eating fruit is bad. And if I can create a diet where I eat fruit but not processed sweet, I'm happy with that 😉
I was always told that if you look back too much you will run into a wall
Well, I guess there's a difference between "too much" and "just the right amount"... 😉
Don't let anyone shame you for wanting to process your past experiences and emotions!
You've always seemed to me a happy bouncing ball of a person. Life is absolutely about ballance and we experience different emotional things. We want to embrace the good and reject the painful. But we sometimes fail in balancing our life. Sometimes it's ok to slow down and be sad or maybe just cry. You seem to have a blessed life just remember to love all of it even the bad parts. It's what makes us who we are and you seem to be wonderful person
Thank you so much, Jerry! 😊💕
Hi Helena, a quick word just to let you know that I still looking up your videos, I like watching you and see how you getting on with everything in you share with us, for what I can see in this video is that you, the house, the piano and rosy all looking great, as for myself, Well I'm trying to cope with getting old ; I'll say bye for now and good luck with whatever you do, keep well & safe, 😘👍👋;
Thank you so much for your lovely message! I really appreciate it 😊💕
Helena I’m here for support if you want
Thank you!
Are you single
Oatmeal is very good for you and the health benefits are extremely good for you, also in regard to your dream is because you need closure and the best thing you can do is to travel to Ireland and go to the neighborhoods and walk the streets and think back then go to the pub have a few whiskeys and you will feel better, have a great trip.
Thanks!
But I don't drink whiskey 😉
@helenanistavlogs maybe one glass , whiskey is good for you 👍 of course in moderation
Umm, your savory breakfast looked delicious. If you didn't leave Ireland you wouldn't be where you are. You left for a reason, even if it was the adventure of a new place. Maybe the grief occurs not because you left, but you didn't keep in touch?
Thanks, Greg! 😊💕
All I want to say is be careful if you come to the anger and denial stages of grief. Those are the feelings that could change you in negative ways and the last thing I want is for you to become a different, more bitter person.
Oh, I don't need to worry about that 😉
@ just concerned about you. Have you read any of the books I recommended?
I got dumped by my girlfriend 5 years ago 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭